Do You Make These Text Mistakes?

Hey,

 

Before I get into today's lesson, please check out Bobby 

Rio's amazing video on texting women into bed if 

you haven't already.

 

WATCH IT HERE

 

One of the most frustrating things is when you get

a woman's number (and she seems to be totally into you)

 

... But then after a few texts she seems to lose interest,

fizzle out, or go cold.

 

The natural reaction is to blame the woman. "She's a

flake..."

 

But if you do that, you could missing a giant crink

in YOUR GAME that is easier to fix than you think.

 

In fact, if you're like most guys than you're probably

just making one of these common texting

mistakes that will kill your chances with a girl.

 

==> New video: 3 Texts To Turn Her On and Get Her Out 

 

MISTAKE:  Confusing Responses for Attraction  

 

Before you've had your first date with a girl, she won't 

feel much of a connection to you. As unfortunate as it 

may be, you're probably not the only guy texting her. 

 

See, a common mistake most guys make when they're 

texting a girl is that they mistake responses for 

attraction. Often when a guy is getting a response from 

a girl, he believes that he's getting closer to getting 

her on a date or to seducing her.

 

The exact opposite is true!

 

The more texts you send before meeting up with girl 

means the less of a chance you have of actually meeting 

up with her! 

 

That's right: even if a girl is RESPONDING 

to your texts, you're not getting yourself ANY closer 

to actually getting her out on a date.

 

Instead, say more with less. Whenever you're considering 

what to text a girl, see if you can say it simpler, with less 

text. 

 

Most guys send pointless texts to women like, "How's 

your day?" or "Enjoying the warm weather?" These texts DO 

NOT bring you ANY closer to a woman! They just beg for a 

response (which doesn't mean anything).

 

To make sure you NEVER again waste texts on pointless chatter, 

ask yourself this golden question:

 

How is this text bringing this girl and I closer to a date?

 

If your answer is simply "to get her to know her better," 

erase the text. It's not going to help you.

 

==> New video: 3 Texts To Turn Her On and Get Her Out 

 

MISTAKE:  Not Conveying "Fun"

 

Here is the simple truth.  When a woman gives you her number

she is NOT signing a social contract to go out with you...

 

And until it seems FUN for her... she's probably not going

to bother meeting up with you.

 

So when you send boring texts that don't display any 

personality or don't elicit any emotions in her... in her

mind you're not worth the trouble of meeting up with.

 

Here are some signs you're NOT being fun.

 

- Am I being stiff and formal "Hi. It was nice meeting you

friday".... (too stiff. too formal)

 

- Am I putting pressure on her to keep the convo going?

 

- Am I badering her with question?

 

Remember, every text you send should make you seem like

the FUN OPTION.  The escape from her boring day.

 

So if you've been making these texting mistakes now is 

the time to STOP making them. 

 

If fact, Bobby's special video shows you exactly how you 

can accomplish everything you need to accomplish with

just three texts. 

 

==> watch the video

 

Best, 

 

Jon

The Most Important Factor is Effort

 I was talking to my friend about what the most important factor for success with women and dating was the other day.

 There's quite a few things that are involved:
 Looks
 Money
"Game" or social engineering
 Emotional Connections
 Commonalities
 Status

 But I think of all those things, effort is the one factor that separates the guys who get laid a ton from the guys who do all right or fail completely.

Think about it, a guy could have great looks, or a lot of money or a lot of "Game" but if he doesn't put in a consistent effort he's not going to get the best results.

I even think back in the day Gunwitch, had an equation that was something like your looks + your effort/ 2 equals your best possible results.

So for example if a guy is a 5 and puts in a 10 effort he could end up with 7.5s. I think I agree, though there are outside factors like "game", money, and emotional connections which could boost the guy even higher without the 10 effort that (AVERAGE)guy is getting nowhere. You have to want better for yourself and then work really hard to get it.

 The worse your starting point is: Short, Fat, Old, Bald, Bad Accent, etc...

 The more effort you're going to need to put in to be successful. I remember once I had a student in 12 months to mastery who was 5'4 bald, fat and unattractive with a terribly thick Indian accent. We were talking and I was telling him he needed to hit the gym and get a vocal coach to work on the accent before he was going to see major progress. He said something to me like " That's too much work." and I went off on an old school rant about how you have to want this and he wasn't starting with the best raw material. And that's the thing a lot of you guys KNOW what you need to do to be more successful with women: You need to stop being a pussy, or lose some weight, or get out more. But you don't want to do that because it's hard. And because you're lazy. So you constantly look for the next magic pill or program that will somehow do the work for you.

 It is possible to succeed as an ugly, short, old dude I've had students do it, but they work their assess off to get that success. They try and try and try and then when they really want to quit they try some more. That's the kind of effort you need to be willing to put in if you're serious about getting success with women. Especially if you're short, ugly, poor, or socially awkward.

 JS

Developing an internal mute button

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Video on Upside Of Irrationality

 Hey there,

 So props to the comment monkey section for finding this video which explains what I was trying to say the other day about the Upside Of Irrationality.

So enjoy the video and comment below:

 Word.

The One Interesting Chapter in The Upside of Irrationality

 The Upside of Irrationality is a boring book.

 It's the sequel to Predictably Irrational which I don't think helps you understand dating as much as it helps you understand that people are prone to irrational behavior which you'll see in dating time and again.

There is however one good chapter in The Upside Of Irrationality on of all things online dating. The chapter contends that online dating is a market in failure. There are a series of experiments that back up this idea in the chapter but much of it is focused on how online dating doesn't simulate a real date because you are essentially window shopping based on pictures and a few descriptions that anyone with half a brain could fake.

There's also some good stuff on ugly people and how they rationalize not being able to get the mates they really desire.

 It's probably not worth reading the whole book, but if you have 30-45 minutes free to read the chapter it's pretty interesting.

 Word.

 JS

My Thoughts On The Guy/Chick Debate

 Man Do I Hate The New Blogger....

 Seriously I hate that shit with a passion, and hope it dies.

 Anyway I read your comments including Captain Jack saying it's best to be a pirate which I think is true...

I think it's easier to be a dude in most situations.

The exceptions being a hot 20 something girl in LA, Vegas, NYC, or Miami who literally has the world by the balls.

Though it is WAY easier to end up alone as a dude...

There are quite a few pluses such as:

 1. No child birth- No thanks to passing a kid out of my body. You know ho wannoying it is when you have to take a shit? Imagine that for 9 months, no thanks.
 2. No fear of rape- I mean outside of jail.
 3. Not always judged by our appearance
 4. Our looks don't fade as bad
 5. They make less money $$$

 So there you have it, be happy you're a dude even if you can't get no pussy!
 
 JS

Is It Easier To Be A Girl Or A Dude

I was out with one of my friends yesterday getting our day drink on, when he started telling a group of girls someything like " Its easier to be a girl because even if you never make money you can always find a guy who's rich so that adds to your income.

That's actually a lot more clear as I'm not writing this after drinking 12 Vodka sodas.

 But it got me thinking, is it easier to be a girl or a dude.

When it comes to dating it's WAY easier to be a girl, they don't have to approach, pay for dates, etc...

When it comes to work and making money it's better to be a dude as guys still make on average something like 15% more than women for doing the same jobs.

Women live longer though...

And on and on the list goes.

Since we've been getting a lot of comments on here lately (Cuz I'm awesome) I figured I'd start the week off by asking what you guys and girls think?

Overall is it harder to be a guy or a girl?

 JS

You Can't Learn From "Naturals"

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Mythical Creature Of Pick-Up: The Fat Guy With Game

There are many mythical creatures in the land of Pick-up, there's the mythical guy who can pick up girls without talking, there's the guy who can out game celebrities and there's my personal favorite; The Fat Guy with game.

Question, if a dirty 5 dollar street hooker, Santa Claus, The Easter Bunny, and A fat guy with game are walking down the street and see a $5 dollar bill, who gets it?

Think about it...

The answer is the dirty $5 dollar hooker because the other 3 guys are figments of your imagination.

In now 8 years of actively going out and trying to meet guys with game, I have NEVER EVER EVER EVER seen a guy who was fat with game.

And I mean fat fat not fat like Nick Savoy who is a tall skinny guy with a big gut. I mean so fat that when you first see him you're only thought is man that guy is fucking fat. Chubby don't count.

In fact I would go so far as to say this, if a pickup teacher advertises that their shit works even if you're obese, clutch on to your money and run in the opposite direction.

If you're fat, women will talk to you if you approach them (Unless it's direct then they'll usually keep walking) but you are instantly screened out as having any sexual potential whatsoever. I've seen it on many bootcamps and I always tell the dude he needs to lose weight before he decides to try to learn game.

