Happy Monday Morning to all of you out there, especially the haters :)
I'm really happy that this five part series is being so well received by everyone. One little nit picky thing. The title of the show is Sex And The City, not Sex In The City, not Sex On The City. Sex And The City or SATC.
Ok, now let's move on to the next guy from the show we can learn from; Aidan Shaw.
Aidan first meets Aidan in Season 3 episode 35: No Ifs, Ands or Butts. She goes down to his furniture store to meet him after seeing an article on him in the paper. Aidan's first plus is that he is somewhat aristic as well as able to do things with his hands. Both of these traits are attractive to women. Anything you can show a girl that conveys that you see the world in a creative,artistic way is a positive. In fact, it's something everyone should try to do. this doesn't mean you have to go out and buy a paint by numbers set or learn the guitar. Instead it means that you need to figure out how you can bring creativity and beauty to the mundane things in your life. As some of the routine stacks I've been making recently can attest to, you can make anything sound artsy, even computer programming. It's also very masculine to be able to fix things around the house or create things with your bare hands. Masculinity is one of the 4 cornerstones of my new model for Natural Attraction.
Aidan's second big plus comes when he tells Carrie he can't date a smoker. Here he demonstrates personal boundaries and standards. Instead of being taken aback by a somewhat unreasonable request, Carrie tries to quit smoking cold turkey. This demonstrates the incredible power of setting boundaries and having rules. One of the things I always do with women is give them my rules. Now granted, some of these are made up as I go along, but for the most part they are things I won't tolerate on a date, a one night stand or a relationship. Guys often wonder why jerks get women. The reason is NOT that the jerk's rude, anti-social behavior is attractive, it's that jerks and naturals tend to be selfish and impose their own rules, standards and values on an interaction with women. Aidan does this here and if you've ever come off "too nice" you need to do the same,
Aidan also controls the pace of physical escalation. In fact there's a whole episode where Carrie freaks out because Aidan hasn't tried to sleep with her after 3 whole dates. Now while my own dating philosophy is diametrically opposed to waiting for sex. The reason being that until sex happens, I truly do believe you're dealing with a girl's representative, not her. But Aidan decides he wants to wait because he's sick of being single and things don't seem to work for him when he rushes. It's super important that you take control of physical escalation. Even if you're making girls wait. As men we are responsible for any steps forward, as well as the pacing, and timing of any escalation.
Unfortunately Aidan has one BIG problem. Pun intended. Because like Steve he pushes the relationship faster than it's ready to go. Carrie ends up having a 3 week affair with Mr Big. It's even foreshadowed in the show when Aidan asks Carrie to meet his parents and Carrie realizes that she's acting aloof and Aidan is acting like she did with Big. Women are not attracted to needy men, even if they really like them. This is why taking your time in a relationship is the BEST advice I could give guys out there. Don't be in too big of a rush to hit any milestones. Your relationships will go better when the girl is pushing things forward. It's our job to push things forward physically and then to keep seeing the girl casually until she wants to make things more serious. Remember what we obtain too easily, we esteem too lightly.
This all boils to a head at Charlotte's first wedding and Carrie and Aidan break up for the first time. But it won't be the last...
After cheating on him and breaking his heart once, Carrie decides she wants Aidan back. It all starts because of a bar named Scout that Aidan co-owns with the subject of our first breakdown Steve. How they met and decided to go into business together, never really gets discussed. Anyway Carrie arranges a group date so that Miranda can be her saftey net. After the date and Aidan telling her he can't be in a relationship with her again. He takes her back. The lesson here is to stick to your intuition about women. If a girl hurts you really badly once, chances are she will do it again down the line. A lot of guys get trapped by their own emotions into thinking that they belong with one girl, or that eventually their girlfriend or wife will change. The unfortunate truth is that you can't change people until they're ready to change.
Immediately after they're back together Mr Big calls while they're having sex. Awkward. Then Aidan blows Carrie off to "hang out with the guys". Carrie shows up to surprise him, only to find him flirting with a waitress at the bar. This is a stupid thing Aidan does. If you're in a relationship or on a date and a girl does something you don't like, don't punish her by flirting with other girls. It just looks petty. Instead actaully talk about what's bothering you. One of the reasons I never seem to have problems managing between 3-10 girls all the time, is that I talk about the problems I have with girls when I have them. I don't let things fester. I'm a big believer in openness and honesty with women. Not playing stupid games to make them feel bad.
The final death knoll for Aidan and Carrie comes later, starting in Episode 60 where Carrie finds her building going co-op. Aidan offers to buy the place and move in and when he does Carrie finds a very ugly engagement ring. This leads her to very sanely vomit. One of the reasons I love SATC, is scenes like that one. Carrie is the first heroine of a TV show who isn't perfect. In fact Carrie may be the most realistic woman on TV. Except for the fact that she never exercises during any of the 6 seasons and has a 6 pack... Point is most women have weird emotional reactions like this, from time to time. It's not crazy it's just women :) Again Aidan makes the mistake of pushing things forward, just because. Eventually Carrie actually says yes to the engagement. And that's where Aidan gets the final wound of the series.
This happens in Episode 63. After a charity fundraiser, Aidan tries to get Carrie to marry him that night. Because he says " He wants the whole world to know she's his." Carrie realizes that he still doesn't trust her and he realizes that she doesn't want to get married. This is actually one of the more realistic breakups on TV. There wasn't some crazy lover running in making some grand romantic gesture, there wasn't a "break" or a lack of love. It was simply two people who weren't right for each other. Which is what usually happens in real life. Even if people are in love. That's one of the things that the world doesn't like to talk about. The idea that even if you're good with women, or attractive, or smart, charming and all around amazing like myself :) You're not always going to be right for the person you're dating, meeting in a bar or sleeping with. And that's ok. There's something like 6 billion people on Earth there's more than enough people you can be happy with to try to make things work with someone you're not happy with. And that's the lesson of Aidan Shaw.
Next time, we'll be talking about Trey Mcdougal and male sexual issues.
S
Monday, January 19, 2009
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Bad Dates- Warning This Is A Rant!
I've been bottling up this rant since Tuesday when I went on probably the worst date ever. I had been on a really bad date before I left for Australia with this girl who measured the salt content of food for a living. I had thought that was bad. Until Tues.
This girl barely spoke, tried to be cocky everytime I teased her, seemed like she wasn't paying attention when I was talking, didn't understand anything and was a bad kisser... It was like torture.
Midway through I actually downloaded and used an Iphone app that lets you call yourself.
I ended a date that started at 6PM at 8PM and then went out with another girl I'm already seeing... Fuck.
It really reminded me that dating is a skill in and of itself and just because a girl's been on a lot of dates doesn't mean that she's going to be interesting or good on them. Furthermore when guys who are pussies take girls like this out(she models at car shows like Tila Tequila used to), they let them act badly and continue to dote on them. I called her on it repeatedly and then faked a phone call to get away. Overall it's just amazing that a girl with this personality ever gets a second date Never underestimate the power of male sexual desperation, I guess...
S
This girl barely spoke, tried to be cocky everytime I teased her, seemed like she wasn't paying attention when I was talking, didn't understand anything and was a bad kisser... It was like torture.
Midway through I actually downloaded and used an Iphone app that lets you call yourself.
I ended a date that started at 6PM at 8PM and then went out with another girl I'm already seeing... Fuck.
It really reminded me that dating is a skill in and of itself and just because a girl's been on a lot of dates doesn't mean that she's going to be interesting or good on them. Furthermore when guys who are pussies take girls like this out(she models at car shows like Tila Tequila used to), they let them act badly and continue to dote on them. I called her on it repeatedly and then faked a phone call to get away. Overall it's just amazing that a girl with this personality ever gets a second date Never underestimate the power of male sexual desperation, I guess...
S
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Can You Really Seduce A Stranger in 6 Minutes?
Hey guys,
Wanted to drop you a quick line today to talk about what's possible.
When I first got started in The Secret Underground Internet Seduction Community, I thought it was really difficult just to start a conversation with a stranger. Well 6 years later things are a little different, and I want to share this story from Vegas with everyone, not to brag, but to show you that ANYTHING is possible. Even consistent 6 minute seductions.
As many of you may know, I made the horrible decision to stay in Vegas for 4 days in between my first two 12 Months To Mastery bootcamps.(To learn why this was a bad idea check out my blog post on The Vegas Tipping point at http://sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com/2009/01/vegas-tipping-point.html ) Well Tuesday night Priest and I decided to hit the best party in town. Pure at Caesar's Palace. At Pure I did a number of approaches and nothing was going that well. Priest and I had a 2 set going but my girl was being way too ADD and she wasn't hot enough to get away with it :) So at around 2:30, I decide if we're going to keep gaming, we should be gaming at our hotel.
That's lesson number 1 for those of you looking to get laid fast! Know your logistics and keep them as favorable as possible. It's much harder to pull a girl from a club to a different hotel. If you can just go up an elevator, the pull becomes much easier.
So we head back to The Hard Rock. The Circle Bar was actually fairly lively for a Tuesday at 3 AM. There were a few sets and I start to look for girls who look bored, sexual, or like they want to trade up. Girls often settle for guys earlier in the night and then decide they don't like them later on. I want to find those girls. What I do to find these girls is make a rotation of the bar. However, you don't want it to look like you're "on the prowl" so you have to make a confused face like you're looking for a friend of yours. This is key to retaining social value.
The next part of super fast lays, is eye contact. You want to make searing, burning eye contact with as many girls as possible. Just make sure you still keep a smile on your face. You're looking for one of two responses. You want to approach girls who quickly break eye contact by looking down. This is a sign of sexual submission. Or you want to find girls who look away and then look back. There was a group of 3 hotties and as I was walking by, the blonde looked at me and then looked back as I walked by. I take an extra step, check my phone just cause I'm procrastinating and walk over.
I want to mention the next key point for super fast lays. Fashion and stereotyping. I was wearing a black pinstriped blazer with zippers all over it. Under that I had on a T-shirt I found in Australia with Sienna Miller flipping the bird topless, a pair of True Religion distressed jeans and my old school New Rocks. There's nothing spectacular about the outfit but it stands out without being weird. As usual I was the best dressed guy in the venue and the girls notice. If you don't get stared at or opened because of your fashion, you're doing something wrong. There are tons of great resources out there from style.com, to kinowear.com. There's no excuse for bad style, or not having an overall theme/stereotype to your look. Gone are the days when we can pretend fashion and presentation doesn't matter to getting laid. It does matter, and it's fully within your control.
After the eye contact I walked back over and said "hi" the girl immediately started telling me that she worked as a cocktail waitress at Treasure Island, she never goes out, and she's only here cause her brother's girlfriend(The Asian girl to her left) dragged her out. This is what's known as her qualifying herself to me off the opener. I now know she's attracted, it's 3 AM and she's with her brother's girlfriend. All signs are go, for the 10 minute lay. Then she asks me if I'm gay.
I get the gay thing once or twice a week, it's not a horrible problem as it allows me to escalate super fast. I say " I'm not gay and I'll prove it. Close your eyes." and then I kiss her. She practically sucks my face off. So I decide it's super on, and I'm gonna go for the 5 minute pull. I say " What are you guys up to right now?" She responds that they're waiting for her brother. I say "cool, shit I forgot my cigarettes upstairs. I'm gonna go get them." She starts to freak out her that I'm leaving, which is exactly what I wanted. this is a very subtle use of a take-away. Here I use it to gain emotional momentum to get her to come upstairs with me. She says " no, don't go! We'll get one down here." I say " Naw I only smoke Marlboro's, come upstairs with me to grab em. We'll be back before your brother gets here." She asks her friends if they're cool with that and away we go. Here, I just create some excuse for plausible deniability. As you can see it wasn't even that good of an excuse. But it worked.
Meet to elevator 3 minutes.
In the Elevator I ramp arousal. This is another key to quickies. I slam the girl against the wall, makeout with her and feel her up. Then as soon as we get to floor 4, I walk out of the elevator fast. This is a HUGE sexual push/pull. She gets aroused and starts to feel good and then it's gone. We get into the room and I throw her on the bed and pin her arms above her head. I go for the boobs then she says " When are you gonna fuck me? Before or after we smoke a cigarette? I laugh and we have sex. I look at the clock as I'm inside her and it's literally 6 minutes from when I checked my phone before going into the set.
I never would have imagined this was possible 6 years ago. But these situations happen to me all the time now. And they can happen to you too. The lesson to take out of this is not just controlling logistics in your favor, using eye contact to screen approaches, or ramping arousal as you're pulling. The real idea is that results like this are possible. A lot of times we read things like the "7 hour rule" or a girl tells us she doesn't sleep with guys right away and we get discouraged. The truth is seductions like this happen all over the world EVERY night of the week. It's just up to you to get out there and make it happen.
Til next time,
S
Wanted to drop you a quick line today to talk about what's possible.
When I first got started in The Secret Underground Internet Seduction Community, I thought it was really difficult just to start a conversation with a stranger. Well 6 years later things are a little different, and I want to share this story from Vegas with everyone, not to brag, but to show you that ANYTHING is possible. Even consistent 6 minute seductions.
As many of you may know, I made the horrible decision to stay in Vegas for 4 days in between my first two 12 Months To Mastery bootcamps.(To learn why this was a bad idea check out my blog post on The Vegas Tipping point at http://sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com/2009/01/vegas-tipping-point.html ) Well Tuesday night Priest and I decided to hit the best party in town. Pure at Caesar's Palace. At Pure I did a number of approaches and nothing was going that well. Priest and I had a 2 set going but my girl was being way too ADD and she wasn't hot enough to get away with it :) So at around 2:30, I decide if we're going to keep gaming, we should be gaming at our hotel.
That's lesson number 1 for those of you looking to get laid fast! Know your logistics and keep them as favorable as possible. It's much harder to pull a girl from a club to a different hotel. If you can just go up an elevator, the pull becomes much easier.
So we head back to The Hard Rock. The Circle Bar was actually fairly lively for a Tuesday at 3 AM. There were a few sets and I start to look for girls who look bored, sexual, or like they want to trade up. Girls often settle for guys earlier in the night and then decide they don't like them later on. I want to find those girls. What I do to find these girls is make a rotation of the bar. However, you don't want it to look like you're "on the prowl" so you have to make a confused face like you're looking for a friend of yours. This is key to retaining social value.
The next part of super fast lays, is eye contact. You want to make searing, burning eye contact with as many girls as possible. Just make sure you still keep a smile on your face. You're looking for one of two responses. You want to approach girls who quickly break eye contact by looking down. This is a sign of sexual submission. Or you want to find girls who look away and then look back. There was a group of 3 hotties and as I was walking by, the blonde looked at me and then looked back as I walked by. I take an extra step, check my phone just cause I'm procrastinating and walk over.
I want to mention the next key point for super fast lays. Fashion and stereotyping. I was wearing a black pinstriped blazer with zippers all over it. Under that I had on a T-shirt I found in Australia with Sienna Miller flipping the bird topless, a pair of True Religion distressed jeans and my old school New Rocks. There's nothing spectacular about the outfit but it stands out without being weird. As usual I was the best dressed guy in the venue and the girls notice. If you don't get stared at or opened because of your fashion, you're doing something wrong. There are tons of great resources out there from style.com, to kinowear.com. There's no excuse for bad style, or not having an overall theme/stereotype to your look. Gone are the days when we can pretend fashion and presentation doesn't matter to getting laid. It does matter, and it's fully within your control.
After the eye contact I walked back over and said "hi" the girl immediately started telling me that she worked as a cocktail waitress at Treasure Island, she never goes out, and she's only here cause her brother's girlfriend(The Asian girl to her left) dragged her out. This is what's known as her qualifying herself to me off the opener. I now know she's attracted, it's 3 AM and she's with her brother's girlfriend. All signs are go, for the 10 minute lay. Then she asks me if I'm gay.
I get the gay thing once or twice a week, it's not a horrible problem as it allows me to escalate super fast. I say " I'm not gay and I'll prove it. Close your eyes." and then I kiss her. She practically sucks my face off. So I decide it's super on, and I'm gonna go for the 5 minute pull. I say " What are you guys up to right now?" She responds that they're waiting for her brother. I say "cool, shit I forgot my cigarettes upstairs. I'm gonna go get them." She starts to freak out her that I'm leaving, which is exactly what I wanted. this is a very subtle use of a take-away. Here I use it to gain emotional momentum to get her to come upstairs with me. She says " no, don't go! We'll get one down here." I say " Naw I only smoke Marlboro's, come upstairs with me to grab em. We'll be back before your brother gets here." She asks her friends if they're cool with that and away we go. Here, I just create some excuse for plausible deniability. As you can see it wasn't even that good of an excuse. But it worked.
Meet to elevator 3 minutes.
In the Elevator I ramp arousal. This is another key to quickies. I slam the girl against the wall, makeout with her and feel her up. Then as soon as we get to floor 4, I walk out of the elevator fast. This is a HUGE sexual push/pull. She gets aroused and starts to feel good and then it's gone. We get into the room and I throw her on the bed and pin her arms above her head. I go for the boobs then she says " When are you gonna fuck me? Before or after we smoke a cigarette? I laugh and we have sex. I look at the clock as I'm inside her and it's literally 6 minutes from when I checked my phone before going into the set.
I never would have imagined this was possible 6 years ago. But these situations happen to me all the time now. And they can happen to you too. The lesson to take out of this is not just controlling logistics in your favor, using eye contact to screen approaches, or ramping arousal as you're pulling. The real idea is that results like this are possible. A lot of times we read things like the "7 hour rule" or a girl tells us she doesn't sleep with guys right away and we get discouraged. The truth is seductions like this happen all over the world EVERY night of the week. It's just up to you to get out there and make it happen.
Til next time,
S
Funny...
I got way more offended at someone daring to compare MJ to Kobe than at the same guy telling me I knew nothing about basketball.
I'll take knowing nothing about ball, but I know my MJ.
And if I were the anonymous poster I'd be worried about ducking lightning for speaking ill of the G.O.A.T.
Just saying...
Avoid metal poles Anonymous.
S
By the way if you want to leave sports comments they're better on my SPORTS blog
Here I have a new post up on the title games this weekend.
I'll take knowing nothing about ball, but I know my MJ.
And if I were the anonymous poster I'd be worried about ducking lightning for speaking ill of the G.O.A.T.
Just saying...
Avoid metal poles Anonymous.
S
By the way if you want to leave sports comments they're better on my SPORTS blog
Here I have a new post up on the title games this weekend.
No, you're just an Idiot!
So I got this comment on my vicious and correct post about Kobe a few days ago.
"Dude. You know absolutely nothing about real basketball. You're just finding excuses to hate on Kobe because you hate Kobe.
