Friday, May 20, 2011

Never Trust Girls With All Guy Friends

I mentioned this rule of mine a few weeks ago and have been getting a surprising amount of comments asking me to post the thought so here goes.

Personally I don't believe men and women can be friends. I say this even though I have 90% female friends. The reason is pretty simple when people of the opposite sex spend enough time around each other, eventually one person or the other will develop a crush on the other person and vice versa.

Now the reason I can make this work is that I am always getting laid by new chicks so when my female friends inevitably get crushes on me or I start to get one on one of them I have another way to get laid so it doesn't become an obsession. Most guys don't have this and instead view the female friend as not only that one special girl but as a way to end their non intentional celibacy.

Girls who have a lot of male friends in my opinion are already making backup plans. Every girl I know who has a lot of male friends has a lot of male friends she has hooked up with in the past. She also has one or two male friends she thinks are cute or who she would hook up with if they weren't already in relationships.

But that's not even the main reason I say don't trust girls who have a lot of male friends. The bigger issue is that girls who have a lot of male friends tend to say a lot of the following statements:

" Girls are bitches."

" Girls are too catty"

" I'm like a guy in a girl's body."

" I treat sex like a guy."

" I date like a guy"

You get the idea. Because women are naturally competitive over men, any girl who stays away from girls is subconsciously doing it to eliminate competition. Girls get along better with other girls, or at least they're supposed to. A woman who doesn't have any female friends (Like this girl Kelly I dated after Kristen) is weird.

These girls also tend to get even needier than girls with female friends because they don't have the same kind of support system to discuss their problems with and ultimately a lot of these girls cheat.

So hopefully that explains why I always say you can't trust a girl with too many male friends. Or a guy with too many female friends if you're a girl but that's a whole nother story.

JS-The King Of Content

117 comments:

  1. Anonymous10:19 AM

    Hey,how about hotties surrounded by gay guys.Is this bad?They have female friends and gay orbiters,how about this case?

    Or how about not just many guys friends and many female friends type?

    >>>The reason is pretty simple when people of the opposite sex spend enough time around each other, eventually one person or the other will develop a crush on the other person and vice versa.

    I agree with you this statement.So,I think other guys around her also crush on her one time.It's good to know that.

    I amogged by one of them.Now it really explains well.They don't say I am crush on her.But when I first met one of them,they will say 'what do you think of her?'Now,I really get it.They still mildly crush on her.Plus she hang out with guy who has girlfriend.But I am sure she will chase him after she is gone.

    This is good post.

    Hey,I have a question, how about girls who hang out with gay guys not guys.

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  2. Anonymous11:35 AM

    Never date a girl with all girl friends either. Either way shows a person who can't get along with half the population.

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  3. Anonymous3:12 PM

    Great points Sinn. Great article.

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  4. Anonymous5:39 PM

    I think date with fine.No restriction!Jon said don't trust but still f close etc but what he meant is that quality of girl is not quality girl.

    It's better to have date to quality girl.

    Yeah,it explained how orbiter born.

    I have problem with group of gay guys protecting hot girls.Gaymong is difficult to deal with than Amog.Amog is fine because you have already known how to deal with it.

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  5. Anonymous6:21 PM

    Taylor Gang or Let Mike Tyson Whisper in Your Ear! Smoke something bitch!

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  6. deadly accurate. every girl who whom i was friends, that was the whole "i don't have a lot of female friends" type....fit the above list.

    esp. the part about having hooked up with male friends etc.
    take it as a red f'ing flag when you meet a chick that says the above about having mostly guy friends.

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  7. Anonymous1:29 AM

    I disagree; I know a few girls who are counter examples to this. Perhaps this is due to me coming from a different culture etc, but I think girls usually don't get along with other girls. Sinn thinks it weird because he likes to hang out with girls more than guys (even if we take sex out of the question). I am the opposite, girls are generally less interesting to me than guys, which sucks because I want to fuck girls and not guys... but in terms of hanging out, girls aren't as chill as guys.

    Because of that, I can totally believe it when a girl hates other girls.

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    1. Anonymous8:08 AM

      Amen I bealive girls can be friends with guys! I'm a girl...and I HATE dating and thts all girls talk about if painting nails and their boyfriends they will break up with in a week. Guys like to skate and video game that's me (I'm not bi or lez) but girls piss me off not all but most

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  8. Anonymous4:49 PM

    Trust them how ? To be committed ? To be monogamous ?

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  9. Anonymous6:44 PM

    >Or a guy with too many female friends if you're >a girl but that's a whole nother story.

    Would be cool to hear more about your thoughts on guys with lots of female friends + what it means.

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    1. Anonymous4:28 PM

      Omg yes pleases do this one!!!!!

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    2. Anonymous2:44 AM

      ygtygyyghh

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  10. Awesome post! And I bet it also means they have father issues so another reason not to get into relationships with these kinds of girls.