Gym before Pick-up is one of the golden rules for actually getting results at this stuff.

JS

Locus Of Control and Pickup

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The Blonde Thing...

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Girls as Options Traders

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Further Proof Neil Strauss Just Wants Your Money

Neil's Idiot Marketing guy emailed me for some unknown reason.

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Approach Anxiety and Variability

Short Post today, I've been reading a great book called "The Willpower Instinct" which is all about willpower and the nueroscience behind how we do or don't have the willpower to pursue our goals.

There was an interesting piece which relates to why I think it's hard for guys to get into the swing of doing consistent approaches.

The piece was on variability which basically means how much difference there was between the behavior on a day to day basis. In one example in the book, they talked about someone who was trying to quit smoking. If they started by trying to quit all together, the chances of them quitting were almost zero, however if they tried to just smoke the same amount of cigarettes each day almost every participant reduced and then eliminated their smoking.

The reason was variability if someone smoked 12 cigarettes one day they have to smoke 12 the next and the next. Same with 4 etc... So it made it easier to reduce it since it was no longer one extra cigarette which is easily rationalized but 1 cig a day.

I think this relates to approaching and AA because guys will not approach any women all week then try to approach 12 women a night on the weekend which oftentimes they fail at because it's such a change from their day to day average of approaching no women.

So what I recommend is if you have AA trying to approach the same number of people every day in the beginning even if that just means talking to one girl a day you will start to develop the habit of talking to girls and can eventually add on to that in the same way that smokers toned down their habits.

There's a lot of good neuroscience explaining why this works better in the book, but I'm too lazy to find quotes or experiments if you want more info I highly recommend the book even though I'm not even halfway through it.

JS- The King of Content

Interesting Thought For The Day About "PUA gurus"

I find it very interesting that these guys ALWAYS talk about how busy they are(Not to mention teaching guys to avoid qualifying themselves.),then spend 10-12 posts defending/qualifying themselves on various forums (Where I lurk soooo hard muthafuckas want to fine me) especially if it involves the topic of them not getting hot girls or their girlfriends being less than a 10.

Didn't Shakespeare write something about some guy protesting too much???

Either way it makes fascinating weekend reading when I'm bored in class. So I should probably shut the fuck up so they keep doing it....

Actually who am I kidding it's a pathological behavior I could send them emails telling them they do this and they would still do it.

Which means I have some emails to write...

Or I'm going to kickboxing class as I'm actually not that busy, because this job is not hard enough that I could tell people I work 17 hour days with a straight face.

Oh pickup gurus never change.

JS-The King Of Content

Two Things I'm Into Right Now

Here's a couple of things I'm into on this Wednesday:

1. Joe Budden's AMAZING remix on No Church In The Wild (Which was my favorite song on the Watch The Throne Album) This Remix is probably the best verse of the year thus far...



2. @Dadboner twitter. Bold Flavors, Power Moves, A Thousand Beers, Bud Light Nums, if this means something to you, you're awesome and read DadBoner's amazing twitter feed. It's not like other twitter feeds, it's a comic character written by a working hollywood writer who posts stories that will make you piss your pants check it out if you like laughing.

JS

My Top 10 Free or Really Really Really close date ideas...

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Going on Vacation

Yo,

I'm out of town this week so there won't be updates til next Monday when I will have some cool new stuff and maybe even a video on cold reading if you're really nice :)

JS

K.I.S.S # closing system

Hey there,

I've been actively trying to simplify my game recently. One of the things that's really been working for me (To the point I started teaching it to my private phone coaching students and now it's working for them) is what I'm calling the K.I.S.S (Or Keep It Simple Stupid) system for getting a girl's number.

What happened was this, we all know it's better if you make a date with a girl for a specific time and at a specific place right?

Well I only ever take girls to drinks or for coffee if they're under 21(But above 18). So instead of coming up with this elaborate plan or coming up with a unique date every time, I decided to just start asking girls to come out for a drink or coffee when I meet them.

No more having to seed a story about a cool place, or make it seem really elaborate.

So I started doing that, instead of the overly elaborate seeding, I would just ask them if they wanted to grab a drink sometime in the normal flow of the conversation. This is a key point as when I waited til the end of the conversation to ask, I got a LOT more flaking (like 30%) so it's important that you treat it like a seed and you don't ask for the women's # right away after she agrees to go have a drink.

Wait a minute or 2 and then get her phone number so you can figure out where you'll go. I also like to say I like dive bars and ask her if she likes dive bars at which point I'll tell her we'll go somewhere cool and that's it. I'm out.

This is MUCH simpler and can be thrown in to any conversation and the best part is the girl will know it's a date, so there won't be any confusion where you end up in the dreaded friend zone.

Hope that helps,

JS- The King Of Content

I am EXHAUSTED!!!

So the last few months I have been back in school, and it is EXHAUSTING.

Not to mention that I go to school on the weekends because I'm still running this business, blogging, doing kickboxing 3x a week, girls and trying to have a non girl related social life.

The good news is I only have 4 more weeks of school and then at least I'll have weekends back.

But today, I am dead tired, sooo tired I can't even sleep... And when I finally did get out of bed, I went and laid down on the couch. In theory I am going to kickboxing next but we shall see...

JS

5 Types of Cold Reads

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Rule # 7 : Always End Interaction First

Here's a good piece of advice that many guys(including myself sometimes) don't take.

Whenever you're interacting with a woman, whether it's the first time you meet her, through the phone, or on a date you should always end the interaction first.

This does a few things:

1. It may end the interaction before she wants it to end leaving her wanting more but not getting it.

2. It shows you are a busy guy creating scarcity.

3. Most importantly it keeps you from looking like the needy guy hanging on to the conversation with a girl for as long as he possibly can.

You don't need to be rude about it, but a simple "Oh man I totally have to run" can be used to end any conversation.

And if you've been running good game then you should already have her phone number or have set up a date well before the conversation starts to linger creating the perfect time for an exit.

Hope that helps,

JS

Eye Contact

Eye contact is a tricky subject, for 2 reasons:

1. It's a pretty important "Basic" skill. Without making good eye contact, it is very hard to display confidence and you can end up looking insecure, or worse shady.

2. There's no such thing as "SEDUCTIVE" eye contact. Eye contact is important but it's not like you're going to figure out some sort of Rasputin-y eye contact magic that makes girls fall in love with you just by looking at them.

So how do we bring these two ideas into alignment?

Pretty easily actually, eye contact is MOST important on the approach, you want to make nice, comfortable eye contact with the girl/group you are approaching.

When I say nice comfortable eye contact I mean holding EC for at least 1-2 seconds before looking away. Generally you want to hold EC until the girl looks away but you want to avoid staring as that is creepy, so never hold the EC for longer than 3 seconds without looking away.

Another way to use EC is as an emphasis. If in Attraction I want to make a point, I can double up on eye contact as I'm talking. Generally as you're talking you want to make and break eye contact on that 1-3 second pattern.

With a group it's necessary to spread the EC out with the entire group rather than just stare at one girl the whole time.

To get more advanced you can start to think about what different kinds of looks you could use with EC for example giving a woman a funny look is very different than a sexy look but both require strong EC to make happen.

Hope that helps.

JS

Brainstorming: Ways To Convey Direct Interest

Lately, I've been talking about this idea of expressing direct (Non qualification based) interest in a girl early in the interaction as a way of

A. Defining the pickup for the girl. A lot of the time when you approach a girl especially if you're using an indirect opener the girl is unsure of what the interaction is, by using direct interest early, the girl knows you're interested in her romantically/sexually.

B. Escalating the interaction.

So here's my admittedly incomplete list of ways to express this direct interest in a competent way (as opposed to telling a girl she's hot or has great tits).

1. Why I like you statements. These are compliments that are framed as being the main reason or a main reason for your interest in her.

2. Statements of intent. The grandfather of direct interest. There are some really interesting Old, old, old school (like 2001) posts by a guy named Neo-Rio on ASF about SOIs solid stuff. I've also talked about them extensively on the Seduction Roadmap. SOIs are exactly what they sound like you give the girl a statement of what you are going to try to do.

3. Making plans/Asking her out. This is where normal guys do it right. Asking a girl out early ( as long as you don't get her phone # and leave in 3 mins) is a good way to demonstrate that you want to see her again and you're interested in dating her.

4. Relationship ?s. This is a technique I created after watching Captain Jack. Relationship questions like "Are you the jealous type" serve to frame the interaction in a romantic context. You would never ask a girl if she was he jealous type of girl unless you were considering her for a relationship and thus interest is very subtly expressed.

