Warning this is extremely long and dense.
One of the major problems I notice in students weekend after weekend, is the inability to qualify in a manner that is convincing to women.
So in order to hopefully rectify this I have written this post.
First a definition of qualification for those who are unaware of such things and the reasons that we need to qualify.
In the attraction phase, we the PUA Demonstrate value and attributes of an attractive man and the woman rewards us with indicators of interest. Qualification is its mirror opposite, where we will entice her to demonstrate value so that we can reward her with indicators of interest.
The reason behind this is as follows. Women become attracted to men ALL the time. Re-read that sentence 100 times. A woman doesn’t have the time necessary to get to know every guy she is attracted to. So when you have good attraction game, you will be able to get a woman’s REAL phone number in a short amount of time. However when you call her the next day, this is the difference in thinking between men and women.
PUA: She gave me her number it’s on.
Woman: Yeah he was attractive but why would I see him again? Why is he calling me he doesn’t even know anything about me, he must just want sex. I don’t feel like having sex. I’m not going to call him back.
Or Buyer’s Remorse as it has been called many times.
However if you can convince a woman that you like her for reasons other than her looks and sexuality, she will be motivated to see you again. Ideally you will develop actual standards and find things that you actually like in the particular girl.
So the old way that we did this was through the use of the Bait-Hook-Reel-Release model.
Now a quick word. If you have a proper conversational ratio, meaning that she is speaking about 40% of the time by now, she should be giving you things about herself that you can qualify her for. You can also qualify arbitrarily by telling the entire group that they are cool or fun.
When she has not given you reasons to qualify her and you can tell she is attracted, you will want to bait her to tell you cool things about herself. You can do this through the use of questions or statements.
In the beginning you want to make the hoops small and innocuous. When I took my initial program many years ago, Mystery just taught us to ask “ what you have going for you more than your looks.” That is what I call a large hoop. And even if a woman is attracted she may refuse to answer that question as out of the blue it is too big of a compliance request. I noticed that as I was in field girl would answer it most of the time, but sometimes it would not go over. At the time I was reading a lot of sales lit and I learned about the concept of a yes-ladder. Basic idea is that the more someone says yes the more likely they are to say yes in the future. I applied this to qualification by starting with smaller qualification hoops leading to medium sized hoops and ending with the large hoop “ What do you have going for you besides your looks.”
Small hoops are any question that presents a stereotype that a woman wants to be seen as. She should be able to answer yes to this question with little or no thinking. Some examples are “ Are you adventurous, Are you smart, are you a good friend?”
Medium hoops require a little more thinking and are actually where you will find out if your qualification is taking or not. Some examples are “what nationality are you? What do you want to be when you grow up?” It’s here that a woman can if uninterested stop the qualification by not answering or giving a slow answer such a s” I’m a mutt.”
Side note, a woman will not answer a qualification question for one of two reasons. One she is not attracted. These answers will be short and succinct. Like “I don’t know”. The other reason is that she sees you as an authority and doesn’t want to say something to make herself seem less cool. If she is making an effort to answer the question, you need to reward her.
Large hoops are blatantly qualifying questions where she will realize she is qualifying herself but do it anyway because she has already invested earlier.
So the old model required us to bait with a question and would sometimes sound like a job interview as you pummeled the girl with questions. So the first mistake to correct is only asking questions. Any question can be turned into a statement fairly easily. For example let’s say I want to find out what nationality a girl is. I could ask, “What nationality are you?” Or I can say, “ You look very German.” And wait for her to either agree or disagree. You get the exact same information, at which point you need to give her an indicator of interest or compliment if you want to be normal.
Qualification will be the first point in the interaction where you can start to hit on the girl. So as soon as she answers the question, we reward her with a compliment. For example “ OMG you’re German! I love German girls, my ex-fiancé was German and we went over there and traced her whole family tree. It’s such a cool culture.
The compliment should be non-generic and non-physical. The more in-depth and specific you can be, the more qualified she will feel.
In the old model, the next step was to release by throwing a small IOD like “ can’t even talk to you anymore.” Then return to normal conversation. This is where guys get into trouble most of the time and the main reason why I felt the need to write this post. You DON”T need to release every time. In fact if you follow this cycle dogmatically the girl will even notice it. You may even have girls respond to I can’t talk to you by saying ok.
The key to releasing is to do it ONLY when a woman feels uncomfortable with you hitting on her. If she is accepting your compliments and likes them then there is NO reason to release it and it will seem fake. So the release in my model has been changed to a tease and it still remains at the end of the cycle but this time there is a piece before the release. And that piece is asking a rapport question.
One of the main reasons that guys have problems being able to qualify girls is that they go in with the intention of trying to qualify a girl. Instead of actually trying to find out what is cool about the girl. So when you BHRR without exploring the topic of conversation, it comes across as fake. If you were really that interested in her nationality you would probably ask a question like “ Have you ever been to Germany” etc…
The more actual interest you can show here the better.
Now onto to releases. The best way to release is to throw in a non-sequitor tease. Something along the lines of “ Too bad your such a dork!” The point of a release is to pop the bubble of tension that has been created by hitting on her. This makes her more comfortable as you have released the tension created by hitting on her. But remember you don’t have to do it every time. Only when she appears uncomfortable with you hitting on her. Generally with a bigger IOI. Another way of releasing tension on smaller hoops (Which get smaller IOIs BTW) is to structure a challenge to her quality.
PUA: Are you adventurous?
Girl: Yeah Totally
PUA: Awesome I love adventurous people. There’s just so much more fun. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done? Don’t say running with scissors.
Girl: One time I went skydiving
The last thing I want to talk about is the idea of continuous qualification. Meaning that comfort and qualification and later on relationship and qualification are going to cycle. You will need to keep giving her reasons that you like her FOREVER. So when you are stuck for things to say on a date or 10 year into your marriage tell the girl why you like her.
S
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
Epic Day on PTI and Around The Horn
I have mentioned before my more than passing fancy for PTI and Around The Horn. I really need a tivo so that I can actually stay out of my house from 2 to 3 PM on weekdays.
ATH(Around The Horn) features a panel of sports writers debating the various issues in sports with the winner of the game getting 30 seconds of time to talk about whatever they want to.
PTI is a talk show on sports between Michael Wilbon and Tony Kornheiser who both make the most salient and interesting points while being entertaining of anyone I’ve ever seen Jim Rome in his prime included.
On a sad side note I don’t watch Rome is Burning, despite being a huge fan of his radio show over the last 5-6 years. I feel like Rome has lost his edge and he tends to drift more than he ever used.
Well today was the best day of PTI and ATH I can remember it was capped off by Michael Smith’s unfair ejection because Woody Paige pulled out a copy of a letter from Michael Jordan. Smith said that he would be cussing host Tony Reali out were it not a family show. Hysterical and the trash talking was on point and super entertaining tonight.
Then PTI had Coach k from Duke come on and talk about the losses and Gilbert Arenas being able to score more tha 84 or 85 points on his team the way they are playing defense.
Great great day of sports talk that led me to feel the need to post.
S
ATH(Around The Horn) features a panel of sports writers debating the various issues in sports with the winner of the game getting 30 seconds of time to talk about whatever they want to.
PTI is a talk show on sports between Michael Wilbon and Tony Kornheiser who both make the most salient and interesting points while being entertaining of anyone I’ve ever seen Jim Rome in his prime included.
On a sad side note I don’t watch Rome is Burning, despite being a huge fan of his radio show over the last 5-6 years. I feel like Rome has lost his edge and he tends to drift more than he ever used.
Well today was the best day of PTI and ATH I can remember it was capped off by Michael Smith’s unfair ejection because Woody Paige pulled out a copy of a letter from Michael Jordan. Smith said that he would be cussing host Tony Reali out were it not a family show. Hysterical and the trash talking was on point and super entertaining tonight.
Then PTI had Coach k from Duke come on and talk about the losses and Gilbert Arenas being able to score more tha 84 or 85 points on his team the way they are playing defense.
Great great day of sports talk that led me to feel the need to post.
S
New York Recap, Future's B-day, Being way too into Lawgirl and of course, the cold.
Good couple of days spent in NY.
I got in around 2:30 AM on Friday,my flight was supposed to get around 7:10 but in the current trend of Jetblue trying to run itself out of business, it was delayed a few hours and had to re-fuel in Pittsburgh.
Once I got in I spent some time with Future Friday night and then had dinner with him his mom and MaryJasian before we went to see Children of Men. I have never cared soo little about what's happening in a movie. I honestly just wanted it to be over from the opening scene until the end. No sense of drama, Uber predictable save yourself 2 hours and if you feel the urge to watch this movie, instead hit yourself on the head with a hammer until you pass out.
After the movie we went back to Future's and instead of going out, we had a couple of friends over and hung out at his place. Soo much better than going out. I hate going out.
Sunday I got up early made hand outs and headed over to the seminar room. Day game had a really good group of guys including a student I had taught earlier ast year in Miami. He showed up in Miami a vigin and since May he has had 7 girls. He emailed me to tell me that and it really made my day. It made me ffel like what I do actually does change lives and help people, and I'm not juts flying around for no reason. So Thanks Puzzler that was exactly what I needed to read.
Sunday Night was Future's actual B-day dinner so I booked it out of the seminar room exactly and 7 and made the mad dash for Chat N Chew, where since I hadn't eaten all day, the two vodka sodas I had knocked me on my ass. Future's mom is a riot and Debonair Dave showed up. Which is always appreiciated. After dinner we went back to Future's and had a little mini party which we all remarked was better than going out.
Mon, I had to do a bunch of boring printing and faxing for Oz and other assorted stuff, like setting up hotel rooms and conference rooms. Which if it's possible is even less fun than it sounds. Then Play2Win met up with me and we grabbed a bite at a great burger place before bouncing to 45th and 9th where I picked up our waitress, who after she got off joined us to watch future do Stand-up uptown. She had to leave after the show so we bounced back to Future's where I continued my 7th hour of drinking on a Monday. i justify it by saying that it was Presiden't day, but really I just like to drink.
Lawgirl had a meeting for one of her clubs and called me about 11. At which point I headed over to Harlem, which is not quite as scary as it sounds and a whopping 12 dollar cab ride. People in NY are funny. In LA a $12 cab is super cheap. In NY it's the cause of an apocalypse. We had a few beers downstaris before she invited me up. And were it not for HB perfect's b-day tonight I would be staying in NY. I am soo into Lawgirl it's unreal. She's retardedly smart and funny. And she gets me in a way that very few if any attractive women do. It's a very strange connection we have. But I really like it and it wasn't a line when I told her that I was sad that I wasn't going to talk to her for 3 weeks. I may have to get a skype account or something to deal with my girl maintenence while I'm gone.
Got home around 3 last night and couldn't sleep. I still smelled like her and it was sad she wasn't there. She had a class at 8 and there was no way I was getting up that early.
Woke up this morning and headed to the aiport remembering that JFK has free wireless, which I think should be mandatory at all airports.
Now I am a 5 hour flight away from HBperfect and her b-day. Joy.
S
I got in around 2:30 AM on Friday,my flight was supposed to get around 7:10 but in the current trend of Jetblue trying to run itself out of business, it was delayed a few hours and had to re-fuel in Pittsburgh.
Once I got in I spent some time with Future Friday night and then had dinner with him his mom and MaryJasian before we went to see Children of Men. I have never cared soo little about what's happening in a movie. I honestly just wanted it to be over from the opening scene until the end. No sense of drama, Uber predictable save yourself 2 hours and if you feel the urge to watch this movie, instead hit yourself on the head with a hammer until you pass out.
After the movie we went back to Future's and instead of going out, we had a couple of friends over and hung out at his place. Soo much better than going out. I hate going out.
Sunday I got up early made hand outs and headed over to the seminar room. Day game had a really good group of guys including a student I had taught earlier ast year in Miami. He showed up in Miami a vigin and since May he has had 7 girls. He emailed me to tell me that and it really made my day. It made me ffel like what I do actually does change lives and help people, and I'm not juts flying around for no reason. So Thanks Puzzler that was exactly what I needed to read.
Sunday Night was Future's actual B-day dinner so I booked it out of the seminar room exactly and 7 and made the mad dash for Chat N Chew, where since I hadn't eaten all day, the two vodka sodas I had knocked me on my ass. Future's mom is a riot and Debonair Dave showed up. Which is always appreiciated. After dinner we went back to Future's and had a little mini party which we all remarked was better than going out.
Mon, I had to do a bunch of boring printing and faxing for Oz and other assorted stuff, like setting up hotel rooms and conference rooms. Which if it's possible is even less fun than it sounds. Then Play2Win met up with me and we grabbed a bite at a great burger place before bouncing to 45th and 9th where I picked up our waitress, who after she got off joined us to watch future do Stand-up uptown. She had to leave after the show so we bounced back to Future's where I continued my 7th hour of drinking on a Monday. i justify it by saying that it was Presiden't day, but really I just like to drink.
Lawgirl had a meeting for one of her clubs and called me about 11. At which point I headed over to Harlem, which is not quite as scary as it sounds and a whopping 12 dollar cab ride. People in NY are funny. In LA a $12 cab is super cheap. In NY it's the cause of an apocalypse. We had a few beers downstaris before she invited me up. And were it not for HB perfect's b-day tonight I would be staying in NY. I am soo into Lawgirl it's unreal. She's retardedly smart and funny. And she gets me in a way that very few if any attractive women do. It's a very strange connection we have. But I really like it and it wasn't a line when I told her that I was sad that I wasn't going to talk to her for 3 weeks. I may have to get a skype account or something to deal with my girl maintenence while I'm gone.
Got home around 3 last night and couldn't sleep. I still smelled like her and it was sad she wasn't there. She had a class at 8 and there was no way I was getting up that early.
Woke up this morning and headed to the aiport remembering that JFK has free wireless, which I think should be mandatory at all airports.
Now I am a 5 hour flight away from HBperfect and her b-day. Joy.
S
Saturday, February 17, 2007
CJ on same night lays
Captain jack has a great post up on same night lays.
He really is the best guy I've seen at doing same night stuff, and this article is full of great advice.
You can read it Here
S
He really is the best guy I've seen at doing same night stuff, and this article is full of great advice.
You can read it Here
S
NY is cold...
I really don't like the cold. I mean if I were forced to live in it, I could, but as I am lucky enough to be able to choose where to live, there is no fucking way I would ever live somewhere that got this cold. When I left LA yesterday it was 75 degrees and sunny, I got into NY and there's snow on the ground and it's like - 30006. I'm sitting in starbucks freezing every time the door opens.
I saw Future last night when i got in and tonight I'll be meeting up with him and Play2win for some drinking. probably shouldn't make it too crazy of a night as I have to teach at 2 tomor. I'm really exited to be teaching day game again, I really do think that every time I teach the program it gets better and better. I've taught it a few times before but I really think this will be the best one so far. Not sure if there's still availibility, but check the website.
I understand why everyone is an asshole in NY. it's a city where eveyone is literally right on top of you. I was sitting here typing and this old homeless lady was almost standing in my lap for 5 minutes as she stole sugar from the milk and sugar stand. I can't make this shit up. And noiw some old guy is STILL sharing my table when there is an open table 3 feet away. the only reason I'm not moving is because I have a power cord.
I'm really happy i won't miss any of the exciting NBA all-star game tomor. LOL I don't get all-star games, they are almost always boring exhibitions where no one plays hard and occasionally someone important gets injured(see Brees Drew). Yesterday they didn't even get through the rockin jocks game without reggie Bush spraining his ankle. It's a dumb tradition that needs to be abolished. Select the all- whatever league teams and be done with it.
I'm going to begin reading sperm wars by robin Baker in a few moments, I've heard mixed things, but I want to read it at CJ's recommendation.
T-minus 8 days until I leave for OZ... It's gonna be crazy, I haven't been this excited to do a program since... I don't even know when.
S
I saw Future last night when i got in and tonight I'll be meeting up with him and Play2win for some drinking. probably shouldn't make it too crazy of a night as I have to teach at 2 tomor. I'm really exited to be teaching day game again, I really do think that every time I teach the program it gets better and better. I've taught it a few times before but I really think this will be the best one so far. Not sure if there's still availibility, but check the website.
I understand why everyone is an asshole in NY. it's a city where eveyone is literally right on top of you. I was sitting here typing and this old homeless lady was almost standing in my lap for 5 minutes as she stole sugar from the milk and sugar stand. I can't make this shit up. And noiw some old guy is STILL sharing my table when there is an open table 3 feet away. the only reason I'm not moving is because I have a power cord.
I'm really happy i won't miss any of the exciting NBA all-star game tomor. LOL I don't get all-star games, they are almost always boring exhibitions where no one plays hard and occasionally someone important gets injured(see Brees Drew). Yesterday they didn't even get through the rockin jocks game without reggie Bush spraining his ankle. It's a dumb tradition that needs to be abolished. Select the all- whatever league teams and be done with it.
I'm going to begin reading sperm wars by robin Baker in a few moments, I've heard mixed things, but I want to read it at CJ's recommendation.
T-minus 8 days until I leave for OZ... It's gonna be crazy, I haven't been this excited to do a program since... I don't even know when.
S
Savoy's new nick name!
Savoy needed a nick name, and for a long time I couldn't come up with one, until last night.
From now on Savoy will be known as " The hardest working man in the seduction community".
So it has been written so it shall be done.
S
From now on Savoy will be known as " The hardest working man in the seduction community".
So it has been written so it shall be done.
S
14 hours later I get into NY
I was delayed for 8 hours on a fucking JETBLUE flight.
It sucked monkey balls, and the only reason that I didn't freak out and get arrested(like someone on my flight did toward the end.) is because I had TV in the headrest, and Fire in the belly.
I finished "Fire In The Belly", by Sam Keen it was mediocre. Very uneven. I loved the stuff he wrote about finding a passion and a path in life. I loved his stuff on having values. I hated his entire section on bringing the masuline and feminine together. And I think that marrying simply for the goal of having kids is retarded. You should get married if you love the person not with any intended outcome.
I also watched a bunch of scrubs, Chappelle Show, and unfortunately had one of the days when Around the Horn and PTI got pre-empted. I hate those days, this is the first one of the new year and I was loving my daily dose of my Favorite TV show. Michael Wilbon and Tony Kornheiser rock!
As Savoy said yesterday at the Lakers game. " You know you're jonsing for football when you're searching for draft coverage." or as I did today watching the same draft coverage 3 times hoping it would be different every time. What's the definition of insanity again? Doing something and....
S
It sucked monkey balls, and the only reason that I didn't freak out and get arrested(like someone on my flight did toward the end.) is because I had TV in the headrest, and Fire in the belly.
