Tuesday, April 21, 2009

The Power of Patience

What's up guys?

It's Tuesday and I've been completely swamped the last couple of days.

I'm on this new thing where I have to get 1 phone number a day during the daytime, it's partially to keep me from going out at night, and partially just because there are so many hot girls wandering around during the day.

As a result of this, I've been doing a lot of phone game.

I just sent out the basics of phone game to the guys subscribed to my newsletter yesterday. I also just finished Phone Game 2.0 and mailed that out to the members of my inner circle last week. To learn more about Sinn's Inner Circle, go to www.sinnsofattraction.com/sic

One of the things that I think really trips guys up on the phone is a lack of patience.

Unfortunately after you have exchanged phone numbers with a girl ( and hopefully set up a date) the ball is in her court. She can choose whether or not to return calls, texts, ims and smoke signals.

So all you can do is follow up in the correct way and hope you did a good enough job initially.

I had texted this girl yesterday and we went back and forth a couple of times before I escalated the texts in a sexual/flirty way. And nothing came back for 15, 30, 45, minutes... Finally she texted back an hour and a half later with a flirtier response.

The old me, would have spent the entire hour and a half, trying to figure out a clever high value way to text again and spark a response. But now I understand that you're only hurting yourself when you do that. It's much better to be patient give it a couple of hours and not worry about it.

At some point you have to believe the girl likes you, the sooner you do that and act accordingly the better things go on the phone.



  1. Chris H9:51 AM

    Yeah I am definitely guilty of a lack of patience on txts. I've had a few in the last month where I didn't panic and it paid off. When I have panicked it definitely killed the tension in the texts and I had to start all over the next day. I just have to keep reminding myself, attractive interesting women aren't stapled to their phones and I shouldn't be either.

  2. Anonymous10:02 AM

    Yeah this one is huge with me. I think I get too excited when I'm in a new dialogue with a new girl. Gotta learn to chillll.

  3. Great post!
    Patience does pay off, and in fact there could be several reasons for her not to respond sooner.
    She might have just been busy, or been thinking about a clever response.
    You can also think of it as a way from her to built anticipation.
    So do the same to her, don't respond immediately, imagine her waiting on your reply, and let the anticipation build.
    This also shows her that you're not needy, and got other things to do.

  4. I'm trying to do the same as you are, focus on day game and avoid night game for a while. I started on Monday and I'm already planning to go out this Friday haha. I met a girl in a shoe shop today that knows the same people that I know that will be competing in a dance competition at a club on Friday night so it made sense for us to meet up there.

  5. Anonymous2:33 PM


    You've posted in the past that DayGame is all about getting the insta-date, so I found it interesting that you've committed to getting a phone number every day with day game.

    Has your thinking re: insta-dating changed, or do you have a new way of handling the numbers that makes them more useful?