Friday, April 29, 2011

The Most Unrealistic Student Ever

Now I've surely heard it all dear readers.....

Yesterday I had a phone appointment with a guy who was interested in getting some phone coaching.

He told me his biggest sticking point was approach anxiety unless he got eye contact or was with a group of friends and then I asked him what his goals were for the next 3-6 months and he said and I quote:

" I want to sleep with 3 or 4 NEW girls a week."

To which I replied

" So you want to sleep with 12 new girls a month? That's like a 144 new girls a year? Do you think I sleep with 144 new girls a year? Cause I don't. No one does besides maybe some rock-stars. And a lot of them bang whores."

Followed by me attempting to explain that when you have approach anxiety(Like this guy did) it's impossible to go from that to sleeping with 3 to 4 new women a week in the 3-6 month time frames our coaching programs run for, before telling him he was not a good fit for the program and hanging up on him.

Then I called Rob Judge to vent, since no one outside the community could even comprehend the type of weirdness I deal with every day before noon.

Yeesh.

I always say this, but you HAVE to be realistic if you want any chance at success. You also have to understand that you can't bridge the gap between being a guy who doesn't approach and being a guy who gets laid a lot without doing a lot of work in between.

Hope that helps some people out there or at least makes the weirdo student re-assess his goals. Weirdo!

JS

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Prompting BF Objections in Day Game

I really do think That my Day Game A to Z Mastery Program is the best thing ever on day game.

But there is one tactic I have recently discovered that I wish I had put in it.

It's this;

Prompting the Boyfriend Objection.

Because during the day time you have less time with the girl per approach, you MUST get the girl to either give you the Boyfriend objection as EARLY as possible, or confirm that she's single so that you can that later you use a statement of intent.

The worst situation in the world is when you spend 10-15 minutes talking to a girl only to get the bf objection as you start demonstrating interest.

It's a time waster, and unlike in Bars and Clubs where there is almost a secret society type agreement that everyone will pretend to be single that night there is little chance you're going to get a girl's # and then get around her boyfriend as a stranger. I've done it, but it's almost a mission impossible style undertaking.

So instead you want to prompt the bf objection AS SOON AS THE SET HOOKS! Not before the girl wants to talk to you, not as she's walking by trying to get away from you, not during your opener. AFTER you've established some social comfort and she WANTS to talk to you, it's time to prompt the boyfriend objection.

I like to do it in a teasing way by saying something like

" Your boyfriend must be a saint, to put up with you."
" I feel sorry for your boyfriend."
" Whoever your boyfriend is does not spank you enough."

At which point a girl will either say something like " I don't have a boyfriend." or she'll agree and mention a boyfriend and you can politely excuse yourself or be GANGSTA like Paul Janka and just walk away as soon as she mentions a boyfriend. I personally still stay for a minute or two so as not to look like I got shaken by it. But I respect Mr Janka's gangster. For sure.

This one piece of advice will save you more time and frustration with Day Game than anything else.

Word.

JS- The Winner and STILL Undisputed King Of Content

Monday, April 25, 2011

The War On The Game and a 2 sentence LR

Yo,

Sorry I'm late with the video!

Shit has been CRAZY today...

Before I get to the vid, for those asking I did sleep with the girl with good game, and then she told me she was still gonna bang other dudes.

Which ironically is totally ok with me, as she's a cool chick and I'm not looking for a girlfriend. She is not however super hot or possessed of a magical pussy as some insinuated. But the quickest way to get Jon interested in something is telling him a stupid reason (Like age) why he can't have it.

Here's the Neil vid:



Oh yeah and FUCK NEIL STRAUSS!

JS-The General of Content

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Happy Easter!

Hey Guys,

I may fuck with a few bad apples here and there on the blog, but I do appreciate MOST of you out there who read this blog daily and help make it the most successful Pick Up Blog on the net.

So thanks and have a great holiday!

JS-The King Of Content

Friday, April 22, 2011

Yes!

So none of my real life friends appreciate this and I no longer really talk to most pick up guys, so I have to post this here.

I've been "talking to" this girl for a few weeks now and she has REALLY good girl game.

She keeps baiting me and pulling away and going sexual and pulling away...

