So I'm in Dallas teaching Strippers and Hired Guns and Day game. And I'm sick as hell....
I finish the DG program on Saturday around 6 and head to grab a bite with CJ and Fidelio(Who might be the funniest guy ever). We eat chill out for a bit before we head to uptown. We go to two venues that are packed, but no real attracive sets. We stand around a bit and we keep getting bumped as everyone and their moms is trying to move around in a bar designed for about 200 people with 600 in it. We decide to bounce. CJ is already tipsy despite the fact that he was supposed to be staying sober.
We decide to go to a bar on the outskirts of Dallas. Not a great venue as it was a little loud and WAY too crowded. It was so crowded that i literally started to feel claustraphobic, I started to feel really smushed together and weird. it was majorly affecting my state. So I finally move to an area of open space over by the dance floor in front of the live music. CJ goes into set, but I'm still way too uncomfortable. It was a really really weird feeling. I stand around like a spare dick at a wedding for a couple more minutes until I see a 2 set wander a few feet away from me.
A word on how I was dressed as opposed to the rest of the dallas chodes in Striped shirts. I was wearing fairly normal clothes a blazer with spray-painted skulls, a pink tee and some jeans. But I have the most powerful haircut in the game. The Mo-hullet. Half mohawk, half mullet, all gangster. So I stand out a little bit. Despite the fact that there are at least 5 other guys who have mullets, but theirs are for real, not hip and irreverent, like mine.
I open the 2 set and I run absolutely no routines after the opener. the target Big_uns is asking me how old I am, and I tell her 24, she's 34. WTF? I had NO clue, she looked about 24 and had made a comment earlier about how she and her friend had known each other since college, but it wasn;t that long ago... I go straight into claibration game, no routines. I simply ask afc questions and based on her answers I IOI, IOD, or DHV. I try to run CJ's strawberry fields, but I sense that I am losing her so I switch back to asking questions and making statemnts. I try to bring fidelio in to work the obstacle, but he opts out. CJ was in set, but suddenly I see the Long Dong Silver pull into port and CJ comes in to instantly isolate the obstacle, leaving me in isolation. Nice.
Side note there were quite a few students there last night including Priest and another guy from the Austin program. it was good to see you guys again. Keep working on your game guys, both of you have a ton of potential. Sorry i didn't say hi, I was pretty freaked out most of the night and then I was in set. I owe you both a beer next time.
So I make-out with her, and start thinking logisitics, earlier tonight CJ and I had a conversation about how none of us want to time-bridge as I live in LA, CJ hates driving and Fidelio lives like an hour away. So we start planning the pull. CJ comes back with the obstacle and I hear mention of an after hours place. So it's on. We pull the girls out, send Fidelio back to the pirate pad with the car and get into the most disgusting car I have ever seen a girl drive. My girl was 5'3 and she could not sit straight because there was soo much shite in the back seat of her car.
CJ's girl's blood sugar or soemthing got low so we had to head to CVS, they both run in and I start escalating in the backseat. They come back as I have my hand down her pants. Whoops. We start heading to the after hours place, but on the way CJ(the master of the pull) starts a brillant campaign. He says " Let's stop by my place and pick up some alcohol, cuz they stop serving at 2 but they let you bring you're own until 4." So we now head the 30 minutes to the pirate pad.
BTW the pirate pad was in complete disarray as I have been staying on an inflatable mattress on the floor. and have my clothes in my suitcase as you head inside. So we get inside and the girls go to the bathroom, then I throw on an episode of the office and we settle into the couch and love seat respectively. About 30 mins in CJ isolates to his bedroom, and i start escalating on the couch, until we almost fall off. Relocate to the inflatable mattress. Which is not made for 2. I get her pants off and encounter LMR. Great, my NY's resolution is that I no longer deal with LMR so I just start to "take care of myself" and when I'm done I cuddle with her and go to sleep. I wake up a half hour later and decide I'll try to reinitiate. I go to the bathroom to wash my hands, and as I'm in there I hear CJ's girl come out and ask my girl if she wants to stay. She does, so I assum it is O-N. I go back start kissing her back and bada-bing bada boom it's over. I do not reccomend having sex on an inflatable mattress as it's not really the most stable surface or comfortable. Funny side note- CJ's girl goes into the bathroom while we are doing the deed in broad view and my girl wants to stop, then as soon as the light goes back off she jumps me.
Meanwhile after we finsih I hear the springs on CJ's bed making the loudest noises I have ever heard in my entire life. I may be moving to Dallas so this could be the first of many double lays from me and the good captain. I never really write LR's but I though this one was interesting as a study of how you can overcome bad logistics(long drive, dirty house, no real bed,) by having a strong frame and moving forward congruently. It was also funny to bang a girl on the inflatable mattress. Really funny considering that she was not some 21 year old... Overall an enjoyable night.
In fact the only static that i had in the entire set was when i attempted to do some half ass advanced comfort and the girl did not buy it. To which i responded that i can't be nice to her and proceded to tell her she smelled and was gross. HA!
Sunday, January 21, 2007
Thursday, January 18, 2007
Advanced Comfort
This is really the most exciting stuff that I've ever run into in the community, if you guys were lucky enough to be in NY for Day game a month ago, or Phoenix, or NY this last weekend you guys have gotten a taste of Advanced Comfort.
How this system came to be was as Future and I have become better friends, I would notice that he was getting reactions from girls unlike ANYTHING I had ever seen before, basically girls fell MADLY in love with him. He also didn't get LMR and converted every day 2. in fact recently he helped me when I was having some problems with HB perfect stripper. The guy's comfort game is better than ANYONE I've seen.
So I started to look at what exactly he was doing and over the course of about 6 months we have backwards engineered comfort to produce THE EXACT SAME RESULTS. It truly is the most powerful system I have ever seen for making woman truly crazy about you. Here's a brief preview, plus a couple of new things I noticed tonight. This system was responsible for 16 lays of mine in late June early July of last year.
1. Passion/Purpose- You must be able to convey to her convincingly that you are a man of a greater purpose. That you are going places she will want to be. You are driven to pursue your life goals and do so without any sort of hesitation. In fact your purpose has driven you to become pre-selected by women, a leader of men and a protector of your loved ones.
2. Seeing her the way she wants to be seen. Every woman has a purpose that she secretly strives to achieve. there is a reason why she does what she does, or doesn't do what she wants to. Find out what this value is and you will be able to give her the most amazing compliments she has ever heard. She needs to feel that you see her, as the person that little girl inside her yearns to be.
3. Hot/Cold. The hot comes in the form of the most amazing compliments she has ever heard, the cold comes in the form of SMALL releases. I.E you are absolutely amazing and whatever you want to be I can see you doing that because of x,y and z. Too bad you're such a douche bag. The key is that you do not tell her that she doesn't have what it takes to be who she wants to become.
4. Future Projections- This is different from future adventure projections, which are silly. These are plans that you are making with her anytime from a week to a year down the road, that show her that you are a man of action and she can come along if she wishes.
5. Emotional Honesty- The second part of future plans, is that EVERYTHING that you say you are going to do, you must do. If she ever feels that you are not truthful, the entire power of Advanced Comfort will be lost as she will not believe that you actually see her that way. She will think you are just trying to get into her pants.
6. Whirlwind Courtship- Advanced comfort breaks the rules of only seeing a woman once a week or talking to her once a day. In fact the more time you log, the more powerful the method is as it is further reinforcing your legitimacy.
7. The feeling that both of you are bound for greatness and you are on the same path. The key to this is to show her that you are going to be someone AMAZING, then ratifying that she can be someone amazing and helping her on her path. pushing her in the right directions the way someone did for you earlier. You guys are on the same path, you just happen to be further along.
This is all based on stuff that Future did naturally that I have backwards engineered. This is the real deal. Technology is morally neutral but if you have an undertanding of this, I implore you guys not to use it the wrong way.
This will become a product and a stand alone seminar soon. But I wanted to get this out of my head while I was thinking about it.
How this system came to be was as Future and I have become better friends, I would notice that he was getting reactions from girls unlike ANYTHING I had ever seen before, basically girls fell MADLY in love with him. He also didn't get LMR and converted every day 2. in fact recently he helped me when I was having some problems with HB perfect stripper. The guy's comfort game is better than ANYONE I've seen.
So I started to look at what exactly he was doing and over the course of about 6 months we have backwards engineered comfort to produce THE EXACT SAME RESULTS. It truly is the most powerful system I have ever seen for making woman truly crazy about you. Here's a brief preview, plus a couple of new things I noticed tonight. This system was responsible for 16 lays of mine in late June early July of last year.
1. Passion/Purpose- You must be able to convey to her convincingly that you are a man of a greater purpose. That you are going places she will want to be. You are driven to pursue your life goals and do so without any sort of hesitation. In fact your purpose has driven you to become pre-selected by women, a leader of men and a protector of your loved ones.
2. Seeing her the way she wants to be seen. Every woman has a purpose that she secretly strives to achieve. there is a reason why she does what she does, or doesn't do what she wants to. Find out what this value is and you will be able to give her the most amazing compliments she has ever heard. She needs to feel that you see her, as the person that little girl inside her yearns to be.
3. Hot/Cold. The hot comes in the form of the most amazing compliments she has ever heard, the cold comes in the form of SMALL releases. I.E you are absolutely amazing and whatever you want to be I can see you doing that because of x,y and z. Too bad you're such a douche bag. The key is that you do not tell her that she doesn't have what it takes to be who she wants to become.
4. Future Projections- This is different from future adventure projections, which are silly. These are plans that you are making with her anytime from a week to a year down the road, that show her that you are a man of action and she can come along if she wishes.
5. Emotional Honesty- The second part of future plans, is that EVERYTHING that you say you are going to do, you must do. If she ever feels that you are not truthful, the entire power of Advanced Comfort will be lost as she will not believe that you actually see her that way. She will think you are just trying to get into her pants.
6. Whirlwind Courtship- Advanced comfort breaks the rules of only seeing a woman once a week or talking to her once a day. In fact the more time you log, the more powerful the method is as it is further reinforcing your legitimacy.
7. The feeling that both of you are bound for greatness and you are on the same path. The key to this is to show her that you are going to be someone AMAZING, then ratifying that she can be someone amazing and helping her on her path. pushing her in the right directions the way someone did for you earlier. You guys are on the same path, you just happen to be further along.
This is all based on stuff that Future did naturally that I have backwards engineered. This is the real deal. Technology is morally neutral but if you have an undertanding of this, I implore you guys not to use it the wrong way.
This will become a product and a stand alone seminar soon. But I wanted to get this out of my head while I was thinking about it.
Wednesday, January 17, 2007
Product Review Double Your Dating
Hey guys,
Here's the second review in my series of reviews on community products;
DYD will always have a very special place in my heart, as it was the first thing that I ever read when i found "The Community".
David D has a TON of products and stuff now, but when I first started there was only the DYD book. The first time I read it I remember being overwhelmed by the information, there was soo much I was trying to remember. Upon reading it again recently, there were still some things that I want to remember to do:
1. answering any request a woman makes with no first,
2. focusing on making my character funny rather than the things I am saying
3. setting the overall frame that she is trying to pick me up
This book is also where the BEST date advice ever came from. The idea that everytime you go out with a woman, you shoud make her meet you at your place, show her around, not make a move on her then rush her out. The idea being that you get her comfortable seeing your place, so she will be comfortable going back there later.
The intro and evolutionary stuff in the begginng of the book is good, and gives a basic intro to some of the science behind attraction. The rest of the book is divided into some tactical stuff and some bigger picture concepts.
The best part of this book is the idea of "Cocky and Funny" as an attraction tool. And as far as attraction tools go, you will have difficulty finding much better ones. In fact "Cocky and Funny" has become so engrained in the general jargon of PUA terms that it's hard to remember that this is the book that started it all. It's also written in a very clear, precise and easy to understand style. It's a book you could give to a guy walking down the street and it would help him to attract women.
This really is one of the best starting off places for guys looking to improve their success with women and dating. It's also worth getting if you've been in the game awhile and want to brush up on some fundamentals. The best part is that the book is super affordable (19.95) so even if you only leanr one new thing, it's a bargain
To get it go here
Here's the second review in my series of reviews on community products;
DYD will always have a very special place in my heart, as it was the first thing that I ever read when i found "The Community".
David D has a TON of products and stuff now, but when I first started there was only the DYD book. The first time I read it I remember being overwhelmed by the information, there was soo much I was trying to remember. Upon reading it again recently, there were still some things that I want to remember to do:
1. answering any request a woman makes with no first,
2. focusing on making my character funny rather than the things I am saying
3. setting the overall frame that she is trying to pick me up
This book is also where the BEST date advice ever came from. The idea that everytime you go out with a woman, you shoud make her meet you at your place, show her around, not make a move on her then rush her out. The idea being that you get her comfortable seeing your place, so she will be comfortable going back there later.
The intro and evolutionary stuff in the begginng of the book is good, and gives a basic intro to some of the science behind attraction. The rest of the book is divided into some tactical stuff and some bigger picture concepts.
The best part of this book is the idea of "Cocky and Funny" as an attraction tool. And as far as attraction tools go, you will have difficulty finding much better ones. In fact "Cocky and Funny" has become so engrained in the general jargon of PUA terms that it's hard to remember that this is the book that started it all. It's also written in a very clear, precise and easy to understand style. It's a book you could give to a guy walking down the street and it would help him to attract women.
This really is one of the best starting off places for guys looking to improve their success with women and dating. It's also worth getting if you've been in the game awhile and want to brush up on some fundamentals. The best part is that the book is super affordable (19.95) so even if you only leanr one new thing, it's a bargain
To get it go here
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
DRAMA ALERT!!!!
I just got a call from lawgirl, and she's going to be meeting us around 10:30 after her law meeting, nothing that exciting. So i'm talking to Future and the following dialiogue happens:
Sinn: "I really like her"
Future: She's got a boyfriend."
Sinn: "All girls have boyfriends"
Future: No a real serious boyfriend. Her friend told me last night, cause i asked her why she was pawing at you but seemed to be holding back. She said"she's got a boyfriend and I'm not going to cock block, cause I don't care, but yeah she's got a boyfriend."
Sinn: Weird, I guess Captain Jack was right. They just don't tell me"
I pride myself on dating only single girls and CJ always fucks with me by saying they are just not telling me. But now we have real live proof that i am going to be contributing to cheating. I hate that... but I do actually like this girl and she could definetly be my NY girl... Decisions,decisions.
S
Sinn: "I really like her"
Future: She's got a boyfriend."
Sinn: "All girls have boyfriends"
Future: No a real serious boyfriend. Her friend told me last night, cause i asked her why she was pawing at you but seemed to be holding back. She said"she's got a boyfriend and I'm not going to cock block, cause I don't care, but yeah she's got a boyfriend."
Sinn: Weird, I guess Captain Jack was right. They just don't tell me"
I pride myself on dating only single girls and CJ always fucks with me by saying they are just not telling me. But now we have real live proof that i am going to be contributing to cheating. I hate that... but I do actually like this girl and she could definetly be my NY girl... Decisions,decisions.
S
I always have women around...
Recently I have noticed a really interesting phenomenon, everywhere I go, I end up on AT least 1 day2.
Last night Future, and I went to do comedy and along tagged "lawgirl" a law student that I had met the previous night with Future and Celebspartan in a lower east side bar. She's AWESOME! She's cute and smart and super sarcastic. I'm loving the quality of women I have been involved with lately, I'm meeting some really amazing, smart, together girls. And Shorty. But we'll get back to her later.
So we went to comedy and Lawgirl brought a friend we'll call her the clinger as she was all over Futre after some gaming.
We did some stand up, moved upstairs to the bar above our lovely open mic, where we talked with David L Ross( of "hooking up" fame) about some projects he's interested in us working on. Then we bounced to a $3 dollar beer bar where the drinking continued before a trip to the Comedy Cellar.
Just from a game perspective you have to be aware of venue changes and multiple venue loops. the more venues that you spend time with a woman in, the more comfortable she will be with you. Last night we went to 5 different venues in the course of about 6 hours.
So at this point of the night both of us have been making out with our respective girls, and we have to decide what we are going to do logistically.
Now I am staying at Future's and it is a disaster, I am really messy and the two of us have been living a pretty debaucherous lifestyle since i got in... so pulling here wasn't going to happen, so at about 1:30 we cut the Day2. And now tonight I am going over to her place " to watch a movie". It's really important to minimize factors that can wreck dates.. had we brought them back to the war zone, they would have been grossed out and nothing would have materialized further, but because we cut it,now I have a day 3 tonight which has moved from less intrusive to more intrusive.
It's very important to go on a lot of dates, so that you can gather a knowledge base of situations and how they turn out. We had brought girls over a couple of nights earlier and based on the size of the apartment and the condition of it, both of us closing there was not really an option. So again sometimes solid game means waiting and we ended the date on our terms which has led to Lawgirl texting me all last night and all day today. Leading to our upcoming date tonight.
Patience is a virtue and trying to force things, very rarely works.
S
Last night Future, and I went to do comedy and along tagged "lawgirl" a law student that I had met the previous night with Future and Celebspartan in a lower east side bar. She's AWESOME! She's cute and smart and super sarcastic. I'm loving the quality of women I have been involved with lately, I'm meeting some really amazing, smart, together girls. And Shorty. But we'll get back to her later.
So we went to comedy and Lawgirl brought a friend we'll call her the clinger as she was all over Futre after some gaming.
We did some stand up, moved upstairs to the bar above our lovely open mic, where we talked with David L Ross( of "hooking up" fame) about some projects he's interested in us working on. Then we bounced to a $3 dollar beer bar where the drinking continued before a trip to the Comedy Cellar.
Just from a game perspective you have to be aware of venue changes and multiple venue loops. the more venues that you spend time with a woman in, the more comfortable she will be with you. Last night we went to 5 different venues in the course of about 6 hours.
So at this point of the night both of us have been making out with our respective girls, and we have to decide what we are going to do logistically.
Now I am staying at Future's and it is a disaster, I am really messy and the two of us have been living a pretty debaucherous lifestyle since i got in... so pulling here wasn't going to happen, so at about 1:30 we cut the Day2. And now tonight I am going over to her place " to watch a movie". It's really important to minimize factors that can wreck dates.. had we brought them back to the war zone, they would have been grossed out and nothing would have materialized further, but because we cut it,now I have a day 3 tonight which has moved from less intrusive to more intrusive.
