Like The Girl, Loathe the City

In a flashback to 2006, I have become stranded in Los Angeles due to a variety of business stuff…

But that’s not what I’m writing about here… I met a girl I REALLY like. In fact I even texted Erika that I was going on a date with her last night where I know I have ZERO chances of sleeping with her last night. She’s a Pilates instructor and had to teach a 5 AM class.

And yes she is a 5’1 redhead with D cups and freckles. She’s also from New York….

Now for the fucked up part, I’m going to have sex with her this week, and then I’m going to leave this city hopefully forever…

So I’m stuck in a weird place right now, as I actually want way more than that with her.

Except there’s a laundry list of reasons it’s never gonna happen. It’d be really nice to fantasize about the two of us having some sort of future, but in reality, I’m in flux and just happened to meet someone I click with. It’s the right girl at the wrong time. In the past I would have taken this as a sign that these kinds of girls actually exist. But in the last year or so the quality of women I’ve dated has been so high that it actually just annoys me right now.

In fact, I haven’t even really gamed her, I don’t want to undermine our natural chemistry which is making it as on as anything I could consciously do.

The idea of clicking with someone is what my game is based on now… I have neither the time nor inclination to plow or waste my time with girls I don’t actually enjoy talking to. That’s something I really believe in and try to teach to guys in my programs, you don’t have to struggle to connect with hot girls you don’t actually get along with. There are enough beautiful women out there, that the real goal is chemistry and compatability. That’s what makes you “click” with someone.

So the only thing to do now is enjoy my time with her here, keep in touch with her when I come back in and out of LA for various conferences etc, and then hopefully keep her as an awesome friend down the line.

That and try to avoid how annoyingly awesome she is.

S

Mehow and Sinn on 10 Second Sexual Attraction

Hey guys,

As I mentioned before Mehow and I recorded a SICK 30 something minute interview on 10 Second Sexual Attraction.

As many of you guys know I'm not the most tech savvy person so we just got it up.

Head over to http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/10second/ to take a listen.

Then be sure to come check us out in person March 7th and 8th in Las Vegas for the 10SSA conference.

Talk to ya guys soon!

S

Closing the chapter on Dallas....

Today I donated all my stuff to Salvation Army, I'm leaving Dallas and will be doing a quick stop over with a friend, before heading on the 12 Cities in 12 Months Tour...

I'm a mix of emotions...

I'm excited that I'm starting a new life, I'm sad, I'm leaving behind friends that are both known to you readers (Captain Jack, Shaft) and known only through field reports (Lindsay, Nakia, Caroline, Morgan, and Lorna). I really loved my time in Dallas, but it's no longer right for me. The same way that Barrie was right for me at 18, Annie was right for me at 20, Meggan was right for me for two weeks. Dallas was right from 22-24. I'll always look back fondly on my time here and the things I learned about myself while I was here.

I learned how to get better at SNLS that's for sure and for that I have to thank CJ. Learning from him was the original reason I moved here. over 100 SNLs later, I think I got that :)

I learned that I could still fall for a person who's completely WRONG for me. Twice :)

I learned that I could move halfway across the country only knowing 4 people and flourish.

I started my own business while I was here...

My neighborhood was papered by a group of my female fans...

I met and seduced girls across the metroplex from Downtown at Mantis, to Addison at Sherlocks.

I learned a lot about Texans, they're an interesting bunch of people. If you've never been to Texas, I highly recommend it. It's like nowhere else I've been, that's for sure.

And the food still sucks 2 years later.

I don't know if I'll ever come back to Dallas, not because I won't want to. But because I don't need to. I've been there, done that. I spent a major portion of my cigarette smoking, heavy drinking early 20s in Dallas and maybe that's all anyone needs to know :)

I'll miss everyone from Dallas who reads my blog. Some of you I'll see again, some I won't. And that's OK.

Best,

S

Leave Them Better Than You Found Them?

I've seen this quote a ton of places around the community from those that it made some sense when they said it(Toecutter, Steven Nash etc), to Ross Jeffries.

But I was talking to Cameron the other day and I realized that most guys(myself included) don't leave the women they pick up better than they found them. Whether it's for lack of trying or caring, is another debate in and of itself...

The question I want to raise here is "How, do you leave a woman better than you found her?"

By what measure is she better?

Is she better because you pushed her to pursue a study, passion or purpose? I've seen Future do that, and it lends to reason that if done successfully and without other complications in the relationship(assuming an amicable breakup, etc..) that would leave a woman better off.

Allegedly, Hypnotica and Steve Piccus teach women some sort of undefined(to me) way of living at a higher plane, frequency, energy, (insert some words that Entropy and Erika would understand far better than I here)... Again assuming no bad endings etc... That could work too.

But how else?

Is it enough to give a woman a night she never forgets to leave her better off? If so then I've done that countless times...

So I guess the REAL question is...

What does it take to leave a woman better off than you found her?

An orgasm?

An erotic awakening?

A million dollars in settlement money?

A heartbreaking emotional experience she turns into art?

Where is the line and does it matter if she wouldn't agree with your assessment?

S

10 Second Sexual Attraction Gifts

Hey guys,

As you may know, I'll be speaking at Mehow's 10 SSA seminar March 7th-8th.

Mehow has been gracias enough to give me some gifts for you guys.

The first one is an audio clip detailing a bathroom pull... I think I actually ran into Mehow in Vegas the night this happened from the sound of the girl's voice...

http://www.10secondattraction.com/content/private_bp_audio.php?bid=79&aid=Sinn&opt=

The Second is a report on the differences between screening and non screening game. Screening game being where you look for logistics and interest first.

http://www.10secondattraction.com/content/private_sg_report.php?bid=80&aid=Sinn&opt=

I actually really liked the Screening Report a lot. I'm supposed to get a copy of 10SSA this week, so I'll post my thoughts on it real soon...

S

Putting Savoy in his place :)

Showing a glutton for punishment mentality usually only seen in women who try to "save me", Savoy came into our version of the NBA's "paint" with a Mark Price circa 1991 layup of a response.

I am now going to administer the Hakeem Olajuwon in his prime rejection...

Savoy writes: The other day, I wrote the latest installment in my continuing series of Things Sinn Doesn't Know.

I would have thought that verbal annihilation would have made him run for cover. But no. With the same lack of any sort of judgment whatsoever that would have inspired Tennyson, Sinn picks himself up from a bottle of vodka and the redhead of the night to do battle.


Sinn: She was blonde... In an homage :)

Savoy: The first shocking conclusion is that Sinn likes cheaters. He points out the football teams that I support, neglecting to mention his favorite team, the New England "I can design fiendish complex defenses year after year but I 'misinterpreted the rules' even after I received a league memo specifically and clearly laying out the simple rule 'Don't videotape the other team's coaching signals' after other teams complained about me doing it" Belichecks.

A-Roid cheats, goes gangbusters all season, and then fails in the clutch. The New England Patriots cheated, went 16-0, and failed in the clutch.

Sinn: Here is the place where I would argue that EVERYONE tapes. Seriously check out ESPN classic sometime every other game a QB is explaining that he audibled because the other team knew his signs. I've seen both Favre and Montana talk about this on my own soon to be donated cause I'm moving TV.

But then Bellicheck walked off with one second left in the Super Bowl... Then Brady got injured, I've officially retired from being a Pats fan though I do still like Brady, Moss and Welker and want them to do well. I may be a Football atheist for awhile until Bellicheck leaves...


SAVOY: Yes, I know San Diego has its fair share of cheaters too. But we prefer our cheaters to either spend the year on Injured Reserve or get one of the biggest contracts in team history and produce nothing.

We don't go around cheating and having great seasons only to fail in the clutch. We cheat, have crappy seasons, slop into the playoffs because our division is weaker than a team of diabetic mice trying to restore the Mona Lisa, briefly rise to the occasion (provided we get to play Indianapolis) and then, and only then, do we fail in the clutch.

Big difference, Sinn.

Sinn: I do admire the fact that you robbed me of my mocking the chargers individually. But you forget I know about the Eagles... Though I'm sure you'll come back with something about my first Fastseduction.com screen name ( Daneighbrhoodpusha) or about the Minnesota Vikings :) Ha I freely admit to it. How about you Savoyre... Savoy, Nick Savoy.... You change names like I change my underwear. Or did when I still wore it :)

See Eagles fans are perpetually tortured by a leader(Donovan Mcnabb) who can only get so far before he completely deconstructs and vomits. This brings us back to A-Rod and his particular shortcomings. Fans in glass houses should not throw stones. Especially since if Mcnabb did more steroids and less Mcdonald's maybe he'd be able to play all 16 games one of these years without getting injured or benched.

Savoy: While A-Fraud was a great nickname to describe the guy's failure when it counts (maybe someone should have been telling him how much other teams wanted him), it skips over the part where he cheated and still failed. Fraud doesn't do it justice anymore. It's the milquetoast of insults. It's the O'Doul's of bar drinks. It's the I like you but it's my twin sister's engagement party tonight and I fly home tomorrow of blowoffs. It's not something you want to have, but it's not something that bothers you five minutes later either.

