Friday, July 31, 2009

Eminem Kills Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon...

I admit it, I'm a sucker for any beef rap even if it's at a girl :)

http://perezhilton.com/2009-07-30-eminem-hits-nick-mariah-hard-drops-massive-diss-track


And yes, I proudly read Perez Hilton.

S

Podcast oF Glory

Hey guys,

It's finally edited and up.

I just listened through it and IMO it's by far the funniest podcast I've done, so enjoy.

http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%2017.mp3

S

PS: Here's a Link To The Post, so you can read along:

http://attractwomenanywhere.com/blog/2009/07/25/invite-of-the-year-community-weirdness-ensues/

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Great Community Quotes

Hey guys,

I'm revising my book about growing up in the Seduction Community, and there are soo many quotes that are just absolutely unusable without getting sued a gajillion times, or getting peope in trouble.

So, as I'm cleaning up this book for publication, I'll be posting random anonymous quotes here. If the owners of said quotes want to come forward, they may.

As a pothead myself this first quote sparked a long and happy friendship.

This quote happened in a hotel room after a bootcamp as a group of instructors at the old Mystery Method and myself enjoyed a post bootcamp joint.

" I don't smoke joints. When you come to my house, you smoke out of glass."

Never has a pothead preference been more aptly summed up and furthermore explained as a standard of usage at his house.

Still cracks me up to this day.

I'll have more of these as editing occurs...

S

Same Song and Dance...

For some reason I LOVE this super disturbing Eminem song...



Is it wrong it makes me laugh out loud?

S

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Podcast is coming...

I know it's late, but it's going to be worth it.

Trust me, I have Cameron Teone coming on to discuss the douchiest invitation in the world, plus I accidentally ended up at a lair meeting last night ( not on purpose they were having it at a bar ) and hilarity ensued.

Seriously, I don't oversell things especially, podcasts this will hysterical.

Hopefully tomor morning.

S

I don't have HIV!!!!

I finally got the results back from my physical and I have no STDs, and no signs of liver damage.

Eat that healthy living :P

Getting the HIV was result is harrowing because you actually have to go back to the doctor to have them give you the results.

Plus it takes a little while, so you have a nice couple of days to think back on all the stupid sexual choices you've made over the years...

I was so scared this morning that when the PA asked me how I was I said " I'll be a lot better when you tell me I don't have HIV."

So yeah, almost 6 years of reckless partying and 50+ sexual partners a year has left me unscarred.

The only possible conclusion is that I am some sort of superman and thus immune from all human diseases :)

But, the real lesson is that I've gotten a free pass on all the stupid shit I've done over the years healthwise and I need to start making safer decisions.

Personally I've been trying to wrap up all the little nagging loose ends in my life healthwise, emotionally, and financially and going to the Dr for the first time in 6 years was a good step along the way.

Now once I wrap up getting health insurance, getting my wisdom teeth removed, and getting someone to fix the ridiculous scrap heap we call the SOA books, I'll be a real boy!

Hope everyone's having a great day

S

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Monday, July 27, 2009

Daisy Of Love Finale: Running Diary

What’s up guys,

I figured with all the comments and posts about Daisy Of Love last week, I’d write a running diary. So as I sit back with a bong of Blue Cheese weed and a bottle of Zephyrhills water. I invite all of you readers to follow along as we go on a wonderful journey into the land of rockerbags and the Daisy who loves them.


The following is my unedited running diary from 9-10 EST Sunday night.

The show starts off with the Morningwood’s catchy song “ Got The Best Of Me”, as always. Then we get our first confessional of the night and it’s London. London talks about how he’s trying to get every minute of alone time with Daisy he can.

The guys are packing as they’re on the way to Maui and Daisy falls down the stairs for about the third time this season.

When they arrive in Hawaii they’re greeted by Riki Rachtman (who I actually googled). Turns out he’s most famous for getting fired from Kroq radio in LA for assaulting a fellow employee who insulted his porn star girlfriend. Oh and he’s friends with Axl.

12 Pack and Flex are still hazing London by putting his pillows on their balls and wrecking his bed. They keep forgetting however that London is basically homeless, so any bed will be better than what he’s used to. It’s worth mentioning the most underrated subplot of the whole London thing is the fact that he doesn’t really have a home and lives on a couch… This will become important later.

