Ready For The Day Game Challenge?

Hey guys,

Earlier this week I announced the 13 Day Day Game Challenge. In case you missed it. Here are the details:

. The person who produces the most dramatic results using the free information that I’m giving away as part of the release of my Day Game home study course between now will get:

• A complimentary copy of my Day Game home study course

• A one hour phone coaching session with me

• A Brand New Mac Air Notebook Computer

• A $500.00 American Express shopping card

That’s nearly $5,000 in prizes!

To enter the contest, all you have to do is submit to me a video (just upload it on youtube or viddler) or a written field report where you tell me about a recent day game success you had. The only requirement I have is that you have to tell me how you used at least ONE day game technique or strategy that I teach to achieve your success.

Email your submission to me at sinn@sinnsofattraction.com with “Day Game Challenge
Submission” in the subject. Detailed submissions will have the best chance of winning. The deadline to get your submission in is Friday, May 22 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time.

The stuff I've released so far on Day Game is more than enough to skyrocket your success and give you a great chance of winning the Challenge.

Check out what people are saying about the Day Game Videos and Report:

Adonis Of Charming Rogue wrote:

" Hey Jon

Just wanted to send you a quick note to say that your "Day Game Report" was kick-ass and you really should have charged something for it since it is really the most concise volume written on the subject to date. Anyway, I wrote a quick write-up on my site for it and have been promoting it incessantly to my list. Keep it up, bro!"


Anonymous wrote on my blog:

"Wow. At the risk of sounding like a suck-up, I'm kind of amazed by how much you put in the free report. It's excellent.

Thank you!"

and Adil on the blog wrote :

" Hey Sinn,

Just finished reading the day game report. Was AWESOME!

I wrote out a lot of quick notes so I can embed them into my day Game.

Can't wait for your Day Game Mastery course!"

I appreciate all of the comments and questions you have been sending to me about Day Game in the past couple of days. Please email any more you have to sinn@sinnsofattraction.com and I'll do my best to answer to them.

Oh yeah, I almost forgot to mention that I'm doing a special free teleseminar on Day Game next wednesday. For details, be sure to sign up for my special Day Game email list (http://www.getdaygame.com).

Have a great weekend.

S

Latest Podcast is Up!!!

Hey guys,

Sorry for the tardiness of the episode, it took awhile to get shit done this week.

In this episode Cam and I chat about Day Game, Having a Strong Frame, structure versus fun and more!!!

http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%2012.mp3

Word,

S

The Day Game Report Is Coming!!!!

Hey guys,

As you may know, for the past couple of months I’ve been working on special report on how to do really well with Day Game. I’m pleased to announce that this report, which I’ve titled The Day Game Report is ready to be released!

The Day Game Report is 25 pages of pure content about how to literally double your day game success.

All you have to do to get it is sign up for my special Day Game email list. You can do that by going here:

http://www.getdaygame.com

After you sign up, be on the lookout for an email that says, “Here’s Your Day Game Report...”

Then just open the email and enjoy.

Obviously, if you’ve already signed up for the Day Game list, you don’t need to sign up again in order to get The Day Game Report. You’ll get it automatically.

Best,

S

Big Announcement!!!

Last Friday, I told you about a HUGE announcement scheduled for today. It’s actually in a video I recently made. You can check it out here:

http://www.getdaygame.com

In case you’re wondering, yes, I am going to be releasing my Day Game home study course later this month.

But that is NOT what this announcement is all about. In addition, to the announcement, you’re also in store for something else VERY cool:

UNDERCOVER FOOTAGE OF A COMPLETE DAY TIME PICK UP FROM BEGINNING TO END!

That’s right, you get the ENTIRE pick-up from beginning to end absolutely free. No opt-in required.

After you watch the video, you should have a good idea of how damn easy it is to pick-up girls in the day time. Trust me when I tell you that it’s a lot easier than you think.

So if you happen to think meeting women in the day time is hard, YOU NEED TO WATCH THIS:

http://www.getdaygame.com

Talk soon,

Sinn

P.S. I’d love to get your feedback on the video. Please be sure to leave your comments here.

P.P.S. One more time, the link to the video is: http://www.getdaygame.com

The Basics Of Phone Game

Hey guys,

Today we’re back with another issue of The Basics.

This time we’re going to be going over Phone Game.

First you have to understand that the purpose of the phone is to build comfort and get the girl to meet up.

You want to avoid having the following conversation:

You: “Hey Shelly, what’s up it’s Hank from the bar. How was your day? Wanna hang out?”

Instead we want to use the phone to go from being some guy she met at a Starbucks or a club, and start becoming a part of her day to day life.

Once you get a girl’s phone number you want to ping a text message to it, to make sure she’s going to respond. I like to send the following text courtesy of my friend Debonair Dave.

“ Hey girl’s name, very important question, do you speak text?”

Once the girl responds you can be pretty sure she’ll pick up the phone.

The basic structure of the first phone call should be:

Callback Humor- Use an inside joke or nickname to establish who you are.
Funny Story
Commitment To The Call- You want to make sure she’s not multi-tasking
Future Plans- Start discussing the events you’ll be going to this week.
Set up plans with her.

You always want to get off the phone first. It may seem simple and juvenile, it really does help maintain your social power.

If you get an answering machine, you want to leave a short simple message. Something like this community classic courtesy of Hollywood.

“ Hey, it’s me. I’m in and out all night , but try to catch me. If not I’ll talk to you later.”

You never want to call or text more than once a day. It’s also important that if you call, and don’t get a callback, you don’t text her. Don’t try more than one form of communication a day without a response.

Lastly you want to make sure that you call all of your numbers. A lot of guys through the work of gathering a ton of phone numbers and then wuss out when it comes time to call them. Don’t be one of those guys. Instead pick a time EVERY day when you are going to work on your phone game and call all your numbers.

That’s the basics of Phone Game folks,

Talk to you guys soon,

S

P.S. I’m going to be making a HUGE announcement this coming Monday, May 11, so come back here then and be on the lookout for a blog post titled:

“BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!”

You’re not gonna want to miss this.

Song of the day...

You Might be a Douchebag If... Part 2: You Pop Your Collar

What's up guys?

Thursday morning rolls around to find me in LA at Cam's apartment. As is usual when I visit Cam, the conversation turned to all things douchey...

Which brings me to my next point:

If you pop the collar of your shirt, stop. NOW!

It's super uber lame, and makes everyone think you're a loser. Plus it's like 5 years out of fashion. When I worked at Abercrombie back in 2004-5, I was asked several times to "pop my collar". I respectfully declined. For that I thank Past Jon profusely.

I don't really know what the point of popping a collar is, it was introduced to Hip Hop by E-40 of the Yay area. Coincidentally has anyone ever worked with more legends of rap while remaining relatively unfamous than E-40? Seriously... He's got songs with EVERY west coast rap icon of the last 20 years from Pac to Snoop, yet gets no love ( Oh well another post on underrated rappers is coming ) I guess popping your collar is to show you don't give a fuck.

Here's a list of better ways to show you don't give a fuck without polluting my line of sight:

1. Have unprotected sex with a native girl you meet in Africa.
2. Walk through Compton late at night screaming about how you hate black people.
3. Taser your own balls.
4. Eat leftover food out of the garbage.
5. Repeatedly bang your head against the speakers in a club until you pass out.

All of these are infinetly better.

So if you have popped a collar before, I want to reach out to you, and let you know it's not too late! You can become a productive member of society, you don't have to look like an extra from the latest little John video or like a prep who got caught in a stiff wind.

All you have to do to start the road to redemption T.I style, is throw the Polo shirts away... I'd let you keep them, but it's a slippery road from the attire of the office worker to the attire of the douche.

You've been warned!

S

Who Wants To Come On The Podcast?

Hey Guys,

I've gotten a lot of suggestions for more guests on the podcast and I agree....

So I want to hold open try-outs, if you think you would be a good guest, send an application with your name, phone number and reasons why you'd be interesting on the podcast to Sinnstravel at G mail.com.

I'll pick the best couple people and have them on for 10-15 minutes each in a future podcast. I may even let you guys vote American Idol style...

S

New Podcast!

Hey Guys,

In this Podcast I talk about:

A relationship that's ending because the girl is moving away
Mailbag questions on Internet Game and Social Status
Some Amazing 12M2M Success
My Trip To LA
For The Love Of Ray Jay Reunion and more!!!

Check it out on Itunes or at:

http://sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%2011.mp3

Word.

S

Secrets Of The Naturals- Positive Expectations.

Hey guys,

I’m starting a new running feature along with You Might be a douchebag if, and Common Female Thoughts.

This one is going to be Secrets Of The Naturals. I’ve spent a lot of time hanging out with naturals and cataloging the differences in their mindsets, skillsets and lifestyles, and I’ll be sharing them with you guys every once in awhile.

This week we’re going to be talking about Positive Expectations.

I was talking to one of my students from my long term coaching program over the weekend.

He was having problems with ego management issues and getting into state. He said the major problem as that he was always worried about pleasing the people he was talking to.