I finished "Fire In The Belly", by Sam Keen it was mediocre. Very uneven. I loved the stuff he wrote about finding a passion and a path in life. I loved his stuff on having values. I hated his entire section on bringing the masuline and feminine together. And I think that marrying simply for the goal of having kids is retarded. You should get married if you love the person not with any intended outcome.
I also watched a bunch of scrubs, Chappelle Show, and unfortunately had one of the days when Around the Horn and PTI got pre-empted. I hate those days, this is the first one of the new year and I was loving my daily dose of my Favorite TV show. Michael Wilbon and Tony Kornheiser rock!
As Savoy said yesterday at the Lakers game. " You know you're jonsing for football when you're searching for draft coverage." or as I did today watching the same draft coverage 3 times hoping it would be different every time. What's the definition of insanity again? Doing something and....
S
Friday, February 16, 2007
Lebron doesn't like defense
Went to the Cavs-lakers game yesterday with Savoy, here's my running account of the game best as i can remember.
Getting to Staples Center from Savoy's place in Hollywood took 45 minutes, way longer than it should have and the cab reeked like B.O. It was fucking nasty.
We get to Staples Center and right around when tip-off was supposed to be 7:30 the lines are ridiculous as well as the scalpers being out in full effect. I always secretly wonder if there are guys who go down to the Staples Center and wander around trying to buy tickets from a scallper. The scalpers always ask if you have tickets. Wjhy would I be THERE if I didn't retard! I guess you don't need to be a brain surgeon in order to scalp tickets.
The Staples Center system of having peope line up in undefined lines and push their way into the entrance, not the hot fire. They really need to set a better system than having 10,000 people all trying to push in at the same time.
Staples Center has awesome food, but be prepared to spend for it. Savoy and I got sushi and it was way expensive, and suprisingly good. I wasn't planning on drinking, but they had Hefewizen and let it never be said that Sinn says no to Hefewizen.
We had to go all the way up to the 3rd from last row, and I always wonder why they make the row so small, I think it has to do with them actually wanting you to spill your food and beer on some other fan. Also why do they serve beer in cups that don't fit intot the cup holder? Either make the beer smaller and thus less than $10 or make bigger cup holders.
Game tips off and Anderson Varejo is introduced as brazilian.. That's it he's from Brazil no mention of a school or how many years he's been in the league. Just from brazil.
The crowd boos Drew Gooden, I wonder aloud what Drew Gooden could have possibly done to get booed? I mean he sucks, but not really the type of guy I'd get emotionally invested in booing.
Lebron is really fast. A lot of other guys in the league use cross-over dribbles and spin moves. Lebron just runs fast and goes to the basket.
Lamar Odom is left handed.
Pretty good pacing to the begginning of this game both teams are getting up and down the floor and nailing shots.
The people next to us moved because they were in some guy and his sons seats. Now 10 minutes later the man and his son have to move because the real seat owners have arrived.
I tell Savoy we should sit in the bar on the second floor and tell people we wish we were at the game. Then inquire as to ticket prices.
Lebron is floating around on defense and offense. He really doesn't seem to be enjoying playing the game. Or even seem that interested in being out there.
Varejo is flying around and getting rebounds and blocks. He plays really hard. Not that big or tall not that talented but a total effort guy. The type of guy any team needs to be successful.
Kobe sometimes decides he's just going to score and takes some TERRIBLE shots. He happens to make them, but really poor shot selection.
I get a craving for Garlic fries with about 4 minutes left in the second quarter. I make the move after debating it for 3 minutes during which the Laker girls have performed 96,000 times all in different outfits.
I get garlic fries. They are not that good.
Halftime has a kid playing a memory game in which he wins a hat and a duffel bag. And more laker girl routines to you guessed it Fergie.
The announcer reminds us that we can download the songs being played directly to our Verizon mobile phones. this becomes a runnign joke with Savoy reaching into his pocket to try to get a jump on downloading them every Laker girl performance.
Diet Pepsi is glorious.
The Lakers coming roaring back in the second half but Larry Hughes somehow channels Michale Jordan and gets to the line 3 times in a row slowing the lakers run. I remark aloud " Can anyone stop Larry Hughes? "
Lebron also misses half of his free throws this game. It really does seem like he's regressing. I hate to pile on the guy when he scores 35 pts in a win, but where is the hunger to win. And the killer instinct to take over and put teams away. The Lakers hung around way too long this game.
3rd quarter we get a TV timeout that seemingly lasts 10 minutes.
I get a call from HB perfect that i ignore. a half hour later she texts the following:
" Hey. kinda depressing in work. Wanted to hear ur happy voice."
Really it's depressing in a strip club on a Thurs... I'm shocked.
I also get a text from a girl in AZ asking me to be her late Valentine.
4th quarter last few minutes 3 point game and Kobe is guarding Lebron. This is awesome! Kobe is actually a really good off the ball defender, he's making Lebron work to get position and get to the ball.
Most interesting moment of the game to me. Lebron catches the ball tries a couple of jab steps, none of which Kobe bites on then passes. It really seemed like Lebron genuinely didn't feel like he score on Kobe. Really great one on one basketball moment. Made the game worth watching.
Lakers are down 3 with 48.7 seconds there's a foul and then Kobe nails a fall away three. Unfortunately the Cavs come back and make two free throws then the Lakers turn it over and Lebron makes the next two free throws. Savoy and I bot for the exit to catch a cab witout having to wait in line.
We get back to Savoy's and decide to chill out and watch the Tivo'd office. I had to get up early today to go to the airport.
The office was Hysterical there's a bat and Michael speaking to a business school class. It's also got some good Pam, Roy dynamic.
Savoy and I also decide that trying to pull to an old folks home would be the funniest thing ever. We come up with excuses such as " I was cleaning up my dead Grandfather's affairs and decided to go out to the bar for a drink when i met you..."
Great company, entertaining game, over all a great experience. Should have worn my Ryan Leaf jersey though...
S
Getting to Staples Center from Savoy's place in Hollywood took 45 minutes, way longer than it should have and the cab reeked like B.O. It was fucking nasty.
We get to Staples Center and right around when tip-off was supposed to be 7:30 the lines are ridiculous as well as the scalpers being out in full effect. I always secretly wonder if there are guys who go down to the Staples Center and wander around trying to buy tickets from a scallper. The scalpers always ask if you have tickets. Wjhy would I be THERE if I didn't retard! I guess you don't need to be a brain surgeon in order to scalp tickets.
The Staples Center system of having peope line up in undefined lines and push their way into the entrance, not the hot fire. They really need to set a better system than having 10,000 people all trying to push in at the same time.
Staples Center has awesome food, but be prepared to spend for it. Savoy and I got sushi and it was way expensive, and suprisingly good. I wasn't planning on drinking, but they had Hefewizen and let it never be said that Sinn says no to Hefewizen.
We had to go all the way up to the 3rd from last row, and I always wonder why they make the row so small, I think it has to do with them actually wanting you to spill your food and beer on some other fan. Also why do they serve beer in cups that don't fit intot the cup holder? Either make the beer smaller and thus less than $10 or make bigger cup holders.
Game tips off and Anderson Varejo is introduced as brazilian.. That's it he's from Brazil no mention of a school or how many years he's been in the league. Just from brazil.
The crowd boos Drew Gooden, I wonder aloud what Drew Gooden could have possibly done to get booed? I mean he sucks, but not really the type of guy I'd get emotionally invested in booing.
Lebron is really fast. A lot of other guys in the league use cross-over dribbles and spin moves. Lebron just runs fast and goes to the basket.
Lamar Odom is left handed.
Pretty good pacing to the begginning of this game both teams are getting up and down the floor and nailing shots.
The people next to us moved because they were in some guy and his sons seats. Now 10 minutes later the man and his son have to move because the real seat owners have arrived.
I tell Savoy we should sit in the bar on the second floor and tell people we wish we were at the game. Then inquire as to ticket prices.
Lebron is floating around on defense and offense. He really doesn't seem to be enjoying playing the game. Or even seem that interested in being out there.
Varejo is flying around and getting rebounds and blocks. He plays really hard. Not that big or tall not that talented but a total effort guy. The type of guy any team needs to be successful.
Kobe sometimes decides he's just going to score and takes some TERRIBLE shots. He happens to make them, but really poor shot selection.
I get a craving for Garlic fries with about 4 minutes left in the second quarter. I make the move after debating it for 3 minutes during which the Laker girls have performed 96,000 times all in different outfits.
I get garlic fries. They are not that good.
Halftime has a kid playing a memory game in which he wins a hat and a duffel bag. And more laker girl routines to you guessed it Fergie.
The announcer reminds us that we can download the songs being played directly to our Verizon mobile phones. this becomes a runnign joke with Savoy reaching into his pocket to try to get a jump on downloading them every Laker girl performance.
Diet Pepsi is glorious.
The Lakers coming roaring back in the second half but Larry Hughes somehow channels Michale Jordan and gets to the line 3 times in a row slowing the lakers run. I remark aloud " Can anyone stop Larry Hughes? "
Lebron also misses half of his free throws this game. It really does seem like he's regressing. I hate to pile on the guy when he scores 35 pts in a win, but where is the hunger to win. And the killer instinct to take over and put teams away. The Lakers hung around way too long this game.
3rd quarter we get a TV timeout that seemingly lasts 10 minutes.
I get a call from HB perfect that i ignore. a half hour later she texts the following:
" Hey. kinda depressing in work. Wanted to hear ur happy voice."
Really it's depressing in a strip club on a Thurs... I'm shocked.
I also get a text from a girl in AZ asking me to be her late Valentine.
4th quarter last few minutes 3 point game and Kobe is guarding Lebron. This is awesome! Kobe is actually a really good off the ball defender, he's making Lebron work to get position and get to the ball.
Most interesting moment of the game to me. Lebron catches the ball tries a couple of jab steps, none of which Kobe bites on then passes. It really seemed like Lebron genuinely didn't feel like he score on Kobe. Really great one on one basketball moment. Made the game worth watching.
Lakers are down 3 with 48.7 seconds there's a foul and then Kobe nails a fall away three. Unfortunately the Cavs come back and make two free throws then the Lakers turn it over and Lebron makes the next two free throws. Savoy and I bot for the exit to catch a cab witout having to wait in line.
We get back to Savoy's and decide to chill out and watch the Tivo'd office. I had to get up early today to go to the airport.
The office was Hysterical there's a bat and Michael speaking to a business school class. It's also got some good Pam, Roy dynamic.
Savoy and I also decide that trying to pull to an old folks home would be the funniest thing ever. We come up with excuses such as " I was cleaning up my dead Grandfather's affairs and decided to go out to the bar for a drink when i met you..."
Great company, entertaining game, over all a great experience. Should have worn my Ryan Leaf jersey though...
S
Fucking Planes...
So I got up early and got to the airport in plenty of time to get on my flight to NY and of course it's fucking delayed 2 hours.
YAY! so now I get to sit in the airport and blog. Awesome.
That's much better than being on the way to NY asleep... or watching one of 36 channels that Jetblue provides of direct TV. BTW I love jetblue. This is the first time I have been delayed on a jetblue flight and I always feel more relaxed in the bigger seats and built in TVs.
I guess it's more time in the lovely LA weather tha I am leaving for ... that's right the freezing city of New York. I have a day game program that you can probably still sign up for Here
And i also will be attending to Future's B-day festivities. I also have to squeeze some time for lawgirl in somewhere this weekend. I'll be coming back on Tuesday afternoon ironically around the same time that HBperfect will be driving down to LA.
The next few weeks are going to be insane. I'm really excited to see Australia and teach there. It's crazy that I'm going to be able to get paid to travel all over the world this year. That doesn't suck at all...
I also have to figure out where I'm gonna be living once my lease runs out in April. I have no idea if I'm going to be staying in LA and just moving to a less expensive place, or if I'm gonna be heading to Dallas. I'm probably leaning toward staying in LA just because it's familiar and I'm used to living here. I also have some pretty good friends there and I really have no desire to move somewhere and start all over again. I just don't wanna do it especially as anywhere that I move to I will be gone 2-4 weekends a month so building a new social circle from scratch will be a lot of unecessary work. Dallas would be cool, as I would have Captain Jack and Fidelio there.
My list of requirements for a place to live is as follows:
1. Must be walking distance to a bunch of bars, clubs and restaurants. This is non-negotiable for pulling and doing D2s as well as gettting food during the day. I hate driving and generally shy away from activites that require me to drive.
2. Must be a swanky looking building. I hate living places that look run down from the outside.
3. Must not be too cold. I can deal with weather that drops to about the 50s and maybe a few days below, I can't deal with NY weather.
4. Must not be too humid in the summer. I can deal with heat not humidity. Blech.
5. There must be a lot of girls where I move, preferably a couple of colleges.
6. Must not be too small of a city
7. Must be less than I currenty pay in LA
8. Must have AC and access to TIVO
9. Must have a swimming pool or jacuzzi
10. Must have easy parking
I'm really picky looking at that list,but if you are reading my blog that's not really any new info.
S
YAY! so now I get to sit in the airport and blog. Awesome.
That's much better than being on the way to NY asleep... or watching one of 36 channels that Jetblue provides of direct TV. BTW I love jetblue. This is the first time I have been delayed on a jetblue flight and I always feel more relaxed in the bigger seats and built in TVs.
I guess it's more time in the lovely LA weather tha I am leaving for ... that's right the freezing city of New York. I have a day game program that you can probably still sign up for Here
And i also will be attending to Future's B-day festivities. I also have to squeeze some time for lawgirl in somewhere this weekend. I'll be coming back on Tuesday afternoon ironically around the same time that HBperfect will be driving down to LA.
The next few weeks are going to be insane. I'm really excited to see Australia and teach there. It's crazy that I'm going to be able to get paid to travel all over the world this year. That doesn't suck at all...
I also have to figure out where I'm gonna be living once my lease runs out in April. I have no idea if I'm going to be staying in LA and just moving to a less expensive place, or if I'm gonna be heading to Dallas. I'm probably leaning toward staying in LA just because it's familiar and I'm used to living here. I also have some pretty good friends there and I really have no desire to move somewhere and start all over again. I just don't wanna do it especially as anywhere that I move to I will be gone 2-4 weekends a month so building a new social circle from scratch will be a lot of unecessary work. Dallas would be cool, as I would have Captain Jack and Fidelio there.
My list of requirements for a place to live is as follows:
1. Must be walking distance to a bunch of bars, clubs and restaurants. This is non-negotiable for pulling and doing D2s as well as gettting food during the day. I hate driving and generally shy away from activites that require me to drive.
2. Must be a swanky looking building. I hate living places that look run down from the outside.
3. Must not be too cold. I can deal with weather that drops to about the 50s and maybe a few days below, I can't deal with NY weather.
4. Must not be too humid in the summer. I can deal with heat not humidity. Blech.
5. There must be a lot of girls where I move, preferably a couple of colleges.
6. Must not be too small of a city
7. Must be less than I currenty pay in LA
8. Must have AC and access to TIVO
9. Must have a swimming pool or jacuzzi
10. Must have easy parking
I'm really picky looking at that list,but if you are reading my blog that's not really any new info.
S
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Re-post of Wilder's Story-Telling Theory
This is the best post on Story-telling I have ever seen it forms the basis of the story-telling section of my bootcamp. I have made a lot of tweaks and re-touches and may one day teach a one day program on story-telling, as it is one of the most FUNDAMENTAL skills to master to get the results you want with women.
Enjoy,
S
Story Theory
by Wilder
Telling stories to a group of people is one of the best ways to generate attraction in pick-up when done correctly.
What follows are several things to consider when choosing and crafting stories for use in the field during attraction phases. They're more guidelines than hard and fast rules, as you can break most of them when you know what you're doing.
Story material This is close to a no-brainer. Choose stories that are interesting, fun and GIRL RELEVANT! Avoid stories about distasteful subjects, i.e. death, car accidents, bad breakups, etc. Usually these stories are funny. Use stories you tell often to friends and new people that get big laughs.
Be succinct Write your story out word for word and then gut it. Get rid of everything the listener doesn't need to know and doesn't care about. It's essential that you're ruthless here. Better to cut too much than too little. State the boring but necessary details as succinctly as possible.
Lead in This is how you start the story. The lead in should be congruent with the story to follow. Communicate using words, tonality and energy the type of story to follow. Some examples are, "Oh my God, the funniest/craziest/weirdest thing happened to me the other day!" or "Did you guys ever notice XXX?" or "You'll never believe this, check it out."
Initial hook An initial hook is something that makes peoples' ears perk up. It should be as close to the beginning of the story as possible and should be specifically chosen to make people lean in and pay attention. If your story is about something that happened to you at an S & M party, put that part up front!
Bad: My friend called me the other day and left me a message to call him back. So I called him and he went on and on about his Mother's operation before finally telling me about this party he wanted to go to. Turns out, it's an S & M party!
Good: So the other day I went to this S & M party!
Unanswered questions Craft your story so that there will be unanswered questions in the listener's mind. You want them to ask you questions that give you the opportunity to further increase your value.
Example: So I was picking up my new car the other day and the salesman wouldn't stop asking me about my watch. The girl I was with finally told him we had to go so she could pick up her instrument for a concert she was doing that night.
Unanswered questions:
- What kind of car did you just buy?
- What kind of watch were you wearing?
- Are you rich?
- Who was the girl you were with?
- What kind of performance did she have to get to?
Allude, don't state directly In the examples above you're alluding. You're alluding to the fact that you have money, as you just bought a new car and have a cool watch. You're alluding to the fact that you hang out with cool girls. Stated directly, any of this information would sound like bragging, so you allude to it. Make them ask you about it; don't volunteer it.
Subcommunication This has to do mostly with tonality. The same story can be told playfully, seductively or in a way that generates intrigue. Calibrate to your audience and know what you want to subcommunicate.
Convey personality traits In telling a story, you're telling someone a great deal about yourself. Know what personality traits want to convey. Craft your stories to subtly tell someone you're adventurous, rich, famous, creative, courageous, etc.
Tonality This is hard to put in print, but vary your tonality as widely as possible. Talk slow, then fast, then low, then high and then higher! Make transitions smoothly and tell the story in a way that sucks your listener right in. Along with this, act out parts of the story with your hands or your whole body.
Have a punch line A punch line is a line that sums up your story in a powerful way. It's a way of letting the listener know that the story is over. It doesn't have to be funny, though in many stories used in the field it will be.
Examples:
- "That's the last time I take THAT dog to the beach!"
- "From now on I'm asking to see girls' ID's!"
- "That was the day I learned the true meaning of courage."