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  11. Anonymous8:41 AM

    Great post. Will definitely make up for tomorrow's most likely insane, childish but always entertaining "Fuck Neil Strauss" episode.

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  12. I'd like to hear your thoughts on guys with too many female friends.

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  13. Anonymous10:34 PM

    Never Trust A Girl who doesn't get along with guys

    Never Trust A Girl with female friends who are mostly ugly

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  14. Anonymous4:47 AM

    totally accurate

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  15. Anonymous7:16 AM

    Nonsense. People have friendships between sexes with absolutely no feelings towards one another whatsoever all the time.

    Sweeping generalisations are balls out retarded.

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    1. Anonymous2:37 PM

      to fair to the original blogger hes for the most part accurate. Although your also correct in what you are saying, these relationships tend to be few not many, if you need to do some viable research here is a place you can start http://www.simplypsychology.org/attachment.html also http://internal.psychology.illinois.edu/~rcfraley/attachment.htm

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  16. This is extremely accurate. I've witnessed both sides of the sword here.

    My ex-girlfriend of 4 years had numerous guys who she would call friends. Well one was executed as a backup as soon as we broke up. She would do everything in her power to make me feel comfortable that these guys were "Only Friends"

    On the other side some of my best guy friends have got really close with girls in our own social circle. They then developed feelings and ended up getting burnt.

    Now this is one of my filters when I am getting to know girls. You can usually tell by facebooks. My ex-gf had a lot of guys constantly posting on her wall. I've met other girls that have had the same thing.

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  17. why do you call yourself "sinn"?

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    1. Anonymous9:43 AM

      cause he's a EXPERIENCED WOMANIZER!!!!!!! DOOOHHHHHHHH

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  18. Anonymous11:14 PM

    You sound like a teenager. Grow the fuck up dude. I'm a girl and I mostly grew up with guys. Most of my friends are guys and they are like brothers to me, well two of them are. The rest are just regular friends. The others might have a crush on me or what not but I made sure right off the bat what was up. You can be just friends with the opposite sex with no sex. Just cool .

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    1. Anonymous9:34 PM

      ok narcasitic idiot......i can ahave guys around that wanna f me as long as i dont f them...its cool??? grow up attention whore

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    2. Anonymous5:31 PM

      Subjective and egotistical points. You've just proven the author right on this one. Props to you dear!

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    3. Anonymous9:43 AM

      Bitch Please your the one that needs to grow the fuck up.

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    4. Anonymous9:44 AM

      I'm a married woman and what you just said "you think of them as a brother"????? You WHORE that really pisses me off, You might be one of my husbands female bitches that Facebook me saying he's like a brother to her BLAHH BLAHH BLAHHH FUCK OFF, The author is right you naive bitch, Theres NO WAY a man and a woman can be buddies WHY? Coz they have penis we don't.

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    5. Anonymous9:45 AM

      takes that brotherly love and shove it up your asshole

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  19. Stephanie11:52 PM

    this is sexist propaghanda written by an illiterate nobody..don't listen to him, think for yourself. this disgusts me

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    1. Anonymous11:26 PM

      I dated a girl that is as described, and he is right on point.Dont see this as a girl vs guy because I experienced it

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    2. Anonymous10:11 AM

      Stephanie,
      Your offended cause he just describe "YOUR TYPE", I'm a female also I know he's right.

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    3. Anonymous3:05 PM

      I agree Stephanie. I laughed through his points. What stereotyping! And the emotional, abusive and judgemental responses by people who agree with him only prove that many people grow old without ever growing up.
      I have more male friends and I don't treat any of them as back-up. Most of their gf talk to me when they have problems. A few had some romantic ideas in the start but when they saw that I'm not interested in going there and am a good friend, we just stayed on friend mode. I found some INTP women that were just the kind of girls I could be friends with. Those female friends I cherish as much as my male friends. But before I met them I was wary of befriending women.

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    4. The way this person posts, it seems as he is just making all of this up. As soon as someone starts talking about "getting laid all the time" or "most guys don't have this..." it gets harder to take them seriously......
      HOWEVER!!
      Speaking out of experience with a girl I dated back in 1996, what is described about girls with predominantly male friends in this article is RIGHT ON THE MONEY!! So, Stephanie, you can rant and rave about sexism all you want, if something happened it happened and NOTHING CAN CHANGE IT. If you want to blame people for stereotyping, look for the guilty party AMONG GIRLS WHO MAKE THIS STEREOTYPE FACT.

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  20. Anonymous10:50 PM

    I think girls who have all guy friends are trouble. If they have a few guy friends in addition to friends who are girls that is cool, but if they can't get along with other girls then they have a big problem. I agree with the post! Whenever I meet a girl who has all guy friends I immediately don't trust her (call it primal instinct). I have found that the girls with only or mostly guy friends are manipulative and love to encourage the crushes - it makes them feel desired. They need to grow up and stop teasing their "guy friends" who are probably secretly wanting them. They are fooling themselves into thinking they can be friends.