Riki comes in and brings the guys letters from Daisy expressing her concerns over each of them. For Flex it’s his temper, which he says is “fucking bullshit” during his confessional. 12 Pack’s letter says Daisy doesn’t know how he feels about her. London can barely read his letter ( Hysterical!!!) but it says that Daisy is afraid she’s going to be in their relationship alone.

So about 10 minutes in she’s already told London that she’s 100 percent in their relationship. That kinda saps some of the mystery, no? Though London’s illiteracy is hysterical… Seriously he couldn’t read “ I’m afraid you’re going to run away.” You can’t make this stuff up folks.

Riki, now encourages them to “ Step Up Their Game” and meet Daisy on the beach in 45 minutes.

When they get to the beach they are greeted by Samoans who teach them how to paddle surf.

There’s a funny sequence where Daisy looks like she’s drunk and struggling to swim and 12 Pack rubs his man makeup before picking her up out of the waist deep water. Very romantic.

During the commercial break I see an ad for a new show called more to love which is basically a bachelor for chubbettes. I thought peopled watched TV to see pretty people that make them want to buy stuff to feel better about themselves??

The gang have a dinner while being entertained by a machete swinging Samoan waiter and a dance show that Daisy impromptly joins in with. Surprisingly Daisy dances like a stripper…

London explains that he’s not really as good at explaining himself as other people. Or reading… He also says she makes him want to be a better person.

This spurs Flex to attack him for not having a job, being 30 years old, and living with the guitar player of her band. Flex obviously read his letter very closely about not being a hot head.

12 pack stupidly brings up the letter she wrote him as the other two guys are self destructing then cannot answer Daisy when she asks him how he likes her. He chokes big time, as even Daisy is talking about how she goes for her feelings.

Flex jumps in here, with a very real speech about what he likes about Daisy. Starting with the fact that he can name 60 billion things he likes about her from the fact that she’s crazy and random to my own sexual frame of her being independent.

12 pack tries to tell Daisy that he’s falling in love with her, but it’s too little too late. He also breaks the generic compliment scale by telling her she’s both beautiful and amazing.

Daisy announces she’ll be eliminating someone the next morning and it’s looking like it’s gonna be 12 pack. Commercial break time and time for more weed.

There’s a commercial for the new reality TV show Megan wants a millionaire. Think I’ll be passing on that one. By the way when did reality TV stars become commodities. This Megan girl has been on Rock of Love and I Love Money, 12 Pack has been on I Love New York, I love Money, and Daisy Of Love. When did we stop having shows starring actors that are actors not actors that are “real people”? I need answers!

Also a great commercial for the soon to be released movie “The Good” starring Jeremy Piven (Whose girlfriend I banged when I lived in LA). That movie looks really funny.

The guys get in the limo to head to an airport for elimination. That shit is cold. I really like the elimination at the airport. VH1 keeps the pimp hand strong.

The problem with the elimination ceremony at the airport is that nobody can hear anything. VH1 has a habit of doing this so that no one can hear whose getting eliminated.

London gets chosen first to stay with Daisy, apparently she believes he’s in 200%.

12 Pack gets called up next, which leaves us breaking up the bromance between Flex and 12 pack.

12 pack flips out a little bit and storms off. The only problem being that he’s at an airfield in Maui and there’s not really anywhere to go. Daisy then adds insult to injury by coming over and asking him to at least be happy for her. Which is a really cuntish thing to say to someone you just embarrassed on national TV.

We also get a nice montage of 12 pack getting eliminated on I Love New York ( which was a good thing) and I Love Money. Apparently every time 12 Pack tells people he loves them he ends up with… A montage of airport noise drowns out his speech. Damn it now my own thoughts on love and life will never be complete without the 12 Pack perspective. I feel robbed.


Daisy and Flex have a romantic dinner in which he tells her he’s falling in love with her. Daisy believes this but only says that a part of her is feeling that too. Then it’s back to the hotel room to get their fuck on.

Cut away to London working on a song for Daisy that he promised her in the first challenge. Or really he wrote 2 lines, one of which he got from Daisy’s Myspace page.

Awww London can’t sleep since Flex hasn’t returned yet. Around 4 Am he realizes that Flex is spending the night with Daisy. Perhaps the couch he’s crashing on doesn’t have a TV or he’s unfamiliar with the way these reality shows go down.

To add insult to injury Flex ( and cause Hawaii is hot and muggy) walks back to the room shirtless.