If Kobe takes a shot while being double-teamed and he misses, everyone brands him as a selfish player. "Why didn't he pass to an open Trevor Ariza?!" And if he makes it, people like you would still be crying, "What a horrible shot! Trevor was open; why didn't he pass? He's so selfish!"
It's your frame of mind to hate on the dude no matter what. Kobe is the best. Look at the level of shooting guards Michael Jordan played against. Name five guys of similar caliber as MJ that played a similar position as him while he played in his prime. Looking up names on Google? Still can't find those names, I bet. Now look at the caliber of players Kobe goes up against night in and night out. Almost every team in the NBA has a high scoring shooting guard now who are better and more physical. Kobe's better than MJ. Get over it."
Well allow me to retort.
Off the top of my head I've got Joe Dumars, Clyde Drexler, Sydney Moncrief(The 2nd Best perimeter defender of all time after MJ) Dennis Johnson(probably 3rd best) Reggie Miller, The Boston Strangler Andrew Toney, Byron Scott, An injury free Ron Harper, Derek Harper in Dallas, Kiki Vandwheghe in Denver(who once scored 56 points in a game). And that's just shooting guards. You add in that Jordan played and dominated the unquestionable golden era of NBA hoops, by winning the MVP, All Star game MVP, scoring title, and defensive player of the year in 87-88 while Bird, Magic, Isiah, Wilkins, Olajuwon, Ewing, were all in or near their primes, and I think the case for Kobe playing in a more difficult era evaporates.
I will now be writing and posting a definitive article on why MJ is a gazillion times better with Kobe. Hint it will start with the fact that MJ was never blown out in a deciding FINALS game by 39 pts. Especially not by a team led by such front runners as Kevin Garnett, Paul Pierce and Ray Allen. Also included in there will be the idea that MJ was 6-0 in finals appearences while Kobe is 3-2.
Don't worry the storm is coming moron.
S
"Dude. You know absolutely nothing about real basketball. You're just finding excuses to hate on Kobe because you hate Kobe.
If Kobe takes a shot while being double-teamed and he misses, everyone brands him as a selfish player. "Why didn't he pass to an open Trevor Ariza?!" And if he makes it, people like you would still be crying, "What a horrible shot! Trevor was open; why didn't he pass? He's so selfish!"
It's your frame of mind to hate on the dude no matter what. Kobe is the best. Look at the level of shooting guards Michael Jordan played against. Name five guys of similar caliber as MJ that played a similar position as him while he played in his prime. Looking up names on Google? Still can't find those names, I bet. Now look at the caliber of players Kobe goes up against night in and night out. Almost every team in the NBA has a high scoring shooting guard now who are better and more physical. Kobe's better than MJ. Get over it."
Well allow me to retort.
Off the top of my head I've got Joe Dumars, Clyde Drexler, Sydney Moncrief(The 2nd Best perimeter defender of all time after MJ) Dennis Johnson(probably 3rd best) Reggie Miller, The Boston Strangler Andrew Toney, Byron Scott, An injury free Ron Harper, Derek Harper in Dallas, Kiki Vandwheghe in Denver(who once scored 56 points in a game). And that's just shooting guards. You add in that Jordan played and dominated the unquestionable golden era of NBA hoops, by winning the MVP, All Star game MVP, scoring title, and defensive player of the year in 87-88 while Bird, Magic, Isiah, Wilkins, Olajuwon, Ewing, were all in or near their primes, and I think the case for Kobe playing in a more difficult era evaporates.
I will now be writing and posting a definitive article on why MJ is a gazillion times better with Kobe. Hint it will start with the fact that MJ was never blown out in a deciding FINALS game by 39 pts. Especially not by a team led by such front runners as Kevin Garnett, Paul Pierce and Ray Allen. Also included in there will be the idea that MJ was 6-0 in finals appearences while Kobe is 3-2.
Don't worry the storm is coming moron.
S
Erika's very woo woo blog.
Hey guys,
Since I met Erika in real life and she's a very nice young lady, I'll be adding her blog to my blogroll.
Her stuff is very mystical and woo woo but there's some very solid advice in there...
Check it out Here
S
Since I met Erika in real life and she's a very nice young lady, I'll be adding her blog to my blogroll.
Her stuff is very mystical and woo woo but there's some very solid advice in there...
Check it out Here
S
Friday, January 16, 2009
The Men of Sex And The City-Part 1: Steve Brady
Hey guys,
As many people know I watch a lot of Sex and The City.I also consider my blog here sort of a male Sex And The City type column but that's a whole nother issue. I think it's a great look into female psychology (Especially the season Carrie cheats on Aidan with Mr Big) as well as one of the better written shows in recent memory. Another thing it does is present a bunch of different archetypes of men that are successful with women.
Ultimately the show captures attraction and relationships in a way very few TV shows or movies ever have. There's some element of romantic comedy bullshit in there, but the flirting scenes are right on.
So how does this help you get laid?
Well I'll be taking each of the main male characters off SATC and breaking down what they did right and wrong through their relationships.
We're going to work our way backwards from the guy who would be least successful in real life to the guy who would be most successful. So much like how Bill Simmons calculated Jimmy Chitwood's real life stats in Hoosiers, I'll be breaking why each male lead from the show would be good with girls based on evidence contained throughout the seasons. We're not counting the movie, cause I'm not sure I like it yet...
We kick today off with Miranda Hobbs' Baby daddy and ultimately husband: Steve Brady.
Steve Brady works in a bar. This is his first major plus. As a whole the more social of a job you work, the more you get laid. We even see this later on when Miranda and Steve are discussing their "number." His is actually higher than hers (Which was like 70 something,not unusual for a 35 year old who goes out a lot) and he said " I'm a bartender and I'm cute." I always recommend younger guys getting into the scene; get a job as a waiter or bartender. You'll learn social skills and get laid very easily.
When Steve meets Miranda she repeatedly blows him off. He even comps her wine to get her to stay. Eventually he jokes his way past her defenses and she stays the whole night at the bar. They go home, have sex and in the morning Miranda kicks him out assuming it was a one night stand. She does make plans with him again but gives him the wrong time she and the girls are meeting. He realizes it's a fake time and gets the real time. Steve does a great job of what's called plowing in the scene. Plowing is not always the right idea, but oftentimes you will get a neutral or negative reaction to your approach. The skill to turn that around is called game. It always perplexes me when students shut up in sets that are going really badly. The worse it's going the more you need to plow to try to turn it around. There is no way to get better at cold approach without talking to a lot of people who are either disinterested or only mildly interested in what you have to say for the first 3-5 minutes. Persistence will get you a long way with women. He does however fail to qualify her for anything unique about herself that would make her want to see him again. HE runs too much attraction material in nerd speak.
After Steve and Miranda start dating they realize there's a problem in their mismatched schedules. Steve works until 4 AM at the bar and Miranda has to be up early to be a lawyer. Here Steve made a mistake in his screening phase. When you are looking for a long term relationship it's very important that the two of you have similar schedules. If you're going to bed at 10PM every night and you're girlfriend is a stripper, there will be problems. Steve showed a lack of foresight here when he became interested in Miranda. It's important that YOU know what types of schedules will fit your life. Only you know when you have to be in bed, and what type of life you want to live. When you get into a longer term relationship, look for someone with a similar lifestyle. This was done on the show to prove the old adage "opposites attract" unfortunately in real life they may attract, but they don't stay attracted unless there's some commonalities somewhere else.
Steve eventually pushes Miranda to let move in to her place. This is a bad idea. First of all if you are going to live with a girl it should probably be your place. Secondly it's always a bad idea to be the person pushing the relationship forward. As Men we are expected to keep relationships as casual as possible as long as possible. It's much less attractive to women when men become needy. When you are in a long term relationship, even if it's great, take your time. You don't want to be the one suggesting things like exclusivity, vacations together, or moving in together, too soon. All of those things can happen in time, but you want the girl to bring the ideas up first. Let your girlfriend wonder these kinds of things, not you.
Miranda dumps Steve after this and he mopes around trying to get back together with her and telling her he's in love with her for awhile. The lesson here is after a breakup move on. Even if you think she's the one, even if you're dying inside, move on. Don't call, dont text, don't email, don't poke them on facebook. For a little while, directly after the breakup, you need time away from that person. Especially if you did the breaking up. Our brains are funny in that we will only remember the good parts of a relationship immediately after it. And all of those feelings, and emotions, and memories and nostalgia can convince you that something was right when it wasn't. Right after a break up you always want to put some distance between you and the ex. It's also NEVER attractive to tell a girl whose broken up with you how much you mean to her. That's the emotional equivalent of begging.
Eventually though Steve moves on and gets a new Girlfriend and Miranda realizes she is really in love with him and they get married with their born out of wedlock child. This part is pure Hollywood. In real life this relationship dies the day he moves out. Sorry Steve, you were just a little too needy and boring. You felt like because Miranda had higher social status and made more money there was a value differential. Then you tried too hard to make a relationship work with an emotionally unavailable women. Then you pushed for a move in hoping that it would save the relationship, and ultimately you got ball cancer and knocked this girl up. Then she came around and you lived happily ever after... Only on TV :)
Next time I'll be talking about Carrie Bradshaw's ex Fiancee Aidan Shaw.
S
As many people know I watch a lot of Sex and The City.I also consider my blog here sort of a male Sex And The City type column but that's a whole nother issue. I think it's a great look into female psychology (Especially the season Carrie cheats on Aidan with Mr Big) as well as one of the better written shows in recent memory. Another thing it does is present a bunch of different archetypes of men that are successful with women.
Ultimately the show captures attraction and relationships in a way very few TV shows or movies ever have. There's some element of romantic comedy bullshit in there, but the flirting scenes are right on.
So how does this help you get laid?
Well I'll be taking each of the main male characters off SATC and breaking down what they did right and wrong through their relationships.
We're going to work our way backwards from the guy who would be least successful in real life to the guy who would be most successful. So much like how Bill Simmons calculated Jimmy Chitwood's real life stats in Hoosiers, I'll be breaking why each male lead from the show would be good with girls based on evidence contained throughout the seasons. We're not counting the movie, cause I'm not sure I like it yet...
We kick today off with Miranda Hobbs' Baby daddy and ultimately husband: Steve Brady.
Steve Brady works in a bar. This is his first major plus. As a whole the more social of a job you work, the more you get laid. We even see this later on when Miranda and Steve are discussing their "number." His is actually higher than hers (Which was like 70 something,not unusual for a 35 year old who goes out a lot) and he said " I'm a bartender and I'm cute." I always recommend younger guys getting into the scene; get a job as a waiter or bartender. You'll learn social skills and get laid very easily.
When Steve meets Miranda she repeatedly blows him off. He even comps her wine to get her to stay. Eventually he jokes his way past her defenses and she stays the whole night at the bar. They go home, have sex and in the morning Miranda kicks him out assuming it was a one night stand. She does make plans with him again but gives him the wrong time she and the girls are meeting. He realizes it's a fake time and gets the real time. Steve does a great job of what's called plowing in the scene. Plowing is not always the right idea, but oftentimes you will get a neutral or negative reaction to your approach. The skill to turn that around is called game. It always perplexes me when students shut up in sets that are going really badly. The worse it's going the more you need to plow to try to turn it around. There is no way to get better at cold approach without talking to a lot of people who are either disinterested or only mildly interested in what you have to say for the first 3-5 minutes. Persistence will get you a long way with women. He does however fail to qualify her for anything unique about herself that would make her want to see him again. HE runs too much attraction material in nerd speak.
After Steve and Miranda start dating they realize there's a problem in their mismatched schedules. Steve works until 4 AM at the bar and Miranda has to be up early to be a lawyer. Here Steve made a mistake in his screening phase. When you are looking for a long term relationship it's very important that the two of you have similar schedules. If you're going to bed at 10PM every night and you're girlfriend is a stripper, there will be problems. Steve showed a lack of foresight here when he became interested in Miranda. It's important that YOU know what types of schedules will fit your life. Only you know when you have to be in bed, and what type of life you want to live. When you get into a longer term relationship, look for someone with a similar lifestyle. This was done on the show to prove the old adage "opposites attract" unfortunately in real life they may attract, but they don't stay attracted unless there's some commonalities somewhere else.
Steve eventually pushes Miranda to let move in to her place. This is a bad idea. First of all if you are going to live with a girl it should probably be your place. Secondly it's always a bad idea to be the person pushing the relationship forward. As Men we are expected to keep relationships as casual as possible as long as possible. It's much less attractive to women when men become needy. When you are in a long term relationship, even if it's great, take your time. You don't want to be the one suggesting things like exclusivity, vacations together, or moving in together, too soon. All of those things can happen in time, but you want the girl to bring the ideas up first. Let your girlfriend wonder these kinds of things, not you.
Miranda dumps Steve after this and he mopes around trying to get back together with her and telling her he's in love with her for awhile. The lesson here is after a breakup move on. Even if you think she's the one, even if you're dying inside, move on. Don't call, dont text, don't email, don't poke them on facebook. For a little while, directly after the breakup, you need time away from that person. Especially if you did the breaking up. Our brains are funny in that we will only remember the good parts of a relationship immediately after it. And all of those feelings, and emotions, and memories and nostalgia can convince you that something was right when it wasn't. Right after a break up you always want to put some distance between you and the ex. It's also NEVER attractive to tell a girl whose broken up with you how much you mean to her. That's the emotional equivalent of begging.
Eventually though Steve moves on and gets a new Girlfriend and Miranda realizes she is really in love with him and they get married with their born out of wedlock child. This part is pure Hollywood. In real life this relationship dies the day he moves out. Sorry Steve, you were just a little too needy and boring. You felt like because Miranda had higher social status and made more money there was a value differential. Then you tried too hard to make a relationship work with an emotionally unavailable women. Then you pushed for a move in hoping that it would save the relationship, and ultimately you got ball cancer and knocked this girl up. Then she came around and you lived happily ever after... Only on TV :)
Next time I'll be talking about Carrie Bradshaw's ex Fiancee Aidan Shaw.
S
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Kobe Juggles his Balls too Early
In continuing my public trend of hating on Kobe Bryant, I'll post this sports column on the regular blog.
Last night with 12 seconds left in a 108-109 game with his team trailing the Spurs in San Antonio Kobe Bryant hit a huge 3 from the left wing. He then ruined my favorite sports dance of the last 10 years. The dance he ruined was his interpretation of Sam Cassel's big balls dance. You know the one where he cradles what would be humongous testicles.
You can watch the clip Here it's about 25 seconds in.
The problem with young master Kobe's premature celebration was that there were still 12 seconds on the clock so Derek Fisher assumed that since he fouled Chris Quinn in the final seconds the other night in Miami he could do the same to Mason. After all this is the same Fisher who once had time to catch, turn, and shoot in 0.4 seconds, as well as the same Fisher who landed ON Brent Barry last year in the final seconds. This year; no dice. He over played Mason, Mason spun, nailed a mid range J and got sent to the line for the winning points.
Then Kobe does the most cowardly disgusting thing a so called "go to guy" can do in the waning seconds. He passes out of a double team to Trevor Ariza. I'm sorry but there's no way D-Wade gives that ball up, or Lebron or Pierce. You're down one, drive against the double team and hit the mid range shot. Kobe is soo anxious to show us that he's playing the "right" way that he actually almost always ends up making a mistake. Either he shoots when he should pass or he passes when he should shoot. He needs to get it through his head that he will NEVER win most fans back, he's never going to be mentioned as anything other than the 2nd best shooting guard of all time (a horrible insult to Jerry West BTW) and he will always be feared not loved. Bill Simmons wrote years ago that he should embrace the dark side and become a bad guy. I'm not willing to go that far, but I will offer this. It's obvious Kobe doesn't care about anyone other than himself. So his selfless play is actually the ultimate form of selfishness. He's not doing it because he believes in team basketball (anyone who watched him 05-06 knows that's not true) he's not doing it because he thinks it gives him the best chance to win. No, he's playing neutered like he has this year because he thinks it's what people want to see. The worst part is that we gave him that idea and an MVP award last year.
Nothing has changed with Kobe, he's still the most petulant, angry, sociopathic athlete of the 21st century. He just has better teammates now and has realized that if he says the right things, and doesn't shoot as much people, like him more. The problem is that it suppresses the thing about Kobe that makes him special. His killer instinct. The Kobe of 05-06 calmly drains a 19 footer over the double team and then glares at teammates and Spurs alike. The thing that makes Kobe special is his unique ability to tune everything out EXCEPT the game. Specifically except the guy he's guarding and being guarded by. Kobe was the first person to play a video game in real life. Remember the 63 in 3 quarters against the Grizzlies? Or the 81 against the Raptors? He did things people only did in video games because he didn't care if his teammates stood around while he went 1 on 5 successfully. But when he gets criticized as he has been for the last few years for not winning or playing the "right" way he goes into pout mode. Like in Phoenix or Sacramento a few years ago when in deciding playoff games he took one shot in the first or second half. Now he's gotten too smart to pout so he does something even more disgusting, he passes the game winning shot to teammates unworthy of it. This is not like Lebron passing up the layup to throw the ball to Gooden in the corner. Lebron actually is an unselfish player who thinks pass before shoot. He also destroyed the Pistons with 48 very selfish and needed points in game 5 of that series. No Kobe is just trying to make a point. And he's selfish enough to lose a game to do it.
Last night with 12 seconds left in a 108-109 game with his team trailing the Spurs in San Antonio Kobe Bryant hit a huge 3 from the left wing. He then ruined my favorite sports dance of the last 10 years. The dance he ruined was his interpretation of Sam Cassel's big balls dance. You know the one where he cradles what would be humongous testicles.
You can watch the clip Here it's about 25 seconds in.
The problem with young master Kobe's premature celebration was that there were still 12 seconds on the clock so Derek Fisher assumed that since he fouled Chris Quinn in the final seconds the other night in Miami he could do the same to Mason. After all this is the same Fisher who once had time to catch, turn, and shoot in 0.4 seconds, as well as the same Fisher who landed ON Brent Barry last year in the final seconds. This year; no dice. He over played Mason, Mason spun, nailed a mid range J and got sent to the line for the winning points.
Then Kobe does the most cowardly disgusting thing a so called "go to guy" can do in the waning seconds. He passes out of a double team to Trevor Ariza. I'm sorry but there's no way D-Wade gives that ball up, or Lebron or Pierce. You're down one, drive against the double team and hit the mid range shot. Kobe is soo anxious to show us that he's playing the "right" way that he actually almost always ends up making a mistake. Either he shoots when he should pass or he passes when he should shoot. He needs to get it through his head that he will NEVER win most fans back, he's never going to be mentioned as anything other than the 2nd best shooting guard of all time (a horrible insult to Jerry West BTW) and he will always be feared not loved. Bill Simmons wrote years ago that he should embrace the dark side and become a bad guy. I'm not willing to go that far, but I will offer this. It's obvious Kobe doesn't care about anyone other than himself. So his selfless play is actually the ultimate form of selfishness. He's not doing it because he believes in team basketball (anyone who watched him 05-06 knows that's not true) he's not doing it because he thinks it gives him the best chance to win. No, he's playing neutered like he has this year because he thinks it's what people want to see. The worst part is that we gave him that idea and an MVP award last year.