It's very important to go on a lot of dates, so that you can gather a knowledge base of situations and how they turn out. We had brought girls over a couple of nights earlier and based on the size of the apartment and the condition of it, both of us closing there was not really an option. So again sometimes solid game means waiting and we ended the date on our terms which has led to Lawgirl texting me all last night and all day today. Leading to our upcoming date tonight.
Patience is a virtue and trying to force things, very rarely works.
S
Sunday, January 14, 2007
Why I should never bet with Savoy
So I lost my bet with Savoy about the Colts scoring less than 10 points, so with out further ado here is my essay about how Peyton Manning is not actually that bad, he just gets in the playoffs and plays better teams in bad weather. In fact Peyton has put up some of the most impressive displays of offense in the playoffs. In fact against notable powerhouse Defense Kansas City this year he ONLY threw 3 interceptions, while completing 30 of 38 passes for 0 touchdowns. But hey only 8 incompleteions.
Manning has been markedly improved this year as evidenced by the 1 touchdown and 5 interceptions thrown this year. The Cots are 2-0 carried on the backs of manning's impressive 39.6 QB rating against Baltimore and 40 something rating against the Chiefs. Certainly some of the most impressive wins for a team whose quarterback was resembling Danny Wuerfull(former Heisman trophy winner) not in college but in the pros.
In fact never has a quarterback been so domainant since Savoy destroyed me at rock , paper, scissors. If you read the OAP(which is awesome) you will have heard about our epic opening exercise, where we opened a ton of sets while playing rock, paper scissors for drinks. Well Savoy won handidly. I fact the only thing that Savoy is better than RPS than is picking up blondes. He is a GOD among men and will be remebered, not just for his dorky board game skills or his Work-aholicness, but for his RPS skills.
Manning has been extremely clutch this weekend with his 0% percent success rate in the red zone. In fact his 39.6 passer rating was still 39.6 points higher than Rex grossman's game aginst Green Bay and Grossman finds himself in the NFC championship. Therefore I think it's safe to CLEARLy state that Peyton Manning is better than Rex Grossman... in the regular season.
So in conclusion I was wrong and Peyton Manning has showed what he is REALLY made of this past two weekends. He has shown the poise of Tom Cruise on Day time TV, the strength of Gary Coleman, and the vision of Ray Charles. Now as long as he doesn't have to play the Patriots he is assured of his first Super Bowl appearence. And I for one can't wait.. Oh the Patriots beat the Chargers... Well better luck next year Peyton. But I have surely learned my lesson and will not bet with Savoy again.. atleast until i'm back in LA.
S
Manning has been markedly improved this year as evidenced by the 1 touchdown and 5 interceptions thrown this year. The Cots are 2-0 carried on the backs of manning's impressive 39.6 QB rating against Baltimore and 40 something rating against the Chiefs. Certainly some of the most impressive wins for a team whose quarterback was resembling Danny Wuerfull(former Heisman trophy winner) not in college but in the pros.
In fact never has a quarterback been so domainant since Savoy destroyed me at rock , paper, scissors. If you read the OAP(which is awesome) you will have heard about our epic opening exercise, where we opened a ton of sets while playing rock, paper scissors for drinks. Well Savoy won handidly. I fact the only thing that Savoy is better than RPS than is picking up blondes. He is a GOD among men and will be remebered, not just for his dorky board game skills or his Work-aholicness, but for his RPS skills.
Manning has been extremely clutch this weekend with his 0% percent success rate in the red zone. In fact his 39.6 passer rating was still 39.6 points higher than Rex grossman's game aginst Green Bay and Grossman finds himself in the NFC championship. Therefore I think it's safe to CLEARLy state that Peyton Manning is better than Rex Grossman... in the regular season.
So in conclusion I was wrong and Peyton Manning has showed what he is REALLY made of this past two weekends. He has shown the poise of Tom Cruise on Day time TV, the strength of Gary Coleman, and the vision of Ray Charles. Now as long as he doesn't have to play the Patriots he is assured of his first Super Bowl appearence. And I for one can't wait.. Oh the Patriots beat the Chargers... Well better luck next year Peyton. But I have surely learned my lesson and will not bet with Savoy again.. atleast until i'm back in LA.
S
Friday, January 12, 2007
Song Lyrics of the week... Yes for obvious reasons.
Yes this is as transparent as it seems....
Dixie Chicks
"Not ready to make nice"
Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting
I'm through, with doubt,
There's nothing left for me to figure out,
I've paid a price, and i'll keep paying
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
I know you said
Why can't you just get over it,
It turned my whole world around
and i kind of like it
I made by bed, and I sleep like a baby,
With no regrets and I don't mind saying,
It's a sad sad story
That a mother will teach her daughter
that she ought to hate a perfect stranger.
And how in the world
Can the words that I said
Send somebody so over the edge
That they'd write me a letter
Saying that I better shut up and sing
Or my life will be over
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting
Dixie Chicks
"Not ready to make nice"
Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting
I'm through, with doubt,
There's nothing left for me to figure out,
I've paid a price, and i'll keep paying
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
I know you said
Why can't you just get over it,
It turned my whole world around
and i kind of like it
I made by bed, and I sleep like a baby,
With no regrets and I don't mind saying,
It's a sad sad story
That a mother will teach her daughter
that she ought to hate a perfect stranger.
And how in the world
Can the words that I said
Send somebody so over the edge
That they'd write me a letter
Saying that I better shut up and sing
Or my life will be over
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting
Thursday, January 11, 2007
Community watchdogging
Hey guys,
I've always believed that the community can do so much for people. I know it's changed my life in SO many ways, but I would like to see some standards imposed on people who teach, and products that are released.
I personally consider the community a hobby and as such, like to stay well versed in all the various methods. I am really familiar with the teachings of SS,DYD,RSD,Juggler,PU101, etc.. and I like to stay current with the new innovations other companies are making.
My problem arises when someone with questionable credentials, starts a method offering magic pills and outlandish claims. I would love to see an independent agency put together to moderate the community and create a non biased database of infor from customers of the various methods. Meaning what success did it bring you, how skilled were the instructors, how much of it was new material vs recycled other stuff. I know that i cannot be involved in any official capacity as I am very biased, but I would love to hep someone set this up.
I also will be reviewing all the programs that I have watched, read etc.. I guess I already started with the October Man, so my second review will be VERY suprising and should be up by Tuesday of next week.
Anyone interested in starting a watchdog organization either leave a comment or email me, as I have quite a few ideas for how to do this...
S
I've always believed that the community can do so much for people. I know it's changed my life in SO many ways, but I would like to see some standards imposed on people who teach, and products that are released.
I personally consider the community a hobby and as such, like to stay well versed in all the various methods. I am really familiar with the teachings of SS,DYD,RSD,Juggler,PU101, etc.. and I like to stay current with the new innovations other companies are making.
My problem arises when someone with questionable credentials, starts a method offering magic pills and outlandish claims. I would love to see an independent agency put together to moderate the community and create a non biased database of infor from customers of the various methods. Meaning what success did it bring you, how skilled were the instructors, how much of it was new material vs recycled other stuff. I know that i cannot be involved in any official capacity as I am very biased, but I would love to hep someone set this up.
I also will be reviewing all the programs that I have watched, read etc.. I guess I already started with the October Man, so my second review will be VERY suprising and should be up by Tuesday of next week.
Anyone interested in starting a watchdog organization either leave a comment or email me, as I have quite a few ideas for how to do this...
S
Wednesday, January 10, 2007
Observational Transitions
Observational transitions
At The Mystery Method we have recently added a new piece to the recently revised model.
The most important new addition is that of a transition phase between Opening and Attraction. This transitional phase will generally take the form of an observation about the girl or group of people. The observations can be canned such as mini cold reads, actual cold reads, Interactive Value Demonstrations( Like Best Friends Test), or they can even be qualification pings( I will write a post on qualification pinging later).
For a long time Mystery said that the best transition was no transition. The classic example of this coming when in seminar while talking about stacking forward( The act of cutting a conversational thread and starting a new one) He Would ask “ Have you ever been to the Hollywood sign.” Then he would continue to tell a story about the Hollywood sign. He said the best transition is no transition. This is 100% wrong as evidenced by his own example. The question “ Have you ever been to the Hollywood sign?” Is in fact a transition. It changes the subject but it changes it by getting the group to answer a question about something else.
The whole idea of transitioning is simply to move off you’re opener to avoid having a 20 minute conversation about Jealous Girlfriend or whatever other opener you have run. The best way to do this to act like you just noticed that they made the same facial expressions or that she has a U shaped smile etc….
The key is to make it seem like you were about to leave after the opener, FTC, and neg, but something you noticed about them makes you stick around, you follow that up with the classic information gathering question “ How do you all know each other?”
Hope this helps.
S
At The Mystery Method we have recently added a new piece to the recently revised model.
The most important new addition is that of a transition phase between Opening and Attraction. This transitional phase will generally take the form of an observation about the girl or group of people. The observations can be canned such as mini cold reads, actual cold reads, Interactive Value Demonstrations( Like Best Friends Test), or they can even be qualification pings( I will write a post on qualification pinging later).
For a long time Mystery said that the best transition was no transition. The classic example of this coming when in seminar while talking about stacking forward( The act of cutting a conversational thread and starting a new one) He Would ask “ Have you ever been to the Hollywood sign.” Then he would continue to tell a story about the Hollywood sign. He said the best transition is no transition. This is 100% wrong as evidenced by his own example. The question “ Have you ever been to the Hollywood sign?” Is in fact a transition. It changes the subject but it changes it by getting the group to answer a question about something else.
The whole idea of transitioning is simply to move off you’re opener to avoid having a 20 minute conversation about Jealous Girlfriend or whatever other opener you have run. The best way to do this to act like you just noticed that they made the same facial expressions or that she has a U shaped smile etc….
The key is to make it seem like you were about to leave after the opener, FTC, and neg, but something you noticed about them makes you stick around, you follow that up with the classic information gathering question “ How do you all know each other?”
Hope this helps.
S
WOW...
I just got back from my day 2 with the Miami Stripper from here on referred to as HB perfect. She is AMAZING. Before tonight , I simply felt that she was the most beautiful woman I had ever met. Tonite I realized that she is also smart and sweet and as close to perfect as I ever thought Dino girl was.
Our D2 started at 2:30 Am after she got off work. It never escalated past hand holding, and it was the right call, as I do not want to just posses her body, I want to possess her entirely. I want her to be mine completely. I am not out to get laid with her, I am out to make her my GF and possibly more.. I have never had these kinds of thoughts about a woman this early, they are irrational I realize this. But she will be mine. We have connected at a level that I rarely connect with women on. It felt more like hanging out with a long lost best friend than it did a date.
We both travel far too much, and we both have horrible lifestyles, but I can’t imagine it not working. She feels it too, she constantly talks about how similar we are and how amazing I am. I see the same things in her. I want her to follow her dreams and enroll at FIDM, I want her to trust herself more and follow her dreams, but I can’t make her. I can’t do anything to force the situation nor will I try. She knows I leave for NY on Thursday and she is sad. I know she’ll be in Northern CA when I get back. It will be hard to make this work, but I’m faithful. I can’t be attached to the outcome as that would be the kiss of death, but I want to be.
I got a BJ in the bathroom from a girl I am seeing earlier tonight at a bar in Hollywood, I am seeing Shorty tomor, and V when I get to Dallas, I’m sure that NY and the Bootcamp there will lead to more women, but my thoughts will be of her. She has haunted me before strictly based on her looks, tonight she invaded me completely. I’m not in love, but I am infatuated with this woman, I’m not supposed to have these thoughts. Thoughts cloud action and stop me from stepping back and assessing the situation, yet tonight I cut threads and changed venues effortlessly, I got her home with me, but she had already mentioned how tired she was and how she had to get home, so I kicked her out while she was still checking out my place. I did not succomb to my biggest sticking point impatience, instead I chose solid game. There will come a time when we ravish each other, it just wasn’t tonight. And unlike other nights when I would have forced things I realized that the greater goal is making her mine. And tonight will go a long way toward making that happen.
S
Our D2 started at 2:30 Am after she got off work. It never escalated past hand holding, and it was the right call, as I do not want to just posses her body, I want to possess her entirely. I want her to be mine completely. I am not out to get laid with her, I am out to make her my GF and possibly more.. I have never had these kinds of thoughts about a woman this early, they are irrational I realize this. But she will be mine. We have connected at a level that I rarely connect with women on. It felt more like hanging out with a long lost best friend than it did a date.
We both travel far too much, and we both have horrible lifestyles, but I can’t imagine it not working. She feels it too, she constantly talks about how similar we are and how amazing I am. I see the same things in her. I want her to follow her dreams and enroll at FIDM, I want her to trust herself more and follow her dreams, but I can’t make her. I can’t do anything to force the situation nor will I try. She knows I leave for NY on Thursday and she is sad. I know she’ll be in Northern CA when I get back. It will be hard to make this work, but I’m faithful. I can’t be attached to the outcome as that would be the kiss of death, but I want to be.
I got a BJ in the bathroom from a girl I am seeing earlier tonight at a bar in Hollywood, I am seeing Shorty tomor, and V when I get to Dallas, I’m sure that NY and the Bootcamp there will lead to more women, but my thoughts will be of her. She has haunted me before strictly based on her looks, tonight she invaded me completely. I’m not in love, but I am infatuated with this woman, I’m not supposed to have these thoughts. Thoughts cloud action and stop me from stepping back and assessing the situation, yet tonight I cut threads and changed venues effortlessly, I got her home with me, but she had already mentioned how tired she was and how she had to get home, so I kicked her out while she was still checking out my place. I did not succomb to my biggest sticking point impatience, instead I chose solid game. There will come a time when we ravish each other, it just wasn’t tonight. And unlike other nights when I would have forced things I realized that the greater goal is making her mine. And tonight will go a long way toward making that happen.
S
Monday, January 08, 2007
Savoy's Challenge and stakes
I have predicted the Colts scoring 10 points against the Ravens D.
Savoy has challenged me on that and proposed a week of name changes on our respective blogs(His is Therealsavoy.blogspot.com) so mine would be the real sinn. That's a lame challenge.
I propose instead that WHEN the Colts are held to 10 points or less, Savoy will have to write a 5 paragraph essay on why Tom Brady is better than Peyton Manning in every conceivable way. Including at least 5 mentions of Manning's choking. The esssay will then be published on his blog under the title "Sinn was right". I can't even imagine losing but in some alternative universe where Manning doesn't suck and they score more than 10 I will write an essay on the reverse(which still won't make it true).
Bring it on Savoy!
S
Savoy has challenged me on that and proposed a week of name changes on our respective blogs(His is Therealsavoy.blogspot.com) so mine would be the real sinn. That's a lame challenge.
I propose instead that WHEN the Colts are held to 10 points or less, Savoy will have to write a 5 paragraph essay on why Tom Brady is better than Peyton Manning in every conceivable way. Including at least 5 mentions of Manning's choking. The esssay will then be published on his blog under the title "Sinn was right". I can't even imagine losing but in some alternative universe where Manning doesn't suck and they score more than 10 I will write an essay on the reverse(which still won't make it true).
Bring it on Savoy!
S
Sunday, January 07, 2007
Tom Brady is a grown ass man...
So first round of the playoffs, went pretty much as expected, barring the melt down by Tony Romo.
Peyton Manning looked like shit, and Tom Brady looked like a 2 time super bowl MVP. If you read Savoy's blog, you probably saw his account of my arguing with him about how much Peyton Manning sucks in the playoffs. 3 INTs against the Chiefs? You know the ravens are licking their chops watching that performance.
Then today, i saw Tom brady leading a couple of great drives, granted they were against the Jets D, but nonetheless, he didn't turn it over against a team with a much better D than the Chiefs.
Tom Brady is fucking gangster, I hope that one day people will appreciate Brady as the one of the best QBs of all time. He consistently gets overshadowed by flavors of the month( see Rivers Phillip) and choke artists( see Manning Peyton). And all he does is lead a rag tag team to the most wins in the NFL over the last 5 years. I really hope he goes overboard on the vengence scale after being snubbed out of the pro bowl in favor of Rivers who he now faces. I also think that Bellicheck will come up with something evil and twisted for Rivers. I do worry about the SD running game overpowering the undermanned Pats D, but I wonder if Rivers can manage to not make mistakes enough for the Chargers to win. I want the Bolts to win as Savoy and I have tickets for the AFC championship game, if it's in SD. So as much as I want to pick the Pats, I'm going to go with what my head not heart says and predict a 23-17 Chargers win.
I see the Eagles going into New Orleans and losing a closer than it seems 27-21 game. The Eagles are hot, but I think the spirit of New Orleans and the first playoff game in New Orleans since Katrina, guarantee the win for formerly hapless Saints. I will say on record now that if somehow the Saints win the Super bowl against a clearly superior AFC opponent that the NFL will have rigged it to boost morale in the still decimated state of Louisiana.
I like the Ravens to manhandle the Colts 17-3, I think that Peyton Manning throws another 3 picks while Addai gets pounded all day by Trevor Pryce, Adalius Thomas, Terrell Suggs and MR murder himself Ray Lewis. i will test my luck and say that Ed Reed picks off two of the passes and takes one to the house. Chris Mccallister will probably have the other. Steve Mcnair will look in all pro form against the terrible Colts D and Jamal Lewis will remind us that he did once rush for more than 2000 yards in a season.
Finally I see the Seahwaks getting shut down in Chicago. As long as Grossman has less than 6 turnovers the Bears win 24-10. I can't imagine how bad the Hawks O will look against the actually good Chicago D since they could barely move the ball on Dallas until the 4th Quarter when the Dallas D was finally winded because Tony Romo kept turning the ball over.
The first round has been a major disappointment, I hope the games get better this week.
S
Peyton Manning looked like shit, and Tom Brady looked like a 2 time super bowl MVP. If you read Savoy's blog, you probably saw his account of my arguing with him about how much Peyton Manning sucks in the playoffs. 3 INTs against the Chiefs? You know the ravens are licking their chops watching that performance.
Then today, i saw Tom brady leading a couple of great drives, granted they were against the Jets D, but nonetheless, he didn't turn it over against a team with a much better D than the Chiefs.