Now it’s time for Daisy’s date with London. They’re going horseback riding. This is actually the first time I have ever seen horse back riding accurately represented. It smells like shit and you can’t talk because the horses don’t walk at the same pace… For the first time ever reality TV captures reality.

Back at the room after horse time, it’s time for the song. London is nervous to play something emotional. This song ends abruptly after talking about how he won’t run away. Daisy tells London she’s scared again ,and they makeout.

Daisy sums it up best; vulnerable hot mess, meet vulnerable hot mess.

Daisy is crying again as London leaves the room.

It’s time for the last consult with resident douchebag Riki Rachtman, who tells her London is more of a risk. Thus almost guaranteeing Daisy will pick London.

London and Flex actually agree to get along on the way to the final elimination.

Thank God Riki Rachtman is here!!!!

And we learn an actual lesson about women as Daisy tells Flex he is everything she needs right now, but that London is everything she wants.

That’s right I was right, London is the winner and immediately calls Daisy his girlfriend and talks about how he’s not even going back to Brooklyn, he’s moving in with Daisy.

Ladies and Gentleman, Attraction (even to homeless chubby band guys) is not a choice.

Now that Daisy of Love is over I have to find a new bad TV show to watch, that is depressing.

S

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Flex Picture



An anonymous commenter pointed out that I did not post a picture of Daisy of Love's Flex.

I thought I had found it on the same page as the others but it got lost when I tried to post the Daisy pic.

Here's Flex who is probably equal in looks to 12 pack as he's taller.

Here's the pic with 1.5 hrs til the finale.

S

Friday, July 24, 2009

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Daisy Of Love Finalists- Part 3: London




What's up guys,

Today I'm gonna be wrapping up the Daisy of Love series by talking about the guy who I think is going to win Daisy's "heart".

London.

By far the worst looking of the three guys ( which is why I included all the guys pictures).

London had the most instant chemistry with Daisy. From the beginning of the show until he abruptly dissed her to leave.

He left the show because he felt that all of Daisy's feelings for him were fake. He also also had an epic meltdown as he was leaving where he repeatedly screamed that his name was Joshua Lee and he's a real f@*king person.

However Daisy did not forget about London even as she continued to date down into the final four of Sinister- Insecure, Deviant Rockstar who dressed like Mystery and Chi-Chi an obvious homosexual who was the posterboy for neediness.

This of course led to the dramatic return of the prodigal mohawk, a couple of arguments with Flex where it was noted that he was twice as big as him, and a scene where Daisy took a flower she was given by Sinister and had London eat it.

One of the biggest strengths London had was emotional honesty. When he originally left the show it made Daisy upset but she respected it and continued to have feelings for him. Thus when he came back there was little doubt that she will believe he actually cares about her enough to come back.

Watching the natural chemistry between Daisy and London was one of the more interesting things about the show, even if you can't necessarily tell why she's soo attracted, you get a great look at what girls look like when they are "clicking" with someone. Definitely worth watching if you have problems reading women.

Can't wait for the finale...

S

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Don't Miss Out...

Hey Guys,

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This CD is a virtual master’s course on how to approach women successfully. It contains over two dozen of the best openers EVER devised!

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Daisy Of Love Finalists- Part 2 12 Pack/Dave



Hey guys,

Part two of the DOL breakdown leading up to the finale.

Got some good comments from you guys so keep those coming.

Addressing the comments briefly:

1. Yes, almost all of the guys who competed on this show had hot exes or had hot female friends. Coincidence? I think not.

2. No, I don't think Daisy is attractive from the neck up.

3. There is a 0% chance of any relationship from this show working out.

Now onto Dave Pack.




Dave/12 Pack was also on I Love New York, which I couldn't watch because I'm still to this day convinced that New York was really a man.

Apparently, he's also been on "I love Money" where he met Daisy originally.

12 Pack is probably the best looking guy left out of the 3 finalists. As evidenced by the many times Daisy has chosen him to come up to her room for a nightcap. So the physical attractiveness side is a major part of it with 12 Pack.

However in my opinion there is a vital factor being overlooked if you only check the aesthetics.

There's a major factor in 12 Pack's game that is being left out. That factor is maturity.

In The Natural Attraction system, I break down attractive characteristics into 4 qualities; being fun, interesting, confident, and masculine. Maturity is one of the most masculine characteristics there is.