He gave an example of saying something to a woman that could have an implied sexual meaning. And worrying about every negative thing that could happen. She could get offended, she could get creeped out, she could say she has a boyfriend, etc…

This is very typical of guys who end up in the SUISC. The biggest reason for this is that guys who are into game place too much importance on interactions with women. They are attached to the outcome. This leads them to becoming self conscious, stilted and in their heads.

Naturals on the other hand, don’t put too much importance on any interaction with any particular woman. Because their detached they are not trying to mind read and predict what the girl is going to do. This allows them to be in the moment and expect things to go positively.

When I am speaking to a woman, all I’m thinking about is how things can go well. When I say something that could be taken sexually, I’m assuming it will turn her on. When I touch a woman I assume she’s going to like it. When I ask for a girl’s number, I expect to get it.

I had to learn to detach myself from the outcome and expect the best, naturals do it by habit.

S

Soapbox Issue : Women Allowing Themselves To Be Treated Like Objects

So one of the things I’ve noticed as I’ve delved more into the world of Miami, is the huge proliferation of the sugar daddy lifestyle.

I understand the idea of cultural differences and that in some cultures (Especially those where women cannot work) it is understandable to specifically date a guy for his money.

However, I really think it’s unhealthy for women as a whole that a whole generation of women in cities like LA, NY, Miami, and elsewhere are ok with having sex and or companionship for money arrangements.

I was speaking to one of my female friends the other day. We’ll call her Kelly. This girl is 23, works at one of the hottest clubs in LA as a cocktail waitress, and occasionally does the odd modeling job. She has a boyfriend, and a sugar daddy she’s also known to occasionally get drunk and have sex with me.

Kelly was one of the first girls I ever met who had a sugar daddy. She met some guy at the club she works out who was getting bottle service, he got her number, she complained about bills and he offered to take care of them.

That was 3 years ago.

Kelly says she sleeps with this guy we’ll call Dave once a month, returns all his calls and texts and eats dinner with him twice a week. He pays for her apartment (In a luxery building near Beverly Hills) her car ( a BMW) and gives her cash whenever they hang out.

Kelly consistently jokes that she’s getting a good deal, but we got into an argument this weekend about what this arrangement makes her. I don’t like the term whore when it comes to girls, as I think it’s extremely derogatory. But I made the point that it was a step in the road on the way to sex traded directly for money. But that wasn’t my problem with the arrangement.

My problem came from the fact that I think Kelly has turned herself into an object for Dave. He doesn’t know that she paints really dramatic still lives, or that she’s terrified of midgets. He doesn’t know her at all. She doesn’t actually share herself, because he’s not interested in her. And she’s not interested in him, but there’s a mutually beneficial relationship for them where he gets a hot girl in his life and she can live in a nice place and have a nice car…

The reason we started talking about this issue yesterday was because her 17 year old sister is visited her this last weekend. They’re from a middle class family in Chicago. Her sister kept asking her how she could only work 3-4 days a week, lay out all day everyday, and still have money for clothes, clubbing etc… Kelly told her sister about the Dave situation, and her sister seemed into the idea. And this distresses me greatly.

I really like Kelly as a person and she could take care of herself if she wanted to cut down on going out, clothes shopping and eating out all the time. But she’d rather have this arrangement.

No one loves women more than I do and it makes me sad to watch really cool, smart, together girls allow themselves to get involved in these types of arrangements. And it terrifies me that Kelly thinks it’s a good idea to tell her sister about this..

Allright I’m just ranting now so I’ll wrap up…

S

Dating Younger Women

Hey guys,

One of the biggest problems I’ve heard guys complain about at over a hundred and fifty workshops I’ve personally taught is how hard it is to date sexy women in their early twenties.

This is usually a much bigger problem for guys in their late 30s and early 40s.

In my experience, it is actually much easier for older guys to date younger girls than it is for younger guys to date older women. I’ve consistently told older students that and referenced the success of my own instructor, the 44 year old Kurgen whose girlfriend is almost 20 years younger than him.

But there hasn’t really been a great resource for older men dating younger women.

Until now.

Dean Cortez of M.A.C.K Tactics fame, put together an excellent team of contributers including Savoy, Vin Dicarlo, Zan, and more.

The Manual focuses on both mindsets and tactics and techniques for older men looking to date younger.

I really like the interview with Zan as he really expresses the exact attitude older men should adopt with younger women.

Dean Cortez demonstrates a very solid understanding of attraction and conversational techniques, including teasing, qualifying, push/pulls etc…

I especially like how this book gives specific examples of questions to ask, conversational subjects that older guys should avoid, even specific skills that are crucial to dating younger women.

Overall if you are an older guy who’s looking to date hot younger women, you should check out Dating Younger Women for a great overview of what you’re getting into.

Check it out at

http://www.BulletProofSeduction.Com

Have a Great Weekend,

S

This is Not For Everyone

Yo, yo, yo...

I've decided I'm going to start accepting private clients again. This is something that I have not done for a while, but it's the FASTEST way I know to get to a world class skill level at pick-up (the top 1%). So if you aspire to be ridiculously good with women, then this might be something you'd be interested in.

By ridiculously good, I mean being able to get legitimate 9 and 10s (actresses, models, dancers) regularly; consistent 10 minute lays; consistent same night and same day lays; threesomes on a regular basis, etc. This is the level that most pick-up instructors and guys that are simply "good" never get to.

Anyway, I'm looking to take one, maybe two private clients to work with me intensively for the next year. By intense I mean there will be regularly scheduled one-on-one coaching calls, personalized routine stacks, fashion consultations, and at least four weekends of live-infield training of just me and you. You'll also get access to the 12 Months to Mastery curriculum.

As you can tell, this training is NOT for everyone. I've found that the private clients that get the most out of this kind of training are typically between 32 and 45 years old. Most are successful businessmen that spent so much time and energy during their early years making money that they never learned how to get good with girls.

The important thing here is that they are successful guys that TAKE ACTION and are actually willing to implement the things we'll talk about.

As you might imagine, this program is NOT for everyone and is NOT going to be cheap. So please don't email me looking for a discount or giving me a reason why I should train you for free.

If you're reading this, you probably already know if this is right for you or not. If so, then send an email to sinnscoaching@yahoo.com with "Private Client Application Request" in the subject line and we'll begin the application process. Applications will be accepted until this Friday at midnight.

Again, I'm only taking at most two private clients and all things being equal, preference will be given to those that get their applications in first.

That's all I got for now,

Sinn

Podcast 10 is up...

http://sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%2010.mp3

S

The Male-Female Sexual Power Dynamic- Part 1

What’s up guys,

This is a post that probably most of you will be able to relate to.

I’m sure other people have talked about this before or it’s been posted about, but I feel like power and sex are two of the major issues in most male-female relationships.

When it comes to dating, the general power dynamic between men and women, looks something like this:

The girl generally has more power before sex, and the guy generally has more power after sex.

This is one of the reasons that girls will sometimes try to make you wait for sex or give last minute resistance. This is also one of the reasons why qualification, and demonstrating small amounts of investment in her work so well.

Guys will generally work and invest more in the girl in the courtship period before sex has happened. Many of you guys reading this ( myself included) are guilty of this. That’s one of the big reasons that girls have trust issues with guys.

We should all know by now that it’s unattractive to give all your power away for the chance of hooking up. But how do we deal with the fact that you will have less power in any interaction with a woman until you’ve had sex with her?

The first step to evening the power differential, is having personal boundaries and standards, and not compromising them for booty. This makes a much bigger difference with women than you can imagine. Boundaries and standards tell people a great deal about how you expect to be treated by women, and give a glimpse as to your level of success with them.

Next you need to consciously get the girl to invest in the interaction. Contrary to popular belief, a girl can be WAY more invested in a relationship than you are but she still holds the power edge until you have sex. Because she controls where the relationship ultimately goes. It is impossible to have a long term relationship without ever having sex. Imagine being married to a woman who will never have sex with you… Doesn’t sound like a great time, though it does sound like most people’s marriages ☺ So you get girls to invest by qualifying, and gradually increasing her compliance. It may seem simple, but asking her to bring something to a date or hold your drink for a second goes a long way.

Retain your power through decisiveness. Make sure that you are the one to plan dates, you’re the first one to get off the phone, and that you always take a little bit longer to return her calls and texts than she does. These things seem small but by being decisive and busy you retain power before and after sex.

All right that wraps up the first question on sex and power.

Sometime soon I’ll write about the second question.

How do you maintain a healthy balanced power ratio after sex?

Next time,

S

New Interview up On Charming Rogue

Hey guys,

I did an interview with Adonis over at Charming Rogue last week and it's up.

There's some good stuff on framing, Learning Game, and Same Day Lays.

Check it out at

http://charmingrogue.com/sinn-interview/

S

Response to responses to a response... I'm confused...

I agree with everyone's comments about Erika... There's a reason she's not on the blogroll or a teacher I endorse in any way shape or form.

