Saturday, May 03, 2008

Mailbag # 2 On the topic of getting dreezed up...

Omaha PUA writes:

1. Do you drink when you sarge, if so, how do you keep a clear head
when sarging?

You seem pretty in-tune to being healthy, how do you maintain your health while
sarging and drinking?

While I appreciate the comment, I don't think my drinking, smoking, not sleeping and fucking lifestyle is particularly healthy. Awesome yes, healthy, no. But I do work out so that's something right? :) I also try to get enough sleep and eat healthy. Though traveling makes it a lot harder. I try to not drink tot he point of a hang over, but when I am hung-over I try to still get shit done, even if it's easy shit that just has to get taken care of like laundry or errands. I think the real key is in minimizing the time you lose the following day. It sucks but if you can do that drinking and you don't drink high calorie drinks. I drink Vodka and diet Coke which has like 60 calories a drink versus regular soda and juice which can be like 200 calories. I also avoid beer, and late night eating. If I drink I'll set a drink limit somewhere around 3-5 so it's not that many calories or that much alcohol.

On to the actual question, I do drink but I don't "sarge". Sarging is a term Ross Jeffries came up with based on his cat, it is the height of nerdom. Remember the vocabularly you use deines you and I am not a PUA. I'm a guy who goes out and talks to women. I'm a social guy. I don't have to put my special pink boa on to get in state to talk to a girl. I love women and enjoy talking to them. It's something I try to do as much as possible because it usually leads to sex and I like sex. A lot. Maybe too much, who knows but you guys all get to enjoy my labors :) But to think in these terms identifies you as an outsider to the world of hot girls. Being a PUA is for loser! There's only one kind of guy who gets approach anxiety before talking to a girl he's not attracted to. A PUA. People go out to party and have fun. Talking to girls is a part of that experience for me. And I think a much healthier way of looking at things. To steal a line from Rick H it's not something you do, it's something you are.

Geez I really need to answer the question, I do drink. I've detailed it many times here including many posts saying I need to stop drinking so much. I curtailed my drinking really well over the last three months or so. Plus once a month I have an ENTIRELY sober night. Just to make sure that I'm not becoming dependent on alcohol to get me in state. I think when you're learning this stuff drinking is a detriment. I didn't start drinking until I had already been in the game for like 2 years. So I learned totally sober. I think it helps to have a clear mind, plus it's SOOOO boring being sober in a club or bar that you feel WAY more compelled to approach. I actually notice now that my approach anxiety is way lower when I'm sober because I get bored faster talking to my friends and I am come up with better ways and strategies for approaching. I don't think a few drinks will ever hurt you but for the first few months I recommend staying sober or keeping it to a nice buzz. Anything else and you'll find your progress slowed pretty substantially.




  1. This is Marni from The Wing Girl Method. I would like to chat with you. Seems like we should know one another.

    Great blog by the way.


  2. "Who are the biggest liars? Men or women? Men lie the most, women tell the biggest lies. A man's lie is like, 'I was at Kevin's house.' A woman's lie is like, 'It's your baby!'

    Sorry, not really relevant but still funny.


  3. Anonymous6:48 PM

    "There's only one kind of guy who gets approach anxiety before talking to a girl he's not attracted to. A PUA."

    That should be in bold


  4. Anonymous7:05 AM

    do you guys plan to go to NYC to teach bootcamps?

  5. Anonymous1:53 PM

    I agree 100% with everything you say here.

    God bless this blog.