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    1. Anonymous7:07 PM

      Notice how most Men agree with the author

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    2. Anonymous8:38 AM

      Is it really the girls fault that they guy has a crush on them? What are they supposed to do, cut them off completely because the guy has a crush on them? What if they were good friends before the crush developed? What then? I'm a girl and I have 2 good girlfriends and 2 good guy friends, but I hang out with the guys more than the girls. I don't have any problems with girls whatsoever, but it seems as if some girls have a problem with me. A friend of mine told me it's because I'm so laid back and because I like a lot of things that guys do - you know, video games and such. Even when I try to talk to other girls who game, they act bitchy as if I'm trying to steal their little group of cronies from them, when I'm really just trying to have a conversation. I don't have a problem with girls, but it seems as if they have a problem with me. I think I can only get along with a certain type of girl. I don't know.

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    3. Anonymous4:34 PM

      You're missing the point, she said girls with ONLY guy friends and not a single girlfriend.

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  21. Anonymous10:58 AM

    I agree with you completely and I'm a girl. I think girls who have tons of guy friends and who tend to say women are bitches or catty or they just get along with guys better are just insecure and feel the need to make themselves feel better by being surrounded by guys. I think that women ought to befriend other women and not try to step all over each other to one up another.

    Love your posts!

    -Elaine

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    1. Anonymous10:16 AM

      I totally agree with you Elaine, I'm a female too and I don't understand girls that think they are soooo cool like the guys, they talk trash about other women...really??? they are the REAL BITCHES here.

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    2. Anonymous4:37 PM

      The sad thing is, the girls who only have guy friends will eventually grow up and not even realize how bad they really do need girlfriends! I think its fine to have a guy friend here and there, but one day that girl will get married and I seriously doubt her husband will think its cool she's palling around with a bunch of dudes all the time.

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  22. Anonymous4:15 PM

    Most girls like this end up lonely.

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    1. Anonymous10:20 AM

      yeah I agree, my husband female friend was seeking comfort from him while she went through divorce, her and I got into it on Facebook...she email my husband badmouthing me (HIS WIFE) he show me the email and laugh about it SO I make him call her in front of me and cuss me out on the speaker phone, she was soooo shock LOL, it was so funny that she actually think he's going to pick her over me, what a shame.

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  23. Anonymous9:36 PM

    Guys can be bitches too.
    For the poster who said guys are generally more interesting to girls for him....idk, maybe you just haven't met the right girls. There are shallow people in both genders.

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    1. Anonymous10:21 AM

      guys only said what they said from experience ok, women needs to talk to other women NOT guys

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  24. Anonymous4:19 PM

    I totally agree with this, I have not met one person who challenges this point of view. Fair enough if you have equal amounts of guy/girl friends you can say you are an exception but if you favour the company of the opposite gender in a noticable and significant way you probably have issues.

    I think those who get bent out of shape by the message in this blog (claiming that they massively prefer the opposite genders company and claiming that this is a healthy apporach to friendship) are exactly the kinds of people you are talking about.

    I think they take special care to reduce "competition" to their own personal hareem of potential partners, fallbacks and attention substitutes.

    Usually they can argue against anyone highlighting their unhealthy behaviour by labelling them as "insecure" or "sexist" in the hope that anyone in competition with them will not want to be seen as uptight or judgemental and so will be forced to drop the issue (and anyone of the opposite gender who notices this about a person will probably be someone who has every investment in allowing the chirade to continue so they won't voice the obvious).

    My advice to anyone, do NOT trust anyone who clearly prefers the company of the opposite sex in friendships.... especally if they claim that all these people are "just friends".

    We know its crap, they know its crap and so does the hareem....

    invest in real friendships with people who prefer your company for more than just what shape your junk is.

    anthropologically you should prefer the company and understanding of your own gender... mathematically (ignoring gender) it shou;ld be 50/50 so KNOW that if you are reading this and want to argue that you prefer friendships with the opposite sex... just remind yourself that the longer you keep this up the bigger a fool you will look for longer... everyone will pair off eventually and you will loose all your friends if you keep this unhealthy behaviour up because their partners will have NONE OF IT. Only the loosers who have fake relationships will stay friends with you, all the decent ones will listen to their partners and you will be frozen out.

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    1. Anonymous10:24 AM

      AMEN...TRUE>>>TRUE>>>>TRUEEEEEEEEE

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    2. Anonymous5:10 PM

      ^^^^^^^^

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  25. Anonymous11:22 AM

    I am a female who has had plenty of guy and girl friends in my life, yet the girl friends tend to flake out or become complete psycho bitches to me and the guys remain. I know some of these guys have had crushes on me and vice versa, but I've never hooked up with any of them and years later we're a in committed relationships with no attraction to each other. Their girlfriends are also great friends of mine now. No jealousy there. Now that I'm older I've found more mellow chicks to hang out with, but my oldest girlfriends are flaking off and a few girls at work even talk about me amongst themselves. I'm a drama free, compassionate person, so I think maybe it's jealousy. Some females are just intelligent and laid back girls who don't care about having an all pink wardrobe and name brand purses. I hate purses, and the color pink, and I don't have any desire to make miniature replica of myself. A lot of the crap you write here has no factual basis. I was bullied by girls for 8 out of 12 grade school years. Do you blame me for not trusting my own gender?