Short Example Story:
The Girls at Burning Man are fucking CRAZY! So I met this girl at dinner and we really hit it off. We spent the whole evening together and she was great, but something seemed a little off. Anyway, she finally takes me back to her tent and it's really romantic and everything, then afterwards we fall asleep in each others' arms. In the morning I kissed her on her forehead, but she didn't wake up. So I left and went to my own tent, which was like 20 yards away, figuring I'd see her at breakfast. But she's not at breakfast. And she's not at lunch. And she's not at dinner. Finally after dinner, I see her across the space and she comes right over to me with this weird look on her face. She puts her hand on my chest, looks deep into my eyes and says, "Oh my God, you're so hot, I HAVE to meet you."
I looked at her and said, "Sarah, it's ME."
Then she gets this really weird look on her face and says, "How did you know my NAME?!"
Story material- Burning Man, Romance, Sex.
Be succinct.
Lead in- "The Girls at Burning Man are fucking CRAZY!." I'd say this animated and playfully, like there's a story coming.
Initial hook- Crazy girls at Burning Man.
Unanswered questions:
- What is Burning Man?
- What's Burning Man like?
- Are chicks always so attracted to you?
- What's wrong with this girl?
- What happened next with this girl?
Allude, don't state directly. Much more effective than saying "Hey, chicks dig me."
Subcommunication- Audience dependant.
Convey personality traits:
- I'm sexually open
- I'm adventurous
- I take things in stride
- I'm cool with weird and unusual people and situations
Have a punch line: "How did you know my NAME?!"
Tonality: I use a wide range on tonality telling this story.
Game on-
- Wilder
Enjoy,
S
Story Theory
by Wilder
Telling stories to a group of people is one of the best ways to generate attraction in pick-up when done correctly.
What follows are several things to consider when choosing and crafting stories for use in the field during attraction phases. They're more guidelines than hard and fast rules, as you can break most of them when you know what you're doing.
Story material This is close to a no-brainer. Choose stories that are interesting, fun and GIRL RELEVANT! Avoid stories about distasteful subjects, i.e. death, car accidents, bad breakups, etc. Usually these stories are funny. Use stories you tell often to friends and new people that get big laughs.
Be succinct Write your story out word for word and then gut it. Get rid of everything the listener doesn't need to know and doesn't care about. It's essential that you're ruthless here. Better to cut too much than too little. State the boring but necessary details as succinctly as possible.
Lead in This is how you start the story. The lead in should be congruent with the story to follow. Communicate using words, tonality and energy the type of story to follow. Some examples are, "Oh my God, the funniest/craziest/weirdest thing happened to me the other day!" or "Did you guys ever notice XXX?" or "You'll never believe this, check it out."
Initial hook An initial hook is something that makes peoples' ears perk up. It should be as close to the beginning of the story as possible and should be specifically chosen to make people lean in and pay attention. If your story is about something that happened to you at an S & M party, put that part up front!
Bad: My friend called me the other day and left me a message to call him back. So I called him and he went on and on about his Mother's operation before finally telling me about this party he wanted to go to. Turns out, it's an S & M party!
Good: So the other day I went to this S & M party!
Unanswered questions Craft your story so that there will be unanswered questions in the listener's mind. You want them to ask you questions that give you the opportunity to further increase your value.
Example: So I was picking up my new car the other day and the salesman wouldn't stop asking me about my watch. The girl I was with finally told him we had to go so she could pick up her instrument for a concert she was doing that night.
Unanswered questions:
- What kind of car did you just buy?
- What kind of watch were you wearing?
- Are you rich?
- Who was the girl you were with?
- What kind of performance did she have to get to?
Allude, don't state directly In the examples above you're alluding. You're alluding to the fact that you have money, as you just bought a new car and have a cool watch. You're alluding to the fact that you hang out with cool girls. Stated directly, any of this information would sound like bragging, so you allude to it. Make them ask you about it; don't volunteer it.
Subcommunication This has to do mostly with tonality. The same story can be told playfully, seductively or in a way that generates intrigue. Calibrate to your audience and know what you want to subcommunicate.
Convey personality traits In telling a story, you're telling someone a great deal about yourself. Know what personality traits want to convey. Craft your stories to subtly tell someone you're adventurous, rich, famous, creative, courageous, etc.
Tonality This is hard to put in print, but vary your tonality as widely as possible. Talk slow, then fast, then low, then high and then higher! Make transitions smoothly and tell the story in a way that sucks your listener right in. Along with this, act out parts of the story with your hands or your whole body.
Have a punch line A punch line is a line that sums up your story in a powerful way. It's a way of letting the listener know that the story is over. It doesn't have to be funny, though in many stories used in the field it will be.
Examples:
- "That's the last time I take THAT dog to the beach!"
- "From now on I'm asking to see girls' ID's!"
- "That was the day I learned the true meaning of courage."
Short Example Story:
The Girls at Burning Man are fucking CRAZY! So I met this girl at dinner and we really hit it off. We spent the whole evening together and she was great, but something seemed a little off. Anyway, she finally takes me back to her tent and it's really romantic and everything, then afterwards we fall asleep in each others' arms. In the morning I kissed her on her forehead, but she didn't wake up. So I left and went to my own tent, which was like 20 yards away, figuring I'd see her at breakfast. But she's not at breakfast. And she's not at lunch. And she's not at dinner. Finally after dinner, I see her across the space and she comes right over to me with this weird look on her face. She puts her hand on my chest, looks deep into my eyes and says, "Oh my God, you're so hot, I HAVE to meet you."
I looked at her and said, "Sarah, it's ME."
Then she gets this really weird look on her face and says, "How did you know my NAME?!"
Story material- Burning Man, Romance, Sex.
Be succinct.
Lead in- "The Girls at Burning Man are fucking CRAZY!." I'd say this animated and playfully, like there's a story coming.
Initial hook- Crazy girls at Burning Man.
Unanswered questions:
- What is Burning Man?
- What's Burning Man like?
- Are chicks always so attracted to you?
- What's wrong with this girl?
- What happened next with this girl?
Allude, don't state directly. Much more effective than saying "Hey, chicks dig me."
Subcommunication- Audience dependant.
Convey personality traits:
- I'm sexually open
- I'm adventurous
- I take things in stride
- I'm cool with weird and unusual people and situations
Have a punch line: "How did you know my NAME?!"
Tonality: I use a wide range on tonality telling this story.
Game on-
- Wilder
I'm writing a novel and I just got the coolest piece of software.
I've been writing a novel for awhile about the type of lifestyle guys who teach workshops ACTUALLY live. It should be pretty interesting gossip reading and it will let me say a ton of things under the banner of artistic expression. It will be quasi fiction as I will have to change the names and stuff but if you have any knowledge of the community, it won't be hard to figure out who's who.
But I just got this AWESOME piece of software called Newnovel you can check it out
Click Here!
Highly reccomended and fun to mess around with.
At least i can justify this as productive....
S
But I just got this AWESOME piece of software called Newnovel you can check it out
Click Here!
Highly reccomended and fun to mess around with.
At least i can justify this as productive....
S
Working out as a DHV
Health is one of the major indicators that a man can/is surviving. If a man cannot survive and flourish himself, what are the chances that he can aid in a woman's survival?
Not particulary good that's for sure. I always think it's interesting when guys show up for bootcamp, and look like they haven't been in a gym in 10 years. Part of life is taking care of your body and your health.
I think that joining a gym or atleast making an effort to do something ohysical every day is one of the first steps on the road of self improvement.
Some basic guidelines for getting back in shape or starting a work-out plan:
1. Don't overdo it. Make sure that you are not going to wear yourself out in one go. Getting in shape is a journey nor a destination. Don't expect to bench press 500 LBS the first time back in the gym.
2. Make sure that you have a plan. Are you trying to gain size and strength? Are you trying to get lean? Are you trying to improve your cardiovascular health? Like any other area of self improvement, if you don't have a plan and set goals for yourself, you will find yourself flailing away, and making little to no progress.
3. Commit yourself. Most guys just start by deciding they want to work out, they don't decide how many times a week or for how long. Make sure that you set guidelines as to how many times a week and for how long you are gonna work out.
4. Vary it up. Working out like meeting women can get very boring if you keep doing the same things over and over again. Instead plan one day a week to do something fun, that gets you some physical activity. I like playing pick up basketball games.
5. Get professional help. The best product I have found for working out and getting/keeping results is
HERE
The biggest benefit to working out is the new found confidence you will feel, when you like what you see in the mirror.
Best,
S
Not particulary good that's for sure. I always think it's interesting when guys show up for bootcamp, and look like they haven't been in a gym in 10 years. Part of life is taking care of your body and your health.
I think that joining a gym or atleast making an effort to do something ohysical every day is one of the first steps on the road of self improvement.
Some basic guidelines for getting back in shape or starting a work-out plan:
1. Don't overdo it. Make sure that you are not going to wear yourself out in one go. Getting in shape is a journey nor a destination. Don't expect to bench press 500 LBS the first time back in the gym.
2. Make sure that you have a plan. Are you trying to gain size and strength? Are you trying to get lean? Are you trying to improve your cardiovascular health? Like any other area of self improvement, if you don't have a plan and set goals for yourself, you will find yourself flailing away, and making little to no progress.
3. Commit yourself. Most guys just start by deciding they want to work out, they don't decide how many times a week or for how long. Make sure that you set guidelines as to how many times a week and for how long you are gonna work out.
4. Vary it up. Working out like meeting women can get very boring if you keep doing the same things over and over again. Instead plan one day a week to do something fun, that gets you some physical activity. I like playing pick up basketball games.
5. Get professional help. The best product I have found for working out and getting/keeping results is
HERE
The biggest benefit to working out is the new found confidence you will feel, when you like what you see in the mirror.
Best,
S
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Fidelio now has a blog...
Fidelio who contributed his New year's resolutions to this blog awhile back has started his own blog. It's already got a hysterical post on it as well as a good one about his daughters.
Here
Bitches.
S
Here
Bitches.
S
Classic LR # 1 In10se Met her, seduced her and banged her in the parking lot.
I thought I'd post a quick field report for you guys that just happened tonight... I had an Online chick meeting flake last minute so I went out to study The setting: Starbucks Coffee shop It was about 730 pm and I had just sat down to study. Of course I picked a location right next to an HB8.5 brunette... (MUCH cuter than the gal from online that I was going to originally meet) late 20's, shorter hair like the gal from "Birds of Prey". She was wearing a Black jacket with a fur lined collar and black skin tight pants. Under the black jaket she had a very low cut shirt that revealed her Very nice niced tits (at least D here) which looked to perfect to be real... (They weren't real I later found out) but nonetheless she looked hot.
She was reading something too and glanced up at me... I made it a point to catch her eye and smile. I noticed what she was reading (Some womens magazine) and I commented on it... which led to some small talk and some ball busting about her looking to sexy to be out for just coffee... (I don't mind small talk, busting balls, and being cocky and funny to start things off... it just makes a gal feel like you are someone she can be comfortable around. One point though, is that I never let up... I keep the ball rolling) Her name was Lisa. I then went into some cold reading about her... she was definitely very sexual and sensual, a "physical type", a do'er, someone who would rather do things than just think about doing them, also someone that enjoyed herself and could let go at times..., being at home in her own body, knowing what she likes, and what she wants... the type of person who just goes for it..." I went on a little bit more with the cold read and then switched to an elicitation... "So what do you look for in a guy? What is attractive to you?"... She seemed to be feeling somewhat vulnerable at this point and she said, "I've been telling all about me... I feel kind of vulnerable, you know all this stuff about me, and I don't know anything about you..."
So I went into some small talk, a little about me... and then went right back in to the elicitation... "So you were telling me, what is it that you find attractive about a guy... and how do you know that you're attracted to this guy?" She thought a little and said, "No, you tell me what YOU want and what you find attractive..." "Passion" I said... "Where you can just let go of everything, and just enjoy this with all your heart... where right now, this is the only thing that really matters, where only this moment exists and you can just lose yourself in this sense of passion with this person..." Yeah... "Sweet surrender" she said as she smiled... "So what is sweet surrender?" I said. "I don't know... its just when you can just release all your inhibitions, and you just give yourself fully to someone... I'm a very passionate person," she said... "In what ways are you passionate?" I said... "Well I'm very physically passionate... I love to cum, and have orgasms one right after another..."
At this point, there were people beginning to listen to the convo so I said, "Let's go outside and sit where we can talk without other people listening" So we move outside in front of Starbucks and sat at a table in the corner... "So what were you telling me about?... about how you're passionate physically... what you get out of being passionate..." "I'm not just physically passionate, I'm also passionate about LIFE... I give 110% of myself to every situation..." "Yeah, I think you can be physically passionate, emotionally passionate, and intellectually passionate... Passion is just something that you are... it's your world and the way you live life... isn't it..." We fluffed a little more about me, because she wanted to know a little more of what I do, what kinds of things I enjoyed and about my past girlfriends... I skirted some of those topics, but kept it light...
Since it was starting to get cold, I said... "You know, it's getting cold... lets go sit somewhere warm... how about your car, do you have a heater?..." As I held her and and stood up. "Ok" she said and we started walking toward her car. She actually had a large sized Chevy Truck so we climbed in, turned the heat on, and continued talking. I started to bring up the "physical" thing again but she said, "You keep talking about sex... not that I'm not interested, but I'd like to talk about something else for a little bit..." "I'M not the one that brought it up! about Physical passion, I meant it like having a passion for life. You're right, we shouldn't be talking about this... it make us too hot and bothered... and we're enjoying it too much... you shouldn't think about sex..." "You know", I said, "You seem tense right here" as I reached over to the back of her neck area and began to massage the back of her neck."You seem to store alot of tension right here..." as I continued and began to move closer in to her and brushing her face... (She was a "physical type" and I felt pretty confident with just moving in with the sexual kino...) She responded my moving her lips to my hands and we were then making out big time...
I pulled her leg over to ontop of me, put the seat back and pulled her ontop of me, straddling me. We continued the making out and started grinding big time... I put my hands down her back, down her pants, and felt her crack... no underwear as I squeezed her bare cheeks. Then she whiped out her huge tits and put them right in my mouth. She was a VERY kinky and unihibited gal and she started sucking on HER OWN tit as I was sucking her nipple and kissing her mouth at the same time (Thats how big her tits were!) THEN she asked me to BITE her nipples... and kept saying "Harder... BITE it with your teeth... make it hurt... let me know you want me" So I complied although I was kind of scared that I may make her bleed! Then she starts getting nasty and says, "Every woman wants to be treated like a slut,.. say "Fuck me, little slut" say "Fuck me, little whore"...
Needless to say, I complied because she kept saying "SAY IT" until I did... As far as the rest of the report, you guys can just use you imagination... lets just say that we made her truck rock, and she was LOUD... I was worried about getting arrested because there were people in the parking lot, and she had multiple squirting orgasms which literally squeezed me out of her several times... Questions, Comments, Realizations?
IN10SE
She was reading something too and glanced up at me... I made it a point to catch her eye and smile. I noticed what she was reading (Some womens magazine) and I commented on it... which led to some small talk and some ball busting about her looking to sexy to be out for just coffee... (I don't mind small talk, busting balls, and being cocky and funny to start things off... it just makes a gal feel like you are someone she can be comfortable around. One point though, is that I never let up... I keep the ball rolling) Her name was Lisa. I then went into some cold reading about her... she was definitely very sexual and sensual, a "physical type", a do'er, someone who would rather do things than just think about doing them, also someone that enjoyed herself and could let go at times..., being at home in her own body, knowing what she likes, and what she wants... the type of person who just goes for it..." I went on a little bit more with the cold read and then switched to an elicitation... "So what do you look for in a guy? What is attractive to you?"... She seemed to be feeling somewhat vulnerable at this point and she said, "I've been telling all about me... I feel kind of vulnerable, you know all this stuff about me, and I don't know anything about you..."
So I went into some small talk, a little about me... and then went right back in to the elicitation... "So you were telling me, what is it that you find attractive about a guy... and how do you know that you're attracted to this guy?" She thought a little and said, "No, you tell me what YOU want and what you find attractive..." "Passion" I said... "Where you can just let go of everything, and just enjoy this with all your heart... where right now, this is the only thing that really matters, where only this moment exists and you can just lose yourself in this sense of passion with this person..." Yeah... "Sweet surrender" she said as she smiled... "So what is sweet surrender?" I said. "I don't know... its just when you can just release all your inhibitions, and you just give yourself fully to someone... I'm a very passionate person," she said... "In what ways are you passionate?" I said... "Well I'm very physically passionate... I love to cum, and have orgasms one right after another..."
At this point, there were people beginning to listen to the convo so I said, "Let's go outside and sit where we can talk without other people listening" So we move outside in front of Starbucks and sat at a table in the corner... "So what were you telling me about?... about how you're passionate physically... what you get out of being passionate..." "I'm not just physically passionate, I'm also passionate about LIFE... I give 110% of myself to every situation..." "Yeah, I think you can be physically passionate, emotionally passionate, and intellectually passionate... Passion is just something that you are... it's your world and the way you live life... isn't it..." We fluffed a little more about me, because she wanted to know a little more of what I do, what kinds of things I enjoyed and about my past girlfriends... I skirted some of those topics, but kept it light...
Since it was starting to get cold, I said... "You know, it's getting cold... lets go sit somewhere warm... how about your car, do you have a heater?..." As I held her and and stood up. "Ok" she said and we started walking toward her car. She actually had a large sized Chevy Truck so we climbed in, turned the heat on, and continued talking. I started to bring up the "physical" thing again but she said, "You keep talking about sex... not that I'm not interested, but I'd like to talk about something else for a little bit..." "I'M not the one that brought it up! about Physical passion, I meant it like having a passion for life. You're right, we shouldn't be talking about this... it make us too hot and bothered... and we're enjoying it too much... you shouldn't think about sex..." "You know", I said, "You seem tense right here" as I reached over to the back of her neck area and began to massage the back of her neck."You seem to store alot of tension right here..." as I continued and began to move closer in to her and brushing her face... (She was a "physical type" and I felt pretty confident with just moving in with the sexual kino...) She responded my moving her lips to my hands and we were then making out big time...
I pulled her leg over to ontop of me, put the seat back and pulled her ontop of me, straddling me. We continued the making out and started grinding big time... I put my hands down her back, down her pants, and felt her crack... no underwear as I squeezed her bare cheeks. Then she whiped out her huge tits and put them right in my mouth. She was a VERY kinky and unihibited gal and she started sucking on HER OWN tit as I was sucking her nipple and kissing her mouth at the same time (Thats how big her tits were!) THEN she asked me to BITE her nipples... and kept saying "Harder... BITE it with your teeth... make it hurt... let me know you want me" So I complied although I was kind of scared that I may make her bleed! Then she starts getting nasty and says, "Every woman wants to be treated like a slut,.. say "Fuck me, little slut" say "Fuck me, little whore"...
