Wednesday, June 01, 2011

Kristens and Karas

I had this thought the other day while trying to figure out what all the women I really get along with have in common. Besides alcoholism, Narcissism and sarcasm. Or the 3 ISMs as I like to call them :)

This is what I came up with, there are two kind of girls I date. Kristens and Karas.

Kristen obviously was the last girl I had serious feelings for, and has been mentioned on this blog (and an unfortunate podcast) several times including the fact that she dumped me.

A Kristen, is a girl you could see yourself with possibly for good( At least for normal people as opposed to myself). Kristens are hot, but also really together and smart. I called these girls Kristens not because I'm still harboring feelings for her, or feel like she was the one who got away, but because a girl like this becomes the comparison for every girl you date after her. Unfortunately not that many Kristens exist. Especially on the west coast.

Kara was a girl I was seeing earlier this year (Ironically right after Kristen) who I couldn't wait to break up with, despite her being perfect "on paper".

A Kara is a girl who is pretty, and smart and has a lot going for her, but there just isn't the same spark as there is with a Kristen. Karas are good "on paper" meaning that if I sit down and try to think about why I'm less and less into spending time with a girl like this I can't come up with anything tangible like " She's gained weight" or " She's a bitch when she's drunk." So instead I always have to describe why I'm not into a girl with ethereal definitions like "Spark" or "Click". Which is especially tough for someone who thrives on clear and unambiguous logic like myself. Karas are the girls who I know are going to make someone out there a really nice girlfriend, it's just not going to be me. Karas probably tend to get hurt by me the most because I actually don't care about them that much. As bad as that sounds.

Once I figured this out, the question became are the girls I'm seeing now Kristens or Karas?

Though to be honest I probably already knew the answer.

One girl I'm seeing, I legitimately don't like hanging out with(Yes I realize this is stupid but it's easy and.... I really have no justification) we basically have sex more than we speak. She's young and like most 18 yr olds just doesn't have much to say. Her body is sick though.

Another girl is a definite Kara. She's a hair stylist which in my opinion is the number 1 loser occupation girls get into. Haristylists and make-up artists to a lesser degree are professional partiers. And Lame. Unfortunately a fair amount of hair stylists are hot :(

Then there's Jesse. Jesse definitely has some Kristen potential. She's really funny.She's low maintenance, dram free and easy going. She smokes weed. She works at an Abercrombie and Fitch which if she were older than 20 would be a big issue. She's also an artist. There's literally nothing bad I can say about the girl. But she's still a Kara. And she's gonna get hurt when things end. It's like I can see this train heading straight for her, and she has NO idea it's coming. I don't even wanna stop hanging out with her, I just know I will one day.

It's just not there and I can't explain why.

JS- The king of content


  1. Anonymous11:59 AM

    We really care!

  2. Anonymous1:44 PM

    All of your posts not involving Neil Strauss are really, really good.

  3. Truth5:36 PM

    "a hair stylist which in my opinion is the number 1 loser occupation girls get into. Haristylists and make-up artists to a lesser degree are professional partiers. And Lame. Unfortunately a fair amount of hair stylists are hot :( "

    I agree they are generally hot, partiers, and (duh) superficial. It sounds like you're saying the lameness is distinct from the other qualities I just named. What is it specifically, I'm curious? I just find there is no depth for the most part.

  4. Anonymous6:19 PM

    Cool story bro.

  5. Anonymous7:19 PM

    I feel ya dawg. Shit sucks.

  6. Anonymous7:26 PM

    Sinn, This is Leoman, I have read you're doctrine and am very impressed with the level of truth including the hard truths and the practical delivery of it all. I will pass on you're teachings.
    Thank you.

  7. Anonymous8:58 PM

    Your analysis are great.This blog has real content.

  8. Anonymous10:35 PM

    Are there really Kristens and Karas or is there only a Sinn?...

  9. Man I wanted to say something similar - I really like your non-Neil posts.

    Why give this guy extra publicity anyhow?

    This post was disarmingly honest and it's nice to see when the coaches admit to not always knowing all the answers.

  10. I agree bro. You did not mention what happens if you keep a Kara long or longer term. For me it turned into a 2yr deal that ruined my social circle at the time. Beware Karas are fun but as you stated it will end & most likely badly.

  11. Anonymous5:14 PM

    LOl its good to hear you gossip about babes and game. Pretty funny.

  12. mike r10:50 PM

    dam Sinn i cant even imagine how you brake up with them.

  13. You know a lot about picking up women but you have no sense of identity. First you have been putting on this fake deep voice on your last 5-6 Inner Circle CDs, and now your trying to act all like some teenage girl who doesn't know what she wants from the opposite sex.

    Your normal voice sounds 10 times better than this stupid Swinggcat imitation. Man the fuck up and drop this party girl persona. It's totally not congruent to everything you know ands teach as an awesome dating instructor. It's embarrassing, frankly.

  14. Anonymous8:39 AM

    Jesus Christ what a load of rubbish. Is this supposed to be enlightening or interesting? Do you really think every guy out there hasn't had exactly the same thoughts about girls he dates?

    Duh... You're either really into someone or you're not. That's pretty much ALL you've said here aside from generalising and insulting 3 entire professions.

    Sinn, you can't call anybody else a dick while also being a dick. Grow the fuck up son.

  15. Anonymous12:08 PM

    Wow....this is mindblowingly hilarious. Ever wondered what happens if tons of chicks will read this? All that's left for you will be Sookie and her wrinkly orange friends.