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    1. Anonymous8:23 PM

      yes, i blame you.

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    2. Anonymous10:09 AM

      obv its your fault

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    3. Anonymous9:39 AM

      you are a crazy bitch, people change get over it

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    4. I don't blame you, nearly all of my friends are guys, because they r in all honesty, easier to get on with! As for the bullying part.... well I can only say, don't have a Bitch fight with them because that Will only prove the theory, that all girls are bitches, instead just talk to them, and talkt o them like they r stupid....it really pisses them off.

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  26. Wow, what an ego. I have mostly male friends, and we get along fine. I date other men regularly, but don't really enjoy the company of other women. Most of the women I have MET (I am sure there is a large population that I could probably get along great with if we just met and got to talking a bit) prefer to sit around and nag about their "lazy ass husbands" and how they are "stuck" with their kids (nobody forced you to stay fertile there girlie), and how they never have enough money for what THEY want (they get manicures, pedicures, the latest cars, gadgets etc, and some of the women I have met have all of that plus a househusband!). I get sick of people sitting around bitching and moaning about the same thing day after day and not wanting to do anything about it. If they are so unhappy there is a new thing out called a divorce. I believe every state in the union has that option now.

    With men I can talk about sports, history, science and different things females generally find "nerdy" in me. I like to tell dirty jokes and most of the women I've met in groups don't like to hear that stuff or don't get the jokes.

    Inevitably I am not invited back after a few visits because the wives get pissed (not jealous of me) at me because I spend time with their husbands and SHOULD have been just hanging out with them - because that's what women do or so I have been told.
    I grew up in a houseful of bitchy women. I don't need a whole life like that.

    I have only had a crush on one male friend. We both kept the sex out of the deal and he is dating someone and so am I.
    I'm sorry if your own hormones can't be shut off, but most of the population are grown ups who know boundaries.

    ALL relationships work if people WANT to make them work and respect one another and their boundaries. You might want to start thinking with your BRAIN and not your penis.

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    1. Anonymous1:03 AM

      time reveals all liars is the word of the day, the probability that a woman will cheat with a 'guy friend' ratchets up because that woman seeks out his advice and is vulnerable. It's thousands of years of primal instinct people I don't want to hear the 'we can be friends' crap because on a instinctive level your going to fuck up ladies.. you always do and the guy friends will be as silent as your hypocritical secretive selves will.. amen...

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    2. Anonymous10:28 AM

      yeah its true you can be friends with the guys, but nice they are in a relationship or married the friendship turns sour, HELL FUCKING NO I will let my man be your friend you whore.

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  27. Allana4:15 PM

    Erin, thank you for your above post. You are clearly someone with their head in the right spot, unlike the author of this post. I am in the same boat friend-wise. All of my close/best friends are guys. That doesn't mean I have a crush on any of them or have ever thought about it. Most of the guys I hangout with ARE in committed relationships, as am I. My boyfriend is completely okay with me having predominantly male friends.

    NEWSFLASH, "Sinn," in general, girls ARE catty bitches. Not all, I'll grant women that, but as Erin said:

    >>I get sick of people sitting around bitching and moaning about the same thing day after day and not wanting to do anything about it.

    It is tiresome and just plain annoying! Girls are so obsessed with judging eachother and one-upping them, it is ridiculous. I prefer to be around people who have a POSITIVE outlook on life, and don't complain or bitch about things they ARE able to fix, yet are too lazy to address. If you haven't noticed, being that you are obviously a guy, GUYS DON'T COMPLAIN AND BITCH ABOUT STUPID SHIT! I WISH I could find female friends like Erin Kathleen. She and I appear to be on the same level.

    >>invest in real friendships with people who prefer your company for more than just what shape your junk is.

    The above blip is completely illogical. My "real friendships" ARE with people who prefer my company rather than "what shape my junk is," and they're guys! IMAGINE THAT! If I were to be around people who's only care was about "what shape my junk is," I'd simply not acknowledge them. They are clearly not mature enough to have any sort of a friendship with me, nor would I want one from them.

    Saying you can't trust girls because they have only guy friends is completely sexist and disgusting. In my eyes, if girls are uncomfortable with other girls being best friends or good friends with their significant other, then THEY'RE the ones that are insecure about themselves.

    Whomever was the person who posted:

    >>And I bet it also means they have father issues so another reason not to get into relationships with these kinds of girls.

    WHAT THE HELL?!?!?!? 100%, completely inaccurate. My father and I have a great friendship, in fact, he IS one of my best friends and always will be! What the hell does a girl having mainly guy friends have any connection with whether her relationship with her father is good or bad???? You people clearly need a reality check, or just to grow up, because all of the people who agreed with "Sinn" are completely out of touch with reality.