Tom Brady is fucking gangster, I hope that one day people will appreciate Brady as the one of the best QBs of all time. He consistently gets overshadowed by flavors of the month( see Rivers Phillip) and choke artists( see Manning Peyton). And all he does is lead a rag tag team to the most wins in the NFL over the last 5 years. I really hope he goes overboard on the vengence scale after being snubbed out of the pro bowl in favor of Rivers who he now faces. I also think that Bellicheck will come up with something evil and twisted for Rivers. I do worry about the SD running game overpowering the undermanned Pats D, but I wonder if Rivers can manage to not make mistakes enough for the Chargers to win. I want the Bolts to win as Savoy and I have tickets for the AFC championship game, if it's in SD. So as much as I want to pick the Pats, I'm going to go with what my head not heart says and predict a 23-17 Chargers win.
I see the Eagles going into New Orleans and losing a closer than it seems 27-21 game. The Eagles are hot, but I think the spirit of New Orleans and the first playoff game in New Orleans since Katrina, guarantee the win for formerly hapless Saints. I will say on record now that if somehow the Saints win the Super bowl against a clearly superior AFC opponent that the NFL will have rigged it to boost morale in the still decimated state of Louisiana.
I like the Ravens to manhandle the Colts 17-3, I think that Peyton Manning throws another 3 picks while Addai gets pounded all day by Trevor Pryce, Adalius Thomas, Terrell Suggs and MR murder himself Ray Lewis. i will test my luck and say that Ed Reed picks off two of the passes and takes one to the house. Chris Mccallister will probably have the other. Steve Mcnair will look in all pro form against the terrible Colts D and Jamal Lewis will remind us that he did once rush for more than 2000 yards in a season.
Finally I see the Seahwaks getting shut down in Chicago. As long as Grossman has less than 6 turnovers the Bears win 24-10. I can't imagine how bad the Hawks O will look against the actually good Chicago D since they could barely move the ball on Dallas until the 4th Quarter when the Dallas D was finally winded because Tony Romo kept turning the ball over.
The first round has been a major disappointment, I hope the games get better this week.
S
Thursday, January 04, 2007
Girlfriend wish list....
I have always felt that knowing what you want is the first step to getting it.
At every Program I teach, one of the first questions I ask students is " What do you want your lifestyle to look like in a year?"
I think it's a really important question and equally important IMO is knowing waht you want in a woman. I wrote a list like 2 years ago on Mystery's Lounge that looked like this
I'll comment on this as I go:
Must be :
5'3-5'10 no taller 5'10 feels really tall, she would have to be smoking. I love short girls.
Atleast C cup boobs- This won't ever change.
Good teeth- a given. I'm really detail oriented about looks and chipped gross teeth kill me
Blonde,brunette or redhead- I prefer redheads with freckles
in amazing shape
Great ass
Nice lips
Preferably blue or green eyes
tan
Belly button ring
Pierced tongue
Lower back tattoo
small hands
Slutty hot
Personality
Must be :
Non-dramatic- I generally don't get much drama
Fun- I'd change this to can have fun wherever she is. Or comes up with fun ideas
Non needy- I like a little neediness these days.
Have her own life and friends- Yeah I never date girls who have a whole lot of friends. Probably because I almost exclusively date strippers and go-go dancers.
Smart- Not a requirement, I like smart girls, but too smart can lead to problems
Sarcastic-Totally! I love girls who use and get sarcasm, if a girl can make me laugh with a one liner at someone else I'm sold.
Funny- For sure, life is too short to be around people who don't make you laugh
Non flaky- So true, I'm really flaky so someone has to be responsible if we are gonna see each other.
Bi-curious-Not as much anymore, been there,
Adventurous(slutty in girl terms)- I would call this sexually adventurous rather than using the S word as I did originally. High sex drive and a willingness to experiment is a hiuge turn on to me. Probably to every guy, but I digress.
Sexually confident and competent- My last LTR in SD was GORGEOUS and TERRIBLE in bed. I'm not a sex coach I hate teaching girls what to do.
A good friend- Being a good friend conveys a lot of positive things, plus it shows she can take care of people, and commit. I don't trust girls who have known their "best friends" less than 2 years.
Loyal- Yeah for a gf she better be. In a girl I'm seeing all I want is a matched level of loyalty, but to make that leap to GF status I need to come first.
Not a name dropper or interested in petty status or money issues- 2 years later i'm still casually fucking the girl I wrote this about.
Not poor- Irrelevant now
Not overly religious- Could be annoying but as long as she's hot I can prolly deal
A good cuddler- Yeah especially knowing when are appropriate times to cuddle and when it's time to sleep.
Friendly- I'm more into sweet and considerate than friendly, but yeah ideally she should be friendly to people until they fuck
up.
Ok with weird peple and situations- No I don't like weird people either
Not in a sorority- Yeah I gotta say this was a good call. Wish I had followed it closer.
Cooks and cleans- Eh, I like doing both of those for myself, it makes me feel productive
Not validation seeking- I want her to seek my validation constantly, I like girls who are always trying to do better with me.
One of the girls I'm seeing in LA is awesome at this, without coming across insecure.
Works out on her own- Or with me, I'd LOVE LOVE LOVE a girl gym partner. That needs to happen this year.
And now some new ones:
Gets my jokes! Girls not understanding my humor(not thinking it's funny, even though it's hilarious)makes me want to kill Jesus.
Interesting- I really hate having to be the interesting one all the time.
High Sex-Drive- Self explanatory
Equally comfortable going to a club and having fun as they are making it a blockbuster night
Doesn't pressure me to do anything
Doesn't do coke...everyday- I'm down with partying but I can't deal with a drug addict
Comfortable with being taken care of- I am a strange archtype as I am really dismissive, but I take really good care of girls and i enjoy that, but because I am sooo dismissive I have a lot of girls that won't let me take care of them and it's annoying.
Takes REALLY good care of me- Basically just means that they want to make me happy.
Wants to see me A LOT! When i find a girl I'm really into, it's really hard to limit to once a week so she doesn't become my GF, I want it to be hard on her too, I'll stop one step short of saying that I want a girl to be obsessed with me, but I definetly hate feeling like I'm chasing a girl. Especially post-sex.
Has some sort of nerdy hobby- I love having running jokes. And I think it's cute.
Must say things that make me gush and scream " You"re Adorable"- I need those moments.
Good Kisser- Man I hate bad kissers
Man I really am picky!
Oh well I'm worth it.
Post your lists guys, commit to doing this to really figure out what you want and how to get it this year!
S
At every Program I teach, one of the first questions I ask students is " What do you want your lifestyle to look like in a year?"
I think it's a really important question and equally important IMO is knowing waht you want in a woman. I wrote a list like 2 years ago on Mystery's Lounge that looked like this
I'll comment on this as I go:
Must be :
5'3-5'10 no taller 5'10 feels really tall, she would have to be smoking. I love short girls.
Atleast C cup boobs- This won't ever change.
Good teeth- a given. I'm really detail oriented about looks and chipped gross teeth kill me
Blonde,brunette or redhead- I prefer redheads with freckles
in amazing shape
Great ass
Nice lips
Preferably blue or green eyes
tan
Belly button ring
Pierced tongue
Lower back tattoo
small hands
Slutty hot
Personality
Must be :
Non-dramatic- I generally don't get much drama
Fun- I'd change this to can have fun wherever she is. Or comes up with fun ideas
Non needy- I like a little neediness these days.
Have her own life and friends- Yeah I never date girls who have a whole lot of friends. Probably because I almost exclusively date strippers and go-go dancers.
Smart- Not a requirement, I like smart girls, but too smart can lead to problems
Sarcastic-Totally! I love girls who use and get sarcasm, if a girl can make me laugh with a one liner at someone else I'm sold.
Funny- For sure, life is too short to be around people who don't make you laugh
Non flaky- So true, I'm really flaky so someone has to be responsible if we are gonna see each other.
Bi-curious-Not as much anymore, been there,
Adventurous(slutty in girl terms)- I would call this sexually adventurous rather than using the S word as I did originally. High sex drive and a willingness to experiment is a hiuge turn on to me. Probably to every guy, but I digress.
Sexually confident and competent- My last LTR in SD was GORGEOUS and TERRIBLE in bed. I'm not a sex coach I hate teaching girls what to do.
A good friend- Being a good friend conveys a lot of positive things, plus it shows she can take care of people, and commit. I don't trust girls who have known their "best friends" less than 2 years.
Loyal- Yeah for a gf she better be. In a girl I'm seeing all I want is a matched level of loyalty, but to make that leap to GF status I need to come first.
Not a name dropper or interested in petty status or money issues- 2 years later i'm still casually fucking the girl I wrote this about.
Not poor- Irrelevant now
Not overly religious- Could be annoying but as long as she's hot I can prolly deal
A good cuddler- Yeah especially knowing when are appropriate times to cuddle and when it's time to sleep.
Friendly- I'm more into sweet and considerate than friendly, but yeah ideally she should be friendly to people until they fuck
up.
Ok with weird peple and situations- No I don't like weird people either
Not in a sorority- Yeah I gotta say this was a good call. Wish I had followed it closer.
Cooks and cleans- Eh, I like doing both of those for myself, it makes me feel productive
Not validation seeking- I want her to seek my validation constantly, I like girls who are always trying to do better with me.
One of the girls I'm seeing in LA is awesome at this, without coming across insecure.
Works out on her own- Or with me, I'd LOVE LOVE LOVE a girl gym partner. That needs to happen this year.
And now some new ones:
Gets my jokes! Girls not understanding my humor(not thinking it's funny, even though it's hilarious)makes me want to kill Jesus.
Interesting- I really hate having to be the interesting one all the time.
High Sex-Drive- Self explanatory
Equally comfortable going to a club and having fun as they are making it a blockbuster night
Doesn't pressure me to do anything
Doesn't do coke...everyday- I'm down with partying but I can't deal with a drug addict
Comfortable with being taken care of- I am a strange archtype as I am really dismissive, but I take really good care of girls and i enjoy that, but because I am sooo dismissive I have a lot of girls that won't let me take care of them and it's annoying.
Takes REALLY good care of me- Basically just means that they want to make me happy.
Wants to see me A LOT! When i find a girl I'm really into, it's really hard to limit to once a week so she doesn't become my GF, I want it to be hard on her too, I'll stop one step short of saying that I want a girl to be obsessed with me, but I definetly hate feeling like I'm chasing a girl. Especially post-sex.
Has some sort of nerdy hobby- I love having running jokes. And I think it's cute.
Must say things that make me gush and scream " You"re Adorable"- I need those moments.
Good Kisser- Man I hate bad kissers
Man I really am picky!
Oh well I'm worth it.
Post your lists guys, commit to doing this to really figure out what you want and how to get it this year!
S
Top 10 End Game Mistakes
My buddy In10se wrote this gold post quite awhile ago and I thought I'd share it... Plus my brain may actually be floating in alcohol this morning as I sit in the Vegas airport...
IN10SE's top 10 End Game mistakes
1) Bad Logistics
One guy I used to know would go out and say, "I'm going to get
laid tonight!" And then we'd get to the club and he'd go home to
his parents house - I told him, "Now exactly where are you going to
do this? And do you have condoms - ON you, and if a woman were to
walk up to you right now and want to have sex with you, would you be
ready?" - Uhhh? was his answer.
The point is, if you WANT success, you have to be READY for it.
Now, when I want to get laid, I have a framework of how I want it
to happen. Sure- it can be spontaneous and I have to have some
flexibility built in, but one of the keys to End Game is Isolation
and not just that, but logistics ALREADY in place for every
Isolation scenario that you could come up with.
2) Triggering her automatic responses
Now all chicks have an automatic response for a guy getting
physical with them - It's just something that's BUILT IN - through
evolution to protect their productive resources. And when you think
about it, they HAVE to have this in place because then they would
end up a being a HO or be pregnant their whole lives!
So what are the typical triggers? I'll list a couple:
- When a guy gets too sexual too fast
- When a guy stops "talking" and just goes into LUST mode before
she does
- When she get the feeling that a guy just wants her for SEX or
just sees her
as an object
- When a guy goes straight for the crotch -most of the time at
least
- When a guy seems too eager to get down her pants
- When a guy seems sneaky and dishonest
You get the point. The key is to go slow, keep talking to her, be
suggestive without being overtly sexual, and wait until SHE goes
first with being physically sexual.
3) They engage her logical mind
Just imagine this: you're on the couch with a chick, maybe watching
a movie or talking, and you start to notice the VIBE as the sexual
tension is building. You know that it COULD be GAME ON if you play
your cards right... Now what do a lot of guys do? They get all
nervous at this point and start talking about GUY stuff... LOGICAL
stuff like work, school, analyzing this and that... BIG mistake!
You want her logical mind OFF at this point. Don't say or DO
anything that could engage her logical mind. You don't want her
solving MATH while you're trying to get her in bed!
The focus should be on the FEELINGS. Get her arousal AMPED UP.
Build the sexual tension. In my book, I go into depth on how to
build this using a PROPULSION mechanism - and for those of you that
don't know what that is, it's a motivational system where you have
both PUSH from avoiding pain and PULL from pursuing pleasure.
4) They don't build up the comfort enough
A woman will RARELY get physical with a guy that she's not
comfortable with. You need to build up the comfort and rapport
before you go into END GAME. When you hear a chick say, "But I
hardly know you!" - Then you know you need more comfort building!
5) They take the first sign of resistance as failure
Now, not all chicks will go to bed with you the first
time you make your move. Most of the times, chicks need REPEATED
attempts where you FLIRT with her comfort zone.
You know, every woman has a comfort zone - a line where things go
from being Rated "R" to being rated "X". And if you push that line
too much, it may shut her down - so FLIRT with that line.
When she offers resistance, PULL BACK. And I'm talking ANY
resistance - and I pull WAY back and go back into comfort building
(MID GAME).
Then as I approach that line again, I can come that much CLOSER to
that line until I have to pull back again. As this may be repeated
several times, you get that much closer and closer to her comfort
zone line until before she knows it, you're doing the horizontal
mambo!
6) Guys follow THEIR OWN automatic responses and don't make the
bold move
You know that ONE POINT in the date, where you know it could go one
way or the other. And you know that what you do at that point could
MAKE or BREAK the seduction? Have you guys been there? I have - too
many times, but I've learned something.
Too many times before I would just GO WITH THE FLOW...
and to tell you the truth - that's just not conducive to seduction!
How many times have you been over at a womans house... it's late
at night and you can tell that it could be "Game On", and then she
tells you, "It's getting late... I should go to bed" and you say,
"Ok... well I enjoyed hanging out with you... and I'll talk to you
later..."
Then as you hear the door shut you're wondering where you went
wrong... you could be in BED with her right NOW!
So how do you get over this? Well first of all, be AWARE of your
automatic responses and hers as well. And know that you can use
whatever a woman gives you. Like in the example above, what if you
were to say... "Go to bed?! But I hardly know you! I'm not that
easy... but I could be if you gave me a massage!"
So you see how you need to interrupt the auto-response! And humor
works best followed up with a suggestive comment.
7) They don't focus on the moment
At this phase in the Game, a lot of guys are in their
own heads and not focusing on the moment. They may be thinking of
the last pattern to use or what to say next... but to tell you the
truth - at this stage in the game, you need to throw those out
and focus on getting her to FEEL in the MOMENT. This is where
seduction happens!
And you want to get her associated into the moment as well by
getting her to FEEL (including body feelings). The thing about
FEELINGS is that they draw a person into the moment. Like when
someone is angry for instance - and they can't think about anything
else... or when someone feels pain - that's VERY real in the
moment. The same goes for feeling pleasure and for feeling AROUSED
sexually.
8) They think that the woman will lead them by the hand
At this stage in the game, even women that seem sexually aggressive
will want the MAN to take action first. One chick that I was with
said she wanted a guy that was "Confident". I asked her, "So how do
you know when a guy is confident?" She said, "When he's able to do
with me what I really want him to do without me telling him
how to do it."
When you get certain "buying signals" from a woman, you need to
close QUICKLY. Now not all buying signals are equal. For example, a
suggestive flirtatious smile when you offer to massage her is much
different then when she pulls her pants down and bends over! Let
your buying signals tell you how quickly to move...
9) They're attached too much to the outcome
One thing that women have radar for is "Neediness". In fact a guy
who's willing to walk AWAY from her has more power than she does in
the "negotiation".
Instead of focusing on the outcome (the home run) ,
focus a little on the process - but mostly be in the MOMENT.
If a woman does a take away from you and you don't respond... it
tells her that YOUR can control and it communicates that YOU have
CHOICE. - After all, how many guy would actually decline an offer
of sex from an attractive woman? And if she senses that
you would - then you've upped your value in her eyes... as well as
made yourself a challenge for her!
10) They go too fast and out of her "sequence" without amping up
the desire enough
Remember, building desire is about building the sexual
tension. Take time to let her get her buying temperature up. Tease
her, play hot/cold, FLIRT with her comfort line (the line where
things go from being rated R to being rated X) until SHE crosses it.
And go the typical "physical" sequence unless she gives you
resistance - in which case you pull back to Mid Game, then as you
go back into End Game, you test again at the NEXT higher level.
Thanks In10se...
I'm going to go back to hating alcohol for now...
S
IN10SE's top 10 End Game mistakes
1) Bad Logistics
One guy I used to know would go out and say, "I'm going to get
laid tonight!" And then we'd get to the club and he'd go home to
his parents house - I told him, "Now exactly where are you going to
do this? And do you have condoms - ON you, and if a woman were to
walk up to you right now and want to have sex with you, would you be
ready?" - Uhhh? was his answer.
The point is, if you WANT success, you have to be READY for it.
Now, when I want to get laid, I have a framework of how I want it
to happen. Sure- it can be spontaneous and I have to have some
flexibility built in, but one of the keys to End Game is Isolation
and not just that, but logistics ALREADY in place for every
Isolation scenario that you could come up with.
2) Triggering her automatic responses
Now all chicks have an automatic response for a guy getting
physical with them - It's just something that's BUILT IN - through
evolution to protect their productive resources. And when you think
about it, they HAVE to have this in place because then they would
end up a being a HO or be pregnant their whole lives!
So what are the typical triggers? I'll list a couple:
- When a guy gets too sexual too fast
- When a guy stops "talking" and just goes into LUST mode before
she does
- When she get the feeling that a guy just wants her for SEX or
just sees her
as an object
- When a guy goes straight for the crotch -most of the time at
least
- When a guy seems too eager to get down her pants
- When a guy seems sneaky and dishonest
You get the point. The key is to go slow, keep talking to her, be
suggestive without being overtly sexual, and wait until SHE goes
first with being physically sexual.
