Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Are women more or less sexual than men?

There seems to be a lot of debate in the community, and among men in general about how sexual women are. I consider myself a champion of the female sex drive as I believe that it is much more powerful than it is given credit for. Women are ALL sexual creatures, the same way that men are all sexual creatures. Sex is NORMAL and NATURAL. And I don't want to run the risk of sounding all evolutionary and saying that we are designed to survive and replicate, but the fact of the matter is that if we all stopped having sex the human species would be extinct within the next hundred years...

Now the issue seems to occur when guys are socialized into developing what is commonly referred to as a Madonna/Whore complex. A great example of this is seen in The Sopranos where over the course of 6 seasons the wives of those in the mafia are referred to as " The Mother of my children." While the Goomahs( No idea if I spelled that right) or mistresses were referred to as whores. It's an embodiment of the idea that many men want a lady in the bed and a freak in the sheets to go all Ludacris on you.. But the fact remains that most men are less attracted to women that are promiscuous. We can analyze why that is all we want but it is a behind whatever evolutionary reasons we can find to defend that, it is an immature way of thinking. Every woman has the capacity to be both a madonna and a whore. Once you learn to recognize that every girl COULD cheat on a boyfriend given the right circumstances, every girl COULD go home with a random guy given the right circumstances etc... But we want to believe the Disney myth that women should be virtuous and upstanding at all times. This gets even funnier in the community as guys will swing one of two ways they will either adopt the idea that all women are nymphomaniacs waiting to be unleashed( Which isn't a bad belief to have even if not true) Or they adopt the idea that you have to do everything right for 7 hours in order to get a girl into bed.

My opinion lies somewhere in the middle. I believe women are as sexual as men. Not more, not less. They have the capacity to do extremely slutty, fun things if given the right opportunity. Or be very prude and reserved given another set of circumstances. The real variable in this is how YOU make a woman feel. If she feels like she can fuck you in the bathroom at a club without being judged by you or anyone she knows and she feels attracted and aroused. It can happen. If you treat her like you want to make her your girlfriend she will respond differently. If you make her nervous or embarrassed, or uncomfortable about her sexuality you close all your doors with her.

Hope that clarifies things a bit.



  1. lol sinn, love you bro, but you need to brush up on your luda. It's "a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed" from that usher song "yea." Also, I think there's a "b" somewhere in goombas. As far as the other stuff goes, I totally agree with you. The whole idea of men being more sexual than women comes from the fact that since men are much more visually stimulated than women in general, they get aroused more easily. Also, since any woman, regardless of looks, pretty much can have sex whenever she wants it because there will always be a guy who is more sexually needy than her, guys think that they are more sexual. And the fact is, some guys are more sexual than some girls and vice versa, but overall, it has been my experience that it pretty much balances out when you know how to trigger that attraction in women to the same degree that her body is triggering it in you.

    In addition, since male attraction is so visual, it's very easy to get desensitized to, whereas female attraction can be continuously be built upon in the interaction.

  2. does it matter much whether women are more or less sexual than men? on average, we are all the same, we each have one testicle, one breast, etc.

    if we are more sexual than our partners, go out and find some who will challenge us; or vice versa.

    now, alcohol. that's what separates sex drives between men from women. the former gets whiskey dick and the latter becomes insatiable. again, we can always find exceptions :)

  3. Anonymous6:40 AM

    That last paragraph has some SOLID information.

    Awesome ideas man.

  4. Anonymous6:59 AM

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    you're putting gold nuggets out here every week...........

  5. Wow, that is the best perspective on female sex drive I have ever read. Mad props.

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  7. I agree that this is the fact remains that most men are less attracted to women that are promiscuous. Anyway,will certainly visit your site more often now.