A-Roid cuts straight to the issue. It's the absinthe of shots. It's the "talk to you never" of rejections. It's what Sinn feels every time he loses a bet with me. You can wake up the next day, but you'll still feel it.

Sinn: First of all, I believe I'm on a two game winning streak not to mention my complete dominance in virtual drinking.

A fraud is not the " I like you but I'm at my twin sister..." It's the " You are short, fat and ugly, Please come to bed with me." Direct, to the point, offensive and all time classic to be placed by his name in quotes in every story leading up to home run 7 whatever breaks Bonds' tainted record. Feel free to place that quote's awesomeness into context for the readers :)

Savoy: To sum up -- A-Roid is clearly the superior moniker to the old A-Fraud. It's not just new, it's better. It's like Love Systems and Mystery Method, Magic Bullets and VAH, or "Sinn" and "Daneighborhoodpusher". I'll let Sinn explain that one. If he dares.

I just went there.

Sinn: Claiming that A-roid is better is like calling your 1989 Oldsmobile a "Classic." No one buys it or should. In fact the only thing more Idiotic would be cheering for a Basketball team during an era when they employed one Isiah Thomas...

Any Basketball rooting alligiances, you'd like to share Nick?

As Michael Scott said in the First "Office" after the SuperBowl "ROASTED"

S

Can Anyone convert the Podcast to a downloadable format Every week?

First off thanks to the anonymous poster who posted a downloadable link here:

http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/podcast/SinnAndTheCitiesEpisode-1.m4a

Secondly if someone can do this weekly I'd be willing to work out some sorta trade or payment system...

Sinn at Sinnsofattraction.com

S

First Episode of The Podcast is up!

Hey guys,

The first Episode is up...

I'm not revealing the name, until you guys listen to it!

www.Sinnsofattraction.com/podcast

Check it out there's some unsettling information about Johnny Soporno in there as well.

S

Bang The Monkey To Get Captain Jack On My Podcast!!!

What's up guys,

I'm hungover. In other shocking news, the sun rose, and Matador is still a tool.

I was checking out the nearly overwhelming results from the poll of who you want to hear from, and it's none other than the Pirate King, and noted reclusive PUA Captain Jack.

So because CJ asked a question publicly about my dancefloor game and has written about how he used to get me dragged onto dance floors to have seizures...

I'm publicly encourgaing EVERYONE out there who wants to hear CJ on the Podcast to email him at CaptainJackPUA at Gmail.com. Email him everyday until he agrees to come on the podcast and share some of his amazing new insights from Mass Sexual Framing. Email him 10 times a day if you have time. Don't know what to do to kill time in a club? Email him from your phone. Email him before you go to bed and after you wake up. We will annoy him into action!!!

I'll teach him to talk about my dancing!!!!

S

A-Fraud/A-Roid or Why Savoy is Wrong.

Savoy has launched an unprecedented verbal assault on me based on my preference for the term A-Fraud as opposed to A-Roid when discussing disgraced Baseball superstar Alex Rodriguez.

First of all Savoy's opinion should be rendered moot anyway, as while he knows much about meeting women and dating, he knows NOTHING about Sports. As exhibit A: I present his affection for both the Philadelphia Eagles and San Diego Chargers.

Secondly A-Rod is A Fraud. Literally. He is not a roid, though Savoy's opinions on Sports are often more irritating than Hemmoroids.

Here's Savoy's Arguments with my Comments:

Savoy:"A-Roid" just sounds worse (in a good way). You can say "A-Fraud" fast and it still sounds kind of cool. You might even think you're hearing "A-Rod". But when you're called A-Roid, you'll know people are making fun of you. And when you've made millions of dollars by cheating and lying, you deserve to be made fun of.

Sinn:A-Roid is harder to chant, I'm all for him being called A-hole as he was by The New York Post, but A-Fraud will be heard and he will cry. Like Savoy after this debate :)

Savoy:"A-Fraud" is also just old...it's as yesterday as furry hats and Baja Men. It's the OLD insult about the guy's failure in the clutch. It's not about steroids. You don't just take something that about one thing and then say...hey, it's about something else. Remember when Elton John pretended that "Candle in the Wind" was about Princess Di when it was originally about Marilyn Monroe? Lame.

Sinn: A-Fraud is like 65 Mustangs, Marilyn Monroe, and Frank Sinatra. It's a classic that never goes out of style. It could pertain to A-fraud's play in the clutch, to his possible affinity for Tranny Strippers, to his Steroid use. It's the Swiss Army Knife of insults. A-roid only relates to Steroids or Hemmroids. Which I hope A-Rod gets.

Savoy:If we let Sinn, and all the Sinns of this world, get away with this, then civilization itself is threatened.

Sinn: I disagree, me ruling the world would be the best thing for EVERYONE :) Except Matador...


Savoy:Think about it. If we decide that, say, any TV exec who puts episodes of the cringe-out-loud 1990s "comedy" Home Improvement into syndication should be punished by exile to a desert island (why this hasn't been done yet is beyond me), and we then find out that one of these execs also cheated on his taxes, what do we do? We wouldn't say "go to a desert island". The dude's already there. He's already being punished. We need a new punishment for him. (reading the tax code while watching endless reruns of home improvement sounds like a fitting punishment)

So with A-Rod...he's already got his A-Fraud. He's earned it by turning his bat into a wet noodle every October. He needs a NEW nickname to allow us to laugh specifically about his cheating. And that of course is A-Roid.

Sinn: I feel A-roid is a fad, it's like "new" Coke or Any TV show starring a member of The Seinfeld cast...

Savoy: Though I will meet Sinn halfway....if we're going to make fun of the fact that A-Rod not only sucks in crunch time, but he sucks even though he's cheating, then we can combine the two and call him (on those occasions only) A-Froid. Which has a nice symmetry to it, since "froid" means "cold" in French, and that's what Alex Rodriguez is every time it counts...no matter what we call him.


Sinn: I actually kinda like A-Froid, but for the sake of battle and proving my Sports superiority for real! I reject this compromise and score this round Sinn:10-Savoy: 8. I've opened up a cut and will be looking to end the fight early :)

You can check out my column on A-Rod and steroids from earlier this week at www.trashtalksports.blogspot.com.

S

Lifestyle: Part 1 How the hell can Lifestyle get me laid?

Hey guys,

It's finally Friday, that means way more girls will be out tonight, and everyone will be looking to decompress and start the weekend.

I want to start the weekend right, by talking to you about one of the overlooked aspects of your game. Lifestyle.

In my model of game, there are 3 parts. The first is Inner Psychology, this is about dealing with your insecurities, your view on the world, values, standards and expectations of yourself, women, and the world. Then there is Skillsets. This is things like learning to start a conversation, learning to tease, learning to physically escalate, learning to tell stories, etc... Finally you have lifestyle and here's where the confusion lays...

What the hell is your lifestyle?

Let's ask Wikipedia:

Lifestyle was originally coined by Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler in 1929. The current broader sense of the word dates from 1961.^[1]

In sociology, a lifestyle is the way a person lives. A lifestyle is a characteristic bundle of behaviors that makes sense to both others and oneself in a given time and place, including social relations, consumption, entertainment, and dress. The behaviors and practices within lifestyles are a mixture of habits, conventional ways of doing things, and reasoned actions. A lifestyle typically also reflects an individual's attitudes, values or worldview. Therefore, a lifestyle is a means of forging a sense of self and to create cultural symbols that resonate with personal identity. Not all aspects of a lifestyle are entirely voluntaristic. Surrounding social and technical systems can constrain the lifestyle choices available to the individual and the symbols she/he is able to project to others and the self.^[2]

The lines between personal identity and the everyday doings that signal a particular lifestyle become blurred in modern society.^[3] For example, "green lifestyle" means holding beliefs and engaging in activities that consume fewer resources and produce less harmful waste (i.e. a smaller carbon footprint), and deriving a sense of self from holding these beliefs and engaging in these activities. Some commentators argue that, in Modernity, the cornerstone of lifestyle construction is consumption behavior, which offers the possibility to create and further individualize the self with different products or services that signal different ways of life.^[4]

So the basic idea of a Lifestyle is the expression of an individual's worldview, attitudes, and identity...

This is now starting to make a little more sense, no?

If the way you live is a representation of your attitudes and identity as a person, what does it say if you work at a job you hate, have had the same friends of similar jobs and personality types, and spend most of your time surfing the internet or playing video games?

I always ask students on bootcamp, which of the 3 elements of Game, they think will give them the best results in terms of getting laid?

If you guessed Lifestyle you guessed correct. A lot of students I get have actually mastered Lifestyle game in some form.

Printer became the king of a small college town because he threw the best boat parties around.

Scotty of OTM.com is sooo overwhelmed with the amount of girls his lifestyle brings him, he literally doesn't have time to cold approach.

Eric from Miami actually missed a night of bootcamp because his friends had set him up with a SUPERmodel.

So how does Lifestyle get you laid?

Here's how, you can shape your Lifestyle in such a way that it cannot help but put you in the path of beautiful women.