    In your defense, I'm sure there are SOME girls who only have guy friends for the reasons listed, but certainly not ALL of woman-kind. Get a grip and grow up. This is ridiculous.

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      BITCH PLEASEEEEE U NEDD OT GROW UP SMELL THE COFFEE, MEN & WEMAN ARE FROM TWO DIFFERENT PLANETS, NOT ALL FEMALES COMPLAINS ABOUT EVERYTHING, FUCK YOU AND YOUR STUPID ASS REASON.

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    2. If what you are saying is true, then you are a rarity. In general the blogger is absolutely correct and yes these type of female do tend to have father relationship issues. Its simple psychology, You can find countless research that supports this in the fields of social psychology, developmental psychology, child development, and sexual psychology to mention a few. A female who has a larger ration of male friends to female friends is generally and at a high rate someone who fits such a description as has been talked about. It is for the most part a fact not an opinion. You can be sure if you do meet a female with such characteristics in their friendships that you could put a large bet that they will match what has been described and win. Will almost never fail..

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    3. Anonymous12:30 AM

      Allana.... U would not get so angry and write a big reply, if this is not true. Girls with your attitude can never be a family women, No guy wud like to marry...

      I'm sure u goin to be left out...

      Other dont like you because wherever you go you always to hit on guys and grab attention ...

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    4. Allana, I wholeheartedly agree with you. I'm a well-adjusted self-confident woman, and usually, most of my friend group is composed of guys. Some of closest friends are women as well, and more and more I am finding the kind of women that are laid back and a little bit nerdy and completely non-judgemental, but I often feel uncomfortable around women (or at least I find it difficult at times to have close relationships with women) because it seems sometimes like if I say one thing wrong, I'm out. I don't have that problem with guys.

      At the same time, I do agree with the poster that girls like that EXIST, and maybe there are more out there than I thought, but there are also a lot of women out there who just have an easier time having friendships with guys. And to be honest, most of the girls that I am good friends with are also the sort of people that have mostly guy friends. I find those girls easier to get along with. And it's not because guys are inherently cooler than girls, that would be a load of bull. I think women in our culture are largely socialized to believe they should be a certain way.

      I teach in a high school, and I can see the difference between the girls and boys. I ask them what their hobbies are, and the guys will say sports, or music, or video games. The vast majority of girls, on the other hand, will say shopping. To me, that's not a hobby--it might make them feel good, but it's not a hobby, something that they can get better at and develop a sense of self from. And our culture and media perpetuate that. Perhaps that's why I find guys in general more interesting to be around, because they aren't a victim of this socialization that women are often subject to (though they are socialized differently I suppose), and for this same reason, I get along best with women who are not the stereotypical girl as well, who have something interesting to say.

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  28. Anonymous9:44 AM

    true..I think personally in my life experience. I always meet girls who claim there special or down to earth, just because they have heaps of guy friends. and yeh they say all that stuff about females yet theyll be hypocrites. It took along time for me to figure this out.. now days I will roll my eyes when I hear this from women.. and now days everyone is meeting online, so these single girls who accumulate guy friends they think r friends. But in the back of a guys mind theyll be thinking more..and its always the case, one guy eventually plays his cards.. The 2 become a couple and the rest are forgotten or become a distant friend on facebook with nothing moore. Its always a matter of time Ive had this happen to me from both girls in the real world and ones Ive met online..Personaly i think girls who are much more trust worthy are in a mixed sex group of friends, and with the acception of them being opening for guys they like to join. I mean like as in potential without this idea of draging around a fishing net and doing there homework later..

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  29. Anonymous11:35 AM

    All fighting on here aside, girls who have all guy friends are hurting those guys. Who gives a shit why you're doing it? If I was speeding my ass off( for a good emergency reason), and caused an accident would the victim care? Most likely not.

    I really can't help but laugh at the women on here. "stop thinking with your penis". What a joke. They are missing the fact that an asshole thinking with his penis and a guy who got emotionally demolished by some bitch are two VERY different things. Whenever a female friend tells me about a guy not wanting her the way she wants him, its all about feelings right? However a guy in the very same boat, is some pervy loser who doesn't deserve any kind of a chance? Get real. Men have feelings too, sometimes they actually care about the girl in question and don't just want sex. If they did they would just say "cool, onto the next bitch". Instead of going through all the shit most guys go through, because they are not the monsters women make them out to be.

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      I want to give you a high 5

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      I'm a girl and I will give you high 5 too.....both hands ;))

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  30. Anonymous1:51 PM

    You should not judge how trustworthy a girl is by how many guy friends she has. You should judge her by getting to know her.

    I think there are many reasons legitimate reasons a girl may make lots of guy friends e.g. being a tomboy, being forced to spend a lot of time around guys, finding girls less approachable.

    However, having mostly guy friends can cause problems:

    If she's attractive then her guy mates may try and sleep with her. And naturally she may become attracted to some of them.

