Tuesday, December 08, 2009

How To Minimize the chances you get cheated on...

So yesterday, I wrote about infidelity and the general bleakness of that.

Today I want to go in a completely different direction and talk to you about how to minimize the chances you get cheated on.

And all it will cost you is $199.99...


Anyway, in my experience dealing with women and according to all of my female friends/sisters, there are a few factors that lead to cheating of the non bragging rights variety.

A quick sidenote, bragging rights cheating refers mainly to celebrities, or once in a lifetime chances that a girl could get free drinks from her friends for life talking about. The girl's own sense of right and wrong is the only thing that can stop that kind of cheating.

So to keep your girlfriend/wife from cheating on you, you must remember 3 important factors for female fulfillment( try saying that 3 times fast). I do want to point out that what causes most cheating is bad relationships and what causes bad relationships is complacency. Relationships are work and you can't let laziness or external factors get you into a rut.

1. Emotional fulfillment. This means that a woman's full range of emotional needs from empathy to jealousy and helplessness are met by you. Emotional fulfillment is the hardest of these three types of fulfillment because women are emotional creatures. Furthermore they don't feel like they can tell most men about what they really want emotionally at any given time. Oftentimes they may not even know or want to know themselves. Being unpredictable is a major key to being emotionally fulfilling, as is having a well balanced personality. Being emotionally honest and establishing a dialogue on that level helps tremendously as well. As well as showing the girl that you understand her as a person. Understanding and acceptance is key to all of this...

2. Intellectual fulfillment. I'm not saying you have to be a Mensa member or anything but you do need to fulfill whatever the woman's intellectual needs are. This could range from talking about the philosophy of Ayn Rand to discussing the latest happenings on the Real Housewives Of Orange County. Every woman has a need to be intellectually fulfilled. Even the not as smart ones... And that's a problem guys reading this can run into is they tend to be smarter and thus talk down or patronize women too much.

3. Sexual fulfillment. This one is the most self explanatory. You have to make sure she's having regular orgasms, and you have to keep your sex life interesting. The same way that you can't just hang out with a girl at your house and watch TV and expect her to remain fulfilled and happy. You also can;t just have missionary, cowgirl, doggy style sex for 8 minutes and expect the girl to stick around. Having a long term relationship means that you can easily open up dialogues about your fantasies and turn ons without worrying about freaking the girl out. That is unless you want to pee in girls mouths or cut them or any other such fetish, which you might have to build up to.

If I had to rank them, I'd say Emotional fulfillment trumps, Sexual fulfillment, which trumps intellectual...

Hope that helps you guys out there in committed relationships.

JS-The King Of Content


  1. Anonymous7:23 PM

    I was so interested in this kind of stuff (cheating)I was curious as to how to prevent it and this helps alot. Thanks, I am curious though, in the breakthroughcomfort model does the entire model affect the "emotional side" or does of any it also hit the intellectual prong? BTW the "me" "her" "us" order/ model is genius


  2. Anonymous8:58 PM

    Great content...

    All hail the King!

  3. Anonymous9:36 PM

    damn sinn thats a lot of work

  4. Anonymous11:15 PM

    Emotional fulfilment, even for guys who want to have casual relationships and regular casual sex with quite a large number of women for a fair while, is taught rather poorly by the PUA community. I suspect it's mainly because it falls outside its scope of teachings and that relationship related books, of which there's literally hundreds, should be used. If anyone can recommend the best one/s that cover this topic, please do. I consider myself a good listener, but good listening probably isn't enough.

    Also Sinn can you please give your analysis of Dexter season 4 that's finishing up, in your next podcast.

  5. Offhand, I thought it was only sexual fulfillment and intellectual fulfillment. I never considered the emotional side of it.

    I dont know if its like this for a lot of guys, and its not me at my humblest saying it, but I find being intellectually fulfilled by a woman thats also good in bed to be extremely difficult to find. Difficult to the point where I've reintroduced reading in coffee shops near the university into my daily cycle to create more opportunities for it.

    Looking back, while I have been intellectually fulfilled by women before, its never been by a girlfriend (generally emotional + sexual), or a girl who knew how to fuck.

    Its a bit saddening, but Im wondering if thats a common thing for guys (or ones who get laid, rather)? Its almost as if, unless I believe and respect her intelligence, I wont feel any drive to let alone only date her or get into a relationship with her.

  6. Man your articles are brilliant. Lots of value. I ve read through alot of articles on sexual tension on your site, could you perhaps expand on this topic on a future post?


  7. This is Great JS.

    Thank you man.

    PS: Please More podcasts w TEONE,their just awesome!

  8. Anonymous1:57 PM

    thanks for posting

  9. Anonymous5:45 AM

    I like you but this article has no value wastoever. You just dont get it, and it is normal because you probably have less experience in relationship than the average guy. Stick to teaching pick-up. This article is just plain wrong. You dont prevent a girl from cheating by fullfilling all her needs. You are so far from the truth here. I Still love you though.

  10. Anonymous1:50 AM

    Keep posting stuff like this i really like it