12 Pack consistently keeps himself out of drama in the houses and avoids having any sort of emotional flare ups throughout the show. In short he's very chill. This is even more magnified by the way the show has been constructed. The more you can remain calm, cool and collected under intense pressure, the more confident you seem. You can see this in field by holding your frame and refusing to flinch in difficult approaches.

12 Pack also has a good combination of masculine and feminine personality traits. This is something that a lot of guys simply don't understand. You cannot be one dimensional and get girls. While 12 pack looks like a bodybuilder or badass, he evens it out by running around in a pair of leopard print boy shorts and letting Daisy whip him... Obviously you don't need to go to that extreme but it demonstrates the contrast.

The reason 12 pack won't win ( Besides him being positioned for a sequel by VH1) is that he never built any emotional connection with Daisy. Of all the guys left he's the one who has done the least to demonstrate that he cares about her ( I mean hell he didn't even have his ex-gf tell her like Flex did). So since Daisy is convinced she's looking for love there will be enough doubts that he'll eventually lose to tommorow's entry: London.

See ya tomor.

S

Fuck Up Report- Short

Hey guys,

Last night I had a great set with this girl for about an hour before her bf came and then it got weird. But I messed up by not getting her # and setting up a date 25 minutes in as I yell at all students to do.

So consequently I lost the girl.

I'm posting publicly about it because hopefully this will remind me to take my own advice :)

Grrr... she was really hot too.

S

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

A Thank You

Hey guys,

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===========================================
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===========================================

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* Bonus #1: Special Report on the Art of Speaking Womanese:

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* Bonus #2: Audio CD on Opening 2.0:

This CD is a virtual master’s course on how to approach women successfully. It contains over two dozen of the best openers EVER devised!

* Bonus #3: Two Months FREE Membership to Sinn’s Inner Circle:

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* Bonus #4: Audio download on How Not To Run Out of Things to Say:

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* Bonus #5: The Inner Game Report: How To Think Like A Ladies Man
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Daisy Of Love Finalists- Part 1 Flex





I'm sure I've mentioned my affinity for bad reality TV and the life lessons that one can gain from them :)

Recently a little show called Daisy Of Love(DOL) has become my Reality TV fix.

DOL stars Oscar De La Hoya's cousin Daisy De La Hoya of Rock of Love with Brett Michaels fame...

For those of you who are unaware of how these VH1 "Of Love" shows work, they take a girl or guy who is somewhat well known ( Think Flava Flav) as well as quirky and they have 20 guys or girls compete for a chance at love with them, complete with chains and tearful eliminations.

Usually these shows are mildly interesting but this particular show happened to feature a lot of guys who were basically wannabe rockstars and dressed like Mystery.

Plus Daisy herself is not the sharpest tool in the shed. All this and a surprise skunk appearence have led to a great season.

Which leads me to today's article, the final 3 remaining contestants all have very strong stereotypes as well as personalities that are attractive to women. So I'll be breaking down the three finalists and why they are naturally attractive to women.

For anyone who is also watching the show I'm handicapping the contestants starting with the guy who I think is least likely to win, Flex.

Obviously Flex is a tall good looking guy, but there are a couple of other things that stand out about him.

First he has balls. Balls are the most important factor when it comes to picking up girls. Flex is the first guy to step up and that in and of itself is going to be attractive.

He's also got edge, which is attractive to all women, but especially a girl like Daisy. Edge is all about being exciting and unpredictable. Women are turned off by boredom and predictability.

He's also not afraid to speak his mind, which is something that most guys have a problem with. Most guys don't share opinions whether negative or positive with anyone, but Flex does.

Unfortunately none of this will be enough for him to win the show...

S

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Podcast!

Hey guys,

On this podcast Speer and I discuss Building connections, Project Miami, and much much more.

Check it out!

http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%2016.mp3

S

Monday, July 20, 2009

Video Blog

Hey guys,

Here's a video blog recorded early in the AM for ya.

Let me know if you like this kinda stuff in the comments section.

S


Friday, July 17, 2009

Flipping The Switch To Change Your Life..

Yesterday a student in 12 Months To Mastery ( My year long coaching program) was asking me how I can be so confident in making life decisions, especially when it came to moving to new cities or cutting people out of my life.

I had rarely verbalized what I do mentally in these situations, but internally I've known for a long time.

I call it "Flipping The Switch".

