Mailbag # 2 On the topic of getting dreezed up...

Omaha PUA writes:

1. Do you drink when you sarge, if so, how do you keep a clear head
when sarging?

You seem pretty in-tune to being healthy, how do you maintain your health while
sarging and drinking?


While I appreciate the comment, I don't think my drinking, smoking, not sleeping and fucking lifestyle is particularly healthy. Awesome yes, healthy, no. But I do work out so that's something right? :) I also try to get enough sleep and eat healthy. Though traveling makes it a lot harder. I try to not drink tot he point of a hang over, but when I am hung-over I try to still get shit done, even if it's easy shit that just has to get taken care of like laundry or errands. I think the real key is in minimizing the time you lose the following day. It sucks but if you can do that drinking and you don't drink high calorie drinks. I drink Vodka and diet Coke which has like 60 calories a drink versus regular soda and juice which can be like 200 calories. I also avoid beer, and late night eating. If I drink I'll set a drink limit somewhere around 3-5 so it's not that many calories or that much alcohol.

On to the actual question, I do drink but I don't "sarge". Sarging is a term Ross Jeffries came up with based on his cat, it is the height of nerdom. Remember the vocabularly you use deines you and I am not a PUA. I'm a guy who goes out and talks to women. I'm a social guy. I don't have to put my special pink boa on to get in state to talk to a girl. I love women and enjoy talking to them. It's something I try to do as much as possible because it usually leads to sex and I like sex. A lot. Maybe too much, who knows but you guys all get to enjoy my labors :) But to think in these terms identifies you as an outsider to the world of hot girls. Being a PUA is for loser! There's only one kind of guy who gets approach anxiety before talking to a girl he's not attracted to. A PUA. People go out to party and have fun. Talking to girls is a part of that experience for me. And I think a much healthier way of looking at things. To steal a line from Rick H it's not something you do, it's something you are.

Geez I really need to answer the question, I do drink. I've detailed it many times here including many posts saying I need to stop drinking so much. I curtailed my drinking really well over the last three months or so. Plus once a month I have an ENTIRELY sober night. Just to make sure that I'm not becoming dependent on alcohol to get me in state. I think when you're learning this stuff drinking is a detriment. I didn't start drinking until I had already been in the game for like 2 years. So I learned totally sober. I think it helps to have a clear mind, plus it's SOOOO boring being sober in a club or bar that you feel WAY more compelled to approach. I actually notice now that my approach anxiety is way lower when I'm sober because I get bored faster talking to my friends and I am come up with better ways and strategies for approaching. I don't think a few drinks will ever hurt you but for the first few months I recommend staying sober or keeping it to a nice buzz. Anything else and you'll find your progress slowed pretty substantially.

Best,

S