Back and forth like a chess game for 3 weeks. Which is obviously why i can't explain this stuff to my normal friends because they would be HORRIFIED at the level of game playing each of us is doing despite texting each other 20-30 times a day.

And I'm not the only pulling game.

Already she's already put me in the friend zone, told me she doesn't date guys under 30 and sent me naked pictures all within like 2-3 days. Not to mention both us mentioning being out with "friends" or being at some girl/guy's house...

And so it's gone every day for 3 weeks until today when I totally checkmated her into coming over later tonight for drinks.

Advantage: Jon.

JS

Empathy and Pickup

One of the biggest issues holding men back from meeting, attracting and dating the women they want, is the idea of empathy.

Forget the dictionary definition of empathy, as we're going to be talking about empathy specifically as it relates to pick-up.

For the sake of this article, we'll define empathy as the ability to put yourself in another person's shoes in order to relate to the experience they are currently having.

In the beginning guys try to empathize by looking for what used to be called " Indicators of interest" or IOIs. Guys think that if they can see a few (What they consider) to be sure-fire signs then they'll know that the girl is attracted to them. This however discounts any alternative theory for explaining the girl flipping her hair, or crossing her legs towards you.

In the beginning attempting to be empathetic when meeting women is like shooting yourself in the foot with a bazooka. Twice.

Until you are consistently getting movement and phone numbers, you DON'T want to spend too much time trying to figure out what a woman is thinking or feeling. In general this will only mess a beginner up as there are soooo many things you need to be focused on that are infinitely more important than what the girl is currently thinking/feeling. In the beginning (I.E.90% of you guys reading this), YOU'RE JUST NOT GOOD ENOUGH WITH WOMEN TO WORRY ABOUT EMPATHIZING.


Once you're consistently getting movement and phone numbers, then learning to empathize and read where a woman's at emotionally is the single best thing you can do to work on your game.

Past a certain point you want to adopt my mantra which is " The only thing that actually gets you the girl, is how you make her feel."

Learning to empathize, starts by asking yourself a question like " What is she feeling, right now?"

You must make it a priority in the intermediate stage to learn to put yourself in the woman's shoes.

One of the most amusing things about pick up to me, is this; we as the guy approaching spend so much time, effort, and energy thinking about the approach, practicing tactics and techniques and analyzing these interactions that to a woman are LITERALLY just some time a guy walked up to her and started talking.

To most women approaches seem RANDOM. Especially in the beginning. Then you have all sorts of other misunderstandings that occur when you believe one thing is going on and the woman thinks it's the other.

Either way if you want to improve you have to know what levels of empathy you need to be using.

In the beginning it's best not to be empathetic at all and to focus instead on the process. But once you start getting some success, it's time to turn on the empathy to see if you can figure out what's really going on with your approaches.

JS-The King Of Content

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Stop Taking it Personally.

Hey there,

Today I want to talk about a really really important topic for long term success with pickup, dating and relationships.

It's the idea of not taking everything that happens to you personally.

In life, most of what happens to us is not personal.

It's random.

The world is a chaotic, random and unpredictable place. A lot of people have problems dealing with this so they turn to belief systems to make them feel like everything happens for a reason.

In reality, none of us are that special.

One of the biggest mistakes students make ( And I admit I can STILL do this too) is taking a specific situation with a girl personally. Most likely, it had less to do with you and more to do with her. And I don't mean that in a "it's her loss" type of justification.

What I mean is ALL of us make decisions based on what we BELIEVE to be best for us at that time. We usually base this on our emotions at the current moment.

But because all of us are self-absorbed, we believe that we are somehow the cause of every action or reaction in our immediate world.

Which is interesting, because we don't believe we're the cause of every action in the entire world, or all Americans would feel guilty about being at war with 3 different countries right now.

So we've got to learn to take a step back mentally, before we assign blame on ourselves or start looking for personal reasons a girl didn't respond to an approach or didn't return a call or text, or whatever.

I've written before about internal vs external locuses of control, but I think a lot of guys especially at the beginner and intermediate levels think they can control MUCH more than they actually can.

Here's a mind fuck for those guys who believe they can control everything; You CAN'T actually FORCE someone to be attracted to you.