Needless to say, I complied because she kept saying "SAY IT" until I did... As far as the rest of the report, you guys can just use you imagination... lets just say that we made her truck rock, and she was LOUD... I was worried about getting arrested because there were people in the parking lot, and she had multiple squirting orgasms which literally squeezed me out of her several times... Questions, Comments, Realizations?
IN10SE
Brad P's Aggro Big Brother stack
Here's a re-post of Brad P's Aggro big Brother stack for escalatibg touching when you are alone with a girl. Good Stuff.
This has been working good. Its for when you have the girl in isolation but she knows it's on so she's using a shield to stop you from escalating.
1. Pillow fight-if the chick is not letting me escalate i just bust her in the head with a pillow. I find sometimes chicks know it's on so they try to sit somewhere far away, or pet their dog, talk about something else so you don't start escalating. That's when they get the pillow to the head. This starts to get them heated up.
2. Tickling- just tickle the girl a bit. Not too much cause if they get totally giggly sometimes it's hard to bring the energy back down to something manageable.
3. Pick her up, throw her on the bed.
4. Wrestling.
5. The capper is "stop hitting yourself!" For those who don't have an older sibling, this is when you just grab the chick's hand and start smacking her in her head with her own hand while saying "Stop hitting yourself." Over and over. They feel very frustrated but also dominated. Of course don't hit too hard, just hard enough to make her feel helpless and dominated.
From there's it's pretty easy to go into kissing or hair pulling and you've dismantled whatever shield she was using.
Brad P.
I like the frame of touching her like her big brother would leading to kissing etc... That's something I do a lot as well. I always try to wrestle with girls before transitioning to making out..
S
This has been working good. Its for when you have the girl in isolation but she knows it's on so she's using a shield to stop you from escalating.
1. Pillow fight-if the chick is not letting me escalate i just bust her in the head with a pillow. I find sometimes chicks know it's on so they try to sit somewhere far away, or pet their dog, talk about something else so you don't start escalating. That's when they get the pillow to the head. This starts to get them heated up.
2. Tickling- just tickle the girl a bit. Not too much cause if they get totally giggly sometimes it's hard to bring the energy back down to something manageable.
3. Pick her up, throw her on the bed.
4. Wrestling.
5. The capper is "stop hitting yourself!" For those who don't have an older sibling, this is when you just grab the chick's hand and start smacking her in her head with her own hand while saying "Stop hitting yourself." Over and over. They feel very frustrated but also dominated. Of course don't hit too hard, just hard enough to make her feel helpless and dominated.
From there's it's pretty easy to go into kissing or hair pulling and you've dismantled whatever shield she was using.
Brad P.
I like the frame of touching her like her big brother would leading to kissing etc... That's something I do a lot as well. I always try to wrestle with girls before transitioning to making out..
S
Busy, busy, busy ....
Starting this week i have 6 programs in 5 weeks.
I start off by leaving LA on Fri to go to NY for Future's B-day, fucking Lawgirl, and Day game. Ironically enough in that order. Then I come back home next Tuesday to HB perfect's B-day party where i get to compete for her attention. Let me tell you how excited I am about that. Then it's off to Australia with Captain Jack(Who doesn't update his blog enough in case he's reading this) for 2 full seminars and a day game program. And a one on one... Yay I'm busy!
I've been really enjoying my time in LA Tenmag has been out here and last night we had a cool B-day celebration for him. It was fun and No9 showed up, as well as Savoy. Savoy ended up with a really hot girl he opened with the Secretary opener. Which is one of the most obnoxious openers ever, but goes to show that you can open with anything and make it work, even talking about fucking your secretary.
I'm super burned out right now, I honestly have no desire to do much of anything and it's a struggle to force myself to do stuff. I think the last year is starting to take a toll on me as my sleeping patterns are really messed up. I also have negative desire to talk to girls... I really need a break hopefully this weekend i will just chill out with Future and Lawgirl and get a break from always having to be entertaining as last night I really didn't want to talk anymore.
Tenmag and I also went to TJ yesterday to ring in his B-day with some Lobster and chevellas. If you don't know what a chevella is, it's a bloody mary like concoction made with beer instead of disgusting tequila. It sounds gross, but they are delicious. Also the lobster in Puerto Nuevo is one of the best meals you will ever have, for 18 bucks you get two half lobsters, rice, beans, soup or salad. It really an't be beat. Mexico is really gross though and makes me really appreciative of the things we take for granted living in America.
I've been slacking on my reading in the last week or so while Ten has been here. I finished Iron John and Rich Dad Poor Dad, but I'm stalling on Fire in the belly. Even though the 50 or so odd pages I have read has been awesome. I also have just gotten a copy of In10se Secret principles of Pleasure which is one of the better things I have seen on Sexual techniques. In10se does a much better job of breaking down what it is to be a great lover including a lot of inner psychology that goes into being good in bed. I'll post a full review when I get a chance.
My apartment looks like a war zone right now, which let's me know that my decision to get a studio apartment to make it easier to access my bed, was a bad one. When I move again in the next couple of months, I will make sure to get a place that is a little more guest friendly.
Savoy and I will be at the Lakers' game on Thursday and it will be the first time I get to see Lebron in real life. One of the great regrets I have is that i was never able to see Jordan live, so I'm making sure that I don't miss Lebron, Wade, and next year Durant and Oden. I really like the Staples center, it's a classy stadium that feels more down to earth than some of the other recent rennovated corporate places. Plus it's close to a good strip club...
Savoy also got me the BEST Xmas present ever, even if it did take till Monday to get it. He got me a Ryan Leaf Chargers jersey. That's right the worst QB of all time's jersey. I slept with it on the first night. I am going to wear it to every sporting event i go to for the next decade while explaining to people that i he really wasn't that bad. I plan on getting Savoy either a Marinovich or Lawerence Phillips jersey so we can sport the matching busts look.
The LA camp went really well as did day game, but teaching for 4 days straight including eight hours on Sun is not exactly a walk in the park. I still don't understand why talking makes me soo tired.
I also went on a really intense Future-esque rant about the office and how Pam is responsible for all the drama in the Pam-Jim-Roy love triangle and it reminds me that women do make the decisions that they are unhappy with that they then rationalize and deny even to themselves. Great Fucking show. I've never actually cared this much about TV characters.
I'm going to try to post more actively, but with soo much shit going on my life is really hectic and finding time may be tough... If I can't post something new, I will re-post something from my archive, so at the very least you will be getting game related content here every day.
It's a really exciting time here at The Mystery Method, as we have rolled out a couple new ideas for products and services that are really fucking cool and helpful. I'll post more about those later this week.
And finally it is Valentine's day today and I will be celebrating by ignoring all texts and calls , and getting smashed out of my mind, at some bar tonight. Then I will become beligerent and run around said bar explaining why you don't need a day to justify your love for someone. Until I get kicked out. There will be no seeing of any girls I am dating as that would be a HUGE fucking red flag for a relationship....
Hope everyone is enjoying this beautiful day.
Best,
S
I start off by leaving LA on Fri to go to NY for Future's B-day, fucking Lawgirl, and Day game. Ironically enough in that order. Then I come back home next Tuesday to HB perfect's B-day party where i get to compete for her attention. Let me tell you how excited I am about that. Then it's off to Australia with Captain Jack(Who doesn't update his blog enough in case he's reading this) for 2 full seminars and a day game program. And a one on one... Yay I'm busy!
I've been really enjoying my time in LA Tenmag has been out here and last night we had a cool B-day celebration for him. It was fun and No9 showed up, as well as Savoy. Savoy ended up with a really hot girl he opened with the Secretary opener. Which is one of the most obnoxious openers ever, but goes to show that you can open with anything and make it work, even talking about fucking your secretary.
I'm super burned out right now, I honestly have no desire to do much of anything and it's a struggle to force myself to do stuff. I think the last year is starting to take a toll on me as my sleeping patterns are really messed up. I also have negative desire to talk to girls... I really need a break hopefully this weekend i will just chill out with Future and Lawgirl and get a break from always having to be entertaining as last night I really didn't want to talk anymore.
Tenmag and I also went to TJ yesterday to ring in his B-day with some Lobster and chevellas. If you don't know what a chevella is, it's a bloody mary like concoction made with beer instead of disgusting tequila. It sounds gross, but they are delicious. Also the lobster in Puerto Nuevo is one of the best meals you will ever have, for 18 bucks you get two half lobsters, rice, beans, soup or salad. It really an't be beat. Mexico is really gross though and makes me really appreciative of the things we take for granted living in America.
I've been slacking on my reading in the last week or so while Ten has been here. I finished Iron John and Rich Dad Poor Dad, but I'm stalling on Fire in the belly. Even though the 50 or so odd pages I have read has been awesome. I also have just gotten a copy of In10se Secret principles of Pleasure which is one of the better things I have seen on Sexual techniques. In10se does a much better job of breaking down what it is to be a great lover including a lot of inner psychology that goes into being good in bed. I'll post a full review when I get a chance.
My apartment looks like a war zone right now, which let's me know that my decision to get a studio apartment to make it easier to access my bed, was a bad one. When I move again in the next couple of months, I will make sure to get a place that is a little more guest friendly.
Savoy and I will be at the Lakers' game on Thursday and it will be the first time I get to see Lebron in real life. One of the great regrets I have is that i was never able to see Jordan live, so I'm making sure that I don't miss Lebron, Wade, and next year Durant and Oden. I really like the Staples center, it's a classy stadium that feels more down to earth than some of the other recent rennovated corporate places. Plus it's close to a good strip club...
Savoy also got me the BEST Xmas present ever, even if it did take till Monday to get it. He got me a Ryan Leaf Chargers jersey. That's right the worst QB of all time's jersey. I slept with it on the first night. I am going to wear it to every sporting event i go to for the next decade while explaining to people that i he really wasn't that bad. I plan on getting Savoy either a Marinovich or Lawerence Phillips jersey so we can sport the matching busts look.
The LA camp went really well as did day game, but teaching for 4 days straight including eight hours on Sun is not exactly a walk in the park. I still don't understand why talking makes me soo tired.
I also went on a really intense Future-esque rant about the office and how Pam is responsible for all the drama in the Pam-Jim-Roy love triangle and it reminds me that women do make the decisions that they are unhappy with that they then rationalize and deny even to themselves. Great Fucking show. I've never actually cared this much about TV characters.
I'm going to try to post more actively, but with soo much shit going on my life is really hectic and finding time may be tough... If I can't post something new, I will re-post something from my archive, so at the very least you will be getting game related content here every day.
It's a really exciting time here at The Mystery Method, as we have rolled out a couple new ideas for products and services that are really fucking cool and helpful. I'll post more about those later this week.
And finally it is Valentine's day today and I will be celebrating by ignoring all texts and calls , and getting smashed out of my mind, at some bar tonight. Then I will become beligerent and run around said bar explaining why you don't need a day to justify your love for someone. Until I get kicked out. There will be no seeing of any girls I am dating as that would be a HUGE fucking red flag for a relationship....
Hope everyone is enjoying this beautiful day.
Best,
S
Monday, February 12, 2007
Microcalibration
Microcalibration
First I want to start by explaining that this is an advanced technique. This is not something that a begginner should be using. I don't generally even teach this on
Bootcamps unless it's something that I think they will benefit from. It generally requires a good deal of social savvy to get it right.
This article will assume basic knowledge of the following:
In any human interaction, there are only four means of communication that take place.
IOIs indicators of interest
IODs Indicators of disinterest
DHVs Demos of high value
DLVs Demos of low value
Add in Compliance Tests (CTs) and a base line of punishment reward and you have social interaction in a formula.
This came about because last year I was finding that with some girls I had to neg a million times to get any IOIs while with others they would ask me for my name
right after I opened or tell me I was hot. If I continued DHVing they would get weirded out. However if I started qualifying them it often didn't take. So I started
putting an IOI in before my qualification attempt it went better.
Wrong
Girl: You're cute! where are you from?
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD What do you have going for you besides your looks? Compliance test
Right
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD You are very pretty IOI.. but beauty is common what do you have going for you besides your looks? CT
The balancing of IOIs and IOD is a key element missing from the overall explanation of MM.
I think of it as a seesaw:
If I throw too may IODs that weighs down one side of the seesaw and I'm an asshole.
If I throw too many IOIs that weighs down the other side making me an AFC
But if I adjust every IOD with a potential IOI and every IOI with a potential IOD I attain balance and my sets work like magic.
Microcalibrating is simply throwing the balancing part of the equation(IOI or IOD) when needed
Now at bootcamps we teach you how to open ( which is a very small compliance test), FTC(a DHV), and Neg in every set. We also teach you how to stack forward
and start DHVing and negging in A2, then we start A3 where we use compliance tests to make hert DHV so that we can give her deserved IOIs.
The reason we teach this is that it is the way that most sets go. And the MAJORITY of sets will not be attracted right away.
However sometimes you will get sets that will be attracted to you as soon as you open your mouth. Or before.
If a girl approaches you and says she likes your cowboy hat, and you respond with Jealous Girlfriend, you are going backwards in the ineteraction. By her opening
you,she is telling you she is already attracted to you. Therefore we can respond by saying "thanks, what's your name?" which would be an IOI in return for hers. We
can say then based on how readily she answers. If she's hesistant or doesn't immediately ask for my name or try to keep the conversation going (IODS). I will then
respond with my own IOD " buy me a drink before you hit on me". Then immediately follow up with a compliance test " and your special because?" when she
answers this I am now in A3 and can start giving her IOIs.
In this way I have now gotten through attraction in 30 seconds.
However if she refuses to answer or she IODs me when I ask her why she's special, I still have an out
Her: " I'm not special " or " why are you special?"
Me: Never mind I was just being polite( IOD) oh you have a u shaped smile... ( DHV)
See how there are contingencies of what to based on what her reactions are?
Well when you are routine stacking it would look something like this
Her: " I like your cowboy hat"
You: " Thanks I actually need a female opinion, who lies more "
Her: " opinion"
You: FTC finish opener, stock neg, First routine, next routine ..... Until you get enough IOIs that you start qualifying and it takes.
By not pausing and looking at reactions you are assuming that what you are doing is working. Which it may not be.
By being able to read IOIs we can move into A3 Faster and ultimately into comfort faster and beyond.
Also by knowing that we are getting an IOD or an IOI we can calibrate any routine mid stream to either IOI or IOD
Take for example the "may I touch your eyes" Line
Sinn: "You have beautiful eyes" IOI
Girl: while rolling her eyes and thinking another loser " Thanks" IOD
Sinn: May I touch them? IOD
I change the routine based on the reaction she gives me.
However if the same interaction takes place but goes like this:
Sinn: You have beautiful eyes. IOI
Girl: "Thank you so much no one ever says that to me." IOI
Now I have a sincere response so there is no need for me to throw the second part of the routine.
We want to be able to compliment girls and give them IOIs, however most girls will not yet be comfortable with that until later.
Microcalibrating is simply the act of watching responses and then tailoring the next action toward the response we just got
a simplified version would state that we respond to IOIs with IOIs, IODs with IODs and we constantly test for compliance.
Through microcalibrating based on reactions while following the M3 model we can greatly increase our ability to get results.
Microcalibrating also has a place in kino escalation.
If I make out with a girl on day 1 and then see her again the next day I will want to test to see where her willingness to kiss me again is, so I microcalibrate.
I move in as I hug her and I pause. I now watch to see if she looks nervous or uncomfortable. If she doesn't I go for it. If she looks uncomfortabl;e then I push her off
and increase personal space so that the next time I get close she's more comfortable and I can go for it.
Same thing once we are holding hands I will slide my finger tips away from hers to see if she follows them. Is she does I will pull her closer to me, if she doesn't I
throw her hand off.
A key to microcalibrating is remembering that IODs are not always negs. It would be weird if when a girl refused to qualify herself I told her she was a little shit.
instead they are simply ways of showing that we are not interested, they can be removal of kino, backsturns, pauses in the conversation, eye rolls, as well as negs and
disqualifiers.
A few other keys to micro calibrating by watching the reactions you're causing you can either soften or harden a routine
EX:
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along"(IOD)
Girl: why not I think we'd get along fine (IOI)
Sinn: we're too similar IOI But I think our differences will be complimentary IOI
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along"(IOD)
Girl: You're right we wouldn't
Sinn: Yeah we would fight all the time, and I'd always win (IOD)
If a target at any time gives me an IOD i will respond in kind.
This is the punishment part of our punishment reward sub routine
However if we are already in comfort the punishment will no longer be negs, instead it will be take aways, and freeze outs.
If at any time she gives me an IOI even if it's as passive as holding my drink, I will reward her until she becomes uncomfortable and gives an IOD then we respond
with another IOD, wait for an IOI and if it doesn't come we compliance test to actively look for IOIs.
We can also do this by balancing the amount of value we demonstrate onto a set. Not every set needs to hear a million routines before they will be willing to talk to
you. If have run more than 2 routines in a set and you are not attempting to move on to qualification (A3) you are hurting your game.
You want to make sure that you are constanly testing to see where you are. And then trying to advance at the same time.
Micro calibrating makes it easy by throwing little adjusters depending on the responses you are getting.
It's not at all reactive to apologize when you over-neg. You will lose a lot more sets by continuing to neg once you've offended then by apologizing and qualifying
her for standing up for herself.
Microcalibration is the art of adjusting what you're saying in real time to the reactions you are getting.
_____________
First I want to start by explaining that this is an advanced technique. This is not something that a begginner should be using. I don't generally even teach this on
Bootcamps unless it's something that I think they will benefit from. It generally requires a good deal of social savvy to get it right.
This article will assume basic knowledge of the following:
In any human interaction, there are only four means of communication that take place.
IOIs indicators of interest
IODs Indicators of disinterest
DHVs Demos of high value
DLVs Demos of low value
Add in Compliance Tests (CTs) and a base line of punishment reward and you have social interaction in a formula.
This came about because last year I was finding that with some girls I had to neg a million times to get any IOIs while with others they would ask me for my name
right after I opened or tell me I was hot. If I continued DHVing they would get weirded out. However if I started qualifying them it often didn't take. So I started
putting an IOI in before my qualification attempt it went better.
Wrong
Girl: You're cute! where are you from?
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD What do you have going for you besides your looks? Compliance test
Right
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD You are very pretty IOI.. but beauty is common what do you have going for you besides your looks? CT
The balancing of IOIs and IOD is a key element missing from the overall explanation of MM.