Nothing has changed with Kobe, he's still the most petulant, angry, sociopathic athlete of the 21st century. He just has better teammates now and has realized that if he says the right things, and doesn't shoot as much people, like him more. The problem is that it suppresses the thing about Kobe that makes him special. His killer instinct. The Kobe of 05-06 calmly drains a 19 footer over the double team and then glares at teammates and Spurs alike. The thing that makes Kobe special is his unique ability to tune everything out EXCEPT the game. Specifically except the guy he's guarding and being guarded by. Kobe was the first person to play a video game in real life. Remember the 63 in 3 quarters against the Grizzlies? Or the 81 against the Raptors? He did things people only did in video games because he didn't care if his teammates stood around while he went 1 on 5 successfully. But when he gets criticized as he has been for the last few years for not winning or playing the "right" way he goes into pout mode. Like in Phoenix or Sacramento a few years ago when in deciding playoff games he took one shot in the first or second half. Now he's gotten too smart to pout so he does something even more disgusting, he passes the game winning shot to teammates unworthy of it. This is not like Lebron passing up the layup to throw the ball to Gooden in the corner. Lebron actually is an unselfish player who thinks pass before shoot. He also destroyed the Pistons with 48 very selfish and needed points in game 5 of that series. No Kobe is just trying to make a point. And he's selfish enough to lose a game to do it.
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
New Posts on The Sports Blog
Hey guys,
I'm updating the sports blog every Mon-Wed-Fri so be sure to stop by and check it out as I'll be trying to keep the sports stuff off this blog as much as possible.
Here's the link TrashTalk
Hit me up with Comments over there.
S
I'm updating the sports blog every Mon-Wed-Fri so be sure to stop by and check it out as I'll be trying to keep the sports stuff off this blog as much as possible.
Here's the link TrashTalk
Hit me up with Comments over there.
S
The Vegas Tipping Point
Hey guys,
I want to talk about the Vegas Tipping Point. I'm not sure if this is an original thought or I stole it from Bill Simmons, but I believe Vegas has a shelf life of 48-72 hours. By the by I was just in vegas for 12 days. Not as bad as the several weeks I spent there back in late 05 but I digress. My cycle in Vegas goes something like this.
Thursday Night: Yeah Vegas!!!! I wanna drink, gamble, smoke cigarettes, see boobs, and eat horrible food. I also want to hit on as many girls as possible.
Friday Morning: Jesus I feel like death, oh well let's get a buffet lunch and lounge around til it's time to start drinking. Yeah Vegas!
Saturday Morning: Kill me, I can't believe I have to party for another night. Oh well I get to go home tomorrow at least.
Sunday Morning: Get me out of here so I can lay down and drink a tall glass of milk in a very dark room.
Add in the fact that I have to teach bootcamp until Sunday night and often have to stay until Mon morning and you can see why that cycle 4 times in 12 days is evil. I hit the tipping point of wanting to go home Monday morning when Entropy and Doc left. I should have gone home as well but had the genius idea to save a couple hundred bucks and stay in Vegas for 4 days rather than buy extra plane tickets. I was wrong. So very wrong. I did get a 6 minute lay with a cocktail waitress on Tues night and we made some good contacts, but I hate Vegas now. I never want to go back and I go back in 17 days...
This time though I'm flying in early Fri morning and leaving Sunday afternoon. This time I will obey the Tipping point.
My dad used to tell me Vegas was only for 24-48 hours. Now I understand why.
I really don't understand what it is, but my guess is it's a combination of lack of sleep, constant stimulation, everything bad in the world all available in one place, no nature, and 02 being pumped into you at all times.
Bad times my friends, bad times indeed.
As a final illustration of my point I'll offer Entropy's last night. We were all too tired to go clubbing, so we drank in my room instead. Myself, Priest and Entropy drank two and a half bottles of vodka and a handle of Jack Daniels. Then at 3:30 AM we decided it's a good idea to go gambling. Since I always lose at the Hard Rock where we were staying, we go to Wild Bill's across the street. I then proceed to break my "no trips to an ATM while gambling" rule lose a lot of money and drink more. We then ate nachos and potato skins. This was a "chill" night in Vegas. Entropy was still drunk when he got on a plane 3 hours later.
I stayed for 9 more days of shit like that.
S
I want to talk about the Vegas Tipping Point. I'm not sure if this is an original thought or I stole it from Bill Simmons, but I believe Vegas has a shelf life of 48-72 hours. By the by I was just in vegas for 12 days. Not as bad as the several weeks I spent there back in late 05 but I digress. My cycle in Vegas goes something like this.
Thursday Night: Yeah Vegas!!!! I wanna drink, gamble, smoke cigarettes, see boobs, and eat horrible food. I also want to hit on as many girls as possible.
Friday Morning: Jesus I feel like death, oh well let's get a buffet lunch and lounge around til it's time to start drinking. Yeah Vegas!
Saturday Morning: Kill me, I can't believe I have to party for another night. Oh well I get to go home tomorrow at least.
Sunday Morning: Get me out of here so I can lay down and drink a tall glass of milk in a very dark room.
Add in the fact that I have to teach bootcamp until Sunday night and often have to stay until Mon morning and you can see why that cycle 4 times in 12 days is evil. I hit the tipping point of wanting to go home Monday morning when Entropy and Doc left. I should have gone home as well but had the genius idea to save a couple hundred bucks and stay in Vegas for 4 days rather than buy extra plane tickets. I was wrong. So very wrong. I did get a 6 minute lay with a cocktail waitress on Tues night and we made some good contacts, but I hate Vegas now. I never want to go back and I go back in 17 days...
This time though I'm flying in early Fri morning and leaving Sunday afternoon. This time I will obey the Tipping point.
My dad used to tell me Vegas was only for 24-48 hours. Now I understand why.
I really don't understand what it is, but my guess is it's a combination of lack of sleep, constant stimulation, everything bad in the world all available in one place, no nature, and 02 being pumped into you at all times.
Bad times my friends, bad times indeed.
As a final illustration of my point I'll offer Entropy's last night. We were all too tired to go clubbing, so we drank in my room instead. Myself, Priest and Entropy drank two and a half bottles of vodka and a handle of Jack Daniels. Then at 3:30 AM we decided it's a good idea to go gambling. Since I always lose at the Hard Rock where we were staying, we go to Wild Bill's across the street. I then proceed to break my "no trips to an ATM while gambling" rule lose a lot of money and drink more. We then ate nachos and potato skins. This was a "chill" night in Vegas. Entropy was still drunk when he got on a plane 3 hours later.
I stayed for 9 more days of shit like that.
S
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Winner of The Free 60 Minute Phone Consultation
The winning testimonial came in From Seth D.
Hit me up to schedule your consultation Seth.
Here was his experience, in his own words...
Before I begin, allow me to ask, what is the goal of the game?
The answer, my child: to get laid.
Let me tell you a story about how I met Sinn. Last summer I went to the Under 21 Convention in Orlando Florida. At night, we all went out to the local bars and clubs. And, at 1:30am, I ran into Sinn, drunk off his ass. I was flailing that night - practically none of my sets were hooking at all, it was a bad night. So I come up to Sinn and ask him for free help.
Me "Dude. Help. Please."
Sinn "I'd love to but I'm drunk off my ass, I wouldn't be able to give you any good advice"
Me "Please. Ill do anything you tell me to, even for your own amusement"
Sinn "Ok, jump across that table and slide onto the couch where that guy is talking to the girl"
and then Sinn does a quick demo, like the live-action hero that he is.
So I think, "1.....2....FUCK IT" and then jump across the table, slide onto the couch, and then start yammering constantly about ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. I talk to the girl about how I am a jumper, and I jump, and I was recruited for the US Olympic Jumping team, blah blah blah. The girl is loving it and the guy is rendered speechless because of my high energy. I go on with this nonsense for about a minute. Then I mention that I'm in town and on vacation so I guess I'm gonna go find some girls to sleep with.
Girl: What, you don't want to sleep with me?
Me: I didn't realize you were interested
Girl: I am.
Me: Let's go.
Girl, to the other guy she was talking to: Okay we're going now.
And we leave the venue, the guy follows and at the door I break the news to him that she meant that me and her were leaving. Oh, sorry
The girl thanks me for saving her
As I leave Sinn gives me an air high-five and a wink.
We walk back to my hotel and she takes off my belt, puts music from my laptop on and ties me to the bedpost and proceeds to fuck me. Awesome. She was very dominating...
Total time from meet to sex:
-1 minute opener
-30 seconds smalltalk about me being on vacation
-8 minute walk to hotel
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9 minutes 30 seconds!
All because of Sinn...and it was all cuz of some quick free advice. WOW, Wow, Wow. I love you buddy.
(I honestly can't imagine how much value you would get out of spending an entire NIGHT hanging out with him SOBER, learning game and chilling. Jeezz. I got laid in under ten minutes off of some wisdom he gave me when he was DRUNK. That's how much the guy knows about game, his competency shines through even when he's completely intoxicated.)
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Hit me up to schedule your consultation Seth.
Here was his experience, in his own words...
Before I begin, allow me to ask, what is the goal of the game?
The answer, my child: to get laid.
Let me tell you a story about how I met Sinn. Last summer I went to the Under 21 Convention in Orlando Florida. At night, we all went out to the local bars and clubs. And, at 1:30am, I ran into Sinn, drunk off his ass. I was flailing that night - practically none of my sets were hooking at all, it was a bad night. So I come up to Sinn and ask him for free help.
Me "Dude. Help. Please."
Sinn "I'd love to but I'm drunk off my ass, I wouldn't be able to give you any good advice"
Me "Please. Ill do anything you tell me to, even for your own amusement"
Sinn "Ok, jump across that table and slide onto the couch where that guy is talking to the girl"
and then Sinn does a quick demo, like the live-action hero that he is.
So I think, "1.....2....FUCK IT" and then jump across the table, slide onto the couch, and then start yammering constantly about ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. I talk to the girl about how I am a jumper, and I jump, and I was recruited for the US Olympic Jumping team, blah blah blah. The girl is loving it and the guy is rendered speechless because of my high energy. I go on with this nonsense for about a minute. Then I mention that I'm in town and on vacation so I guess I'm gonna go find some girls to sleep with.
Girl: What, you don't want to sleep with me?
Me: I didn't realize you were interested
Girl: I am.
Me: Let's go.
Girl, to the other guy she was talking to: Okay we're going now.
And we leave the venue, the guy follows and at the door I break the news to him that she meant that me and her were leaving. Oh, sorry
The girl thanks me for saving her
As I leave Sinn gives me an air high-five and a wink.
We walk back to my hotel and she takes off my belt, puts music from my laptop on and ties me to the bedpost and proceeds to fuck me. Awesome. She was very dominating...
Total time from meet to sex:
-1 minute opener
-30 seconds smalltalk about me being on vacation
-8 minute walk to hotel
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9 minutes 30 seconds!
All because of Sinn...and it was all cuz of some quick free advice. WOW, Wow, Wow. I love you buddy.
(I honestly can't imagine how much value you would get out of spending an entire NIGHT hanging out with him SOBER, learning game and chilling. Jeezz. I got laid in under ten minutes off of some wisdom he gave me when he was DRUNK. That's how much the guy knows about game, his competency shines through even when he's completely intoxicated.)
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Sunday, January 11, 2009
Learn From My Mistakes-The Conclusion
Hey guys,
Welcome back to the last part of the first Learn From My Mistakes feature in the newsletter. Next week I'll be breaking down a success I had in Las Vegas that went from meet to lay in 6 minutes.
But before we get to that, when we last left off Miss Newsie Hat had just turned up at my place and we headed upstairs to "get my wallet." I grabbed the wallet and I brought her to my favorite bar in Dallas. We grabbed a seat in the corner and I made sure that she was seated next to me as opposed to across from me. This is a crucial part of escalation on dates. You can't escalate across a table.
The conversation was great and sexually charged. Here's where I made my first mistake. This is actually something I do quite frequently when my game goes wrong. I got too caught up in how much fun I was having and I missed the opportunity to take her back to my place.
Next to us was a loud obnoxious group of Dallasites. As MNH was coming back from the bathroom, the girls started saying something obnoxious. Finally one of them told her to go masterbate. We then decided to move. The move put us into a booth, but I made sure we sat on the same side. Here's where I made my next mistake.
I mismanaged the clock. She had told me earlier that she had to take her mom to the airport the next morning. I didn't suggest going back to my place until around 12:45. Because I waited too long, she had to think about it, and I encountered some resistance to the suggestion. She told me she couldn't, so I responded by saying she could only stay for 1 episode. And would be home by 1:30. I always want to hold back the false time constraint to use it to overcome objections.
On the walk to my apartment, I pushed her against the wall in the elevator and made out with her. As soon as the door opened, I walked away... I always do this. It's just a really good way to start arousal and sexual teasing. I always want to leave the girl wanting a little more. This creates room for escalation. I imagine it's like being a coquette. A tease. I control the level of escalation until the girl asks for more.
I make sure to take my time putting on an episode of It's Always Sunny. Then I sit a fair distance away from her. I always want to test to see how much she wants to touch. She moves closer to me and we start making out more. I start going up her shirt and she stops me. She tells me I'm just like every other guy... I tell her I've made no secret of the fact I want to fuck her, but if she's uncomfortable we should just stop. Here's another mistake. I forgot to inoculate last minute resistance. I have a whole theme I talk about that explains LMR in a really clever way. I didn't do this because, I was having too much fun. It also means that I didn't do enough qualification. I did a lot of telling her she's cute and adorable and sexy, but the rest of my compliments were generic. I was really attracted to this girl because I felt like she was very innocent yet naughty... It's a hot combination, and I let it throw me off. You always need solid reasons you like her besides her looks.
Finally she decides to leave and I go for one last chance. This is something that I DON"T recommend for most guys. It's very dominant and aggressive and can definitely backfire if it's done the wrong way. You also have to be super cognizant about the girl's reaction. If she's not into it , STOP immediately. What I did was grab her very firmly by the wrist, push her against the wall hard and pinned her arms behind her back while kissing her. Then I physically lifted her up and brought her into the bedroom, where we fooled around and I could not get past the panties.
Overall I made a couple of different mistakes in a few key areas. The first one was timing. There is a rhythm to social interactions, especially when it comes to escalation. I should have built less sexual tension and spent more time pushing forward. The second mistake was mismanaging the clock. I should have remembered what she had said earlier and gotten her back to my place before midnight. And lastly I had an uneven pacing to my escalation. It was unpredictable but did not have an overall upward arching trend. It also mixed a lot of different sexual fantasies with the dominance and tenderness at different times.
None of these were fatal errors though and she did end up spending the night, I just realized it wasn't gonna happen tonight. Once you get the feeling it's not going to happen, just stop. Because all you're going to do if you keep pushing it is freak her out. Then she'll stop returning calls and texts. Trust me I've probably lost girls in bed over 100 times. Don't do "freezeouts", actually stop and just cuddle her. Oftentimes you'll have sex with her in the morning.
I texted her the next day but I was heading out to Vegas for the first bootcamp of 12 Months to Mastery. Things have escalated nicely on the phone and she's planning to pick me up at the airport when I get home Monday. I'll post about what happens on our second date next week sometime.
Talk to you guys soon,
S
Welcome back to the last part of the first Learn From My Mistakes feature in the newsletter. Next week I'll be breaking down a success I had in Las Vegas that went from meet to lay in 6 minutes.
But before we get to that, when we last left off Miss Newsie Hat had just turned up at my place and we headed upstairs to "get my wallet." I grabbed the wallet and I brought her to my favorite bar in Dallas. We grabbed a seat in the corner and I made sure that she was seated next to me as opposed to across from me. This is a crucial part of escalation on dates. You can't escalate across a table.
The conversation was great and sexually charged. Here's where I made my first mistake. This is actually something I do quite frequently when my game goes wrong. I got too caught up in how much fun I was having and I missed the opportunity to take her back to my place.
Next to us was a loud obnoxious group of Dallasites. As MNH was coming back from the bathroom, the girls started saying something obnoxious. Finally one of them told her to go masterbate. We then decided to move. The move put us into a booth, but I made sure we sat on the same side. Here's where I made my next mistake.
I mismanaged the clock. She had told me earlier that she had to take her mom to the airport the next morning. I didn't suggest going back to my place until around 12:45. Because I waited too long, she had to think about it, and I encountered some resistance to the suggestion. She told me she couldn't, so I responded by saying she could only stay for 1 episode. And would be home by 1:30. I always want to hold back the false time constraint to use it to overcome objections.
On the walk to my apartment, I pushed her against the wall in the elevator and made out with her. As soon as the door opened, I walked away... I always do this. It's just a really good way to start arousal and sexual teasing. I always want to leave the girl wanting a little more. This creates room for escalation. I imagine it's like being a coquette. A tease. I control the level of escalation until the girl asks for more.
I make sure to take my time putting on an episode of It's Always Sunny. Then I sit a fair distance away from her. I always want to test to see how much she wants to touch. She moves closer to me and we start making out more. I start going up her shirt and she stops me. She tells me I'm just like every other guy... I tell her I've made no secret of the fact I want to fuck her, but if she's uncomfortable we should just stop. Here's another mistake. I forgot to inoculate last minute resistance. I have a whole theme I talk about that explains LMR in a really clever way. I didn't do this because, I was having too much fun. It also means that I didn't do enough qualification. I did a lot of telling her she's cute and adorable and sexy, but the rest of my compliments were generic. I was really attracted to this girl because I felt like she was very innocent yet naughty... It's a hot combination, and I let it throw me off. You always need solid reasons you like her besides her looks.
Finally she decides to leave and I go for one last chance. This is something that I DON"T recommend for most guys. It's very dominant and aggressive and can definitely backfire if it's done the wrong way. You also have to be super cognizant about the girl's reaction. If she's not into it , STOP immediately. What I did was grab her very firmly by the wrist, push her against the wall hard and pinned her arms behind her back while kissing her. Then I physically lifted her up and brought her into the bedroom, where we fooled around and I could not get past the panties.
Overall I made a couple of different mistakes in a few key areas. The first one was timing. There is a rhythm to social interactions, especially when it comes to escalation. I should have built less sexual tension and spent more time pushing forward. The second mistake was mismanaging the clock. I should have remembered what she had said earlier and gotten her back to my place before midnight. And lastly I had an uneven pacing to my escalation. It was unpredictable but did not have an overall upward arching trend. It also mixed a lot of different sexual fantasies with the dominance and tenderness at different times.
