Tuesday, February 06, 2007

Why some guys never get better...

At some point in the interaction, you need to display who you REALLY are. If who you really are is unattractive the girl will lose attraction for you.

So in order to get this area of you're life "handled" as David D would say( every time someone says paradigm or handled I always think DYD) you need to work on three seperate and equally important aspects of your life.

And for 19.95 I will reveal what they are...

Just kidding I had to throw that in though. The three elements are

1. Inner game. I used to say inner game was bullshit, in fact I would proudly claim to have bad inner game at workshops. But as I have started to explore the reasons as to why I make some of the bad decisions in my regular life, I realized that inner game is important. You need to know what your desires are and how you will achieve them. You also need to embrace your shadow and the un-pleasant aspects of you're personally. You need to make the leap from boy thinking to man thinking.

2. Skill-set. You need to know how to open, how to attract women that are not physically attracted to you right away, learn how to qualify etc...

3. Lifestyle. You want to set up your life in a path that women are a part of your lifestyle. You should be going to parties, classes, dinners, plays etc.. You need to actually get a life that a woman wants to be a part of. And have a social life where women are introduced to you.

Those three aspects are how you get good at the game.



  1. Anonymous10:23 PM

    This is very succinct and very helpful. Thanks, Sinn.

  2. Anonymous11:08 AM

    Off-topic for this post, but... I clicked on a link to Magic Bullets (http://www.magicbulletsbook.com/) from one of your posts on the MM forum, and I couldn't help but notice that "Magic Bullet Suppository" is the top Related Category on the under construction page. Will the Magic Bullet Suppository be included with the book?

    Um... and I also wanted to ask when the book will be available.

    Thank you. Thank you very much.

  3. What are the personality flaws that stand in the way of success and people? Probably the same as success in anything, but still curious.

  4. Anonymous1:57 AM

    For a list of great anti-seductive qualities see the book The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. This book if anything taught me that the alpha male is not the only one that can seduce and attract. Everyone has both seductive and anti-seductive qualities.

    Here they are:

    The Art of Seduction, by Robert Greene wrote:
    “The Brute:
    If seduction is a kind of ceremony or ritual, part of the pleasure is its duration �" the time it takes, the waiting that increases anticipation. Brutes have no patience for such things; they are concerned only with their own pleasure, never with yours. To be patient is to show that you are thinking of the other person, which never fails to impress. Impatience has the opposite effect: assuming you are so interested in them you have no reason to wait, Brutes offend you with their egotism. Underneath that egotism, too, there is often a gnawing sense of inferiority, and if you spurn them or make them wait, they overreact. If you suspect you are dealing with a Brute, do a test �" make that person wait. His or her response will tell you everything you need to know.

    The Suffocator:
    Suffocators fall in love with you before you are even half-aware of their existence. The trait is deceptive �" you might think they have found you overwhelming �" but the fact is they suffer from an inner void, a deep well of need that cannot be filled. Never get involved with Suffocators; they are almost impossible to free yourself from without trauma. They cling to you until you are forced to pull back, whereupon they smother you with guilt. We tend to idealize a loved one, but love takes time to develop. Recognize Suffocators by how quickly they adore you. To be so admired may give a momentary boost to your ego, but deep inside you sense that their intense emotions are not related to anything you have done. Trust these instincts.
    A subvariant of the Suffocator is the Doormat, a person who slavishly imitates you. Spot these types early on by seeing whether they are capable of having an idea of their own. An inability to disagree with you is a bad sign.

    The Moralizer:
    Seduction is a game, and should be undertaken with a light heart. All is fair in love and seduction; morality never enters the picture. The character of the Moralizer, however, is rigid. These are people who follow fixed ideas and try to make you blend to their standards. They want to change you, to make you a better person, so they endlessly criticize and judge �" that is their pleasure in life. In truth, their moral ideas stem from their own unhappiness, and mask their desire to dominate those around them. Their inability to adapt and to enjoy makes them easy to recognize; their mental rigidity may also be accompanied by a physical stiffness. It is hard not to take their criticisms personally so it is better to avoid their presence and their poisoned comments.

    The Tightwad:
    Cheapness signals more than a problem with money. It is a sign of something constricted in a person’s character �" something that keeps them from letting go or taking a risk. It is the most anti-seductive trait of all, and you cannot allow yourself to give in to it. Most tightwads do not realize they have a problem; they actually imagine that when they give someone some paltry crumb, they are being generous. Take a hard look at yourself �" you are probably cheaper than you think. Try giving more freely of both your money and yourself and you will see the seductive potential in selective generosity. Of course you must keep your generosity under control. Giving too much can be a sign of desperation, as if you were trying to buy someone.

    The Bumbler:
    Bumblers are self-conscious, and their self-consciousness heightens your own. At first you may think they are thinking about you, and so much so that it makes them awkward. In fact they are only thinking of themselves �" worrying about how they look, or about the consequences for them of their attempt to seduce you. Their worry is usually contagious: soon you are worrying too, about yourself. Bumblers rarely reach the final stages of seduction, but if they get that far, they bungle that too. In seduction, the key weapon is boldness, refusing the target the time to stop and think. Bumblers have no sense of timing. You might find it amusing to try and train or educate them, but if they are still Bumblers past a certain age, the case is probably hopeless �" they are incapable of getting outside themselves.

    The Windbag:
    The most effective seductions are driven by looks, indirect actions, physical lures. Words have a place, but too much talk will generally break the spell, heightening surface differences and weighing things down. People who talk a lot most often talk about themselves. They have never acquired that inner voice that wonders, Am I boring you? To be a Windbag is to have a deep-rooted selfishness. Never interrupt or argue with these types �" that only fuels their windbaggery. At all costs learn to control your own tongue.

    The Reactor:
    Reactors are far too sensitive, not to you but to their own egos. They comb your every word and action for signs of a slight to their vanity. If you strategically back off, as you sometimes must in seduction, they will brood and lash out at you. They are prone to whining and complaining, two very anti-seductive traits. Test them by telling a gentle joke or story at their expense: we should all be able to laugh at ourselves a little, but the Reactor cannot. You can read the resentment in their eyes. Erase any reactive qualities in your own character �" they unconsciously repel people.

    The Vulgarian:
    Valgarians are inattentive to the details that are so important in seduction. You can see this in their personal appearance �" their cloths are tasteless by any standard �" and in their actions: they do not know that it is sometimes better to control oneself and refuse to give in to one’ impulses. Vulgarians will blab, saying anything in public. They have no sense of timing and are rarely in harmony with your tastes. Indiscretion is a sure sign of the Vulgarian (talking to others of your affair, for example); it may seem impulsive, but its real source is their radical selfishness, their inability to see themselves as other see them. More than just avoiding Vulgarians, you must make yourself their opposite �" tact, style, and attention to detail are all basic requirements of a seducer.

    You can download a full copy here: http://asylum.demon.nl/Robert%20Greene,%20The%20Art%20of%20Seduction.pdf