I think of it as a seesaw:
If I throw too may IODs that weighs down one side of the seesaw and I'm an asshole.
If I throw too many IOIs that weighs down the other side making me an AFC
But if I adjust every IOD with a potential IOI and every IOI with a potential IOD I attain balance and my sets work like magic.
Microcalibrating is simply throwing the balancing part of the equation(IOI or IOD) when needed
Now at bootcamps we teach you how to open ( which is a very small compliance test), FTC(a DHV), and Neg in every set. We also teach you how to stack forward
and start DHVing and negging in A2, then we start A3 where we use compliance tests to make hert DHV so that we can give her deserved IOIs.
The reason we teach this is that it is the way that most sets go. And the MAJORITY of sets will not be attracted right away.
However sometimes you will get sets that will be attracted to you as soon as you open your mouth. Or before.
If a girl approaches you and says she likes your cowboy hat, and you respond with Jealous Girlfriend, you are going backwards in the ineteraction. By her opening
you,she is telling you she is already attracted to you. Therefore we can respond by saying "thanks, what's your name?" which would be an IOI in return for hers. We
can say then based on how readily she answers. If she's hesistant or doesn't immediately ask for my name or try to keep the conversation going (IODS). I will then
respond with my own IOD " buy me a drink before you hit on me". Then immediately follow up with a compliance test " and your special because?" when she
answers this I am now in A3 and can start giving her IOIs.
In this way I have now gotten through attraction in 30 seconds.
However if she refuses to answer or she IODs me when I ask her why she's special, I still have an out
Her: " I'm not special " or " why are you special?"
Me: Never mind I was just being polite( IOD) oh you have a u shaped smile... ( DHV)
See how there are contingencies of what to based on what her reactions are?
Well when you are routine stacking it would look something like this
Her: " I like your cowboy hat"
You: " Thanks I actually need a female opinion, who lies more "
Her: " opinion"
You: FTC finish opener, stock neg, First routine, next routine ..... Until you get enough IOIs that you start qualifying and it takes.
By not pausing and looking at reactions you are assuming that what you are doing is working. Which it may not be.
By being able to read IOIs we can move into A3 Faster and ultimately into comfort faster and beyond.
Also by knowing that we are getting an IOD or an IOI we can calibrate any routine mid stream to either IOI or IOD
Take for example the "may I touch your eyes" Line
Sinn: "You have beautiful eyes" IOI
Girl: while rolling her eyes and thinking another loser " Thanks" IOD
Sinn: May I touch them? IOD
I change the routine based on the reaction she gives me.
However if the same interaction takes place but goes like this:
Sinn: You have beautiful eyes. IOI
Girl: "Thank you so much no one ever says that to me." IOI
Now I have a sincere response so there is no need for me to throw the second part of the routine.
We want to be able to compliment girls and give them IOIs, however most girls will not yet be comfortable with that until later.
Microcalibrating is simply the act of watching responses and then tailoring the next action toward the response we just got
a simplified version would state that we respond to IOIs with IOIs, IODs with IODs and we constantly test for compliance.
Through microcalibrating based on reactions while following the M3 model we can greatly increase our ability to get results.
Microcalibrating also has a place in kino escalation.
If I make out with a girl on day 1 and then see her again the next day I will want to test to see where her willingness to kiss me again is, so I microcalibrate.
I move in as I hug her and I pause. I now watch to see if she looks nervous or uncomfortable. If she doesn't I go for it. If she looks uncomfortabl;e then I push her off
and increase personal space so that the next time I get close she's more comfortable and I can go for it.
Same thing once we are holding hands I will slide my finger tips away from hers to see if she follows them. Is she does I will pull her closer to me, if she doesn't I
throw her hand off.
A key to microcalibrating is remembering that IODs are not always negs. It would be weird if when a girl refused to qualify herself I told her she was a little shit.
instead they are simply ways of showing that we are not interested, they can be removal of kino, backsturns, pauses in the conversation, eye rolls, as well as negs and
disqualifiers.
A few other keys to micro calibrating by watching the reactions you're causing you can either soften or harden a routine
EX:
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along"(IOD)
Girl: why not I think we'd get along fine (IOI)
Sinn: we're too similar IOI But I think our differences will be complimentary IOI
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along"(IOD)
Girl: You're right we wouldn't
Sinn: Yeah we would fight all the time, and I'd always win (IOD)
If a target at any time gives me an IOD i will respond in kind.
This is the punishment part of our punishment reward sub routine
However if we are already in comfort the punishment will no longer be negs, instead it will be take aways, and freeze outs.
If at any time she gives me an IOI even if it's as passive as holding my drink, I will reward her until she becomes uncomfortable and gives an IOD then we respond
with another IOD, wait for an IOI and if it doesn't come we compliance test to actively look for IOIs.
We can also do this by balancing the amount of value we demonstrate onto a set. Not every set needs to hear a million routines before they will be willing to talk to
you. If have run more than 2 routines in a set and you are not attempting to move on to qualification (A3) you are hurting your game.
You want to make sure that you are constanly testing to see where you are. And then trying to advance at the same time.
Micro calibrating makes it easy by throwing little adjusters depending on the responses you are getting.
It's not at all reactive to apologize when you over-neg. You will lose a lot more sets by continuing to neg once you've offended then by apologizing and qualifying
her for standing up for herself.
Microcalibration is the art of adjusting what you're saying in real time to the reactions you are getting.
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Friday, February 09, 2007
Inconspicuous wins the PDF contest
Well after sorting through about 100 entries Inconspicuous has submitted the best PDF so he wins the mystery method product of his choice.
Congrats,
S
Congrats,
S
Thursday, February 08, 2007
Fergie, girl-woman thinking and the need of the USA to grow up.
While Fergie's songs are catchy and I sometimes find myself singing along, if I listen to the lyrics I vomit a little bit in my mouth.
I understand that Fergie is hot, and a lot of people myself included want to put it in her pooper. I get it. Really I don't need to hear 8,000 songs about it.
This type of bragging and boasting is the manifestation of a larger issue, that of not growing up. In modern society post- Industrial Revolution, we have become a nation of adolescents. We largely equate age with maturity and man or woman-hood. But it is not the same thing. You can be a 10 year old man or a 35 year old boy. Maturity does not necessarily come from age, it comes from the way you think and present yourself to the world.
There are no more initiation rituals or even the close bond of a parent or elder educating us in a trade to help us make the metamorphosis from boy(or girl) to man or woman complete. We never get an explanation of waht it means to be a man (or woman). We grow, but we don't grow up. We still engage in the boy behaviors of manipulation,acting spoiled, cheating, arrogance, etc...
The boy must die in order for the man to live. Most men are not men, they are adult aged boys. The reasons for this are many but they mostly relate to our lack of being taught how to be men and not having clear defined models of masculinity. God help you if you are growing up now, at least I had Michael Jordan. Instead of growing up idolizing the chief of our tribe or the most accomplished warrior or OUR FATHERS( which is actually where a lot of this immaturity comes from but that will have to wait until another post). Today's generation grows up idolizing petulant child athletes, and people like Fergie who embrace their immaturity as a point of pride.
We are not shown the way to maturity. We constantly seek the approval of our mothers, fathers, men and women. Instead of learning to be self sufficient and find comfort from within. We look externally to fill the hole within us. We try to fill it with clothes, drugs, women, and money. All the while seeking a solution, that is within yourself.
It's not your fault you were probably raised by someone who themselves was not a mature man. And as well intentioned as our Mothers may have been, you cannot substitute for the prescence of a man role model.
The way to manhood and maturity is a difficult process, we have substitutes in modern society such as fraternities, the military, and team sports, but none of these teach what it is like to be a real man.
My problem with fergie is that she is a pop star so she is passing her immaturity to our youth. Everyday there are literally MILLIONS of little girls singing along to my humps, or Fergilicious and thinking that this kind of immaturity is glamorous and should be celebrated. If that thought didn't make you shudder, perhaps you should consider your level of maturity.
i have been very immature almost all of my life, but lately I have been focused on becoming a mature person who identifies himself as a man. That's why you will not find me engaging in boy behaviors, boasting or manipulation of any kind anymore. I am going first. Though the process is difficult and means acknowledging a lot of painful holes within my psyche, I am determined to live the rest of my life as a mature man in control of himself and his path.
I encourage everyone else including Fergie to do the same.
S
I understand that Fergie is hot, and a lot of people myself included want to put it in her pooper. I get it. Really I don't need to hear 8,000 songs about it.
This type of bragging and boasting is the manifestation of a larger issue, that of not growing up. In modern society post- Industrial Revolution, we have become a nation of adolescents. We largely equate age with maturity and man or woman-hood. But it is not the same thing. You can be a 10 year old man or a 35 year old boy. Maturity does not necessarily come from age, it comes from the way you think and present yourself to the world.
There are no more initiation rituals or even the close bond of a parent or elder educating us in a trade to help us make the metamorphosis from boy(or girl) to man or woman complete. We never get an explanation of waht it means to be a man (or woman). We grow, but we don't grow up. We still engage in the boy behaviors of manipulation,acting spoiled, cheating, arrogance, etc...
The boy must die in order for the man to live. Most men are not men, they are adult aged boys. The reasons for this are many but they mostly relate to our lack of being taught how to be men and not having clear defined models of masculinity. God help you if you are growing up now, at least I had Michael Jordan. Instead of growing up idolizing the chief of our tribe or the most accomplished warrior or OUR FATHERS( which is actually where a lot of this immaturity comes from but that will have to wait until another post). Today's generation grows up idolizing petulant child athletes, and people like Fergie who embrace their immaturity as a point of pride.
We are not shown the way to maturity. We constantly seek the approval of our mothers, fathers, men and women. Instead of learning to be self sufficient and find comfort from within. We look externally to fill the hole within us. We try to fill it with clothes, drugs, women, and money. All the while seeking a solution, that is within yourself.
It's not your fault you were probably raised by someone who themselves was not a mature man. And as well intentioned as our Mothers may have been, you cannot substitute for the prescence of a man role model.
The way to manhood and maturity is a difficult process, we have substitutes in modern society such as fraternities, the military, and team sports, but none of these teach what it is like to be a real man.
My problem with fergie is that she is a pop star so she is passing her immaturity to our youth. Everyday there are literally MILLIONS of little girls singing along to my humps, or Fergilicious and thinking that this kind of immaturity is glamorous and should be celebrated. If that thought didn't make you shudder, perhaps you should consider your level of maturity.
i have been very immature almost all of my life, but lately I have been focused on becoming a mature person who identifies himself as a man. That's why you will not find me engaging in boy behaviors, boasting or manipulation of any kind anymore. I am going first. Though the process is difficult and means acknowledging a lot of painful holes within my psyche, I am determined to live the rest of my life as a mature man in control of himself and his path.
I encourage everyone else including Fergie to do the same.
S
Who cares about Anna Nicole Smith?
I really don't want to come off cold here, but drug addicted fucked up people die every day.
The only reason we care is because she was famous for being FUCKED UP....
Is this any suprise really?
My heart goes out to her family as it does to anyone who loses someone they care about, but honestly who cares?
It's just a further step in people in the US living through celebrities.. and quasi celebs. If Anna Nicole was a receptionist and this happened it wouldn't be news, so it shouldn't be news now.
S
The only reason we care is because she was famous for being FUCKED UP....
Is this any suprise really?
My heart goes out to her family as it does to anyone who loses someone they care about, but honestly who cares?
It's just a further step in people in the US living through celebrities.. and quasi celebs. If Anna Nicole was a receptionist and this happened it wouldn't be news, so it shouldn't be news now.
S
Wednesday, February 07, 2007
Smoking Aces
So I went to see Smoking Aces last night. And it was interesting.
They did a really good job of building tension, but the stupid dialogue and preachy plot were annoying at times. I really did enjoy the movie but I think it could have used a much better writer and it should have decided what it wanted to be. Was it a dark comedy or was it a story with a moral?
The answer is it was a dark comedy with a tacked on serious plot.
C+
S
They did a really good job of building tension, but the stupid dialogue and preachy plot were annoying at times. I really did enjoy the movie but I think it could have used a much better writer and it should have decided what it wanted to be. Was it a dark comedy or was it a story with a moral?
The answer is it was a dark comedy with a tacked on serious plot.
C+
S
Tuesday, February 06, 2007
Why some guys never get better...
At some point in the interaction, you need to display who you REALLY are. If who you really are is unattractive the girl will lose attraction for you.
So in order to get this area of you're life "handled" as David D would say( every time someone says paradigm or handled I always think DYD) you need to work on three seperate and equally important aspects of your life.
And for 19.95 I will reveal what they are...
Just kidding I had to throw that in though. The three elements are
1. Inner game. I used to say inner game was bullshit, in fact I would proudly claim to have bad inner game at workshops. But as I have started to explore the reasons as to why I make some of the bad decisions in my regular life, I realized that inner game is important. You need to know what your desires are and how you will achieve them. You also need to embrace your shadow and the un-pleasant aspects of you're personally. You need to make the leap from boy thinking to man thinking.
2. Skill-set. You need to know how to open, how to attract women that are not physically attracted to you right away, learn how to qualify etc...
3. Lifestyle. You want to set up your life in a path that women are a part of your lifestyle. You should be going to parties, classes, dinners, plays etc.. You need to actually get a life that a woman wants to be a part of. And have a social life where women are introduced to you.
Those three aspects are how you get good at the game.
S
So in order to get this area of you're life "handled" as David D would say( every time someone says paradigm or handled I always think DYD) you need to work on three seperate and equally important aspects of your life.
And for 19.95 I will reveal what they are...
Just kidding I had to throw that in though. The three elements are
1. Inner game. I used to say inner game was bullshit, in fact I would proudly claim to have bad inner game at workshops. But as I have started to explore the reasons as to why I make some of the bad decisions in my regular life, I realized that inner game is important. You need to know what your desires are and how you will achieve them. You also need to embrace your shadow and the un-pleasant aspects of you're personally. You need to make the leap from boy thinking to man thinking.
2. Skill-set. You need to know how to open, how to attract women that are not physically attracted to you right away, learn how to qualify etc...
3. Lifestyle. You want to set up your life in a path that women are a part of your lifestyle. You should be going to parties, classes, dinners, plays etc.. You need to actually get a life that a woman wants to be a part of. And have a social life where women are introduced to you.
Those three aspects are how you get good at the game.
S
Song Lyric of the week
From Jay-z Bitches Vs Sisters
" Unless you fuck a dude on his own merit and not the way he dribbles a ball or draws lyrics you're a bitch"
Word.
S
" Unless you fuck a dude on his own merit and not the way he dribbles a ball or draws lyrics you're a bitch"
Word.
S
I have nothing to blog about today...
HB perfect was a bitch last night then apologized and was super sweet even agreeing to come see me on Mon.... So there goes my rant about her..
I watched half of the DYD On being a Man program which is awesome and goes along with a lot of the research I'm doing on inner game and success..
I finally got a maid service so my place is spotless! this rocks beyond words and I have no idea why I waited this long to do this.
I'm going to go see smoking aces later today so maybe I'll post a review about that.
There will be a teleconference next Wed. If you guys are interested, it will be free and I will post more details about it soon. The subject will be;
"How to eliminate Flakes!"
I will probably make the audio availible afterwards but there will be a limited # of seats( Probably about a 100) there will be a half hour presentation followed by a half hour of Q and A.
Ummm... I like Monkeys.
S
I watched half of the DYD On being a Man program which is awesome and goes along with a lot of the research I'm doing on inner game and success..
I finally got a maid service so my place is spotless! this rocks beyond words and I have no idea why I waited this long to do this.
I'm going to go see smoking aces later today so maybe I'll post a review about that.
There will be a teleconference next Wed. If you guys are interested, it will be free and I will post more details about it soon. The subject will be;
"How to eliminate Flakes!"
I will probably make the audio availible afterwards but there will be a limited # of seats( Probably about a 100) there will be a half hour presentation followed by a half hour of Q and A.
Ummm... I like Monkeys.
S
Monday, February 05, 2007
Win the free Mystery Method Product of your choice!
Hey guys,
Anyone who can take the Two Q and As I've done over on The Mystery Method Forums, and tun them into one(single, uno) PDF file can have any The Mystery Method product. Products do not include one on ones, bootcamps, or phone consults, though we may offer a discount in exhcange for this PDF. Email all PDFs to Sinn@TheMysteryMethod.com. I'll announce the winner on Fri.
S
Anyone who can take the Two Q and As I've done over on The Mystery Method Forums, and tun them into one(single, uno) PDF file can have any The Mystery Method product. Products do not include one on ones, bootcamps, or phone consults, though we may offer a discount in exhcange for this PDF. Email all PDFs to Sinn@TheMysteryMethod.com. I'll announce the winner on Fri.
S
Nothing ruins gloating like forgetting your keys.
I met a really awesome really hot girl out doing day game today and as I was leaving we were approached by a guy who was giving out flyers. She tried to hand me hers and I shoved mine in her bag and ran away.
Then I texted her to let her know that I totally won. I was reaching in my pockets to get my keys when I realized I left them on the bench where she was sitting. She texted me about them and I had to go back. But on the brightside the first text communication is over and we are well on our way to a date...
Still I love talking trash and this ruined my gloating :(
S
Then I texted her to let her know that I totally won. I was reaching in my pockets to get my keys when I realized I left them on the bench where she was sitting. She texted me about them and I had to go back. But on the brightside the first text communication is over and we are well on our way to a date...
Still I love talking trash and this ruined my gloating :(
S
Sunday, February 04, 2007
Best quote of the pre-Super Bowl
Dick Butkus said of hitting people hard;
" You always wanna hit them hard, for three reasons,
1. It makes you feel good.
2. It makes them not feel good
and three you might get a turnover."
Awesome!
" You always wanna hit them hard, for three reasons,
1. It makes you feel good.
2. It makes them not feel good
and three you might get a turnover."
Awesome!
What i would tell my son
Someone posted a comment about my son seeing my last post or grandson and it got me thinking. What would I tell my son about women and dating? I certainly wouldn't tell him about the community, or negs or Mystery Method. I would instead tell him how to become a man women will be interested in.
I'd tell him about the importance of having standards that OTHER people have to live up to. I'd tell him to treat everbody equally and included women in the discussion. Women don't want you to be overly nice or nervous or boring, or needy. They want you to treat her the way you treat your friends. You tease your friends right? If your friend does something or says something silly, we tease them for it. When they are in a bad mood you tell them about it.
I'd tell him to try to find something good in everyone no matter what. And anytime he was interacting with a woman to tell her why he liked her.
I'd teach him how to make friends with everyone. And I'd emphasize the point about having standards in your guy friends too. To make sure that your friends are living up to your standards especially about loyalty.