Any interest, hobby or activity you enjoy can be used to meet women.

If you like exercise, you can join a Yoga class, and then start inivting people from there to join you for a coffee afterwards or organize outdoor Yoga on the weekends...

If you like partying, you can become a low level promoter and gain access to free tables, bottle service and club girls.

If you like taking pictures you can put out ads offering free head shots for "models".

There are a million ways to use your life to bring women into it.

It breaks down into 3 parts.

1. Lifestyle Design
2. The Places You Go.
3. The People You Know.

And I'll be back to break down those three parts in depth very soon...

Stay Tuned,

S

P.S I'll be giving some more tips on Lifestyle in the first episode of the "Still Unnamed" Podcast. Monday.

Name my Podcast...

Hey guys,

I'm going to be starting a weekly podcast and I need a name!

If you think you have one post it in the comments section and I'll give the winner a copy of the new, REVISED version of The Lay Reports Book.

Also there's a poll for which guest you guys want to hear from most on the sidebar right now.

Let me know!

S

Come Watch me and 12 Other of The O.G Seduction Teachers...

Hey guys,

I was selected as one of the "Original Gurus" to be asked to speak at the upcoming FastSeduction Complete Toolbox Seminar.

You can check out the conference here:

http://artofthepickup.com/toolboxseminar/sinn

Other guys who will be speaking include Brad P, Zan, Vin Dicarlo, Brent, Swinggcat, and even Ross Jeffries...

Anyhoo, if you sign up because you saw my post, or because you wanted to come watch me speak, let me know at the seminar and I'll have a special bonus for you.

Best,

S

Ayn Rand Applied To Dating - The Fountainhead Part 4 of 4, Gail Wynand and the cost of sacrificing your values.

Hey guys,

Today I'm going to quickly wrap up the 4 part series on The Fountainhead with a short post on Gail Wynand.

Gail Wynand, besides having a girls' name, is the publisher of the newspaper The New York Banner. It's basically a National Enquirer type rag where he prints stuff catering to the lowest common denominator. Gail had grown up on the streets running gangs until he was able to eventually buy the Banner.

However Wynand was a man of great principles and will. He simply sold them out for money, and eventually love.

Ayn Rand has a thing for love triangles, quadrangles and rectangles. So inevitably Gail Wynand steals Dominique Francon away from a loveless marriage with Peter Keating. Into a semi-loveless marriage with himself. He realizes he must have her after he sees a statue of her from one of Roark's failed buildings. But he also realizes she doesn't love him. He assumes she'll grow to love him eventually. What he doesn't know is that she's alrady possesed by Howard Roark. All of this comes to a head when Wynand and Roark become friends.

Wynand's paper had dragged Roark's name through the mud, spearheaded of course by Dominique Francon. This was all done without Wynand knowing what Roark's building looked like. When he eventually sees them he feels terrible. He even goes so far as to become Roark's greatest advocate. Which causes him to lose his entire readership and his employees as Ellsworth Toohey leads a strike. The strike in fact is only resolved when Wynand decides to reverse his position on Roark. Here he sacrifices his values again, this time for his love of the paper.

This is something that guys do with women a lot. Oftentimes, guys will sacrifice things like their self respect, their friendships, even their own lives in order to have a chance with a specific woman or women in general. Unfortunately this doesn't actually work. Women are not attracted to men who are willing to sacrifice their values for sex. This is what makes you desperate and needy. When you don't have things that are sacred above getting laid, having a girlfriend, having girls in your life etc... You shoot yourself in the foot overall. As we saw through the examples of Roark, and Keating having values is an important part of the attraction process, but it's even more important in relationships. Because Values are related to trust, which is the most important factor in any relationship. If a woman cannot trust you to hold on to your values, she can't trust you at all. Because you're behavior isn't governed by anything....

S

Ayn Rand Applied To Dating - The Fountainhead Part 3 of 4 Peter Keating and External Validation

Good morning guys,

I just rolled out of bed after a night of tyring to pickup girls while battling indigestion. I don't recommend that particular combination, though I did get very familiar with the bathrooms of the venue :)

I feel much better this morning, and want to take another step up the mountain of analyzing Ayn Rand when it comes to Dating Science.

So without further ado, let's discuss the interesting case of Peter Keating.

Peter Keating is held up for most of The Fountainhead as the opposite of Howard Roark. He is unsure of himself, not a great architect, a follower, and makes his reputation through social manipulation. He is repulsive sexually to Dominique Francon whom he eventually marries over his sweetheart Katie. A reminder that running away from what you want is NEVER going to make you happy.

Let's look at how miserable Peter Keating becomes because his success is based on others opinion's not his own.

It starts the day he graduates(also coincidentally the day Roark gets expelled). He graduates with the highest honors in his class(The AGA medal). But he finds himself miserable as the honors also comes with a choice betwee going to France to study at a highly regarded architecture program or getting a job at Francon and Heyer, the most prestigious Architecture firm in the country. Peter of course can't make this decision himself as anything that requires moral fortitude or balls is not Peter Keating's forte'. This of course is in direct contrast to Howard Roark and his ability to trust himself and believe in his choices. In terms of dating one of these choices is infinitely more attractive to women and I think you can figure out which one it is.

Keating then quickly ingratiates himself with Guy Francon when he realizes that much like himself Francon can't make decisions. He becomes even more interested when he finds out that Francon has a daughter.

To me this love/loathe triangle is one of the more fascinating aspects of The Fountainhead. See Peter loves Katie who is actually Ellsworth Toohey the literary critic and antagonist of the novel's niece. Katie starts the book as a very simple girl who simply loves Peter and helping those less fortunate than herself. She doesn't really think for herself and instead believes the platitudes written by her coniving uncle. An interesting thing to note is that the only times Peter feels really happy are when he's with Katie. However, because his Mother, Guy Francon and Ellsworth Toohey tell him a man of his stature cannot marry such a simple girl. After all they say, what will people think at parties? So Peter despite being engaged to Katie for years, and in love with her, marries Dominique Francon. Dominique marries Peter to punish herself for trying to destroy Roark. It is only through sharing a bed with a man she has the utmost repulsion for that she can begin to feel like she is repaying her debt to the world.

The last thing I want to touch on with Peter Keating is the idea of selflessness. One of my favorite scenes in the book happens when after what should have been Peter's greatest night of accomplishment the opening of the Cosmo-Slotnick building, he's still unhappy. He comes to Ellsworth Toohey who in addition to encourgaing him to marry Dominique instead of his own niece, tells him that he's unhappy because he's trying to make himself happy. The true path to happiness says Toohey comes through utter selflessness. Only through being miserable can you be happy, Toohey would say. Which is ridiculous and indicative of a scarcity mindset. The world is what you make of it and if you believe you have to struggle, you will. Keating agrees that sexual and personal love are acts of selfishness because they favor some people you love over others you don't. Toohey tries to wrap all of this up in the idea of equality. This idea is very attractive to a man like Peter Keating. Because while he doesn't think about being the equal of all those of less status, he too recognizes the greatness in Roark and is dying to feel like his equal.

The problem of course in being seen as Roark's equal is that the things that make Roark great are his self-confidence, esteem and belief in himself. None of which can be gained by sacrficing yourself for the "greater good." This is something that messes guys up with approaching and meeting women all the time. Guys will not want to interrupt a conversation that's going on, or they will not want to talk to a girl and a guy because they might be together. We forget that we have as much of a right to meet the girl as the girl has to not meet us. You just never know until you try. But by putting the imagined needs and wants of a stranger you're trying to mind read across the bar above your own desires, you are buying into the type of thinking that made Peter miserable. By caring about what strangers you'd never meet if you didn't approach them think, you handicap yourself in a major way. By wanting to be seen by everyone as a "nice normal person" you stop people from seeing you as a great attractive person. So like Peter Keating the choice is up to all of you guys. Stand on your own convictions and let the chips fall where they may, or continue to put on false airs to impress a nameless faceless world.

That's the lesson of Peter Keating and drawing validation from otuside of yourself.

S

"You Never know when you might surprise yourself"

Hey guys,

The above quote is probably a loose paraphrasing of something Kevin Spacey's character says in American Beauty. If anyone wants to find the exact quote, that'd be special. I'd do it but I'm buzzing with endorphins. Your body rewards you for doing the right things...

I just had a weird social pressure filled interaction and actually kinda looked forward to it. So it's a nice surprise to actually enjoy a moment that previously would have been terrifying. Even 2 years ago. Not to mention 6. I don't want to post about it cause it would blow most people's minds that stuff like this happens. Nonetheless nice to be surprised by my own growth as a person :) And it's always good to see tangible signs of progress along the way. I hope I ever come off like I'm trying to be perfect, as I like you guys and girls am still very much a work in progress.

Have a great weekend!

S

My Inner Game Song Of The Moment

I'm excited it's Friday!