But she did bring up the issue of complete 100% honesty with the multiple women I'm sleeping with, and I like to believe that I'm as honest as you can be and actually still get results.

I try to be as honest as possible in my life especially with women I'm seeing. However this is not ALWAYS possible as some honesties are hurtful to these same women.

So I think the real culprit in all of this is the completely hypocritical standards of 100% honesty that 100% of people don't live up to. And I'm talking in real life not just in the SUISC. I mean everyone lies to their parents, or their boss, or their spouse, or the homeless guy who asks you for change... But then the same people turn around and tell their kids to be completely honest when 100% honesty is not always the best policy in relationships of all types. between both genders.

I use to live by the rule of complete honesty! If someone was a douchebag, I told them how I felt. If a girl looked fat I would let her know. If a girl wanted to come over on anohter girl's night I would respond " Sorry sweetie, you know it's Val's night." This is a very anti-social way to go through the world! Even though I still probably call people and situations out too much, I have learned when to keep my mouth shut professionally and socially.

Erika and practicers of radical honesty or some other such spiritually aimed principle that demands no need for social tact, live in a fantasy world.

It would be really nice if we could all be 100% honest all the time with everyone and never have negative connotations from that. But it's not realistic. People get their feelings hurt, people get angry and then become vindictive, people overreact and extrapolate from small things... So sometimes lies of omission or little white lies to maintain someone's emotions are a good thing.

That's why I chose that comment, because it pisses me off when people get on their high horse about honesty in a mostly dishonest world...

S

Response to a comment

So I never respond to blog comments, strictly as a time management issue.

But self described polyamorist Erika left a comment that I thought needed a reply.

Here’s the comment to my post on retaining fuck buddies.

Erika wrote :


“Sadly, there are way too many girls who will hang around for a year, 18 months, two years, five years ... and then you'll see their unhappiness become HUGE. A girl who knows what she's doing will bail as soon as she feels annoyed. Then it never actually reaches the level of true unhappiness, and she can move on with her life with dignity.

I like your honesty, Sinn, but I'd like it even more if instead of avoiding the conversation, etc., you said flat out, this is NEVER going to be a long-term committed relationship and you (girl) need to know that.”


So the reason why I no longer tell girls that there will NEVER be a chance of a long term committed relationship, is because it’s extremely mean and it doesn’t work. It forces a girl into a win/lose situation where she has to decide if she even wants a long term relationship with me. As opposed to allowing things to develop at her pace...

It also can be extremely hurtful, and like an ultimatum, girls can make emotional decisions and then decide they aren’t ok with the situation later, at which point we’re back to where we started… Trust me I've dated a lot of girls who were "ok" with the fact we were just hooking up until two or three weeks later.

It’s also simply too limiting. While I’m certainly not looking for a long term or committed relationship, I do sometimes end up in them for a few weeks or months because it feels right at the time.

Bottom line is I never like to say never.

S

How To Retain F**k Buddies Part 3- The Conversation

I am sooo happy this week is almost over... It's been intense.

My car got impounded the other day, I cracked my Iphone screen and more. At least it's now Friday and after I finish this post I get to go shopping, and do some day game...

But before I get to go have fun I need to wrap this series up.

We already talked the last two days about scheduling, honesty and expectations.

We're going to conclude today with handling the DTR (Define the Relationship) conversation.

IME the DTR conversation will come up a couple of times. It first comes up around the 3 month mark, resurfaces at around a year and then becomes extremely serious at the 18 month mark. Your patterns may vary but for me the above is like the rising of the sun, death and taxes...

So being that this blog is about my experiences I'm going to give you the three types of DTR convos and what to do with each of them.

The first one is generally the least serious. Guys who are seeing 7 girls have not been seeing all 7 of them for more than 3 months...

This one will start innocuously with the girl making a joke and then asking " What are we?", or " Are you sleeping with other girls?"

Avoiding this first conversation is a good bet. I'll often purposely misinterrpret the question and try to side step it. By saying something like:

"we're humans..."

or " No I usually kick then out after. You're the only one who gets to stay over (smile)"

This will work about half the time. But it's really only a stall.

If she wants to seriously discuss the topic I will always say something like this

" We've only known each other X amount of months. And I really, really like you as a person. I'm super happy we hang out and I love talking to you. But I'm not really in a place where I can date anyone exclusively right now. So if that's something you're uncomfortable with,I totally understand that, and I really hope we can stay friends."

If a girl really likes you and is comfortable with that arrangement she'll stay. If not she won't.

Now the next one at around the year mark is a little more intense. Now it's been awhile and the girl might be questioning whether she's wasting her time with you.

IME this is the talk where you really have to be honest and let her know what's going on.

Be honest but not angry.

You don't want to give her ultimatiums, or make her feel like you don't care if she's in your life or not.

Instead you want to make sure that you don't lead her on with the fantasy of a relationship (Because let's be honest if it was going to happen, it would have within a year) but frame what you have as fun and non commital, until someone comes along that's better for her. Also emphasize ( If it's true) that you want her in your life in some capacity, but you want her to be comfortable with it.

Last one, the 18 month mark... This one is basically commit or lose the girl. IME girls are not going to hang around for two years with NO commitment from you. At this point you have to make a decision about whether or not you actually see yourself in a committed relationship with her. If you do, then tell her you want to be exclusive. If you don't tell her you just want to be friends.

You can stall the 18 month convo but it's only going to get worse for both of you.

That wraps up F**k buddies, have a great weekend.

S

How To Retain F**k Buddies Part 2-Honesty And Expectations

Welcome back guys,

Today I want to talk about the second part of retaining Fuck Buddies. Honesty and Expectations.

Once you’ve started seeing the girl once a week or once every couple of weeks, the next part of retention is honesty.

I personally believe in getting to know people really well before I date them exclusively. I usually have to know a girl for about 3 months before I’m ready to start calling her my girlfriend. I let girls know this upfront.

It’s very important that you let girls know your feelings on exclusivity right away. Now there is a major caveat that guys miss here… You don’t want to make the girl feel like a temporary option or a sexual plaything.

A student of mine recently told me that he was dating a girl and told her that while he would exclusively sleep with her, he was still going to date other girls. That’s basically like telling the girl you like her, until someone better comes along.

The overall vibe I adopt is that we are actually friends. In fact I tell the girl how much I appreciate her friendship. I hang out with these girls, the same way I hang out with my male friends. The only difference is that I don’t cuddle or hold hands with my guy friends!

The second thing I want to talk about is managing expectations. A lot of guys who are successful with women, lead girls on with the possibility of a monogamous relationship. You want to make sure that you actively manage her expectations of the relationship.

This means that you give her back the stuff she “leaves” at your place the next time you see her. It means you don’t say ambiguous things like “ who knows what can happen with us down the line.” If you don’t believe you’d actually date her exclusively.

One of the most powerful things I’ve learned from the SUISC is that you do not have to lie to girls to get sex. You can be honest ( and nice) about what you want and expect from her and she can decide if that’s something she wants to deal with.

Tomor we’ll wrap this up by talking about how to deal with the DTR conversation…

S

How To Retain F**k Buddies Part 1- Scheduling

Hey guys,

Happy Hump day, in more ways than one ☺

Today I want to start another advanced series on the blog. As everyone whose read my blog over the last few years knows, I’m not a big fan of monogamous relationships. Not because I think monogamy is wrong. I’m actually much more adamantly opposed to Polamory. But I just know that monogamy has no place in my current lifestyle/occupation. So since I don’t get into boyfriend/girlfriend type relationships, what do I do?

I keep between 3-7 fuck buddies around at all times. A fuck buddy is essentially a friend with benefits. Since I’m very good at this type of relationship, I wanted to write about it for guys having problems keeping girls interest after sex.

The first part of retaining a fuck buddy, comes the day after you have sex with her. Regardless of whether or not she spends the night ( I personally don’t always like having girls stay over) if you want to see her again in any capacity, you need to text or call her. A lot of girls get really insecure after they sleep with a guy. Especially if it’s the first night you met or your first date.

I like to send a very friendly, funny text message. Something that preferably plays on an inside joke from earlier. Here’s an example from a couple days ago where the girl was an environmentalist.

“ Hey you, I think we may not be able to hang out ever again… I just littered with a cigarette butt. It’s not you it’s me ☺”

What you don’t want to do if you only want an FB relationship is send something overly sentimental like “ I had a great time last night!” or “ I really like you”. Keep it casual.

Then the next step to retention is to not have the noticeable drop off in calls and texts. A lot of guys ( Myself included sometimes) tend to call or text girls less after they sleep with them. This has a lot to do with the male-female sexual power dynamic ( A blog post coming soon) but it’s always a mistake because it will make the girl start questioning things instead of just enjoying interacting with you.

Then you want to set up plans for a WEEKDAY. This is huge, when you’re dealing with fuck buddies it’s important that you see them once a week or once every two weeks. This is an extremely important schedule.

If you see them more often than once a week, they will start to expect a more committed relationship. If you see them less than every two weeks, then you’ll have problems with consistency.