5. Assuming/Talking about a relationship. When you assume a relationship (even in a jokey role-playing way) you are expressing interest.

So those are 5 ways I came up with sitting around last night.

If you have any others leave them in the comments and I'll re-visit this topic sometime soon.

JS- The King Of Content

Response To A Great Comment

I usually don't pay much attention to the comments on this blog, I skim them to see if it's more of a " How Do I attract girls" overly simplified question that I have 100% answered in a million blog posts/products/talks or if it's more in the vein of the " I hope you die, cause you suck so much I take time out of my day to read your blog." variety.

Either way as Jim Rome used to say More of me and less of your comments makes for a better blog.

But there was an exception a few days ago on my long rambling diatribe about hitting on girls by a commenter named Mike.

Mike actually had a specific question and was able to actually think through the problem himself and present some different ideas about what might be happening (Hint if you want my advice be more specific, rather than asking how to pick up hot girls)

Mike's comment was as follows:

Thanks for the post!

One thing was unclear to me, can someone help me here: what are good and bad responses after you hitting on her = a statement of intent?
my guess is below - please correct / expand:

good reaction:
- her being happy for the statement like smiling
- her testing you (eg 'do you say this to all girls?'

bad reaction:
- trying to brush your statement off ('don't say such silly thing')
- her making effort making conversation non-sexual / business-like (?)
- mentioning her boyfriend?
- ignore? - if she smiles this is not ignore, is it.
- her looking uncomfortable
- her going away / ending conversation

Pretty much right on, but I will add a few things.

When you hit on girls no response is a good response. This is what I call passive acceptance, and it's a major factor in escalation. Most of the time girls will not react to escalation beyond laughing or smiling, so no reaction is a good reaction.

As for the bad responses, you pretty much nailed it, except obviously her ignoring the statement could be a good sign. Everything else is pretty right on.

The truth is it's NOT that hard to figure it out. The reason guys think they have trouble is because they want to ignore reality. They want the dream, that even tho the girl is obviously not interested and giving them a bad reaction that they are somehow just misreading the situation when usually the girl is simply not into you.

Hope that helps Mike and everyone else,

JS- The King Of Content

Creating and Passing Women's Tests

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You're Leading her to a decision Not a yes....

This is one of the key realizations you need to make in order to actually start having success with women.

Your goal is not to lead a girl to a yes, necessarily but rather to lead her to make a decision about whether or not she wants you to hit on her.

If a girl won't let you hit on her or accept it, you're shit out of luck for turning that into anything romantic or sexual.

So the way to think about opening, social comfort, and attraction is that the goal is to lead her to a decision about whether or not she's interested in being hit on before you start to qualify her, as there is no point in trying to qualify a girl who isn't interested in you hitting on her.

How do you do this?

With what I'm tentatively calling direct interest. Direct interest is basically telling the girl you like her without qualifying WHY you like her as you will do in qualification. With direct interest you're tipping your cap and letting her know you like her by hitting on her.

The girl will either accept this or reject it at which point you can either qualify or move on.

JS- The King Of Content

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I swear I have a disease....

I HAVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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An interesting thought on delivery from Jerry Seinfeld

Hey there,

Hope everyone had a good weekend!

Mine was tarnished sightly by the Pats losing the Super Bowl but not as badly as you might think as I was convinced they would lose going in, so no biggie.

I wanted to share a quick thought on something I heard over the weekend.

There's this awesome new show on HBO called Inside Comedy or something like that hosted by David Steinberg. Their first show was about Don Rickles and Jerry Seinfeld and they had interviews with both which were pretty interesting.

The thing that stood out to me the most was when Seinfeld and Steinberg were talking about new material and how audiences can sniff it out when Seinfeld said he had a piece of material that always killed but he hated it as a joke, and one night he was about to do it but in his head he was debating and he finally decided to do it because it always got a good reaction, but this time it fell flat because even thinking about it falling flat made it so. He went on to say he was sure he delivered it the right way as well.

I thought this was interesting because I've seen the same thing with pieces of pick up material. I don't think it's any sort of "The Secret" type law of attraction BS but I do think that when you hesitate even mentally people pick up on it through microexpressions or body language or something we all tend to give away our true emotions even if we think we're masking it with good delivery.

So that's an interesting thought for the day.

JS

Re-Examining Pick-Up Dogma: Cocky and Funny

Welcome back to the always educational and entertaining re-examining pick-up dogma series, in today's article I want to talk about being cocky and funny.

Unlike most pick up dogma problems, this one has a clear patient x, and his name is David Deangelo(or Eben Pagen or something). David D started talking about being "cocky and funny" to Cliff of the old Cliffs List back in the early 2000s under the name sisonpyh (or hypnosis backwards) after he had been working with Ross Jeffries and they had a falling out (rumors abounded because RJ touched his girlfriend at the time,but who really knows?) sisonpyh appeared and "cocky and funny" was born.

Now to be clear I'm not evaluating the entire "Double Your Dating" methodology (which consista of getting email addresses like a retard) instead I'm focusing strictly on the idea of being "cocky and funny" which is a GREAT idea for attraction.

In fact it's one of the better frames for attraction period.

But there are some problems which I'll outline in a meandering Peter King style list with mismatched numbers and letters.

1. The Application being taught is terrible. C&F is taught as not answering questions, or giving a woman a straight answer, making fun of women instead of teasing them and a host of other terrible applications. C&F is a frame meaning that it governs behavior in an interaction. OVERALL you want to be cocky and funny in the attraction phase by joking about being awesome and making the woman laugh by being funny.

2. Not everyone can be funny. Sorry I had to say it but I keep it 100. Some people are funny, most people aren't. But luckily the funny part can be changed to playful and everyone can be playful. Playful is about being silly, and childish. But most importantly it's about not taking yourself, the woman or the interaction too seriously, you do that while being 'cocky' and you're doing pretty good.

3. Guys overdo it. C&F is good and it can get a great reaction especially early on, which can be a problem. Guys see that 1 c&f line worked well so they figure 50 must work incredibly. WRONG. Think of c&f as a seasoning like salt. Everyone loves salt, but no one would like it if you dumped a can of it on their food. 1 or 2 C&F comments in the first 20 minutes are MORE than enough.

4. Looking evasive. If a girl asks you a question once and you avoid answering it she'll laugh, but she'll also ask again and at some point you start to look evasive and shady because you're not telling her anything about yourself. It also violates the law of reciprocity.

5. David D is a dork. Unfortunately David D was a dork who didn't really get hot chicks (see my post on his wedding, do a search I'm too lazy to link) so he made up a bunch of overly harsh teases that would NEVER work in the real world my favorite being " That's a nice dress, you buy that new?" These are insults. Insulting women NEVER works write that down.

Anyway in conclusion Cocky and Funny is a great frame for attraction but you can't generate and keep attraction strictly by being cocky and funny, nor is it a complete system for attracting or seducing women.

Boom tho.

JS- The King Of Content

Real Quick Post today as I just wanted to share something I've been teaching in an advanced training class that will be helpful to some of you blog readers who are a little bit better with women.

Social Status Matters, NO ONE DENIES THIS! But unfortunately your overall social status may be much higher than your social status in the environment you're trying to pick a girl up in.

That's where this status equation comes into play, you're status in ANY Pick-up is extremely formulaic and easy to figure out/manipulate.

The Status Equation

Your status = Framing + Social Proof.

So let's break this down.

By now you should all have a basic understanding of how to frame yourself as high status (Hint it's called Attraction), there are more advanced ways of course like Name-dropping, Inside language, Correct Bragging and more. But this is a short blog post so what ya need to know is that you frame yourself through your words and actions as either high-medium-low status.

The other part is social proof or more importantly how people are reacting to you. Are people treating you like you're important? Do you know people in the environment? Etc...

Now these two can contradict and even out but combined they equal your status in any given interaction.

Kinda high level to think about in field, but interesting.

JS

Incentive and Emotions

I watched the Freakonomics movie the other day and it got me thinking about incentives. But more than incentives it got me thinking about how in any situation in which you are trying to persuade someone there are incentives but also emotions.

An incentive is a reason, reward or benefit someone gets from taking an action or making a decision. An example of an incentive being used in pick-up is the idea of bottle service. If you have a table and bottles of alcohol women are incentivized to talk to you, or go back to your table by the idea of free alcohol and or being around guys with $$$

But with all due respect to Steven Levitt, the incentive model ignores emotions and how emotions can affect decision making.

If we were all rational like economists predict based on market models than all it would take to motivate any group of people would be the proper incentive. But as we even see in the Freakonomics sometimes incentives fall by the wayside.