3) They engage her logical mind
Just imagine this: you're on the couch with a chick, maybe watching
a movie or talking, and you start to notice the VIBE as the sexual
tension is building. You know that it COULD be GAME ON if you play
your cards right... Now what do a lot of guys do? They get all
nervous at this point and start talking about GUY stuff... LOGICAL
stuff like work, school, analyzing this and that... BIG mistake!
You want her logical mind OFF at this point. Don't say or DO
anything that could engage her logical mind. You don't want her
solving MATH while you're trying to get her in bed!
The focus should be on the FEELINGS. Get her arousal AMPED UP.
Build the sexual tension. In my book, I go into depth on how to
build this using a PROPULSION mechanism - and for those of you that
don't know what that is, it's a motivational system where you have
both PUSH from avoiding pain and PULL from pursuing pleasure.
4) They don't build up the comfort enough
A woman will RARELY get physical with a guy that she's not
comfortable with. You need to build up the comfort and rapport
before you go into END GAME. When you hear a chick say, "But I
hardly know you!" - Then you know you need more comfort building!
5) They take the first sign of resistance as failure
Now, not all chicks will go to bed with you the first
time you make your move. Most of the times, chicks need REPEATED
attempts where you FLIRT with her comfort zone.
You know, every woman has a comfort zone - a line where things go
from being Rated "R" to being rated "X". And if you push that line
too much, it may shut her down - so FLIRT with that line.
When she offers resistance, PULL BACK. And I'm talking ANY
resistance - and I pull WAY back and go back into comfort building
(MID GAME).
Then as I approach that line again, I can come that much CLOSER to
that line until I have to pull back again. As this may be repeated
several times, you get that much closer and closer to her comfort
zone line until before she knows it, you're doing the horizontal
mambo!
6) Guys follow THEIR OWN automatic responses and don't make the
bold move
You know that ONE POINT in the date, where you know it could go one
way or the other. And you know that what you do at that point could
MAKE or BREAK the seduction? Have you guys been there? I have - too
many times, but I've learned something.
Too many times before I would just GO WITH THE FLOW...
and to tell you the truth - that's just not conducive to seduction!
How many times have you been over at a womans house... it's late
at night and you can tell that it could be "Game On", and then she
tells you, "It's getting late... I should go to bed" and you say,
"Ok... well I enjoyed hanging out with you... and I'll talk to you
later..."
Then as you hear the door shut you're wondering where you went
wrong... you could be in BED with her right NOW!
So how do you get over this? Well first of all, be AWARE of your
automatic responses and hers as well. And know that you can use
whatever a woman gives you. Like in the example above, what if you
were to say... "Go to bed?! But I hardly know you! I'm not that
easy... but I could be if you gave me a massage!"
So you see how you need to interrupt the auto-response! And humor
works best followed up with a suggestive comment.
7) They don't focus on the moment
At this phase in the Game, a lot of guys are in their
own heads and not focusing on the moment. They may be thinking of
the last pattern to use or what to say next... but to tell you the
truth - at this stage in the game, you need to throw those out
and focus on getting her to FEEL in the MOMENT. This is where
seduction happens!
And you want to get her associated into the moment as well by
getting her to FEEL (including body feelings). The thing about
FEELINGS is that they draw a person into the moment. Like when
someone is angry for instance - and they can't think about anything
else... or when someone feels pain - that's VERY real in the
moment. The same goes for feeling pleasure and for feeling AROUSED
sexually.
8) They think that the woman will lead them by the hand
At this stage in the game, even women that seem sexually aggressive
will want the MAN to take action first. One chick that I was with
said she wanted a guy that was "Confident". I asked her, "So how do
you know when a guy is confident?" She said, "When he's able to do
with me what I really want him to do without me telling him
how to do it."
When you get certain "buying signals" from a woman, you need to
close QUICKLY. Now not all buying signals are equal. For example, a
suggestive flirtatious smile when you offer to massage her is much
different then when she pulls her pants down and bends over! Let
your buying signals tell you how quickly to move...
9) They're attached too much to the outcome
One thing that women have radar for is "Neediness". In fact a guy
who's willing to walk AWAY from her has more power than she does in
the "negotiation".
Instead of focusing on the outcome (the home run) ,
focus a little on the process - but mostly be in the MOMENT.
If a woman does a take away from you and you don't respond... it
tells her that YOUR can control and it communicates that YOU have
CHOICE. - After all, how many guy would actually decline an offer
of sex from an attractive woman? And if she senses that
you would - then you've upped your value in her eyes... as well as
made yourself a challenge for her!
10) They go too fast and out of her "sequence" without amping up
the desire enough
Remember, building desire is about building the sexual
tension. Take time to let her get her buying temperature up. Tease
her, play hot/cold, FLIRT with her comfort line (the line where
things go from being rated R to being rated X) until SHE crosses it.
And go the typical "physical" sequence unless she gives you
resistance - in which case you pull back to Mid Game, then as you
go back into End Game, you test again at the NEXT higher level.
Thanks In10se...
I'm going to go back to hating alcohol for now...
S
Wednesday, January 03, 2007
NYE...
So the Vegas tripe with Savoy,Future,Tenmag,etc... was amazing.
We are still here right now recovering and doing a slew of day2s, it was really good to party with all my boys.
On a random note shorty from Christmas Eve ended up out here and I sealed the deal with her on the day4.
I'm also up like $1200 from Blackjack, and have a day2 with a 9.5 later to teach her to play blackjack.
Combining a hottie and winning money .. that's a match made in heaven!
I'll update more later.
S
We are still here right now recovering and doing a slew of day2s, it was really good to party with all my boys.
On a random note shorty from Christmas Eve ended up out here and I sealed the deal with her on the day4.
I'm also up like $1200 from Blackjack, and have a day2 with a 9.5 later to teach her to play blackjack.
Combining a hottie and winning money .. that's a match made in heaven!
I'll update more later.
S
Thursday, December 28, 2006
Cool Lyric ...
I love when I hear a song and finally put a lyric in context.
From Atmosphere's song Trying to find a balance
While everyone was trying to out-do the last man
I was just a ghost trying to catch some Mrs. Pac-Man
Hello ma'am, would you be interested
In some sexual positions and emotional investments
See, I'm not insane, in fact I'm kind of rational
Isn't that a great analogy for what we do as we get into the game.
You desensitize yourself to the point where you are a ghost trying to floating in and out of women's lives trying to catch something that doesn't want to be captured.
It might be a similie I'm not sure....
Here's the rest of the song lyrics. He's a great artist, if you've never listened to him download this song off Itunes....
"Trying To Find A Balance"
[Slug]
They love the taste of blood
Now I don't know what that means, but I know that I mean it
Maybe they're as evil as they seem
Or maybe I only look out the window when it's scenic
"Atmosphere finally made a good record."
Yeah right, that shit almost sounds convincing
The last time I felt a sinking contradictive as this
Was the last time we played a show in Cinnci'
"Get real." they tell me
If only they knew how real this life really gets
They would stop acting like a silly bitch
They would respect the cock whether or not they believed in it
Doesn't take much and that's messed up
Because these people do a lot of simple shit to impress us
While everyone was trying to out-do the last man
I was just a ghost trying to catch some Mrs. Pac-Man
Hello ma'am, would you be interested
In some sexual positions and emotional investments
See, I'm not insane, in fact I'm kind of rational
When I be askin', "Yo, where did all the passion go?"
East coast, West coast, down South, Midwest
Nowadays everybody knows how to get fresh
Somebody give me a big yes (YES!)
God Bless America, but she stole the B from "Bless" (Accept it)
Now I'm too fucked up to dance
So I'ma sit with my hand down the front of my pants
You can't achieve your goals if you don't take that chance
So go pry open that trunk and get those amps (You know!)
[Chorus x2]
In the days of Kings and Queens I was a jester
Treat me like a God, oh they treat me like a leper
You see me move back and forth between both
I'm trying to find a balance
I'm trying to build a balance
[Slug]
So now I keep a close eye on my pets
Because they make most of they moves off of instinct and sense
It's eat, sleep, fuck in self defense
So straight you can set your clocks and place bets
Wait, let's prey on blind, deaf, dumb, dead
Hustle, maybe a couple will love what you said
Emcees drag their feet across a big naked land
With an empty bag of seed and a fake shake of hands
Yeah I got some last words, FUCK ALL OF YA'LL!
Stop writin' raps and go play volleyball
Gotta journey the world in a hurry
Cause my attorney didn't put enough girls on the jury
Guilty of droppin' these bombs in the city
But I'm innocent, love is the motive that's why you're killin 'em
Guilty of settin' my fire in all fifty
But I'm innocent, blame it on my equilibrium
[Chorus x2]
In the days of Kings and Queens I was a jester
Treat me like a God, oh they treat me like a leper
You see me move back and forth between both
I'm trying to find a balance
I'm trying to build a balance
I gotta find my balance
I gotta find my balance
[Slug]
Now all my friends are famous
It's either one thing or another
They all don't know what my name is
Probably know both of my brothers
The one is a hard workin' savior
The other's a hard workin' soldier
I'm just your next door neighbor
Workin' hard at tryin' to stay sober
You wait for the car at the corner
Pretend like you know what the pot is
Won't quit till I hit California
And make you my Golden State goddess
From Atmosphere's song Trying to find a balance
While everyone was trying to out-do the last man
I was just a ghost trying to catch some Mrs. Pac-Man
Hello ma'am, would you be interested
In some sexual positions and emotional investments
See, I'm not insane, in fact I'm kind of rational
Isn't that a great analogy for what we do as we get into the game.
You desensitize yourself to the point where you are a ghost trying to floating in and out of women's lives trying to catch something that doesn't want to be captured.
It might be a similie I'm not sure....
Here's the rest of the song lyrics. He's a great artist, if you've never listened to him download this song off Itunes....
"Trying To Find A Balance"
[Slug]
They love the taste of blood
Now I don't know what that means, but I know that I mean it
Maybe they're as evil as they seem
Or maybe I only look out the window when it's scenic
"Atmosphere finally made a good record."
Yeah right, that shit almost sounds convincing
The last time I felt a sinking contradictive as this
Was the last time we played a show in Cinnci'
"Get real." they tell me
If only they knew how real this life really gets
They would stop acting like a silly bitch
They would respect the cock whether or not they believed in it
Doesn't take much and that's messed up
Because these people do a lot of simple shit to impress us
While everyone was trying to out-do the last man
I was just a ghost trying to catch some Mrs. Pac-Man
Hello ma'am, would you be interested
In some sexual positions and emotional investments
See, I'm not insane, in fact I'm kind of rational
When I be askin', "Yo, where did all the passion go?"
East coast, West coast, down South, Midwest
Nowadays everybody knows how to get fresh
Somebody give me a big yes (YES!)
God Bless America, but she stole the B from "Bless" (Accept it)
Now I'm too fucked up to dance
So I'ma sit with my hand down the front of my pants
You can't achieve your goals if you don't take that chance
So go pry open that trunk and get those amps (You know!)
[Chorus x2]
In the days of Kings and Queens I was a jester
Treat me like a God, oh they treat me like a leper
You see me move back and forth between both
I'm trying to find a balance
I'm trying to build a balance
[Slug]
So now I keep a close eye on my pets
Because they make most of they moves off of instinct and sense
It's eat, sleep, fuck in self defense
So straight you can set your clocks and place bets
Wait, let's prey on blind, deaf, dumb, dead
Hustle, maybe a couple will love what you said
Emcees drag their feet across a big naked land
With an empty bag of seed and a fake shake of hands
Yeah I got some last words, FUCK ALL OF YA'LL!
Stop writin' raps and go play volleyball
Gotta journey the world in a hurry
Cause my attorney didn't put enough girls on the jury
Guilty of droppin' these bombs in the city
But I'm innocent, love is the motive that's why you're killin 'em
Guilty of settin' my fire in all fifty
But I'm innocent, blame it on my equilibrium
[Chorus x2]
In the days of Kings and Queens I was a jester
Treat me like a God, oh they treat me like a leper
You see me move back and forth between both
I'm trying to find a balance
I'm trying to build a balance
I gotta find my balance
I gotta find my balance
[Slug]
Now all my friends are famous
It's either one thing or another
They all don't know what my name is
Probably know both of my brothers
The one is a hard workin' savior
The other's a hard workin' soldier
I'm just your next door neighbor
Workin' hard at tryin' to stay sober
You wait for the car at the corner
Pretend like you know what the pot is
Won't quit till I hit California
And make you my Golden State goddess
Man I'm psyched for New Year's
Me, Tenmag,Future, Neo and Savoy will be going to the most exclusive celebrity thrown party in(Undisclosed New Year's Eve Location).
I'm flying in early and hooking up with my old LTR before she goes to work. Then Future comes in, a quick trip to the Gym for Beasting up and then the debauchery will begin. Savoy and Tenmag get in later that night.
Another girl I'm seeing has a b-day party and she'll be in a limo touring the strip clubs, she invited us along.
Can't wait!
I'm really glad that I've met so many of the really great guys in the community, and I'm lucky enough to call the best of them friends.
Ultimately I have made friends that I would lay down in traffic for and who would do the same for me. And that is the best thing I've gotten from the community. I was friends with a lot of other guys earlier in my time in the community, and some of them were crazy, some of them were drug addicts, some of them were possibly gay, some were just weirdos. And over time I got to actually know them and like them. But then I started noticing things, like flying off the handle and threatening me, or saying one thing to me about someone else and then saying something different to them in 5 minutes, Always repeating themselves and talking about outlandish plans while not being able to get themselves groceries, lying a lot of lying, and some girl stealing then impregnating, and that was enough for me. But luckily at The Mystery Method there are no people like that. Savoy,The Don,Future,Tenmag,Masters,CaptainJack, I consider these guys my friends and brothers and I'm so glad that I get to spend New year's with some of my best friends in an amazing party.
Hope everyone else makes some memories too.
S
I'm flying in early and hooking up with my old LTR before she goes to work. Then Future comes in, a quick trip to the Gym for Beasting up and then the debauchery will begin. Savoy and Tenmag get in later that night.
Another girl I'm seeing has a b-day party and she'll be in a limo touring the strip clubs, she invited us along.
Can't wait!
I'm really glad that I've met so many of the really great guys in the community, and I'm lucky enough to call the best of them friends.
Ultimately I have made friends that I would lay down in traffic for and who would do the same for me. And that is the best thing I've gotten from the community. I was friends with a lot of other guys earlier in my time in the community, and some of them were crazy, some of them were drug addicts, some of them were possibly gay, some were just weirdos. And over time I got to actually know them and like them. But then I started noticing things, like flying off the handle and threatening me, or saying one thing to me about someone else and then saying something different to them in 5 minutes, Always repeating themselves and talking about outlandish plans while not being able to get themselves groceries, lying a lot of lying, and some girl stealing then impregnating, and that was enough for me. But luckily at The Mystery Method there are no people like that. Savoy,The Don,Future,Tenmag,Masters,CaptainJack, I consider these guys my friends and brothers and I'm so glad that I get to spend New year's with some of my best friends in an amazing party.
Hope everyone else makes some memories too.
S
My favorite Albums...
What's a blog without a list of favorite albums.
Atmosphere-The Lucy Ford LP
Kanye West-The College Drop Out
Panic at the Disco- A fever you can't sweat out
DMX- And Then there was X
Eminem-The Marshall Mather LP
Snoop Dogg-The Last Meal
Jay-z The Black Album, The Blueprint 1 &2
The Whites Stripes-first album forget the name...
Biggie: Ready to Die
Big L- Lifestylez of tha Poor and Dangerous, The Big Picture
Ludacris-Word of Mouf
R.A the Rugged Man- R.A The Rugged Man Must Die
Evanescese-First Album
My favorite song is still Broken by Seether and Amy Lee of Evanescese it really described how I felt when I broke up with my LTR of like 4 years. She was the girl who's stuck around the longest, but I knew it was over for real and then this song came on. It was depressing and I played that song over and over again until I no longer feel it. But it's still a great really moving song. I like the way the voices are so different yet you can feel the come together at the end of the song. I still get chills when I hear the opening.
S
Atmosphere-The Lucy Ford LP
Kanye West-The College Drop Out
Panic at the Disco- A fever you can't sweat out
DMX- And Then there was X
Eminem-The Marshall Mather LP
Snoop Dogg-The Last Meal
Jay-z The Black Album, The Blueprint 1 &2
The Whites Stripes-first album forget the name...
Biggie: Ready to Die
Big L- Lifestylez of tha Poor and Dangerous, The Big Picture
Ludacris-Word of Mouf
R.A the Rugged Man- R.A The Rugged Man Must Die
Evanescese-First Album
My favorite song is still Broken by Seether and Amy Lee of Evanescese it really described how I felt when I broke up with my LTR of like 4 years. She was the girl who's stuck around the longest, but I knew it was over for real and then this song came on. It was depressing and I played that song over and over again until I no longer feel it. But it's still a great really moving song. I like the way the voices are so different yet you can feel the come together at the end of the song. I still get chills when I hear the opening.
S
Where are all the women?
I've been going out a lot recently and I can't help but wonder aloud where all the women in LA have gone.
I haven't seen a girl over a 7 in the whole week I've been home....
The Don was telling me that he was seeing really unbalanced ratios of guys to girls in NY too.
Must be the holidays.
I figure that a lot of girls get bf around the holidays to avoid being alone, but geez!
S
I haven't seen a girl over a 7 in the whole week I've been home....
The Don was telling me that he was seeing really unbalanced ratios of guys to girls in NY too.
Must be the holidays.
I figure that a lot of girls get bf around the holidays to avoid being alone, but geez!
S
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
You get out what you put in
I was watching some guys play pick up basketball at the gym today(while accomplishing project Become a Beast) and I noticed that the only real difference between guys is skill and conditioning.
That may sound like saying the only difference between me and Michael Jordan is some exercises and practice. And it's the truth.
Take away all the natural gifts people may have( or lack) and the only differences are in skills and experience.
Everything is a skill set.
You want to become faster? Start running sprints.
You want to learn to dunk(like I do) start doing plyometrics and practicing.
You want to learn to meet women? Start trying to meet women.
A journey of a thousand miles will start with a single step.
It's real easy to put things off and be lazy, but only throiugh putting in the effort, will you get the rewards that you seek.