None of these were fatal errors though and she did end up spending the night, I just realized it wasn't gonna happen tonight. Once you get the feeling it's not going to happen, just stop. Because all you're going to do if you keep pushing it is freak her out. Then she'll stop returning calls and texts. Trust me I've probably lost girls in bed over 100 times. Don't do "freezeouts", actually stop and just cuddle her. Oftentimes you'll have sex with her in the morning.
I texted her the next day but I was heading out to Vegas for the first bootcamp of 12 Months to Mastery. Things have escalated nicely on the phone and she's planning to pick me up at the airport when I get home Monday. I'll post about what happens on our second date next week sometime.
Talk to you guys soon,
S
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Kobe Does It Again
Just to remind everyone how dangerous he is with the game in his hands, Kobe hit a jumper with 3 seconds to beat the Pacers last night.
I mentioned last post that some players you just expect to make the shot when it matters. Kobe always makes them. Almost defiantly. Jordan was great for his ability to excel when everyone wanted him to. Even in Cleveland where he was hated and halted the most underrated almost dynasty of all time. Seriously check the 88-93 Cavs out sometime. He still was expected to be the hero for his own team.
Kobe doesn't have that. Kobe thrives on people wanting him to fail. He thrives on being told he's not as good. He's slipping, he's no longer better than Lebron. Or Pierce is more clutch. The more people want him to fail the more he succeeds. That's why Lakers fans should pray that somehow Boston rights the ship or Cleveland comes into the finals favored. Cause Kobe can't be the favorite. He needs the hate, and the jeers and the boos to lift himself to the top. The more he gets that, the more he can whip himself into a ferver, the better he is.
He's not a hero, he's an anti-hero.
I mentioned last post that some players you just expect to make the shot when it matters. Kobe always makes them. Almost defiantly. Jordan was great for his ability to excel when everyone wanted him to. Even in Cleveland where he was hated and halted the most underrated almost dynasty of all time. Seriously check the 88-93 Cavs out sometime. He still was expected to be the hero for his own team.
Kobe doesn't have that. Kobe thrives on people wanting him to fail. He thrives on being told he's not as good. He's slipping, he's no longer better than Lebron. Or Pierce is more clutch. The more people want him to fail the more he succeeds. That's why Lakers fans should pray that somehow Boston rights the ship or Cleveland comes into the finals favored. Cause Kobe can't be the favorite. He needs the hate, and the jeers and the boos to lift himself to the top. The more he gets that, the more he can whip himself into a ferver, the better he is.
He's not a hero, he's an anti-hero.
Thursday, January 08, 2009
Nique/Bird>Pierce/Lebron
So one of the readers wrote in yesterday bringing up the absurd notion that Paul Pierce is a better player than Lebron James. The reader cited last year's Celtics-Cavs game 7 and the "battle" between Lebron and Pierce. For those who missed it Lebron had 48, Pierce had 44 but the Celtics prevailed. The reason the Celtics won was that they had a better team and Lebron ran out of gas. Lebron proclaimed it a classic. I can remember 30 more exciting games in the last 16 years. The reader said that because Pierce's team won he was the superior player. I disagree.
Pierce played with Kevin Garnett who is a first ballot hall of famer despite his questionability in the clutch. And yes I just made that up. KG sucks in the clutch. No matter what Simmons says or one shot he made in Atlanta, he chokes. He's the Peyton manning of the NBA. But he's better than the second best player on the Cavs then Boobie Gibson. Even now KG is better than anyone on the Cavs that doesn't wear # 23. Pierce also played with borderline hall of famer Ray Allen, and up and comer Rajon Rondo. His team was better and even though Lebron scored 4 more points he won the game. If all other things are equal ( I.E The Cavs and Celts as a team both score 60 pts) Lebron's team would have won by 4.
But the bigger issue IMHO is anyone who realistically compared Lebron/Pierce to Bird/Nique. Bird/Nique literally decided the fate of that game and who went to the NBA finals. Into the final minute. Nique and Bird both looked fate in the eye and Nique blinked first. Bird scored 20 points in the final quarter alone. Neither Pierce nor Lebron came close to that. The teams were tied with 5:57 left when Bird scored 11 points after that. Dominique purposely missed a free throw with a second left to try to tip it in and win...
Dominique scored 47 points on 23 shots. Dominique Wilkins is never remember properly for the brillant scorer he was. He didn't do a whole lot of rebounding or defending, but only Jordan scored better than Wilkins in his prime. He's another one of those guys who would average 50 a game with the new hand check rules. The reason Dominique isn't celebrated is the inescapable fact that he never won a championship and was incredibly one dimensional. What's missing if you only look at those two factors was a brillant scorer, who consistently stepped his game up in the biggest spots against the best opponents. He saved his best games for when he got to play Jordan or Bird. Even the Pistons and Isiah got a few 50 point games. Wilkins never folded in the clutch, he just wasn't on good enough teams to compensate for his many deficiencies as a superstar. Still without a doubt one of the 50 best players of all time. In fact I'd love to figure out where Nique sits among the best pure scorers of all time. Jordan would be first. 1984-85 Bernard King would be second. Kobe third, and who else... That's a whole column in and of itself.
But the real story of Bird/Wilkins 88 was Larry Bird. Larry always stepped up in big situations. He was an invincible man who only got better as it mattered most. Larry Bird took over this game. Going into the last 5 minutes of the game he had 23 pts. 15 heading into the 4th. Then he hit backbreaker after backbreaker until with 1:57 he nailed a killer 3 over Nique himself. The game remained close until the final seconds but it remained close with the Celtics ahead everytime. Larry and Nique stared down fate and greatness and a trip to the finals. And Larry Bird didn't blink. That's why he's revered. Because guys like him and Jordan and Magic, and even Tim Duncan always came through when it counted. You just expected it after awhile. And more importantly so did the other team. That's what makes someone a crunch time killer. When Lebron gets the ball with less than 10 seconds down one now... You expect him to make the play but you don't know it's gonna happen. Bird made you know. That's what made Bird an all time great and that's what made 1988 better than 2008.
S
Pierce played with Kevin Garnett who is a first ballot hall of famer despite his questionability in the clutch. And yes I just made that up. KG sucks in the clutch. No matter what Simmons says or one shot he made in Atlanta, he chokes. He's the Peyton manning of the NBA. But he's better than the second best player on the Cavs then Boobie Gibson. Even now KG is better than anyone on the Cavs that doesn't wear # 23. Pierce also played with borderline hall of famer Ray Allen, and up and comer Rajon Rondo. His team was better and even though Lebron scored 4 more points he won the game. If all other things are equal ( I.E The Cavs and Celts as a team both score 60 pts) Lebron's team would have won by 4.
But the bigger issue IMHO is anyone who realistically compared Lebron/Pierce to Bird/Nique. Bird/Nique literally decided the fate of that game and who went to the NBA finals. Into the final minute. Nique and Bird both looked fate in the eye and Nique blinked first. Bird scored 20 points in the final quarter alone. Neither Pierce nor Lebron came close to that. The teams were tied with 5:57 left when Bird scored 11 points after that. Dominique purposely missed a free throw with a second left to try to tip it in and win...
Dominique scored 47 points on 23 shots. Dominique Wilkins is never remember properly for the brillant scorer he was. He didn't do a whole lot of rebounding or defending, but only Jordan scored better than Wilkins in his prime. He's another one of those guys who would average 50 a game with the new hand check rules. The reason Dominique isn't celebrated is the inescapable fact that he never won a championship and was incredibly one dimensional. What's missing if you only look at those two factors was a brillant scorer, who consistently stepped his game up in the biggest spots against the best opponents. He saved his best games for when he got to play Jordan or Bird. Even the Pistons and Isiah got a few 50 point games. Wilkins never folded in the clutch, he just wasn't on good enough teams to compensate for his many deficiencies as a superstar. Still without a doubt one of the 50 best players of all time. In fact I'd love to figure out where Nique sits among the best pure scorers of all time. Jordan would be first. 1984-85 Bernard King would be second. Kobe third, and who else... That's a whole column in and of itself.
But the real story of Bird/Wilkins 88 was Larry Bird. Larry always stepped up in big situations. He was an invincible man who only got better as it mattered most. Larry Bird took over this game. Going into the last 5 minutes of the game he had 23 pts. 15 heading into the 4th. Then he hit backbreaker after backbreaker until with 1:57 he nailed a killer 3 over Nique himself. The game remained close until the final seconds but it remained close with the Celtics ahead everytime. Larry and Nique stared down fate and greatness and a trip to the finals. And Larry Bird didn't blink. That's why he's revered. Because guys like him and Jordan and Magic, and even Tim Duncan always came through when it counted. You just expected it after awhile. And more importantly so did the other team. That's what makes someone a crunch time killer. When Lebron gets the ball with less than 10 seconds down one now... You expect him to make the play but you don't know it's gonna happen. Bird made you know. That's what made Bird an all time great and that's what made 1988 better than 2008.
S
Real life example of avoiding a flake
Hey guys,
Today I’m back with the second part of the text message/date fuck up report odyssey. Try saying that 5 times fast…
We left with me calling Miss Newsie Hat to set up the date. When I called I followed my basic phone game structure, and set up a date for drinks the next night.
So she calls me the next day and tells me that she forgot she had plans with a friend of hers who’s only in town for a few days. I call her and tell her it’s no big deal and we can totally reschedule. The key with handling flakes like this one is being completely unreactive, but letting the girl know you do like her and want to see her.
She then texts me:
MNH: I don’t know if we are going now.
Sinn: Well if you’re not I want to see you!
This is a big statement of intent! I’m letting her know I want to see her. There’s a major difference between wanting to see a girl and needing a girl to feel better about yourself. I never worry about being try hard or needy, I worry about getting girls on dates.
MNH: Ok we’re not gonna do it tonight.
Sinn: Ok , so you wanna collect your cookies? Or trade your cookies for an adult libation…
This is callback humor, earlier we had made a bet about what some stupid movie was about. She won. I love making bets with girls that lead to dates. I learned this technique from the TV show “Seinfeld.” I had bet her a batch of homemade cookies.
MNH: Yes. Let’s make it cocktails. I’m not a huge cookie person.
Sinn: Cool meet me at X bar at 8:30.
This is what you have to do when setting up a date over text. You must send a direct command at some point to get her to commit.
MNH: What happened to you going to Y bar?
I had told her I was meeting other friends later that night. I did this to social proof myself so it didn’t look like I would be sitting at home alone if she flaked.
Sinn: I’d rather see you. Plus if you’re as cool as you seem, we might be able to do “the plan”
Again more callback humor, this refers to how I seed my date by saying I have a crazy fun plan but need an awesome girl to do it with.
MNH: I’m definitely down for the plan but it will have to be another night. I have to take my mom to the airport really early in the morning.
Now some people would see this as a problem. I just assume it’s true and that she’ll stay as late as she’s having fun. So I don’t argue or bring too much attention to it.
Sinn: Just a quick drink then…
I could have added more humor here by saying something like “ WE’ll see how you do after the half hour evaluation.”
MNH: Sure can we do 9?
Sinn: Sounds good, call me when you’re outside X bar.
X bar happens to be in my apartment building. So instead of telling her to meet me at my place, which she could object to, I have her meet me somewhere more innocuous sounding.
So now she shows up. I always pretend to “forget my wallet” so we have to go back up into my apartment where she can get comfortable. On the date I made 3 major mistakes which lead to her spending the night, but not consummating the relationship ☺
I’ll tell you guys all about the mistakes I made and how to avoid them next time.
S
PS- 2 guys got laid at the first 12 Months to Mastery Bootcamp last weekend in Vegas. Stay tuned to the list and the blog for updates on everyone in the program!
Today I’m back with the second part of the text message/date fuck up report odyssey. Try saying that 5 times fast…
We left with me calling Miss Newsie Hat to set up the date. When I called I followed my basic phone game structure, and set up a date for drinks the next night.
So she calls me the next day and tells me that she forgot she had plans with a friend of hers who’s only in town for a few days. I call her and tell her it’s no big deal and we can totally reschedule. The key with handling flakes like this one is being completely unreactive, but letting the girl know you do like her and want to see her.
She then texts me:
MNH: I don’t know if we are going now.
Sinn: Well if you’re not I want to see you!
This is a big statement of intent! I’m letting her know I want to see her. There’s a major difference between wanting to see a girl and needing a girl to feel better about yourself. I never worry about being try hard or needy, I worry about getting girls on dates.
MNH: Ok we’re not gonna do it tonight.
Sinn: Ok , so you wanna collect your cookies? Or trade your cookies for an adult libation…
This is callback humor, earlier we had made a bet about what some stupid movie was about. She won. I love making bets with girls that lead to dates. I learned this technique from the TV show “Seinfeld.” I had bet her a batch of homemade cookies.
MNH: Yes. Let’s make it cocktails. I’m not a huge cookie person.
Sinn: Cool meet me at X bar at 8:30.
This is what you have to do when setting up a date over text. You must send a direct command at some point to get her to commit.
MNH: What happened to you going to Y bar?
I had told her I was meeting other friends later that night. I did this to social proof myself so it didn’t look like I would be sitting at home alone if she flaked.
Sinn: I’d rather see you. Plus if you’re as cool as you seem, we might be able to do “the plan”
Again more callback humor, this refers to how I seed my date by saying I have a crazy fun plan but need an awesome girl to do it with.
MNH: I’m definitely down for the plan but it will have to be another night. I have to take my mom to the airport really early in the morning.
Now some people would see this as a problem. I just assume it’s true and that she’ll stay as late as she’s having fun. So I don’t argue or bring too much attention to it.
Sinn: Just a quick drink then…
I could have added more humor here by saying something like “ WE’ll see how you do after the half hour evaluation.”
MNH: Sure can we do 9?
Sinn: Sounds good, call me when you’re outside X bar.
X bar happens to be in my apartment building. So instead of telling her to meet me at my place, which she could object to, I have her meet me somewhere more innocuous sounding.
So now she shows up. I always pretend to “forget my wallet” so we have to go back up into my apartment where she can get comfortable. On the date I made 3 major mistakes which lead to her spending the night, but not consummating the relationship ☺
I’ll tell you guys all about the mistakes I made and how to avoid them next time.
S
PS- 2 guys got laid at the first 12 Months to Mastery Bootcamp last weekend in Vegas. Stay tuned to the list and the blog for updates on everyone in the program!
Wednesday, January 07, 2009
Defending Brandon Roy
o I got a lot of comments on my last blog post where I said Brandon Roy was the 5th best player in the league. Some people pointed out Tim Duncan, some Paul Pierce, some even said Manu Ginobli and Rip Hamilton.
None of them are as good or important to their team right now than Brandon Roy. Duncan probably comes the closest, but he's not asked to do as much as consistently. The Spurs system and defense, does most of the heavy lifting. Though I must say the Tim Duncan/Shaq debate for most dominant player of the 2000s is a good one. I'd go with Shaq when he was really on. But that rarely happened, so I'd take drafting Duncan over drafting Shaq in both of their respective primes. Unfortunately he's obviously on the downside of his career. Brandon Roy is asked to do more, and plays at a higher level overall(Though he's nowhere near the defender Duncan is) for a longer amount of time. In 2009 I'd rather have Brandon Roy on my team than Tim Duncan.
Paul Pierce started the season shooting in the 30s, sorry accuracy counts. He's also obviously conserving his energy for the postseason. I will say that the three guys I trust most when the game is on the line are Lebron, Kobe and Pierce in some order. I'd probably go Kobe first, Lebron second and Pierce third. I hate saying I'd take Kobe first for anything, but he's a killer. A sociopathic killer...
Ginobli is great but missed a large percent of the first quarter of the season. He's also been rusty as his 14.4 points per game indicate. He's not there this year. Yet. Manu last year was the clutchest guy in the nba statistically speaking. I love his funky slicing drives to the basket, I think he's probably the third or fourth best finisher in the league and he's got the best bald spot in sports. I'd still rather have Brandon Roy.
The only one who comes close to Roy's value was someone no one even mentioned. Dwight Howard. He's huge, he's athletic, he's better on the defensive end, but... He's got no offensive game outside of a hideous jump hook, dunks, and offensive rebounds. He's also Shaq like in the one place no one wants to be like Shaq. The free throw line. I wouldn't say he's soft, but he's a really nice guy. Like David Robinson nice.
Let's look at the numbers to see just how well Roy is playing. He's hit two game winners. Three if you count the one that should have won the Rockets game. He averaged over 36 pts a game for over a week. Including the second highest scoring outburst this year. He's averaging 23pts a game on 47% from the field, 36% from 3 and 84% from the line for a true shooting percentage of 55% for a guard. That's almost Nash like. He's also averaging over 5 assists a game as he acts as both Portland's table setter and go to guy. A role only Chris Paul plays better.
Overall The Blazers are overachieving for a reason and it's not Greg Oden. To say he's not one of the 5 best players playing this year is ignorant.'
S
Anyway I'll have my sports posts all together on my Sports Blog TrashTalk. Please don't mention game at all over there. Thanks.
None of them are as good or important to their team right now than Brandon Roy. Duncan probably comes the closest, but he's not asked to do as much as consistently. The Spurs system and defense, does most of the heavy lifting. Though I must say the Tim Duncan/Shaq debate for most dominant player of the 2000s is a good one. I'd go with Shaq when he was really on. But that rarely happened, so I'd take drafting Duncan over drafting Shaq in both of their respective primes. Unfortunately he's obviously on the downside of his career. Brandon Roy is asked to do more, and plays at a higher level overall(Though he's nowhere near the defender Duncan is) for a longer amount of time. In 2009 I'd rather have Brandon Roy on my team than Tim Duncan.
Paul Pierce started the season shooting in the 30s, sorry accuracy counts. He's also obviously conserving his energy for the postseason. I will say that the three guys I trust most when the game is on the line are Lebron, Kobe and Pierce in some order. I'd probably go Kobe first, Lebron second and Pierce third. I hate saying I'd take Kobe first for anything, but he's a killer. A sociopathic killer...
Ginobli is great but missed a large percent of the first quarter of the season. He's also been rusty as his 14.4 points per game indicate. He's not there this year. Yet. Manu last year was the clutchest guy in the nba statistically speaking. I love his funky slicing drives to the basket, I think he's probably the third or fourth best finisher in the league and he's got the best bald spot in sports. I'd still rather have Brandon Roy.
The only one who comes close to Roy's value was someone no one even mentioned. Dwight Howard. He's huge, he's athletic, he's better on the defensive end, but... He's got no offensive game outside of a hideous jump hook, dunks, and offensive rebounds. He's also Shaq like in the one place no one wants to be like Shaq. The free throw line. I wouldn't say he's soft, but he's a really nice guy. Like David Robinson nice.