In the movie there is a short part where they follow an attempt to incentivize high school freshmen into raising their grades by offering them a small amount of money around $50. They follow two kids one of whom does raise his grades the other falls prey to peer pressure.

The peer pressure in this case is the emotional incentive. In this kid's case, it's more important and valuable to hang out with his friends and skateboard then it is to get that $50. Now obviously if the incentive were higher, he may have been more diligent, but that makes an entirely different point about price point behaviors which is less interesting. The point here was that when faced with a financial incentive or an emotional incentive 50% of the kids went with the emotion. Which basically backs up one of my favorite things I say which is this:

ALL PEOPLE MAKE EMOTIONAL DECISIONS THEN USE LOGIC TO BACK THEM UP AFTER THE FACT!

So how does this relate to pick-up?

Pretty easily. Incentives do matter, so being able to demonstrate how awesome you are and how much a girl will benefit from being around you does matter. But it only matters as much not more than the emotion a girl gets from being around you. You can't just cover one side of the coin and hope to be successful.

Hope that helps,

JS

Why can't movers or cable companies be on time ever?

I feel as though this is a pretty simple task.

You say you're going to show up between 1-6 (an outrageous 5 hour time window) then show up somewhere in that time window.

Don't call me to squeeze me in at 12:30 because I will be getting Subway and the whole thing will become a mess.

Also I'm sure I have written this before but ALL cable/internet service providers are the worst. There literally is not one good one and I have tried them all from Time Warner to DirectTV and even some company that only exists in Miami. They all suck. Balls.

This time in bad cable guy service we were told they were coming between 1-6 (note the standard time window) and that they would call us 30 mins before they got here.

We never got a call until they had already left because we weren't there. Why weren't we there? Because it was 12:00 and our appt time (which they gave us) wasn't til 1. Then to add insult to injury, they told us they couldn't reschedule us until next Monday.

Then I yelled and was a bad customer and we got cable installed yesterday, with only minor inconvenience/incompetence.

Which brings me to my final point I want to make to big corporations: Stop rewarding people for bad behavior. In most companies that deal with the public (cell phones, hotels, cable) the only way to get them to help you is to be an asshole and make a big fuss. When you do that you get rewarded with money off your cell phone bill, room upgrades or sooner appointments.

Am I the only one who thinks this is a fucked up system that basically guarantees an adversarial relationship with customers?

What's worse is that the reason companies do this is to save money and time. They want to spend as little time as possible on each customer under the assumption that most people will just go along with shitty stuff because it's easier than making a stink which ironically is how you get what you want.

Anyway i'm just venting now, but I do think there's some point to the idea that all customer service industries need to reform their policies and practices to make things better for people who don't make a big deal out of things.

JS

I'm Moving

Yo,

I'm moving over the next couple of days so updates will be sporadic.

But next week I want to have a special theme week with assignments and stuff for you all for free.

So check back over the next few days to hear annoying moving stories when I periodically have internet.

Talk soon,

JS

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And yes I am having Always Sunny withdrawal...

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FACT: Women Make you Stupid(er)

Yo yo,

I was surfing the depths of the interweb yesterday and found a link to a pretty awesome article that confirms something I have been thinking for a long time.

The act of merely mentioning a woman's name makes men perform worse on standardized tests. That's right just the mere mention let alone real life interaction.

Is it any wonder cold approach can sometimes feel like the hardest thing on Earth? I think not.

The article as a whole is worth a read, and you can check it and the study out:

Here

Word.

JS

Microexpressions and pickup

Hey there,

I have been a busy busy beaver and also a sick beaver but that's another story hence no blogging for a long time.

My bad.

In the meantime I have also been studying new things that affect game hooray!

The main thing has been the work of Dr Paul Ekman. Mostly focused on emotions and facial expressions. I highly recommend checking out his website Paulekman.com

though if you don't feel like doing that I will summarize everything and tell you how to apply it to game just because I am such a nice guy :) Or I just like to hear myself talk even if it's blog form your choice.

Dr Ekman studied a ton of different cultures including ones that had no access to the media and discovered that there are 7 different kinds of UNIVERSAL facial expressions. That means no matter who you are,you express anger, fear, surprise, disgust, sadness, happiness/enjoyment, and contempt.

SO that's the good news, the bad news is that most people don't recognize these well and that people can engage in facial deceit (GASP!!!) and conceal their intentions.

The other good news is the existence of what Dr Ekman calls "microexpressions" these are 1/25-1/5 of a second flashes of emotion that EVERYONE has that you can't conceal without extensive(like juillard trained actor type) training.

So what happens when you approach a woman is she's going to flash a microexpression. Now in a dark nightclub while sipping on some syzurp it's difficult to see these tiny flashes, but in Day game this is a game changer. With a little education, ( I recommend the SETT and METT programs (which I did both of and got score of 80% METT and 96% SETT on Ekman's site, or if you want to save some money the book "Unmasking the face" by Ekman and Dr Wallace Friedson is like $8 at any bookstore.) you can learn to identify these and know EXACTLY what the girl is feeling on most approaches. It's LITERALLY like reading her mind in the first 2-3 seconds.

So far since I've studied this stuff I've seen a micro flash on EVERY single approach I've done ranging from happy(Going out with her this week) to disgust (a blowout shockingly). But mostly girls are surprised (especially on direct when it's like 90%) which is great feedback to my advice that you need to take a step back and let the girl adjust when doing direct day game so go me!

Another place where microexpressions are super useful is in physical escalation. If you watch the girls face as you escalate, you will see a flash. This is almost freakishly consistent as well, and again gives you a great bit of information for calibration. And yes, for the record all of my escalations have gotten happy flashes.

So to summarize, Dr Ekman's work is really interesting and will help you with calibration no matter where you are. The most effective piece for pickup is microexpression which are most useful in opening (day game) and in escalating where reading the girls microexpression will give you an almost 100% accurate idea of what she is thinking.

Hope that helps,

JS- The king of content

The Sky is Not Falling Again: On The Possibility of A Game Movie

The only Game movie that should get made is an in-depth look at all of Neil Strauss' various lies, embellishments and blowharding.

Instead it looks like MAYBE a movie will be made next year and already people are writing stupid posts about it and worrying that the world of talking to girls is coming to an end.

Fact: No one cares about the seduction community. The book did the rounds in 2005 and for a few months you might have had a girl or two ask about opinion openers other than that the result of all of Neil's publicity was nada.

Fact: LOTS of movies get bought and optioned and yet don't end up as major releases. Chances are (I know statistics and probabilities are hard for your brain) the movie won't even end up happening. I personally have a friend who wrote and sold a movie in 06 they have been trying to cast for 5 years and supposedly that is coming out this year.

Possible Fact: No one actually teaches the same shit from 2005 right??? I mean I know I don't and I'd be shocked if anyone other than Mystery was still teaching negs etc...

So seriously don't worry about it. Instead worry about getting out there and talking to women rather than finding ANY excuse under the sun not to which is what all of you talking about this movie are doing.

LOSERS.

JS

Reasonable VS Unreasonable Goals

This is sort of a New Year's post, call it semi-New Yearish...

I go back and forth a lot between whether I think it's good for guys to set reasonable or unreasonable goals.

The basic discussion comes down to this:

With reasonable goals you are MUCH MUCH more likely to achieve and therefore feel better about yourself and improve your life.

With unreasonable goals you have a MUCH MUCH MUCH worse chance of achieving these goals, however they may help you to reach higher than you would have with more reasonable goals.

So what's a guy to do?

Personally I only set realistic goals at this point of my life. It's fun to sit around and think of all these amazing situations but IME you just end getting pissed off because you won't be able to achieve the goal easily and most people (myself included) don't have the perseverance necessary to keep going through failure after failure after failure.

So my final official take is this:

If you're going to set goals, be realistic. It is not relaistic to think you will go from NEVER talking to girls to getting 4 Same Night Lays a month in 3 months. It is not realistic to expect yourself to be trying to get laid during your first few approaches etc.

The more realistic your goals are the higher the chances that you will make actual progress towards them and improve your life. Unrealistic goals have another name I like to call them; fantasies.

JS

It's been awhile...

I'm not dead.

Just been lazy and busy with other crap over the holidays.

But I'm back now and looking forward to doing a lot of posting 2012.

But first I need to go finish this week's Sexual Triggers video and work on a couple of other projects. And I should really go to the gym.

I'll post another re-visiting article sometime this week and content will return to normal starting tomor.

Hope everyone had a good NYE.

JS

On Demonstrating Value Part 2: It's Not a video game!