S
That may sound like saying the only difference between me and Michael Jordan is some exercises and practice. And it's the truth.
Take away all the natural gifts people may have( or lack) and the only differences are in skills and experience.
Everything is a skill set.
You want to become faster? Start running sprints.
You want to learn to dunk(like I do) start doing plyometrics and practicing.
You want to learn to meet women? Start trying to meet women.
A journey of a thousand miles will start with a single step.
It's real easy to put things off and be lazy, but only throiugh putting in the effort, will you get the rewards that you seek.
S
New Opener for when you go out alone
Going out alone is great, but I know what it's like to be worried about people seeing you by yourself or asking where your friends are.
So a couple of nights ago I came up with an opener in field that had a built in reason I was alone.
" Hey guys,
How do you tell someone you're not interested wthout hurting their feelings?
Ok check this out, I came out with some friends of mine and my friend Mindy is trying to set me up with her friend, and she's cute she's just not my type.
What should i say? "
Now for the rest of the night any set they see you in, they will assume is you're friends.
Also if the set stales and you have to leave you can tell them that you'll come back and tell them what happened.
Enjoy,
S
So a couple of nights ago I came up with an opener in field that had a built in reason I was alone.
" Hey guys,
How do you tell someone you're not interested wthout hurting their feelings?
Ok check this out, I came out with some friends of mine and my friend Mindy is trying to set me up with her friend, and she's cute she's just not my type.
What should i say? "
Now for the rest of the night any set they see you in, they will assume is you're friends.
Also if the set stales and you have to leave you can tell them that you'll come back and tell them what happened.
Enjoy,
S
Attraction Switches
The Attraction Switches:
Originally we wanted to convey that we were the embodiment of 6 alpha characteristics. Or 5 if you’re Mystery and can’t count.
They were:
1. Confidence- not really confidence, but the illusion of confidence, we accomplish this by approaching with the 3 second rule, having good body language and escalating.
2. Smile- In a survey taken in the 70s John Eagen found that 98% of women preferred to be approached with a smile and….
3. Sense of humor. Women love funny men. The way to a woman’s heart is through making her laugh. I don’t know anyone who can consistently get girls who doesn’t make them laugh.
4. Sense of connection. A woman has to feel like there is something happening between the two of you. Call it chemistry, call it rapport, call it understanding, but there must be a sense that there is more than a physical thing happening.
5. Well Groomed. This one may seem obvious, but if I had a dollar for every BC student I’ve had who needed to get his eye brows waxed or shave his chest, I would be a VERY rich man.
6. Social Proof. People especially women tend to stereotype, so we want them to stereotype us into a role we want. That means that by simply being surrounded by women, I can become more attractive to the next woman I approach.
Well the 5 er… 6 characteristics of an alpha male, gave way to …
The Attraction Switches.
1. Pre-selected by women. A hybrid of social proof, except that in this version, we go to great lengths to make our target and her peer group, know in no uncertain terms that we have dated women of great beauty and social status. The effects of pre-selection are many, there is the social proof aspect, as well as the ability to show that since we have had beautiful women before, we are unaffected by her beauty.
2. Leader of men. Also an aspect of social proof here, but more importantly it shows the strength of character needed to inspire others to follow you. It also implies some social status as people do not follow just anyone. The idea of being a leader shows so many good things about us, that it cannot be understated.
3. Protector of loved ones. This one is important to show her, that if she were to get into a relationship with us, she would be safe. It shows also that if she were to have children with us her children would be safe as well. She has to see that you are willing to protect her, even at the expense of your own safety.
4. Willing to emote. The ability to show her the range of your emotions is very powerful. You have to demonstrate to her very clearly that you are someone who follows they’re emotions. It just so happens that you’re emotions lead you toward being pre-selected by women, a leader of men and protector of loved ones.
Now having gotten these from Mystery, I have recently begun to add a few more.
5. The willingness to walk away. In every set there is a point where you will have to show her without a doubt that you want her, but are willing to walk if she doesn’t adhere to the standards you have set for her.
6. The ability to affect her emotionally. I used to call this the ability to lead her on an emotional journey. However the more I think about it the real power of leading her on an emotional journey only works if she is emotionally affected by you. When two people interact, and one of them has an emotional reaction while the other doesn’t, the unaffected person has more social power. We don’t have weird emotional reactions to homeless people. Unless we are crazy* like a certain PUA guru who wanted to kill some homeless kids outside of yoshinoya*. So the very act of being someone who gets her to have an emotional reaction( good or bad) is attractive.
7. Identity. Who you are and what you do, can and should help your game. Every couple of bootcamps, I will have a DR or a firefighter who never tells women what they do. This is a mistake. Every Identity can be conveyed in a way that will make women more attracted to you. It all comes down to how you ground it and describe it to a woman’s model of the world.
8. Lifestyle. The type of life you live, that you would be bringing a woman into can be attractive. You should be actively conveying what she can expect if she were to become you’re girlfriend. Will she be sitting at home all the time watching you eat KFC? Or will she enter a world where she is whisked away to a cool party with awesome people. Does she enter a bottle service party where the man she desires is surrounded by other women? Or is she whisked away to the top of a mountain on an amazing hike. Where can she expect to be with you? Wealth DHVs would also fit in here.
So that's where attraction switches have come from and where we currently are, this is by no means a complete list and I would love to see you guys come up with some more suggestions.
S
Originally we wanted to convey that we were the embodiment of 6 alpha characteristics. Or 5 if you’re Mystery and can’t count.
They were:
1. Confidence- not really confidence, but the illusion of confidence, we accomplish this by approaching with the 3 second rule, having good body language and escalating.
2. Smile- In a survey taken in the 70s John Eagen found that 98% of women preferred to be approached with a smile and….
3. Sense of humor. Women love funny men. The way to a woman’s heart is through making her laugh. I don’t know anyone who can consistently get girls who doesn’t make them laugh.
4. Sense of connection. A woman has to feel like there is something happening between the two of you. Call it chemistry, call it rapport, call it understanding, but there must be a sense that there is more than a physical thing happening.
5. Well Groomed. This one may seem obvious, but if I had a dollar for every BC student I’ve had who needed to get his eye brows waxed or shave his chest, I would be a VERY rich man.
6. Social Proof. People especially women tend to stereotype, so we want them to stereotype us into a role we want. That means that by simply being surrounded by women, I can become more attractive to the next woman I approach.
Well the 5 er… 6 characteristics of an alpha male, gave way to …
The Attraction Switches.
1. Pre-selected by women. A hybrid of social proof, except that in this version, we go to great lengths to make our target and her peer group, know in no uncertain terms that we have dated women of great beauty and social status. The effects of pre-selection are many, there is the social proof aspect, as well as the ability to show that since we have had beautiful women before, we are unaffected by her beauty.
2. Leader of men. Also an aspect of social proof here, but more importantly it shows the strength of character needed to inspire others to follow you. It also implies some social status as people do not follow just anyone. The idea of being a leader shows so many good things about us, that it cannot be understated.
3. Protector of loved ones. This one is important to show her, that if she were to get into a relationship with us, she would be safe. It shows also that if she were to have children with us her children would be safe as well. She has to see that you are willing to protect her, even at the expense of your own safety.
4. Willing to emote. The ability to show her the range of your emotions is very powerful. You have to demonstrate to her very clearly that you are someone who follows they’re emotions. It just so happens that you’re emotions lead you toward being pre-selected by women, a leader of men and protector of loved ones.
Now having gotten these from Mystery, I have recently begun to add a few more.
5. The willingness to walk away. In every set there is a point where you will have to show her without a doubt that you want her, but are willing to walk if she doesn’t adhere to the standards you have set for her.
6. The ability to affect her emotionally. I used to call this the ability to lead her on an emotional journey. However the more I think about it the real power of leading her on an emotional journey only works if she is emotionally affected by you. When two people interact, and one of them has an emotional reaction while the other doesn’t, the unaffected person has more social power. We don’t have weird emotional reactions to homeless people. Unless we are crazy* like a certain PUA guru who wanted to kill some homeless kids outside of yoshinoya*. So the very act of being someone who gets her to have an emotional reaction( good or bad) is attractive.
7. Identity. Who you are and what you do, can and should help your game. Every couple of bootcamps, I will have a DR or a firefighter who never tells women what they do. This is a mistake. Every Identity can be conveyed in a way that will make women more attracted to you. It all comes down to how you ground it and describe it to a woman’s model of the world.
8. Lifestyle. The type of life you live, that you would be bringing a woman into can be attractive. You should be actively conveying what she can expect if she were to become you’re girlfriend. Will she be sitting at home all the time watching you eat KFC? Or will she enter a world where she is whisked away to a cool party with awesome people. Does she enter a bottle service party where the man she desires is surrounded by other women? Or is she whisked away to the top of a mountain on an amazing hike. Where can she expect to be with you? Wealth DHVs would also fit in here.
So that's where attraction switches have come from and where we currently are, this is by no means a complete list and I would love to see you guys come up with some more suggestions.
S
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
New Year's resolutions...
I know that it's not New year's yet, but I was thinking about my goals for the next year and in an exercise of discipline and accountability, I want to post them, so that you guys can kick my ass if I don't get there.
1. Become as strong as an NFL lineman. At the training combine for the NFL draft Mario Williams the # 1 pick did 25 straight reps of 225 ilbs. That's my goal. By next December I will be able to rep 225 25 straight times. This also falls under my goal of becoming a beast.
2. Be able to dunk a regulation sized basketball, on a 10 foot hoop. I've never been able to dunk, and I want to be able to do that.
3. Make 100,000 dollars from a non MM source.
4. Learn how to whup some ass. I feel like there's a part of your core level of confidence that suffers from not knowing that you can kick someone's ass. And yes it is juvenile and there are real world consequences, but there comes a point where, to hold onto your frame of what's right, you have to be willing to fight. And I have no idea how to.. So I'm learning.
5. Move out of LA. I'm so not into LA anymore, yes the weather is great and the girls are hot, but it's not for me.
6. Learn how to ride a motorcycle.
7. Design at least one of my own shirts. I've been wanting to start designing my own clothes for awhile and I need to move on getting them made.
8. Make a web site for my comedy and work on having time to get jobs.
9. Have sex with a celebrity. Preferably Lindsay Lohan. Or Jessica Biel. Or Jessica Simpson. Preferably not Kirsten Dunst.
10. Write my actual book. Not about PU. I'll post about this if there's interest, but it's a pretty cool idea that I don't want stolen.
I would love it if you guys posted comments with your goals too. That way we can all work towards them together.
S
1. Become as strong as an NFL lineman. At the training combine for the NFL draft Mario Williams the # 1 pick did 25 straight reps of 225 ilbs. That's my goal. By next December I will be able to rep 225 25 straight times. This also falls under my goal of becoming a beast.
2. Be able to dunk a regulation sized basketball, on a 10 foot hoop. I've never been able to dunk, and I want to be able to do that.
3. Make 100,000 dollars from a non MM source.
4. Learn how to whup some ass. I feel like there's a part of your core level of confidence that suffers from not knowing that you can kick someone's ass. And yes it is juvenile and there are real world consequences, but there comes a point where, to hold onto your frame of what's right, you have to be willing to fight. And I have no idea how to.. So I'm learning.
5. Move out of LA. I'm so not into LA anymore, yes the weather is great and the girls are hot, but it's not for me.
6. Learn how to ride a motorcycle.
7. Design at least one of my own shirts. I've been wanting to start designing my own clothes for awhile and I need to move on getting them made.
8. Make a web site for my comedy and work on having time to get jobs.
9. Have sex with a celebrity. Preferably Lindsay Lohan. Or Jessica Biel. Or Jessica Simpson. Preferably not Kirsten Dunst.
10. Write my actual book. Not about PU. I'll post about this if there's interest, but it's a pretty cool idea that I don't want stolen.
I would love it if you guys posted comments with your goals too. That way we can all work towards them together.
S
Monday, December 25, 2006
Standing on the Box
Here's an article from my favorite blog on the internet.
It's written by a bouncer in NYC.
If you like the article, there's more at
www.standingonthebox.blogspot.com
Stress
I’ve found another difference between us and them. Or me and them. Or the entire free motherfucking world and them.
The difference is, we’re happy when we’re out in New York on a Saturday night. I know I would’ve been if I hadn’t handcuffed myself to the door of some garlic-infused seizure-thon on the West Side of Manhattan for the past three years. I’d be overjoyed. I mean, fuck, you’re drinking for chrissakes. To be perfectly honest, the only thing that ever meant anything to me when I did go out regularly was that feeling I’d get after a few drinks. Fuck everything else – the buzz was the only thing that mattered. For my money, there’s nothing better than walking the streets of Manhattan with half a bag on. Those moments, those nights, are all about possibility. “Into Bolivia” fade your inhibitions and your debts, and out of mothballs comes your personality.
Call it alcoholism, but as long as I’m drinking, I’m fine.
As for them, they’re miserable. You see them, Guido after Guido, walking around the club, heads hung low, muttering to themselves about how they wished they hadn’t come out. They look at me and roll their eyes and shake their heads as though I’m some sympathetic fellow traveler who’s hip to the Guido plight.
And I do comprehend things to a point. I know what a pain in the ass it is to make my way into the city from the hinterlands, because that’s what I have to do. I have to do this because the money makes it worth my while. Guidos don’t have to do this. They don’t have to make a ninety minute commute into West Chelsea in order to get shitfaced. They don’t have to change trains three times to dance like retards. It’s not necessary to pile into an IROC and pay $9 in tolls to snort coke in dirty bathrooms. All this, I’m assuming, is readily available right around the corner – on Long Island or Staten Island or in Queens.
So what the fuck is the problem?
I’ve wondered about all this, so I did what any sensible bouncer would do: I asked the nearest depressed Guido. I pulled him aside the other night and asked him what the problem was.
“Why are you always in a bad mood when you come here?” I asked. “You always seem like you’re under a lot of stress.”
I’m friendly with this one. His name is Chris and he’s from Howard Beach. I helped him out in a nasty fight once. We say hello. We “hug.” Sometimes he hands me an extra twenty when his “boy” rolls in with an expired license. Sometimes it’s more.
“Yo, it’s because I am in a bad mood.”
“Why, though? Is it this place that gets you like that? Do you have problems at work? Why are you always walking around looking like the world’s about to end?”
“Yo,” he said, “you don’t understand, bro.”
“I’m trying. I mean, we’re friends, right?”
“Yeah, man. You’re my boy!”
“So?” I asked. “Do I ever ask you any questions? Tell me what the problem is.”
“The problem is that I just got engaged, and my girl don’t know I’m here, and I got like four bitches that wanna come home with me right now.”
“That’s your problem?”
“That’s always my problem.”
“Seriously?” I asked. “You always look like you wanna kill someone because you’re worried about the women you could take home?”
“Yeah.”
“It’s that easy for you in here?”
“Yo,” he said, “I can always take someone home outta this place.”
“So why get engaged?”
“Because my girl’s a fuckin’ sweetheart, bro. I could take all these girls home and fuck ‘em in the ear and it don’t mean shit, but I can’t lose my girl.”
I shrugged. “So that’s really why you always look like that? You got no other problems pissing you off?”
“Nah, man. You know me. I got two G’s in my pocket right now. It’s always bitches makes you crazy.”
“I heard that.
It's written by a bouncer in NYC.
If you like the article, there's more at
www.standingonthebox.blogspot.com
Stress
I’ve found another difference between us and them. Or me and them. Or the entire free motherfucking world and them.
The difference is, we’re happy when we’re out in New York on a Saturday night. I know I would’ve been if I hadn’t handcuffed myself to the door of some garlic-infused seizure-thon on the West Side of Manhattan for the past three years. I’d be overjoyed. I mean, fuck, you’re drinking for chrissakes. To be perfectly honest, the only thing that ever meant anything to me when I did go out regularly was that feeling I’d get after a few drinks. Fuck everything else – the buzz was the only thing that mattered. For my money, there’s nothing better than walking the streets of Manhattan with half a bag on. Those moments, those nights, are all about possibility. “Into Bolivia” fade your inhibitions and your debts, and out of mothballs comes your personality.
Call it alcoholism, but as long as I’m drinking, I’m fine.
As for them, they’re miserable. You see them, Guido after Guido, walking around the club, heads hung low, muttering to themselves about how they wished they hadn’t come out. They look at me and roll their eyes and shake their heads as though I’m some sympathetic fellow traveler who’s hip to the Guido plight.
And I do comprehend things to a point. I know what a pain in the ass it is to make my way into the city from the hinterlands, because that’s what I have to do. I have to do this because the money makes it worth my while. Guidos don’t have to do this. They don’t have to make a ninety minute commute into West Chelsea in order to get shitfaced. They don’t have to change trains three times to dance like retards. It’s not necessary to pile into an IROC and pay $9 in tolls to snort coke in dirty bathrooms. All this, I’m assuming, is readily available right around the corner – on Long Island or Staten Island or in Queens.
So what the fuck is the problem?
I’ve wondered about all this, so I did what any sensible bouncer would do: I asked the nearest depressed Guido. I pulled him aside the other night and asked him what the problem was.
“Why are you always in a bad mood when you come here?” I asked. “You always seem like you’re under a lot of stress.”
I’m friendly with this one. His name is Chris and he’s from Howard Beach. I helped him out in a nasty fight once. We say hello. We “hug.” Sometimes he hands me an extra twenty when his “boy” rolls in with an expired license. Sometimes it’s more.
“Yo, it’s because I am in a bad mood.”
“Why, though? Is it this place that gets you like that? Do you have problems at work? Why are you always walking around looking like the world’s about to end?”
“Yo,” he said, “you don’t understand, bro.”
“I’m trying. I mean, we’re friends, right?”
“Yeah, man. You’re my boy!”
“So?” I asked. “Do I ever ask you any questions? Tell me what the problem is.”
“The problem is that I just got engaged, and my girl don’t know I’m here, and I got like four bitches that wanna come home with me right now.”
“That’s your problem?”
“That’s always my problem.”
“Seriously?” I asked. “You always look like you wanna kill someone because you’re worried about the women you could take home?”
“Yeah.”
“It’s that easy for you in here?”
“Yo,” he said, “I can always take someone home outta this place.”
“So why get engaged?”
“Because my girl’s a fuckin’ sweetheart, bro. I could take all these girls home and fuck ‘em in the ear and it don’t mean shit, but I can’t lose my girl.”
