Wednesday, August 08, 2012

10 Rules For Texting

 The 10 Rules Of Text Messaging:

1.     Never send multiple text messages WITHOUT a response. This is one of the most misunderstood rules about texting out there. It is a good thing to exchange a ton of text messages wit girls. It’s fun, it builds a sense of conspiracy into the interaction, and it helps to make the girl comfortable enough to meet up with you or at least talk on the phone. So you’re moving up the intimacy scale as well. But there is a problem, if you are not getting responses to EVER text you send and you keep sending them. That’s called being needy. Burn this rule into your brain: Never send more than one form of communication to a girl without getting a response.
2.     Use as many words as you can. I have literally convinced girls to fly across the country to meet me in text message conversations. This idea that it is in some way high value to keep your communication brief, only applies if you don’t know what you’re doing. If you have a solid understanding of humor, open loops and sexcalation, the more words you have the better. The only exception to this comes when she is obviously giving one or two word terse responses. In that case you want to respond in kind.
3.     The 15 Minute Rule. In general you always want to take 15 minutes or so longer to text a girl back, then she took to text you. So for example if you text her at 7:30 and she doesn’t text you back until 8:15 you should wait until 9:15 to text her back. This rule doesn’t apply if she is texting back in 15 minutes or less, in that case you should text back in around the same amount of time.
4.     Use Emoticons sparingly to heighten their effectiveness. Most guys use emoticons completely the wrong way. There are 3 general emoticons you want to use in specifics ways. J is a smiley face and should be used when giving compliments or trying to convey happiness. Don’t worry when we get to the real life breakdowns, I’ll give notes on when and how I’m using these emoticons. ;) is a winky. Winkies are used to show girls you’re teasing or to lace a conversation with sexual inneuendo. Lastly we have tongues :p. These are used when you are obviously teasing the girl or messing with her. These can also be tacked on to role plays to make sure the girls know you’re not actually asking her on a romantic date to The Sizzler.
5.     Don’t be afraid to be random. This is a huge problem most guys have. They treat text as a very business like formal place. So they’ll send text messages like “ How was your day?” or “ What are you doing tonight?”. We want to avoid stuff like this like the plague, unless it is part of a back and forth dialogue. Instead you want to be creative. A few texts I like are : I’m in line at the (wherever) and I want to know if you can actually die of boredom, Stop thinking about me, my ears are burning,  I was just at the ( random place Aquarium, Grocery Store, Sex Shoppe if you’re brave ) and in a weird way it made me think of you.
6.     Always give girls tasks. This is both a great way to build momentum and set roles. You can make these tasks something simple, like asking them if they know a good Chinese food restaurant in a specific town. Then you can escalate them by asking them to send you sweet or sexy text messages. It is vital that you get the girl doing things for you through text.
7.     I want to tease them sexually. This is where I have a lot of power. I want to make sure that everytime the text messages turn sexual, I am the first one to end it. That way I can keep her framed as being sexually aggressive, and I don’t weird her out. Role-plays and humor are the most effective ways to tease women sexually. You want to make sure these are a part of your text repetroie  
8.     Always alternate hot and cold. This is one of the main rhythyms of text messaging. You are going to be constantly balancing out three things, compliments, sexual comments and releases. This is how we escalate the interactions. Alternating hot and cold statements allows the woman to get more comfortable being hit on or aroused sexually. You want to try to draw the release out as far as possible to preserve the sexual tension
9.     Be aware of logistics. You can use text messaging to find out where she lives in relation to you, and with whom. You can also use it to give her directions when she’s coming to meet up. Often times I will just text girls and tell them I’m coming to their place and ask for their address.
10.  Know when to move up the ladder. If you are serious about getting the girl out, it is always a better idea to go for the meet up over the phone. As soon as it becomes obvious the two of you are going to hang out, make sure you get a 15-30 minute comfort building call in where you actually handle logistics.

  JS- The King Of Content


  1. Anonymous6:53 PM

    thanks for this post Sinn!

    there are not that many products out there that specialize in text and phone game

    and if there are... most of them are outdated

    this post is gold!

  2. Excellent post, thanks. #6 is something I had never thought about.

  3. Anonymous7:43 AM

    Hi, Jon I have a specific question. On Tuesday I´ve number closed two girls. They were both into me. I´ve wrote both that I´m into both and find them both sexy, which they agrred. Basically gave, passiv permission to escalate on them (Passive Frame Control). I´ve called them yesterday for 20 minutes. They´ve said they gonna pick me up with their car. Today they´ve messaged me and basically flaked on me. What should I do? I want to kiss them both at the same time and also have a 3some. Thank you for claryfing.

  4. Anonymous1:23 PM

    this quote from sinn was gold
    because I lose 100% of girls because they don't pick up the phone.

    " It is a good thing to exchange a ton of text messages wit girls. It’s fun, it builds a sense of conspiracy into the interaction, and it helps to make the girl comfortable enough to meet up with you or at least talk on the phone"

  5. this is really really helpful stuff and actually I was talking to a good friend about text message game but there is very limited info out there on this...I think it is an efficient and effective way to escalate and I was really hoping you can give a few examples on each one....I am trying to get examples and obviously I can get some ideas and then make them my own.

  6. Anonymous12:52 PM

    Disagree about the 15 minute rule. If you do that it will be a) obvious to the girl and b) you are killing any momentum you have by adding more time to a conversation which doesnt help you.

    Ideally you want to cut in half the time to respond to try to get a shorter communication pattern going. Then you can break it or vary it up once its flowing a bit better.

    Texting back and forth hour or two between messages all the time is not beneficial.

  7. Anonymous6:29 AM

    Agree with last poster. However one must develop sense for timig and if he can't develop it after meeting few girls he do NOT deserves to spread widely or humanity would be lost.

  8. Anonymous5:36 PM

    Ultimate phone and text game by braddock is gold... Timings and the "pinging" concepts are really super efficient... It drastically increased my ration NC to date from 1 on 10 to 1-2 on 3..