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"You Already Know What I'm About"- On Managing Expectations

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Re-visiting Pick-Up Dogma Part 2: On Demonstrating value

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Maxxing Out Your Look

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Maximizing Yourself Out

Lately I've been really inerested in the idea of a guy maxxing himself out or maximizing his lifestyle, skillset, and inner psych.

Most people are not going to max out with a supermodel, a Ferrari and a life of lounging on the beach, but it's a much better goal to aim for than the ones usually pushed on guys by the SUISC.

So how does one max out?

First you have to take an honest (and you'd be SHOCKED by how many guys lie to me while asking for help) look at where you are.

You start with the physical, are you worse looking than you could be? Then you look at your living situation, your job, friends, social life etc...

The point is it's a long process but it's the only way to see real long term change and to actually reach your potential.

Plus most guys (myself included) are nowhere near where they could be with a little effort.

JS

About Captain Jack

Hey there,

I know I've been getting some ?s about CJ and you're all quite persistent so here goes:

CJ is cool, he's working really hard right now doing the marketing for a multimillion dollar company, that's going through a huge growth phase right now.

His website is down because of some mix up with the hosting company. So even though he still owns Betheseducer.com they won't restore his content. Sucks right?

Other than that he seems to be in good spirits and has been focusing on meditation and spirituality as well as cleaning up his health and stuff.

He didn't seem to be going out much the last time we talked which was probably a month or so ago.

So there ya go,

JS

This Blog Is For Guys Who Are Bad With Women

I've been getting a rash of comments over the last few weeks giving super simplified advice as a juxtaposition to what I'm writing.

What these assclowns don't understand is that the advice "Just fuck her" is not particularly useful for the guys who read this blog.

Guys who read this blog generally are more hard cases (as I was and as EVERYONE who googles pickup advice etc is).

Sooo when you MR armchair pickup guru give advice that I'm sure works for you and your jabronie friends (as you must be so completely overwhelmed with pussy that you have time to comment on blogs designed to help you get laid more) it is annoying and frustrating for guys who are the actual target audience I'm writing to.

The guys I write this blog for need help and date ideas, and conversational topics and overviews of how to talk to women. Otherwise they wouldn't be coming here to read my 1100 and something post over the last 6 years. And those guys are the reason I still write this blog even when it seems as though I've exhausted every way to talk about pickup in writing...

If you want to brag about how awesome you are be a condescending prick, you can do it somewhere else as I will now be blocking those comments. All comments telling me I suck and should die of a horrible disease will still be allowed as those make me LOL.

Good talk,

JS

Good Date Spot-Theme Parks

I went to Magic Mountain yesterday and it is a surprisingly good place to take a date(other than the glaring need for alcohol).

Most theme parks are btw $ 30-40 a person and can be fun for 4-6 hours easy. So it's not WAY more expensive than going out for a few drinks in a city like LA, NY or Vegas.

Plus it's a lot of fun, gets the heart going, and gives PLENTY of opportunity for built in conversation. I definitely am going to start taking more dates there.

Word.

JS

End Of The Year Already...

Man every year goes by faster and faster...

Now is as good a time as ever to look back over your goals for dating over the last year and how close you came to achieving them.

And if you didn't it's a good time to start planning for next year, as nightlife will take a down turn after this Wed until New Year's Eve with the holiday/boyfriend season in full swing.

JS

The 1% fantasy and how it's ruining your life

How many people do you think are actually millionaires in the US? Not millionaire on paper.

How many people are famous?

How many guys sleep with more than 1 new girl a week?

Hint it's a really low percentage of people...

Like 1% of 1% of the population.

The point is that any of these goals (which 90% of people reading this have in one form or another) are going to be REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY hard to accomplish.

Is it possible?

Sure but 99% of you are not going to be willing to put in the time effort or energy needed to have a chance of success.

And 99% of the ones of you who do put in the time effort and energy are still NOT going to make it due to luck, health, bad breaks, or changes in priorities.

Now that I've suitably depressed you, let's talk about the good part of this news.

The good part is that NONE of you actually want these fantasies. What you want is the feeling that the fantasy would allow you to have.

You want to make 10 Million dollars? Why? What would change in your life if you had 10 mil right now? Besides the superficial, you'll probably find something like "I would be less stressed about security and able to focus on what I like doing."

You want to sleep with 100 girls? Why? What would that do for you? Would it make you feel cooler? Would it make you feel like a success with women. What would it do for you?

And more importantly when you ask yourself these questions, is there something you could be doing right now, that would give you the same or similar feelings?

Chances are there is, people don't do things for the surface reasons. People who want to be famous have their reasons for it usually having to do with needing to prove their value to people, people who want to sleep around a lot are looking for something as well. Even guys who want to get girlfriends are looking for some emotional fix....

So the solution is 2 fold:

1. Let go of the 1% of 1% fantasy. Just give it up, we are all the rule not the exception.

2. Figure out what you were actually trying to get emotionally from that 1% fantasy and see if there is a more realistic healthy and sustainable way to achieve it.

That is all.

JS

I'm Not Saving The World

Hey there,

I was gone the last two weeks first to a positivity nazi conference where I was officially the most hated on man in the world, and then recovering for a week where I mostly over-ate and smoked a lot of pot.

But now I'm back, and I wanted to talk about something I've been thinking about since I heard another "guru" talking about how he was changing the world one guy at a time or some other such super lame oversimplification of what we do in the SUISC.

It's also at this point in the listening that I feel like yelling at the speaker like Mark Wahlberg in "The Departed"

" Do you know what we do here?"

" No you don't, if you knew what we do here we would not be good at our job. We would be pricks. You calling us pricks?"

But I digress.

I am not saving the world by teaching guys how to get better at sleeping with chicks.

You can use slippery slope logic or tell me all about the 1 guy who really needs this stuff or he's going to kill himself all you want.

The truth is still the truth. And the truth is it's kinda weird to teach guys how to pick up chicks. You can spin it all you want and engage in self deception to make yourself(the "guru") feel better about it the same way other guys who are good with gilrs justify cheating on their GFs. The human mind is amazingly good at convincing us that what we want to do is OK.

This is the truth:

This is NOT a Men's movement.

This is NOT making the world a better place.

This is NOT one day going to be taught in colleges.

This is not some secret knowledge that will change the world once made public.

You are NOT necessarily a better more whole person just because you can get laid consistently.

And NOT all men are interested in learning this stuff.

These are the facts, not some grand delusion I come up with to make myself feel better so I can go to sleep at night.

I know my stuff works and it does what I say it will do.

No more, no less.

If you want to learn how to get better at sleeping with girls I'm your guy.

If you want some sort of guru type who is going to take you by the hand and tell you about how great pickup is and how it's changing the world,and how you're special because you know about it, you should probably find someone else.

Just keeping it 100.

JS-The King Of Content

HappY Halloween!

It's officially Halloween today!

I've had an awesome Halloween weekend but I just realized that we've been having a massive Halloween sale for our email list subscribers that I haven't shared with you blog readers... YET

It's a great deal with almost all of our products at a huge discount to help you get out there and meet the girl of your dreams TONIGHT.

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Today In Fuck You: People who tell you how in love they are two weeks after they start dating.

This is a particularly relevant topic here, as guys who teach pick up are the # 1 offenders of this particular brand of douchbaggery.

I HATE it when someone (guy, girl, whatever) goes on and on about how they're so in love with this new person they're dating, when they've only been dating a few weeks, and or are not yet in a serious BF/GF relationship.

Seriously you need to stop, before I lose my shit and start mocking you for being the naive and emotionally needy loser you are.

First of all, no one else cares! I don't give a shit. I mean of all the things in the world whether or not you're insanely happy with your new BF/GF whatever really doesn't matter. And I don't think I'm speaking for just me, when I say there are roughly 9,876,142 things I care about more than the status of your 2 week old relationship.

Secondly for whatever reasons ( Probably because I'm friends with community guys and players) the same guys who spend 74 hours yakkking my ear off about how in love they are, cheat on these same girls like a month later.

If you cheat on a girl you spent over an hour telling me you were in in love with, I should be allowed a free hour of wasting your time talking about the subject of my choice which will be "Chardee Mcdennis: The Game Of Games."

Lastly lest someone think this is some sort of rant against being in love or being happy in your relationship, it's not. I think it's fine to be in love and in a relationship. But that doesn't happen in 2 weeks. The same way they advise couples not to tell people they're pregnant for the first few months in case something happens. My problem is specifically with the people who spend an inordinate amount of time talking to others (namely me) about how they're sooo in love and happy in their relationship, when the relationship just started last Tuesday, or they are clearly not in a serious relationship and just want attention or something to talk about.

To those people I say : FUUUUCCCCKKKKKKK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

To everyone else have a great Halloween weekend.