    She may copy her guy mates and start to treat sex like a guy. And for a girl its easy to get sex so she will end up sleeping around.

    She may become so used to being friends with guys that she finds it difficult to be friends with girls.

    For these reasons, girls with a lot of guy mates may be perceived as untrustworthy. And no doubt there are some who cant be trusted.

    Whether she is trustworthy or not is a completely different matter and depends on the individual person. If she is trustworthy she will be careful to make sure her guy friends are definitely just friends. And you should trust her unless she gives you reason not to.

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    1. Anonymous3:56 PM

      not some, most are untrustworthy, and just a very limited few are the exception...

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  31. yup tat's great i agree wit u dude many of the girls r bitches nd rest of the grls also trying 2..... nasty girls

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  32. Anonymous6:50 PM

    I agree with this post. There is absolutely no excuse in dismissing over half the world's population, friend wise. If you refuse friendship with those of a certain race or sexuality, you are correctly deemed as hateful and ignorant. It should be the same for genders.

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  33. Anonymous8:36 AM

    haha did you forget what friend implies? You have to choose to be friends with someone. So by you believing that people shouldn't refuse friendship with the opposite sex,different races..etc, you are against people having a choice? They should be branded and hated because they wanted to be true to themselves?

    I'm black and have dealt with a little racism, but you know I would never want to be friends with someone who doesn't trust black people. More so if they were forced to be my friend out of your over simplified view of the world.

    Also. Adult males aren't really allowed to hang out with children right? Everyone is okay with this, because children sometimes can be taken advantage of. In opposite sex friendships, that can happen just as easily. A different kind of abuse of course, not as terrible as molestation. However, girls in a "friendship" with some poor sap, usually leave the guy a sad,empty shell.

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    1. Anonymous10:37 AM

      WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU???? I'm spanish NOT WHITE and we are not talking about race here, you need to go see Jesus you need help. we talk about gender NOT race dump ass

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  34. There was a time when I thought a girl n a boy could be friends. Of course, I was always in females' circle, but was just open minded about the concept. When I started dating my boyfriend the first time he mentioned to me how he promised himself to never trust a woman with guy friends. I asked him why and this is what he answered "women who have too many guy friends are emotionally weak and are in need of attention and support. I call them whores. One man simply won't do for them. If they end up having some sort of problem in the relationship instead of solving it, the first thing they would do is to call up a guy friend and tell him how pathetic her boyfriend is. The next thing would be crying on his shoulder and then spending the night in his cozy bed."

    I didn't take his words seriously despite thinking they had logic. Right after 6 months, my friend and her boyfriend broke up. The reason he gave me was that she said bad stuff about him to one of her guy friends. According to him, in the chatscript, she went on complaining about him. The guy friend responded "why don't u just dump his ass". Such a harsh line would hit anyone's ego...not just a boyfriend's. Overall, guy friends do cause problems. By the way, I also think a guy with too many female friends is a no no for a relationship.

    I am glad that my boyfriend has 0 female friends.

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      you are very blessed dear, I'm your total opposite....lots of drama

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  35. Anonymous7:56 AM

    I am a girl with more male friends than female friends, just by coincidence, and you are WRONG! I am an attractive girl (and no I am not saying this to toot my own horn, why would i do that on a site where I am known as anonymous) and I can tell you some girls will be intimidated and be mean to you. I have some female friends and they are great, no competition between us at all. Some of my male friends might have been expecting more in the begining, but now they treat me as one of the guys (thats not to say that nothing will ever happen, because you are correct because sometimes out of the blue things can happen), but they are wonderful friends to me. In life it's more important to find people you get along with regardless of gender, then to worry about what others think, especially when their theories are bull, you can believe it if you want, but don't try and pass it off as some kind of infallible proof! If youre SO is unable to get along with members of the opposite gender then they have a problem (thats FIFTY PERCENT OF THE POPULATION!) and if you forbid your lover to have friends of the opposite gender TAKE LESSONS IN SELF ESTEEM!!!!

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  36. Anonymous4:07 PM

    WHAT A LOAD OF SHIT THIS IS. sounds like someone's extremely insecure lol! feel sorry for you more than anything, really...

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    1. Anonymous11:07 AM

      HOW CAN A WOMANIZER BE INSECURE? FUCK OFF UGLY BITCH

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  37. Anonymous11:07 AM

    Ahh what women will say to maintain their perfect little bubble world full of horseshit. Admit it already ladies, you just want to surround yourself with a bunch of adoring dudes who are all competing for you.

    Girls can't get along with other girls and that's supposed to be my problem? If girls aren't so fucking bad, why aren't more of you friends with each other? If girl power rocks so hard, why are girls coming up with any excuse no matter how generic...to keep themselves away from each other and surrounded by dudes??

    I like women, I actually would be interested in truly falling in love with one(not being tricked). I was brought up like most boys to want to care for them...and LOVE them. You are their friend and husband(or w/e). Not just friend. I have my male friends, my boys if you will. From there I would like to maintain a strong relationship with a woman, who can actually put up with her own kind. And because of this i'm the devil apparently.

