Friday, October 26, 2012

Call her little


 Here's a quick post for a Friday.

One of the things I've noticed that all guys who are successful with women do is call them little.

Little girl, little one, little princess, whatever.

But the idea of conveying to a girl that you're bigger than her is powerful since women are biologically designed to be attracted to men that are bigger and stronger.

Little is a good word that can be used to tease her or as term of affection depending on the situation.

So there you go.

JS

Monday, October 22, 2012

Humble Bragging and DHVs


 Hey there,

 I got real sick last week and spent the entire week in bed hacking my lungs up.

 It was not tight.

 I did get to do some reading though which was nice.

One of the books I read was the Humble Brag book by Harris Wittels and one of the things I couldn't help but notice was how much humble bragging seems like what used to be taught as demonstrations of higher value.

A humble brag is a brag where the person conceals the outright brag by adding something that is supposedly humble to either the beginning or the end of the brag.

For example:

"Just recorded my Radio Spot for XM. I lead a weird weird life"

 " I am wearing hands down the most ugly shirt ever made and 4 co-workers have told me it's beautiful. I work with fucking liars and idiots."

The idea of a humble brag much like a DHV is that you brag about something that makes you cool (Being on the radio or having 4 ppl tell you your shirt is beautiful) then you pretend to be annoyed, put off or angry about the thing you just bragged about. Usually in humble brags this takes the form of saying something is weird or acting like what you just bragged about isn't a big deal even though it clearly is because you went on twitter to post about it.

So how does this help you with girls?

Well humble bragging/DHVing (I'm just gonna call it Humble Bragging from here on cuz fuck acronyms) can be an effective way to get attractive pieces of information out about yourself. It's often been said that you shouldn't brag or boast about yourself but IME people are not smart enough to get subtle displays of value and humble bragging works much better than hoping that someone will be able to infer things. So while HBing can alienate some people like myself an the writer of the book it's still remains an effective way to communicate the cool things about yourself without just outrightly telling the girl you're a genius millionaire like myself :)

JS- The King Of Content



 

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Interesting Social Proof Experiment


 I was reading this book Brandwashed about how big brands infiltrate our lives and use their marketing messages to brainwash us whether or not we're aware of it.

They did an interesting experiment on social proof in the book and I wanted to share it here.

Social Proof is extremely misunderstood and involves a lot more than just mentioning a "stripper ex GF" like some guys teaching this stuff boil it down to.

In the experiment they decided to see if they could manufacture "fame."

To do this they took a young intern dressed her up in stylish clothes out of a US weekly, put big dark sunglasses on her, then took her to Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills where they had fake papparazzis take pictures of her and her little dog as people walked by.

In essence they had her dress like a celebrity in a place where celebrities are often found and photographed. Then had accomplices act as if she were a celebrity.

They also had her use her real name as opposed to pretending to be some made up celebrity.

The results were amazing! Not only did people stop to ask her for autographs and pictures, several people came up and complimented her on loving her music, tv or acting career none of which she mentioned. One lady even claimed to have seen her in concert last month.

The basic premise of social proof is that if you look cool, you are in a place that is cool, and most importantly OTHER PEOPLE TREAT YOU AS IF YOU ARE COOL then you become cool even if you aren't.

That's the power of social proof.

JS

Monday, October 08, 2012

Brainstorming: Ways To Convey You're Good In Bed


 I had a real quick lay from the bookstore last week and all I really did was screen her for interest and convey that I'd be good in bed (Which is a slippery slope as we'll see).

So it got me thinking about other ways to show the girl that you know what you're doing sexually. The key here is to do this more through demonstration than talking about it as girls assume that most guys who talk about how good they are in bed are actually terrible.

So here's an admittedly incomplete list that you can add on to in the comments:

1. Pulling her hair
2. Lightly scratching her back under her clothes
3. Lightly biting her neck
4. Kissing her neck and breathing on it
5. Talking about the idea of sensuality and bringing all of your senses together for pleasure. I usually start of by talking about food or how some dish is "better than an orgasm."
6. Being able to dance or move your hips well (obviously doesn't apply to me)
7. Telling a story about a girl going crazy over you for no reason (girls will asssume it was the sex). Captain Jack's Crazy Ex deleted all my #s story is a good example.
8. Tell a story about your ex GF's female friend coming on to you and wanting you to do the things you used to do to your ex to her.
9. Tell a story about how you're ex wanted to share you with other girls. I tell a story about a failed 3some. I think it's important that you don't talk about having a successful 3some as that can intimidate some girls.
10. Mention how she hasn't been spanked or tied up enough recently.
11. Tell her she needs someone to put her in her place.
12. Spank her on the ass or the hand.
13. Tell her that she's "vanilla" and couldn't handle you this is a sex community term for being boring in bed.  If she doesn't know what that is (as most girls won't) explain it to her.
14. Tell her you have a tiny penis and are horrible in bed. As I mentioned before guys who brag about how great they are in bed, or how big they're cocks are,  are untrustworthy. Girls assume guys who say they have small dicks are hung like horses.
15. Tell her she probably hasn't had good sex yet.
16.  Take an ice cube out of your drink (if at a bar) put it in your mouth then kiss her neck.
17. Lightly Restrain her wrists by her waist or over her head while you're kissing her.
18. Pick her up, or lift her and spin her around.
19. Dry hump her well (given the appropriate location)
20. Talk about dressing her up in outfits like a sexy nurse or secretary.
21. Talk about how most guys don't know what she wants sexually or how most guys don't know how to get her to feel like a woman.
22. Cold read her on having a fractured sexual identity. Sometimes she wants to be treated sweetly and sensually and other times she needs to be fucked hard like a dirty little girl.
23. Tell her she's naughty.
24. Whisper dirty talk in her ear.
25. Put your hand gently over her throat while kissing her. If she doesn't immediately respond to this with more intense kissing take it away. if she does respond squeeze a little more but be careful.
26. Rub her clit through her jeans or under her skirt discreetly.
27. lift up your shirt and her shirt while kissing to get that skin on skin feeling.