Personally I like to see 3-4 girls a week, with one new date a week and two nights of gaming.

It’s also important that you don’t see the girl consistently on the same day every week. I used to do this with my rotation, until a few girls asked me why I only saw them on Thurs. Vary it up.

That takes care of scheduling, tomorrow I’ll talk about Honesty and Expectations.

S

The Power of Patience

What's up guys?

It's Tuesday and I've been completely swamped the last couple of days.

I'm on this new thing where I have to get 1 phone number a day during the daytime, it's partially to keep me from going out at night, and partially just because there are so many hot girls wandering around during the day.

As a result of this, I've been doing a lot of phone game.

I just sent out the basics of phone game to the guys subscribed to my newsletter yesterday. I also just finished Phone Game 2.0 and mailed that out to the members of my inner circle last week. To learn more about Sinn's Inner Circle, go to www.sinnsofattraction.com/sic

One of the things that I think really trips guys up on the phone is a lack of patience.

Unfortunately after you have exchanged phone numbers with a girl ( and hopefully set up a date) the ball is in her court. She can choose whether or not to return calls, texts, ims and smoke signals.

So all you can do is follow up in the correct way and hope you did a good enough job initially.

I had texted this girl yesterday and we went back and forth a couple of times before I escalated the texts in a sexual/flirty way. And nothing came back for 15, 30, 45, minutes... Finally she texted back an hour and a half later with a flirtier response.

The old me, would have spent the entire hour and a half, trying to figure out a clever high value way to text again and spark a response. But now I understand that you're only hurting yourself when you do that. It's much better to be patient give it a couple of hours and not worry about it.

At some point you have to believe the girl likes you, the sooner you do that and act accordingly the better things go on the phone.

S

Podcast # 9

Hey guys,

Podcast # 9 is up.

In it I give relationship advice, break down a field report and review Observe and Report.

http://bit.ly/SATC0009

S

Hypnotica and I are cool...

We came to an understanding like adults.

Now everyone else can do the same.

Have a great weekend everyone.

S

Common Female Thoughts Part 2

Hey guys,

I’m having a very interesting text conversation with a girl I’m seeing about dressing her up in nothing but a pencil skirt, business jacket and heels.

Which lead me to think about another female truism.

Women like sex as much if not more than men.

Understanding this is huge if you’re going to get better with women.

You have to get around all of the issues you may have about women being on pedestals, sex being dirty, or feelings of guilt for having sex with a girl you’re not going to commit to.

Women are like sex as much as men… if not more.

Remember, we don’t all get the ability to have multiple orgasms ☺

S

Podcast Ocho

New Podcast is up...

Check it out here:

http://sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%208.mp3

And on Itunes!

S

Tele-Seminar Tonight With AFC Adam and I

Hey guys,

Tonight AFC Adam and I will be having a free Tele-Seminar on Naturals and Attraction.

This will be some of my newest and most interesting breakthroughs in game.

You can get all the details at:

http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?preview=1&previewbar=1&eventid=6949686

Word.

S

5 Things every guy wants to do...

This is (I guess) a routine I’ve been using for awhile to set frames and open up sexual dialogues especially about threesomes. It's mostly just a random thought to illustrate that comfort talk doesn't have to be that magical..

I actually believe this and I started talking about it with girls in Comfort or on dates as an escalation thing.

I really like having theories, and ideas about various subjects and sharing them. It’s really the basis of my comfort game.

Here’s a rough breakdown as it comes out a little bit differently every time.

See that’s one of the things that girls just don’t understand about guys… Every guy has like 5 things they want to do.

Here we want to purposely bait her into asking what the 5 things are as opposed to telling her right away. This is a conversational tactic I do unconsciously now.

Ok the 5 things are

Pull a heist
Win a Lot of money at Poker
Knock some guy out
Fly in a Private Jet

And have a Threesome.

So I’ve done one out of 5. I have like 50 years to knock the other 4 off…

From there the girl will ask which one it was and then you can tease her by saying it was pulling a heist, or you can go suggestive and ask which one she thinks it was. That’s what I usually do, then I explain my position on threesomes, leading to asking her what kind of girls she likes….

Hope that helps people.

S

Hypnotica Clarification

Ok, so now Hypnotica seems to be trying to dodge the issue ( His IMO creepy and ineffective teaching style, and stuff he peddles to you guys looking for help) with another issue (Who is better with girls, him or I)

First, I don't care who is better with girls. I'm insanely happy with my sex life right now, and no longer feel the need to prove myself to anyone. I call this progress. I'm pretty sure I'd dominate the shit out of him in a nightclub, bar, or daytime cold approach. But it doesn't matter. I no longer subscribe to the "who's better" school of thinking or lame dick measuring culture contained within. If people can't see the value in what I have to teach and my student's success, so be it.

The issue here again IMO is Hypnotica's lame attempts to try to bully me out of my (informed) opinion. Through veiled threats and impotent challenges.

I've seen the dude on like 5 products. I have a Master's Prac in NLP, I've gone through all 3 of Hypnotica's products ( Deep Phone Seduction, The Sphinx Of The Imagination, and Core Confidence or whatever the fuck it was called) After watching all of that, in my opinion, what the dude is teaching is creepy, useless state pumping bullshit, and identity centric escalation models. It's nothing personal, I just don't believe a student can get better with your material. I'm sure it's what you THINK is working for you, but that's probably just because you're very into all of your hypnotic-woo-woo stuff. Not that there's anything wrong with that. It's just not practical for the average guy looking to get better with women.


No matter how much noise Hypnotica makes, this is not going to change. Nor will I be quiet about it when I'm asked for my opinion on products I've studied. You don't like it, move to somewhere without the freedom of speech...

Unless Hypnotica can show me something I'm not comprehending about what he's teaching, and using...

My opinion will remain the same...

If you want to shut me up Hypnotica, educate me about your methods and show me real results (for anyone) from your teachings.

Where are your student's success stories?

I've met Neil and Eben after you worked with them and their inner game... Not so good.

I've met students who did hours of EXPENSIVE one on one hypnosis with you and still couldn't approach girls in the real world...

I'm fully willing to " have my eyes opened." if you really believe in what you're doing and want to change my mind. If not, I'm still gonna give my opinion on it, when I'm asked about it.

My email address if you want to handle this like an adult instead of a nearly 40 year old toddler, is easy to guess, sinn at sinnsofattraction.com

This will be my final post about this situation, no matter how many comments you all leave.

We're back to content tomor.

And Sinn and The Cities Episode 8 will be up soon.

S

Healthy Living Equals Better State

We all know that state is extremely important when it comes to… well life. But one of the interesting things I’ve noticed, is that your body will actually reward you for doing the right things.

Play a couple games of pickup basketball, feel glowing, alive and refreshed.

Smoke a bunch of cigarettes and get drunk(Which is fun at the time) leaves you dehydrated, gross feeling and tired…

Pick up is very similar to self help. As you become a better person, you get better results with women. Everything in your life either helps or hurts your game. That doesn’t mean you need to rush out there and worry about what dish washing detergent attracts women better. But you should look at what habits and lifestyle choices will help you get the results you want.

If we know we do better at pick up when we are in state, we should aim to be in state as much of the time as possible. If we live a healthy lifestyle, we will be in state more and stack yet another odd in our favor. Which is mostly what game is about anyway…

Tele-Seminar With Mehow and I on Natural Attraction

Hey guys,

Yesterday I did a tele-seminar with Mehow where I revealed all the secrets of Natural Attraction, that Naturals don't want you to know!

You can listen to the replay here:

http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=6919698

Be sure to fast forward through the first 5-6 mins of silence as we got started a bit late...

S

Open Letter To Hypnotica

So I’ve gotten a lot of comments about Hypnotica apparently vowing to change my mind on his creepiness.

Since I’m nothing if not open minded, I am openly inviting Hypnotica to come down here and attempt to change my mind about his tactics and techniques. I’ll even volunteer to be a guinea pig.

And then I’ll post a completely unbiased review of your methods. If they blow my mind and do all you claim they do, I'll post that. If they are a creepy wannabe magic bullet I'll post that as well.

If you really want to convince me I’m willing to give you a fair chance to.

Your move chuckles, either put your money where your mouth is, or shut the fuck up.

S

Cutting Space

Yo, yo, yo…

Today I’m going to be keeping the blog post short and simple with a hugely underutilized tactic.

That is physically cutting space. I remember reading about this in TD’s archive years ago and it totally changed my game.

When you are talking to a girl too many guys are content to stay in what I like to call the polite guy zone. That’s what’s generally regarded as personal space 18-36 inches away from said attractive lady… Now while the Polite guy zone is useful for the first 3-5 minutes to let the girl get comfortable with you. Once she’s shown she likes you it’s time to cut in to the sexy guy zone.

There are three keys to physically cutting space smoothly.

The first one is to lead with your hips, not your shoulder. A lot of guys will barrel into a woman’s personal space making her very uncomfortable and in some extreme cases making her move back. Instead we want to lead from the hips and bring our lower body closer first then close space with our upper body. Believe me this makes much more sense when I can physically demonstrate it.

