Friday, February 13, 2009

Lifestyle: Part 1 How the hell can Lifestyle get me laid?

Hey guys,

It's finally Friday, that means way more girls will be out tonight, and everyone will be looking to decompress and start the weekend.

I want to start the weekend right, by talking to you about one of the overlooked aspects of your game. Lifestyle.

In my model of game, there are 3 parts. The first is Inner Psychology, this is about dealing with your insecurities, your view on the world, values, standards and expectations of yourself, women, and the world. Then there is Skillsets. This is things like learning to start a conversation, learning to tease, learning to physically escalate, learning to tell stories, etc... Finally you have lifestyle and here's where the confusion lays...

What the hell is your lifestyle?

Let's ask Wikipedia:

Lifestyle was originally coined by Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler in 1929. The current broader sense of the word dates from 1961.[1]

In sociology, a lifestyle is the way a person lives. A lifestyle is a characteristic bundle of behaviors that makes sense to both others and oneself in a given time and place, including social relations, consumption, entertainment, and dress. The behaviors and practices within lifestyles are a mixture of habits, conventional ways of doing things, and reasoned actions. A lifestyle typically also reflects an individual's attitudes, values or worldview. Therefore, a lifestyle is a means of forging a sense of self and to create cultural symbols that resonate with personal identity. Not all aspects of a lifestyle are entirely voluntaristic. Surrounding social and technical systems can constrain the lifestyle choices available to the individual and the symbols she/he is able to project to others and the self.[2]

The lines between personal identity and the everyday doings that signal a particular lifestyle become blurred in modern society.[3] For example, "green lifestyle" means holding beliefs and engaging in activities that consume fewer resources and produce less harmful waste (i.e. a smaller carbon footprint), and deriving a sense of self from holding these beliefs and engaging in these activities. Some commentators argue that, in Modernity, the cornerstone of lifestyle construction is consumption behavior, which offers the possibility to create and further individualize the self with different products or services that signal different ways of life.[4]

So the basic idea of a Lifestyle is the expression of an individual's worldview, attitudes, and identity...

This is now starting to make a little more sense, no?

If the way you live is a representation of your attitudes and identity as a person, what does it say if you work at a job you hate, have had the same friends of similar jobs and personality types, and spend most of your time surfing the internet or playing video games?

I always ask students on bootcamp, which of the 3 elements of Game, they think will give them the best results in terms of getting laid?

If you guessed Lifestyle you guessed correct. A lot of students I get have actually mastered Lifestyle game in some form.

Printer became the king of a small college town because he threw the best boat parties around.

Scotty of OTM.com is sooo overwhelmed with the amount of girls his lifestyle brings him, he literally doesn't have time to cold approach.

Eric from Miami actually missed a night of bootcamp because his friends had set him up with a SUPERmodel.

So how does Lifestyle get you laid?

Here's how, you can shape your Lifestyle in such a way that it cannot help but put you in the path of beautiful women.

Any interest, hobby or activity you enjoy can be used to meet women.

If you like exercise, you can join a Yoga class, and then start inivting people from there to join you for a coffee afterwards or organize outdoor Yoga on the weekends...

If you like partying, you can become a low level promoter and gain access to free tables, bottle service and club girls.

If you like taking pictures you can put out ads offering free head shots for "models".

There are a million ways to use your life to bring women into it.

It breaks down into 3 parts.

1. Lifestyle Design
2. The Places You Go.
3. The People You Know.

And I'll be back to break down those three parts in depth very soon...

Stay Tuned,

S

P.S I'll be giving some more tips on Lifestyle in the first episode of the "Still Unnamed" Podcast. Monday.





6 comments:

  1. Anonymous4:15 PM

    FYI: Scotty's site is www.onthemat.com

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  2. Thanks for writing this. Looking forward to the other parts.

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  3. Anonymous10:52 PM

    ummm i emailed you about this so thank you so fucking much

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  4. Melynthos10:09 AM

    HELL YES

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  5. you dont need a lifestyle to get laid....here are guys who arent in this "comunity" that I see bang chicks in a chodey way of geting picked up. Lifstyle is baove the bangin them its your life...nothing to do with gtting laid.

    You got Laid before you had a lifestyle dude, youre lifestyle was teaching bootcamps and seminars and going out to game...
    Its like a fantasy to get paid to get good at getting laid..

    I dont believe w get paid not to get laid..thats bs so you wont show what you got,you or anyone doesnt have to prove anything eithr you are good or you suck because you have a perceived value that hey you are good and youre theories sound good...

    Im glad you acknowledge guys like CJ cause I bet you gamed with him to see his game..like many want to learn and see and get BS from instructors so their pretty littl ego dont get hurt...reality is you dont need it to get good or get laid if you do have it use it.

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  6. Thank you so much Sinn.
    This post makes so much sense and definitely strikes a chord with me, as building a lifestyle is the stage I am at right now.
    You are absolutely right, and I hope you have a great day!
    Thanks again! : )

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