Once I decide that some person, place, or thing is unhealthy for me, I immediately cut them or it out of my life. Like that person, idea, belief etc, was fucking cancer. You know what you don't do with cancer? You don't talk to it or try to get it to change. You get rid of it ASAP. All traces of it, so that your body looks as much as possible like it was never even there. Then you try to forget it as quickly as you can.

That can sound really harsh, I know.

But I think about it like this, life is short and uncertain. Any one of us could live to be 100 or, get hit by a bus tomorrow. Life is too short to deal with people, places or things within your control that don't make you not just happy, but ecstatically happy. You owe it to yourself, to respect yourself enough to not put up with bad situations and hope that someone else will come in and save you.

You have a lot more control over your circumstances than most people want to believe, and you don't have to settle.

You can always flip the switch and start again.

Have a great weekend.

S

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Games People Play...

Hey guys,

Been doing some more self development stuff on my own and in my readings I've found a lot of stuff from Dr Eric Berne to be fascinating.

Berne first wrote about and defined the idea of transactional analysis which is a theory of communication based on his work on ego states ( which are what I would call META subpersonality types)

Now I don't necessarily think all of his work is great but he wrote a book called " Games People Play." Which is genius.

It's all about the patterns and social interactions we have over and over and what people are gaining from seemingly miserable situations. And they're explained in incredibly easy to understand terms like " The frigid woman game" or The " I've got you now, you son of a bitch game".

Worth checking out.

I'll be combining a lot of the Goffman research I was doing with the transactional analysis and communication theory research soon.

I have so many notes it's retarded!!!

And all of it is related to little things that make huge differences in how we communicate. As well as pulling together a more in depth way to express what's happening in our social interactions, which will help guys figure out where they are and what's going on much more frequently.

I'm excited for the next couple of weeks of articles as slowly start to redefine and re-explain a lot of the previous theories used to explain social dynamics. As they are INCREDIBLY out of date.

Have a great weekend and I'll see you back here on Monday for the first article.

S

PS: If you want to learn how to effortlessly create attraction with women get my Real Secrets of Natural Attraction Program and learn my proven system for walking through the world with the ability to create unstoppable attraction with the women of your choice. Get it at www.Naturalattractiondvd.com

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

I'm about to interview Captain Jack...

That's right, the one and only Captain Jack, the Best Pick Up Artist I've ever seen , opens up about seduction, sexual framing, low self esteem and much much more...

Find out how to get it...

Soon.

S

PS: Captain Jack is indeed the white Billy Dee Williams...

Weird...

We have almost twice as many active posters on my forum ( www.Sinnsofattraction.com/forum) than there are on a certain hate filled disgusting message board.

Just goes to show, some people are actually interested in improving their lives instead of just shitting all over other people.

This amuses me greatly.

S

Polite Response

Hey guys,

Wanted to whip up a quick starter article on the difference between polite response and attraction. I'll be expanding on why polite response happens later and what to do about it.

A lot of guys make the mistake of assuming that a woman who is being polite is attracted to them.

Oftentimes women are being polite for one of numerous reasons. It could be boredom, social etiquette or just that she doesn't want to feel like a bitch.

While polite response is nicer to our egos, it actually can hurt our progress during the early stages of learning pickup, as it wastes time that could be spent doing approaches where the girls might actually sleep with us.

So what should you look for to determine if what your getting is polite response?

1. Wedding Rings. Married sets are always easier to hook and get attention from, because it's polite response.

2. The girl asking questions to fill an awkward silence in the first 1-3 mins. This happens a lot to guys who stall in set. It's the worst thing that can happen because it rewards you for stalling out a conversation.

3. Instant removal from touching. The girl(s) will stay and talk but instantly move away from your touching in a socially polite way.

4. The girls eyes wander as they are listening to what you're saying.

5. The girls excuse themselves to "go to the bathroom" or dance.

Generally guys get polite response when they forget to break rapport early on to generate attraction.

If you're wondering whether the response you're getting is attraction or polite response, you can try to move or try to qualify. Girls who are not attracted to you will not move or qualify themselves for the most part.

Next time I'll get more into the psychology of face loss and how you can leverage that to turn polite response around.

S

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Podcast Time!!!

Hey guys,

Here's a link to a longer podcast with myself and ZUZU who runs the TOP lair down in SOuth Florida.

In this episode we talk about the evolution o game over the last few years and how to get the most out of a lair.