The second key is to is to break it down into a series of small movements. I personally like to take a small step towards the girl with one foot and then simply bring my back foot forward.

Lastly you want to make sure you cut space into her face, so that you are talking to her 3-5 inches in front of her space. This is hugely underrated as you can get faster makeouts, talk dirty in her ear, or simply give her smoldering bedroom eyes. None of which you can do if you’re in the polite guy zone.

Remember to cut in the next time you’re trying to escalate with a girl.

S

Neediness Deined

What’s up hombres,

Today I wanted to briefly talk about being needy.

Neediness is one of the biggest sticking points guys have when they first get into the dating scene.

Neediness generally comes from an inner psychology point of view from scarcity. When you are not meeting a lot of women, or getting laid it can be difficult to not over pursue when you are getting good signals from a girl.

A lot of people misunderstand what constitutes neediness. Calling a girl 3 times a day can be needy or can build a connection. It all depends on one thing. If the girl is reciprocating. If she’s calling you or texting you back then it’s not needy to keep contacting her. If she stops and you keep going you’re being needy.

If you always try to hang out with a girl and she is always saying no but you keep asking, you’re being needy. If the girl always ends the interaction first and you try to keep her there as long as you can, you guessed it needy.

So how do you keep from coming off needy?

First it helps to have other things going on in your life. It’s much harder to be needy the busier you are.

Second you never want to send more than one form of communication a day without a response. If you call her and she doesn’t call back, don’t text her, facebook her etc…

Third, don’t call every day unless she’s calling you an equal amount. You don’t want to call every day unless she’s reciprocating.

Fourth make sure you end every interaction. Yes this is stupid game playing that the rules would be proud of, but it works.

Fifth, don’t spill deep feelings right away, you can flatter a girl as much as you want as long as you don’t allude to a future or confess feelings that you are inappropriate until after you’ve slept with her.

And lastly don’t think about having a relationship with a girl before you’ve selpt with her at least 3 times. Until you’ve had repeated sexual encounters keep that thought out of your head as it can make you captain needy.

Hope that clears things up.

S

Hank Moody-Californication

Hey guys,

Today I want to talk about another example of Hollywood getting it right when it comes to the factors that cause attraction.

Last week I mentioned Hank Moody in a post I wrote on Player Game. Hank Moody is played by David Duchovny on the Showtime show Californication.

Hank is a writer from New York who has a daughter with an interesting architect and then moves to Califonia where his book is turned into a horrible movie starring Tom Cruise…

Then his wife gets stolen away by a another man who wants to marry her. Something Hank refused to do…

Ok now that the plot synopsis part of our show is over we can move on to what makes Hank attractive to women.

Now obviously because it’s a TV show the actual realism of the pick up scenes in Californication are on par with the realism of the shark from Jaws.

But there are things that Hank does consistently that are applicable in the real world.

One of the first ones is the way he always makes sexualized jokes in a ( And I shudder when I write this) Cocky Funny way. Hank always interacts with women humorously and flirty. Whether he’s asking Karen(The baby momma) about whether or not she’s gushing down there or telling her that she can’t run off and marry some other guy after banging him.

He’s always pushing sexual topics mixed in with humor. CJ noticed once when he was hanging out with Brent of DYD fame that he does a similar thing.

Another thing about Hank is he’s not afraid to sexually escalate. It’s hysterical when he tries to kiss Karen during the first season in front of her then fiancée. He always goes for the kiss with his estranged ex. And eventually it works.

Another thing to emulate from Hank is his complete love and respect for women. When he sees a woman being verbally abused a car over he intervenes. When a guy calls Karen a cunt at a charity event he beats the guy up after Bill the fiancée does nothing.

Lastly Hank never takes anything too seriously he’s always ready to make a joke even in the most dire of situations. An attitude like that goes a long way when interacting with women.

I highly recommend you guys check out the first season of Californication especially. It’s great. Season 2 kinda blows unfortunately.

S

P.S To learn how you can get attraction naturally check out the Natural Attraction DVD at www.Sinnsofattraction.com/naturalattractiondvd

New Podcast!

Here's The latest Podcast.

I talk about Dating Younger girls, Personality vs Character, Working too much to get laid and more...

http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%207.mp3

S

Common Female Thoughts Part 1

Hey guys,

This is going to be a new running feature on the blog called Common Female Thoughts.

As someone who claims to know a lot about female psychology and how women think, I wanted to take some time to explain a couple common thoughts among particularly beautiful women that us as guys may not realize.

Because I like In10se spend the majority of my time around women, I wanted to share a few of the things I’ve learned through hours of long conversations over dinners, pillows, pool time, and late night phone calls.

The first one I want to talk about is the idea that particularly beautiful women know that they both intimidate and arouse most men.

The intimidation factor is key.

Particularly beautiful women are very aware of their power over men. They know that most men can’t stand up to them, they know that most men will give in to their emotional whims, and will bend over backwards for the chance to sleep with her.

I remember a conversation I had on a plane with a girl with two girls who guys would call “10s” they had actually just hosted an event and it turns out one was a playmate and the other a DJ.

One of the things the tall one said to me stands out, we were talking and she kept breaking my frames. Finally in frustration I said something about her being difficult. She responded by saying something like. I think it’s just a hot girl thing, I don’t really feel the need to qualify myself ever. If people don’t like me that ‘s their problem because I know most guys are going to like me. Most guys are scared of me anyway so if I’m even a little nice I can get what I want. Later on she was telling me how her boyfriend blows her off to workout. Probably not a coincidence.

It can be very powerful to talk to girls about how they usually intimidate guys but you see the real them beyond the looks. As well as act like you’re not affected in any way by her looks. Which can be much harder than it sounds with girls who look like they stepped out of a music video or some other type of video ☺

S

Lessons Learned From The Rock Of Love Bus...

I finally got cable again when I moved , and so I’ve caught up on a lot of bad reality TV lately.

I don’t know why I watch certain bad shows. Part of me watches them because I’m fascinated by the depths people will sink to. Part of me watches it because it makes me feel much better about being myself. And part of me watches them the way people always talk about watching train wrecks. It’s horrible, it’s ugly and it’s riveting at the same time.

Of the shows I’ve really made a point to tivo since I got interested in Dating Science, the best ones have been Average Joes (Amazing when they sent in a boat of super good looking guys to compete after the guys thought they would all just be average) A Shot At Love With Tila Tequila ( Also known as the low self esteem Olympics).

I’ve just started watching The Rock Of Love Bus this season. That’s right the show starring washed up former Poison front man Brett Michaels. Who also had a sex tape with Pam Anderson.

Watching shows like this and the equally entertaining For The Love of Ray J, I like to look for attitudinal clues on the parts of the guys involved. Now I know much of the shows are scripted, yada, yada, yada… But you can still see a lot of the bleifs and attitudes these guys have towards women, sex and relationships.

One of the things I’ve noticed with Brett Michaels is his complete comfort with having multiple girls. This goes beyond the theories espoused by Zan that to a natural seducer “ They are all his girls”. Brett Michaels truly believes he deserves to have multiple girls. Now granted having been a rock star for almost 30 years and having groupies has no doubt helped him get to this thinking.

But can it be emulated without the 30 year river of vagina?

I think it can, one of the best things I’ve gotten out of the community is the idea that the way you think about things and your beliefs shape your life.

A lot of guys have really unhealthy and unproductive beliefs about women sex and relationships. In addition they have a lot of beliefs that conflict and cause a lot of internal friction. This is what happens with approach anxiety. Parts of you want to approach that beautiful girl you see on the street. But other parts of you don’t want to experience rejection or are afraid of what other people are going to think, or worry that you’re not going to know what to say.

So while it’s always good to strive for helpful beliefs, you have to remember the idea that beliefs do not have to be true to be helpful. In fact many of the best guys with women have delusional self confidence.

Watching Brett Michaels you can see his complete belief in his right to have beautiful women from his making out with both girls he brings on a date right in front of each other to his complete confidence in telling the visiting former boyfriends of girls on the bus that they’re girls got pulled…

I’d say it’s definitely worth an hour to see it.

Sundays on VH1.

S

Player Game Part 3: Quirkiness

Welcome back to the blog that has it all, intrigue, suspense, humor, extra Ns…

Today’s Friday and we’re wrapping up The Player Game series with what I consider the lynch pin to avoiding the dreaded “player vibe” that prevents guys from building attraction in this unique way.

That is quirkiness.

One of the things that I notice with girls that I hook up with is that while they understand that girls like me and I understand girls, but they feel like they’re unique for liking me when I’m this open and unapologetically different from other guys who approach girls.

When being quirky it’s important to remember the idea of self amusement. Over the years, I’ve done things like talk about my huge cock, discuss V for Vendetta for 20 minutes, explain why Batman actually always kicks Superman’s ass in the comics, explain why Sex and The City has the best characterization on TV, talked about my family’s bizarre habit of raising grievances at the holidays. I’ve even discussed the individual rivalries in tennis and successfully seduced girls that night.