    If i'm the bad guy because keeping things on an even plane actually appeals to me then so be it.

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  38. Anonymous10:01 PM

    I hate women im going through this very shit as we speak i hate women im going gay!

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  39. Anonymous6:16 PM

    I don't trust them and it hasent failed me yet fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me its happend once won't happen agen

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  40. Anonymous8:01 PM

    You are 100% about everything you said. You actually left a few reasons out. Like you said, girls with all guy friends are eliminating competition, but they also love to be the center of attention and they love adoration.

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  41. Anonymous12:07 PM

    Trusting a woman is probably the biggest mistake a man could make.

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    1. Anonymous8:47 PM

      Correct.. +100

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    2. Anonymous10:33 AM

      were u born out of a guy's anus?....just curious :)

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  42. Anonymous1:45 AM

    This article is SO correct. My last 6 or 7 relationships ended because the girl had too many guy friends, and she was always flirting with them right in front of me. A few times, she cheated on me with one or two of them. Most girls just can't handle not being the subject of competition.

    Myself? I don't have any female friends, so that when I DO find a woman who will allow me to love her, she won't feel inadequate. She will be the only female friend I ever need.

    Every girl I attempt to date is like, "Wanna go out Tuesday? That's the only day I'm free, because Monday I'm going over Josh's house for the day, and then Wednesday I'm hanging out with Chris, and then Thursday I'm ALSO being an attention whore..."

    Sigh.

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  43. Anonymous11:25 AM

    This article is prettyyy accurate... Im beginning to notice that all of these women who claim this article is inaccurate seem express THEIR feelings towards their male friends. They say things like oh hes in a committed relationship, or oo hes never mad a move on me, etc. But what they say is only half of the story. Those male friends of hers could secretly be crushing on her, they like her... so they show her a type of a affection that comforts her but at the same time this affection doesn't cross boundaries in a friendship. It is truly impossible to TRULY 100% know what they opposte sex may be thinking, they can tell you one thing but have different thoughts in their head. I know this because I have befriended many female friends whom at some point or time hooked up with or dated. It's all a matter of patience, I continue to do my own thing and date just as she does so it looks as if im not interested. Then when the time is right Im offered a chance with her, whether that be for sex or for a relationship... and of-course the relationship will soon fail like all have because I have tricked her into like/loving me in a way. Sounds crazy but ive done it countless times. SOo many that it has truly hurt my insecurities to the point where I truly believe in this article with no doubt.

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  44. Anonymous1:42 PM

    The truth is girls are cheating whores if they hang with a lot of guys.

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  45. Anonymous2:47 AM

    Girls can be friends with guys without having any relationship with them but a friendship, so that conception is far mistaken, but since you are a pig you can recognize one, whoever praises this dick is probably just like him or worse.
    You don't know shit about what you are saying, and you don't have any real backup either, for example girls with narcissistic mothers grow up with the feeling that cant trust women since they have been hurt by their primarly sense of protection and love, they have a hard time with it, and it doesnt mean they are attention whores or want to distrust them at all, they just been damaged, they would love to be able to surround themselves with girls and share with them, but they are afraid, and this issues can be worked on, so it's not all girls that dont have female friends are shit that want to fuck all the guys around them, some of them have male friends and that's it, friends, period, and because they have issues like this, so putting every cat in the bag doesn't make you better, just makes you an ignorant.

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  46. I'm a girl and I've had a couple of friends who prefered male friends over female friends. They basically said everything you said they'd say and this post was on point about their personality. I won't generalize all girls who have a lot of male friends, because some may not even purposely want mostly male friends. But, there's truth to this. I have since stopped being friends with both of them for different reasons.

    I stopped being friends with the first one because she never made as much effort to talk to me as she did with her male friends. She also seemed like she was always flirting with them and wanted their attention Although, she wasn't competitive, as she had tried once to fix me up with one of them. Our friendship deteriorated, because I felt like I was always the one making an effort, while her thoughts were elsewhere (to her male friends).

    The other one was competitive, she didn't seem to like it when I got too much attention from guys and hated the fact that I had a boyfriend and she didn't. She would always remind me of that, very bitterly. We stopped being friends when I found out that she was trying to steal my boyfriend. I had actually told her to stop flirting with him, but she admitted that she had feeling for him and would not stop because of that.

    I'm not generalizing all of these type of girls, which I've said, but most of the answers I'm seeing here in the comments from the girls whom you're talking about seem to be generalizing all women. They need to understand that all women aren't 'catty' or 'needy'. Just like all men aren't understang to women or even want to have them as friends. Some women would love to talk to other women about sports, video games, or the 'guy stuff' that they're into. Don't stereotype the whole female gender from a few bad experiences that you've had. Women make great friends, and get along best with other women. Just like men get along with other men. You just have to find the right friend.