I shrugged. “So that’s really why you always look like that? You got no other problems pissing you off?”
“Nah, man. You know me. I got two G’s in my pocket right now. It’s always bitches makes you crazy.”
“I heard that.
Mission Failed... Culprit Alcohol.
So I did not close last night. Here's the story.
Let it never be said that I only post about my successes or brag.
She showed up to get me and we went to a grimy bar in Los Feliz, when we go there her friends were there. What she failed to let me know prior to getting there was both of her friends were dudes.
Well as anyone whose taken a bootcamp with me knows, I love mixed sets.I'm also really good at them. Because at the end of the day you can always talk to the guys about money, sports, cars, alcohol or other women.
So I win both of these guys over and they start telling me always these qualifying stories about themselves. Like how when he was a Sophmore in High school he got permission to bveat up a senior from the Principal of his private school becasue as he had warned the entire student body of earlier in the year. " You don't talk shit about my dad". Also did I know he had a degree in design and did a best selling line.But because of his good looks people at the MAGICK( Men's clothing conference in Vegas, don't ask I'm a fashion whore I've admitted it) conference thought he was a model which he then said to look at the size of his check and ask if he's a model....
Anyway did some great befriending even when her early 20s friend showed up with ANgelo who was obviously in his LATE 40s. They then asked me where there were dance clubs around here....
The girl we'll call her shorty was telling people we were together then told another of her friends she was with a guy, before telling me that she never introduces guys to friends.... Jon's relationship frame sense was abuzzing.
We bounced to a house party with 6 people. And played some drinking games and did a gift exchange. It was funny because shorty's friend kept asking people where they were from.. and I realized how bad of a conversational topic it is unless people are inetresting. Because when you have stories to spin off of boring topics you become interesting, as the question merely serves as a skeleton to begin an interesting routine. You can do the same thing with what do you do etc.. This is the way to fit routines into every day conversation. You can thank me later as that's brillant.
Anyway, I'm smashed out of my mind and can barely stand by this part of the evening and she drops me off. I had earlier told her that I had a Christmas Present for her. Which is true, I'm giving everyone a copy of the secret. And so when she drops me I incompetantly bring that up before stumbling into my house, and falling asleep until i woke up at 5 am and had to remember why the lights and TV were on.
Merry Christmas! Nothing says Christmas like waking up to a loud parade of Santa Claus impersonators. Gotta love Hollywood!
Anyway it's still on with shorty and I'm sure I will sleep with her eventually, as there were no real mistakes and her friends LOVE me. The old guy offered me representation as a comedian if I want it. All without even seeing my show. Her friend who brought the old guy AKA a gold digger, loves me because I talked to her and OG about football and gambling. My two favorite things of all time BTW. Trying to talk to me about Football betting is like talking to Bruce Lee about Martial Arts. And I won over the two actors( Both of whom Shorty has fucked/dated) by talking to them swapping bullshit stories that I just happen to know how to DHV the shit out of myself in them. Really it was a long group set and I won it. Shows that community skills can be used in other situations than cold approach. Had I been a guy who was a friend of the actors I would have done the same things. I made sure to tease the shit out of her until everyone else did too and ran the set.
Shorty is supposed to come over tonight to get her present, the drama continues.
Hope everyone on here ( I saw the reader #s. Thanks) has an amzing Christmas and New Year's and continues to enjoy and learn as much from reading this blog, as I get from writing it.
Best,
S
Let it never be said that I only post about my successes or brag.
She showed up to get me and we went to a grimy bar in Los Feliz, when we go there her friends were there. What she failed to let me know prior to getting there was both of her friends were dudes.
Well as anyone whose taken a bootcamp with me knows, I love mixed sets.I'm also really good at them. Because at the end of the day you can always talk to the guys about money, sports, cars, alcohol or other women.
So I win both of these guys over and they start telling me always these qualifying stories about themselves. Like how when he was a Sophmore in High school he got permission to bveat up a senior from the Principal of his private school becasue as he had warned the entire student body of earlier in the year. " You don't talk shit about my dad". Also did I know he had a degree in design and did a best selling line.But because of his good looks people at the MAGICK( Men's clothing conference in Vegas, don't ask I'm a fashion whore I've admitted it) conference thought he was a model which he then said to look at the size of his check and ask if he's a model....
Anyway did some great befriending even when her early 20s friend showed up with ANgelo who was obviously in his LATE 40s. They then asked me where there were dance clubs around here....
The girl we'll call her shorty was telling people we were together then told another of her friends she was with a guy, before telling me that she never introduces guys to friends.... Jon's relationship frame sense was abuzzing.
We bounced to a house party with 6 people. And played some drinking games and did a gift exchange. It was funny because shorty's friend kept asking people where they were from.. and I realized how bad of a conversational topic it is unless people are inetresting. Because when you have stories to spin off of boring topics you become interesting, as the question merely serves as a skeleton to begin an interesting routine. You can do the same thing with what do you do etc.. This is the way to fit routines into every day conversation. You can thank me later as that's brillant.
Anyway, I'm smashed out of my mind and can barely stand by this part of the evening and she drops me off. I had earlier told her that I had a Christmas Present for her. Which is true, I'm giving everyone a copy of the secret. And so when she drops me I incompetantly bring that up before stumbling into my house, and falling asleep until i woke up at 5 am and had to remember why the lights and TV were on.
Merry Christmas! Nothing says Christmas like waking up to a loud parade of Santa Claus impersonators. Gotta love Hollywood!
Anyway it's still on with shorty and I'm sure I will sleep with her eventually, as there were no real mistakes and her friends LOVE me. The old guy offered me representation as a comedian if I want it. All without even seeing my show. Her friend who brought the old guy AKA a gold digger, loves me because I talked to her and OG about football and gambling. My two favorite things of all time BTW. Trying to talk to me about Football betting is like talking to Bruce Lee about Martial Arts. And I won over the two actors( Both of whom Shorty has fucked/dated) by talking to them swapping bullshit stories that I just happen to know how to DHV the shit out of myself in them. Really it was a long group set and I won it. Shows that community skills can be used in other situations than cold approach. Had I been a guy who was a friend of the actors I would have done the same things. I made sure to tease the shit out of her until everyone else did too and ran the set.
Shorty is supposed to come over tonight to get her present, the drama continues.
Hope everyone on here ( I saw the reader #s. Thanks) has an amzing Christmas and New Year's and continues to enjoy and learn as much from reading this blog, as I get from writing it.
Best,
S
Sunday, December 24, 2006
Real weird stuff happening tonight...
I have a girl I've been pursuing for awhile we've already gone to lmr and she stayed in my bed for like 16 hours.
She's real weird though and kinda reserved. She's a sweetheart though so when I do talk to her it's really great but then she gets really flaky or I have to flake. Like she was supposed to pick me up at the airport once and my flight got delayed to the next day when she had work. And One night I had another MLTR over so I didn't call when she asked me to.
Well the last time I flaked she met a band and now she told me that she hung out with them when she flaked on me thurs. So the part of me with self esteem says " fuck her don't waste your time" when she called me tonight and wants to meet for drinks... And Jon who likes himself felt a little better.
Then Evil Jon decided that the best way to make her learn her lesson would be to go and fuck her, then not call her anymore.
So I hatched a plot, you see she has a 2 seat car. I know because I walk girls out after they spend the night because I, am classy.
Now back to my plot to bang this chick. So it's 6:30 and I decide I'm going to flake on her unless, she comes and picks me up. So I text her:
Car is being werd, can you pick me up?
And I wait.
Her response:
Ya
Me:
What time are you gonna be here?
Her:
9 ish
ME:
Call me when you get here:
Her:
What street do you live on
Me: x at x see ya then
Her:k
Now I will go win over her friend, see if there is potential for a 3some, There may be as she invited me to drinks with her best friend. And she is bi. If not then I will ride home with her and calmy remind her that the last time she was over I think she left some earrings.My other LTR just left earrings here. She'll come up and I will slam her against the wall in the elevator and make out with her throw her in to bed and ....
I am now calling the shot al a Babe Ruth. I'd say my chances at having her are 1 in 2. I'm only worried about getting her into my place. If I can do that which I think I can as long as I mention the earrings on the way to the bar. Rather than at the end of the night. I also need to make sure to kino the shit out of her.
This will be interesting, there's been a major gap and power struggle where I have been chasing a lot. Everything tells me this shouldn't work. Strictly from an MM perspective but I like my odds.
I'll report tomor.
S
I have a girl I've been pursuing for awhile we've already gone to lmr and she stayed in my bed for like 16 hours.
She's real weird though and kinda reserved. She's a sweetheart though so when I do talk to her it's really great but then she gets really flaky or I have to flake. Like she was supposed to pick me up at the airport once and my flight got delayed to the next day when she had work. And One night I had another MLTR over so I didn't call when she asked me to.
Well the last time I flaked she met a band and now she told me that she hung out with them when she flaked on me thurs. So the part of me with self esteem says " fuck her don't waste your time" when she called me tonight and wants to meet for drinks... And Jon who likes himself felt a little better.
Then Evil Jon decided that the best way to make her learn her lesson would be to go and fuck her, then not call her anymore.
So I hatched a plot, you see she has a 2 seat car. I know because I walk girls out after they spend the night because I, am classy.
Now back to my plot to bang this chick. So it's 6:30 and I decide I'm going to flake on her unless, she comes and picks me up. So I text her:
Car is being werd, can you pick me up?
And I wait.
Her response:
Ya
Me:
What time are you gonna be here?
Her:
9 ish
ME:
Call me when you get here:
Her:
What street do you live on
Me: x at x see ya then
Her:k
Now I will go win over her friend, see if there is potential for a 3some, There may be as she invited me to drinks with her best friend. And she is bi. If not then I will ride home with her and calmy remind her that the last time she was over I think she left some earrings.My other LTR just left earrings here. She'll come up and I will slam her against the wall in the elevator and make out with her throw her in to bed and ....
I am now calling the shot al a Babe Ruth. I'd say my chances at having her are 1 in 2. I'm only worried about getting her into my place. If I can do that which I think I can as long as I mention the earrings on the way to the bar. Rather than at the end of the night. I also need to make sure to kino the shit out of her.
This will be interesting, there's been a major gap and power struggle where I have been chasing a lot. Everything tells me this shouldn't work. Strictly from an MM perspective but I like my odds.
I'll report tomor.
S
Chuck Norris
Chuck Norris' tears cure cancer. Too bad he has never cried.
Chuck Norris doesn't read books. He stares them down until he gets the information he wants.
If you ask Chuck Norris what time it is, he always says, "Two seconds till." After you ask, "Two seconds to what?" he roundhouse kicks you in the face.
Rather than being birthed like a normal child, Chuck Norris instead decided to punch his way out of his mother's womb. Shortly thereafter he grew a beard.
Since 1940, the year Chuck Norris was born, roundhouse kick related deaths have increased 13,000 percent.
Chuck Norris sold his soul to the devil for his rugged good looks and unparalleled martial arts ability. Shortly after the transaction was finalized, Chuck roundhouse kicked the devil in the face and took his soul back. The devil, who appreciates irony, couldn't stay mad and admitted he should have seen it coming. They now play poker every second Wednesday of the month.
Chuck Norris does not sleep. He waits.
Chuck Norris is not hung like a horse... horses are hung like Chuck Norris
Chuck Norris was the fourth Wiseman. He brought baby Jesus the gift of "beard". Jesus wore it proudly to his dying day. The other Wisemen, jealous of Jesus' obvious gift favoritism, used their combined influence to have Chuck omitted from the Bible. Shortly after all three died of roundhouse kick related deaths.
To prove it isn't that big of a deal to beat cancer. Chuck Norris smoked 15 cartons of cigarettes a day for 2 years and aquired 7 different kinds of cancer only to rid them from his body by flexing for 30 minutes. Beat that, Lance Armstrong.
There are no disabled people. Only people who have met Chuck Norris.
Chuck Norris does not have AIDS but he gives it to people anyway.
There is no chin behind Chuck Norris' beard. There is only another fist.
The chief export of Chuck Norris is pain.
Chuck Norris is currently suing NBC, claiming Law and Order are trademarked names for his left and right legs.
If paper beats rock, rock beats scissors, and scissors beats paper, what beats all 3 at the same time? Answer: Chuck Norris.
Chuck Norris drinks napalm to quell his heartburn.
A duck's quack does not echo. Chuck Norris is solely responsible for this phenomenon. When asked why he will simply stare at you, grimly.
Chuck Norris doesn't believe in Germany.
If you want a list of Chuck Norris' enemies, just check the extinct species list.
Chuck Norris has never blinked in his entire life. Never.
Chuck Norris once shot an enemy plane down with his finger, by yelling, "Bang!"
If Superman and The Flash were to race to the edge of space you know who would win? Chuck Norris.
Chuck Norris does not use spell check. If he happens to misspell a word, Oxford will simply change the actual spelling of it.
Chuck Norris doesn't read books. He stares them down until he gets the information he wants.
If you ask Chuck Norris what time it is, he always says, "Two seconds till." After you ask, "Two seconds to what?" he roundhouse kicks you in the face.
Rather than being birthed like a normal child, Chuck Norris instead decided to punch his way out of his mother's womb. Shortly thereafter he grew a beard.
Since 1940, the year Chuck Norris was born, roundhouse kick related deaths have increased 13,000 percent.
Chuck Norris sold his soul to the devil for his rugged good looks and unparalleled martial arts ability. Shortly after the transaction was finalized, Chuck roundhouse kicked the devil in the face and took his soul back. The devil, who appreciates irony, couldn't stay mad and admitted he should have seen it coming. They now play poker every second Wednesday of the month.
Chuck Norris does not sleep. He waits.
Chuck Norris is not hung like a horse... horses are hung like Chuck Norris
Chuck Norris was the fourth Wiseman. He brought baby Jesus the gift of "beard". Jesus wore it proudly to his dying day. The other Wisemen, jealous of Jesus' obvious gift favoritism, used their combined influence to have Chuck omitted from the Bible. Shortly after all three died of roundhouse kick related deaths.
To prove it isn't that big of a deal to beat cancer. Chuck Norris smoked 15 cartons of cigarettes a day for 2 years and aquired 7 different kinds of cancer only to rid them from his body by flexing for 30 minutes. Beat that, Lance Armstrong.
There are no disabled people. Only people who have met Chuck Norris.
Chuck Norris does not have AIDS but he gives it to people anyway.
There is no chin behind Chuck Norris' beard. There is only another fist.
The chief export of Chuck Norris is pain.
Chuck Norris is currently suing NBC, claiming Law and Order are trademarked names for his left and right legs.
If paper beats rock, rock beats scissors, and scissors beats paper, what beats all 3 at the same time? Answer: Chuck Norris.
Chuck Norris drinks napalm to quell his heartburn.
A duck's quack does not echo. Chuck Norris is solely responsible for this phenomenon. When asked why he will simply stare at you, grimly.
Chuck Norris doesn't believe in Germany.
If you want a list of Chuck Norris' enemies, just check the extinct species list.
Chuck Norris has never blinked in his entire life. Never.
Chuck Norris once shot an enemy plane down with his finger, by yelling, "Bang!"
If Superman and The Flash were to race to the edge of space you know who would win? Chuck Norris.
Chuck Norris does not use spell check. If he happens to misspell a word, Oxford will simply change the actual spelling of it.
Help design my site and Win A free One on One.
Hey guys,
I'm gonna be moving my blog to www.sinnsofattraction.com, which is good news if you read the blog as I will be able to add a bunch more cool shit to an actual site. Think Audio and Video Field Reports, podcasts etc....
But I designed a really ghetto site using Godaddy's services.
So if you can build me a decent site ( Doesn't have to be amazing) just has to be easy to navigate and pretty. I will give you a free one on one, anywhere in the USA. I'll even pay my own travel costs. If the site really knocks my socks off, I'll give you a free one on one weekend. That's right you could get up to 3 days and 3 nights of one on one instruction for building my site. That's over a $ 4500 value.
Anyone interested email Sinn@themysterymethod.com
S
I'm gonna be moving my blog to www.sinnsofattraction.com, which is good news if you read the blog as I will be able to add a bunch more cool shit to an actual site. Think Audio and Video Field Reports, podcasts etc....
But I designed a really ghetto site using Godaddy's services.
So if you can build me a decent site ( Doesn't have to be amazing) just has to be easy to navigate and pretty. I will give you a free one on one, anywhere in the USA. I'll even pay my own travel costs. If the site really knocks my socks off, I'll give you a free one on one weekend. That's right you could get up to 3 days and 3 nights of one on one instruction for building my site. That's over a $ 4500 value.
Anyone interested email Sinn@themysterymethod.com
S
Natural Game
There seems to be a lot of debate raging about becoming a natural, I.E a man who gets women without having any formalized education into their pursuit.
The first step to becoming a natural ( or as I would like to suggest natural as you can't change the fact that you had to learn this stuff) is to define what a natural is in respect to meeting and attracting woman.
So what is a natural?
IMO a natural is someone who has always gotten women. They may or may not be off a cold approach, but a natural has always had women in his life. A natural never had a problem getting a girlfriend or keeping her. A natural may or may not be great at cold approach. Most natruals I've met don't actually do cold approach. They approach the girls who are giving them eye contact or " approach invitations" if you're a nerd. Most naturals have very good beliefs about women's sex drive. They may be misogynistic, but they believe that women like sex. They don't place too much importance on women and when they get flaked on you never notice because they don't talk about it. When asked for advice they generally tell you to chill out or be cool.
In these respects Savoy is actually the best natural I have ever met. He had been with a TON of women before coming into the community ( I won't post the # for his privacy email him and he may share it Savoy@themysterymethod.com) He also had most of them from cold approach.
But now that we know an what a natural is, we have to define natural game. IMO natural game is about a couple of things:
1. First understanding the way sex and relationships start.
Well.... getting rid of the internet and a celebrity that fucks his fans. Sex and relationships usually begin with a man meeting and then pursuing a woman until she relents. Relationships also usually start before sex does. Most people meet through work, or friends, or by happening to be in the same placea at the same time with a common interest ( think college class). It's still very rare that a woman meets a man at a club and they start dating. Generally people who do this are regarded as club friends. Clubs are seen as the domain of the hook up not the relationship. So what are the elements we can agree upon about how sex and relationships start.