You have to be really into what you’re talking about while you’re talking about it. You also need to be able to make the subject interesting to women, this means using lots of emotional language, explaining why you like or don’t like things. Giving a different viewpoint from the commonly accepted one and presenting your reasons. Anything that you’re really passionate about will transfer and help you attract women.

Actually let me back track, you can’t talk about LITERALLY anything. Though I have seen girls get seduced by talk of shit, and eating abortions, most people’s personalities are not going to enable them to get away with it. You want to stay away from gross stuff, bodily functions, anything judgemental, boring subjects that women have no interest or commonalities with. It’s also important to put the focus on individual relationships even if they’re between you and inanimate objects. I often refer to my relationship with my car as an abusive relationship. It breaks down on me and I love it. You should also look for ways to relate it to the things she’s told you about herself. Especially if you can build the frame that you’re both weird. But that’s another post in itself.

I’ve written before about quirkiness here :

http://sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com/2007/10/quirkiness.html

But recognize that weird commonalities and finding a way to connect with her on a less used/likely way is the key to Player Game.

S

Player Game Part 2: Lack Of Remorse

Welcome back to the Sinn’s Of Attraction Class Room where knowledge is dropped.

I’ve been really racking my brain to figure out why I’m abloe to get away with all of the various ridiculousnesses I get away with. Part of it is how much I’m not afraid to make it obvious in subtle and not so subtle ways to girls that I get laid.

Today I want to talk about why I do this and why it’s attractive.

One of the things I’ve noticed in students is when they start getting more girls or dating multiple girls at the same time, they tend to have some remorse about it. Especially if they aren’t being honest about their intentions.

I don’t have this issue. I’ve worked very hard to get rid of as much of my sexual judgementalism as is humanly possible. I don’t feel bad that I sometimes sleep with 2 different girls a day. I don’t feel bad when I have a one night stand. I don’t think sex is wrong, or dirty or wrong. I also don’t feel that you need to attach emotions to sex, or make it mean something other than a physical thing.

I express that to girls early on.

Now obviously, you can’t just come out and say it, but what you can do is allude to things with open loops until girls ask.

One of the ways I do this is through discussing group sex. I always say something like

“ Every guy thinks threesomes and group sex are fun, til your girlfriend shows up at your place at 5 AM with 5 strippers.”

Girls are always intrigued by this.

Now this is a true story, I did date a stripper who used to bring girls home. One night she did show up with 5 girls and I slep on the couch.

Notice this story is not me bragging about banging 5 girls, it actually ends with me not getting laid. But I demonstrate some important characteristics. Girls want to bang me and bring girls for me, I’m not sexually judgmental, and it’s a funny story.

I also will show girls where other girls have bite me or given me hickeys.

Last weekend I was talking to a girl and complained about shoulder pain, when she asked why I showed her the crazy bite marks the law student I’m seeing left me. I ended up making out with the new girl 10 minutes later.

I will often even tell girls that I’m fairly promiscuious. I’ll tell them that in my life it’s not uncommon to meet a lot of really cool, beautiful women and that sex is just gymnastics.

The point is, in order to run player game you have to be completely unrepentant about your womanizing, any explanation or attempt to make it sound like something noble or unique.

This also demonstrates emotional integrity. When girls meet me, they know what I am. If I try to explain that I’m not a player and she is special, I lose the girl. If I act like it’s no big deal and I qualify properly, I never have problems. Including retention and avoidance of the define the relationship talk.

S

Player Game Part 1: Savability

Hey guys,

I’ve been really looking at a lot of the stuff I do when I’m meeting women now. One of the things that’s been pointed out to me multiple times by people like CJ and others is how much I flaunt a promiscuious lifestyle.

I’ve heard Savoy talk a little about how he runs Player game and it got me intrigued to see how I’m actually using this.

So in getting back in the spirit of consistent high quality blog post breakdowns I’m going to write a 3 part series on what I do to convey promiscuity without getting player vibe or trust issues (AKA LMR). . I do want to note that this stuff is for somewhat advanced for use in attraction, but will not work if you don’t already get asked if you’re a player or come off as a guy girls like. If you come off as a guy who doesn’t get girls it will not work and will look SUPER try hard.

The first thing I noticed actually came from a conversation I had with my buddy Cam. He noticed that I consistently tell girls I’m a horrible person who will ruin them for all other men. Now while I consider that true, it starts one of the main themes of my game. What I like to call Savability.

Now while I love to create words for their own sake, savability refers to the idea of letting girls know that while you are a player, you have the capability to be saved. Most women have a nurturing nature that kicks in at some point if they’re attracted. This is why 35 year old guys who still think they’re bands are going to make it while they live at home, get girls.

I first noticed this characteristic in Future and El Topo. Because they are crazy artistic types, they both have a lot of emotional storms that they used to get girls to do things for them. In fact one time in Orlando ET helped me concoct a fake emotional storm to get this really hot girl to pick me up from the airport.

So I adopted this to my promiscuity. I would talk a lot about how I really do like sex with one person more and that my ex and I did crazy experimentation. Then I’ll talk about how now I’m more into just keeping things casual.

Another key tweak comes for savability comes in the form of preselection. Again I have to credit Future for seeing this in his real life. The idea is that at some point you tell a story about an ex fiancée. By showing that you at one time had the ability to commit long term, you again strengthen the girl’s resolve to save you.

Another thing that helps with savability is demonstrating a strong passion for something you haven’t accomplished yet. You’ll see almost everyone nowadays talk about demonstrating passion. However they don’t add the part about not having accomplished it yet because of your fatal flaw.

The fatal flaw was the final concept I figured out involving savability. I first noticed this when I was watching the Television show “ Californication.” That shows main character Hank Moody deserves a separate blog post of his own, but he really cemented the idea of including a fatal flaw. Mystery has often talked about vulnerability, but the fatal flaw takes it a step further. My fatal flaw actually happens to be my inability to commit or emotionally attach. Everyone has a reason that they’re not as successful, this can help you get girls. Be aware not to make it something that contradicts the major attraction switches. You don’t want your fatal flaw to be that you are a loser among men, de-selected by women and a destroyer of loved ones. Further more it shouldn’t be something that says you are not fun, confident, dominant, or interesting. When it works well it actually makes you more interesting and realistic since you don’t intimidate her once she knows what’s wrong with you.

I’ll be back at you guys tomorrow with the second part of this article: Lack of Remorse

Talk to ya soon,

S

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S

Podcast # 6- Random Thoughts

Hey guys,

In here, I discuss Polyamory, the struggle between being a player and being domestic, the grocery store and more...

http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%206.mp3

We're looking into submitting to Itunes this week, so stay tuned for that.

S

Momentum

Hey guys,

Welcome back to the blog, I've been CRAZY busy. I'm doing a ton of photography and work stuff to make sure that you guys get the best newest information out there on Dating science.

One of the biggest concepts to me when I'm out meeting girls, is the idea of momentum. Savoy was the first one I heard use the term emotional momentum. But to me there are more places you can build momentum than simply a woman's emotions.

Momentum is defined by Dictionary.com as " force or speed of movement; impetus, as of a physical object or course of events"

So how does that relate to pickup?

In pickup, momentum refers to the overall amount of positive compliance you're getting from girls on various channels of the interaction. When you're "On" you generally have a ton of momentum as EVERYTHING that could possibly go right, does. Your jokes hit and the girls touch you, you go for movement and the girls eagerly come along, if you have enough momentum occasionally girls will even suggest taking you home.

Why is Momentum so important?

Momentum is important because as you start to get positive reactions from women, you will want to build on them as quickly as possible. By utilizing the concept of momentum, you allow yourself the best possible chance of moving the interaction forward. Ideally you want to make all of your escalation attempts at the highest possible point of momentum. Momentum has been described as alternatively as buying temperature. The basic idea being that it is easiest to escalate, immediately after an emotional spike. Now this can be positive or negative as it is easier to escalate after back turns, teases, etc... But those are merely examples of techniques that spike emotions.


How can you tell you have momentum in an interaction?

You can tell you have momentum when everything seems to be working easily and smoothly. You suggest moving and the girl is into it, you suggest a bounce and she readily agrees, you tease her and she explodes laughing and grabs you. Basically when you can get away with anything and the overall emotional graph of the interaction is at a high level, you develop momentum.


How is it generated?

Momentum is generated by getting girls to comply on multiple levels. These levels are Verbal, Logistical, Physical, and frames. By consistently getting the girl to say yes to small escalations, a snowball of momentum builds that eventually leads to larger escalations.

Be aware though momentum can build in a negative way as well. If you tease a girl when she's being nice or tyring to convince you she's cool, then you can generate negative momentum where a girl will actually begin to be mean to you after it was on.

The next time you go out, try to keep an idea on what level of momentum you have either positive or negative.

Off to the Gym to play some basketball, hopefully I'll shake off some of the rust from the last month,

S

New Podcast!