That means tonight they'll be tons of girls out in barely anything looking for a guy like me. Or anyone with the exceptional good taste to read my blog :)

Anyhoo, today I'm in a great mood and I want to share one of my favorite songs that always seems to life me up and get me in a good mood. Some songs just do that, and I'm not talking about the pump you up and make you want to break shit/hit someone way that songs like "Break Stuff" or " Lose Yourself." do. Instead songs like this make me sing along and feel better about myself. Though in this particular song I do have to change girl to boy :)

So I present without further ado and much anticipation to see the comments "Work That" by Miss Mary J. Blige.



S

Day Game- a Primer

I've been getting back into Day game right now, after a long time doing mostly night stuff. Even though I wrote the rules on Day game, and have probably done more approaches during the day than anyone, I wanted to post up a primer of the basics to remind myself and you guys of how to meet women during the day.

1. The energy levels are A LOT lower. You don't need to be that interesting, high energy or funny. Day game tests your ability to be a normal person. This is especially true in less social environments like the Grocery store, the street, and bookstores. This is one of the many reasons I advocate going after girls by themselves in the day. The energy level you need to keep two people(especially if they're moving) engaged is too high to come across normal.

2. You need to be loud enough to get her attention and let her know you're talking to her, without drawing attention to the fact she's getting picked up. This is a big one. You don't just have to deal with your problems regarding the social pressure of the situation, you have to deal with hers as well. Girls like discretion, so it's important that you help create it.

3. The sets go much faster. You have to know how you're going to structure an opportunity to see her again. Oftentimes girls will have legitimate time constraints during the day. A girl who has to get back to work or to a DR's appt is not going to hang out with you all day NO matter how good your game is. This is one of the reasons I like direct better during the day. it cuts through a lot of the bullshit.

4. You need to assess your logistics before you approach. The way you approach any girl in a bar or club should be relatively similar. In Day game, you can have completely different tactics that work for completely different situations. For example, you would approach a girl who is seated at a cafe completely differently from the way you'd approach a girl walking down the street. Knowing and obeying these small contingencies between approaches leads to a much greater level of success.

5. Don't touch girls or go to sexual during the day. This is a huge one! Touching a girl too much during the day, before you've instant dated her is the kiss of death. In general I say don't touch a girl during the day in any way that would make you UNCOMFORTABLE touching your boss. You also want to refrain from making any sexual comments until you've moved her onto an instant date.

Which leads me to my last rule for this primer:

6. It's instant date or die bitches! You always want to be pushing for the instant date as soon as you get any attraction whatsoever. You have to move the girl in order to change the dynamic between the 2 of you. When you first approach a girl during the day, there's a separate vibe. But if you simply move her 30 feet to a coffee place all of a sudden you guys are there TOGETHER and the vibe is completely different and better. So you should always be looking to go on a quick instant date if the girl has time. Otherwise you should be getting phone numbers and moving on.

S

Ayn Rand Applied To Dating - The Fountainhead Part 2 of 4 Dominique Francon and Howard Roark on Sexual Tension

A Merry Tuesday to you,

I've finally started to rally out of sickness!

I've also decided that I'm going to be taking a break from night game for awhile. Possibly forever outside of bootcamps. I'm really at a good place mentally these days and I'm not in the mood to deal with annoying people, loud music, smoke and $10 drinks. I'm leaving Dallas in about 2 weeks and the city I'm moving to before I start 12 cities in 12 months is great for day game. Just today I picked up a mega hottie at the mall, and I feel the love of the game coming back.

But you guys wanna talk about The Fountainhead, so we'll get back on track.

In The Fountainhead the only female character of any merit is Dominique Francon. Dominique is the daughter of the world's most famous architect Guy Francon. She's a socialite whose only love is being outrageous and offensive. She does everything she does for one purpose, self amusement. But in a greater sense she lives to destroy the things that she knows are virteuous. This is why she has such a struggle with Howard Roark. One of the things that makes Francon an interesting character is her ability to recognize beauty and greatness, yet want to destroy it. She wants to destroy it because she thinks mankind is not worthy of greatness. She goes about trying to destroy Roark with literary criticism and by steering clients away from Roark. She even goes so far as to marry Peter Keating(The symbol of the insecure) to hurt Roark's business.

But she has a small problem, she still sees the beauty and greatness of Roark and his work. It possess her. The most interesting concept applied to dating in The Fountainhead, is the one of sexual possession.

I have a theory, that there are some girls with whom you're connection and chemistry is so strong that they will always come back to you if you wanted them back. In my life these girls are Barrie, Annie, and Meggan. No matter what I do, these girls love me for who I am. This is sexual possession. Or maybe romantic possession is a better term, but whatever it is that Rand describes between Howard Roark and Dominique Francon is electric. Not neccessarily healthy, but very realistic...

Here's a super interesting passage about Roark thinking of Dominique consider this a look inside the frame of a self assured dominant.

" He did not think of Dominique often, but when he did, the thought was not a sudden recollection, it was the acknowledment of a continuous presence that needed no acknowledgment. He wanted her. He knew where to find her. He waited. It amused him to wait, because he knew that the waiting was unbearable to her. He knew that his absence bound her to him in a maner more complete and humiliating than his presence could enforce. He was giving her time to attempt an escape, in order to let her know her own helplessness when he chose to see her again. She would know that the attempt itself had been of his choice, that it had only been another form of mastery. Then she would be ready either to kill him or come to him of her own will. The two acts would be equal in her mind. He wanted her brought to this. He waited."

Ok so there's a whole lot of stuff going on in that passage. It was enough that I highlighted it and wrote WTF???

This is a great example of the feeling of sexual tension. David D has described this type of emotional communication as " I can but I won't" The ability to be in control of your sexual desire, while acknowledging it is amazingly arousing to women. Once you know the girl wants you, the longer you hold out, the more sexual tension is built up. Furthermore if you acknowledge the sexual tension as you build it, the result becomes exponential. This is something I learned from dating strippers. Every stripper I dated from 2005-2007 was amazing at what I refer to as coquetting or sexual teasing( Something I'll be covering in detail upcoming) They were able to almost make fun of me for wanting them while still making me want them... Especially after sex. So I picked up a whole bunch of this and Howard Roark's thinking echos the outer game tactics of a coquette. You wait to build desire, because you know that's what the girl wants. And because it's hot...

Another major theme in this passage is the idea of power exchange and sex. Part of female arousal is being sexually receptive. Men in general are sexually aggressive, women are not. I don't have a specific statistic, but IME in field ALMOST ALL girls are submissive and react strongly to Masculine Dominance. The helplessness that Dominique feels, builds the attraction and arousal. She wants to fight but ultimately she wants to lose. She wants to be dominated by the force of a personality and will that is too much for her to overcome. One of the weird oft quoted parts of Fountainhead is the initial love scene between Roark and Dominique where he literally rapes her. Then she comes to him a second time and says this...

" I want to be owned, not by a lover, but by an adversary who will destroy my victory over him, not with honorable blows, but with the touch of his body on mine. That is what I want from you Roark. That is what I am? You wanted to hear it all. You've heard it. What do you wish to say now?"

To which Roark replies

"Take your clothes off."

The idea of power exchange and sexuality is a weird one and can lead into the deep dark BDSM community and places I'd rather not go. But sex and power are inextricably linked. Especially because a woman has to feel that she has some sort of control in the process of her own seduction. You have to create a space where she can feel exhilirated by your dominance and not frightened.

One of the biggest mistakes I see with guys going sexual is that they don't fractionate enough. You have to sprinkle in things like hair pulling, dirty talk, biting, and public fondling. If done all the time with a girl whose's not that comfortable being submissive and pleasing you, it can be weird. However there are ways to build compliance and set frames to lead women to please you. The best part about is it that they love it! Women like the idea of helping and serving a powerful man. In fact most women would rather be the second GF of a powerful man than the wife of a weak man. Retaining and exercising your power in a mutually healthy way is key to the matter of seduction, and furthermore relationship management.

The key part there is how I said the woman had to know she was in control even in the face of dominance? Again as in real life the relationship had mutual power exchange as evidenced by this passage here.

"She tried to demonstrate her power over him.She stayed away from his house;she waited for him to come to her. He spoiled it by coming too soon;by refusing her the satisfaction of knowing that he waited and struggled against his desire; by surrendering at once. She would say: "Kiss my hand, Roark." He would kneel and kiss her ankle. He defeated her by admitting her power;she could not have the graticifcation of enforcing it. He would lie at her feet, he would say: " Of course I need you. I go insane when I se you. You can do almost anything you wish with me. Is that what you want to hear? Almost Dominique. And the things you couldn;t do- you could put me through hell if you demanded them and I had to refuse you, as I would. Through utter hell Dominique. Does that please you? Why do you want to know whether you own me? It's so simple. Of course you do. All of me that can be owned."

" She felt no thrill of conquest; she felt owned more than ever, by a man who could say these things, know them to be true, and still remain controlled and controlling."

This is what's commonly referred to as a "congruence test." She wants to make sure that Roark is the man she wants him to be so badly. And it is only by testing him and putting him and herself through suffering that she can be sure., and it's only when a woman is sure of a man that she can give herself over to them completely. This is the power of dominance and sexual possession, and the dynamic before the surrender is called Sexual Tension.

I'll be back soon to post about Peter Keating.