I'd teach him to stand up for himself and not let people push him around.
I'd teach him that there are more women than men on the planet Earth and that he never has to settle.
I'd make him play sports and keep active. No sitting around playing video games.
I'd teach him to have hobbies and socializing is a hobby.
I'd teach him a musical instrument.
I'd teach him to have a passion and to NEVER make women the number 1 priority in his life.
I'd teach him that it's ok to be single or married.
I'd teach him that sex is normal and natural.
I'd encourage him to get a girlfriend as soon as he could.
I'd encourage him to have sex as early as possible.
I'd encourage him to have mostly male friends, but as many females in his social cirlce as possible. I.E his friends should have girlfriends.
I'd encourage him to join a fraternity
I'd encourage him to get a job in sales or waiting to get experience interacting with strangers.
I'd get him used to talking to strangers once he was old enough for it to be safe.
I'd teach him that the most important person in any relationship he's in is him. And that even if it gets him grounded now, he should stand up to me.
I'd teach him that arguing in a relationship is normal.
I'd teach him to respect women
But I'd also teach him that women fart and piss just like us. And like sex just as much.
I'd teach him that a woman who makes you laugh is much more valuable than a woman who's a 10.
And finally I'd teach him that you can do anything you want in life as long as you are not trying to hurt anyone and you're honest about your intentions.
That's what my kid will learn.
S
I'd tell him about the importance of having standards that OTHER people have to live up to. I'd tell him to treat everbody equally and included women in the discussion. Women don't want you to be overly nice or nervous or boring, or needy. They want you to treat her the way you treat your friends. You tease your friends right? If your friend does something or says something silly, we tease them for it. When they are in a bad mood you tell them about it.
I'd tell him to try to find something good in everyone no matter what. And anytime he was interacting with a woman to tell her why he liked her.
I'd teach him how to make friends with everyone. And I'd emphasize the point about having standards in your guy friends too. To make sure that your friends are living up to your standards especially about loyalty.
I'd teach him to stand up for himself and not let people push him around.
I'd teach him that there are more women than men on the planet Earth and that he never has to settle.
I'd make him play sports and keep active. No sitting around playing video games.
I'd teach him to have hobbies and socializing is a hobby.
I'd teach him a musical instrument.
I'd teach him to have a passion and to NEVER make women the number 1 priority in his life.
I'd teach him that it's ok to be single or married.
I'd teach him that sex is normal and natural.
I'd encourage him to get a girlfriend as soon as he could.
I'd encourage him to have sex as early as possible.
I'd encourage him to have mostly male friends, but as many females in his social cirlce as possible. I.E his friends should have girlfriends.
I'd encourage him to join a fraternity
I'd encourage him to get a job in sales or waiting to get experience interacting with strangers.
I'd get him used to talking to strangers once he was old enough for it to be safe.
I'd teach him that the most important person in any relationship he's in is him. And that even if it gets him grounded now, he should stand up to me.
I'd teach him that arguing in a relationship is normal.
I'd teach him to respect women
But I'd also teach him that women fart and piss just like us. And like sex just as much.
I'd teach him that a woman who makes you laugh is much more valuable than a woman who's a 10.
And finally I'd teach him that you can do anything you want in life as long as you are not trying to hurt anyone and you're honest about your intentions.
That's what my kid will learn.
S
Friday, February 02, 2007
Willpower 0, Penis 1
So I was going to cut loose all my LA girls and start fresh, as I don't like any of them and it's not really going anywhere. Then i got some bad news, got some booze and now drunk Sinn has called over the FB I hate the most!
I really hate this girl, A lot! I've been seeing her for almost 2 years.... I hate her! But she's hot... UGH it's just like that Seinfeld episode, the penis always beats the brain at chess... Yay sex with a girl I hate ! It's fantastic...
S
I really hate this girl, A lot! I've been seeing her for almost 2 years.... I hate her! But she's hot... UGH it's just like that Seinfeld episode, the penis always beats the brain at chess... Yay sex with a girl I hate ! It's fantastic...
S
Thursday, February 01, 2007
Frame control
What is frame control?
To understand Frame control, we must first have an understanding of frames. A frame is the surrounding meaning of any interaction. It is as David Deangelo likes to say your reality.
In an interaction between two people, whoever has the stronger frame/reality wins. The weaker frame/reality is absorbed into the larger overall meaning set in the more powerful frame.
It is extremely important to set the frame in the interaction. During some sarges your frame will be pulled at from all angles.
The target, her friends and AMOGs can all attempt to put you into their frames.
Take for example the classic shit test "are you a player". This is an attempt to slot you into their frame. If you say no you are defending yourself and look insecure, if you say yes you are trying to look cool.
So what can you do?
1. You can ignore the comment entirely and plow forward with your specific personality conveying material.
Ex:" are you a player"
PUA: Oh man you know what I saw today? (start routine)
This is IMO the best way to hold your frame, but the girl can just repeat the question until you say something if she really wants to be a pain.
2. You can reframe the quesion by agreeing and then taking the accusation to absurdity.
Ex: " are you a player"
PUA: What is it about players you like so much? I actually am a card carrying member of the ancient order of makeout whores. My father was a makeout whore and his before that. It's a great honor. Anyway (stack to next routine)
This is good as you can quickly make the test looks stupid by agreeing and then taking her frame even farther until it is stupidly funny.
3. Reframe by shit testing her.
EX: " Are you a player"
PUA: Are you just a typical San Diego party girl?
This shit test like the question are you a player is a double bind. Meaning that either way she answers I am putting her in my frame. If she says yes I dismiss her saying that i know what those are like and they are trouble. if she says no i tell her that's good becuz i am sick of those girls but she's probably not adventurous enough.
Double binds are awesome and we should at some point establish a master list of them.
4. Reframe by misinterpreting and then disqualifying
Ex: " are you a player?"
PUA: Oh my god you are attracted to me! It's too bad your not really my type.
This is really good too as you are doing two things defining her as attracted to you and then immediately disqualifying her . This sets the frame that she wants you but cannot have you.
5. Reframe the underlying meaning to her chasing you
Ex" are you a player"
PUA: You know your not gonna talk your way into my pants like that, If you want me your gonna have to do some serious courting.
This similiarly to the last one sets the her chasing you frame but this more off the wall. This is like one part ignorance and one part reframing so that she is chasing. however it is a C&P line so it should not be used past A2. This works even if she disagrees because it is funny enough that she will laugh and by laughing she is subconsciously accepting our frame.
6. Going completely illogical. This is a part of ignoring except you go off the wall.
Ex " are you a player"
PUA: " my friend eats lemons" ( stack to next routine) credit Jlaix
One part ignorance , one part humor with some illogic chick sense jumbling non sense thrown in. This lets her know that you will not take her hoops. Especially if every time she puts a hoop up you say the same illogical thing, it becomes call back humor while reinforcing your frame.
S
To understand Frame control, we must first have an understanding of frames. A frame is the surrounding meaning of any interaction. It is as David Deangelo likes to say your reality.
In an interaction between two people, whoever has the stronger frame/reality wins. The weaker frame/reality is absorbed into the larger overall meaning set in the more powerful frame.
It is extremely important to set the frame in the interaction. During some sarges your frame will be pulled at from all angles.
The target, her friends and AMOGs can all attempt to put you into their frames.
Take for example the classic shit test "are you a player". This is an attempt to slot you into their frame. If you say no you are defending yourself and look insecure, if you say yes you are trying to look cool.
So what can you do?
1. You can ignore the comment entirely and plow forward with your specific personality conveying material.
Ex:" are you a player"
PUA: Oh man you know what I saw today? (start routine)
This is IMO the best way to hold your frame, but the girl can just repeat the question until you say something if she really wants to be a pain.
2. You can reframe the quesion by agreeing and then taking the accusation to absurdity.
Ex: " are you a player"
PUA: What is it about players you like so much? I actually am a card carrying member of the ancient order of makeout whores. My father was a makeout whore and his before that. It's a great honor. Anyway (stack to next routine)
This is good as you can quickly make the test looks stupid by agreeing and then taking her frame even farther until it is stupidly funny.
3. Reframe by shit testing her.
EX: " Are you a player"
PUA: Are you just a typical San Diego party girl?
This shit test like the question are you a player is a double bind. Meaning that either way she answers I am putting her in my frame. If she says yes I dismiss her saying that i know what those are like and they are trouble. if she says no i tell her that's good becuz i am sick of those girls but she's probably not adventurous enough.
Double binds are awesome and we should at some point establish a master list of them.
4. Reframe by misinterpreting and then disqualifying
Ex: " are you a player?"
PUA: Oh my god you are attracted to me! It's too bad your not really my type.
This is really good too as you are doing two things defining her as attracted to you and then immediately disqualifying her . This sets the frame that she wants you but cannot have you.
5. Reframe the underlying meaning to her chasing you
Ex" are you a player"
PUA: You know your not gonna talk your way into my pants like that, If you want me your gonna have to do some serious courting.
This similiarly to the last one sets the her chasing you frame but this more off the wall. This is like one part ignorance and one part reframing so that she is chasing. however it is a C&P line so it should not be used past A2. This works even if she disagrees because it is funny enough that she will laugh and by laughing she is subconsciously accepting our frame.
6. Going completely illogical. This is a part of ignoring except you go off the wall.
Ex " are you a player"
PUA: " my friend eats lemons" ( stack to next routine) credit Jlaix
One part ignorance , one part humor with some illogic chick sense jumbling non sense thrown in. This lets her know that you will not take her hoops. Especially if every time she puts a hoop up you say the same illogical thing, it becomes call back humor while reinforcing your frame.
S
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Heading home.. Finally.
So I'm at the airport waiting to go home. Actually waiting for a three hour flight, then an hour long cab ride from LAX. Burbank is SOOOOO much better than LAX but I wasn't payng attention when I booked my flight and ended up at LAX at 5 PM... I'm super psyched for traffic to Hollywood... And I had to check my bag so I get the revolutionary system LAX has for losing bags. Ok end of bitch session.
I have been gone since early January when I flew to NY to do a Bootcamp, then I stayed for a week met Lawgirl, hung with Future and saw Debonair Dave. We also went to a few strip clubs. If by a few you mean 3 in 4 days.
Then off to Dallas where I did Strippers and Hired guns, and had the funniest pull ever. Dallaas was great. But unseasonably cold.
Then I got to Vancouver, and Whistler where Tenmag and I have been snowboarding and teaching and I got the Bathroom pull.
It's been a long month. Now I get some well needed R and R. Plus I see shorty tonight, and Evil girl tomor... so life isn't that bad.
S
I have been gone since early January when I flew to NY to do a Bootcamp, then I stayed for a week met Lawgirl, hung with Future and saw Debonair Dave. We also went to a few strip clubs. If by a few you mean 3 in 4 days.
Then off to Dallas where I did Strippers and Hired guns, and had the funniest pull ever. Dallaas was great. But unseasonably cold.
Then I got to Vancouver, and Whistler where Tenmag and I have been snowboarding and teaching and I got the Bathroom pull.
It's been a long month. Now I get some well needed R and R. Plus I see shorty tonight, and Evil girl tomor... so life isn't that bad.
S
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
Why girls don't make sense...;
I just talked to HB perfect and she told me that I intimidated her....
WTF!!!!!
Intimidating, try being under the pressure of dealing with the Mount Olympus of women, the only woman, I know could realistically get me into a relationship, the only woman I've met in 5 years who could possibly wreck me the way Dino girl only came close to.... And I'm intimidating.
Every time I get into a relationship even with "Fridays" and "OC" who were both AT LEAST 9s and probably higher, I always compared them to every other girl and sometimes I would think the other girls were hotter. I only saw these girls when I was with another girl. I don't know if the girls are hotter or if it's just the forbidden fruit aspect of it, but every time I go out with a girl, a parade of swedish super models are out too. When I first started dating OC she and her best friend that Savoy made out were working at Hooters. I go to a Hooters B-day party and my girl is the third hottest girl there, including what at that time was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. But with Perfect, I would not be able to find hotter girls and that would at least make me a little less commit a phobic. So she's actually a chance at a relationship that COULD last. So thus super scary...
And I'm the intimidating one... That's actually a pretty big compliment... but wholly irrational... Thus the effect of advanced comfort. Becoming intimidating to Beautiful women that you shouldn't be able to get.
S
WTF!!!!!
Intimidating, try being under the pressure of dealing with the Mount Olympus of women, the only woman, I know could realistically get me into a relationship, the only woman I've met in 5 years who could possibly wreck me the way Dino girl only came close to.... And I'm intimidating.
Every time I get into a relationship even with "Fridays" and "OC" who were both AT LEAST 9s and probably higher, I always compared them to every other girl and sometimes I would think the other girls were hotter. I only saw these girls when I was with another girl. I don't know if the girls are hotter or if it's just the forbidden fruit aspect of it, but every time I go out with a girl, a parade of swedish super models are out too. When I first started dating OC she and her best friend that Savoy made out were working at Hooters. I go to a Hooters B-day party and my girl is the third hottest girl there, including what at that time was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. But with Perfect, I would not be able to find hotter girls and that would at least make me a little less commit a phobic. So she's actually a chance at a relationship that COULD last. So thus super scary...
And I'm the intimidating one... That's actually a pretty big compliment... but wholly irrational... Thus the effect of advanced comfort. Becoming intimidating to Beautiful women that you shouldn't be able to get.
S
10 things I like.
I was catching up on Savoy's blog(check the link in my side bar) and he posted about 10 things he liked, so I though I would follow the leader and post 10 things I like.
1. The Office. This is the first show in FOREVER I look forward to. I'm on the road every week, so I have an Itunes subscription. It is amazing, the acting is top notch(seriously they say more with looks than most dialogue says) I feel like I know the characters, and i really want Jim and Pam to get together. Plus it's hilarious, and I think Steve Carrell actually is that big of a dork or is the best actor of our generation.
2. Future. He's more than my best friend, he's the person I look to for moral support and I hope that he feels the same way. he really is more like a brother than a friend.
3. My TV- I bought a really big 42 inch flat screen and I fantasize about it while I'm on the road.
4. Bill Simmons Sports guy columns on ESPN.com. If you like sports and pop culture and you're not reading this you should kill yourself, or start reading it. Whatever is less messy.
5. My clothes. I have spent the better part of 2 years and unknown thousands of dollars to develop a wardrobe where I literally do not have time to wear all the stuff I like. It's awesome and I'm ALWAYS the best dressed person in a room.
6. Reading. I have really gotten back on the reading wagon and finished "The Romantic's Manifesto" and am halfway through Freakonomics. I'm also coming home to like 50 Amazon.com books.
7. Casino Royale- Best Bond movie EVER! it's awesome! Daniel Craig should be the final James Bond.
8. Jay-z. I've been re-listening to the black album and both the blueprints and they are the shit! I'm pretending like Kingdom Come never happened.
9. Students who get GOOD. A student who calls himself Beowolf used my day game stuff to nab himself a REALLY hot miss America pageant contestant. That makes me feel like I'm not sacrificing advancing my life for nothing.
10. Savoy,Tenmag,TheDon, the rest of the guys who I feel honored to be able to call friends, and who without the community, I would still be lucky to know. I really appreciate all of them and I count that as the MOST important thing the commuity ever gave me. Not the scores of girls or bathroom BJS.
S
1. The Office. This is the first show in FOREVER I look forward to. I'm on the road every week, so I have an Itunes subscription. It is amazing, the acting is top notch(seriously they say more with looks than most dialogue says) I feel like I know the characters, and i really want Jim and Pam to get together. Plus it's hilarious, and I think Steve Carrell actually is that big of a dork or is the best actor of our generation.
2. Future. He's more than my best friend, he's the person I look to for moral support and I hope that he feels the same way. he really is more like a brother than a friend.
3. My TV- I bought a really big 42 inch flat screen and I fantasize about it while I'm on the road.
4. Bill Simmons Sports guy columns on ESPN.com. If you like sports and pop culture and you're not reading this you should kill yourself, or start reading it. Whatever is less messy.
5. My clothes. I have spent the better part of 2 years and unknown thousands of dollars to develop a wardrobe where I literally do not have time to wear all the stuff I like. It's awesome and I'm ALWAYS the best dressed person in a room.
6. Reading. I have really gotten back on the reading wagon and finished "The Romantic's Manifesto" and am halfway through Freakonomics. I'm also coming home to like 50 Amazon.com books.
7. Casino Royale- Best Bond movie EVER! it's awesome! Daniel Craig should be the final James Bond.
8. Jay-z. I've been re-listening to the black album and both the blueprints and they are the shit! I'm pretending like Kingdom Come never happened.
9. Students who get GOOD. A student who calls himself Beowolf used my day game stuff to nab himself a REALLY hot miss America pageant contestant. That makes me feel like I'm not sacrificing advancing my life for nothing.
10. Savoy,Tenmag,TheDon, the rest of the guys who I feel honored to be able to call friends, and who without the community, I would still be lucky to know. I really appreciate all of them and I count that as the MOST important thing the commuity ever gave me. Not the scores of girls or bathroom BJS.
S
Do you kow your sticking points?
The best guys in the game have a VERY detailed map of waht they are not good at.
The better you are the more you know what you need to work on to get better. My list of sticking points is 8 miles long. But I notice most students focus on what they are good at and as soon as they can consistenly open they assume they have game.
You learn NOTHING from success, but failure can be a great teacher. I think every guy should know their first, second and third sticking points. Here's mine.
My voice sucks monkey balls. It is not sexy. I need to get vocal coaching and I have been saying that for three years. So when I get back to LA tomor I will sig up for my first lesson.
I need to start seeing myself as a mature man. Not as guy with potentential, but as a man who has accomplished a lot at a young age. And as a mature man I need to not concern myself with petty bullshit, and ego validation.
I need to stop seeing Sinn the PUA and myself as seperate people. I hate going into pickup mode and I want to integrate who I am in all walks of life into the same person.
Most of my sticking points are inner game related as I ignored that FOREVER.
What are your sticking points?
S
The better you are the more you know what you need to work on to get better. My list of sticking points is 8 miles long. But I notice most students focus on what they are good at and as soon as they can consistenly open they assume they have game.
You learn NOTHING from success, but failure can be a great teacher. I think every guy should know their first, second and third sticking points. Here's mine.
My voice sucks monkey balls. It is not sexy. I need to get vocal coaching and I have been saying that for three years. So when I get back to LA tomor I will sig up for my first lesson.
I need to start seeing myself as a mature man. Not as guy with potentential, but as a man who has accomplished a lot at a young age. And as a mature man I need to not concern myself with petty bullshit, and ego validation.