Let's look at the numbers to see just how well Roy is playing. He's hit two game winners. Three if you count the one that should have won the Rockets game. He averaged over 36 pts a game for over a week. Including the second highest scoring outburst this year. He's averaging 23pts a game on 47% from the field, 36% from 3 and 84% from the line for a true shooting percentage of 55% for a guard. That's almost Nash like. He's also averaging over 5 assists a game as he acts as both Portland's table setter and go to guy. A role only Chris Paul plays better.
Overall The Blazers are overachieving for a reason and it's not Greg Oden. To say he's not one of the 5 best players playing this year is ignorant.'
S
Anyway I'll have my sports posts all together on my Sports Blog TrashTalk. Please don't mention game at all over there. Thanks.
Links Bitches!
I was on The Barry Kirkey Show today!
Here's what we discussed from the REV31 site:
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
* Sinn, of Sinns of Attraction hangs out
* The Rev31 Forums are out-of-control
* Tyler's movement and radical beliefs are catching on left and right
* Thundercat leaves me a voicemail
* Sinn hasn't heard Mr. Right interviewing Johnny Soporno (Ep.115)
* The Rewind: Fuck You Clips
* Stephane Hemon says sorry to Rev31
* The "Real" Sin
* The movie, The Wrestler - Mickey Rourke
* Mr. Right is granted to ask one question to The "Not Real" Sinn
* Almond Hydro/I'm A Gonna Hydro
Check Out Barry's awesome show at Revolution31.com or follow this link to hear my episode.Barry's Show
Also check out Doc Holliday's EXCELLENT blog for his recap of what happened in vegas. Check out Doc at Dochollidaypua.com
I really like Doc a lot, he's got great game, looks like a little kid, and is one of the most unique people I've ever met. I remember meeting him years ago at a day game seminar, and the strides he's made are amazing. He's also really fun to hang out with and a great teacher.
As for me I'm still in Vegas today on day 6. I'm actually somewhat into a normal routine as I've worked out the last two days and worked about 8 hours each of the last two days. I'll write up my 6 minute lay from last night, but it was pretty weird. There are soo many pretty girls in Vegas it's ridiculous, so of course I have developed two fatty cold sores. Right before the AVNs and my next bootcamp. If I had a Myspace, my status right now would read right now Jon is frantically applying DMSO cream to his lip.
Stay tuned for updates and hopefully my lay report from meeting Lisa Ann :)
S
Here's what we discussed from the REV31 site:
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
* Sinn, of Sinns of Attraction hangs out
* The Rev31 Forums are out-of-control
* Tyler's movement and radical beliefs are catching on left and right
* Thundercat leaves me a voicemail
* Sinn hasn't heard Mr. Right interviewing Johnny Soporno (Ep.115)
* The Rewind: Fuck You Clips
* Stephane Hemon says sorry to Rev31
* The "Real" Sin
* The movie, The Wrestler - Mickey Rourke
* Mr. Right is granted to ask one question to The "Not Real" Sinn
* Almond Hydro/I'm A Gonna Hydro
Check Out Barry's awesome show at Revolution31.com or follow this link to hear my episode.Barry's Show
Also check out Doc Holliday's EXCELLENT blog for his recap of what happened in vegas. Check out Doc at Dochollidaypua.com
I really like Doc a lot, he's got great game, looks like a little kid, and is one of the most unique people I've ever met. I remember meeting him years ago at a day game seminar, and the strides he's made are amazing. He's also really fun to hang out with and a great teacher.
As for me I'm still in Vegas today on day 6. I'm actually somewhat into a normal routine as I've worked out the last two days and worked about 8 hours each of the last two days. I'll write up my 6 minute lay from last night, but it was pretty weird. There are soo many pretty girls in Vegas it's ridiculous, so of course I have developed two fatty cold sores. Right before the AVNs and my next bootcamp. If I had a Myspace, my status right now would read right now Jon is frantically applying DMSO cream to his lip.
Stay tuned for updates and hopefully my lay report from meeting Lisa Ann :)
S
Tuesday, January 06, 2009
2 guys got laid on the first 12 Months to Mastery Bootcamp!
Hey guys,
How can one sum up the feelings from this last weekend in Vegas?
It started out with me getting stuck in The DFW airport for 4 hours... I got over it by reading Atlas Shrugged, which is amazing. I finally ended up meeting up with Priest at the Vegas airport. We headed over to the hotel to wait for Doc and Entropy.
That night we just hung out at the Circle Bar, I also played some Casino War at the Bellagio. Casino War is AWESOME!!! Easiest game ever when you're drunk. You don't have to think, it's only one card at a time and you can talk trash... Amazing. Currently I'm still in Vegas as I have the 2nd group of guys coming out this weekend. Which also happens to be the AVNs... and I'm down $150 thanks to Entropy and I having a "last night" Blackjack massacre where neither of us EVER won 2 hands in a row over 3 hours and I broke my never take a trip to an ATM to keep gambling rule. Then we talked about Michael Jordan at the Hard Rock Diner while eating Nachos and Potato Skins... The moral of that story-Entropy is awesome. He also has what I call "unexplainable game". He's super good, but a lot of it is hard to describe... He has a look that actually does get girls to come over and make out with him. Doc calls it Blue Steel. I saw it work in Boston last June... Him and Julian Foxx both have this unexplainable thing. The best way to describe it is that it looks different when they do the same things. My guess is it's a confidence level thing. Because both of them tend to break a lot more rules, because they believe they're good with girls... Who knows. Check out his post on Vegas eating his soul Here
It was Doc and Entropy's first trip to Vegas so I felt compelled to make sure they had a good time. After all if there's one thing I know it's Vegas... This usually means some combination of alcohol, strippers, and gambling. We ended up walking out of Seamless at 7:30 in the morning. Or they did. I left at 8 because the girl I was gaming was off at 9 and I really thought I could make it, til I started dozing off at 745ish...
Doc had a list of all the funny things that happened. From the random; Running into Mehow and Hawaii at 5 AM Before we even headed to the strip club. To the Bizarre; some dude telling Doc that Priest was too big of a man for him. To the Hysterical; Entropy comparing Doc and I to Penn and Teller... There's a ton more, but I never saw the sheet. I'll be sure to link to his report from the weekend.
The best part of the weekend for me was watching the students improve. We had some really big breakthroughs this weekend, that had nothing to do with the students getting laid. I really love the fact that 12 Months to Mastery is working so well. Developing basic social skills, and working on your inner game first is the way to go! It's also been really well received. We've already gotten hundreds of responses from guys who missed out last time wanting to know if we will be relaunching. Stay tuned on that. This last weekend was trying at times as some students come in unprepared to learn. They have big ego shells up and they look at the camp less as a way to get better and more as a way to boost their self esteem and show everyone(both instructors and students) how cool they are. I hit these guys pretty hard with feedback of that nature. Luckily this weekend it worked. Now I'm confident that everyone in Group A will be more than ready by the end of this year, and some guys will be UNREAL good...
Monday I left the hotel room a grand total of 1 hour to workout. I was a mess. I went to bed at 11:30 last night, after I became too tired to keep reading Atlas Shrugged anymore. Today is shaping up like a normal work day before we head out tonight for Midweek Vegas game. A mix of locals, club people and the pathetic :)
Hope everyone else had a great first weekend of this year and I'll be back at ya tomor with the conclusion of the text message saga.
S
How can one sum up the feelings from this last weekend in Vegas?
It started out with me getting stuck in The DFW airport for 4 hours... I got over it by reading Atlas Shrugged, which is amazing. I finally ended up meeting up with Priest at the Vegas airport. We headed over to the hotel to wait for Doc and Entropy.
That night we just hung out at the Circle Bar, I also played some Casino War at the Bellagio. Casino War is AWESOME!!! Easiest game ever when you're drunk. You don't have to think, it's only one card at a time and you can talk trash... Amazing. Currently I'm still in Vegas as I have the 2nd group of guys coming out this weekend. Which also happens to be the AVNs... and I'm down $150 thanks to Entropy and I having a "last night" Blackjack massacre where neither of us EVER won 2 hands in a row over 3 hours and I broke my never take a trip to an ATM to keep gambling rule. Then we talked about Michael Jordan at the Hard Rock Diner while eating Nachos and Potato Skins... The moral of that story-Entropy is awesome. He also has what I call "unexplainable game". He's super good, but a lot of it is hard to describe... He has a look that actually does get girls to come over and make out with him. Doc calls it Blue Steel. I saw it work in Boston last June... Him and Julian Foxx both have this unexplainable thing. The best way to describe it is that it looks different when they do the same things. My guess is it's a confidence level thing. Because both of them tend to break a lot more rules, because they believe they're good with girls... Who knows. Check out his post on Vegas eating his soul Here
It was Doc and Entropy's first trip to Vegas so I felt compelled to make sure they had a good time. After all if there's one thing I know it's Vegas... This usually means some combination of alcohol, strippers, and gambling. We ended up walking out of Seamless at 7:30 in the morning. Or they did. I left at 8 because the girl I was gaming was off at 9 and I really thought I could make it, til I started dozing off at 745ish...
Doc had a list of all the funny things that happened. From the random; Running into Mehow and Hawaii at 5 AM Before we even headed to the strip club. To the Bizarre; some dude telling Doc that Priest was too big of a man for him. To the Hysterical; Entropy comparing Doc and I to Penn and Teller... There's a ton more, but I never saw the sheet. I'll be sure to link to his report from the weekend.
The best part of the weekend for me was watching the students improve. We had some really big breakthroughs this weekend, that had nothing to do with the students getting laid. I really love the fact that 12 Months to Mastery is working so well. Developing basic social skills, and working on your inner game first is the way to go! It's also been really well received. We've already gotten hundreds of responses from guys who missed out last time wanting to know if we will be relaunching. Stay tuned on that. This last weekend was trying at times as some students come in unprepared to learn. They have big ego shells up and they look at the camp less as a way to get better and more as a way to boost their self esteem and show everyone(both instructors and students) how cool they are. I hit these guys pretty hard with feedback of that nature. Luckily this weekend it worked. Now I'm confident that everyone in Group A will be more than ready by the end of this year, and some guys will be UNREAL good...
Monday I left the hotel room a grand total of 1 hour to workout. I was a mess. I went to bed at 11:30 last night, after I became too tired to keep reading Atlas Shrugged anymore. Today is shaping up like a normal work day before we head out tonight for Midweek Vegas game. A mix of locals, club people and the pathetic :)
Hope everyone else had a great first weekend of this year and I'll be back at ya tomor with the conclusion of the text message saga.
S
Monday, January 05, 2009
Anyone Want A Free 60-Minute Phone Coaching Session with Me?
If you’ve ever wanted personal phone coaching from me, but weren’t in a position to shell out a few hundred bucks for it, today is your lucky day.
All you have to do is enter the Sinns of Attraction Testimonial Contest by emailing your sincere testimonial to me at sinn@sinnsofattraction.com.
Why am I having a testimonial contest?
I’ll be honest, I NEED YOUR HELP! Although Sinns of Attraction is more or less an “upstart” company, I have A LOT of big things planned for 2009.
For example, I’m going to be releasing products in the coming months on topics like Natural Attraction, Day Game, Breakthrough Comfort and a host of other things.
But before I release any of these products, it would really help if I had some testimonials beforehand. Because to be honest, how what YOU have to say is the only thing that really matters. I mean, I can go on and on about how great I am, but if I’m not providing value to you or if my students don’t get results, it’s going to be tough for me to stay in business.
So here’s what I’m asking you to do: If you’ve found my teaching beneficial (either writings on my blog, my email newsletter, articles I’ve written, the Game Acceleration Doctrine, The Lay Reports Book, a speech your saw me make, or if you were a bootcamp student) please email me and let me know how I’ve helped you.
What do you like about my teachings and why should somebody else give me a shot? How have I helped you? You get the idea.
The person who gives me the BEST testimonial (by best I mean most creative, original, and sincere) will win a FREE 60-minute phone coaching session from me.
Not only that, EVERYONE who emails me a sincere testimonial will win a never-before-released report I recently created about how to decode the language of women. This Report has A LOT of my latest attraction and seduction strategies that I have so far only shared with my elite 12-Months to Mastery Members. I promise that you will get tons of value out of this report. It’s about 30 pages.
So please, send your testimonials to me at Sinn@sinnsofattraction.com by no later than Friday, January 9, 2009. You’ll be glad you did.
You’re also really helping me out on this.
Thanks,
S
All you have to do is enter the Sinns of Attraction Testimonial Contest by emailing your sincere testimonial to me at sinn@sinnsofattraction.com.
Why am I having a testimonial contest?
I’ll be honest, I NEED YOUR HELP! Although Sinns of Attraction is more or less an “upstart” company, I have A LOT of big things planned for 2009.
For example, I’m going to be releasing products in the coming months on topics like Natural Attraction, Day Game, Breakthrough Comfort and a host of other things.
But before I release any of these products, it would really help if I had some testimonials beforehand. Because to be honest, how what YOU have to say is the only thing that really matters. I mean, I can go on and on about how great I am, but if I’m not providing value to you or if my students don’t get results, it’s going to be tough for me to stay in business.
So here’s what I’m asking you to do: If you’ve found my teaching beneficial (either writings on my blog, my email newsletter, articles I’ve written, the Game Acceleration Doctrine, The Lay Reports Book, a speech your saw me make, or if you were a bootcamp student) please email me and let me know how I’ve helped you.
What do you like about my teachings and why should somebody else give me a shot? How have I helped you? You get the idea.
The person who gives me the BEST testimonial (by best I mean most creative, original, and sincere) will win a FREE 60-minute phone coaching session from me.
Not only that, EVERYONE who emails me a sincere testimonial will win a never-before-released report I recently created about how to decode the language of women. This Report has A LOT of my latest attraction and seduction strategies that I have so far only shared with my elite 12-Months to Mastery Members. I promise that you will get tons of value out of this report. It’s about 30 pages.
So please, send your testimonials to me at Sinn@sinnsofattraction.com by no later than Friday, January 9, 2009. You’ll be glad you did.
You’re also really helping me out on this.
Thanks,
S
Thursday, January 01, 2009
Real life Texts that led to a date...
In my latest newsletter ( That you can sign up for Here) I break down the last date I went on and the mistakes I made. This is an excerpt where I break down the text messages that went back and forth prior to our date.
This starts after we made out and I had bungled the logistics of the pull...
I texted her the following at 3 AM:
Sinn: You home yet Bratface?
She didn’t respond until around noon the next day. She’ll be Miss Newsie Hat.
Miss Newsie Hat: hahaha!
Here’s our texts leading up to the date:
S: That’s a delayed laugh ;)
MNH: Yes
S: And a very detailed text message. Is someone a little hung over?
Here I’m pacing and teasing her for giving me one word answers so far. It’s not rude just pointing it out in a funny way.
MNH: Haha. Not really. You?
S: Naw I don’t get hangovers luckily for me : ) I ate Lean Cuisine tho and regret that.
MNH: Lean cuisine?? That’s not really late night food!!! And, no hangovers?
S: I know, I’m a riddle wrapped in a mystery, wrapped in an enigma. Just don’t propose :p
This is a disqualifier as well as some callback humor. I have been proposed to by 3 different girls. I told her the stories when we met Friday night. I like anytype of disqualifer that assumes a relationship or her chasing you.
MNH: I’ll try to restrain myself!
S: I can restrain you… Actually you’d like that too much and it would probably make you more likely to propose. Curses!
Here she uses a slight sexual word, and I jump on it. But I release it in the end of the message. This is a HUGE escalation from the previous text. I like to try to go sexual as early as possible to start inoculating against last minute resistance. However you always have to release the tension before she gets creeped out.
MNH: Wow.
See here she’s a little weirded out by the escalation.
S: Wow is better with the finger puppets. You doing family stuff now or reading more twilight?
I see she’s weirded out, give a cryptic non-sequitur comment, and then ask a social question. I want to get the attention of the interaction off the sexual stuff before she starts raising objections. I also use some callback rapport as she told me the night before that she was obsessed with the Twilight book series...
MNH: What? At lunch with the fam.
S: I’ll show you the finger puppets for wow and if you’re lucky I’ll even teach you the loser song.
Now I’ve recovered I changed the focus and she goes with it. Now we’re talking about the confusing comment. I bait her with another weird sounding thing I’ll teach her.
MNH: Haha
S: Unfortunately, you’ll have to wait til next time to learn :( Gotta go do writer stuff for awhile . Call ya later…
And then I end the interaction. It’s super important to get off the phone or text conversation first. So I end it but I take the opportunity to build emotional momentum and go up the intimacy scale to the phone. It’s much easier to get a girl to come meet you on the phone than it is through text messages. Now she’s prepared for me calling and I can get her to meet up.
After that I call her a few hours later and get her voicemail. I leave a quick message telling her to try to catch me, if not I’ll try her later.
She texts me:
MNH: Did you call me?
S: Yeah I got sick of people who actually like me, so I wanted someone to keep my head from getting too big :)
This is part of what I call hate game, where instead of talking about how much you guys like each other you use hate instead…
MNH: Ha. Well I’m glad you thought of me!! My phone is jacked up, I can’t check my phone log or voicemail.
S: Wow can you throw it at people? That’s a phones real use ;)
Just a funny non-sequitur. Humor can be random…
MNH: I can’t function without my phone! I’ve had several problems with this phone!
We’re having a boring conversation about phones, so I change it with a teasing qualifer. Whenever you’re in doubt about what to do, try to qualify. Teasing qualification is the lowest form, but has the most uses.
S: Do you have funky texting thumbs?
MNH: Getting there.
A few minutes later she texts me this:
Call me when you get a chance.
I called her talked for a few minutes and set up a date for drinks the next night. Unfortunately it would not be that easy…
Stay tuned next time to see how I deal with an almost flake and the mistakes I made on the date.
Talk to ya guys soon… Real soon,
S
This starts after we made out and I had bungled the logistics of the pull...
I texted her the following at 3 AM:
Sinn: You home yet Bratface?
She didn’t respond until around noon the next day. She’ll be Miss Newsie Hat.
Miss Newsie Hat: hahaha!
Here’s our texts leading up to the date:
S: That’s a delayed laugh ;)
MNH: Yes
S: And a very detailed text message. Is someone a little hung over?
Here I’m pacing and teasing her for giving me one word answers so far. It’s not rude just pointing it out in a funny way.
MNH: Haha. Not really. You?
S: Naw I don’t get hangovers luckily for me : ) I ate Lean Cuisine tho and regret that.
MNH: Lean cuisine?? That’s not really late night food!!! And, no hangovers?
S: I know, I’m a riddle wrapped in a mystery, wrapped in an enigma. Just don’t propose :p
This is a disqualifier as well as some callback humor. I have been proposed to by 3 different girls. I told her the stories when we met Friday night. I like anytype of disqualifer that assumes a relationship or her chasing you.