S

Ayn Rand Applied To Dating - The Fountainhead Part 1 of 4, Howard Roark.

Hey guys,

I'm kinda under the weather today, probably the remnants of the Vegas trip combined with getting kinda wasted last night. Not a good call.

Oh well, Over the last few weeks I've been trying to get more into reading actual literature. And I decided to get started with The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged. So over the past couple of weeks, I've read about 2000 pages of Ayn Rand's Objectivist Epistemology, and I'll be boiling that down to what I think can effectively help you with women and dating.

I actually read The Fountainhead after I read Atlas Shrugged, but I want to talk about it first, as I think it builds the foundations of Rand's philosophies about Men, Self-Esteem, Values, Happiness, Judgements etc...

The Fountainhead is the story of Howard Roark an architect. The book starts with a bang as Roark is thrown out of school for refusing to follow the standards of traditional architecture. This is one of the main points of all of Ayn Rand's writings. The only way for men to be happy in Rand's view is for them to live ONLY by their own standards, values and judgements. Men are certain, set their course and find the work that makes them happy. Howard Roark is the living embodiment of Rand's philosophy. Throughout the book he is punished for his commitment to excellence, his vision and his ability to produce and enjoy his production. He is opposed by the second raters, the worshippers of death who want to see man as a slimy lowly creature, to be dominated by means of lies, and distortions.

Roark's certainty in his standards is one of his most amazing traits. In fact throughout the book he is called upon to help his polar opposite Peter Keating with various architectural tasks. Early in the book as Roark is helping Peter to decide on what job to take. Peter asks how Roark can always manage to decide. Roark responds by asking him how he can let others decide for him. This is huge when it comes to meeting women. You must have your own standards and be able to make decisions. You have to have things that are more important to you than getting laid or having a girlfriend. You must know what you stand for and consistently make decisions moving towards that.

Let's take a look at how Roark is described by Rand in her initial notes for The Fountainhead.

"Howard Roark- The noble soul par excellence. The man as man should be. The self-sufficient, self confident, the end of ends, the reason unto himself, the joy of living personified. Above all-the man who lives for himself, as living for oneself should be understood. And who triumphs completely. A man who is what he should be."

Furthermore Rand shows the sufferring and unhappiness caused by not living by your own standards and doing things to appease the masses. Everything from Peter worrying about whether or not he really loves his mother, to Gail Wynand coming into power by giving the masses what they want, and becoming miserable along the way. We'll get more into both of those guys and how they perverted their standards in order to get what they think they want. This is something that a lot of more advanced guys can see in their own game. You can get girls, but you can't seem to keep the cooler, hotter ones etc... I'll talk about how guys pervert their standards with women in the Gail Wynand and Peter Keating lessons upcoming.

That's why it's so important to know who you are and what is important to you. This and this alone causes you to come off certain, passionate, dynamic, and alive. By living by your own standards and not looking externally for validation you become more attractive. In pick up lingo this is known as being "non-reactive." But in order to really be non reactive, you have to stop looking outside of your own standards of right and wrong for validation. You have to stop seeking others approval. In short you have to stop giving a fuck. Or become internally validated. TD once wrote that as a man you are responsible for creating and maintaining your own state. That means you have to step up, and learn to draw validation from who you are, not what you accomplished or how much you've read.

Later in the book is where Rand ties in the idea of being selfish. It is a kind of selfishness to elevate your beliefs and standard above all others. It is something of an arrogance to believe you know best. But it is what being a man is all about. The men who have shaped hostory have been men that believed in their own abilities, reason, and virtue. One of the main characterizations we see throughout this book and Atlas Shrugged is the idea of heroic men without guilt for their virtues. Roark refuses to feel bad for his selfishness and instead feels nothing for it. The act of following his values is as second nature to him as breathing. He knows no other way.

As guys we often feel guilty about our achievements, desires, judgements, choices etc... One of the most interesting things about Rand's writing to me is the idea of guilt rejection. Her characters are willing to suffer for their virtues. Be it Dominique Francon marrying two men she doesn't love and letting them have their way with her. Or Roark refusing more commisions than I can remember because they wouldn't let him build the way he wanted to. What her heroes(and heroines) don't do is accept any guilt whatsoever for the way they are. The only exception in here is Gail Wynand but I'll get to that in the another post.

Howard Roark is the posterchild for self esteem, while Peter Keating is the posterchild for ego. In becoming self sufficient, autonomous, and masculine, you re-store your self esteem. By holding a respect for yourself above a respect for anything else, you become a more attractive person. That's why "jerks" get women. Because jerks (and naturals) are selfish. They don't care much about people other than themselves. And even though that's a perversion of the idea of being autonomous and having self esteem, it subcommunicates very similar things, which women are attracted to.

In fact next time I'm going to continue to discuss Howard Roark as we take a look at his love affair with Dominique Francon and what we can learn about sexual tension, power exchange and values related to sexual love.

Stay tuned...

S

Quick Note...

Hey guys,

I’m about to go meet the12M2M guysfor their in field training, but I wanted to give you a quick Sinn’s Inner Circle update:

It looks like the Natural Attraction teleseminar I have scheduled for next Thursday is going to be booked solid. If you ordered your Sinn’s Inner Circle introductory package by midnight, last night, your in.

On Monday, I’ll be sending out an email with a special email address to send your questions to.

Reminder: if you haven’t ordered your introductory package yet, please do so now as the site is going down midnight, Sunday.

You can get your package here:

http://www.sinnsfreegift.com

That’s all I got for now.

Talk to you soon,

S

Back To Vegas...

What's up guys!

So I'm in Vegas again, and I don't really feel like I'm back.

Or maybe I feel like I never left, can't tell anymore...

I'm super excited for this bootcamp as it will be the last one I do until June. As well as the last bootcamp for the first session of 12M2M.

I created a challenge within the three groups to see which group could get the most approaches done over the weekend per group. Group A is in the lead right now with 13.5 aproached per student. But hopefully group C will be able to beat that this weekend.

It also happens to be Super Bowl weekend as well, which means that I get to lose a lot of money on prop bets. I'll have my official guide to the Super Bowl and Prop Bets up on the the sports blog which you can find in the resource page.

Next week I'll have a bunch of cool articles coming for you guys. I've finished Atlas Shrugged and Fountainhead in the last couple of weeks and I'll be posting what I got out of Ayn Rand's writings and how I think that can be applied to game. I definitely don't think you need to read almost 2000 pages of classical writing flavored with Objectivist thinking to get the value out of Rand. Honestly I didn't feel I got much out of either book, that I hadn't already learned. I'll also be starting my next overall series of articles on stereotypes of guys who attract women. The first one is going to be on shady hustlers and how they get girls. This is the category most promoters and "producers" fit into. This guy tells women whatever they want to hear to get them into bed. I'll detail the pros and cons of this approach next week. I also have a couple of other cool things up my sleeve and possibly another audio mailbag.

So I'm psyched, this year is going to be really exciting for me! I'll even be leaving Dallas in about a month to go somewhere much warmer, but I'll talk about that when it gets closer as well. Hopefully 2009 will be the best year so far for all of you guys(and girls) reading this as well. I implore all of you to start working towards the life of your dreams this year. You have to start sometime and now is as good as any.

Best

S

P.S. I got quite a few emails with people asking me if they were one of the 212 people to order the Sinn’s Inner Circle Intro package. Apparently our server crashed for about 10 minutes yesterday when I first announced the link and everything got out of control. Because of this technical mishap, I’m going to keep the site up until Midnight, Sunday and then I’ll take it down. I figured that’s the fair thing to do. You can get your package at www.sinnsfreegift.com

P.P.S. Because of the technical malfunction, as long as you grab your package by Midnight TONIGHT, you can still get in on the Natural Attraction teleseminar I’m doing next week. www.sinnsfreegift.com

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56 Minutes to Go!

Hey Guys,

Yesterday, after I announced that you’ll have your chance to get your FREE copy of my Natural Attraction DVD at 12:00 p.m. PST/3:00 p.m. EST, I had a quite a few people email me and ask if I’d give them the special link ahead of time.

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You MUST have Quicktime to listen to the Audio Mailbag!

Hey guys,

I posted the link to the audio mailbag here yesterday (Here)

Then I got a ton of emails and comments from guys asking why it wasn't working.

You need Quicktime to listen to the audio mailbag, you can get quicktime free with a google search.

Best,

S

Free 40+ Minute Inner Game Audio Mailbag!!!

Hey guys,

As you may remember a few days ago I sent out an email containing the Ultimate Secret To Inner Game.

In that email I urged every guy who has questions about stepping up, and being a man to email me. The response was AMAZING! I got close to 200 questions.

I sorted them each of them myself, and then I sat down and recorded myself answering the best of the questions as if it were asked by a student in front of me.

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It's only going to be available for the next 24 hours so make sure you check that out!

Also if you guys like these FREE audio mailbags, make sure to leave comments here, or send them to me at Sinn@sinnsofattraction.com.