1. Guy meets girl ( Or guy if you're into that sorta thing Cough*Masters*Cough)
2. Girl and guy become attracted to each other
3. Guy generally wanbts to get to sex as fast as possible
4. Couple have sex based on how long it takes the girl to get comfortable with having sex.
5. Based on how long it has been and what kind of frame has already been established couple either begins a relationship, continues the relationship, or ends contact.
So you have to first be aware of what steps need to be taken in order to get a woman into you're bed and life...
1. Meeting her. There is a lot of work that goes into meeting women. This doesn't mean scouraging the clubs necessarily, it could also mean taking a class, going to a Starbucks, meeting friends of friends, using the internet.. whatever.
2. Getting her attracted to you
3. Letting her get comfortable enough to have sex
4. Managing the relationship, so that neither of you feels bad about it.
So now that we understand what we have to do, we can break it into tactics/techniques to accomplish these goals.
But naturals don't have techniques they just have goals and intents. They see a girl they want, they meet her, they try to have sex with her. Either they fail(most of the time) or they succeed.
In my mind , that makes the key to becoming natural around women, is learning what to do( The process of getting sex) then unconsciously using the skills you've developed through repetition of techniques.
That's why routines are great, not because you should talk about things that are ungeniune forever, but because they teach you how to convey personality. But where most routine guys go wrong, is that they then don't develop a personality of their own. They stay conveying Mystery's personality or mine or Future's and they never seem to be able to get over the hump. The routines are just vessels to convey that you are an alpha male character that she wants to be with. If you don't ever develop the actual traits, while you will be able to get attraction and some results, you will forever be looking through a glass ceiling.
SO it is of utmost importance that we identify who we are. And who we want to be.
What kind of guy are you?
Goth?
Punk?
Jock?
Artistic?
A corporate mover and shaker?
What kind of guy do you want to be outside of your life with women?
What do you want your tombstone to read?
Look deeply at these questions, answer them and then add universally attractive layers to your personality.
Learn to be fun and funny, learn to lead groups of people to believe in you, learn to make people feel good about themselves, learn to be strong, learn to be decisive, learn to help people help themselves, learn to teach people, learn how to make people feel safe and protected, learn to show people new sides of the world and themselves, leanr to make people think, learn to see the good in everything and everyone, learn to show womnen what's awesome about your world etc..
I hope this isn't sounding like a rant, but I really want everyone to understand that ultimately becoming a natural isn't about changing who you are, it's about coming to accept who you are and getting others to accept who you are. People always talk about passion and how important it is. What is passion? It's someone embracing a quest or a hourney that they believe in and embracing their dedication to it.
To become a natural you need a passion so that getting women isn't something you have a chance to learn about.
S
The first step to becoming a natural ( or as I would like to suggest natural as you can't change the fact that you had to learn this stuff) is to define what a natural is in respect to meeting and attracting woman.
So what is a natural?
IMO a natural is someone who has always gotten women. They may or may not be off a cold approach, but a natural has always had women in his life. A natural never had a problem getting a girlfriend or keeping her. A natural may or may not be great at cold approach. Most natruals I've met don't actually do cold approach. They approach the girls who are giving them eye contact or " approach invitations" if you're a nerd. Most naturals have very good beliefs about women's sex drive. They may be misogynistic, but they believe that women like sex. They don't place too much importance on women and when they get flaked on you never notice because they don't talk about it. When asked for advice they generally tell you to chill out or be cool.
In these respects Savoy is actually the best natural I have ever met. He had been with a TON of women before coming into the community ( I won't post the # for his privacy email him and he may share it Savoy@themysterymethod.com) He also had most of them from cold approach.
But now that we know an what a natural is, we have to define natural game. IMO natural game is about a couple of things:
1. First understanding the way sex and relationships start.
Well.... getting rid of the internet and a celebrity that fucks his fans. Sex and relationships usually begin with a man meeting and then pursuing a woman until she relents. Relationships also usually start before sex does. Most people meet through work, or friends, or by happening to be in the same placea at the same time with a common interest ( think college class). It's still very rare that a woman meets a man at a club and they start dating. Generally people who do this are regarded as club friends. Clubs are seen as the domain of the hook up not the relationship. So what are the elements we can agree upon about how sex and relationships start.
1. Guy meets girl ( Or guy if you're into that sorta thing Cough*Masters*Cough)
2. Girl and guy become attracted to each other
3. Guy generally wanbts to get to sex as fast as possible
4. Couple have sex based on how long it takes the girl to get comfortable with having sex.
5. Based on how long it has been and what kind of frame has already been established couple either begins a relationship, continues the relationship, or ends contact.
So you have to first be aware of what steps need to be taken in order to get a woman into you're bed and life...
1. Meeting her. There is a lot of work that goes into meeting women. This doesn't mean scouraging the clubs necessarily, it could also mean taking a class, going to a Starbucks, meeting friends of friends, using the internet.. whatever.
2. Getting her attracted to you
3. Letting her get comfortable enough to have sex
4. Managing the relationship, so that neither of you feels bad about it.
So now that we understand what we have to do, we can break it into tactics/techniques to accomplish these goals.
But naturals don't have techniques they just have goals and intents. They see a girl they want, they meet her, they try to have sex with her. Either they fail(most of the time) or they succeed.
In my mind , that makes the key to becoming natural around women, is learning what to do( The process of getting sex) then unconsciously using the skills you've developed through repetition of techniques.
That's why routines are great, not because you should talk about things that are ungeniune forever, but because they teach you how to convey personality. But where most routine guys go wrong, is that they then don't develop a personality of their own. They stay conveying Mystery's personality or mine or Future's and they never seem to be able to get over the hump. The routines are just vessels to convey that you are an alpha male character that she wants to be with. If you don't ever develop the actual traits, while you will be able to get attraction and some results, you will forever be looking through a glass ceiling.
SO it is of utmost importance that we identify who we are. And who we want to be.
What kind of guy are you?
Goth?
Punk?
Jock?
Artistic?
A corporate mover and shaker?
What kind of guy do you want to be outside of your life with women?
What do you want your tombstone to read?
Look deeply at these questions, answer them and then add universally attractive layers to your personality.
Learn to be fun and funny, learn to lead groups of people to believe in you, learn to make people feel good about themselves, learn to be strong, learn to be decisive, learn to help people help themselves, learn to teach people, learn how to make people feel safe and protected, learn to show people new sides of the world and themselves, leanr to make people think, learn to see the good in everything and everyone, learn to show womnen what's awesome about your world etc..
I hope this isn't sounding like a rant, but I really want everyone to understand that ultimately becoming a natural isn't about changing who you are, it's about coming to accept who you are and getting others to accept who you are. People always talk about passion and how important it is. What is passion? It's someone embracing a quest or a hourney that they believe in and embracing their dedication to it.
To become a natural you need a passion so that getting women isn't something you have a chance to learn about.
S
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Top 5 cities for Pick Up
A lot of guys ask me about the best cities to for lack of better wording " Pick up chicks".
So hopefully I will never have to answer that question ever again after I write this post.
1. Stockholm, Sweden. The hottest, most beautiful women I have ever seen in my life. I remember distinctly being in Solidaritet, and seeing a 3 set where the first girl was the most beautiful women I had ever seen in my life, until I saw the second girl who was then for 3 seconds the most beautiful woman I had ever seen in my life, until 3 seconds later I saw the last girl who could conservatively be called a 15. Unreal. If you are serious about beautiful women, do yourself a favor and go to Stockholm. Bring heart medication though.
2. South Beach Miami. The women in South Beach are unreal, and the best thing about it is they walk around wearing nothing, or next to nothing. I hate the weather and everything in SObe is about 4 times more expensive than everywhere else in the US
(Because they add 18% gratuity)but the women are gorgeous. Unfortunately like the next entry on our list the majority of them seem to be tourists.
3. Las Vegas, Nevada. The most beautiful women in the world all vacation in Vegas. It would be # 1 except for the fact that almost 90% of the beauties are tourists. It's also a fairly easy place to do Pick up.
4. Chicago, Illinois. A very suprising entry, but the one time I was in Chicago I met one of the hottest girls I have ever hooked up with, and did 2 other sets one of which flew accross the country to see me and the other was a makeout. I'm sure the winter sucks, but summer time in Chi has some real hotties.
5. Hollywood, California. No suprise here, except maybe that it's this low on the list. Consistently has amazingly hot women and great weather. Way too many Puas in certain spots(like saddleranch) but there's a reason the women are really hot.
Hope this helps,
S
So hopefully I will never have to answer that question ever again after I write this post.
1. Stockholm, Sweden. The hottest, most beautiful women I have ever seen in my life. I remember distinctly being in Solidaritet, and seeing a 3 set where the first girl was the most beautiful women I had ever seen in my life, until I saw the second girl who was then for 3 seconds the most beautiful woman I had ever seen in my life, until 3 seconds later I saw the last girl who could conservatively be called a 15. Unreal. If you are serious about beautiful women, do yourself a favor and go to Stockholm. Bring heart medication though.
2. South Beach Miami. The women in South Beach are unreal, and the best thing about it is they walk around wearing nothing, or next to nothing. I hate the weather and everything in SObe is about 4 times more expensive than everywhere else in the US
(Because they add 18% gratuity)but the women are gorgeous. Unfortunately like the next entry on our list the majority of them seem to be tourists.
3. Las Vegas, Nevada. The most beautiful women in the world all vacation in Vegas. It would be # 1 except for the fact that almost 90% of the beauties are tourists. It's also a fairly easy place to do Pick up.
4. Chicago, Illinois. A very suprising entry, but the one time I was in Chicago I met one of the hottest girls I have ever hooked up with, and did 2 other sets one of which flew accross the country to see me and the other was a makeout. I'm sure the winter sucks, but summer time in Chi has some real hotties.
5. Hollywood, California. No suprise here, except maybe that it's this low on the list. Consistently has amazingly hot women and great weather. Way too many Puas in certain spots(like saddleranch) but there's a reason the women are really hot.
Hope this helps,
S
Go see Casino Royale
I have seen Casino Royale twice now and it is AMAZING!
By far the best Bond movie of all time, and I'm a hard core Sean Connery fan. I literally never thought that anyone else could have played bond besides SC.. until I saw Daniel Craig.
The movie is sooo good, it very well might be the best movie I have seen this year.
There's so much cool shit in the movie that it would be hard to pick out a few things, but I will.
The first scene in black and white where Bond suprises a corrupt government official in his office is unreal. It shows the one part of Bond that has alway been missing from the other movies( even the Connery ones) James Bond is an assassin first and foremost. His job is to kill people. In all the other films, Bond has had light hearted almost jovial quality to him. Not in Casino. He quips and banters back and forth with Vesper( the female lead) but he also kills people. Violently and callously.
There is another scene with major emotional impact later in the film where Vesper has just watched Bond kill two Arms dealers from Africa and when Bond comes back from the poker game she is sitting in the shower fully clothed. It's a great illustration of a realistic reaction that a girl would have to seeing two men killed. Unlike when Denise Richards was in a Bond film a few years back and she just chilled while Pierce Brosnan was mowing people down with a machine gun.
The plot of the movie revolves not around a laser on the moon that will destroy the Earth, but on an arms dealer who lost a lot of money shorting a stock and now needs to win it back in a high stakes poker game. There are a lot of twists and turns that happen around this plot, but nothing MAJORLY unrealistsic. It also does a great job of showing how Bond came to be. Casino is supposed to be Bond's first mission and we see a lot of charactersistcs develop that fans of the franchise will recognize.
Honestly I've seen it twice and I'm going again tomor. If you find yourself with some extra time this Holiday season check out Casino Royale.
S
By far the best Bond movie of all time, and I'm a hard core Sean Connery fan. I literally never thought that anyone else could have played bond besides SC.. until I saw Daniel Craig.
The movie is sooo good, it very well might be the best movie I have seen this year.
There's so much cool shit in the movie that it would be hard to pick out a few things, but I will.
The first scene in black and white where Bond suprises a corrupt government official in his office is unreal. It shows the one part of Bond that has alway been missing from the other movies( even the Connery ones) James Bond is an assassin first and foremost. His job is to kill people. In all the other films, Bond has had light hearted almost jovial quality to him. Not in Casino. He quips and banters back and forth with Vesper( the female lead) but he also kills people. Violently and callously.
There is another scene with major emotional impact later in the film where Vesper has just watched Bond kill two Arms dealers from Africa and when Bond comes back from the poker game she is sitting in the shower fully clothed. It's a great illustration of a realistic reaction that a girl would have to seeing two men killed. Unlike when Denise Richards was in a Bond film a few years back and she just chilled while Pierce Brosnan was mowing people down with a machine gun.
The plot of the movie revolves not around a laser on the moon that will destroy the Earth, but on an arms dealer who lost a lot of money shorting a stock and now needs to win it back in a high stakes poker game. There are a lot of twists and turns that happen around this plot, but nothing MAJORLY unrealistsic. It also does a great job of showing how Bond came to be. Casino is supposed to be Bond's first mission and we see a lot of charactersistcs develop that fans of the franchise will recognize.
Honestly I've seen it twice and I'm going again tomor. If you find yourself with some extra time this Holiday season check out Casino Royale.
S
Becoming a Beast
I have recently decided that I am going to gain 20 lbs of muscle.
I used to body build fairly seriously in the early 2000s and since finding the communtiy have really let my fitness slip.
So I now am rededicated. My goal is to increase my arms to at least 18 inches (they are 15 and 3/4 now) and get to 205 while lowering my body fat from 13% to somewhere in the 8-10 % range.
I'm training really hard and eating a shitload of chicken breast, vegetables and rice.
This goal has very little to do with pick up, but I'm sure that when I gain weight no guys will ever enter my sets ever again.
Unleash the Beast.
S
I used to body build fairly seriously in the early 2000s and since finding the communtiy have really let my fitness slip.
So I now am rededicated. My goal is to increase my arms to at least 18 inches (they are 15 and 3/4 now) and get to 205 while lowering my body fat from 13% to somewhere in the 8-10 % range.
I'm training really hard and eating a shitload of chicken breast, vegetables and rice.
This goal has very little to do with pick up, but I'm sure that when I gain weight no guys will ever enter my sets ever again.
Unleash the Beast.
S
Friday, December 22, 2006
Skills and Faith
There are in my mind two equally important parts to becoming a PUA.
1 is skills, learning the actual technical aspects of opening, negging, time constraining etc..
The second is faith.
Why is it that when guys get into the community they have SO much success with material? Is there anything that magical about opinion openers, or the ESP routine?
No, there isn't but you believe that these things work.
That's why the students who get the best are the ones who throw out their entire model of how pick up works and buy into the material.
Faith ultimately can be equated to "Inner game" where as skills = "outer game". The best thing that can happen to a PUA is to get some material that they have faith in first. Then develop their faith in themselves.
Future and I have often said that if you were truly 100% confident in everything you did, the only thing you would need to do is kino escalate. This would be a case where faith would overcome a lack of skills.
When i first started in the game, I was a mess but I had complete faith that these random guys on the internet were onto something. I truly believed that they could help me and that they were right. Later it turns out that most of them were either charletans or fucking crazy. Read " The Game" to figure out whose who. But it doesn't matter, because I still bought into it and improved the shit out of my life. If I had not believed that A certain non MM guru could go into a 112 guy 1 girl set and steal girls from celebrities, I would not have gotten as good as I am. Turns out it was a lie and I was better than him when I took my initial program.
This is something that I carry on today. When I read about guys doing shit that sounds ridiculous, I don't say it's bullshit, I field test it. That's one of the reasons I knew Dynamic was full of shit, cuz I tried to pull girls into the bathroom in 7 minutes by asking if they wanted to watch me jerk off. It didn't work but I kept trying it. I never discount anything, because when I first heard about opinion openers, they sounded stupid too.
I think that it is super important to have faith in A method even if it's not Mystery Method. People got laid before Mystery came around. But have faith in something and try it.
Now having said that, I really do believe in having techniques and tactics, I think they free you're mind to think about the really important stuff. I also believe that until you have internalized the structures of humor and story-telling and teasing etc, it's really helpful to have specific lines and routines to help you get the girl.
So the first thing I always suggest to guys is get an opener and start using it. Get proficient at opening sets so that you can then move on to learning Negs, FTC, DHVS and all the other horrible acronyms.
But after learning all the technical aspects of game, the final sticking point is learning to have faith in yourself, and your ability to attract and begin a sexual relationship with the women you desire.
In my own experience, my learnin curve went something like this
Year 1 I try stuff on girls I go to school with as I am terrified to approach
Year 2 I learned the wheelchair opener and did it over and over going to the mall every day and opening 7 sets a day, I had very spotty attraction game through reading community material. I started to get laid but it took a lot of sets that didn't go further than the opener.
Year 3 I take a MM program and learn the actual structure that I am supposed to be going through. I build a routine stack and run it over and over again until it starts to work almost every set. I also start to get bored but rack up a TON of lays.
Year 4 I start to focus on overlying mechanisms as I am going to strangle myself if I have to run Best Friends Test again. I also start to work on my inner game. More and more I find myself not having to rely on material. I reach a place where I neither hold a routine out or force it. I put it in if it makes sense in the overall flow of the interaction. I no longer know what I am doing. But it almost always works.
This is a process and it takes awhile to go from being completely unconsciously incompetant to being unconsciously competant.
Hope this helps everyone else as much as
1 is skills, learning the actual technical aspects of opening, negging, time constraining etc..
The second is faith.
Why is it that when guys get into the community they have SO much success with material? Is there anything that magical about opinion openers, or the ESP routine?
No, there isn't but you believe that these things work.
That's why the students who get the best are the ones who throw out their entire model of how pick up works and buy into the material.
Faith ultimately can be equated to "Inner game" where as skills = "outer game". The best thing that can happen to a PUA is to get some material that they have faith in first. Then develop their faith in themselves.
Future and I have often said that if you were truly 100% confident in everything you did, the only thing you would need to do is kino escalate. This would be a case where faith would overcome a lack of skills.
When i first started in the game, I was a mess but I had complete faith that these random guys on the internet were onto something. I truly believed that they could help me and that they were right. Later it turns out that most of them were either charletans or fucking crazy. Read " The Game" to figure out whose who. But it doesn't matter, because I still bought into it and improved the shit out of my life. If I had not believed that A certain non MM guru could go into a 112 guy 1 girl set and steal girls from celebrities, I would not have gotten as good as I am. Turns out it was a lie and I was better than him when I took my initial program.