MNH: I’ll try to restrain myself!
S: I can restrain you… Actually you’d like that too much and it would probably make you more likely to propose. Curses!
Here she uses a slight sexual word, and I jump on it. But I release it in the end of the message. This is a HUGE escalation from the previous text. I like to try to go sexual as early as possible to start inoculating against last minute resistance. However you always have to release the tension before she gets creeped out.
MNH: Wow.
See here she’s a little weirded out by the escalation.
S: Wow is better with the finger puppets. You doing family stuff now or reading more twilight?
I see she’s weirded out, give a cryptic non-sequitur comment, and then ask a social question. I want to get the attention of the interaction off the sexual stuff before she starts raising objections. I also use some callback rapport as she told me the night before that she was obsessed with the Twilight book series...
MNH: What? At lunch with the fam.
S: I’ll show you the finger puppets for wow and if you’re lucky I’ll even teach you the loser song.
Now I’ve recovered I changed the focus and she goes with it. Now we’re talking about the confusing comment. I bait her with another weird sounding thing I’ll teach her.
MNH: Haha
S: Unfortunately, you’ll have to wait til next time to learn :( Gotta go do writer stuff for awhile . Call ya later…
And then I end the interaction. It’s super important to get off the phone or text conversation first. So I end it but I take the opportunity to build emotional momentum and go up the intimacy scale to the phone. It’s much easier to get a girl to come meet you on the phone than it is through text messages. Now she’s prepared for me calling and I can get her to meet up.
After that I call her a few hours later and get her voicemail. I leave a quick message telling her to try to catch me, if not I’ll try her later.
She texts me:
MNH: Did you call me?
S: Yeah I got sick of people who actually like me, so I wanted someone to keep my head from getting too big :)
This is part of what I call hate game, where instead of talking about how much you guys like each other you use hate instead…
MNH: Ha. Well I’m glad you thought of me!! My phone is jacked up, I can’t check my phone log or voicemail.
S: Wow can you throw it at people? That’s a phones real use ;)
Just a funny non-sequitur. Humor can be random…
MNH: I can’t function without my phone! I’ve had several problems with this phone!
We’re having a boring conversation about phones, so I change it with a teasing qualifer. Whenever you’re in doubt about what to do, try to qualify. Teasing qualification is the lowest form, but has the most uses.
S: Do you have funky texting thumbs?
MNH: Getting there.
A few minutes later she texts me this:
Call me when you get a chance.
I called her talked for a few minutes and set up a date for drinks the next night. Unfortunately it would not be that easy…
Stay tuned next time to see how I deal with an almost flake and the mistakes I made on the date.
Talk to ya guys soon… Real soon,
S
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
New Year's Resolutions!!!
Hey guys,
Here's my annual list of stuff I probably won't get through all of.Then next year I'll be able to look back at how accurate past me was about future me.
Here's my resolutions:
1. I resolve to quit smoking cigarettes for good on my Birthday. The last two years will then be referred to as my "early 20s angst filled cigarette days." For about a month I was counting down the days. Though I should add that I am down to 1-2 cigarettes per night I go out drinking. And zero, when I'm sober.
2. I will start and maintain a sports blog. I'll link to it when it's created. I spend way too much time reading and thinking about sports and like writing about it enough that I should do it more.
3. I'll finish the entire 12 Cities in 12 Months tour and book on time. I know there will be 3 weekends/Thurs/Mons used up in June for bootcamps, unless the bootcamps are done in one of the 12 cities... So as long as it's completed within 3 weeks of the year, I should be good. It's gonna be hard to do all the writing for that and the business stuff. I can already tell...
4. Work on Same night Threesomes. I've seen a bunch of really cool stuff happen lately and I want to start working on a body of informationand structure for going out and taking home two sets for threesomes. I've already got a good outline on the waypoints that need to happen, and frames to set...
5. Do Yoga and boxing once a week each. I really like switching up the different ways I exercise and both of these are great. The cool thing about this combo is that it covers both masculine and feminine polarities. The boxing is great for getting that good focused, aggressive, masculine, dominance. Yoga is good for being centered, letting go, relaxing, getting into flow and state. I've done that a few times since getting home and I feel really good internally, very balanced.
6. Read more literature. I read a good amount of self help, sports stuff, and research stuff. I'd like to read more literature. I'm reading Atlas Shrugged now, which I realize is a very self help way of sliding into classic literature, but I digress. So I'll be reading more regular books.
7. Create a work/life/game schedule that works more efficiently. Right now there's so much work to do with keeping everything updated, creating content for 12 Months to Mastery, doing long term business stuff etc... I want to have set work hours, set time for reading and research, set time for working out, set days for gaming, girls in rotation, and time to relax. I need way more structure at this point to get everything done and have a life.
8. Learn all the words to Trapped in The Closet chapters 13-25. The drama gets deeper the further we go with Trapped in The Closet. Though I will say calling AIDS a package is weird...
Allright that's probably enough.
Let's see what you guys resolutions are...
S
Here's my annual list of stuff I probably won't get through all of.Then next year I'll be able to look back at how accurate past me was about future me.
Here's my resolutions:
1. I resolve to quit smoking cigarettes for good on my Birthday. The last two years will then be referred to as my "early 20s angst filled cigarette days." For about a month I was counting down the days. Though I should add that I am down to 1-2 cigarettes per night I go out drinking. And zero, when I'm sober.
2. I will start and maintain a sports blog. I'll link to it when it's created. I spend way too much time reading and thinking about sports and like writing about it enough that I should do it more.
3. I'll finish the entire 12 Cities in 12 Months tour and book on time. I know there will be 3 weekends/Thurs/Mons used up in June for bootcamps, unless the bootcamps are done in one of the 12 cities... So as long as it's completed within 3 weeks of the year, I should be good. It's gonna be hard to do all the writing for that and the business stuff. I can already tell...
4. Work on Same night Threesomes. I've seen a bunch of really cool stuff happen lately and I want to start working on a body of informationand structure for going out and taking home two sets for threesomes. I've already got a good outline on the waypoints that need to happen, and frames to set...
5. Do Yoga and boxing once a week each. I really like switching up the different ways I exercise and both of these are great. The cool thing about this combo is that it covers both masculine and feminine polarities. The boxing is great for getting that good focused, aggressive, masculine, dominance. Yoga is good for being centered, letting go, relaxing, getting into flow and state. I've done that a few times since getting home and I feel really good internally, very balanced.
6. Read more literature. I read a good amount of self help, sports stuff, and research stuff. I'd like to read more literature. I'm reading Atlas Shrugged now, which I realize is a very self help way of sliding into classic literature, but I digress. So I'll be reading more regular books.
7. Create a work/life/game schedule that works more efficiently. Right now there's so much work to do with keeping everything updated, creating content for 12 Months to Mastery, doing long term business stuff etc... I want to have set work hours, set time for reading and research, set time for working out, set days for gaming, girls in rotation, and time to relax. I need way more structure at this point to get everything done and have a life.
8. Learn all the words to Trapped in The Closet chapters 13-25. The drama gets deeper the further we go with Trapped in The Closet. Though I will say calling AIDS a package is weird...
Allright that's probably enough.
Let's see what you guys resolutions are...
S
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
The last 5 and a half weeks Part 4- What Kind Of Asshole Drives a Yellow Porsche
I had a date last night where I royally fucked things up... I'll actually be breaking the date down for the guys on my email list, so if you haven't signed up and want to read a live breakdown of what not to do on dates go HERE and sign up.
All right back to the Australia adventure. When last we left I was thankfully leaving the Gold Coast and streaking towards Sydney, schnitzel and of course weed. When we left on Sunday Moxie had called his friend P. His friend P actually turned out to be an AWESOME guy. Like one of the coolest most down to earth people I've met. he's going to be splitting a place in Whistler with Moxie and I next November. He also had the weed. If you read my adventures in Cairns you'd know we'd been looking for weeks... Literally to no avail. Add to that being away from home for almost a month, living out of a suitcase, eating bad for you food, swapping germs with random club girls every night and it's not a pretty picture. So props to P for the assist there.
The next day we had to walk all around Sydney to find a seminar venue, The Sheraton by the park wanted 26,000 for the day. Whew.
Earlier when I was in the Gold Coast I had met some people who tape seminars to produce products. Because of the exchange rate and their very reasonable rates, it would never be cheaper to film products. Plus I have a strong base of readership over in Australia. So I decided to try to find a room in Sydney to film 4 different programs:
1. Day Game- This was by far the best taping of day game. Combined with the Q and A stuff and "extras" we recorded, this is gonna be a great product and finally reveal all my day time tricks and tips.
2. The 4 Steps of Natural Attraction- This is a brand new program I'd only been teaching to small groups in different lairs. I break down all the tactics and techniques down to the essential traits that cause attraction.
3. Same Night Lays- This was a really good taping with a special section on In Venue Lays and some racy stories from the last few months.
4. Breakthrough Comfort- This is the way to get out of the friendship zone and make women fall in love with you. There's a new 3 part system and overall frame introduced in this taping.
We ended up getting a great room and a great turnout. There were over 50 men and women there the first night and almost 30 there the next. The filming went really well, but really long. We filmed from 6 PM to 3:45 AM then came back and did it again from 11 AM to 1:45 AM.
The filming did not go off seamlessly as I had to throw a kid out of the seminar on the second day. The first day his friend and he had been giggling all day and passing notes and drawings. The second day he was drawing on the board during breaks and messing with the AV system. Finally his cell phone goes off in during filming and I tossed him out. He apologized at the next break and hung around outside the seminar room for the rest of the day... As in I didn't let him back in, he hung around the lobby of a hotel for about 6 hours.
My opinion is if the seminars are free, you have a responsibility to be respectful. I actually spent money to bring those seminars to the guys down there. So there's no tolerance for disrespect for myself or the other guys who are giving up their time to be there and actually want to learn.
Thursday I had a chill day where I didn't do much of anything. I relaxed after the huge work days.
Fri and Sat and Sun Moxie had a bootcamp. So I hung out with P and some other people I had met while I was down there until mercifully my Australia trip ended last Monday.
And all of that leads me to the title of this entry.
Moxie has a friend, who is the BIGGEST asshole in the entire world. His name is Rob. Now the funny thing about Rob is that he is a really cool guy. He's fun to be around, he's fun. I actually liked hanging out with him in Sydney. But for the first 20 minutes I met him, I wanted to stab his face off with a screwdriver. See Rob shows love to people by being a cunt. He will agitate, insult, harass, and generally belittle everything and everyone. It's just his nature. And he's not a bad guy in nature. He's not a good person by any stretch of the imagination, but those in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
Now the funny thing about Rob is that he drives ... That's right a Yellow Porsche. So if you've ever seen a Yellow Porsche sitting somewhere, or wondered who that guy in his yellow porsche was, now we know. An asshole. And if you're in Sydney maybe the world's biggest asshole...
I'm sure there's more from OZ I'll remember in chunks but that's all for now folks,
S
All right back to the Australia adventure. When last we left I was thankfully leaving the Gold Coast and streaking towards Sydney, schnitzel and of course weed. When we left on Sunday Moxie had called his friend P. His friend P actually turned out to be an AWESOME guy. Like one of the coolest most down to earth people I've met. he's going to be splitting a place in Whistler with Moxie and I next November. He also had the weed. If you read my adventures in Cairns you'd know we'd been looking for weeks... Literally to no avail. Add to that being away from home for almost a month, living out of a suitcase, eating bad for you food, swapping germs with random club girls every night and it's not a pretty picture. So props to P for the assist there.
The next day we had to walk all around Sydney to find a seminar venue, The Sheraton by the park wanted 26,000 for the day. Whew.
Earlier when I was in the Gold Coast I had met some people who tape seminars to produce products. Because of the exchange rate and their very reasonable rates, it would never be cheaper to film products. Plus I have a strong base of readership over in Australia. So I decided to try to find a room in Sydney to film 4 different programs:
1. Day Game- This was by far the best taping of day game. Combined with the Q and A stuff and "extras" we recorded, this is gonna be a great product and finally reveal all my day time tricks and tips.
2. The 4 Steps of Natural Attraction- This is a brand new program I'd only been teaching to small groups in different lairs. I break down all the tactics and techniques down to the essential traits that cause attraction.
3. Same Night Lays- This was a really good taping with a special section on In Venue Lays and some racy stories from the last few months.
4. Breakthrough Comfort- This is the way to get out of the friendship zone and make women fall in love with you. There's a new 3 part system and overall frame introduced in this taping.
We ended up getting a great room and a great turnout. There were over 50 men and women there the first night and almost 30 there the next. The filming went really well, but really long. We filmed from 6 PM to 3:45 AM then came back and did it again from 11 AM to 1:45 AM.
The filming did not go off seamlessly as I had to throw a kid out of the seminar on the second day. The first day his friend and he had been giggling all day and passing notes and drawings. The second day he was drawing on the board during breaks and messing with the AV system. Finally his cell phone goes off in during filming and I tossed him out. He apologized at the next break and hung around outside the seminar room for the rest of the day... As in I didn't let him back in, he hung around the lobby of a hotel for about 6 hours.
My opinion is if the seminars are free, you have a responsibility to be respectful. I actually spent money to bring those seminars to the guys down there. So there's no tolerance for disrespect for myself or the other guys who are giving up their time to be there and actually want to learn.
Thursday I had a chill day where I didn't do much of anything. I relaxed after the huge work days.
Fri and Sat and Sun Moxie had a bootcamp. So I hung out with P and some other people I had met while I was down there until mercifully my Australia trip ended last Monday.
And all of that leads me to the title of this entry.
Moxie has a friend, who is the BIGGEST asshole in the entire world. His name is Rob. Now the funny thing about Rob is that he is a really cool guy. He's fun to be around, he's fun. I actually liked hanging out with him in Sydney. But for the first 20 minutes I met him, I wanted to stab his face off with a screwdriver. See Rob shows love to people by being a cunt. He will agitate, insult, harass, and generally belittle everything and everyone. It's just his nature. And he's not a bad guy in nature. He's not a good person by any stretch of the imagination, but those in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
Now the funny thing about Rob is that he drives ... That's right a Yellow Porsche. So if you've ever seen a Yellow Porsche sitting somewhere, or wondered who that guy in his yellow porsche was, now we know. An asshole. And if you're in Sydney maybe the world's biggest asshole...
I'm sure there's more from OZ I'll remember in chunks but that's all for now folks,
S
Monday, December 29, 2008
My Christmas Gift to Myself( Warning this is a sports column)
I got myself an NBA Ticket broadband membership when I got back from Australia and have been enjoying 3-4 NBA games a day since then. I have learned a few things that I want to blog about.
Don't worry i will re-start the Sports Blog this year it'll be in my NY resolutions post I put up in a few days.
But for today dear reader, I present the 5 things I've learned since getting NBA TV Broadband.
1. Blackouts make no sense. I had the Lakers Hornets Game blocked out- Understandable as it's on TNT. But sometimes random Kings games get blacked out or The Thunder at the Wizards. I don't get it, but I don't like it NBA TV should have everything including the games on other networks. Lame.
2. Lebron actually looks like he cares on defense. Not only is he playing hard, he's frighteningly good for how little coaching he's probably had.
I was talking to my Friend Ron the other day and I had a theory about guys like Lebron and Kobe and to a lesser degree Garnett. Because they became famous so young, they go crazy like child stars. They never have solid careers. Kobe had the sidekick thing and being evil, Mcgrady had the whole never winning a first round series thing(ongoing), Garnett was afraid of the big moment(somewhat ongoing). Much akin to the pregnancies, bad marriages, bad albums or movies and eventually turning to Skinemax of child stars. But that's not my theory it just makes sense. My theory is the reason why they go crazy is because they get everything they want. Lebron James probably hasn't had anyone say no to him about anything since he was like 13... So you then want more and more and you never get satisfaction(like Mick Jagger sang about) and you eventually go nuts
I really hope Lebron doesn't go nuts, because watching him take over games DEFENSIVELY is insane. Last night I watched him force the ball away from Dwayne Wade and into 3 straight turnovers with the Cavs down 6 and 5 or so minutes to go. He smothered Wade. The first possesion he switched onto Wade, Wade backed up and hit a jumper. Then 3 straight turnovers keyed by lebron erasing Dwayne from the court. It was suffocating. I remember last year he switched onto Kobe and kept Kobe from beating them. But this year he's taking the best scorer on the other team and making them disappear in the fourth. They can't beat him off the dribble, he's too big and strong to not make it through a pick, scary.
And then on the other side of the court he's just as explosive. Last 5 minutes of a game he creates points EVERY time down court. He killed the Heat last night with a layup, an assist to West in the corner for a 3, and two free throws. This was while he guarded Wade at the other end.
It's crazy to nitpick anything in Lebron's game when he's already so great at age 24. But... For him to take reach his potential(The unquestioned greatest basketball player of all time),he needs to stop taking so many threes and get a post up game. He's done it defensively, he's already there, not the best defender in the league, but a top 3 Forward who understands how to play good defense. He'll only get better with coaching. For a little while, I saw Lebron playing at the Power Forward spot and posting up, something that would make him unguardable. If he just adds a drop step or spin move and a fadeaway jumper, it's over for the league. If he develops a variety of post moves like MJ had or Kevin Mchale, or Olajuwon, he scores 50 a game easily. End of rant about Lebron it's just cool to see him care about basketball.
3. The Rockets are never going to be healthy. EVER. They're just built of glass. Plus I think Tmac has officially reached the Jermaine O'Neal stage of his career. All those guys from the 1996-98 draft class are starting to show signs of slowing down. Even Kobe. He couldn't really take over at will against either The Celtics or Warriors. Even Stu the decidely homer announcer noticed Kobe's noticable lack of arch on his shot after a quick start against the Warriors.
4. The Suns Can't beat the Spurs. They can't do it. This time they lose at the buzzer by leaving the best three point shooter in the league open to double Tony Parker. Last year in the playoffs Duncan makes a 3. The year before that Nash splits open his nose in one game and Amare gets suspended for getting off the bench in another... Everytime there's a chance for Phoenix to win, the Spurs crush their spirit. At this point the mental and physical tolls have mounted for The Suns and I can confidently predict the Nash led Suns will not ever beat The Spurs in a playoff series.
5. The Hornets aren't that good. I liked the Hornets a lot starting out this year. It felt like James Posey was the missing piece. But this team can't really stop anybody, and they have trouble scoring against elite defenses that contain Chris Paul's penetration like the Lakers did. I think They need to change something in NO. I'm not sure what, but it sure looks like they need a rougher rugged player. Someone like a Carlos Boozer. I don't think anyone like that is really on the market though. If The Suns decide to blow things up in the next few years, I'd kill to see Amare with CP3.