Best,

S

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Announcement: Tomorrow’s The Day To Get Your FREE Natural Attraction DVD

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A couple of days ago I spoke to the guy at my fulfillment company and he told me that the DVD should be ready to ship out in a couple of weeks. It’ll probably be ready to be sold to the general public by the middle of next month.

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Why am I doing this? You’ll have to wait until tomorrow to find out all the details. But I’ll give you a hint, its part of a bold (maybe psychotic?) marketing test I’m conducting.

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Because of this crazy marketing test, this free gift will only be available to the first 212 people that take advantage of it. So if you want to make sure that you get in on this, be sure to be in front of your computer at 12:00 p.m. PST (3:00 p.m. EST) tomorrow.

Talk to you then,

Sinn

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Natural Attraction Part 2-The Characteristics

Welcome back,

Yesterday I broke down the process of attraction, as well as what it means to be natural. Today I want to jump into some more specifics by filling you guys in on the 4 characteristics to Natural Attraction.

One quick thing I want to mention, is that Attraction also has 5 frames that define the phase as well. I did a video on these 5 frames that you can find somewhere on my Youtube pageHere.

Now let's get into the characteristics of Natural Attraction. I spent a good deal of time going over routine after routine, reading EVERY pickup E-book, Archive, and product out there to come up with this system. This system is the result of almost 3 years of field time since I dropped my reliance on canned material as well. It all boils down to 4 characteristics we want to convey and the mechanisms we can use to convey them.

The 4 Characteristics are:

1. Confidence. Confidence is a huge thing, but until now NO ONE in the community has attempted to define it. Confidence has a lot of qualities to it. The most important one is being non-reactive. On the DVD I define what it means to be unreactive. I'll give you a hint for now, unreactiveness is a combination of two qualites. The first is your ability to be internally validated. The other you'll have to wait for the DVD for :) I also give the best definition of confidence I have ever heard, and teach you practical real ways to come across more confident. If you've ever wondered how to " fake it till you make it" this is how.

2. Interesting. Being interesting is one of the most important factors to attraction. This is why I've always had a problem with companies that teach guys to attract women, without teaching them how to be interesting. You can have the best body language in the world, be confident, well dressed, and good looking, but if you can't hold an engaging conversation, you're not going to be able to consistently pick up beautiful women. I'll give you guys a little peak into being interesting. One of the best ways to be interesting, is to teach the woman something she can either use to impress others, or even better something she didn't know about herself. This is where techniques like warm and cold reading come into play. These techniques along with about 10-15 more, make you interesting. You'll see that most of the community's routines and canned scripts are little more than interesting information repackaged for mass consumption.

3. Fun. I always say fun is the ultimate attraction switch. But some guys out there still don't know what makes an interaction fun for women. Fun is fully definable. Fun is a surplus of positive emotions. The more good emotions you make a woman feel, the more fun you are. Humor is one of the biggest tools for conveying fun. Whether or not you want to believe it, I have NEVER met a guy who was great with women who wasn't funny. If you want to get better results with women, you HAVE to be able to make them laugh consistently. If you need help with this, you can take Improv classes, watch more stand up comedy or just try to make more jokes in day to day life. Another major tenet of fun has to deal with the idea of self amusement. In the DVD I break down self amusement to the 9th degree. If you've always been the type of guy who didn't know how to relax and have fun, this section is a must watch for you. There's quite a few other ways to convey that you're having fun and help women enjoy their interactions with you. But I cannot overestimate how much having fun helps with picking up girls.

4. Masculine. Masculinity is a huge factor in attracting women. As we talked about last time, attraction works on the idea of tension. The tension should ideally be created by the opposition of polarities. You are masculine and she is feminine. You have to understand what characteristics are masculine. There are quite a few of them ranging from dominance, and maturity, to the ability to lead. Furthermore by figuring out and playing the masculine polarity role in the interaction, you lead the girl into playing a submissive feminine role. All of this is like rocketfuel for seduction as roles provide the building blocks for frames. Another thing that's important in regards to masculinity is learning what it means to be a man in today's society and how the roles of men and women have evolved over the past three hundred years. Coming to grips with both the bad and good aspects of being a man is a huge blindspot for most guys. By learning about how to be a successful, purpose-driven, mature, dominant man you fix an area of your inner psychology. Which will then lead to better communications and subcommunications with women.

So now you get an idea of the type of things we want to convey. In the program I go through specific ways to convey these characteristics. I also give examples of community material and why it works according to these four characteristics.

Take for example Mystery's idea that being a protector of loved ones is an attraction switch. If you look at telling a story about protecting your friends and loved ones, what does it convey about you? It says you are responsible, you are able to empathize with others, you are unafraid to put yourself in trouble for people you care about,and about 20 other things. But mostly it says you are a mature person. The one definition of maturity that came up over and over in books like "Iron John" or "Fire In The Belly" was putting the good of others and society before yourself. So you could say demonstrating you're a protector is actually demonstrating the quality of maturity which is a sign of masculinity. But it's only one aspect. There are at least 20 other ways one could convey maturity and masculinity from your opinions on things to demonstrating patience and calmness in the face of pressure. Natural Attraction allows you to demonstrate all those things without the need for canned lines and routines. By learning what type of man women naturally respond to, you can learn to work, toward becoming that type of man.

Be sure to be watching the blog and the mailbox tomorrow when I'll be giving you guys a special gift as well as a chance to get your own copy of the Natural Attraction DVD FREE!!

Same Sinn time, Same Sinn station,

S

Natural Attraction Part 1- What is Natural Attraction?

What's up guys?

Today I have the first part of my two part series on Natural Attraction.

In the first part of this series, we're going to define Natural Attraction and the attraction process. In the conclusion tomorrow, I'll be showing you guys how to convey Naturally Attractive characteristics.

As with anything I teach, I always strive to define it first. Furthermore to define Natural Attraction, we first have to answer two other questions that often confound newly minted PUAs. Namely, what is attraction? And, what does it mean to be natural?

First let's define attraction. Many people have incorrect definitions of attraction. This can be dangerous, because definitions affect any course of study. So, first we have to ask what is attraction? The first thing you have to understand about attraction, is that it is first and foremost a feeling. Being that it's a feeling, it is transient, fleeting and can be created or destroyed at ANY time. Secondly the feeling of attraction is the feeling of being drawn to something or someone.

In order to fully understand Natural Attraction, you need to differentiate between the 3 types of attraction. In the upcoming Natural Attraction DVD I'll expand on this further, but for now, you guys should all understand that there are three different types of attraction; Sexual, Value based and Attention based. Being able to differentiate between the three, helps you to know what you need to communicate to move forward.

Ok, now that we've defined attraction, we need to figure out what it means to be natural.

When it comes to approaching women, there is a natural way to do it as well as a synthetic way. The synthetic way consists of pre-planning routines, physical escalations, soundbites, grounding sequences, etc. This is something you do, as opposed to something you are. It consists of consciously manipulating the way you come across in order to be attractive. In essence it's being a method actor. I did this for almost 3 years. Unlike guys like TD, I'm not here to tell you this style of game doesn't work. I got laid a lot, by very hot girls. I also felt like I was tricking girls, and manipulating girls who didn't like me into bed.

The natural way of approaching women, has to do less with pre-planning and scripting, and more to do with understanding the process of attraction and how to bring out the authentic parts of your personality that girls will be attracted to. This is what it means to make game a part of who you are, as opposed to being something you do.

In order to make the transition to Natural Game, you have to start internally. Once you have established a healthy set of beliefs, worked on becoming a more positive person, learned to identify and work on your insecurities, etc... Then you have to start learning how the process of attraction works.

Attraction works mainly on the idea of creating and then ultimately releasing sexual tension. Think of attracting a woman as emotional foreplay. You are teasing and arousing her and then not letting her get any completion. This is why tactics and techniques like Cocky and Funny answers, barriers, disqualifiers, Push/Pulls, Teasing, Confusion game, work so well in the attraction phase.

To take it a step further, you have to understand the overall structure of the attraction phase. Mystery inadvertently defined the attraction phase when he wrote down his groundbreaking discoveries on qualification. Mystery introduced a model for qualification known as Bait-Hook-Reel-Release. This model effectively describes the entire attraction phase.

No matter what you are doing in attraction, you have to bait the girl(s) interest. Once you've got their interest you have to reel them in with emotional stimulation, or value. Once they're reeled in a little bit you release to continue to build sexual tension, then bait them again to move forward. All of this generates compliance, momentum and investment. Whether you're using routines or going natural... Attraction will ALWAYS follow this structure. This structure allows us to manufacture sexual tension at will.

That's gonna wrap it up for today. Be sure to be back tomor when I'll reveal the first two characteristics we need to convey in order to build attraction.

See ya back here tomor!

S

The Men of Sex And The City-Part 5: Mr Big

Writing this article was kind of the whole idea behind this series. Of all the characters I've ever seen on TV, no one comes closer to a guy who actually gets girls in the real world than Mr Big. From the way he ignores tests and questions he doesn't want to answer to the quality of his answers. The writers created one of the coolest most realistic bachelor characters ever seen on TV.