Check it out!

http://sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%2015.mp3

I'll be having more guests on the podcasts soon; stay tuned.

S

Monday, July 13, 2009

Vblog attempt # 2

Way back in the day I tried a video blog unsuccessfully.

Well I'm bringing it back.

They'll be here once a week from now on probably at the beginning of the week as a coming attractions deal.

# 1



S

Friday, July 10, 2009

The As If Frame

Hey guys,

Quick post today.

I was looking through some threads on my forum ( www.Sinnsofattraction.com/forum) and I noticed a thread about a guy who was very sexually inexperienced and kept having girls tell him they thought he was a virgin....

OUCH!

So I suggested he adopt an as if frame. The as if frame is an NLP idea to help a person think beyond a perceived boundary.

Here's a definition from Mind-Lines:

As If Frame: Using a pretend or possibility frame of mind to pretend that some event is real or actually happened and to step into that frame of thinking and feeling. Thinking " as if" encourages creative problem solving by mentally going beyond aparent obstacles to desired solutions.

I told the student to write down all the ways he would act and approach women if he were already getting laid morning, noon and night.

By thinking about how you would act as if in this situation, you get a good mental picture of where you want to be and how you want to act. This will allow you to fake it until you ultimately make it.

Have a good weekend,

S

Thursday, July 09, 2009

Interaction Ritual quotes

Hey guys,

I've been reading this book called Interaction Ritual which is a collection of essays by world famous sociology professor Erving Goffman.

This particular book is all about face to face behavior.

It's interesting that the book is on face to face behavior, because the first section is on the concept of "face".

Face being the positive social value a person claims for himself by the line others assume he has taken during a particular contact.

Basically face is the way you present yourself to be. Oftentimes new students have trouble because they lose face for dishonesty or being incongruent in how they present themselves to the world.

The section is fascinating as it explains both the avoidance process for maintaining face (ejecting) as well as making points- the aggressive use of face work to alter others opinions.

Here's some interesting quotes from the first section on face work.

" Points made by allusion to social class status are sometimes called snubs; those made by allusions to moral respectability are sometimes called digs; in either case one deals with a capacity at what is sometimes called "bitchiness""

" Thus when a person makes a slight gaffe, he and the others may become embarrassed not because of inabilities to handle such difficulties, but because for a moment no one knows whether the offender is going to act blind to the incident, or give it joking recognition, or employ some other face saving practice."

Footnote 21- See for instance Jackson Toby, " Some variables in Role Conflict Analysis", Social Forces ( 1952) 30:327-37: " With Adults there is less liklihood for essentially trivial issues to produce conflict. The automatic apology of two strangers who accidentally collide on a busy street illustrates the integrative function of etiquette. In effect each of the parties to the collision says " I don't know whether I am responsible for this situation, but if I am you have a right to be angry with me, a right I pray you will not exercise." By defining the situation as one in which both parties must abase themselves, society enables each to keep his self respect. Each may feel in his heart of hearts, " Why can't this stupid ass watch where he's going?" but overtly each plays the role of the guilty party whether he feels he has been miscast or not."

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Pretty interesting stuff.

I'll be putting together some posts on leveraging the concept of face ( both your own and others) as well as polite response and the moral high ground as soon as I pull together all my notes from this book.

It's pretty academic and dry, so it may take awhile. But there is some solid gold info in here.

S

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

The Wackness...

Toast To A Terrific Tuesday Titans of Pick Up!

Alliteration is fun!

Anywhoo...

I was watching a movie last night and it got me thinking.

The Movie was called "The Wackness" and was about a high school kid in the early 90s who was dealing weed to save money for college and hooks up with and gets his heart broken by his shrink's daughter...

There was one scene in general that stood out.

It was when the girl who will eventually break the kid's heart, says to him

" You know what you're problem is? It's like you only focus on the wackness around you, while ignoring the dopeness."

It reminded me that most of us are always looking at what we don't have, what could be better, or where we ultimately want to be, that we miss the good things all around us.

I know I'm guilty of this more than most.

So this post should serve a reminder to all of us to focus on the positive, be appreciative of what we have, and live in the present rather than waiting for your circumstances or environment to change or the better.

S

Monday, July 06, 2009

Interview With AttractionBlogs.com

Hey guys,

I did an interview with The Attractionblogs.com site the other day and it's up now.

Check it out at http://attractionblogs.com/interviews/interview-sinn/

Seems like a promising new site.

