Monday, May 07, 2007

Re-post "The difference that makes the difference"

Here's a great article by Brent of DYD fame.

I really like his take on inner game and indifference.



29 Apr 2006 - The difference that makes the difference

Indifference (the difference that makes the difference)

1: unbiased impartial unconcern
2: apathy demonstrated by an absence of emotional reactions [syn: emotionlessness,
impassivity, impassiveness, phlegm, stolidity, unemotionality]

3: the trait of lacking enthusiasm for or interest in things generally [syn: apathy,

4: the trait of remaining calm and seeming not to care; a casual lack of concern [syn:
nonchalance, unconcern]

Indifference is the strongest force in the universe. It makes everything it touches
meaningless. Love and hate don't stand a chance against it. - Joan Vinge

This is my favorite subject!!

I've always said that if men would master this one thing, they would no longer have
ANY problems with women. It would change the entire world of dating overnight.

This is one of the most important techniques in creating attraction. When used properly,
it drives women crazy.

It's the,

"I don't really care"


"I'm not attached to the outcome"

frame of mind that they're be attracted to. You seem like you don't have a care in the

Being a little indifferent is actually healthy for you. You avoid most of the peaks of life
and the unproductive emotions that usually sidetrack you. In fact, you'll be able to turn
your emotions on and off like a light switch; living a pretty smooth, drama free life.

Indifference causes a woman to feel comfortable with you. It's the push-pull thing.
You're not pushing and this is pulling her in, and she's becoming emotional.

Use the word 'Maybe' and the phrase "we'll talk about" when speaking to them.


Maybe we'll get together

Maybe we'll have drinks

Maybe you can meet us later

There's enough yes in maybe for you to seem indifferent, yet interested; and enough No
to appear as a challenge- just out of her reach.

Using "we'll talk about" is also effective. Again, this is non-committal yet alluring.


"Give me a call and we'll talk about getting
together sometime"

Never agree to anything. You're telling her that the two of you will discuss the next
step, if there is one. You haven't made a final decision or been convinced yet. It's just
another way of conveying your power.

Be careful with indifference though. You can become so good at it that women won't
think they have a chance with you. Basically, you'll be back in the same place you


  1. Michael L5:11 PM

    ''The difference that makes the difference is indifference''

  2. didnt u say being friendly is better? and also another question
    when your being enthusiastic isnt that not being indifferent?
    and one last Q, when ur hitting on a girl and showing genuine interest, is it better to say it indifferently or with real interest?
    indifference confuses me

  3. This site is fucking gay. I just wrote out a long ass post in response to yours, and the comment didn't go through. Piece of shit.

    oh well.

    essentially, what I wrote was basically bashing indifference. like you said, it deprives you from living the kind of emotionally charged life that comes along with other styles.

    Who would want that?

    Lazy people.

    But that's just my opinion. Let me know how this is working for you, Sinn.


  4. Anonymous8:44 PM

    I've got indifference down.

    Trust me, I wish I could care.

    I don't like this at all.

    A poor choice of word.

  5. Anonymous2:40 AM

    This makes sense to me. It's about being indifferent towards women's reactions. Indifferent towards whatever happens between you and the girl. Not indifferent as an approach to life, just when it comes to women.

  6. Guys,
    as 'anonymous' above said.

    "indifference" as in emotionally unreactive and outcome indepent NOT as in unenthusiastic, lethargic style of gaming.

    Think of how you're indifferent to whether you choose to wear a grey pair of socks or an off-white pair. It doesn't mean you have no pep for life, it just means that type of thing has ZERO POWER over you.

    Favourite Brent quote, from 'Double Your Dating' -
    "if every man in the world were indifferent towards women, this seminar would be called 'how to cut your banging in half because you need time to sleep, too'"