This is something that I carry on today. When I read about guys doing shit that sounds ridiculous, I don't say it's bullshit, I field test it. That's one of the reasons I knew Dynamic was full of shit, cuz I tried to pull girls into the bathroom in 7 minutes by asking if they wanted to watch me jerk off. It didn't work but I kept trying it. I never discount anything, because when I first heard about opinion openers, they sounded stupid too.
I think that it is super important to have faith in A method even if it's not Mystery Method. People got laid before Mystery came around. But have faith in something and try it.
Now having said that, I really do believe in having techniques and tactics, I think they free you're mind to think about the really important stuff. I also believe that until you have internalized the structures of humor and story-telling and teasing etc, it's really helpful to have specific lines and routines to help you get the girl.
So the first thing I always suggest to guys is get an opener and start using it. Get proficient at opening sets so that you can then move on to learning Negs, FTC, DHVS and all the other horrible acronyms.
But after learning all the technical aspects of game, the final sticking point is learning to have faith in yourself, and your ability to attract and begin a sexual relationship with the women you desire.
In my own experience, my learnin curve went something like this
Year 1 I try stuff on girls I go to school with as I am terrified to approach
Year 2 I learned the wheelchair opener and did it over and over going to the mall every day and opening 7 sets a day, I had very spotty attraction game through reading community material. I started to get laid but it took a lot of sets that didn't go further than the opener.
Year 3 I take a MM program and learn the actual structure that I am supposed to be going through. I build a routine stack and run it over and over again until it starts to work almost every set. I also start to get bored but rack up a TON of lays.
Year 4 I start to focus on overlying mechanisms as I am going to strangle myself if I have to run Best Friends Test again. I also start to work on my inner game. More and more I find myself not having to rely on material. I reach a place where I neither hold a routine out or force it. I put it in if it makes sense in the overall flow of the interaction. I no longer know what I am doing. But it almost always works.
This is a process and it takes awhile to go from being completely unconsciously incompetant to being unconsciously competant.
Hope this helps everyone else as much as
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
End of the line in Miami and as I sit here waiting for my cab I have to look back on the last 5 weeks of my life.
I haven't been home since Nov 14th or 16th I can't remember and can't bother checking when my Austin B/C was.
I have pulled 8 girls in this time, had 2 day2s and 2 day3s, had a ton of makeouts, been in Dallas, Austin, Toronto, New York, and Miami. I have taught or assisted at 4 bootcamps and a day game seminar. I have been hanging with Tenmagnet, Masters, Future, Captain Jack. I have spent way too much money.
I'm feeling conflicted as I prepare to go home and be off for the next 3 weeks. I dunno if I'm relieved to have the time off or if I'm gonna be really bored.
I can't believe I'm finally going to sleep in my bed with HB bi-squared tonight. It's exciting to see her and I can't wait til I get off the plane and she's waiting for me.
Then tomor I have to get on with the process of moving on with my life, without having to fly to bootcamps all the time.
S
I haven't been home since Nov 14th or 16th I can't remember and can't bother checking when my Austin B/C was.
I have pulled 8 girls in this time, had 2 day2s and 2 day3s, had a ton of makeouts, been in Dallas, Austin, Toronto, New York, and Miami. I have taught or assisted at 4 bootcamps and a day game seminar. I have been hanging with Tenmagnet, Masters, Future, Captain Jack. I have spent way too much money.
I'm feeling conflicted as I prepare to go home and be off for the next 3 weeks. I dunno if I'm relieved to have the time off or if I'm gonna be really bored.
I can't believe I'm finally going to sleep in my bed with HB bi-squared tonight. It's exciting to see her and I can't wait til I get off the plane and she's waiting for me.
Then tomor I have to get on with the process of moving on with my life, without having to fly to bootcamps all the time.
S
Monday, December 18, 2006
I love Miami and a potential GF update
So i'm sitting in a hotel with Masters, Captain Jack and tenmagnet and looking out at palm trees and gorgeous women, when it hits me that i love Miami.
It's unreal, the women are gorgeous and the place is pretty damn close to being paradise.
My only major complaint about Mia, is the 18% tip that every place in South Beach adds.
Last night we went to a strip club and I met one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen in my life.
She was a 12.
And I got her.
She happens to live in LA and just flew out here to work, we have been texting back and forth like teenagers all night and morning. She may not be THE one, but she can definetly be A one.
I wish i had the sarge on tape because it was masterful. I really need to get a voice recorder.
Her stripper programming kept coming back on and I had to do several freeze outs and dismiss her a ton. I also threw in some of the new advanced comfort stuff Future and I have been working on including "The Golden Mirror". The hardest part of the set was keeping my eyes locked onto hers even though I was desperately wanting to check her out.
When i got to the club, I was nervous as I hadn't done stripper game in a couple of months since I picked up a waitress at Cheetahs in Vegas with The Don, but as soon as I got into set I remembered how good I am at stripper game. I worked two warm up sets that weren't that hot and both of them were jumping through every one of my hoops and buying me cigarettes. But they weren't the one. Then I saw her onstage and I told Captain Jack that she would be mine.
I feel like I'm in a place where I want to have a GF for awhile, I've done the promiscuous thing for 3 years with no real commitment even Annie and Cara were still technically open relationships.
Looking back I have NEVER been in a committed relationship ever.
I don't know if I can do it, but I do know that the first requirment a girl will have to meet is the physical beauty and this girl from last night def has that.
I kind of look at a committed relationship as a challenge.
I learned how to not have a committed relationship and balance expectations while keeping girls really happy from Savoy and from what i've heard about his new relationship management seminar he's giving away a lot more than he taught me.
I have a program in Vancouver that weekend but I would LOVE to be a fly on the wall in that room.
For more info on that seminar go to Relationship Management Seminar
Anyway this is becoming a rambling mess, the bottom line is that I am FINALLY excited about a particular girl again. It's not one-itis, but it's nice to want a girl to call and to look forward to talking to her.
S
It's unreal, the women are gorgeous and the place is pretty damn close to being paradise.
My only major complaint about Mia, is the 18% tip that every place in South Beach adds.
Last night we went to a strip club and I met one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen in my life.
She was a 12.
And I got her.
She happens to live in LA and just flew out here to work, we have been texting back and forth like teenagers all night and morning. She may not be THE one, but she can definetly be A one.
I wish i had the sarge on tape because it was masterful. I really need to get a voice recorder.
Her stripper programming kept coming back on and I had to do several freeze outs and dismiss her a ton. I also threw in some of the new advanced comfort stuff Future and I have been working on including "The Golden Mirror". The hardest part of the set was keeping my eyes locked onto hers even though I was desperately wanting to check her out.
When i got to the club, I was nervous as I hadn't done stripper game in a couple of months since I picked up a waitress at Cheetahs in Vegas with The Don, but as soon as I got into set I remembered how good I am at stripper game. I worked two warm up sets that weren't that hot and both of them were jumping through every one of my hoops and buying me cigarettes. But they weren't the one. Then I saw her onstage and I told Captain Jack that she would be mine.
I feel like I'm in a place where I want to have a GF for awhile, I've done the promiscuous thing for 3 years with no real commitment even Annie and Cara were still technically open relationships.
Looking back I have NEVER been in a committed relationship ever.
I don't know if I can do it, but I do know that the first requirment a girl will have to meet is the physical beauty and this girl from last night def has that.
I kind of look at a committed relationship as a challenge.
I learned how to not have a committed relationship and balance expectations while keeping girls really happy from Savoy and from what i've heard about his new relationship management seminar he's giving away a lot more than he taught me.
I have a program in Vancouver that weekend but I would LOVE to be a fly on the wall in that room.
For more info on that seminar go to Relationship Management Seminar
Anyway this is becoming a rambling mess, the bottom line is that I am FINALLY excited about a particular girl again. It's not one-itis, but it's nice to want a girl to call and to look forward to talking to her.
S
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Product Review: The October Man Sequence.
As an avid fan of NLP and as a seduction community hobbyist, I was super psyched to see the famed " October Man" sequence.
I was not expecting magic as I have been involved in the community for awhile and I've seen a lof of promises go unfulfilled.
The October Man sequence found here:
The October Man Sequence - Finally Revealed by Twotimer/IN10SE himself!
Delivers the goods BIG time.
I've never seen such a devastating end game technique.
I had used symbol fractionation earlier in my PUA career and I thought that it bordered on being Evil. I even dropped it out of my game as it made me feel like a hypnotist.
However The October Man is UNREAL powerful.
It takes ymbol fractionation and puts it into a really easy to use formula while allowing you to link all those feelings of desire to you.
It also starts a physically arousing sequence that leads to full closes quite nicely.
I would be remiss if I recommended this product without a warning, this is a VERY powerful technique that could be very painful in the wrong hands.
The ideas of doing Identity change work are very serious and to be used only to benefit a woman.
If you are in this to hurt women, I strongly suggest that you avoid this product to avoid going to jail.
The book is well written and the audio of In10se follows along well.
The graphic design of the book is the best I've ever seen and I heard that In10se is using the same woman to design his principles of pleasure product too so I'll be checking that one out soon.
The writing is easy to understand and explains some tricky NLP concepts in a way that a complete lay-man ( pun intended) would understand it. It's one of the better products on NLP I've ever seen from the community in terms of blending working technology with a DYD writing style that one would have to have a below room temp IQ to not understand.
I have not re-read the product yet as I understood all of it in one reading. That may be because I am an advanced guy, with a big NLP background but some of my students who have read it also got it quite quickly.
Overall:
Content 4 of 5
Presentation 4 of 5
Download 3 of 5 could be faster/ easier to get
Altogether 4 of 5. Far and Away the best NLP product I've seen. A must have.
S
I was not expecting magic as I have been involved in the community for awhile and I've seen a lof of promises go unfulfilled.
The October Man sequence found here:
The October Man Sequence - Finally Revealed by Twotimer/IN10SE himself!
Delivers the goods BIG time.
I've never seen such a devastating end game technique.
I had used symbol fractionation earlier in my PUA career and I thought that it bordered on being Evil. I even dropped it out of my game as it made me feel like a hypnotist.
However The October Man is UNREAL powerful.
It takes ymbol fractionation and puts it into a really easy to use formula while allowing you to link all those feelings of desire to you.
It also starts a physically arousing sequence that leads to full closes quite nicely.
I would be remiss if I recommended this product without a warning, this is a VERY powerful technique that could be very painful in the wrong hands.
The ideas of doing Identity change work are very serious and to be used only to benefit a woman.
If you are in this to hurt women, I strongly suggest that you avoid this product to avoid going to jail.
The book is well written and the audio of In10se follows along well.
The graphic design of the book is the best I've ever seen and I heard that In10se is using the same woman to design his principles of pleasure product too so I'll be checking that one out soon.
The writing is easy to understand and explains some tricky NLP concepts in a way that a complete lay-man ( pun intended) would understand it. It's one of the better products on NLP I've ever seen from the community in terms of blending working technology with a DYD writing style that one would have to have a below room temp IQ to not understand.
I have not re-read the product yet as I understood all of it in one reading. That may be because I am an advanced guy, with a big NLP background but some of my students who have read it also got it quite quickly.
Overall:
Content 4 of 5
Presentation 4 of 5
Download 3 of 5 could be faster/ easier to get
Altogether 4 of 5. Far and Away the best NLP product I've seen. A must have.
S
So my day 3 went reeally well I was fingering her in the restaurant and the cab ride home....
But I really just wanted to leave as soon as it was over and it felt very very empty.
And I think that at this point I've probably had all the random pointless encounters with women that I want to have for awhile.
I really want to focus on only dating girls that are relationship material. I.E that I want to see more than once.
I've been really focused on same night lays and for awhile that was cool, but the problem with that is that every night you have to start over. And you are forced to play the game when you are tired, sick, bored, etc.
It's the reason why i moved to LA instead of Vegas.
I went to Vegas and had a week of debauchery and what I noticed was, it was all one night stands. I'd never see the girls again.
Most of the time we parted without even a phone number exchange, replaced instead by an awkward exit from a hotel room and walk through a different casino then the one I was staying followed by a swift trip to the nearest blackjack table for a Vodka and Soda.
So I decided that I would end up in AA, Obese, and broke laying in a sports book face down with a stripper's number on my forehead. And not wanting to die like that until I'm atleast 45... so I moved to LA.
And I'm really bored of it. Pick -up in LA is like shooting fish in the barrel if they are less than a 9. It's really hard to not be able to fuck a 7. However when you move up to the women of particular beauty, you will notice that suddenly the guy you are competing with to get her on a day2 is Jeremy Piven.
That's a true story, I picked up a 9.5 in the Beverly Center a few months ago as she was waiting for Jeremy Piven to come meet her. She has a book getting published in Jan. He ended up standing her up and I called her the next day and got a day2 a week or so later. The day2 was my classic 2 bars crawl . I make sure that the second bar is really gross to make it easier to get her back to my place. This time it was a no go as she had class the next day. The furthest kino escalation went was hand holding. The I was in and out of town for like a month so we talked on the phone quite a bit. I learned a lot about phone game from this sarge as I had to balance showing a lot of interest with not being around to capitalize on it. I.E you can hit on a girl harder when you are away for awhile and there are no consequences to her flirting a lot on the phone. Finally we did a day3 where I prepared some hor'deuorves and Champagne and she did coke and fucked me 15 times. I kinda pissed her off tho when I tried to take pics of her while she had her mouth full.... So no return trip, but she was hot... And consequently she blew off Jeremy Piven to go out with me that night, but when I asked if she had seen entourage she bristled....
So LA has some perks and some problems. However the last month i have spent on the East Coast makes me yearn to return to sunshine and warmth instead of freezing.
S
But I really just wanted to leave as soon as it was over and it felt very very empty.
And I think that at this point I've probably had all the random pointless encounters with women that I want to have for awhile.
I really want to focus on only dating girls that are relationship material. I.E that I want to see more than once.
I've been really focused on same night lays and for awhile that was cool, but the problem with that is that every night you have to start over. And you are forced to play the game when you are tired, sick, bored, etc.
It's the reason why i moved to LA instead of Vegas.
I went to Vegas and had a week of debauchery and what I noticed was, it was all one night stands. I'd never see the girls again.
Most of the time we parted without even a phone number exchange, replaced instead by an awkward exit from a hotel room and walk through a different casino then the one I was staying followed by a swift trip to the nearest blackjack table for a Vodka and Soda.
So I decided that I would end up in AA, Obese, and broke laying in a sports book face down with a stripper's number on my forehead. And not wanting to die like that until I'm atleast 45... so I moved to LA.
And I'm really bored of it. Pick -up in LA is like shooting fish in the barrel if they are less than a 9. It's really hard to not be able to fuck a 7. However when you move up to the women of particular beauty, you will notice that suddenly the guy you are competing with to get her on a day2 is Jeremy Piven.
That's a true story, I picked up a 9.5 in the Beverly Center a few months ago as she was waiting for Jeremy Piven to come meet her. She has a book getting published in Jan. He ended up standing her up and I called her the next day and got a day2 a week or so later. The day2 was my classic 2 bars crawl . I make sure that the second bar is really gross to make it easier to get her back to my place. This time it was a no go as she had class the next day. The furthest kino escalation went was hand holding. The I was in and out of town for like a month so we talked on the phone quite a bit. I learned a lot about phone game from this sarge as I had to balance showing a lot of interest with not being around to capitalize on it. I.E you can hit on a girl harder when you are away for awhile and there are no consequences to her flirting a lot on the phone. Finally we did a day3 where I prepared some hor'deuorves and Champagne and she did coke and fucked me 15 times. I kinda pissed her off tho when I tried to take pics of her while she had her mouth full.... So no return trip, but she was hot... And consequently she blew off Jeremy Piven to go out with me that night, but when I asked if she had seen entourage she bristled....
So LA has some perks and some problems. However the last month i have spent on the East Coast makes me yearn to return to sunshine and warmth instead of freezing.
S
Tuesday, December 12, 2006
I hate day2s...
I really don't like doing day2s.
I've been sitting fat and happy in LA and have girls in NY, LV, Dal, Tor etc... so I haven't been doing that many day2s.
I've also really been focused on taking girls home on the first night a lot too.
So now the last 2 weeks I've had like 3 day 2s and a day3 tonight. And I forget how annoying it is when sex is not guaranteed.
It's like I'm just waiting for the real relationship to start, but I have to put in the time... And it's tedious and I have to pretend to care.
The girl tonight is sweet enough, but she lives in NY and she's not a keeper. I have better looking girls in the city, but Future has a date tonight so I would rather see her then go out alone.
But I'm not exactly psyched, add in the fact that we are starting at a bar and not at her house( The only legit seduction environment since i'm on Future's couch) and that she lives in Brooklyn.... Grr
Better get ready :) I'm still gonna get laid, but I'd rather be playing Madden.
S
I've been sitting fat and happy in LA and have girls in NY, LV, Dal, Tor etc... so I haven't been doing that many day2s.
I've also really been focused on taking girls home on the first night a lot too.
So now the last 2 weeks I've had like 3 day 2s and a day3 tonight. And I forget how annoying it is when sex is not guaranteed.
It's like I'm just waiting for the real relationship to start, but I have to put in the time... And it's tedious and I have to pretend to care.
The girl tonight is sweet enough, but she lives in NY and she's not a keeper. I have better looking girls in the city, but Future has a date tonight so I would rather see her then go out alone.
But I'm not exactly psyched, add in the fact that we are starting at a bar and not at her house( The only legit seduction environment since i'm on Future's couch) and that she lives in Brooklyn.... Grr
Better get ready :) I'm still gonna get laid, but I'd rather be playing Madden.
S
Monday, December 11, 2006
Update
Sorry I haven't been posting more, I have been on the road for 3 weeks straight and coming into the home stretch here.
Where have i been?
Austin Nov 17-19
Dallas
Toronto
New York
And I leave for Miami on Thurs, sigh... such is life.
I've been on a ton of d2s and pulled 3-4 times in this span, but i know that i won't be seeing these girls again and that's kinda sad.
I have a bunch of new stuff I'll be posting soon.
S
Where have i been?
Austin Nov 17-19
Dallas
Toronto
New York
And I leave for Miami on Thurs, sigh... such is life.
I've been on a ton of d2s and pulled 3-4 times in this span, but i know that i won't be seeing these girls again and that's kinda sad.
I have a bunch of new stuff I'll be posting soon.
S
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