Tuesday, June 09, 2009

Does There Have To Be More?

Hey guys,

It's been a long couple of days.

I'm in Vegas right now after teaching a bootcamp for 12M2M and working with one of my private coaching students yesterday.

I was talking with one of the students and it got me thinking about the idea of more, and internal validation.

One of the things that is fairly common among students, is that they always expect that there is going to be more.

Allow me to explain, the concept of more. When students first find the SUISC they assume that there is more than meets the eye to it. They expect that there are some sort of secret routines, tactics, or knowledge out there that can fix them instantly.

IMO there are two reasons for this.

1. Because cold approaching strangers is a ridiculous notion and fairly hard in real life, guys actually make it harder for themselves by assuming that there is a magic pill out there that will fix them.

2. Most guys aren't actually doing approaches, so when they start to and see that it's not all marshmellows and rainbows, they assume it's a lack of knowledge rather than practice. Remember there is a MAJOR difference between intellectual understanding and applicable skills. Most of the time, once you have a structured way to practice game, more knowledge will not help you. 100 more approaches will.

The next time you feel like you're missing some sort of knowledge about game, ask yourself if there has to be more.



  1. Glad to see you're in town...If you need any hooks this weekend at XS or Tryst let me know...

  2. Anonymous3:02 PM

    you have so many golden high value power posts on your blog that i don't dare to say this is the best post ever...

    but it's almost.


  3. good post. you want a better jumpshot...go take a thousand shots.

  4. Anonymous11:33 PM

    SUISC ?

  5. I figure the more mentality also gives one choice paralysis. There's so much information out there that you want to take it all in before even taking e first step. But having all is information has a tendency to blog the brain thus leading to a deer in headlights.

  6. It took me a couple of days, but I finally get what you are saying here. Forgive me for being so American. I really do have all I need. In fact my cup runneth over. Great post! Once again, my hat's off to you.....

  7. Anonymous7:50 AM

    Like Wayne Gretzky said "I miss 100% of the shots I do not take"...so simple and innate but so true...Jon, this might be your best post and thats like saying to the Beatles "this is better than Hey Jude"...

  8. I have been giving this more thought and I have to say that the responsibility for the "more" mentality rests far more upon the pillars in the community selling products than it does on the students.

    I say this because if you look at the instructional product being put out, there is always MORE!

    "When students first find the SUISC they assume that there is more than meets the eye to it."

    That is because ALMOST every SUISC web site you go to tells you that there IS "secret routines," "tactics," and "knowledge" that can fix you. And you can get it all for only $47! In fact, if you buy today, you will get even MORE products thrown in that will help you as a bonus.

    Lets look at some of the products that have been offered this year, keeping in mind this is only June. Off the top of my head, there was Group Attraction game, 10SSA game, Natural Attraction Game, Day Game, Inner Game, well you get the point.

    The average guy who gets in to this, is instantly conditioned to assume there is "more" because they are bombarded with it as soon as they hit the first web site! And if the first thing doesn't work, there is always a new, improved product out there, that is the easiest thing ever! And it is incredibly hard to resist it. The marketing is getting sooo good!

    Even though the true Gurus know it, with few exceptions no one ever says "You don't need all that shit! You NEED to do a thousand sets!" Because at the end of the day, saying that won't sell product or pay the bills.

    So although I completey agree with what you are saying, the bottom line is you reap what you sow.