Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Age Grouping and attraction


 Here's something I've noticed recently, I am much much much more attractive to women who are between 18-22 and women who are between 32-35 than I am to the average girl between 22-30.

 Why is this?

  I honestly have no idea but I have a couple of educated guesses at the matter.

 1. Girls are most attracted to men who are about 7-9 years older than they are. I came up with this after analyzing the ages of most of the married couples I know as well as looking at the age differences between my friends parents. It seems like most (75%) fall within this age difference. The amount of couples who were the same age was the lowest with only 2 or 3 couples I know/am aware of being the same exact age (and one is heading for divorce court).

2. Girls have certain stereotypes they want to cross off their "to do" list which is exactly what it sounds like a list of guys to do. In the 18-22 year olds I'm an older successful guy who validates them and plays into their issues with their fathers. With the 30-35 year olds I'm a younger in shape guy who falls into their play toy/fling category. Whereas with most girls my age or around my age I'm just another dude trying to holla.

3. I subconsciously like these girls because I believe that I'm smarter than them (18-22) or I believe that they know what I am and are completely on board for no strings attached fun (30-35). With girls my own age I almost always feel like they want to trap me into a relationship which will end up like the Ray-J song "can't tie me down" so I act differently with these girls and thus am less attractive.

4. There is less competition from cool guys with girls in these age groups.

Not sure what it is but it's the most interesting thing happening with my game currently.

Share thoughts and similar experiences in the comments section.

JS

10 comments:

  1. Anonymous8:17 PM

    What's your exact age?

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  2. Jochen Stein10:15 AM

    It's more the way you act/dress/talk.

    Guys humpin 28 year old women don't cite Ray-J songs.

    In most cases this correlates with age but some guys are able to adjust their attitude towards the women they meet.

    I have an asshole psycho "friend" whose got some exploitative and deceitful skills (His overall game sucks, though). Sometimes he's acting like a kid and sometimes he's mimicking a university professor. It solely depends on his "prey" (women with money or a condo paid by daddy).

    Side note: You don't spend that much time acting as someone you are not just to get another than your average loot of girls if you're psychologically healthy.

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  3. Anonymous1:14 PM

    "trap me into a relationship" jon sinn still a pick up artist.

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  4. Anonymous1:17 PM

    True, you can be different and unique - a novelty to a degree...but on the whole I have never found younger women (say 18-22) to like older guys. Most of the time if you tell them you are say 27 to 30, they are like "yuck"...if say 35 you are viewed as a creep no matter how cool you might be...now older women seem to be more open minded. They are more mature by that stage on the whole so I can see the boy toy thing working. But as for younger chicks digging older guys unless. Nope. Sorry unless they are a sugar daddy or something.

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  5. Anonymous10:29 AM

    Agree with #2. Currently seeing a 19 year old when I am 5 years older than her. Her seeing my place, how I dress, how I am established definitely shows "I'm an older successful guy who validates them and plays into their issues with their fathers"

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  6. Anonymous3:59 PM

    18 - 20 are hard for me to find because I meet girls at bars mostly. 23-26 is my sweet spot (I'm 29). I generally don't meet women over 26 because they're all married around here, and 30+... Gross, bro.

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  7. Ablaze12:55 PM

    I’m more physically attracted to young girls, but I connect more psychologically with older women. I’m actually dating a cougar right now. I’m 29 and she’s 46.

    For me, this similar phenomenon comes down to self-sabotage.

    When I meet a girl my own age or around my own age that I’m attracted to, subconsciously I act a little off because I’m afraid of commitment. I had my heart broken very badly when I was about 23 years old. It took well over a year for the pain to go away and I still think it was one of the most influential things I’ve ever experienced. Like you, “Broken” was one of my favorite broken heart songs to listen to. That, and “Through Glass” by Stone Sour were probably my top 2, so… Back to my point…

    When I discovered the community by reading about ways to get my ex back, I learned about not getting my self worth from women. I think I became a little too dogmatic about it, though. I wouldn’t let women boost my ego, validate me, or have any influence whatsoever on my self image.

    A friend of mine and I were talking a few months ago about the undeniable ability women have to make us feel good. As much as I try to uphold the dogmatic advice of the community about “never seeking our validation and motivation from women or getting my sense of self worth from women” a strong woman, a hot woman who’s got her shit together, has an ability to motivate me and make me feel good. I work harder. I workout harder. I drink less. (I’d like to add that I believe women can’t deny the power of a good man to make them feel good too)

    I started to wonder if I was missing out on a beautiful thing that women had to offer. Was I fearing having my heart broken again? I think that was part of it. I also think that part of it was fearing the commitment and wanting to still be single and a slut. But just like “trying to fill the hole” that you talked about in one of your past blog posts, being with a bunch of women just doesn’t fill the hole. I’m actually less attracted to my cougar girlfriend on a physical level than most girls I’ve been with, but I’m getting such emotional satisfaction from her.

    Sometimes when I meet a girl who’s really hot and I can tell has a great personality too and I know that I’d be satisfied physically and emotionally, I act different. Sometimes I’m afraid. Sometimes my approach anxiety comes back like when I was a newbie and I don’t seem to act as cool. Sometimes I’m afraid of falling in love and it being game over.

    My buddy told me when he met his wife he just knew he was going to marry her. “Man, that must have been awesome!” I remember saying to him. “Not really… I was kind of enjoying being a whore and being single and when I met her I knew I was going to have to treat her right and that I had met my match.”

    I don’t know you, Sinn, other than your blog and some of your vids and I love the shit you post about pickup, SNLs, being self amusing, etc, but maybe you do act differently and self sabotage and that’s why you’re always finding women a little too young or a little too old, and never “filling the hole”… ?




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  8. Anonymous1:46 PM

    Obviously, it is the way you think that holds you back. Women in the same age bracket as you are not gonna trap you into a relationship any more or less than women in other age groups. It is def the way you act as a result of your thought processes. More specifically, you have an overall viewpoint and are filling in the details by your behavior.

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  9. Anonymous5:43 PM

    I think that girls at age between 25-29 are in search for the guy to marry with, so they are waay more serious and less easy to deal with. But after they pass 30 and end unmarried, they feel no more that pressure and stop seeking so hard for husband and start chasing fun, new friends, career etc.

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