JS

Re-Visiting Pick-up Dogma Part 1: Being non-reactive

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Goal Hijacking

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The Counter Productives

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Oh Really Bitch? An Open Letter To Diane Passage

Diane Passage was married to Kenneth Star the super rich "financial advisor" now serving 7 years in jail for his role in a huge ponzi scheme.

It seems that for some reason the New York Post (Noted employer of former of prostitutes) thought it would be a good idea to give this (Unsuccessful) gold digging former stripper a chance to write about what it takes to get what you want from men.

Here's a link to the article:

Why Dumb ass Skanks should be quiet

It's quite a read, if you can stop yourself from throwing up while reading it.

So she got to make her points and now it's my turn to retort.

This dumb whore wrote(My remarks in Bold):

"Women are powerful. That’s what I’ve learned from a lifetime of socializing with just about every type of female — from exotic dancers to socialites to successful businesswomen.

But I wasn’t aware of just how powerful women can be until I worked at several gentlemen’s clubs, including Scores. My guy friends said a gentlemen’s club must be the best place to work ever, because men just give money to the dancers. Far from it! The dancers — including me — worked hard every night. Imagine how difficult it is to sell a dance to a customer or a $500-plus-per-hour private room when he already knows that nothing sexual can happen! How do you get that customer to keep coming back? It was a sales job — one that involved torturous sky-high stilettos and wrestling matches with drunk, horny customers.

Still, the skills I learned at the clubs empowered me to accomplish bigger and better things outside of it. Such as raising money for charities, running my own company, and now — and most importantly — rebuilding a solid life for me and my 13-year-old son, Jordan, after a family crisis."

The Skills she learned at the strip club taught her to raise her son. He should change his name from Jordan to no chance.


Dumb whore again:

"2. I can create my own outcome and accomplish any goal. I like to set goals for anything — serious or ridiculous. I started doing this when I worked at the club; I’d set weekly income goals to help me stay focused and not get onto a downward spiral (which is typical for exotic dancers). Along the way I set fun goals — attending certain concerts, parties, etc. My most ridiculous goal? Hooking up with a certain male porn star. A friend of mine offered to buy the star for me for one night, but I declined. It’ll be far more satisfying to accomplish my goal on my own. Whether your goals are serious, fun or both — never think you can’t have it all!"

Yes as a mother clearly having a goal to hook up with a male pornstar is a great and challenging goal. Also I find it funny she says most dancrs end up in a downward spiral but doesn't mention her marrying a conman.


Dumb ass:

3. Slow and steady wins the race. While goals are important, you shouldn’t set unrealistic time limits to achieve them. People do crazy things under deadlines. An acquaintance of mine stalked a man because she was obsessed with getting married before the age of 35. Last year, she fell head over heels on one of her first dates. On Facebook, she saw he was looking forward to a sushi dinner at his favorite restaurant. My friend knew where to find him, because he’d mentioned the same restaurant on their date! So early in the evening, she planted herself at a table with a good view of the place. He showed up . . . with another date. This woman is seemingly sane otherwise. If she dropped the marriage deadline and just had fun dating, I bet she’d end up meeting her goal — without stalking!

Now this dumb bitch is contradicting herself from her last point always a sign of intelligent writing.

We're now at my 2nd favorite thing she wrote:

"4. Every girl should know the basics of fishing and dog training. Several years ago, my son took an interest in fishing. I had to learn, too, so I could help him with it. Little did I know that my basic fishing knowledge would end up serving me well in the world of romance! When dating, I like to try a fun and sporty approach. As the person who’s fishing, I’m able to lead my “fish,” so I have the advantage of getting what I want. My bait: smile, hair, makeup, clothing, stilettos and either legs or cleavage (never both at the same time). My hook: a flirty, mysterious demeanor. When I “reel” a man in, that means I’m getting to know him. He always has the option to free himself from my “hook.” And I always have the option to throw him back into the dating sea. If I decide to keep my “fish,” then I switch to boundary-setting mode. I’ve trained a dog, raised a son and have been married twice to men who wanted nothing more than to make me happy. I know how not to let a male dominate me. The one consistent thing for all types of men: consistent enforcement of boundaries and giving rewards when they deserve them."

As we all know treating human beings like dogs or fish is a healthy and normal way to start any relationship and does not in any way lead to game playing or other immature power games. Also I find it hilarious that she mentions she's been married twice to men who wanted to make her happy. Before the divorce.

Now time for my absolute favorite:

"5. My wallet does not exist. It might sound like an outdated cliché, but if you’re a woman, you should never reach into your wallet while you’re in the presence of a man. Even if you’ve been married for years. Not only must a man pay for the main components of a date (dinner, etc.), but they must also take care of taxi fare, coat check and bathroom attendant tips. The woman who believes in this mantra is not a gold-digger or obligated to “return the favor.” The few times I’ve gone “dutch” on dates, it usually results in the man feeling emasculated because of it — or it means the guy has some sort of money hang-up. Can an emasculated guy or someone with issues give you what you want? Not for me!"

Really? I mean you know this is gonna be read by people. You're basically saying a guy should give you cash when you go to the bathroom to tip the attendents??? Are you out of your fucking mind? And I believe that the term for a woman who only goes out with a guy because he pays for everything is gold digger.

Oh wait actually, I lied. This is my favorite part.

"8. As a woman, it’s my right to act bitchy on occasion. When a man first approaches me, I’m icy cold and dismissive. The weak men leave. The ones who are up for a challenge stick around and show their charm and wit, and may land a date. Refer to mantra No. 4 (dog training) — along with boundaries, give rewards when due — leading to mantra No. 6 (value). A woman’s time, smile and interest are valuable and can be rewarded to the man who deserves her attention. Being icy or lukewarm at first also maintains an element of mystery. In addition, refer to mantra No. 5 (woman never pays). A man does not deserve a woman’s phone number without buying her and her friend(s) a drink, not to mention paying their entire bar tab."

No it's actually not anyone's right to be bitchy. When she says the weak men leave when she is dismissive, she's missing a key point. It's not weak men who leave, it's men who have options. If a woman is being a bitch upfront, no matter how hot she is, chances are she's going to be a bitch down the line as well. I don't know about you but I don't put up with that shit. Lastly I think she really shows us who she is when he says a man doesn't deserve a woman's phone number unless he buys drinks not only for her and their friends but pays their bar tab as well. That my friends is called prostitution. Fuck this bitch is retarded.

JS

Eben Pagen (David Deangelo) Wedding Vid WTF ?????????

Holy fucking shit this is weird!!!!!

Check out this video of David D getting married, in the WEIRDEST wedding vows ever!!!

David D gets married

I was going to break it down vow by vow like the Zapruder film, but instead I'm going to just cover some of my highlights.

First off it seems like Eben wrote these vows himself as if they were the marketing materials for some sort of hippy-fag program on relationships.

Secondly, this is the weirdest thing I've ever seen. I also showed it to a few girls I know and they confirm that they would have been creeped out enough to leave the ceremony.


Some highlights:

I vow to protect your solitude... Really isn't that kinda the opposite of a wedding vow??

What is that all white outfit Eben is wearing? Is this some sort of Bollywood movie that's just waiting for a dance ending?

That chick is beat. May we have a moment of silence for the idea that David D got hot chicks.

Why did they bring up their sex lives in their vows? It's almost like they were trying to convince me they actually have boney, nerdy, extremely pale sex with each other.

We will facilitate, momentous, opportunities to actualize... I don't even know what that means,

Their love is a crucible for evolution as well as conscious art. And here I just thought this was some rich asshole getting married.

Why am I not surprised that they mention Burning Man here, thus furthering my theory that Burning Man is for assholes.

Anyway what did you think of David D's wedding?

JS

Don't be Jealous-Be Happy for others.

File this under advice it took me awhile to be able to use.

One of the biggest problems I see with guys mindsets is the idea of jealousy. Most guys when they see someone else who is more successful than they are, get jealous or they look for reasons to justify why someone else has something they don't.

Instead of doing this, it's much easier and healthier to just be happy for that person. By "blessing" that which you want you send a mental signal that says it's ok to have that thing, and also it allows you to let go of any negative emotions you mat be hanging on to that are getting in the way of your own happiness.

So the next time you see some guy you know is no better than you with a girl you're attracted to, instead of torturing yourself trying to come up with the reasons she likes him, be happy for that guy and take it as inspiration that anything is possible.

Best,

JS-The King Of Content

Meet Girls- Volunteer

Just a quick thought I wanted to post today.

A great and overlooked place to meet girls is through doing volunteer work usually with animals or children.

