Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Shut the Fuck Up!!! or How to use silence effectively

Hey there,

Today I wanted to address something that is a big sticking point for most guys who are intermediate-advanced (myself and 99% of instructors included).

You talk too goddamn much...

Once guys learn how to keep a conversation going forever, they forget that sometimes talking more is not the best solution. And that often the more you talk, the more likely you are to say something stupid or even worse use some sort of tactic or technique incorrectly.

Instead once you've HOOKED a conversation, oftentimes it's a good idea to shut up, smile(this is KEY as you don't ant to stop talking and stare like a serial killer) and see what the girl does.

One of the problems with talking too much is that it eliminates the inherent tension present when a man approaches a woman. This tension is what allows escalation to happen, when the woman becomes more comfortable with an escalating interaction than she was with the underlying tension in the silence.

It also provides a great opportunity to see where the girl is. Oftentimes I'll shut up thinking I'm still trying to get attraction and the woman will respond to my silence by asking a deeper question or by simply giving me a compliment.

Again I want to remind you that this is for guys who HOOK sets. It's never a good idea to start a conversation with a woman, and then shut up, UNTIL she is actively participating in the conversation and would rather you talk to her than leave. Until that point you gotta run your mouth, but after that it's a good idea to shut up and see what happens.

JS-The King Of Content

Monday, June 27, 2011

War On The Game: What 100K buys ya...

Hey hey,

Today I have an informational video on what you can buy if you have an extra 100k laying around.

Check it:



JS-The King Of Content

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

The Bare Minimum

Short post today, really more of a reminder.

There is NO prize for getting extra social comfort, attraction, qualification, comfort or arousal.

Instead we should all (Myself included) be aiming for the bare minimum amount of communication between us and the women before we can have sex.

Think about that for a few minutes, what is the bare minimum way that you could:

-Start a conversation
-Tease a woman
-Make a woman emotional
-Build attraction
-Convey value
-Qualify
-Build Comfort
-Seduce

Food for thought eh?

Post some ideas in the comments section and if there's any good ones, I'll share them in a follow up post...

JS-The King of Content

Monday, June 20, 2011

War On The Game: The Hypocrisy of Neil knows no bounds...

What's going on?

Happy Monday! That most glorious of days where we shine a spotlight of truth onto the algae soaked Rat's underbelly that Neil Strauss calls a life.

Let's get it popping.



Leave a comment cause I love haters :)

JS- The King Of Content

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

On Approach Anxiety- Risk is volatility NOT loss.

I read Howard Marks' book "The Most Important Thing" a few weeks ago. The book is a collection of interoffice memos within Oaktree Financial(The company he and Warren Buffet run together).

The book is interesting for anyone looking to get an insight into what has made Oaktree successful over the years, but it also had an idea that I think applies to most guys in regards to approach anxiety.

I happen to think of most things related to pick up on a risk/return continuim. There are no rewards without risk when it comes to meeting women.

In "The Most Important Thing" Marks makes a point of explaining that risk when applied to investments is not necessarily about guaranteed loss, but rather volatility. What this means is that risk doesn't guarantee a loss as much as it guarantees that we DON'T KNOW what is going to happen next.

So how does this apply to approach anxiety?

Simple.

Most guys when they see an opportunity to approach a new woman don't look at it through a risk/reward continuim. Instead they start to assess the situation based on what they think they have to LOSE.

Most guys due to this misunderstanding of risk as loss rather than volatility (or what I'll refer to as the unknown for the rest of this post) Fail to even get themselves to approach.

You have to understand that each different approach a unique and free standing situation. You also have to avoid the gambler fallacy and the tendency to project past performance as a precursor of future success or failure.

The key is to remember that the unknown is always a factor in approaching, but the unknown is not always a loss.

JS-The King Of Content

Monday, June 13, 2011

War On The Game: "Think Tank"

Yo,

Hope everyone had a good weekend!

We found the think tank post...



Generalissimo Jon Sinn

Tuesday, June 07, 2011

War On The Game: Rob Judge Does The Damn Thing

I usually restrict the War on the Game stuff to Monday but today Rob Judge(Who I think is easily the best writer in the SUISC) posted an epic article on why he hates Neil Strauss.

It brought almost brought a tear to my eye...

Check it out:

Why I Hate Neil Strauss

JS

Monday, June 06, 2011

War On The Game: Fuck Stylelife

The War is back on:




Be sure to comment

JS

Wednesday, June 01, 2011

Kristens and Karas

I had this thought the other day while trying to figure out what all the women I really get along with have in common. Besides alcoholism, Narcissism and sarcasm. Or the 3 ISMs as I like to call them :)

This is what I came up with, there are two kind of girls I date. Kristens and Karas.

Kristen obviously was the last girl I had serious feelings for, and has been mentioned on this blog (and an unfortunate podcast) several times including the fact that she dumped me.

A Kristen, is a girl you could see yourself with possibly for good( At least for normal people as opposed to myself). Kristens are hot, but also really together and smart. I called these girls Kristens not because I'm still harboring feelings for her, or feel like she was the one who got away, but because a girl like this becomes the comparison for every girl you date after her. Unfortunately not that many Kristens exist. Especially on the west coast.

Kara was a girl I was seeing earlier this year (Ironically right after Kristen) who I couldn't wait to break up with, despite her being perfect "on paper".

A Kara is a girl who is pretty, and smart and has a lot going for her, but there just isn't the same spark as there is with a Kristen. Karas are good "on paper" meaning that if I sit down and try to think about why I'm less and less into spending time with a girl like this I can't come up with anything tangible like " She's gained weight" or " She's a bitch when she's drunk." So instead I always have to describe why I'm not into a girl with ethereal definitions like "Spark" or "Click". Which is especially tough for someone who thrives on clear and unambiguous logic like myself. Karas are the girls who I know are going to make someone out there a really nice girlfriend, it's just not going to be me. Karas probably tend to get hurt by me the most because I actually don't care about them that much. As bad as that sounds.

Once I figured this out, the question became are the girls I'm seeing now Kristens or Karas?

Though to be honest I probably already knew the answer.

One girl I'm seeing, I legitimately don't like hanging out with(Yes I realize this is stupid but it's easy and.... I really have no justification) we basically have sex more than we speak. She's young and like most 18 yr olds just doesn't have much to say. Her body is sick though.

Another girl is a definite Kara. She's a hair stylist which in my opinion is the number 1 loser occupation girls get into. Haristylists and make-up artists to a lesser degree are professional partiers. And Lame. Unfortunately a fair amount of hair stylists are hot :(

Then there's Jesse. Jesse definitely has some Kristen potential. She's really funny.She's low maintenance, dram free and easy going. She smokes weed. She works at an Abercrombie and Fitch which if she were older than 20 would be a big issue. She's also an artist. There's literally nothing bad I can say about the girl. But she's still a Kara. And she's gonna get hurt when things end. It's like I can see this train heading straight for her, and she has NO idea it's coming. I don't even wanna stop hanging out with her, I just know I will one day.

It's just not there and I can't explain why.

JS- The king of content