Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Male-Female Power Dynamic part 2: The mid 30s Power Flip

Here's something interesting, I'd been meaning to write about for awhile...

Men often like to say that women have all the power when it comes to social situations.

Obviously I don't believe this to be true, but I will say that attractive women in their twenties have a lot more options than attractive men in their 20s.

The reason is that as a society we award social status to women based almost entirely on their looks and desirability. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, it's just the way it is.

This is where, students of evolutionary biology would then argue that a woman in her 20s is more attractive to a man because her youth sends signals that she is fertile and more easily able to reproduce. If you subscribe to the philosophy that all of life can be boiled down to survival and replication, you can skip to the end of this article now :)

Beyond that I want to discuss a few more reasons why men tend to be attracted to younger women:

1. Social Status. If I had a dollar for every douchey mid to late twenties instructor has tried to brag to me about dating an 18 year old, I'd be making it rain like Pacman Jones. Guys(and a certain sector of girls) also tend to idolize Hugh Hefner and his lifespan of the average African American male in America (52 years) sized gap in age with his girlfriends. Simply put guys seem to think dating younger girls make you seem cool. Sidenote- I don't agree with this theory and think anyone under 25 is retarded guy or girl.

2. Naivety. Younger girls don't generally know enough about the world to understand the complex dimensions of relationships. They haven't yet been hardened by the world, and the fact that most guys suck. So when you say you're going to dinner with a friend in Malibu, they don't ask many questions. Simply stated you get away with more stuff. Though you make up for it in hours of uninteresting conversation and gossip. Kill me.

Ok, so there's a lot of reasons why an attractive woman in her twenties has a higher ceiling for meeting an awesome guy than a woman in her 30s. Ironically this exact process happens in rerverse regarding men and women in their mid thirties.

See, a man at 35 has a higher ceiling for getting an attractive woman than a man at 25. Not only does he benefit from the power flip with older women, but he has amassed a decade more of social status and resources. So he's more attractive to the younger woman as well.

Most importantly women who remain single after 30 become more desperate to find someone because of a combination of biological(Gotta have a baby!!!) and social ( her parents and friends asking her when she's going to get married) pressures. Add in guys tending to get better looking or look the same as they age and women having a much harder time keeping their looks and you have a recipe for dating ease.

The mid 30s power flip is one of the reasons I find it funny when 33 year old guys are worried about not being able to get dates.

JS-The King Of Content.


  1. PUA! at the Disco1:02 PM

    Men age like wine.

    Women age like fruit.

  2. " PUA! at the Disco said...

    Men age like wine.

    Women age like fruit."

    We crush them with our feet, put them in barrels, and drink whats left years later.

    On what Sinn wrote... I think part of the reason is that by the time a guys in his 30s he naturally has life experience, old friends he clicks with, has gotten used to (re: lost anxiety with) women, has his own life/identity, and in general has an actual life style.

  3. "Make it rain like Pacman Jones" - LOL!

    Jon- Nashville, TN

  4. Anonymous9:38 AM

    Sounds logical.
    This is also the reason that cougars are easy as fuck to game when your in your 20's. Just give them attention, tell them they are sexy and your in. The best part, they do not want to marry a guy in his 20's.

    Ha ha ha life is so great sometimes.
    Now I am off to tag my 18 year old gf ha ha ha

  5. Anonymous2:31 PM

    What if you don't have built any social status in your 30s?

  6. Anonymous10:04 AM

    Such a great post. Now that I'm 31 I'm finding a lot of my anxieties toward women and life are going away which is I think one of the major advantages of being slightly older. Plus I'm more mature now and a much more stable resource for women. 30 Power Flip!

  7. Anonymous10:33 AM

    This is a next level post... Nice job JS!

  8. Could not be more true!!!

    It is amazing when you discover this... i'm 30 and find it easier then ever to meet women (especially ones over 27)

  9. Anonymous12:32 PM

    This was great! I'm 33 and I have great success with women between 21-26. I've also had alot of success with women older than me. I think thats because I look very young for my age. I'm usually told that I look 26-27. For some reason though I dont do so well with women closer to my age. This was great info. Sinn is the king of content!!!

  10. Anonymous2:09 PM

    If you're an over 30 males and havent gotten anywhere in life i.e. built up social status through your professional or other endevors. Than you are lower than a 23 year old chump. you are bottom of the barrel and nobody, male or female, has respect for you. Good luck getting anything than the equilavent dregs e.g. unattractive desparate older women.

  11. Anonymous2:56 AM

    Did you cite the sex and the city
    episode (episode 1), where this term came from?