Also be sure to check out The Barry Kirkey Show tomor, as I'll be on it.

S

Friday, July 03, 2009

Common Female Behavior- " I can't Believe I Slept With You On the...

Hey guys,

Happy soon to be Fourth of July!


Today I wanted to do another Common Female piece and talk about the phrase " I can't believe I slept with you on the... The ... could be the first date, in a bathroom, on my period, the night we met, whatever.

Most guys take this to mean that the woman is asking for emotional reassurance that she did the right thing... This is usually dead wrong. When girls say anything like this, what they are doing is baiting you to see what you think about them now.

So the correct response is something like " Yeah it was hot." or " Yeah it was fun". Then if I want to keep seeing the girl, I'll immediately invite her to go do something like get ice cream or take a walk. You want to make sure to not treat her any differently after you have slept with her. It's super obvious to girls when guys stop making as much effort after they sleep with a girl.

You want to convey a complete lack of judgement about her and what you guys have done.

S

Thursday, July 02, 2009

New Music...

So I went on a huge Itunes buying spree the other day, and now that I've finally listened to all the stuff I bought, I wanted to post about it.

I haven't bought new music for like 6 months as I was going through an early 90s acoustic pop phase :)

Anyway I got the following albums:

Ludacris- Theater of the mind.
Kanye West- 808s and Heartbreaks
Amy Winehouse- Back in Black
Eminem- Relapse

The Ludacris album is ok. I still feel like every one of his albums gets worse than the one before it. But I also think I like this album better than his last two, so that's progress. He has a few awesome songs like "I do it for hip hop" with Jay-z and Nas, or "Last of a Dying Breed" with Lil Wayne. But a bunch of the tracks are simply indistinguable southern rap... From a pickup standpoint I definitely agree with him on "One more drink" when he talks about lowering your standards from time to time. Community guys are awfully picky for a bunch of guys who never get laid:)

808s and Heartbreaks has an awesome theme and feels like it goes through the different stages of breaking up and feeling lonely. Whether self serving or not, Kanye lets us into a real world of lonliness behind the balling and celebrity lifestyle. There's a few songs I didn't like, but overall I really enjoyed both the music and the experience of 808s and Heartbreaks.


Amy Winehouse has an awesome voice. Rehab, and You Know I'm No Good are great. That's all the positives I have for Back in Black. I want 7.00 back from Itunes, as I could have just bought the two singles and been done with it.

I love Eminem, but oftentimes ( Especially since he did "Lose Yourself" and decided to just rap at that exact same speed and delivery all the time) his songs have to grow on me. We're at this point with Relapse. Plus, I'm not sure what to believe anymore in his songs as now he's basically as I interpret it, accusing his stepfather of rape. Plus he continues to regale us with tales of Munchousen Syndrome from his Mom... It's just kind of a weird album. Not sure what else to say.

If anyone has good new music suggestions, leave em in the comments.

S

Wednesday, July 01, 2009

5 Most Common Sticking Points Amongst Students

Hey guys,

I wanted to write up the most common sticking points I've seen in students over the last month.

1. Lack of state management. Almost no students have a set 20 minute warm up to get into state. This doesn't have to be anti-social or weird where you run around screaming or making monkey noises. But you do need a way to go from anti-social and in your head to social and in the moment.

2. Not paying attention to the entire group. I'm no great proponent of group theory as I think it can be overly complicated and sometimes you can just game the girl. However you still need to acknowledge the group and at least get the "nice guy" approval from her friends. Most guys think they need to make everyone in a group attracted, this is wrong. You just need them to be ok with you talking to their friend, and isolating her.

3. Not going for isolation. Almost all game happens in isolation, yet no students go for it without having to be told.

4. Not escalating physically, or getting stuck doing the same types of touching. If I had a dollar for everytime a student touches a girl's elbow more than 5 times in an interaction, I could retire. It's amazing how students don't realize that they have to touch, and keep touching. You must have a basic idea of how to escalate physically. If you don't have one check out the Lay Reports Book(www.Layreportbook.com) and see what different touching happens between meet and sex.

5. Inability to transition in a conversation. This is a problem of both frame control, and lack of conversational techniques. You need to know how to use open loops, pauses, multiple threads, push backs, unanswered questions etc... In order to keep a conversation going.

See if any of that applies to you. If it does, fix it and your game will improve dramatically.

S