Thursday, April 02, 2009

Player Game Part 2: Lack Of Remorse

Welcome back to the Sinn’s Of Attraction Class Room where knowledge is dropped.

I’ve been really racking my brain to figure out why I’m abloe to get away with all of the various ridiculousnesses I get away with. Part of it is how much I’m not afraid to make it obvious in subtle and not so subtle ways to girls that I get laid.

Today I want to talk about why I do this and why it’s attractive.

One of the things I’ve noticed in students is when they start getting more girls or dating multiple girls at the same time, they tend to have some remorse about it. Especially if they aren’t being honest about their intentions.

I don’t have this issue. I’ve worked very hard to get rid of as much of my sexual judgementalism as is humanly possible. I don’t feel bad that I sometimes sleep with 2 different girls a day. I don’t feel bad when I have a one night stand. I don’t think sex is wrong, or dirty or wrong. I also don’t feel that you need to attach emotions to sex, or make it mean something other than a physical thing.

I express that to girls early on.

Now obviously, you can’t just come out and say it, but what you can do is allude to things with open loops until girls ask.

One of the ways I do this is through discussing group sex. I always say something like

“ Every guy thinks threesomes and group sex are fun, til your girlfriend shows up at your place at 5 AM with 5 strippers.”

Girls are always intrigued by this.

Now this is a true story, I did date a stripper who used to bring girls home. One night she did show up with 5 girls and I slep on the couch.

Notice this story is not me bragging about banging 5 girls, it actually ends with me not getting laid. But I demonstrate some important characteristics. Girls want to bang me and bring girls for me, I’m not sexually judgmental, and it’s a funny story.

I also will show girls where other girls have bite me or given me hickeys.

Last weekend I was talking to a girl and complained about shoulder pain, when she asked why I showed her the crazy bite marks the law student I’m seeing left me. I ended up making out with the new girl 10 minutes later.

I will often even tell girls that I’m fairly promiscuious. I’ll tell them that in my life it’s not uncommon to meet a lot of really cool, beautiful women and that sex is just gymnastics.

The point is, in order to run player game you have to be completely unrepentant about your womanizing, any explanation or attempt to make it sound like something noble or unique.

This also demonstrates emotional integrity. When girls meet me, they know what I am. If I try to explain that I’m not a player and she is special, I lose the girl. If I act like it’s no big deal and I qualify properly, I never have problems. Including retention and avoidance of the define the relationship talk.

S

5 comments:

  1. And.... saved in my archive!! I'm not so far yet but that's actually what I want from women... great post... I think 90% of the "pua" who write blogs should take some time to read yours and rethink if what they are publishing is even worth spreading.... genious!

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  2. I like your latest 3 articles you've written here... they're really good and touch upon ideas that I think not many people are aware of

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  3. sandy6:04 PM

    This also demonstrates emotional integrity. When girls meet me, they know what I am. If I try to explain that I’m not a player and she is special, I lose the girl. If I act like it’s no big deal and I qualify properly, I never have problems. Including retention and avoidance of the define the relationship talk.

    If you are into her and like her but yet you know if you tell her she is special Im 100% sure cause I ve lost them...you say I can try this that you have other girls and they game you?
    sounds conter tuitive but you know in this shit everythign counterintuitive to community belief works....

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  4. Anonymous5:05 PM

    I try to be as open about things as possible even if they cold be objectively "bad".

    Great post.

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  5. I was looking for a post like this I got my self into a pickle when I told my girl friend that I loved her but I really didn't mean it. She has a baby and she thinks I'm the one. I just wish someone could have told me earlier to let the girl know your a player and I'm not that serious about us. :0

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