Since I hate children, I volunteer at a dog rescue place in a very expensive part of LA by the ocean and have met several attractive and legitimately sweet girl to hook up with from there.

I also get to play with dogs and not have to take them home with me, which is a side benefit as I'm way too irresponsible to have a pet.

So there you go, check out some charities you could volunteer for in your city nad you'll end up meeting a lot more women.

JS-The King Of Content

My new favorite website

So as obsessed as I am with The Dirty.com I have found a new website that makes me just as happy as I laugh and feel superior to others :)

It's called Is Anyone Up, and basically is a place where you can submit nudes of people or yourself and people will comment on them.

So basically like Thedirty without the pink hearts.

I find it hysterical but it could very well be because I'm a sick person :)

Check it out at Is Anyone up?

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Final Boarding Call For Destination Girlfriend

Just a quick reminder that today is the LAST DAY
to register for my life-changing Destination:
Girlfriend Coaching Program.

Registration closes at at Midnight Pacific Time
TONIGHT.

So if you want to get in on this you need
to act now. Here's the sign-up link:

Destination GF

In this program, I'm taking you by the hand and
walking you through the entire process from meeting
your dream girl, and doing all the right things
to make her your girlfriend.

You're going to get detailed explanations
of each component of the process as well as TONS of examples
and strategies of how to use these BRAND NEW
techniques to make your dream girl, your next
girlfriend.

To put in simply, after you go through the program
you will know the EXACT steps you need to take to
begin a long term, meaningful relationship with any girl you’re
attracted to.

You’ll also know how to apply these steps in ANY
situation and in ANY environment.

You get all of this for one ridiculously low
investment.

I mean seriously, how much would it be worth to you to
meet the woman of your dreams and start a meaningful
relationship? Think about
that as you sign up right now:

Just Click Here

Remember, registration is closing TONIGHT!

Talk to you soon,

Jon

Here's the Link

P.S. This is your last chance to get this,
here's the link again so you don't
miss out:

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Replay of Last Night's Girlfriend Training Call

If you missed out on the special Destination:
Girlfriend tele-class that I did last night
you REALLY missed out.

On the call, I gave many never-before-revealed
strategies on how to land an awesome girlfriend...
fast!

The GOOD NEWS is that I recorded the call
and you can listen to the replay of the call
here:

Replay

But the replay will only be available until
this Sunday at midnight.

On the call, we discussed in great detail how
to find, meet, attract and KEEP an awesome
girlfriend.

Get the juicy details here:

Replay

Best,

Jon

P.S. You don't want to miss this awesome training
call.

But you better her though. Because the replay is
coming down this Saturday at midnight.

Stop Sucking At Life; Stop Sucking With Girls

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Inner States and Game

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Scripted Qualification

I gave a talk to some of the members of the 12m2m at home program on Monday about the 5 most common intermediate/advanced sticking points.

One of the most important of these sticking points is making sure to use scripted qualification.

What I mean by scripted qualification is that you qualify for the same qualities every time you're interacting with a woman you're attracted to. Not only will this help you to qualify enough, it will also help you screen for women you actually like.

It's also not that hard, all you need to do is turn some qualities you like into qualification statements or questions.

Currently the qualities I qualify for are:

Mean sense of humor
Works out consistently
Is not too involved in the club scene
Is Bi-sexual

and a large qualifying question like " What's your best quality."

By sticking to scripted qualification you have a much greater chance of the girl showing up for a date or leaving with you that night.

Word.

JS-The King Of Content

Evaluating Your Game Quarterly

Hey there,

Quick thought today.

A lot of guys who are intermediate or advanced wonder what they should do now that they actually (GASP) get laid on a regular basis from cold approach.

The answer took me awhile to find as well.

You don't want to continue to read forums, and study game all the time, as that will give you all sorts of contradicting advice and keep you stuck in the "Pick-up" guy stage of your development.

You also don't want to stop looking at your game objectively either. Some guys become delusional after being able to get laid consistently. You still have sticking points even if you get laid.

SO the solution is to re-evaluate your sticking points at set intervals. I like to do it quarterly. So every 3 months when it's time to get my car checked up and go to the Dr, I also take a look at what I think my sticking points are and what I can do to fix them. Then I focus on that for a little while until I fix the problem. Repeat 4x a year and you'll always improve without being a weirdo.

Word,

JS-The King Of Content

Maximizing Your Time With Pick-Up

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Have the good sense to dislike people who don't like you back.

Short blog post today.

As I get older, one of the things I've realized is that not everybody is going to like you, no matter what you do.

When applying this to pickup it means that not all girls you approach will like you and not all girls will respond to texts, calls etc...

So what do you do about this?

You respond in kind.

If a girl doesn't seem interested in talking to me, I'm no longer interested in talking to her. Same thing with the phone if I am always taking the initiative than it's no good and I just stop.

Seriously just stop putting effort into women who aren't putting effort into you and you will be much happier and more successful.

Word.

JS-The King Of Content

Flaking Video

Hey Guys,

I've been getting some questions on flaking so I decided to make a quick video to explain what's REALLY going on.

Check it out here:



And if you find yourself in need of more information on Eliminating Flaking Forever check out the Flak Elimination toolkit Here

Best,

JS

7 Day Positivity Challenge Day 4: Falling off a bit

Yesterday was the hardest day of the challenge so far.

I had a very important meeting pushed back til today and then ended up having to get a lot of busy work done to fill up the day.

My roommate also has some of his friends in town and they are grating on my nerves a little bit...

But on the brightside it is now Friday and after kickboxing and my very important meeting I will be free!!!!!

And it's a long weekend so that means drinking, pool parties and general awesomness.

I'll try to keep updating over the next 2 days but no promises.

JS

7 Day Positivity Challenge Day 3: Easing into it

Day 3 was a cake walk...

I had some problems sleeping the last few nights because I wasn't smoking weed, but a swift adjustment of my no weed rule to a weed to sleep so I don't make my day harder yielded great results and I woke up after 7 and a half hrs sleep ( a marathon for me compared to my usual 4-5 hrs) feeling like a champion gentleman. Or Gentleman champion I can't decide which sounds more baller.

Productivity is way up because instead of complaining about how annoyng actually having to do work is, I now just do it and reflect upon the fact that it's pretty awesome I can do my work from home in my gym shorts.

Traffic again was the only time I even had any sorts of problems and that's mostly due to people not seeming to understand where one lane ends and another one begins. Perhaps I should start teaching seminars on that :)

It's also way easier to meet girls because there's no time or room for negative thoughts and that makes approaching all the time pretty easy.

Still waiting for things to get harder which may happen tomor as I need to deal with some lingering issues in the business and that may stress me a bit. But it will be what it is whether or not I stress it, so I'm gonna try to relax and enjoy the process.

Best,

JS

7 Day Positivity Challenge Day 2:Still pretty easy.

I'm pretty surprised by how easy the positivity challenge is going.

Even today while I was out doing some day game it was remarkably easy to stay positive thanks to just consciously thinking about it. And the fact that I'm the best at day game by a wider margin than ever.

The rubber band also makes it really easy to pop those negative thoughts when they come up. I should have mentioned yesterday that the other part of the rubber band is to replace your negative thought with a default positive one. Mine is "Everything always works out for the best for me."

I will say that positivity makes it a bit more challenging to be funny in a conversation with a girl as making jokes about how awesome things are is more difficult than cracking on something for sucking.

Other than that I find myself being much less in my head when I'm focusing on being positive. Introspection for me usually ends up being focused on things I don't like or wish were different. But since those thoughts are negative they get popped and I end up feeling much lighter and more carefree.

The only time today where I really had to snap the rubber band a lot was when I was driving through horrible traffic with a bunch of drivers seemingly incapable of staying in their own lanes. But after a few painful rubber band snaps I was able to relax and enjoy the Watch The Throne Album and amazing 77 degree day.

Until tomor.

JS

7 Day Positivity Challenge Day 1

I've gotten into a pretty bad funk lately...

Not that anything bad is actually happening, but I have noticed that my thinking has become a lot more pessimistic than I'd like it to be.

So, because of that I'm going to be doing another Tony Robbins 7 Day Positivity challenge, like I did a few years ago.

To re-cap the 7 day positivity challenge goes something like this. For 7 days you have to focus on being completely positive, this means if you have a negative thought( like the fact that I got 3 hrs of sleep last night and am exhausted) you have 2 minutes to reframe it using empowering questions like " what's good about this?", "what can I learn from this?" or "what's the best use of my time here?".

This goes on for 7 days.

I've added another piece this year which I got from a program called Mine your brain by Doug Bench. The piece I've added is pretty simple, in addition to having to reframe things, I've also started wearing a rubber band on my wrist which I snap every time I have a negative thought. Doug Bench calls this "stomping your ANTS(Automatic Negative thoughts".