I also think that so far the 5 best players in the league are:
1. Lebron James. Hands down the best, right now. His physicality is unmatched by anyone other than a young Shaq. He's a beast at both ends of the court, and steps up huge when it matters most. He's officially seized the crown from Kobe in his 6th season.
2. Kobe Bryant. I always try to be brutually honest about players and until late last year Kobe was the best player in the league. Even though I hated him. I'm actually sad to see the less dominant Kobe. The Kobe who misses shots and I'm not surprised. The guy who doesn't get on those NBA jam like rolls. He's way less fun to watch and you're still never gonna convince me he's a good guy. No matter how many low top sneakers he makes.
3. Dwayne Wade. I'm giving Kobe the respect vote at # 2 because I know he is coasting somewhat this year. Though he looked unable to take over two very close games. The only time Wade can't take over a game is when Lebron's on him. Wade is the only player I've ever seen who looks Jordanesque. The slice and dice moves into the lane, the will to keep driving, getting up and knocking down free throws in close games, the competitiveness. This year his defense is off the charts as he's was averaging close to 3 blocks a game for awhile. He's spectacular. Just not able to match Lebron physically. I'd kill for a close Heat/Lakers game in the 4th quarter.
4. Chris Paul. I think he needs to be able to take over more consistently. He's a little more Magic Johnson than Isiah Thomas in crunchtime and I'd like to see him become an end of game killer. He's super fun to watch though. A little bit of a defensive liability though even though he gets a ton of steals. Doesn't scare you when he has the ball the way Lebron, Kobe and Wade do. Not even as much as this next guy...
5. Brandon Roy. He's spectacular. Over the first 30 games of the season he's scored 52, hit back to back game winners against Houston, and averaged 36.7 for a week for a 19-10 Portland team. Portland is shaping up to be a superteam. If Greg Oden can get to 70% of what people want him to be in a few years that team will be stocked. It's weird he's the 5th best player in the league but Paul Pierce started out of the gate way too slowly this year.
Allright next time it'll be in the sports blog...
S
Don't worry i will re-start the Sports Blog this year it'll be in my NY resolutions post I put up in a few days.
But for today dear reader, I present the 5 things I've learned since getting NBA TV Broadband.
1. Blackouts make no sense. I had the Lakers Hornets Game blocked out- Understandable as it's on TNT. But sometimes random Kings games get blacked out or The Thunder at the Wizards. I don't get it, but I don't like it NBA TV should have everything including the games on other networks. Lame.
2. Lebron actually looks like he cares on defense. Not only is he playing hard, he's frighteningly good for how little coaching he's probably had.
I was talking to my Friend Ron the other day and I had a theory about guys like Lebron and Kobe and to a lesser degree Garnett. Because they became famous so young, they go crazy like child stars. They never have solid careers. Kobe had the sidekick thing and being evil, Mcgrady had the whole never winning a first round series thing(ongoing), Garnett was afraid of the big moment(somewhat ongoing). Much akin to the pregnancies, bad marriages, bad albums or movies and eventually turning to Skinemax of child stars. But that's not my theory it just makes sense. My theory is the reason why they go crazy is because they get everything they want. Lebron James probably hasn't had anyone say no to him about anything since he was like 13... So you then want more and more and you never get satisfaction(like Mick Jagger sang about) and you eventually go nuts
I really hope Lebron doesn't go nuts, because watching him take over games DEFENSIVELY is insane. Last night I watched him force the ball away from Dwayne Wade and into 3 straight turnovers with the Cavs down 6 and 5 or so minutes to go. He smothered Wade. The first possesion he switched onto Wade, Wade backed up and hit a jumper. Then 3 straight turnovers keyed by lebron erasing Dwayne from the court. It was suffocating. I remember last year he switched onto Kobe and kept Kobe from beating them. But this year he's taking the best scorer on the other team and making them disappear in the fourth. They can't beat him off the dribble, he's too big and strong to not make it through a pick, scary.
And then on the other side of the court he's just as explosive. Last 5 minutes of a game he creates points EVERY time down court. He killed the Heat last night with a layup, an assist to West in the corner for a 3, and two free throws. This was while he guarded Wade at the other end.
It's crazy to nitpick anything in Lebron's game when he's already so great at age 24. But... For him to take reach his potential(The unquestioned greatest basketball player of all time),he needs to stop taking so many threes and get a post up game. He's done it defensively, he's already there, not the best defender in the league, but a top 3 Forward who understands how to play good defense. He'll only get better with coaching. For a little while, I saw Lebron playing at the Power Forward spot and posting up, something that would make him unguardable. If he just adds a drop step or spin move and a fadeaway jumper, it's over for the league. If he develops a variety of post moves like MJ had or Kevin Mchale, or Olajuwon, he scores 50 a game easily. End of rant about Lebron it's just cool to see him care about basketball.
3. The Rockets are never going to be healthy. EVER. They're just built of glass. Plus I think Tmac has officially reached the Jermaine O'Neal stage of his career. All those guys from the 1996-98 draft class are starting to show signs of slowing down. Even Kobe. He couldn't really take over at will against either The Celtics or Warriors. Even Stu the decidely homer announcer noticed Kobe's noticable lack of arch on his shot after a quick start against the Warriors.
4. The Suns Can't beat the Spurs. They can't do it. This time they lose at the buzzer by leaving the best three point shooter in the league open to double Tony Parker. Last year in the playoffs Duncan makes a 3. The year before that Nash splits open his nose in one game and Amare gets suspended for getting off the bench in another... Everytime there's a chance for Phoenix to win, the Spurs crush their spirit. At this point the mental and physical tolls have mounted for The Suns and I can confidently predict the Nash led Suns will not ever beat The Spurs in a playoff series.
5. The Hornets aren't that good. I liked the Hornets a lot starting out this year. It felt like James Posey was the missing piece. But this team can't really stop anybody, and they have trouble scoring against elite defenses that contain Chris Paul's penetration like the Lakers did. I think They need to change something in NO. I'm not sure what, but it sure looks like they need a rougher rugged player. Someone like a Carlos Boozer. I don't think anyone like that is really on the market though. If The Suns decide to blow things up in the next few years, I'd kill to see Amare with CP3.
I also think that so far the 5 best players in the league are:
1. Lebron James. Hands down the best, right now. His physicality is unmatched by anyone other than a young Shaq. He's a beast at both ends of the court, and steps up huge when it matters most. He's officially seized the crown from Kobe in his 6th season.
2. Kobe Bryant. I always try to be brutually honest about players and until late last year Kobe was the best player in the league. Even though I hated him. I'm actually sad to see the less dominant Kobe. The Kobe who misses shots and I'm not surprised. The guy who doesn't get on those NBA jam like rolls. He's way less fun to watch and you're still never gonna convince me he's a good guy. No matter how many low top sneakers he makes.
3. Dwayne Wade. I'm giving Kobe the respect vote at # 2 because I know he is coasting somewhat this year. Though he looked unable to take over two very close games. The only time Wade can't take over a game is when Lebron's on him. Wade is the only player I've ever seen who looks Jordanesque. The slice and dice moves into the lane, the will to keep driving, getting up and knocking down free throws in close games, the competitiveness. This year his defense is off the charts as he's was averaging close to 3 blocks a game for awhile. He's spectacular. Just not able to match Lebron physically. I'd kill for a close Heat/Lakers game in the 4th quarter.
4. Chris Paul. I think he needs to be able to take over more consistently. He's a little more Magic Johnson than Isiah Thomas in crunchtime and I'd like to see him become an end of game killer. He's super fun to watch though. A little bit of a defensive liability though even though he gets a ton of steals. Doesn't scare you when he has the ball the way Lebron, Kobe and Wade do. Not even as much as this next guy...
5. Brandon Roy. He's spectacular. Over the first 30 games of the season he's scored 52, hit back to back game winners against Houston, and averaged 36.7 for a week for a 19-10 Portland team. Portland is shaping up to be a superteam. If Greg Oden can get to 70% of what people want him to be in a few years that team will be stocked. It's weird he's the 5th best player in the league but Paul Pierce started out of the gate way too slowly this year.
Allright next time it'll be in the sports blog...
S
Mailbag Question-critique a routine stack...
Hey guys,
I’m looking around my place in the aftermath of another crazy night out and I don’t feel like dealing cleaning that up with a stick and a rag… SO I thought I’d do a mailbag.
Today’s email comes from a member of my year long coaching program 12 Months to Mastery. We were rescheduling phone consultations around the holidays and he had an extra question.
“Also, do you have time to look over my routine stack if I send it to you?
I was looking over the sticking point process and realized I need to be
doing things consistently to get accurate results. So I made a new stack
that hopefully will keep my sets consistent. It's pretty basic, I just
want to make sure I have the approriate material to start with and that
the sequencing is correct.
Thanks....
Q
No problem Q. I don’t espouse a particular philosophy on the use of routines. I think they’re helpful, but they can cause you to develop bad habits because you become reliant on routines. I also don’t think you HAVE to use routines to get girls. But they are an effective strategy and should be recognized as such. So let’s take a look at the stack:
Routine Stack Working Model
Opener: (Select one) [Kino Ping] (Smile & Be loud!)
1. You guys seem cool…So I had to come over and say hello……
2. You guys seem fun……I had to come say hello.
3. I was sooo going to wear that tonite.
4. Sincere compliment…….(Default)
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This section is good because it has a variety of openers. I personally believe you should have between 1-5 openers you like at any given times. Some openers work better in specific situations like approaching mixed groups or seated groups. It’s also good that he mentions to kino ping or touch on the opener. You want to break that touch barrier immediately. He also mentions smiling and being loud, if you can do just those two it will make a big difference in how many groups will talk to you.
The problem with this section is that it doesn’t have any different types of openers. Every opener on the list is a direct opener. This means it’s an opener that states interest in meeting the girl or group. You want to have both indirect and direct openers in the arsenal so that you can approach all different scenarios. Here I’d add an indirect risk opener like Brad P’s Horsegirl or The Don and I’s Child support opener. I’d also add a regular opinion opener like one of my favorite openers the “Died in your Arms Tonight “ Opener it goes like this:
Hey guys, help me win a free drink from my friends. You know that song “Died in Your Arms Tonight?” You know who sings that song? My friends say it’s Journey but I know it’s Cutting Crew. So all you guys have to do is wave over there while I say Cutting Crew. Cool?
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Negs / Teases:
Yep….You guys are definitely the coolest girls I have met….In the last 30 seconds.
or
You guys are totally adorable…..You’re like my little sisters…..I’m going to put you in my pocket and adopt you as my new little sisters….Wait a minute….You guys are potty trained right?
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Ok these teases are a little… weak. You need some teases that either sexualize the interaction, or paint her as a little bit dorky. These are friendly and bantery but not good this early in the interaction.
Instead I say use teases like
“ I don’t know who your last boyfriend was, but he did not spank you enough.”
“ You should really run away, I’m a horrible person. I make up for it by being somewhat charming but do yourself a favor and run along. Plus I’m really bad in bed ☺”
But it is the right idea to have a few default teases ready for when girls get bratty, or when there is an obvious lack of social tension or attraction( AkA the “polite” response). Teasing is a major part of game, as it passively sets the frame that you are cooler than the girl. If you tease a girl and she laughs, the frame has been set.
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Time Constraint / Transitionary Compliment:
You guys are fun though…….I gotta get going soon but……
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I don’t recommend using time constraints unless you are using them as part of a push pull, or as a tease. If the girl says something I can misinterpret as creepy, I’ll often look at my arm and say “ look at the time, I have to go feed my cat…They can be helpful in seated groups though, because it’s awkward to just go up to a group and grab a seat with them.
No real problem with always using a time constraint, but don’t feel you always have to do it either.
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Transition:
Just out of curiosity…..How do you guys know each other?
- Waypoint for lock-in
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Here you’re using a social question as a transition. You can do this if you got attraction off the opener. If you haven’t gotten attraction yet, then you’ll just be boring the girls with that question. There’s a ton of ways to transition from observations, to phrasal transitions like “ It’s just like when” or “that reminds me of”. You can also just start talking about whatever your next subject is.
It’s good that you have a default way of transitioning set up before hand though. Next time just make it something you can use regardless of whether they’re attracted.
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Attraction: (Watch for IOI’s)
You guys look like you are……. (Cold Read)
Are you guys adventurous? (Qualification Ping)
I know everybody asks you this but…..What do you do for work? (What do you do routine)
I’m sorry…..What did you say your name(s) was? (Bad with names routine)
DHV Story : Melrose story / Hole in jeans / Bench press /South Beach (Only as needed)
IVD: Murder Mystery routine or dollar bill routine (Only as needed)
Hmmm…. You pick interesting fingers to wear your rings on…. (Rings Routine) (Mini-Isolate)
- Waypoint for move and / or isolation.
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In your attraction section, you seem to be very focused on cold reading with the “you guys look like” mini cold read, followed up by the work routine. In fact this whole style is very low key. This stuff is great for singles and low stimulus environments like lounges, coffeeshops etc… Not great for bars and clubs IME. You might want to make the rings something you use EVERY time. I still use that as a default transition. You also have some DHV stories you tell if needed. DHV stories are kinda relics at this point, the only stories you really need are your life story and a few short funny ones that happen to mention a girlfriend ☺ You don’t have any push/pulls, you don’t have any statements of intent, you don’t do any pacing of the current situation or framing. You’re also not that emotionally engaging. I would throw in a quick past adventures projection early on like the Spanish Chambermaid routine here:
“ You know Sally here is being shy because this is the first time we’ve seen each other since “the incident.” What happened was when Sally went vacationing in Spain last year we had a little fling. And I don’t usually tell people all of our business up front but I cheated on her. Yeah, but I added it up statistically and I made the right choice, it was my only chance to ever sleep with a Spanish Chambermaid and I had to take it. I’m sorry I hurt you… But you did cheat on me with the pool boy first….”
And yes I totally stole the idea from that episode of Seinfeld where George goes off sex and becomes super smart. Geoff formerly of RSD was the first guy I saw use past adventures projections like that one.
Overall I think you need more fun and playfulness in the attraction phase. You’ve got the intriguing/interesting side down and the masculine side down but you need more playfulness and fun.
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Qualification & Framing: (Waypoint for isolation.)
Do you believe in Love at first sight? (Love at first sight Short pattern)
You look like you are XYZ nationality….. (Nationality qualification routine)
“ I’d be lying if I didn’t say you were a beautiful girl….But I don’t mean anything by it.”
I wonder what (target’s name) was like when she was seven? (When you were 7 routine)
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This qualification sequence needs a ton of work. There’s no small hoops. You need small hoops to build momentum so you need a small qualifier like “ are you adventurous or spontaneous.” You ping early on with a small hoop, but you want to use another one to build momentum for your medium hoop(What nationality are you?) and you need another medium hoop before your large hoop. You also want to soften the hoop by taking out the part where you tell her you don’t mean anything by her being beautiful. Instead say “ but there are a lot of beautiful girls here, what makes you special?”
It’s good that you have more than one piece of qualification material, but you want to stick to the format of two small hoops, two medium hoops and one large hoop. Also I’m not sure why you stuck Toecutter’s Love at first sight pattern in qualification. This piece fits in to either attraction as a transition or into comfort, as an escalation. You should also insert some quirkier things that YOU specifically want in a girl. Everyone should make a list of the 10 nonphysical qualities they want in a woman and use those qualities as their qualifiers. Trust me this makes life and game much easier.
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Sexual Framing
You know, you’re kinda throwing me a little bit… (As needed) (Good Girl Face routine)
You know, you SEEM interesting….. In college I studied Psychology and one of the first things they taught us was the Strawberry Fields Test (Strawberry Fields Routine)
Non Judgemental frame / cold read (Not finished yet, will add in later if needed)
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You certainly want to add more to the sexual framing stuff, you need things like discretion, Independence, decisiveness, etc… You also want to throw in physical stuff like biting your lip at her, triangular gazing and verbal escalations like “ If nobody was here right now, I’d bend you over this table and take care of business.”
It’s good that you’re recognizing the need for certain sexual accelerators though…
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Grounding / DHV:
With me, it’s interesting…….Like I how I grew up_________ I always did_______ and it pushed me to do _________(ambition story).
Comfort: (Select as needed)
1. Heart Melter
2. First Kiss
3. Cosmo
4. Cube
5. Kiss Close
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You also need more of a plan for comfort besides just a few routines and a kiss close. You need to have contingencies in place for getting her to give you her phone number and or leave the venue with you and get back to your place. You need to have a plan for the date and a story to seed it to get her excited to go on it. You also need to have a way of escalating things sexually and logistically. You want to have a list of things you’re interested that you want her to know about, as well as a few ways of getting to know her at a deeper level and determine compatability.
Overall I’d say this stack has a lot of good structure, but could use some refinement in the actual material being used. It could also probably use a bit more emotional stimulation and interactivity throughout the stack.
Hope that helps everyone out there, if you guys have questions about routines in general, specific routines or routine stacks, email me at Sinn@sinnsofattraction.com
Til next time,
S
I’m looking around my place in the aftermath of another crazy night out and I don’t feel like dealing cleaning that up with a stick and a rag… SO I thought I’d do a mailbag.
Today’s email comes from a member of my year long coaching program 12 Months to Mastery. We were rescheduling phone consultations around the holidays and he had an extra question.
“Also, do you have time to look over my routine stack if I send it to you?
I was looking over the sticking point process and realized I need to be
doing things consistently to get accurate results. So I made a new stack
that hopefully will keep my sets consistent. It's pretty basic, I just
want to make sure I have the approriate material to start with and that
the sequencing is correct.
Thanks....
Q
No problem Q. I don’t espouse a particular philosophy on the use of routines. I think they’re helpful, but they can cause you to develop bad habits because you become reliant on routines. I also don’t think you HAVE to use routines to get girls. But they are an effective strategy and should be recognized as such. So let’s take a look at the stack:
Routine Stack Working Model
Opener: (Select one) [Kino Ping] (Smile & Be loud!)
1. You guys seem cool…So I had to come over and say hello……
2. You guys seem fun……I had to come say hello.
3. I was sooo going to wear that tonite.
4. Sincere compliment…….(Default)
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This section is good because it has a variety of openers. I personally believe you should have between 1-5 openers you like at any given times. Some openers work better in specific situations like approaching mixed groups or seated groups. It’s also good that he mentions to kino ping or touch on the opener. You want to break that touch barrier immediately. He also mentions smiling and being loud, if you can do just those two it will make a big difference in how many groups will talk to you.
