Monday, September 26, 2011

Inner States and Game

Hey there,

Today I wanted to briefly talk about the idea of inner states and how they can help your game.

An inner state, is pretty much precisely what it sounds like; an inner statement you make to yourself about yourself. Ideally you want to use present tense language about a goal or process you want to take on. Then you want to repeat this statement until it becomes almost automatic for you to think that way.

For example, if you have trouble with approach anxiety, you could use an inner state of

" I always instantly, easily and confidently approach the women I am attracted to."

Or if you have trouble with attraction you could use:

" I effortlessly attract the woman I'm attracted."

At first I would suggest just picking one inner state that you think addresses your biggest problem with women, then expanding to 3-5 inner states that reflect changes you want to make in your entire life.

After you've got your inner states, you want to repeat them in the mirror 5 times each 3 different times a day. You'll find if you stick to this for 30 days the entire way you think will be different.

Hope that helps,

JS-The King Of Content


  1. Anonymous5:36 PM

    This sir why this is the best self help blog around

  2. Thanks for this post.

    Haven't seen talk of 'affirmations' like this for a while - it's something that I gave up long ago and only recently came back to accidentally.

    I took to playing an inspirational video speech on my iphone throughout the day as I worked - sometimes as I walk I've begun mouthing the words because I believe in them so firmly.

    So I think repeating 3-5 times isn't enough - it should be throughout your day if possible.

    I've found this amusing to a point - because when topics related to my inspirational speech come up I find myself coming out with 'word for word' copies of the speeches naturally. This is unconscious - e.g. an argument situation where you are in a more 'reacting' vs. taking in a controlled state.

    Worth experimenting with.

  3. Anonymous7:08 AM

    Thanks for this gem...still waiting on your response about captain :)

  4. Anonymous8:29 AM

    I usually tend to get a lot out of your posts, but in this case, i don't agree at all. I've found that if you want to change your mind, what've worked (for me) is to identify what i want to change, and start working in REAL LIFE, getting real experience in trying to twist my thinking. No amount of "affirmations" work because i'm lying to myself