I need to stop seeing Sinn the PUA and myself as seperate people. I hate going into pickup mode and I want to integrate who I am in all walks of life into the same person.
Most of my sticking points are inner game related as I ignored that FOREVER.
What are your sticking points?
S
Monday, January 29, 2007
Snowboarding, inner game and playing to win.
I'm in bed wracked with lower back pain, Tenmag and I just did 3 hours on the best mountain in the world to ski and snowboard on and I am wrecked!I got back ripped off the wet clothes and dove into bed and this post.
Since I'm deranged and can't have any experience without relating it to game on some level, I noticed that I have an inner game issue when it came to snow barding today. I used to be pretty good, I was even sponsored in high school. Well I haven't snowboarded in about 5 years. So getting back on today i knew that I was in for some falls. But what I noticed was at the begginning I wasn't falling much, because I was riding the rail. I just coasted down instead of actually trying to gain some speed and carve. As soon as I noticed this I corrected it and started to fall A LOT. But I also started to get some of the muscle memory back, and by the end of the day I would say I was back to 50% of what I used to be able to do and I wasn't falling much anymore at all.
This is like the guy who used to be a natural but got into a long term relationship and his skills eroded, then he comes to a bootcamp and gets it instantly! In fact those guys are my favorite type of students because impressing them is hard. They get it when guys brag too much or try to hard to convince them they are good. We had one of these guys and his cousin in Austin and I did a set with him and he said that it was worth the price of the program alone to see that up close, because he thought he had game. I wish more guys who were already good with women started to take ou programs, because those guys have the potential to become SUPERSTARS. Not to say the guy with no experience doesn't I was with 1 girl before the community and 8 before I took my program. and now I've literally lost count of the exact number but it is really high. i won't post it but I do tell BC students so if you are curious ask someone who took a program.
The reason I was not willing to fall also underlines the issue of ego protection, everytime I fell it clashed with my identity as a guy who was good at snowboarding, so I felt bad emotions as my identity and reality were at odds. This is what is called a success barrier, Where it is easier to hold onto an identity than it is to let go of it and build something stronger. Having PUA as your identity is horrible for your game, because everytime you don't get the girl(Which in the begginning will be alot) you are exposed to bad emotions. When the only way you can validate your sense of self is reliant on picking up girls and all the external variables that go along with that, you are setting yourself up to fail. Instead being good with women should be a part of your identity. A brick in the house that is you, but never the major tenet. Don't identify yourself as a PUA, identitfy yourself as a writer, musician, businessman, electrician, lover, fighter, warrior, mature man, or anything else. Do not let becoming good with women be the major factor in your life. Find a higher purpose and live for that. But at the same time don't stop practicing, make socializing a part of your daily life and Become a guy who naturally attracts women. But is not defined by that.
Enough ranting off to the hot tub for me!
S
Since I'm deranged and can't have any experience without relating it to game on some level, I noticed that I have an inner game issue when it came to snow barding today. I used to be pretty good, I was even sponsored in high school. Well I haven't snowboarded in about 5 years. So getting back on today i knew that I was in for some falls. But what I noticed was at the begginning I wasn't falling much, because I was riding the rail. I just coasted down instead of actually trying to gain some speed and carve. As soon as I noticed this I corrected it and started to fall A LOT. But I also started to get some of the muscle memory back, and by the end of the day I would say I was back to 50% of what I used to be able to do and I wasn't falling much anymore at all.
This is like the guy who used to be a natural but got into a long term relationship and his skills eroded, then he comes to a bootcamp and gets it instantly! In fact those guys are my favorite type of students because impressing them is hard. They get it when guys brag too much or try to hard to convince them they are good. We had one of these guys and his cousin in Austin and I did a set with him and he said that it was worth the price of the program alone to see that up close, because he thought he had game. I wish more guys who were already good with women started to take ou programs, because those guys have the potential to become SUPERSTARS. Not to say the guy with no experience doesn't I was with 1 girl before the community and 8 before I took my program. and now I've literally lost count of the exact number but it is really high. i won't post it but I do tell BC students so if you are curious ask someone who took a program.
The reason I was not willing to fall also underlines the issue of ego protection, everytime I fell it clashed with my identity as a guy who was good at snowboarding, so I felt bad emotions as my identity and reality were at odds. This is what is called a success barrier, Where it is easier to hold onto an identity than it is to let go of it and build something stronger. Having PUA as your identity is horrible for your game, because everytime you don't get the girl(Which in the begginning will be alot) you are exposed to bad emotions. When the only way you can validate your sense of self is reliant on picking up girls and all the external variables that go along with that, you are setting yourself up to fail. Instead being good with women should be a part of your identity. A brick in the house that is you, but never the major tenet. Don't identify yourself as a PUA, identitfy yourself as a writer, musician, businessman, electrician, lover, fighter, warrior, mature man, or anything else. Do not let becoming good with women be the major factor in your life. Find a higher purpose and live for that. But at the same time don't stop practicing, make socializing a part of your daily life and Become a guy who naturally attracts women. But is not defined by that.
Enough ranting off to the hot tub for me!
S
Sunday, January 28, 2007
BJR- Wanna watch me jerk off?
Prepare to shield your eyes and stop reading if you are easily offended. Seriously, this will be an offensive post. So if you are going to bitch or leave an annoying comment, please skip this entry.
So lately I have been focused more on quick escalation game. Mostly because I have been on the rad 10 of the last 11 weekends. I think I've been in LA for the weekend once in 3 months. So I am all about trying to escalate for SNLs and in the club sex. My experimentation has led to a bunch of ONS but a complete failure to have sex in the venue. Until last night.
Brad P posted about a friend of his who could get blowjobs in clbs all the time by asking girls if they wanted to watch him "take care of himself." So for kicks I had been field testing this, and complaining that it didn't work because for the first 100 some times I did it the girls laughed. Then Savoy told me he talked to Brad and he said the key was to look for sexual looking lone wolves and wait for them by the bathroom. Kinda creepy.... he also said that a lot of the time they just watch him jerk it. So it still sounded iffy but atleast a little less so.
Last night as the Vancouver BC is ending I find myself in line next to a girl, and she gives me a look
I say : " Don't worry i won't be too long I'm just gonna take care of myself. You wanna watch?"
She says yes and we go into the bathroom together, I actually had to pee though so i did with her in there and then I try to escalate and leave. Turns out she was an obstacle in a set a student was working. It's around 2 so we round everyone up and start to debrief, we go outside of the club(Republic in case you're wondering where this took place) and she happens to be out too smoking with tenmag. I run some huge cock game including the term hitting her in the fface with a frozen rope... she leaves by saying Maybe I'll see you in a bathroom sometime.... I immediately recognize this as buying signal, and wait for her to go before I too head inside. I find her at the table with her friends who inform me that she's gay and drunk.She had reviously told me she had not been drinking and as a drunk guy I can tell when people are drunk. I grab the girl by the arm and drag her to the bathroom. Telling her friend that it is my job to drag her away and her job to stop me. Credit Savoy. We get to the bathroom line and I make out with her on a pinball machine then in a dark storeroom before we get in line for the bathroom. Her friend re-appears and tells me she is going home with her. I agree, and say we are just going to the bathroom. The door opens and my girl and the obstacle have a discussion as to who is going home with whom before the obstacle starts to leave and I go int he bathroom with the girl. Shove against the wall and removal of bottoms ensues. I try to go for the gold but I end up with a bathroom BJ.
So far the masturbate watch technique is 1 for about a hundred, but the amount of effort almost makes it worth it. Plus it's one of those things that shows you are just fucking with the set if they don't take it. I have yet to get a bad reaction from that line.
Good job guys on the Vancouver bootcamp, keep it up and you guys all have the potential to be great. Good work this weekend and keep me up to date on your progress. Me and Tenmag are now in a ski resort up in the mountains chilling, snowboarding and sarging for a couple of days. And drinking. Probably a lot of drinking.
S
So lately I have been focused more on quick escalation game. Mostly because I have been on the rad 10 of the last 11 weekends. I think I've been in LA for the weekend once in 3 months. So I am all about trying to escalate for SNLs and in the club sex. My experimentation has led to a bunch of ONS but a complete failure to have sex in the venue. Until last night.
Brad P posted about a friend of his who could get blowjobs in clbs all the time by asking girls if they wanted to watch him "take care of himself." So for kicks I had been field testing this, and complaining that it didn't work because for the first 100 some times I did it the girls laughed. Then Savoy told me he talked to Brad and he said the key was to look for sexual looking lone wolves and wait for them by the bathroom. Kinda creepy.... he also said that a lot of the time they just watch him jerk it. So it still sounded iffy but atleast a little less so.
Last night as the Vancouver BC is ending I find myself in line next to a girl, and she gives me a look
I say : " Don't worry i won't be too long I'm just gonna take care of myself. You wanna watch?"
She says yes and we go into the bathroom together, I actually had to pee though so i did with her in there and then I try to escalate and leave. Turns out she was an obstacle in a set a student was working. It's around 2 so we round everyone up and start to debrief, we go outside of the club(Republic in case you're wondering where this took place) and she happens to be out too smoking with tenmag. I run some huge cock game including the term hitting her in the fface with a frozen rope... she leaves by saying Maybe I'll see you in a bathroom sometime.... I immediately recognize this as buying signal, and wait for her to go before I too head inside. I find her at the table with her friends who inform me that she's gay and drunk.She had reviously told me she had not been drinking and as a drunk guy I can tell when people are drunk. I grab the girl by the arm and drag her to the bathroom. Telling her friend that it is my job to drag her away and her job to stop me. Credit Savoy. We get to the bathroom line and I make out with her on a pinball machine then in a dark storeroom before we get in line for the bathroom. Her friend re-appears and tells me she is going home with her. I agree, and say we are just going to the bathroom. The door opens and my girl and the obstacle have a discussion as to who is going home with whom before the obstacle starts to leave and I go int he bathroom with the girl. Shove against the wall and removal of bottoms ensues. I try to go for the gold but I end up with a bathroom BJ.
So far the masturbate watch technique is 1 for about a hundred, but the amount of effort almost makes it worth it. Plus it's one of those things that shows you are just fucking with the set if they don't take it. I have yet to get a bad reaction from that line.
Good job guys on the Vancouver bootcamp, keep it up and you guys all have the potential to be great. Good work this weekend and keep me up to date on your progress. Me and Tenmag are now in a ski resort up in the mountains chilling, snowboarding and sarging for a couple of days. And drinking. Probably a lot of drinking.
S
Saturday, January 27, 2007
Captain Jack just got a blog bitches!
CJ one of the best PUAs and coolest guys I know, has started a blog at www.captainjackpua.blogspot.com.
Check it you'll thank me later.
S
Check it you'll thank me later.
S
Doing a bootcamp while dying of the plague.
Every year i've been doing the teaching thing, I get a really bad nagging cough that no DR can explain for like 6 weeks. Last year it started in Tampa around christamas and lead through Valentine's Day.
This year it started in Phoenix about a month ago. Tonight stomach pain, heaaches and the spins decided to joing mid-bootcamp. it's really fun doing bootcamp for 2 hours while trying not cough so hard it gives you a headache. i seriously felt like my brain was rattling around in my skull as I try to not throw up or faint from the cough. It's great fun I highly reccomend it. Then like an Idiot I had a cigarette. I swear sometimes I think I'm a really really closet Masochist. He says as he reaches for another peanut butter cup. Nothing cures mucus like butter and Choclate.
I say it lingers because of my lifestyle, but recently I have decided that it lingers duw to my stubborness in living my life even with the cough. Lawgirl asked me if it was from smoking, the girl I did in Dallas never mentioned it, I even had it on my day2 with perfect. I just laugh it off. I have too much shit to do to let a cough knock me out for two days. I spend too much time in airports to lose a free day to bed and cough medicine. Fuck that shit. I eat what I want cuz I wanna eat it, I go out cause I like to, I drink and smoke because I enjoy it and if a big meteor hits the fucking Earth tomor, I'll be happy I had that cigarette. I don't have time to be sick. Let people who aren't busy get sick, Anything that I can cope with, I will. It's way better than the alternative. Sitting in bed for two days then having to do a bootcamp....shudder. My days are off are the reason I work and they come few and far between. So there's no way I'm gonna lose any of them unless I physically can not stand. Then I 'll take a day off, but I probably would have my laptop. My next act of genius is gonna be snowboarding in no snow gear at night with a cough. I'llbe going downhill in my jeans and a blazer bitches. Hopefully get some chills, maybe hypothermia. Then I can say i taught a bootcamp with hypothermia, and that's a good story.
S
This year it started in Phoenix about a month ago. Tonight stomach pain, heaaches and the spins decided to joing mid-bootcamp. it's really fun doing bootcamp for 2 hours while trying not cough so hard it gives you a headache. i seriously felt like my brain was rattling around in my skull as I try to not throw up or faint from the cough. It's great fun I highly reccomend it. Then like an Idiot I had a cigarette. I swear sometimes I think I'm a really really closet Masochist. He says as he reaches for another peanut butter cup. Nothing cures mucus like butter and Choclate.
I say it lingers because of my lifestyle, but recently I have decided that it lingers duw to my stubborness in living my life even with the cough. Lawgirl asked me if it was from smoking, the girl I did in Dallas never mentioned it, I even had it on my day2 with perfect. I just laugh it off. I have too much shit to do to let a cough knock me out for two days. I spend too much time in airports to lose a free day to bed and cough medicine. Fuck that shit. I eat what I want cuz I wanna eat it, I go out cause I like to, I drink and smoke because I enjoy it and if a big meteor hits the fucking Earth tomor, I'll be happy I had that cigarette. I don't have time to be sick. Let people who aren't busy get sick, Anything that I can cope with, I will. It's way better than the alternative. Sitting in bed for two days then having to do a bootcamp....shudder. My days are off are the reason I work and they come few and far between. So there's no way I'm gonna lose any of them unless I physically can not stand. Then I 'll take a day off, but I probably would have my laptop. My next act of genius is gonna be snowboarding in no snow gear at night with a cough. I'llbe going downhill in my jeans and a blazer bitches. Hopefully get some chills, maybe hypothermia. Then I can say i taught a bootcamp with hypothermia, and that's a good story.
S
Thursday, January 25, 2007
Song Lyric of the week with Captain Jack...
Captain jack and I have a new favorite song lyric from the M.I.Ms
Here' Cj's new signature
"This is why I'm hot; I'm hot cuz I'm fly...you ain't because you not..." by M.I.M.S. - the master of lyrical logic
I'm hot BECAUSE I'm FLY DUH!!!!!!
S
Here' Cj's new signature
"This is why I'm hot; I'm hot cuz I'm fly...you ain't because you not..." by M.I.M.S. - the master of lyrical logic
I'm hot BECAUSE I'm FLY DUH!!!!!!
S
In Vancouver chillaxin....
I'm chilling out in vancouver got ina couple of hours ago, had some sushi and am waiting for Tenmag to get his late ass here so we can go get some food. I missed the new episode of the office, so I have to wait to see it tomor on Itunes. Subscription to the office so I get the new episodes mailed to me is the GREATEST thing of all time. Wherever I am as long as I have internet I get my show. I love Itunes. Unfortunately Itunes and Jon drunk at his computer at 5 AM do not mix. I once downloaded the casting special for Real World Denver. WTF!
My day began with HBperfect sending a text at 6:24 in the morning saying hi. I really like her and all but 6 in the morning, i had been out trying to get laid and watching CJ bring a girl home till 4. I made out with an Asian hottie(For my brother Future) but got to drunk to notice not so subtle hints, like me lifting her up physically and her saying that's hot, her singing that "you fuck so god I can handle it song really loud and, I dropped the ball, I was really drunk and it made me realize that perhaps my drinking is getting in the way of my gaming pretty consistently so I should probably stop drinking so much. So I'm def gonna cap my nights now at 3 drinks, anything more and I become useless as evidenced last night. I can't help it I'm not into Asians.
Then i get on the fucking plane from Vegas to vancouver when who should sit next to me, but a 5'7 big breasted red-head. I start gaming her it's on but she keeps looking away while kinoing and qualifying her self and reinitiating the conversation a couple hundred times. So I go "Hey I really like talking to you but you keep looking away and it's really distracting" and she goes " I'm sorry my BF is over there." And now I realize that i am getting the stare of death. From a bald dude in his 40s WTF? And they work together and apparently the whole god-damned fucking sales convention that flew from Vegas to vancouver today should all be staring and talking shit. UGH! so I'm trying to number close discreetly when she goes to get head phones and watches the movie then falls asleep. You can't always win but I can't fix these fucking interrupts! GRRRR!!!! We land and she bouncilates with chubby boring sells aluminum siding BF in tow. Lame I had her and she was hot!!! Oh, oh and today a hot prospect from Phoenix texted after a weeek of phone radio silence and tells me she is back with her BF. Some days you're the hunter and some days you're the fucking Rabbit.
I was soo pissed I'm glad I get to vent about this... On the bright side the stripper I made out with in Phoenix who use to date Jay-z and has been in music videos called me and wanted to know why she wasn't invited to Miami. I couldn't really say cuz another stripper I like more is gonna be there, so I dodged the question by saying I was going to Compton and I wanted to take her... It's really on with her too... And Perfect.... And Lawgirl, And Shorty finally stopped being weird so I can see her in LA aong with the worst person on Earth and my Actress, The asian from last nght is on, my ex-Gf is trying to schedule time to have a hot sex weekend away from her fiancee... so life is good and I'm in Vancouver where more Playboy playmates have come from than any other city...
I'm excited fo this weekend..
P.S Thanks so much for the guys and girl who have posted book ideas and stuff to do in Oz I really apreciate that A LOT. And Ana- Renee you're comment about being happy for me was awesome and very much appreciated as well.
My day began with HBperfect sending a text at 6:24 in the morning saying hi. I really like her and all but 6 in the morning, i had been out trying to get laid and watching CJ bring a girl home till 4. I made out with an Asian hottie(For my brother Future) but got to drunk to notice not so subtle hints, like me lifting her up physically and her saying that's hot, her singing that "you fuck so god I can handle it song really loud and, I dropped the ball, I was really drunk and it made me realize that perhaps my drinking is getting in the way of my gaming pretty consistently so I should probably stop drinking so much. So I'm def gonna cap my nights now at 3 drinks, anything more and I become useless as evidenced last night. I can't help it I'm not into Asians.
