Friday, August 10, 2012

Needy Vs interested a balancing act

 Ever since the Kristen ordeal (Now almost 2 years ago) I have been very focused on making sure girls don't get attached and thus I have taken a lot of things out of my game that are very effective like telling girls I like them, complimenting, and general emotional connection stuff.

 This was not a good idea, and my results have suffered a bit, notably in the ability to keep girls around for longer than a few weeks.

I realized this last week and have been making the changes necessary to fix it.

But this is a good topic of discussion on here because a lot of guys don't know how to walk the fine line between being needy and being interested.

In general you are probably better off demonstrating more interest as long as you can avoid being needy.

What's the difference?

Interest requires a reason. When you are being needy you are interested in the girl so that you are not alone. When you are interested in a girl for specific (well defined) reasons your risk of being seen as needy becomes much lower.

Also keep in mind some basic rule like not texting or calling more than once a day without a response etc...

Hope that helps.



  1. Anonymous12:31 PM

    When it comes to texting/IM, I live by the policy of fire and forget. If a girl can't even bother to get back to me, she's simply not worth the energy of crapping her out about it. If she's interested, she'll make an effort.

    I've also had girls respond a week or so later, almost always starting with a massive apology.

    All of this depends on context of course.

  2. Anonymous5:51 AM

    how would one create emotional connection sinn?

    could you give 1 or 2 examples?

  3. dustydog6:17 AM

    Not needy versus interesting, it's healthy versus sociopathic.

    Emotional bonding is normal, healthy, and essential to being a balanced adult. It isn't a trick or a tool.

    Having somebody real in your life is more important, more satisifying, more gratifying than sex, or whatever coolness and cache you attach to picking up chicks.

    It is possible to find a woman who is hot, feminine, and a good person you want to be friends with. It is worth doing.

  4. Anonymous10:44 PM

    what are examples of specific well defined reasons that you are interested? Qualifying her?

    1. Anonymous1:41 PM

      Are you actually asking for reasons to like a girl? You want Sinn to tell you what you want from women in your life?

      This is why I couldn't be a Seduction Coach. The temptation to say "get out of my sight. You have failed at life, and every time I look at you I want to weep for humanity" would be fucking overwhelming.