Friday, February 29, 2008

A simple question...

Here's my big thought for the day.

Are you approaching the women that you are attracted to?

Or are you simply taking the sets that are look the easiest( 2 sets, sets giving eye contact etc...)

If you aren't perhaps it's time to re-examine why you got in the game.

I'm not even talking about whether or not the women you approach live up to the community standards of beauty ( 6s become 8s because they like you, blondes are automatically 8s, etc..). I mean are you consistently approaching and attempting to get into sexual relationships with women that you are attracted to. Women who you would love to spend a hot night of passion in bed with.

Or do you just do what doesn't scare you?

I've been thinking about this concept a lot because if you're not doing this, then the community becomes an endless cesspool of validation from other guys. At the end of the day, we are here to get into sexual relationships with the women we desire as efficiently as possible.

If you have questions about this, hit me up with comments.



  1. I approached 2 hot girls today after weeks of fear...booyaa, it feels good.

  2. So you're saying that guys are just "running game" for the sake of it? Instead of actually looking inside themselves to feel what they are attracted to and moving towards that which they find desirable?

  3. Dude, you just nailed it. Approaching true hotties is my sticking point. I find myself approaching the "easy" sets because it's less stress. I've got two issues that I've broken out:
    1. I assume less value for myself because of her hotness.
    2. I assume I don't have the skill to actually get a 10.

    Any advice in a nutshell?

  4. Anonymous9:13 PM

    I find my aproach angsiaty varieys wildly between what part of the world I am in. Some places I can aproach all night as many sets as I want and It doesn't seem to mater.
    Were I live now is a small town and I have ended up in fights before for aproaching the wrong girl even when she was with all female company. Different places and people behave differently. In a load club nobody can hear your opener so realy what is the point. So realy my question is at what point does not aproaching become legitamate.
    The other question I had was realy my opinion of a girl changes dramticly once I get to know her. I know a lot of 10's who have the greatest personalitys, are warm interesting fun and outgoing but I have me a lot of hotties who arn't. I would realy rather meet a six and have chemistry than be bored chating to an 8 for 90 minits.
    Of cource I love hotties but the point I was trying to make was how do you know before you aproach what she is like? I kinda thaught this part of the game was more random and that was the fun of it. When a girl gives you butterflys and likes you then she is special. Don't ask why
    Sorry if I missed the point

  5. Anonymous12:12 AM

    hey Sinn

    do u recomend this 'approach' even for a newbie,who deals with aa?

  6. Anonymous9:22 AM

    It has been said you have approached around 8000 girls. Not all of them were your type. I think its healthy to mix it up. For every 2 or 3 generic sets you open, make sure you then open a real hot girl. mix practice with desire. Also when you start this stuff, you're not going to get the hottest girls so i think its important to get laid as much as possible with the 6's and 7's that you succeed with. Sexual confidence is, in my opinion at least 75% of what we call 'game'.

  7. no, what he's asking is if you're going after the girls you really want. or if you're settling for less, because you don't have the balls to go for the girls you really want.

  8. Rebirth11:00 AM

    Once I started opening up sets of women I was attracted to, I started having more success. Usually I would eject out of boredom, then feel like it was a "bad set."

  9. I think the reality is that 90% of the guys that are active in the community are doing it as validation to other guys, it's why there's an increasing number of detractors (myself included) that say the community is actually "harmful" to most guys, even if some of the material is useful.

    Of all the guys I've met, I've only met a few that have impressed me in any way, and none of them impressed me so much with their skills as women but their quality as individuals, and knowledge of what they want out of life. The ones who claimed to have the most skill with women, in my experience, have fallen apart under further examination as some kind of elaborate construction of lies to make them look like they're getting lots of girls.

  10. Anonymous7:50 PM

    This is a great post, Sinn, and would benefit from some expansion.

    When I first started toying around with the technology, I practiced on every type of girl, but there was a mental block to the hottest girls.

    To use a sports metaphor, I was consistanty hitting away in Triple A ball(7s, 8s.) I was striking out too frequently when it came to The Show (8.5 and above.)

    But the block was SELF-IMPOSED and MENTAL. To continue the metaphor, you see this when in athletics when you have a newcomer contestant to the playoffs, to the Superbowl, to the huge pay-per-view fight.

    There is always the question if they can deal with the spotlight and the pressure.

    Playoff poise. Championship minutes.

    Those that have it retain a huge advantage over those that do not.

    So at certain point, I started going after only the hottest girls--just to get myself ACCLIMATED to the temperature of the water.

    (A VITAL CAVEAT--this doesn't mean the hotness is ENOUGH--it's only starting the game from a higher floor. You still have to qualify her to your standards.)

    What you notice is that, just like everything else in this game, there is joy in repetition--eventually. The rose-colored glasses fall off you. You breathe easier. You start to see can hang with her.

    How did you ever think differently?

    It requires diligent practice to get your head in the right space, to change your own world-view of what is possible.

    And it is possible.

    This requires faithful adherence to the old Nike maxim: know your limits...and exceed them.


  11. I don't approach girls I'm attracted to because I don't have enough game to get them. I don't think this is really a limiting belief its just a fact.