Thus far day 1 has been a challenge as I didn't sleep well at all over the weekend or last night and I now need to be positive while being a little grouchy.

I'm going to try to update this daily during the next 7 days in order to document how my challenge is going, if you want to do the same and comment along that would be swell.

Talk soon,

JS-the king of content

An Open Letter To The Millionaire Matchmaker

We all know I love me some reality TV, so I won't go too much into my thoughts on The Millionaire Matchmaker show other than to say that while it's entertaining, there's a lot of bad ideas about dating being tossed around.

The most dangerous of these ideas in my mind is the idea of monogamy before sex.

The reason that no sex without monogamy is a bad idea is actually pretty simple. A girl is ALWAYS going to be more attractive, interesting, sexy, smart etc BEFORE you have sex with her.

The fact that you haven't had her yet, adds to the perceived attraction. This is a fact. So when you force someone into a monogamous relationship before they can have sex, the motivation for getting into that relationship is 50% interest in the girl and 50% interest in getting laid.

Can we see how this might be a bad idea for someone looking to find love?

Furthermore until you've had sex with someone you don't really know the real them. Pre-sex both guys and girls put their best foot forward in an attempt to really get the other person interested. After sex is when a variety of new issues pop up and need to be dealt with. Sure these COULD be dealt with in the context of a monogamous relationship but you may often find that the two people just don't have that much in common but were united by the idea of no sex before monogamy and thus forced to spend more time with each other and less time looking for someone they might actually work out with.

As you all know if you've followed my work for any length of time, barriers INCREASE attraction. The more you tell someone they can't have something, the more they are going to want it. But this idea does not extend to AFTER they've gotten what they want. And my guess is oftentimes these instant relationships fall apart after sex.

Like the case of Access Hollywood Reporter Laura Saltman who after being set up by Patti with a millionaire became preganant only to have the guy abandon her and refuse to pay child support.

You can read all about that Here Just make sure to scroll down past the Russell Armstrong stuff.

Clearly the idea of no sex before monogamy is a way to artificially create more of an attraction and connection between two people where none exists.

What are your thoughts on the MM and no sex before monogamy?

JS

What Not To Do On an Approach- Video Breakdown

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You don't have anything yet- On Escalation

One of the most common problems students have when they are first starting out is a tendency to get stuck in nice comfortable conversations that are not actually moving forward.

I think the reason for this is because for most guys starting out it feels really good to be able to start a conversation with a stranger or group of strangers and have them accept you and want to talk to you. Some might call this social validation. Furthermore guys think that if they were to attempt to move the conversation forward it might not work and then they will have lost the conversation and their chance.

This is bullshit thinking.

You can't fuck a conversation, or a phone number.

In order to actually get to a sexualized interaction, you are going to need to be willing to move things forward.

When you do this not only will you start to separate the women who are only interested in talking and being entertained from the women who are actually interested in you, but you will also begin to stop looking for validation in your interactions with women. When you stop caring about whether or not things are going nicely and start looking at what you need to be doing in order to move things forward with the woman you're interested in, you actually have a chance to get laid.

Hope that helps,

JS-The King Of Content

Good Places To Meet Women Over The Weekend...

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A primer on asking questions

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Rating Yourself

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Blog Break

Hey there,

I know everyone was tuning in for more war on the game stuff, but I'm going to be going on a 2 week break from writing the blog/making videos to re-charge creatively so that I can get back to cranking out quality posts as opposed to what I've been writing the past few weeks/months.

So I'll be back in 2 weeks, hopefully with my content writing fastball back.

Best,

JS

This week in Fuck You: Peacocking

In a complete theft from the people over at Kissing Suzy Kolber.com I'll be posting random rants about things that are fucked up in the SUISC this week in Fuck You: Peacocking

If you still think it's cool to "peacock" with boas and scarves and various feathery things that look like they were transplanted out of a Motley Crue 80s video, I should be allowed to legally light you on fire. No trial, no right to a defense straight to lighting your shitty dollar store boa on fire.

Seriously, if for some reason you think people are laughing with you rather than at you when you dress up in platform shoes, and top hats go fuck yourself with a rusty screwdriver.

Not only do you look SUPER socially retarded (Which you are cause no normal person would dress like that) but you're also hurting your pick-ups, because unless you have a reason to be dressed like that (I.E. you lie to women about being the world's best illusionist like Mystery) then you just look like an asshat who is starving for attention.

Fuck you peacocking, fuck you in your shiny faux leather, shirt too far unbuttoned, 8 rings on your hands ass.

JS

The Rejection Barrier

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The Right Mindset

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Who Let The Marketers in, Neil Strauss did...

Hey y'all(Shut up I lived in Texas for 2 years I get a Y'all)


Today's video is outstanding if I do say so myself.




Best,

JS-The King Of Content

Conversation Before Attraction

Quick post before I head out to the beach...

I'm always amazed by how many guys seek to get attraction before they have gotten a girl committed to a conversation.

Most people are nice.

Contrary to popular opinion in the community, most girls are not trying to blow you out or be rude to you.

Instead the vast majority of guys start doing weird things to "generate attraction" before the girl even realizes she is in a conversation.

Stop doing this!

Instead focus on first getting a woman interested and paying attention to what you are saying BEFORE you try to get her attracted.

Hope that helps,

JS-The King Of Content

The Used Carsalesman Frame

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War On The Game: In Neil's Own Words...

Yo,

Today video is Neil talking about his own scumbaggetry.



Enjoy,

JS

Limited Time Offer For 5 Minute Chemistry

Earlier this week, I closed the doors on registration
for my brand new, groundbreaking Secrets of 5
Minute Chemistry program.

But because I made the mistake of closing it down on
a holiday where a lot of guys were away from their
computers, I've decided to open up spots again for
the next 48 hours ONLY.

Get your copy here:

Last Chance

The 5 Minute Chemistry Formula that you learn
in the program truly is groundbreaking and might
be the best thing I've created.

Here's what one guy who went through the program
had to say about it:

"Since I started using the formula, I have been
getting crazy chemistry with girls in a matter
of minutes.

For example I recently started a conversation with
a sexy lawyer on my lunch break. We effortlessly
connected and found out we both go to the same dive
bar that everyone in town hates.

The conversation seemed to have a 'spark,' since
she has been texting me non-stop. I particularly
like how easy it was to incorporate the formula
into my everyday normal conversations that
flowed naturally.

I haven't had to memorize a routine or think
about what to say ever again!"

NICK N.
CINCINATTI, OHIO

If you want to create amazing chemistry and have
the effortless conversations that Nick is having, then
I suggest you grab your copy of the program before
it's gone for good:

Last Chance

Best,

JS

P.S. The Secrets of 5 Minute Chemistry program
is only going to be availalble for the next 48
hours. Sign up right now while it's fresh
on your mind:

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Shut the Fuck Up!!! or How to use silence effectively

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War On The Game: What 100K buys ya...

Hey hey,

Today I have an informational video on what you can buy if you have an extra 100k laying around.

Check it:



JS-The King Of Content

The Bare Minimum

Short post today, really more of a reminder.

There is NO prize for getting extra social comfort, attraction, qualification, comfort or arousal.

Instead we should all (Myself included) be aiming for the bare minimum amount of communication between us and the women before we can have sex.

Think about that for a few minutes, what is the bare minimum way that you could:

-Start a conversation
-Tease a woman
-Make a woman emotional
-Build attraction
-Convey value
-Qualify
-Build Comfort
-Seduce

Food for thought eh?

Post some ideas in the comments section and if there's any good ones, I'll share them in a follow up post...

JS-The King of Content

War On The Game: The Hypocrisy of Neil knows no bounds...

What's going on?

Happy Monday! That most glorious of days where we shine a spotlight of truth onto the algae soaked Rat's underbelly that Neil Strauss calls a life.

Let's get it popping.



Leave a comment cause I love haters :)

JS- The King Of Content

On Approach Anxiety- Risk is volatility NOT loss.

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War On The Game: "Think Tank"

Yo,

Hope everyone had a good weekend!

We found the think tank post...



Generalissimo Jon Sinn

War On The Game: Rob Judge Does The Damn Thing

I usually restrict the War on the Game stuff to Monday but today Rob Judge(Who I think is easily the best writer in the SUISC) posted an epic article on why he hates Neil Strauss.

It brought almost brought a tear to my eye...

Check it out:

Why I Hate Neil Strauss

JS

War On The Game: Fuck Stylelife

The War is back on:




Be sure to comment

JS

Kristens and Karas

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