Let's start at the beginning. Until the last episode of the series on HBO you never find out Big's real name. I think this is an important part of his mystique. Mr Big the character was designed to be cooler, suaver, and bigger than other guys Carrie dates, for a reason. He symbolizes what Candace Bushnell the writer of SATC the book wanted her men to be. Obviously SATC is semi-autobiographical, and I make that assumption having not researched anything the writers have said but looking at the fact that both Carrie Bradshaw and Candace Bushnell are CBs and they both wrote and lived in NY in the approximate same time frames. The reason this is important, is because it shows us that Mr Big is the epitome of what a reformed party girl expected her dream guy to be like. It's because of this that Big becomes more important than the other characters. Because much like John Galt in Atlas Shrugged, he's the writer's ideal of the perfect man.

Carrie and Big meet on a street initially, then keep running into each other randomly at events in NY's see and be seen scene. Finally they make a time and a place to run into each other on purpose. Big specifically keeps it vague here. Which leads Carrie and Co pontificate on whether it's a date or not since he called it a "drink thing." There's a good lesson there! Keep things ambiguous early on. Women are what I like to call meaning-makers. That means that they always want to try to figure out what things mean. If you say something that is easily interpreted, the discussion about you doesn't last long. If you say something vague, you become the topic of discussion for half an hour...Confusion is one of the most relevant emotions when it comes to attraction. If you can can confuse a girl ( not weird them out) they'll invest more in the interaction and the more they invest the more committed they become.

Mr Big already has a reputation,in fact Carrie first describes him like this " Mr Big, major tycoon, major dreamboat, and majorly out of my league." And this creates another piece of the puzzle when it comes to attraction. Bragging Rights. The fact that her promiscuous friend Samantha strikes out when she tries to pick him up helps. There is an overlooked reason why girls have sex with celebrities, athletes, members of entourages and well known bachelors. It's bragging rights. The same way that guys like to brag about banging a "10", girls want to brag about landing a guy who seems out of their league. Or that they beat another girl to get. Remember girls compete much more covertly than men who are allowed to compete overtly.

Last blog post, I had mentioned Toecutter's 3 Leagues theory. This is where it applies. Basically ( And again I'll apologize to TC for mangling his eloquent theory) There are three things you have to do to get a girl. The first is that you have to show her that you're out of her league. For a long time the community thought that the only way to do this was through negs. Turns out there are a lot of Natural Attraction ways to establish that you're out of a girls league. The second thing you have to do is show her that she actually is in your league. This is where qualification and seeing and appreciating the girl for who she is comes into play. And lastly you have to show her that both of you are out of everyone else's league. This relates to the idea of conspiracy one of the best ways to build a connection with a girl quickly. The three leagues theory is a great overall guideline for the process of picking up a girl. Mr Big shows up out of Carrie's league. He also socially proofs himself when he introduces Carrie to a Supermodel friend of his at a Fashion Show. He shows Carrie that she's in his league with the way he flirts with her and asks her out. He even leaves his friend at a brunch place to suggest a date with just the two of them. And finally he shows her that they're out of everyone else's league throughout the whole 6 seasons of the show as both of them value their connection even when they're "just friends."

Mr Big is a master at ignoring things that don't help him. Whether it's his reaction to Carrie blurting out "I love you.", or her prying about where the relationship is going, or why she can't keep stuff at his place. This is probably the number 1 rule of pickup and dealing with women in general. Ignore things that can't help you. If it's not useful don't react to it. If it's really important to her, she'll keep bringing it up. But if it's just some passing thought that isn't that important, but could start an argument, let it go.

The second thing Big does is he perfectly embodies the way to pass congruence tests. One of my favorites comes in Season 2 when Carrie says "You're very arrogant." and He replies "I thought that's what you liked about me." Or when she asks him what he thinks about Soulmates and he replies " I like the word soul and I like the word mate, other than that. I have no idea." Another good one that I've subsequently stolen and used on many girls happens on their first date when Carrie shows up wearing what is affectionately referred to as " The Naked Dress". Big looks her up and down confidently. Which if done right can be a huge turn on for a girl. I myself, make it a habit to get caught checking out every girl I'm out with. Big looks at the dress and goes " Interesting dress." To which Carrie replies " Meaning?" and Big responds instantly " Interesting dress." In natural attraction you rely less on scripts and more on general principles. Big always follows the correct principles. He never argues, he always agrees, or repeats himself confidently letting his subcommunications do the rest. He also exaggerates and turns things around on Carrie all the time. All these tehcniques are things I teach when I teach natural attraction.

Another thing Big does well is demonstrate he understands Carrie better than she knows herself. Showing an ability to understand women and more importantly the particular woman you're talking to is huge. In my new system of attraction I teach something called a 1 plus 1 model, which is designed to help you understand the girl in front of you by looking at her body language, fashion choices, facial expressions, actions, group of friends and more. It's super key to demonstrate this ASAP. It's different than demonstrating that you're "preselected" this is more about showing you get how girls think. The subtler you can be the better. There's a great example of this where Mr Big tells Carrie she's never been in love during their initial car ride meeting. He also uses some great examples of bait and grounding.

The last thing I want to talk about that Big does is using barriers. One of the biggest misconceptions early on in the community, was that you have to lower a woman's self esteem to get them to chase you. That's incorrect. However establishing barriers that can or would prevent you from being interested in, or getting together with the girl is hugely powerful. This is what sexual tension is made of. When there is no actual barrier, creating one adds sexual tension where otherwise there would only be release. As men we don't quite understand this. Anticipation and pursuit are an important part of sex for most women.

Big continually establishes barriers from other women, to business calls, to refusing to introduce her to his mother. There are all sorts of challenges for Carrie to overcome. Which again proves that the more a girl invests in your relationship be it physically, emotionally, sexually, financially, or other, the more interested she becomes.

A lot of guys biggest problem is that they are too easy, they're too eager to let the girl have her way. Which ultimately is not what she wants.

In a complete over-generalization I would say that women want to be challenged and pushed to a higher level by men they believe are out of their league or different in a positive way. They want to fight to win the man over. But they have to work for it because a victory over a weak opponent leaves them feeling hollow and unfulfilled. Ultimately though they want to play the role of seductress, but can only let themselves do that with a man they feel is a worthy enough prize. Basically women want to star in their own romance novels.

This back and forth "fighting" is called sexual tension. You have to master this skill of play fighting with women in order to become a prize worthy of winning. Mr Big was Carrie's big prize. That's why the show ends when he tells her she's the one. She finally won. It took her 6 years and two other major relationships but she finally got her prize.

If you look at any well written relationship driven show, be it The Office or Californication. The sexual tension comes from barriers. That's why negs work, because they create a barrier of disinterest. But it's a fake barrier. You're not really disinterested. In Natural Attraction, I teach ways to create barriers while still displaying interest in the girl. This leads to natural chemistry and compatability much faster.

That's going to wrap up the 5 part series on The Men Of Sex And The City, hopefully everyone enjoyed reading these as much as I liked writing them. My next big piece will come Monday when I'll be giving you guys a primer on my Natural Attraction system. You won't want to miss that!

S

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The Men of Sex And The City-Part 4: Richard Wright

Welcome back to the blog that has it all, intrigue, danger, sex appeal, and of course references to a late 90s show of almost entirely female viewership.

Today we're going to be talking about Richard Wright and The Universal Relationship Proposition.

Back when Toecutter and I met in 2005 in Montreal, I was already a big fan of his. I'd read his archive and his book, and found his stuff infinitely more useful and intelligent than most. What I didn't realize until I met him was how much thought he puts into everything. From the food he eats, to his ideas about women. It was then that he told me two theories that I put into use in my own game and my teaching. The first was his leagues theory, I'll talk about that some other time, as it's irrelevant here. The second, was his idea that women put men into 4 major categories.

Here's the four categories briefly,paraphrased liberally from TC's much better explanation:

1. No way. This guy is "creepy", "shady" "weird", "gross","desperate" etc... This is a guy she blows off with minimal politeness.
2. Average guy. She'll be polite to this guy, but she's not attracted and wants to get away eventually to have fun.
3. The One Night Stand. This guy is attractive but only for one night. He may be outside of who she sees herself with, or she may be horny, on the rebound, etc and have lower standards.
4. The Universal Relationship Proposition. This is the guy with whom she'll accept any kind of relationship, just to be around him. She'll try for more exclusivity and commitment as this guy is someone she wants to be around. In Atlas Shrugged this is the relationship dynamic between Dagny and Rearden, D'Anconia, and Galt. Whether you believe it's the highest appreciation of your values in a member of the opposite sex or you just think girls chase guys for value. This is the guy girls chase.

The URP is also what Samantha Jones the promiscuous one on Sex And The City saw Richard Wright as. Richard is described as a very successful and charismatic man. He appears on the covers of magazine as a hotel magnate. Samantha tells him off and gets a job doing his PR. They start sleeping together and Samantha tries to keep it all to work,and sex. At first. But she finds herself wanting more and more. This is the power of unavailability. I'm not promoting being unavailable for the sake of creating more attraction, while you sit at home alone jacking it and eating pizza. Instead I'm suggesting that you actually get busy doing something that has nothing to do with picking up girls. Maybe you've always wanted to write a novel. Start writing every day. Maybe you've always wanted to learn a language or run a marathon, now's the time! The more of a life you have, the easier it is not to be needy. It's much easier to keep from calling girls too much, when your alternative option for that evening is not a night of "solo sarging". And yes, I'm telling everyone who doesn't have one to get a life!