Here's the new podcast, I explain why I missed The Complete Toolbox Seminar and review the Top 10 PUA break -ups..

http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%205.mp3

S

Cool Blog

I can't sleep... again.

So I'm stumbling and I came across a really cool blog.

It's called the positivity blog.

Check it out here:

http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/04/02/16-things-i-wish-they-had-taught-me-in-school/

I'm gonna add it to the sidebar too, mostly so I can check it regularly...

S

Self-Value, Inner Game and Expectations...

So I was smoking a cigarette on the corner with some crackhead today(Which was stupid because I just got over walking pneumonia) and... Actually I should explain that part first.

I really enjoy the social aspect of smoking and will have a conversation (Not about Pickup with dudes who recognize me and offer me cigarettes BTW) with almost anyone about almost anything. So today when I went to go get a delicious french sandwich, I wanted a cigarette. I had one in my car but didn't have a lighter. Enter said crackhead. And we were outside a rehab center, and he told me he was there for crack so no assumptions on my part :)

But I digress...

A hottie walked by

The crackhead couldn't even really look at her...

About 3 minutes later a GROSS druggy looking chick walked by and the Crackhead started o chat her up. It was basically a pick-up.

As I finished my cigarette and walked away, I couldn't help but start to think about what that said about the idea of self perceived value....

The same guy who didn't feel comfortable looking at a really beautiful women felt comfortable and compatible with the other crackhead...

This relates back to the idea that some girls are going to just like YOU for being YOU...

I know it's hard to believe... some of them are even VERY attractive.

Now I don't want to suggest that the crackhead would have connected with the really hot girl, but the point is that in his mind he can;t even look that girl in the eye.

I see this in a ton of students. They can't EVEN imagine a super hottie liking them... I had some of the 12M2M guys watch go-go dancers in the club and try to imagine having sex with them... They couldn't do it. It was literally " outside their reality."

Everyone of us has a self image(read Psycho-Cybernetics for an indepth explanation and exercises on working on your own self image). In that self image we have an idea of what kind of girls should like us, what kind of success with women we should have, and even what other people's reactions to us are going to be.

This self image is based on nothing other than our own opinions of ourselves ( Which as Psycho-Cybernetics tells us is often an underestimation)

All of this shows the importance of first believing that success is possible for you. Not for me, not for Mystery, not for any of us. You have to believe at a core level that you can attract and date attractive women.

Otherwise you're no better than a crackhead :)

S

Sinns Of Attraction Forum is now open!

Hey guys,

We have a forum, I will be posting there personally on a 3 x a week basis as well as doing Q and As and chats.

Be sure to sign up for it!

www.Sinnsofattraction.com/forum

See ya on there...

S

Become my friend on MySpace and Facebook Now!

I finally buckled and joined the social networking site revolution...

I did it to get a chance to have closer communication with all the guys out there struggling in the scene. Though I will also be offering special deals on products, dates for special free talks (Really free not RSD's version of free), and much, much more.

Become my friend on Myspace by going to http://www.myspace.com/sinnsofattraction

Become my Facebook friend by going to http://www.facebook.com/inbox/readmessage.php?t=1108035576150&mbox_pos=0#/profile.php?id=1163169878&ref=name

Cool, cool...

S

Episode # 4 Sinn and The Cities.

Hey guys,

Here's the link to listen to this week's Podcast.

http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%204.mp3

There's some cool stuff in this one.

S

You Might be a Douchebag If... Part 1: You Wear Sunglasses Indoors

Hey guys,

Time to use my blog as it was meant to be used in the classical sense; Talking shit.

So I decided I'd start a feature where I talk about things that might make you a douchbag.

You're not necessarily a DB if you do one or two of these things, but the more you do the more you're DB quotient climbs into the red or "Matador" zone.

So today we're talking like an 80s song as I explore the horrors of wearing your Sunglasses at Night. Or Indoors during the day.

I was on the phone with my buddy Cam earlier and we tried to think of a situation other than one recommended by a Dr where it's not uber Douchey to wear Sunglasses inside.

Not only do you make it so that people can't see your eyes, but you basically spray paint in neon block letters that you're "too cool". It's lame, as fuck.

Plus for people who wear Sunglasses when they're in a FUCKING nightclub... How do you see?
Shit, sometimes I have trouble seeing my way around clubs normally...

Also they're called Sunglasses, what kind of sun are you worried about in a nightclub?

Sunglasses.... Nightclub.....

Sun and night tend to be mutually exclusive.

When I eventually take over the world, this form of douchebaggery will be punishable by death.

S

Another lame post about a girl I have my latest crush on...

I'm sure you're all getting as sick of reading these type of posts as I am of writing them...

But I met another really awesome girl...

For some reason I'm really dialed in right now on which girls I'm going to click with right away...

And I'm meeting a lot of really really awesome girls.

I think part of that can be ascribed to a big switch to day game, but I've met some pretty awesome girls at night recently too...

And I wonder why?

What changed?

What made everything soo much easier and better all of a sudden?

I think leaving Dallas definitely helped, but I honestly think the biggest difference comes from just not thinking about game as much. I've been soo busy looking for places to live, and planning stuff, and watching Dwayne Wade's month for the ages, I haven't been thinking or talking game much at all. And my results got better, because all the other stuff I was spending energy on were things women could relate to, help out with, and suggest things for. I could actually talk about my life with girls and have them intrigued. And yes I still consistently talk to girls about sports and explain individual accomplishments... No, I won't teach you how to for free.

But this new girl is pretty amazing, She's really hot and right on the border of too tall (5-8) she's really smart and articulate and not only keeps up with me but has made me laugh out loud through text a few times... She did get me sick already though, so that's not cool.

I'm definitely thinking about her way too much(Not to mention the mutual calling/texting) which is not good when I'm only here temporarily.

It's actually somewhat disturbing to me that I keep having these really deep connections with girls where I'm not actually DOING anything specifically. I tell them what I like abou them and that I want to have sex with them... Sounds simple, but I keep creating reactions I used to have to implement Breakthrough Comfort to get...

This is starting to feel like a rambling post... So I'm gonna go take some more Dayquil and go back to bed.

S

The Joys of Dating

What's up guys ?

I'm sick as hell today...

I was super sick yesterday too, but I had my first date lined up down here and she had agreed to come over in a skirt and bring a camera... So I couldn't miss that.

So I downed a half bottle of dayquil, 6 excederin's and went out on the date.

Right after we had sex, the Dayquil wore off and I became a hacking gagging mess that couldn't sleep... So today I'm paying for my sins.

But all of that got me thinking...

I've basically quit doing night game over the last month or so. I got pretty sick of always being drunk or hung over, dealing with getting in places, annoying club people etc...

So I switched to Day Game, which also means going back to doing dates.

Don't get me wrong you can get Same Day Lays from a day time approach ( In fact I talked about it at Mehow's 10ssa program last weekend) but for the most part you're going to have go on a date from daytime approaches.

Now I used to really dislike dates, but after having taken a big break from them, I'm really into them.

First of all the extra phone and text time makes framing and teasing SOOO much easier. In fact when you add in little compliance hoops like making her wear a skirt(Credit Savoy) or bring a camera, or any number of other random things, it makes not getting laid really hard.

Second, you actually get a chance to progressively control logistics, last night I took the girl to two photography exhibits, a hookah lounge and then back to my place. By knowing where you're going and when, you can constantly know where you are.

Third you can completely avoid the surprises of SNLs and logistics.

And lastly you can start the date at your place so you're SURE to get a chance to try to escalate in a private location.

Anywhoo,

I'm off to bed,

Best,

S

Check Out My Free 7-Part Video Course!

Yo,

I just put the finishing touches on a Free 7-part video course entitled, “How To Approach And Attract The Women Of Your Dreams.” It has a lot of information on approaching and attracting beautiful women that I’m sure you’ll find very valuable.

To review Part 1, simply head over to my home page at

http://www.sinnsofattraction.com

(Note: if you're already a subscriber to my email newsletter, you do NOT need to sign up again to get the rest of the videos. You'll be getting them automatically.)

Please check out the videos and leave your comments here. I really appreciate the feedback.

Best,

Sinn

P.S. Do you know anyone else do you know who may be interested in these videos? If so, I’d appreciate it if you could send them over to http://www.sinnsofattraction.com or post the link on your blog or mention this video course on your favorite forum. Thanks.

Last Tele-Seminar Update!

Hey guys,

Less than 3 Hours until the Tele-Seminar...

We have had a last minute surge of registrations for tonight’s tele-seminar for which you are registered.

Because of this we are “oversold.” We are in the process of trying to add more lines but that might not be possible.
However, I was able to arrange to have the tele-seminar broadcasted live over the Internet. So if you are unable to get through, you can listen in here:

http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=6388356

To ensure that you get a spot for this tele-seminar, it is imperative that you call or sign in online 5 minutes early.

If you don’t, you might be locked out.

Here are the details:
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Topic:

“Five Keys for Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle in 2009”

Date: Thursday, March 5 2009

Time: 5:00 PM PST or 8:00 PM EST (You can and should call in 5 minutes early)

Phone #: 419-400-0202

Passcode: 577602# (remember to press the #!)