That's all I got for now.

JS- The King Of Content


Friday, October 05, 2012

Sexual Momentum and Screening


 Hey there,

Just a few quick thoughts from my recent results.

1. It's way easier to go further in the initial meeting even during the day time because you have momentum both emotionally and sexually. The girl is never going to be more attracted to you than she was during the first meeting. Therefore the further you go in the first meeting the more likely she is to return calls, meet up etc.. Also its much easier to get same day lays than previously reported from day game. it's all a matter of
2. Logistics are what largely determine whether or not you will get laid. When I was a 10 minute drive from the mall it was harder to get SDLs than it is now that I'm walking distance.
3. Screening a girl for sexuality and availability is more important than traditional qualification. Instead you want to screen to see if this girl is available for escalation (No BFs or prudishness) and if she responds to sexuality. If those two factors are there with logistics you should almost always get laid.

That's all I got for today.

JS

Monday, October 01, 2012

Thinking Fast And Slow Highlights


 One of the best books I've read this year is "Thinking Fast and Slow" By Daniel Kahneman the Nobel Prize winning behavioral economist.

The book breaks down the difference between cognition and heuristics to explain why we think the way we do about things.

In essence he argues that there are two systems of thinking:

System 1 is instant and not bound by the rules of logic EX: Driving a car or reciting your #
System 2 is deeper thinking with well supported thought out ideas and arguments. EX: arguing about politics or explaining how to bake a cake.

Here's some quotes and ideas that interested me:

System 1 provides impressions that often turn into your beliefs and is the source of the impulses that often become your choices and actions. It offers a tacit interpretation off what happens to you and around you, linking the present with the recent past and with expectations about the near future. It contains the model of the world that instantly evaluates events as surprising or normal. It is the source of rapid and often precise intuition and it does most of this without your conscious awareness of it's activities.

The sequence of characteristics we observe in a person are often determined by chance. Sequence matters however because the halo effect increases the weight of first impressions sometimes to the point that subsequent information is mostly wasted.

WYSIATI- What you see is all there is. One of the ways System 1 distorts reality to make us feel correct.

Overconfidence: as the WYSIATI rule implies neither the quantity nor the quality of evidence counts much for subjective confidence. The confidence that individuals have in their beliefs depends mostly on the quality of story they can tell themselves about what they see, even if they see a little. We often fail to allow for the possibility that evidence that should be critical to our judgement is missing- what we see is all there is.

An example of basic assessment is the ability to distinguish friend from foe. This contributes to our chances of survival in the wild.  Alex Todarov of Princeton has explored the biological roots of rapid judgement of how safe it is to interact with a stranger. He showed that we are hardwired to look for two facts about that person: How dominant they are and how trustworthy they are.

Substituting questions. If a satisfactory answer is not found quickly system 1 will find a related question that is easier and answer that instead. The target question is the assessment you intended to produce. The heuristic question is a simpler question you answered instead.

Anchoring Effects- This happens when you are given a # or idea to prime you before being asked a question. For example if you are asked if Gandhi was more than 114 years old when he died you will guess a higher age than if you are asked if he were older than 35. The same thing happens with asking prices of homes etc...

Availability- This refers to how people's impressions are altered by a requirement to list a specific number of instances. In the experiment they asked people to list 6-12 instances in which they behaved assertively and then evaluate how assertive they were. People who had just listed 12 instances rated themselves as less assertive than those who had listed 6. Furthermore participants that had ben asked to think of 12 examples of times they had not behaved assertively ended up thinking of themselves as very assertive. If you cannot easily come up with 12 examples of meek behavior you are likely to conclude you are not meek at all.

Subjective confidence in a judgement is not a reasoned evaluation of the probability that this judgement is correct. Confidence is a feeling which reflects the coherence of the information and the cognitive ease of processing. It is wise to take admissions of uncertainty seriously but declarations of high confidence mainly tell you that an individual has constructed a coherent story in his mind, not that the story is true.

We are confident when the story we tell ourselves comes easily to mind with no contradiction and no competing scenario.

Low probability events are much more heavily weighted when they are described in terms of relative frequency 1 in 100,000 children will die than in percentages 0.0001

Attention is key. Our emotional state is largely determined by what we attend to, our current activity and environment

Affective forecasting- knowing the odds but believing they don't apply to you. Like couples who know most marriages end in divorce on their wedding day but do it anyway believing they are different.

Miswanting- bad choices that arise from errors of affective forecasting. Most prominent when people are asked how happy they would be after a tragedy followed by comparing that with happiness ratings of people who have had misfortunes.

There's a bunch of really interesting stuff in the book and I highly recommend you pick it up if you want to understand why we all make the choices we make.

JS