The problem with this section is that it doesn’t have any different types of openers. Every opener on the list is a direct opener. This means it’s an opener that states interest in meeting the girl or group. You want to have both indirect and direct openers in the arsenal so that you can approach all different scenarios. Here I’d add an indirect risk opener like Brad P’s Horsegirl or The Don and I’s Child support opener. I’d also add a regular opinion opener like one of my favorite openers the “Died in your Arms Tonight “ Opener it goes like this:
Hey guys, help me win a free drink from my friends. You know that song “Died in Your Arms Tonight?” You know who sings that song? My friends say it’s Journey but I know it’s Cutting Crew. So all you guys have to do is wave over there while I say Cutting Crew. Cool?
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Negs / Teases:
Yep….You guys are definitely the coolest girls I have met….In the last 30 seconds.
or
You guys are totally adorable…..You’re like my little sisters…..I’m going to put you in my pocket and adopt you as my new little sisters….Wait a minute….You guys are potty trained right?
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Ok these teases are a little… weak. You need some teases that either sexualize the interaction, or paint her as a little bit dorky. These are friendly and bantery but not good this early in the interaction.
Instead I say use teases like
“ I don’t know who your last boyfriend was, but he did not spank you enough.”
“ You should really run away, I’m a horrible person. I make up for it by being somewhat charming but do yourself a favor and run along. Plus I’m really bad in bed ☺”
But it is the right idea to have a few default teases ready for when girls get bratty, or when there is an obvious lack of social tension or attraction( AkA the “polite” response). Teasing is a major part of game, as it passively sets the frame that you are cooler than the girl. If you tease a girl and she laughs, the frame has been set.
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Time Constraint / Transitionary Compliment:
You guys are fun though…….I gotta get going soon but……
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I don’t recommend using time constraints unless you are using them as part of a push pull, or as a tease. If the girl says something I can misinterpret as creepy, I’ll often look at my arm and say “ look at the time, I have to go feed my cat…They can be helpful in seated groups though, because it’s awkward to just go up to a group and grab a seat with them.
No real problem with always using a time constraint, but don’t feel you always have to do it either.
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Transition:
Just out of curiosity…..How do you guys know each other?
- Waypoint for lock-in
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Here you’re using a social question as a transition. You can do this if you got attraction off the opener. If you haven’t gotten attraction yet, then you’ll just be boring the girls with that question. There’s a ton of ways to transition from observations, to phrasal transitions like “ It’s just like when” or “that reminds me of”. You can also just start talking about whatever your next subject is.
It’s good that you have a default way of transitioning set up before hand though. Next time just make it something you can use regardless of whether they’re attracted.
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Attraction: (Watch for IOI’s)
You guys look like you are……. (Cold Read)
Are you guys adventurous? (Qualification Ping)
I know everybody asks you this but…..What do you do for work? (What do you do routine)
I’m sorry…..What did you say your name(s) was? (Bad with names routine)
DHV Story : Melrose story / Hole in jeans / Bench press /South Beach (Only as needed)
IVD: Murder Mystery routine or dollar bill routine (Only as needed)
Hmmm…. You pick interesting fingers to wear your rings on…. (Rings Routine) (Mini-Isolate)
- Waypoint for move and / or isolation.
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In your attraction section, you seem to be very focused on cold reading with the “you guys look like” mini cold read, followed up by the work routine. In fact this whole style is very low key. This stuff is great for singles and low stimulus environments like lounges, coffeeshops etc… Not great for bars and clubs IME. You might want to make the rings something you use EVERY time. I still use that as a default transition. You also have some DHV stories you tell if needed. DHV stories are kinda relics at this point, the only stories you really need are your life story and a few short funny ones that happen to mention a girlfriend ☺ You don’t have any push/pulls, you don’t have any statements of intent, you don’t do any pacing of the current situation or framing. You’re also not that emotionally engaging. I would throw in a quick past adventures projection early on like the Spanish Chambermaid routine here:
“ You know Sally here is being shy because this is the first time we’ve seen each other since “the incident.” What happened was when Sally went vacationing in Spain last year we had a little fling. And I don’t usually tell people all of our business up front but I cheated on her. Yeah, but I added it up statistically and I made the right choice, it was my only chance to ever sleep with a Spanish Chambermaid and I had to take it. I’m sorry I hurt you… But you did cheat on me with the pool boy first….”
And yes I totally stole the idea from that episode of Seinfeld where George goes off sex and becomes super smart. Geoff formerly of RSD was the first guy I saw use past adventures projections like that one.
Overall I think you need more fun and playfulness in the attraction phase. You’ve got the intriguing/interesting side down and the masculine side down but you need more playfulness and fun.
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Qualification & Framing: (Waypoint for isolation.)
Do you believe in Love at first sight? (Love at first sight Short pattern)
You look like you are XYZ nationality….. (Nationality qualification routine)
“ I’d be lying if I didn’t say you were a beautiful girl….But I don’t mean anything by it.”
I wonder what (target’s name) was like when she was seven? (When you were 7 routine)
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This qualification sequence needs a ton of work. There’s no small hoops. You need small hoops to build momentum so you need a small qualifier like “ are you adventurous or spontaneous.” You ping early on with a small hoop, but you want to use another one to build momentum for your medium hoop(What nationality are you?) and you need another medium hoop before your large hoop. You also want to soften the hoop by taking out the part where you tell her you don’t mean anything by her being beautiful. Instead say “ but there are a lot of beautiful girls here, what makes you special?”
It’s good that you have more than one piece of qualification material, but you want to stick to the format of two small hoops, two medium hoops and one large hoop. Also I’m not sure why you stuck Toecutter’s Love at first sight pattern in qualification. This piece fits in to either attraction as a transition or into comfort, as an escalation. You should also insert some quirkier things that YOU specifically want in a girl. Everyone should make a list of the 10 nonphysical qualities they want in a woman and use those qualities as their qualifiers. Trust me this makes life and game much easier.
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Sexual Framing
You know, you’re kinda throwing me a little bit… (As needed) (Good Girl Face routine)
You know, you SEEM interesting….. In college I studied Psychology and one of the first things they taught us was the Strawberry Fields Test (Strawberry Fields Routine)
Non Judgemental frame / cold read (Not finished yet, will add in later if needed)
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You certainly want to add more to the sexual framing stuff, you need things like discretion, Independence, decisiveness, etc… You also want to throw in physical stuff like biting your lip at her, triangular gazing and verbal escalations like “ If nobody was here right now, I’d bend you over this table and take care of business.”
It’s good that you’re recognizing the need for certain sexual accelerators though…
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Grounding / DHV:
With me, it’s interesting…….Like I how I grew up_________ I always did_______ and it pushed me to do _________(ambition story).
Comfort: (Select as needed)
1. Heart Melter
2. First Kiss
3. Cosmo
4. Cube
5. Kiss Close
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You also need more of a plan for comfort besides just a few routines and a kiss close. You need to have contingencies in place for getting her to give you her phone number and or leave the venue with you and get back to your place. You need to have a plan for the date and a story to seed it to get her excited to go on it. You also need to have a way of escalating things sexually and logistically. You want to have a list of things you’re interested that you want her to know about, as well as a few ways of getting to know her at a deeper level and determine compatability.
Overall I’d say this stack has a lot of good structure, but could use some refinement in the actual material being used. It could also probably use a bit more emotional stimulation and interactivity throughout the stack.
Hope that helps everyone out there, if you guys have questions about routines in general, specific routines or routine stacks, email me at Sinn@sinnsofattraction.com
Til next time,
S
Saturday, December 27, 2008
5 Typical things women say to men and what they mean.
Hey guys,
I often say that women give the best pick up advice, as long as you don’t listen to what they tell you to do. Women give their advice through their reactions. They also give their advice to you through what they say, you just have to know how to translate it.
So today in part one of my 3 part series on “Speaking Womanese” we’re going to look at some typical things women say when meeting new men, and what they actually mean.
1. “ I have a boyfriend”.
This particular phrase can mean a variety of things based on when and how it is brought up in the conversation. The first realization you have to make about girls telling you they have boyfriends, is that it’s not always true. Often times the girl will say she has a boyfriend just to avoid having to be rude or waste her time entertaining a guy she’s not interested in all night. Women will also say things like “we’re lesbians” or “we’re together” to get rid of you in a socially acceptable way.
If a woman tells you she has a boyfriend REALLY early on in the conversation (like in the first 3 minutes or less) she really means “I’m not interested in you romantically”. Women hate social awkwardness, so if she’s really not into the conversation and she can tell you’re hitting on her, saying she has a boyfriend is a nice friendly way out of the discomfort.
If a woman tells you she has a boyfriend when you are trying to escalate the interaction(by getting a phone number or trying to get her to leave with you) it generally means one of two things. Either she has let the interaction go further than she intended and she wants to let you know you don’t have a chance. Or she is trying to let you know that this may be a one time thing.
If a woman casually mentions a boyfriend by saying something like “my boyfriend and I” or “we like to..” then she is generally just letting you know the situation but may still be open to escalating the interaction. At which point it becomes an issue of morality outside the scope of this newsletter ☺
2. “We’re not having sex tonight!”
If a woman tells you she’s not going to have sex with you, she’s already thinking about it. Women throw up the “we’re not having sex tonight.” objection because they realize that things are starting to heat up between the two of you. They do this because they have to be able to maintain plausible deniability. Maintaining plausible deniability means that you always take responsibility for escalation. This goes for everything from making the first approach, to giving her an excuse she can tell her friends about why she left the club with you. Everything is your responsibility. The girl has to be able to explain to her friends that she wasn’t going back to your place to get fucked senseless. She was going over to save some money on drinks “or “ have a nightcap before she headed home.” But then “one thing led to another…”
So when she says “we’re not having sex tonight” she means “ I want you to convince me that there won’t be any consequences for me if I have sex with you tonight.” This is where showing a girl that you don’t kiss and tell is crucial. You have to show the girl that you are not going to hurt her reputation or lose respect for her if she sleeps with you.
If a woman tells you she’s not having sex with you tonight, you should always respond “ I was just about to tell you the same thing.” Ideally though you want to tell the girl that you’re not having sex with her first. I always treat that statement like the finish line of a race you want to get to first.
3. “ I don’t (kiss, have sex, have a threesome with midgets) on the (first night, first date, 3rd date).
When a woman gives you a rule like “ I don’t kiss on the first date.” Or “ I don’t have sex until the 3rd date.” She is sending a clear message. She is not sure about you. She doesn’t necessarily know if she sees you in her life long term or if you’re just some guy she’ll go on a couple of dates with and forget. So because of this she’s starting to lay down rules. Now some girls actually do have rules about their dating lives, but most don’t. Most women simply go with what’s bringing in the most good emotions. If she’s starting to get all logical she’s not that into you…
If a woman says something like this, it’s a great opportunity to inject some humor and flip the script on the girl. If a girl ever gives me a rule, I just respond “ Cool is that you’re only rule or do you have more before I get to tell you mine?” Now sometimes she’ll have some more rules, but once she’s done I’ll give her a ridiculous list of rules that I have until she’s laughing so hard she’s forgotten what we were talking about. The more random and funny the better. Some of my favorites are enforcing a casual dress Fridays where she’s not allowed to wear pants, reminding her that Tuesday is “Feed Jon Grapes and Fan him day” and more.
4. “ You’re a (jerk, player, asshole)
When a woman playfully insults you or accuses you of being a jerk, player, dirty old man, whatever… she’s actually saying “ I’m kinda attracted to you and I want to see if you’re really cool, or pretending.” Because men can lie, women have to have a way of figuring out which guys are actually cool, and which guys are faking it. So when you are getting attraction from girls early on, they will often “test” you.
The best way to deal with tests from women is to agree and exaggerate. What most guys do wrong is they disagree and then try to show a girl how they’re not a jerk or a player. This is bad because it sets an underlying theme of you trying to live up to her expectations instead of vice versa. So instead you always agree when a woman accuses or insults you. Then you exaggerate the comment to absurdity. So for example if a girl accuses you of being a player, you can say “ Yeah I’m actually pretty booked up right now but I can slot you in next Thursday if you promise to be good. “ or “ Yeah, I was actually recently voted the 6th biggest player in a mid major city by people magazine.”
5. “Let’s Just be Friends.”
When a girl you’ve just met tells you that she just wants to be friends, what she really means is that she’s not interested in you at all. Most people, especially attractive women don’t make friends from failed pickup attempts. The fact that she’s suggesting being friends means that she’s not interested in you romantically. Plus she’s worried that you’re expecting something more. If a girl tells you she just wants to be friends you’re pretty much out of luck. In rare circumstances you can escape the friend zone, but you are officially out of the “Ultimate Relationship Proposition” category. So if you actually do want to be friends with her(without it being part of a long term seduction plan) then continue to get her phone number and try to hang out with her. Just be sure to mention that you are only trying to be her friend, lest she suspect you’re trying to get in her pants. It also may be a good idea to hang out with her in a mixed group of your friends and her friends. This will help it feel less like a date the first couple of times you guys hang out. Female friends are a huge blessing. I highly recommend that everyone reading this makes friends with at least 5 women you’re interested in.
Ok, so that sums up what women really mean when they say things like “ we’re not having sex tonight” or “ Let’s Just Be Friends.” Next time I’m going to be breaking down how women communicate using body language, eye contact and spatial relevance.
Till next time,
S
I often say that women give the best pick up advice, as long as you don’t listen to what they tell you to do. Women give their advice through their reactions. They also give their advice to you through what they say, you just have to know how to translate it.
So today in part one of my 3 part series on “Speaking Womanese” we’re going to look at some typical things women say when meeting new men, and what they actually mean.
1. “ I have a boyfriend”.
This particular phrase can mean a variety of things based on when and how it is brought up in the conversation. The first realization you have to make about girls telling you they have boyfriends, is that it’s not always true. Often times the girl will say she has a boyfriend just to avoid having to be rude or waste her time entertaining a guy she’s not interested in all night. Women will also say things like “we’re lesbians” or “we’re together” to get rid of you in a socially acceptable way.
If a woman tells you she has a boyfriend REALLY early on in the conversation (like in the first 3 minutes or less) she really means “I’m not interested in you romantically”. Women hate social awkwardness, so if she’s really not into the conversation and she can tell you’re hitting on her, saying she has a boyfriend is a nice friendly way out of the discomfort.
If a woman tells you she has a boyfriend when you are trying to escalate the interaction(by getting a phone number or trying to get her to leave with you) it generally means one of two things. Either she has let the interaction go further than she intended and she wants to let you know you don’t have a chance. Or she is trying to let you know that this may be a one time thing.
If a woman casually mentions a boyfriend by saying something like “my boyfriend and I” or “we like to..” then she is generally just letting you know the situation but may still be open to escalating the interaction. At which point it becomes an issue of morality outside the scope of this newsletter ☺
2. “We’re not having sex tonight!”
If a woman tells you she’s not going to have sex with you, she’s already thinking about it. Women throw up the “we’re not having sex tonight.” objection because they realize that things are starting to heat up between the two of you. They do this because they have to be able to maintain plausible deniability. Maintaining plausible deniability means that you always take responsibility for escalation. This goes for everything from making the first approach, to giving her an excuse she can tell her friends about why she left the club with you. Everything is your responsibility. The girl has to be able to explain to her friends that she wasn’t going back to your place to get fucked senseless. She was going over to save some money on drinks “or “ have a nightcap before she headed home.” But then “one thing led to another…”
So when she says “we’re not having sex tonight” she means “ I want you to convince me that there won’t be any consequences for me if I have sex with you tonight.” This is where showing a girl that you don’t kiss and tell is crucial. You have to show the girl that you are not going to hurt her reputation or lose respect for her if she sleeps with you.
If a woman tells you she’s not having sex with you tonight, you should always respond “ I was just about to tell you the same thing.” Ideally though you want to tell the girl that you’re not having sex with her first. I always treat that statement like the finish line of a race you want to get to first.
3. “ I don’t (kiss, have sex, have a threesome with midgets) on the (first night, first date, 3rd date).
When a woman gives you a rule like “ I don’t kiss on the first date.” Or “ I don’t have sex until the 3rd date.” She is sending a clear message. She is not sure about you. She doesn’t necessarily know if she sees you in her life long term or if you’re just some guy she’ll go on a couple of dates with and forget. So because of this she’s starting to lay down rules. Now some girls actually do have rules about their dating lives, but most don’t. Most women simply go with what’s bringing in the most good emotions. If she’s starting to get all logical she’s not that into you…
If a woman says something like this, it’s a great opportunity to inject some humor and flip the script on the girl. If a girl ever gives me a rule, I just respond “ Cool is that you’re only rule or do you have more before I get to tell you mine?” Now sometimes she’ll have some more rules, but once she’s done I’ll give her a ridiculous list of rules that I have until she’s laughing so hard she’s forgotten what we were talking about. The more random and funny the better. Some of my favorites are enforcing a casual dress Fridays where she’s not allowed to wear pants, reminding her that Tuesday is “Feed Jon Grapes and Fan him day” and more.
4. “ You’re a (jerk, player, asshole)
When a woman playfully insults you or accuses you of being a jerk, player, dirty old man, whatever… she’s actually saying “ I’m kinda attracted to you and I want to see if you’re really cool, or pretending.” Because men can lie, women have to have a way of figuring out which guys are actually cool, and which guys are faking it. So when you are getting attraction from girls early on, they will often “test” you.
The best way to deal with tests from women is to agree and exaggerate. What most guys do wrong is they disagree and then try to show a girl how they’re not a jerk or a player. This is bad because it sets an underlying theme of you trying to live up to her expectations instead of vice versa. So instead you always agree when a woman accuses or insults you. Then you exaggerate the comment to absurdity. So for example if a girl accuses you of being a player, you can say “ Yeah I’m actually pretty booked up right now but I can slot you in next Thursday if you promise to be good. “ or “ Yeah, I was actually recently voted the 6th biggest player in a mid major city by people magazine.”
5. “Let’s Just be Friends.”
When a girl you’ve just met tells you that she just wants to be friends, what she really means is that she’s not interested in you at all. Most people, especially attractive women don’t make friends from failed pickup attempts. The fact that she’s suggesting being friends means that she’s not interested in you romantically. Plus she’s worried that you’re expecting something more. If a girl tells you she just wants to be friends you’re pretty much out of luck. In rare circumstances you can escape the friend zone, but you are officially out of the “Ultimate Relationship Proposition” category. So if you actually do want to be friends with her(without it being part of a long term seduction plan) then continue to get her phone number and try to hang out with her. Just be sure to mention that you are only trying to be her friend, lest she suspect you’re trying to get in her pants. It also may be a good idea to hang out with her in a mixed group of your friends and her friends. This will help it feel less like a date the first couple of times you guys hang out. Female friends are a huge blessing. I highly recommend that everyone reading this makes friends with at least 5 women you’re interested in.
Ok, so that sums up what women really mean when they say things like “ we’re not having sex tonight” or “ Let’s Just Be Friends.” Next time I’m going to be breaking down how women communicate using body language, eye contact and spatial relevance.
Till next time,
S
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