Monday, April 22, 2013

Mating Intelligence Unleashed Notes


 Hey there,


This book just came out that had a bunch of new stuff on clinical research into dating (Including looking at PUA tactics like stuff Mystery teaches)

Here's my notes on it:

 
Women preferred innocuous pick up lines wheras men have a preference for direct approaches.

Cognitive Fatigue or distraction can make women less susceptible to innocuous pick up lines and approaches but doesn’t seem to have an effect on reciprocity to direct approaches.

Attempts that received the highest ratings displayed a man’s helpfulness, ability to take control, wealth, education, culture or direct wit.

Opening gambits that revealed a man’s wealth, generosity, ability to take charge, and physical fitness appealed to women.

Men underestimated how much women liked opening gambits that revealed a man’s willingness to hand over control of the interaction to the woman and revealed his wealth or willingness to help someone else.

According to Sternberg each of us creates one of 26 love stories at an early age which then influences our mating choices.

Men think about sex about once an hr compared to once every 2 hours for women

Being a male or female matters less in determining a person’s mating strategy than does a person’s life history strategy.

Karl Grammer and co looked at initial heterosexual encounters and found flirting was only weakly related to actual interest.

Researchers found that women aged 27-45 thought more about sex and were more willing to have sex after 1 date, 1 week and 1 month. They also reported higher than norma levels of fantsies.

Ovulation in women causes more likely mating behaviors including but not limited to: A tendency to be more likely to touch other males in casual setting, and a tendency to be more attracted to creative tyoes, take more risks, dance dynamically and appear more symmetrical.

Men were better at guessing what women want in long term partners while women were better at guessing what men wanted in short term partners.

The most common deceptions are fitness value, level of commitment, tendency towards kindness, financial status, social status and educational background.

Narcissim has different factors: Leadership/Authority, Self absorbtion/self admiration, superiority/arrogance, exploitativeness/entitlement


6 Love Styles:

Eros-Passionate physical and emotional intimacy
Ludus-Game playing and conquest
Pragma-central practical concerns and career goals
Storage- an outgrowth of friendship
Agape- Selflessness
Mania- Attachment and Obsession

Dominance only increases sexual attraction when the person is already high in agreeableness and altruism.

Women scoring high in sexism and sociosexuality are more receptive to PUA advances (Aggresssive courtship styles) . The research by Jeffrey Hall suggest that assertive mating strategies are a way of identifying women with the same courtship script.


 JS




Monday, April 15, 2013

Sticking Point # 6: Failure to Escalate the initial interaction


 Hey there,

 Blah blah blah some excuse as to why i didn't post until now. Blah Blah.
 
 Today I want to write about one of the bigger problems guy have when it comes to talking to women they are attracted to.

 Failing to escalate the initial interaction.

 Let me ask you a question first:

 You're talking to a girl at a party for about 10 minutes and you're not sure if she's into you should you:

 A. Continue talking to her in the hopes that you'll be able to make her like you more later BEFORE you try to escalate.

 B. Tell her you like her and want to have sex with her.

 C. Try for the BIGGEST possible escalation you can think of in the situation.

 D. Try for the SMALLEST escalation you can think of in the situation.

 E. All of the Above.

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  The answer is D and I'll explain why.

 A is a terrible answer but what most guys do when they've been talking to a girl and thanks to the Male sexual overperception bias think the girl is into them more than she really is. They realize through their delusion that they don't have enough "attraction" or whatever it is to be able to move the girl, touch her, make a move. But they think that if they keep talking it's only a matter of time. This is equivalent to not removing a bad bet on the craps table in order to make a good one.

 This is False. Most girls know if they're into you or not within the first 30-60 seconds. This has been proven thousands of times in scientific studies but you don't even need to read those. Instead just think of all the times a girl has not been instantly into you on a cold approach and you got her anyway.

Need some time to think about that?

It's cool I'll wait.

It's NEVER happened has it?

I know because it's happened to me like 3 times and I've approached exponentially more girls than you the reader has or ever will.

It's either there or it isn't and either way we're gonna do the same thing.

Answer B is more on the right track but telling a girl you want to have sex with her, when she is not into you is one of the dumbest things you can do as it is a one way ticket to creepsville do not pass go do not collect $200.

Answer C is even more right than answer B, but it could also lead to you blowing yourself out. If the biggest escalation is inviting a girl back to your place and you do it too early the girl will not agree and now you've basically taken the biggest best escalation you have off the table as the girl has flat out rejected you. You can now continue to lose self esteem as you wait it out hoping she'll like you later but chances are you blew it through OVERagrressiveness.

Which brings us to answer D. The right thing to do when you're not sure whether or not a woman likes you (or when she likes you but it's not enough to really escalate) is to make the smallest possible escalation you can make at the time.

Perhaps it's physically taking her hand.

Or Asking for her phone #

Or isolating her from her friends.

Whatever the smallest most baby stepped escalation is, is what you should be doing when you're nto sure what to do.

When in doubt opt for the smallest escalation possible at the time. This is the correct answer because while it is possible to use several small escalations to add up to a big one. It doesn't work in reverse. If you get rejected on a big escalation it does not mean you are going to be successful at a smaller one. In fact it often means you are going to continue to get rejected because of a concept I call negative compliance momentum. Which basically is a fancy way of saying, the more a woman rejects you, the more likely she will be to reject you in the future.

Hope that helps,

JS

  

 
  

Friday, April 05, 2013

Sticking Point # 5: Not Being Able To Isolate


 God Some of you are a bunch of stupid whiny bitches in the comment section!

 If you don't like the amount I update, don't read my blog.

 Oh you don't wanna do that, do you?

Cause you want the free advice you just want to act like an entitled internet pussy while doing it.

Seriously, fuck you if you complain about this blog after 6 years and over 1200 FREE posts, I hope you get run over by a car, stabbed by a group of homeless people with jagged beer bottles and then anally raped by a syphilitic bear.

If I could ban you fucking losers from reading I would so fast you're empty heads would spin.

Fuck outta here with your bullshit.

Now that I've handled these bitch ass internet trolls, let's get back into info that can help you.

Sticking point # 5: Not being able to isolate.

Isolation is EASY.

All you have to do is

A: Have Attraction.
B. Make an excuse to move somewhere else.

So why do guys struggle with this?

Like the anonymous internet commenters they are pussies. They feel like they have something when a girl is talking to them even if that something is just polite response. Furthermore guys have the male sexual perception bias so it's hard for guys to tell when a woman is just being polite and isn't interested in fucking you.

So these guys HOPE that if they talk to the girl for 5-10 more minutes before trying to isolate or if they can have a good conversation in the group they assume it's the same thing.

It's not.

You can get much more sexual, deep and intimate in a one on one conversation than you ever can in a group.

Furthermore being willing to move with you is one of the best signs of attraction in addition to letting you know she actually likes you.

So what happens if she won't isolate?

You need to move on. You can come back 10-15 mins later but you need to show that you are willing to walk away to get a drink, seat, etc... If you attempt to isolate and fail it's a bad idea to keep standing around as it makes you look needy.

So to wrap up, here's what you need to know about isolation.

1. It's easy as long as you have attraction. It's impossible without it.
2. All you need is an excuse. Say it's too hot or cold in here, I need to get a drink keep me company, let's grab a seat, come over here, etc...
3. If the girl doesn't want to she's NOT attracted to you enough. Time to bounce!!!!!!!!!! 

Simple.

JS- The King of Content and Slapping around Internet Tough Guys.