Live web feed: http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=6388356

Cost: Free
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Best,

Sinn

CALL TONIGHT!

Hey guys,


If you haven’t registered yet for the free teleseminar tonight at 5:00 PM Pacific time, please do so immediately, we only have a few lines left available.

Here is the original email for your convenience:

On Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time (8:00 p.m. Eastern), I am hosting a free tele-seminar and you are invited.
The topic is:

“Five Keys For Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle In 2009!”

As a very special treat, the legendary Scotty from On the Mat will be joining me on the call! He’s going to be sharing his inside secrets of for living a lifestyle that even most “Master PUAs” envy.

Here’s some of what we’ll cover:

• How to meet and seduce stunningly beautiful women without ever doing a “cold approach” ever again!

• How to easily get “VIP treatment” wherever you go!

• A step-by-step system for attracting beautiful women that eliminate any “fear of rejection” you might have!

• “How to design your life so you’re automatically meeting the type of women that YOU really want!

• How to build a life that gives you TRUE satisfaction and enjoyment no matter what you’re into!

Want to be part of this FREE teleseminar?

Go here:

http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar

Best,

Sinn

P.S. I only have 400 lines held for the teleseminar so if you want to be part of it, you must register right away. http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar

New Podcast! Plus Links that actually work for the last 2:)

Major Props to Chris from 12M2M again...

For hooking you guys up.

http://sofa.pdot.com/audio/Sinn and the Cities - 1.mp3

http://sofa.pdot.com/audio/Sinn and the Cities - 2.mp3

http://sofa.pdot.com/audio/Sinn and the Cities - 3.mp3

http://sofa.pdot.com/audio/Sinn's February Audio Mailbag.mp3

S

P.S about The Tele-Seminar!

Hey guys,

About a hundred guys have emailed me, telling me that the have gotten an error notice when they tried to sign up for the Tele-Seminar registration page.

This is normal.

All it means is that you are ALREADY on my list.

You can still call in to the number that has been both emailed and posted several times.

Just in case, here it is again...

Phone #: 419-400-0202 (be sure to call in 5 minutes early!)

Access Code: 577602# (remember to press the #!)

See ya guys on there!

S

Is 60 Minutes Really Enough Time?

Hey,

Since I announced this teleseminar, a few people have asked me whether 60 minutes is really enough time to learn how to design your ultimate lifestyle for 2009.

I understand the skepticism. So I'd I thought you might be interested in what a student of mine, Xander, who saw me speak at an event last year had to say:

"Let me just say that Sinn has got to be the most knowledgeable person in the community. The guy is fucking ridiculous. He was so insightful when people asked questions; he knew exactly what the issues were and how to fix them, even with super limited information. Someone asked a question about gaming at the airport and he actually had a whole system for it. I bet he could get laid at an abortion clinic.”

There are still a few lines left for my free teleseminar,

"Five Keys for Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle in 2009"

It's happening tomorrow, Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. PST

You can get all the details and register right now by going to:
www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar

(Remember, there is no charge for this teleseminar!)

Sinn

P.S. Below is the original e-mail, just in case you missed it.
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On Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time (8:00 p.m. Eastern), I am hosting a free tele-seminar and you are invited.

The topic is:

“Five Keys For Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle In 2009!”

As a very special treat, the legendary Scotty from On the Mat will be joining me on the call! He’s going to be sharing his inside secrets of for living a lifestyle that even most “Master PUAs” envy.

Here’s some of what we’ll cover:

• How to meet and seduce stunningly beautiful women without ever doing a “cold approach” ever again!

• How to easily get “VIP treatment” wherever you go!

• A step-by-step system for attracting beautiful women that eliminate any “fear of rejection” you might have!

• “How to design your life so you’re automatically meeting the type of women that YOU really want!

• How to build a life that gives you TRUE satisfaction and enjoyment no matter what you’re into!

Want to be part of this FREE teleseminar?

Go here:

http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar

Best,

Sinn

P.S. I only have 400 lines held for the teleseminar so if you want to be part of it, you must register right away. http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar

Update on Tele-Seminar!

Hey guys,

The lines for this call filled up the day after I announced it, so I doubled the capacity. If you still want to join and haven’t registered yet, I have about 25 spots left.
--Sinn
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On Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time (8:00 p.m. Eastern), I am hosting a free tele-seminar and you are invited. The topic is:

“Five Keys For Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle In 2009!”

As a very special treat, the legendary Scotty from On the Mat will be joining me on the call! He’s going to be sharing his inside secrets for living a lifestyle that even most “Master PUAs” envy.

Here’s some of what we’ll cover:

• How to meet and seduce stunningly beautiful women without ever doing a “cold approach” ever again!

• How to easily get “VIP treatment” wherever you go!

• A step-by-step system for attracting beautiful women that eliminates any “fear of rejection” you might have!

• “How to design your life so you’re automatically meeting the type of women that YOU really want!

• How to build a life that gives you TRUE satisfaction and enjoyment no matter what you’re into!

Want to be part of this FREE teleseminar? Go here:
http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar

Best,

Sinn

P.S. I only have 400 lines held for the teleseminar so if you want to be part of it, you must register right away. http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar

Lifestyle Part 3: The People You Know

Hey guys,

It's a beautiful day in my(new) neighborhood. So go ahead, get comfortable and I'll talk to you guys about the MOST important resource when it comes to building a lifestyle.

The People You Know.

No matter what kind of lifestyle you want to live, you are going to need to surround yourself with like minded people.

If you want to establish a club social circle, that means getting to know promoters, doormen, bouncers, bartenders, etc...

If you want to meet women through your yoga class, it means meeting and befriending the most social people in the class.

If you're still in college or high school, it means making friends with "The popular kids."

No matter what goals you've mapped out for yourself lifestyle wise, you need to meet the right people to make it happen.

So how does one go about doing that?

It's actually not as difficult as you think.

1. Identify who you want to meet. This part should be common sense enough that I don't have to write it, but I'll do it anyway. Figure out who you need to meet first. I personally keep a list of people I want to meet, ranging from the manager at my local strip club to Bill Simmons.

2. Offer Value FIRST! This is something I learned directly from Scotty of OTM.com. It's also the major mistake guys make when they're trying to "network". Most guys teaching social circle game focus on what the other people can do for you. This is a nice way of thinking short term, but often doesn't lead to long term friendships or great "hookups". One of the things Scotty ALWAYS does is see if he can help the people he needs help from first. This can be as simple as bringing female friends with you to the club and introducing them to the promoter. It can mean offering to help someone with something you have more knowledge about, or sharing a connection you have to help them. The point is much like a cold approach, you ALWAYS want to give value first.

3. Maintain contact in a NON needy way. Another mistake I've seen in some unnamed social circle programs being taught out there, is the idea of maintaining contact. You don't want to always be the guy asking to get "hooked up" or only phone, or text when you want something. Make sure that you keep in contact with all the people in your phone on a regular basis. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate, a simple text a few times a week often is more than enough. Also if someone has just done you a favor, be sure to text a thank you. People appreciate these small gratitudes.

4. Invite Everyone Everywhere. This means that you make it a point to go out of your way to invite people places. This is huge in building a social circle. So many people want others to lead and plan things out, so they can just show up. Be the exception to this rule, by always having something to invite people to. A promoter friend of mine in Dallas will often send out invites to private dinners and lunches, just to keep in touch. It doesn't matter if 1 person shows up or 20. If you keep planning things and networking, people will show.

5. Have female friends. This is a huge one. I know that a lot of guys reading this haven't gotten laid in a REALLY long time, and the idea of hanging out with an attractive woman and not making a move, sounds worse than tortue. Do it anyway. Girls make EVERY situation more fun and more enticing for everyone. By having girls around, other girls will be more likely to come by, cool guys will want to hang out etc... Everyone should make3-5 ATTRACTIVE female friends.

That wraps up today's post, be sure to be back soon for the conclusion.

S

Free Lifestyle Tele-Seminar This Thursday

Hey guys,

On Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time (8:00 p.m. Eastern), I am hosting a free tele-seminar and you are invited. The topic is:

“Five Keys For Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle In 2009!”

As a very special treat, the legendary Scotty from On the Mat will be joining me on the call! He’s going to be sharing his inside secrets of for living a lifestyle that even most “Master PUAs” envy.

Here’s some of what we’ll cover:

• How to meet and seduce stunningly beautiful women without ever doing a “cold approach” ever again!

• How to easily get “VIP treatment” wherever you go!

• A step-by-step system for attracting beautiful women that eliminate any “fear of rejection” you might have!

• “How to design your life so you’re automatically meeting the type of women that YOU really want!

• How to build a life that gives you TRUE satisfaction and enjoyment no matter what you’re into!

Want to be part of this FREE teleseminar? Go here:

http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar

Best,

Sinn

P.S. I only have 400 lines held for the teleseminar so if you want to be part of it, you must register right away. http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar