Monday, April 22, 2013

Mating Intelligence Unleashed Notes


 Hey there,


This book just came out that had a bunch of new stuff on clinical research into dating (Including looking at PUA tactics like stuff Mystery teaches)

Here's my notes on it:

 
Women preferred innocuous pick up lines wheras men have a preference for direct approaches.

Cognitive Fatigue or distraction can make women less susceptible to innocuous pick up lines and approaches but doesn’t seem to have an effect on reciprocity to direct approaches.

Attempts that received the highest ratings displayed a man’s helpfulness, ability to take control, wealth, education, culture or direct wit.

Opening gambits that revealed a man’s wealth, generosity, ability to take charge, and physical fitness appealed to women.

Men underestimated how much women liked opening gambits that revealed a man’s willingness to hand over control of the interaction to the woman and revealed his wealth or willingness to help someone else.

According to Sternberg each of us creates one of 26 love stories at an early age which then influences our mating choices.

Men think about sex about once an hr compared to once every 2 hours for women

Being a male or female matters less in determining a person’s mating strategy than does a person’s life history strategy.

Karl Grammer and co looked at initial heterosexual encounters and found flirting was only weakly related to actual interest.

Researchers found that women aged 27-45 thought more about sex and were more willing to have sex after 1 date, 1 week and 1 month. They also reported higher than norma levels of fantsies.

Ovulation in women causes more likely mating behaviors including but not limited to: A tendency to be more likely to touch other males in casual setting, and a tendency to be more attracted to creative tyoes, take more risks, dance dynamically and appear more symmetrical.

Men were better at guessing what women want in long term partners while women were better at guessing what men wanted in short term partners.

The most common deceptions are fitness value, level of commitment, tendency towards kindness, financial status, social status and educational background.

Narcissim has different factors: Leadership/Authority, Self absorbtion/self admiration, superiority/arrogance, exploitativeness/entitlement


6 Love Styles:

Eros-Passionate physical and emotional intimacy
Ludus-Game playing and conquest
Pragma-central practical concerns and career goals
Storage- an outgrowth of friendship
Agape- Selflessness
Mania- Attachment and Obsession

Dominance only increases sexual attraction when the person is already high in agreeableness and altruism.

Women scoring high in sexism and sociosexuality are more receptive to PUA advances (Aggresssive courtship styles) . The research by Jeffrey Hall suggest that assertive mating strategies are a way of identifying women with the same courtship script.


 JS




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