Then i get on the fucking plane from Vegas to vancouver when who should sit next to me, but a 5'7 big breasted red-head. I start gaming her it's on but she keeps looking away while kinoing and qualifying her self and reinitiating the conversation a couple hundred times. So I go "Hey I really like talking to you but you keep looking away and it's really distracting" and she goes " I'm sorry my BF is over there." And now I realize that i am getting the stare of death. From a bald dude in his 40s WTF? And they work together and apparently the whole god-damned fucking sales convention that flew from Vegas to vancouver today should all be staring and talking shit. UGH! so I'm trying to number close discreetly when she goes to get head phones and watches the movie then falls asleep. You can't always win but I can't fix these fucking interrupts! GRRRR!!!! We land and she bouncilates with chubby boring sells aluminum siding BF in tow. Lame I had her and she was hot!!! Oh, oh and today a hot prospect from Phoenix texted after a weeek of phone radio silence and tells me she is back with her BF. Some days you're the hunter and some days you're the fucking Rabbit.
I was soo pissed I'm glad I get to vent about this... On the bright side the stripper I made out with in Phoenix who use to date Jay-z and has been in music videos called me and wanted to know why she wasn't invited to Miami. I couldn't really say cuz another stripper I like more is gonna be there, so I dodged the question by saying I was going to Compton and I wanted to take her... It's really on with her too... And Perfect.... And Lawgirl, And Shorty finally stopped being weird so I can see her in LA aong with the worst person on Earth and my Actress, The asian from last nght is on, my ex-Gf is trying to schedule time to have a hot sex weekend away from her fiancee... so life is good and I'm in Vancouver where more Playboy playmates have come from than any other city...
I'm excited fo this weekend..
P.S Thanks so much for the guys and girl who have posted book ideas and stuff to do in Oz I really apreciate that A LOT. And Ana- Renee you're comment about being happy for me was awesome and very much appreciated as well.
Cool shit to do in OZ...
I'm gonna be doing a program in Sydney(March 2-4th) and a program in Melbourne(Mar9th-11th) and I would love to find out if there is anything that I HAVE to do while I'm in the land down under..
Suggestions?
Suggestions?
Perfect Stripper update
So I have been getting tons of calls and texts from her and it's extremely on. The weird thing now that I have dated somewhere in the neighborhood of 20 strippers(all PU'd in strip clubs) is that she's either a really good actress or really awesome. I genuinely like her and don't need to fake interest which is really nice. She's sweet and funny and REALLY dorky, but overall the type of woman that I got into the game for. No drug problem,calls and texts when she says she's going to really smart... I'm honestly looking for the downside and not finding it.
So Future and I will be partying with her and her stripper friends next weekend. I was looking forward to having a nice relaxing weekend at home, but then she had to call and beg me to hang out with her and 4 other strippers, so it looks like I can sleep when I'm dead. I'm pretty excited to see her! And not just cause she's retina scorchingly hot, she's fun to talk to.
So Future and I will be partying with her and her stripper friends next weekend. I was looking forward to having a nice relaxing weekend at home, but then she had to call and beg me to hang out with her and 4 other strippers, so it looks like I can sleep when I'm dead. I'm pretty excited to see her! And not just cause she's retina scorchingly hot, she's fun to talk to.
Wednesday, January 24, 2007
Reading is Fun-damental...
I've recently gotten back into reading in a big way. When i started out in the community I read A LOT. And very little of it was pick up related. Then for the last whirlwind couple of years I have been really stuck on just reading about PU and sports. Well I decided that had to change after hanging out with Future and CaptainJack and feeling very uneducated.
So I decided I was going to read a book a week, and so far I am well ahead of schedule. What's fascinating is the way my mind constantly relates everything to self-improvement and game. I think reading non-PU stuff is one of the best things you can do for your game as it makes you WAY more interesting than most people and it helps you see the world from an outsider's perspective. You can also recommend books to girls, which always goes over really well.
So here's my list that I'm reading now;
I just finished Haunted by Chuck Palahniuk. It was amazing. This is the book that made people faint at various public readins, so be prepared for some gruesome shit. Overall it's one of the coolest books I have ever read about victim mentalities and the constant reasignment of blame that most people have. It also is a scorching indictment against reality TV and the how much people are willing to go through to be semi-famous(fear factor anyone?). It was awesome and a fast read I got through it in about 3 days.
Fight Club- I'm halfway through and realizing how good of a job David Fincher did in translating it to the screen.
The Romantic Manifesto by Ayn Rand- I'm also halfway through this and it's amazing! But her writing style is like getting stabbed in the brain with an icepick...except less fun. And seriously if she says Psycho-epistemology one more fucking time I am going to dig her corpse up and do very bad things to it.... Really fascintaing stuff on percepts and man's constant struggle to express his own view of the world even when it's not correct.
Freakonomics- i read half of this online and was intrigued, but it has to wait a bit.
Thus Spoke Zarathustra- I'm halfway through this, but it keeps depressing me. There's a lot of interesting stuff he's trying to say here, but his overall bitter tone and judgement are a bit much at some points...
Rich Dad Poor Dad- Haven't started it, but I have literally heard NOTHING but good stuff about it.
Iron John by Robert Bly- I know nothing about this but TD recommended it very highly.
Fire in the Belly by Sam Keen- ditto
Sperm Wars by Robin Baker- Such doctrine in the community i figured I should read it
The Red Queen by Matte Ridley- Ditto
So that's my reading list for awhile, luckily I fly a lot so there's a ton of time for me to read.
I love book recommendations so PLEASE if there's something life changing that you read recommend it.
S
So I decided I was going to read a book a week, and so far I am well ahead of schedule. What's fascinating is the way my mind constantly relates everything to self-improvement and game. I think reading non-PU stuff is one of the best things you can do for your game as it makes you WAY more interesting than most people and it helps you see the world from an outsider's perspective. You can also recommend books to girls, which always goes over really well.
So here's my list that I'm reading now;
I just finished Haunted by Chuck Palahniuk. It was amazing. This is the book that made people faint at various public readins, so be prepared for some gruesome shit. Overall it's one of the coolest books I have ever read about victim mentalities and the constant reasignment of blame that most people have. It also is a scorching indictment against reality TV and the how much people are willing to go through to be semi-famous(fear factor anyone?). It was awesome and a fast read I got through it in about 3 days.
Fight Club- I'm halfway through and realizing how good of a job David Fincher did in translating it to the screen.
The Romantic Manifesto by Ayn Rand- I'm also halfway through this and it's amazing! But her writing style is like getting stabbed in the brain with an icepick...except less fun. And seriously if she says Psycho-epistemology one more fucking time I am going to dig her corpse up and do very bad things to it.... Really fascintaing stuff on percepts and man's constant struggle to express his own view of the world even when it's not correct.
Freakonomics- i read half of this online and was intrigued, but it has to wait a bit.
Thus Spoke Zarathustra- I'm halfway through this, but it keeps depressing me. There's a lot of interesting stuff he's trying to say here, but his overall bitter tone and judgement are a bit much at some points...
Rich Dad Poor Dad- Haven't started it, but I have literally heard NOTHING but good stuff about it.
Iron John by Robert Bly- I know nothing about this but TD recommended it very highly.
Fire in the Belly by Sam Keen- ditto
Sperm Wars by Robin Baker- Such doctrine in the community i figured I should read it
The Red Queen by Matte Ridley- Ditto
So that's my reading list for awhile, luckily I fly a lot so there's a ton of time for me to read.
I love book recommendations so PLEASE if there's something life changing that you read recommend it.
S
Tuesday, January 23, 2007
Fidelio's New year's resolutions
This is the funniest list I have ever seen... Fidelio needs a fucking blog of his own or a tv show. Tonight he had me and CJ in stitches. Seriously he told stories funnier than any stand up show I have ever seen.
Here's his list in his words;
I wanna get in a sword fight with a real samurai. Those sons of bitches have been haunting my dreams for a while now and I think it's time I got some payback. My skills are a little rusty, but I got surprise on my side because I know where those bitches hang out...
I wanna make some moonshine. Not that cheap shit you find at tire shops. I mean the real deal, Holyfield kinda shit that doubles as an antiseptic and chemical warfare agent. My Papaw used to run shine in Tennessee when he was younger. I asked him about making it and to quote Old School "Old man river can't shut up about it." I haven't seen a gleam in his eye like this since that time he told me to hold down both battery cables while he tried to start the car. I was eleven and yeah, it fucking hurt...
I wanna beat a 14 year old kid at X-box. I'm gonna kick his ass in either: one of the Halo's or one of the Tom Clancy games. Haven't decided which, because I wanna recon which game has the largest nerd herd for my Thinning. That's what I'm gonna call it, too, The Thinning. I don't own an X-box, but I see those smug sons of bitches with their EMO haircuts and their lip rings and their anime t-shirts and they don't know it, but their asking for a fucking virtual world beat down. I can make it happen, too, cuz that's what I do, I look out for people's unspoken needs...
I wanna learn to play a Skynrd song. Haven't thought about which one, but I need to be able to do it using an electric guitar or a banjo. The instrument is my only limitation and the universe is my inspiration...
I wanna arm wrestle a cut-off sleeve, straight from the penitentiary, flannel, Brawny-man style shirt wearing dyke (In case you don't know, yeah, I got dyke friends so dyke, dyke, dyke, dyke...get over it) and as she's trying to Super Glue(tm) her radius and ulna back into place I'll yell out in triumphant glory "That one's for Captain Jack, bitches!"...
I wanna be able to crush an unopened beer can. I'm just gonna tell you once, bitches, beware the left hand...
I wanna do coke off of a stripper's ass. If you know me, you know I don't do that fucked up drug shit. It's bad for you're body, but if I find that Special Girl or three, you know, I'm down for whatever...
I wanna make a mixed tape to fuck to using only Sesame Street(tm) songs. This will take the most time, I think, because I've forgotten some of those old-school slow jams...
I wanna learn to say "You're mother's a whore, but she's the best damn whore I know" in twenty different languages using proper regional dialects. Some of you may think this a hard task, but it's only one phrase. Besides, I know there are some cunning linguists on this board (Did I just say that? Yes, I did, bitches) that may be able to help me with this one...
and finally, I wanna help an old lady cross the street. That's it. You know, traffic is worse than ever. Old ladies don't deserve to be run down by inconsiderate assholes who run red lights while receiving cancer emissions from their trendy Bluetooth(tm) compatible headsets. That shit's just wrong, man...
These are some of the things I wanna do this year and I should have no problem doing them because I've learned enough from this board to know it's all about frame control and I've got massive frame control in my Buffalo Stance.
If anyone would be willing to assist me in my endeavors, please feel free to send me an e-mail, off-line, and we'll plot.
Otherwise, to quote Stewie Griffin's prayer on the recent Saving Private Brian episode of Family Guy(tm) "Dear God (pause), just stay out of our way!"
Peace and Love,
Fidelio
Here's his list in his words;
I wanna get in a sword fight with a real samurai. Those sons of bitches have been haunting my dreams for a while now and I think it's time I got some payback. My skills are a little rusty, but I got surprise on my side because I know where those bitches hang out...
I wanna make some moonshine. Not that cheap shit you find at tire shops. I mean the real deal, Holyfield kinda shit that doubles as an antiseptic and chemical warfare agent. My Papaw used to run shine in Tennessee when he was younger. I asked him about making it and to quote Old School "Old man river can't shut up about it." I haven't seen a gleam in his eye like this since that time he told me to hold down both battery cables while he tried to start the car. I was eleven and yeah, it fucking hurt...
I wanna beat a 14 year old kid at X-box. I'm gonna kick his ass in either: one of the Halo's or one of the Tom Clancy games. Haven't decided which, because I wanna recon which game has the largest nerd herd for my Thinning. That's what I'm gonna call it, too, The Thinning. I don't own an X-box, but I see those smug sons of bitches with their EMO haircuts and their lip rings and their anime t-shirts and they don't know it, but their asking for a fucking virtual world beat down. I can make it happen, too, cuz that's what I do, I look out for people's unspoken needs...
I wanna learn to play a Skynrd song. Haven't thought about which one, but I need to be able to do it using an electric guitar or a banjo. The instrument is my only limitation and the universe is my inspiration...
I wanna arm wrestle a cut-off sleeve, straight from the penitentiary, flannel, Brawny-man style shirt wearing dyke (In case you don't know, yeah, I got dyke friends so dyke, dyke, dyke, dyke...get over it) and as she's trying to Super Glue(tm) her radius and ulna back into place I'll yell out in triumphant glory "That one's for Captain Jack, bitches!"...
I wanna be able to crush an unopened beer can. I'm just gonna tell you once, bitches, beware the left hand...
I wanna do coke off of a stripper's ass. If you know me, you know I don't do that fucked up drug shit. It's bad for you're body, but if I find that Special Girl or three, you know, I'm down for whatever...
I wanna make a mixed tape to fuck to using only Sesame Street(tm) songs. This will take the most time, I think, because I've forgotten some of those old-school slow jams...
I wanna learn to say "You're mother's a whore, but she's the best damn whore I know" in twenty different languages using proper regional dialects. Some of you may think this a hard task, but it's only one phrase. Besides, I know there are some cunning linguists on this board (Did I just say that? Yes, I did, bitches) that may be able to help me with this one...
and finally, I wanna help an old lady cross the street. That's it. You know, traffic is worse than ever. Old ladies don't deserve to be run down by inconsiderate assholes who run red lights while receiving cancer emissions from their trendy Bluetooth(tm) compatible headsets. That shit's just wrong, man...
These are some of the things I wanna do this year and I should have no problem doing them because I've learned enough from this board to know it's all about frame control and I've got massive frame control in my Buffalo Stance.
If anyone would be willing to assist me in my endeavors, please feel free to send me an e-mail, off-line, and we'll plot.
Otherwise, to quote Stewie Griffin's prayer on the recent Saving Private Brian episode of Family Guy(tm) "Dear God (pause), just stay out of our way!"
Peace and Love,
Fidelio
Monday, January 22, 2007
Comfort Thresholds
Comfort like anything else has boundaries or as i like to call them thresholds.
We use to adhere to the 7 hour rule, but as we got better and better at the game, the 7 hour rule starts to melt away and instead was replaced by this theory.
In order to get a woman comfortable enough to have sex with you without LMR, you must be able to raise her comfort threshold, from comfortable not talking to you, to comfortable to talking to you, to comfortable isolating with you, to comfortable qualifying herself to you, to comfortable relocating with you to comfortable kissing you..... all the way to sex.
Well what are comfort thresholds you may be asking, Dictionary.com defines a threshold thusly;
4. Also called limen. Psychology, Physiology. the point at which a stimulus is of sufficient intensity to begin to produce an effect: the threshold of consciousness; a low threshold of pain.
The place at which a stimulus(you) is of sufficient intensity(comfort) to begin to produce an effect(moving forward.)
So the threshold is the level at which she is comfortable enough to move forward.
For the sake of game, we define comfort as merely the lack of discomfort. For example if you are in a room and you don't notice the temperature, the room is said to be comfortable, if you are hot or cold, it is not.
Every woman is a unique puzzle waiting to be solved, including their specific comfort thresholds, I have had sex with women as fast as 30 minutes from meeting them to as much as 30 hours into interaction. Every woman moves at her own pace, and it is important to recognize the way points and signals that she is giving you as to where her comfort is.
The best way to judge comfort thresholds, is to test for them physically. Most of kino escalation, is about gathering information as to where her thresholds of touching are. A woman, can tell you she likes you and wants o have sex with you, but her muscular tension can't lie.
Anytime you sense any hesitation or stiffness in a woman while interacting with her, she is broadcasting a message and that message is I"M UNCOMFORTABLE. And thus she wants us to alleviate her discomfort.
A funny look off the opener is her way of telling you that she is not yet comfortable with you talking to her, an upturned hand on a kino test means she isn't yet comfortable with you holding her hand, her refusal of a bounce means she is not ready to be in a new location with you, her refusing to come back up to your apartment means that she isn't yet ready to be alone in a possibly sexual situation with you.
So how do we increase her comfort? The key is to go all the way to the threshold and then pull back. Because everytime you go tot the line and release, you are demonstrating that she can trust you to not make her uncomfortable, which allows her to relax and let you go a little bit further as she realizes that she is in control of the pacing of the courtship.
Everytime, you move back, the comfort threshold goes a little bit higher until ultimately she is comfortable enough to have sex and see you again afterwards.
This seems really complex and I may have to edit it, as is I think only Future, Savoy and CJ will get this...
S
We use to adhere to the 7 hour rule, but as we got better and better at the game, the 7 hour rule starts to melt away and instead was replaced by this theory.
In order to get a woman comfortable enough to have sex with you without LMR, you must be able to raise her comfort threshold, from comfortable not talking to you, to comfortable to talking to you, to comfortable isolating with you, to comfortable qualifying herself to you, to comfortable relocating with you to comfortable kissing you..... all the way to sex.
Well what are comfort thresholds you may be asking, Dictionary.com defines a threshold thusly;
4. Also called limen. Psychology, Physiology. the point at which a stimulus is of sufficient intensity to begin to produce an effect: the threshold of consciousness; a low threshold of pain.
The place at which a stimulus(you) is of sufficient intensity(comfort) to begin to produce an effect(moving forward.)
So the threshold is the level at which she is comfortable enough to move forward.
For the sake of game, we define comfort as merely the lack of discomfort. For example if you are in a room and you don't notice the temperature, the room is said to be comfortable, if you are hot or cold, it is not.
Every woman is a unique puzzle waiting to be solved, including their specific comfort thresholds, I have had sex with women as fast as 30 minutes from meeting them to as much as 30 hours into interaction. Every woman moves at her own pace, and it is important to recognize the way points and signals that she is giving you as to where her comfort is.
The best way to judge comfort thresholds, is to test for them physically. Most of kino escalation, is about gathering information as to where her thresholds of touching are. A woman, can tell you she likes you and wants o have sex with you, but her muscular tension can't lie.
Anytime you sense any hesitation or stiffness in a woman while interacting with her, she is broadcasting a message and that message is I"M UNCOMFORTABLE. And thus she wants us to alleviate her discomfort.
A funny look off the opener is her way of telling you that she is not yet comfortable with you talking to her, an upturned hand on a kino test means she isn't yet comfortable with you holding her hand, her refusal of a bounce means she is not ready to be in a new location with you, her refusing to come back up to your apartment means that she isn't yet ready to be alone in a possibly sexual situation with you.
So how do we increase her comfort? The key is to go all the way to the threshold and then pull back. Because everytime you go tot the line and release, you are demonstrating that she can trust you to not make her uncomfortable, which allows her to relax and let you go a little bit further as she realizes that she is in control of the pacing of the courtship.
Everytime, you move back, the comfort threshold goes a little bit higher until ultimately she is comfortable enough to have sex and see you again afterwards.
This seems really complex and I may have to edit it, as is I think only Future, Savoy and CJ will get this...
S
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