Real success with women is not some sort of magic fantasy world where everything goes perfectly all the time. Sometimes it's pretty close, but most of the time it's a series of habits, actions and processes(Which include rejection and handling it) that yield long term results. Not any one particular interaction or result.

So stop taking it personally when things don't go your way and stay focused on the processes, actions, and habits you need to take to make your success happen.

JS-The King Of Content

Monday, April 18, 2011

Neil Strauss is a Liar! War On the Game III

Yo, yo...

Here's another video where I break down a time Neil Strauss lied to my face, for no reason whatsoever other than being a sociopath.

Neil Strauss = Sociopath and pathological liar.

That's math.



Leave me lots of comments psychoanalyzing me, I always get a chuckle out of those :)

JS-The General

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Gold Diggers and Distant Fathers.

Here's a pretty deep female psych piece so if that is not interesting to you, I don't know what to tell ya that doesn't begin with F and end in off.

One of the things I've noticed recently both from interacting with some of my friends with sugar daddies and this new girl I'm seeing, is the direct relationship between how the girl's father showed affection and how the girl currently gets feels attraction.

Every girl I've ever met who was a "Gold-digger" had a weird relationship with their dads. No great shock here, the only thing more obvious would be suggesting that all strippers have Daddy issues. But the specific nature of the relationship, became more clear to me when I was talking to this girl we'll call Danielle. Unlike most Gold-Diggers I've met Danielle comes from a relatively poor family. Her dad lived across town from her, but only showed up every couple of months to take her out to eat or bring her a few presents. Coincidentally,the way this girl feels someone likes her is when they buy/give her things. Even if it's something small like a drink or a pair of sandals at the beach.

The emotional distance, combined with him using material gifts instead of time, love, and guidance, produced a woman who is incapable at this point in her life of loving a man in the conventional terms. She just doesn't know how to do it. Nor do a lot of women who are "Gold-Diggers". Including Tamra Barney of The Realhouswives of OC, and Kori of Bad Girls Club Season 6. Both "Gold-Diggers" who have publicly admitted to having these kinds of relationships with their dads.

I think most Dating coaches would explain gold digging as a "Survival" tactic. Like when Mystery used to say that he would rather feed a girl a piece of food from his plate than buy her dinner, because of the evolutionary subtext. While I think there's a part of that which is true, I think more than nature, NURTURE is what creates our habits and emotions. Nurture is why the purple Nike cult drank strichnine laced kool-aid and some even served it to their children. Nurture is why terrorists drove a plane into the World Trade Center on September 11th. And IMO nurture is responsible for gold-digging behavior.

I'm not a huge fan of Freud (Mostly because he did more coke than a Columbian cartel),but I do think he was on to something with his ideas about our mothers and fathers and the issues they create in how we process and feel loved.

The flip side of this is girls who get along really well with their dads like this girl I was seeing until a few months ago Kelly. These girls tend to be more self reliant, independent, and together. They also tend to have too many dude friends for my liking, but that is a topic for another post entitled "never trust a girl who doesn't get along with other girls."

Til Next time,

JS-The King Of Content.

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Don't get your panties in a twist...

Regular blog updates will still happen every Wed and Fri.

The War On Neil Strauss stuff is happening every Monday.

JS

Monday, April 11, 2011

The War On The Game Part 2: When I knew Neil Strauss was Scum

What up bitches!

Still at war, don't worry you're pretty little hater heads about that.

Check the video.

Monday, April 04, 2011

The War On The Game

This not a FUCKING joke!

Jon's gonnna give it to ya Neil, fuck waiting for you to get comeuppance on your own.

Nah, Jon's gonna deliver it to ya.

Enjoy the video:




Fuck Neil Strauss as a guy, company, staff, and a crew. And if you wanna be down with Neil Strauss, then fuck you too!

JS- The Leader of the War on Neil Strauss and The Game.

Friday, April 01, 2011

The War Starts Monday...

For those of you wondering why I haven't been talking shit about anyone lately...

It's because I've decided to devote it all towards the one person most responsible.

Be sure to be here Monday for the declaration of war.


JS-The King Of Content ( and shit talking)