Thursday, November 16, 2006

Handling contingencies

Handling Contingencies:

If you can systematically discover every contingency in a set and then find the solution to that contingency, you will have error free game.

First let's define a contingency: a contingency in regards to pick up is a possiblie outcome.

For example a girl says she has a BF.

The solution to this contingency is simply to say " I understand we'll be discreet."

However there are a myriad of contingencies that can arise that we must learn the solutions to.

Certain pieces of the game are in and of themselves contingency plans.

Opinion openers for example are contingent on not being able to hook a conversation.

Opening in and of itself has but three contingencies.

We'll assume we use the opener " Hi I'm Sinn"

Contingency 1: They respond with an IOD( Indicator of disinterest) such as " we're having a conversation."
Solution: The solution here is to respond with a bigger IOD such as " You are such a little shit!" it's important here to be able to hold the calibrator at the end. Meaning that based on the way she reacts to this IOD we can soften or harden it(See my post on Microcalibration at

Contingency 2: They respond with an IOI( indicator of Interest) such as " We love your hair"
Solution is to do what we call fluff talk or comfort game while simultaneously raising my value in line with theirs. This means that I make special note not to bowl them over with too much value.

Side Note: There is no such thing as overqualification. Running too many dhvs or negs etc... is an error it's not like a magic formula that says every set has to have a certain amount of value, etc...

Contingency 3: They respond neutrally " hi I'm Janelle..." Here is where I want to raise my value as quickly as possible while making sure that I disqualify if necessary.

More group contingencies: The target starts to lose interest: It's Hey shows over here! or if an UG starts stepping up we have to disarm her by complimenting her.

We also have to handle interrupts like a 2 set turning into a 3 set that happens like this :

1. say to the set " introduce me to your friends that's the polite thing to do."
2. Then introduce yourself to the new person.
3. Now neg the target in front of the obstacle " is she always like this? "
4. Begin a new opener or routine directed at the new person. "Did you guys see the fight outside?'

The next major point where contingencies become an issue is when we ask " How do you all know each other?"

We'll assume it's a mixed set as that poses the best range of possiblities.

Contingency 1 : They are a couple, we go one step further and find out that they have been together for 2 years.
Solution: If you want to pursue the girl( not a wise choice ethically) You need to disqualify hugely by talking about your GF and then befriend the guy by engaging him in " guy talk " subjects while negging the girl. Then mention that you are ignoring his GF and tell him that you want to hang with him but you want to make sure that his GF is ok with it. Then Isolate her.

Contingency 2: They are friends from work.
Solution: Still befriend the guy, but don't make too much of an effort to include him, you can isolate without his permission as he has no claims on the girl.

Contingency 3: They just met.
Solution: No need to befriend him, instead make sure that the girls are fully engaged and then move them ASAP.

Next you need to handle contingency answers in A3 like if the girl doesn't respond to a hoop we IOD by saying " You know what I was just being polite" and go back to demonstrating more value. Or if she doesn't know what she wants to be when she grows up we have to respond by saying " You're like a feather in the wind, i used to feel like that but I always felt like i was on the right breeze..."

Finally there are comfort contingencies and LMR contingencies

The point of this post is that there is a pattern to human behavior and time in field will reveal it to you. If every time you run an opener you get the same objections that is a contingency that needs to be handled.

In fact almost all openers have contingencies that happen all the time like:

Jealous GF

Most of the time 90% or so the girls will say that she's crazy and shouldn't burn the box. At this point we can stack forward as we don't want to neg them for having a similar opinion. Whereas the 1 time out of 10 that the girls think it's ok to burn the box, we neg them by saying " Mental note do not date this girl..."

Bryan Tracy says that one of the key differences between successful and unsuccesful people is that successful people recognize patterns and learn what to say and do when those patterns emerge. The same thing rings true for gaming. Successful PUAs recognize the patterns and respond with the correct contingency.


Monday, November 13, 2006

The Day to day life...

I always wonder what people think I do during the day.

I wake up(either alone or with guest) deal with whatever situations are left on my phone thru text and messages.

Then I work out or do some day game while running errands.

I often think that I should get a PA, then I remember all the girls I meet at Target and Whole foods.

I answer emails while watching sports shows like Pardon the Interruption and Around the Horn.

Then I clean my place to prepare for pulling or Day2s.

Lastly I figure out if I'm doing a day2(BOO!) going out(Boo!) or having a girl over(YAY!).

I also alternatively watch sports, keep up to date on movies( rocks!) and work on setting up programs and products.

That's my domestic life.

Unfortunately that is only about 2 weeks of my month, the rest of my time is spent in airports, on planes, and in shitty hotel rooms. I have atleast 2 travel days every week I have a program(Austin,Toronto,Hawaii,New York and Miami in the next 5 weeks) Usually Thurs and Mon. These days I spend shuffling from one end of the country to the other. Rarely on non-stop flights so I spend a lot of time in airports(which sucks).

Then I get the joy of trying to squeeze day2s around 3 days of seminar and 2 nights of workshop. Or I play one night stand game and try to get girls same night, compromising solid game.

It's an alternatively great and frustrating life, but it's all worth it. Especially when I pass throgh a city I did a program in Pho awhile ago and ran into some guys I had taght earlier and their Gfs who were both 8+s (so if you guys are reading good job!) and that was a really cool moment cuz I remember what they were like before. So there are definite rewards to this job beyond money and girls.

Tomor's Agenda:
Wake Up-Earlier
Pick-up a new pair of jeans and get my make-up done(Great way to game makeup counter girls. Do this before D2s as a way to look your best.)
Fax back contracts for conference rooms
Work on my comedy web-site
Get a hat
Get a copy of crash to replace the netflix I lost
Get file folders and start taxes
See Comedy with HBBrlesquedancer

Wednesday, November 01, 2006

The Importance of logistics...

Whenever I think of the main things that guys should work on in order to be more successful with women, I alwasy forget to mention logistics.

If you want to get a same night lay, logistics are especially important.

Last night The Don and I pulled a 2 set from the standard with an assist from AJax.

I made a crucial mistake that lead to me getting LMR. I left my house keys in my car.

So that mean that we had to pull to The Don's house 20 minutes away. This also meant that I couldn't isolate my girl. I now had to remain with the others rather than just being able to pull to my place.

Logistics are one element of the game that is entirely under your control.

That means that if you are trying to get a girl home that night, your place needs to be immaculately clean, should have some alcohol or other party accessories, and should have a reason to bring the girls there. This also means that you should make sure you always have condoms in case you have to go to her place.

When I was in Pho for my last bootcamp the night before Rahn and I pulled a 2 set back to a guy friend's place where thanks to me having a condom, I was able to have sex with the girl on the couch.

Another thing to mention about logistics, if you are trying to bounce, you should bring up where you are bouncing to in the first 25 minutes. This is called seeding the bounce. Then you need to bring it up again as you are getting ready to leave.

Logistics extends to Day2s as well.

You need to make sure that the girl either meets you at your house, her house, or at a comfort location near your place or hers.

The reason to do this is to make sure that you can easily get her back to a seduction location when you have built sufficient comfort.

Also make sure that you have a reason to have her come back to your house. A book, a movie clip, a hookah, etc. This is to avoid having her come upstairs with no pretense which will undoubtably trigger her ASD.

So in conclusion make sure that every night you go out, you have condoms, a plan as to where you will bounce girls and your place ready for partying.