To his credit Richard does tell Samantha he's not the monogamous type. You can tell girls you're not looking for a relationship. This is part of the power of the community to me. You don't have to pretend that you are faithful to a girl you're not faithful to. I'm a big believer in doing rather than saying, but when push comes to shove, I always tell girls I'm not looking to jump into a relationship or be monogamous. Remember lying to girls about what you want in a relationship, just to get in their pants will almost always backfire! Trust me, I used to do it :)

Richard also pulls out the moves of seduction. He pursues Samantha in a romantic way only AFTER he's slept with her. This is key, girls do like romantic things, but only AFTER they've slept with you. In the beginning it comes off needy, weak and places you int the provider frame. But once you've slept with her, you can do sweet, romantic things for girls like rooftop swimming and champagne :) Just don't do too early.

Ultimately though Richard made a mistake that many guys in the community often make. They tell girls they're monogamous and then they fuck around on the side. It's a really bad idea. First it causes drama. As someone who has had to deal with some weird annoying situations because he was dishonest about how many girls I was seeing, don't do it! You don't want to deal with broken windows, guys trying to kick your ass, girls throwing drinks on you, or in my and Richard Wright's case girls papering your neighborhood with signs that you're a player. If you tell a girl you're monogamous, you need to be monogamous. Or don't commit. It's not that hard. You just have to be honest. One of the GREATEST things I've learned in the community is that you don't have to pretend to be a girl's BF to get her in bed and keep her there. Richard doesn't do this, and Samantha walks in on him going down on another girl. They break up.

Unfortunately much like in the real world, people on Sex and The City rarely stay broken up. After Samantha throws a drink in his face,and papers his neighborhood. She takes Richard back. But she's now paranoid about Richard cheating. This why cheating is a problem. Emotional integrity,and honesty are major parts of both attraction and connection. You have to do what you say you're going to do or you break trust and you compromise your emotional integrity. After trust is broken a relationship can't stand. And so Samantha breaks up with him before she can get too badly hurt. Which is a good idea for both parties. If you see a likely situation where you might get emotionally wrecked, it's not a bad idea to get out of that situation. You don't have to go through a lot of emotional pain unnecessarily. It's not a part of the relationship cycle.

So ultimately all of the good of Richard Wright is undone by his breach of trust. That's actually a good lesson. When it comes to women, you can lie your way into their pants. You can say you're a movie producer, or a rock star, or a millionaire. You can tell women you're going to whisk them away on a vacation to the caymen islands. Or tell them you're going to be getting a house in Hibiscus Island or a Ferrari. But ultimately when you lie to women, you will eventually get caught, and you will have to deal with the consequences. Furthermore, you don't need to lie to girls to get them into bed or a variety of different kinds of relationships.

Tomorrow we'll be wrapping up with a breakdown of Mr Big. Mr Big is like the poster child for Natural Attraction, so stay tuned for that.

S

The Men of Sex And The City-Part 3: Trey Mcdougal

SO this took a really long time to get up today, because I spent most of my day trying and failing to record a decent video blog... Annoying. I have a new found respect for actors...

Anywho, back to SATC.

The next guy we're going to talk about is a guy with a ton of inner psychology issues. As well as psychological impotency. That's right Dr Trey Mcdougal.The Mcdougals being the type of people with a lot of roman numerals after their names. And yes they are from connecticut.They also produced a son with a ton of sexual anxiety and issues around sex. I personally believe through my work with thousands of guys that the average guy has WAY more sexual issues than the average girl. Let's learn about a few.

The reason Trey is able to get Charlotte comes down to stereotyping. He's what girls call "good on paper guys." He's a good looking DR from an upper class family with a lot of history and tradition. He's everything women say they want. However Charlotte soon learns that what women say they want and what they actually want are two very separate things.Something we learn very early on in the community. Remember guys sometimes girls fall victim to guys who aren't as cool as they appear. I know cause I used to be one of them and hurt more than a few girls.

The first thing that hurts Trey is the fact that he's easily manipulated. His mother Bunny is able to get him to eat different food and decorate his apartment with stufed Mallards. Charlotte gets him to marry her by her proposing and him saying "allrighty". Making decisions and being certain about things is a major factor in attraction. As David Deida writes women are attracted to men that are rocks during their emotional storms. You have to be certain. I even think one of Zan's original quotes that I loved was " I may be wrong but I am never in doubt!" These are words to live by! In fact certainty is also a major tenet of congruence. My favorite story of all time ( Which I tell in this video clipHere) happened because I was certain that the girl was going to sleep with me. Trey lacks all certainty. He's kind of a wimp, and no amount of value can hide that.

The second thing Trey has going against him is because he's such a wimp and Charlotte is crazy, they don't sleep together until the night before the wedding. When Trey can't get it up. That's right he's psychologically impotent. As opposed to the impotency being physical. The reason behind this, appears to be a Madonna/Whore complex later as Charlotte catches Trey jacking it to an issue of Juggs late at night. They try couples counseling where Trey is too uptight to talk about sex in front of a therapist. This is another lesson, the more comfortable you get with sex, the more women will want to sleep with you. You have to(And we have to as a society IMO) let go of sexual judgment. In order to be super successful with women you have to understand that sex isn't that big of a deal, people all want more sex than they're getting, and there's nothing wrong with sex simply for the sake of sex. It's huge.I get laid a fair amount just off having and expressing these beliefs to women. But you can't fake it. Girls can smell it when it's fake. You have to actually let go of judging people for their sexcapades. Even if you think "they're wrong" or "gross." No one believes in wrong and right more than me, but as long as things are between two consenting adults, and no one's getting hurt emotionally or physically...Enjoy.

Trey like 70% of guys has a little too much Madonna/Whore complex going on. He wants to have a chaste, pure wife and have dirty sexual playthings to take care of his unclean desires.

Many men are ashamed of their sexual impulses and urges. They think they should be above them or that getting pleasure from sex is somehow wrong. If you have issues like this you need to work on them!! You need to learn that there is nothing wrong with your sexual desires(again as long as no one's getting hurt) and you've been taught that urges that are perfectly natural and normal are dirty and wrong. It's not your fault!!

Educate yourself on sex and evolutionary biology. I particularly enjoyed Sperm Wars, The Guide To Getting it on, 9 and a half weeks, My Secret Garden. A lot of these books are hard to read if you're still putting women into categories like "whore" and "nice girl" The truth is each woman is both a Madonna and a Whore depending on the situation and the guy. Believe me I had more sexual anxiety than anyone. I have some stories that are humiliating... But I learned both through first hand and textbook education. And you can too!

If you guys have questions on SA and other male sexuality issues hit me up at Sinn at Sinnsofattraction... and if as many guys as I imagine are out there with weird sex questions, email me and if I've gone through it I'll give you what I did to get over it.I know,these kinda issues which can be embarrassing are DEVASTATING to your dating life.


Ultimately Trey and Charlotte's relationship ends. It ends, because after they work through the impotency issue Charlotte wants a baby and can't get pregnant. Then Trey decided he didn't want to adopt and again we get a case of mismatched wants and needs in a relationship.

This is a huge thing people overlook when they fall in love.

I'm not saying that you should be inflexible or never change but BOTH parties in a relationship need to be aware of what they need to be happy. The most important person in every relationship is you. And I think every girl should think that way too. You have to make sure you're getting what you want and need or you should move on. No one is perfect and you really have to figure out what kind of crazy you can tolerate, and what things you can't be ok with. This includes the level of openness of the relationship.

When priorities change or aren't in line, the end of a relationship isn't necessarily a bad thing. Staying in a relationship that's wrong for you or doesn't make you happier than if you were out of it is stupid. No matter how bad you feel like it will be without that person, you'll survive. And probably find someone whose better for you
As Charlotte did.

Tomorrow we'll be discussing Millionaire Playboy Richard Wright and Toecutter's idea of The Universal relationship proposition.

S

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Tip of The Day # 1: Never Discuss The Number...

What's up guys,

Today i want to start a new feature, where I give simple quick hit advice on dating and pick up.

We're starting off with something that makes a lot of common sense, but I see many guys messing up. That is asking or caring about how many guys a girl has slept with. A lot of guys suffer from Madonna/Whore complexes and thus want to justify that they are with a pure chaste girl. Personally I'd rather sleep with a girl whose slept with a lot of guys as she's more likely to be good in bed, but I digress.

The point is there's no good that can come from that kind of questioning for either of you. Now sometimes women will bring this up to me. Personally, since I'm well into triple figures I probably need to avoid that question as well. What I do is explain that there's no answer that's going to make either of us happy, and what's happened in the past is in the past. That works pretty consistently.

The next time you feel like asking a girl this or curiosity is just getting the better of you, remember what curiosity did to the cat...

S