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  47. Anonymous2:31 AM

    Misogynists... Notice how most of the men expertly commenting on "how women's minds work" are not currently in any sort of long-term meaningful relationships, and comment on all the ones that have failed in the past. Hmmmmmm I wonder why???

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  48. Anonymous8:38 PM

    This is idiotic! Having couple bad experiences with women with male friends does not constitute as a red flag to all women with male friends.

    Women are friends with male friends for mental reasons, easy, laid back outlook. A girl need not be friends with a guy/guys for easy hook up. There is probably more mental attraction and comfort with guy friends than girl friends.

    Besides, if you are a little shy as a stranger, men will at least take some effort to strike a conversation as a friend than a girl will with a girl.

    Don't make your blog generic! There are nice girls out there with male friends but just that they are interested in things other than Kim kardashian's life or people magazine. And it is hard to find like minded girls!

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  49. Anonymous1:36 PM

    99.9% of girls with all guy friends are attention fiends and whores.

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  50. Anonymous4:06 PM

    Okay, so I'm just gonna say, I'm a girl and I have more guy friends than girls. I like to keep a pretty tight circle of friends, and most of the guys I hang out with, I've known for about 5 years. I have girl friends too and have no problem hanging out with them, but I've found I've spent more time with guys over the years. I've never been seen as one of the guys and I don't try to act that way. I tend to spoil and mother my boys. I like hanging out with them because it tends to be more causal. I've never hooked up with any of them, and have only had feelings for one of them. We don't tend to talk about relationships much together. That's something I do with the girls. I do say that girls are bitches or can be, but I can say the same about guys. I like my time with the girls, but I just find that I spend more time with guys.

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    1. Anonymous1:27 AM

      So, u've had a crush on one of them, eh? Try acting drunk one night, and flirt with one of your guy friends. See how easy it is to cross the friendship line. It'll be way tougher for you to get drunk and get another girl (straight at least) to cross over the line with you.

      I've been there, done that!

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  51. Anonymous10:33 AM

    This is for all the people who disagree with Sinn the creator of this post... (mostly women with guy friends)

    Sinn is a professional pick up artist who has been in hundreds of thousands meet for the first time social situations with women. Has attracted, comforted and then seduced thousands upon thousands of women in the process.

    As a professional has found that women who have a majority of male friends or only male friends are problamatic. (He has witnessed it first hand again and again and has heard all of the excuses trying to counter his findings which have been found all over this post).

    So stop disagreeing because as a general result Sinn is correct.

    Its like the owner of a pitbull saying that theyre dog is harmless... it may be?! but FACTS SHOW they are GENERALLY VERY AGGRESSIVE HENCE PROBLAMATIC.

    SINN WINS

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  52. Bibiana6:05 AM

    As far as friendship, I think it all depends on the person. I have mostly male friends, but the thought of making love to them never enters my mind. They are like brothers. I would not put myself in a situation where I was trying to be 'just friends 'with someone I was attracted to-or who was attracted to me. That is unhealthy.

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  53. Anonymous8:05 PM

    I'm a girl that grew up a tomboy. When you all grow up y'all start looking at each other differently and yes I must admit that it's true as I am transitioning.

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  54. Anonymous7:22 AM

    I think there's two universal truths to understand here first off: one, relationships are doomed to fail if there's no trust and two: jealousy is never the answer.
    It doesn't matter how jealous or concerned you are about your partner going off and doing something with one of her guy friends. If she's going to cheat, she's going to cheat regardless.
    I'd hazard a guess that most of the guys who ende up posting here are in / have been in a situation where they've dated a girl with mostly guy friends. If it turned out bad for you, the reason was probably you.
    I'm with a girl who has mostly guy friends. Personally I love this about her - it's a lot easier to find things to do when she enjoys doing things all my guy friends like to do. Rather than be jealous of HER guy friends who may very well have a crush on her, I feel they should be the ones jealous of me that I'm the lucky one who is actually with her.

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  55. Anonymous7:28 AM

    Also, I'd bet that girls don't like It much when they feel their boyfriend cant trust them and constantly tries to control what they're doing. I strongly believe that If you've been in this situation and had it turn out negatively, you may be the one to blame. Showing no trust and trying I have too much control just pushes her away. There's a reason she started dating you and not one of her male friends in the first place.

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    1. Anonymous11:39 AM

      I agree, maybe she was too UGLY for her male friends to date her LOL, my husband told me he USED to have lots of female friends and most of them are ugly cause he felt bad for them being ugly he try to be nice to them and they end up liking him and try to be one of the boys to get closer to him....losers

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  56. Anonymous2:11 PM

    I'm a girl with mostly male friends. I have invested time into building friendships with women, but somehow they have mostly failed. Either the girls find someone new to hang out with or get a boyfriend and fall off the face of the earth. I love my xbox, my longboard, going hunting, shooting, and UFC. It's hard for me to connect with other girls, but I honestly do try. My boyfriend loves the fact that he doesn't have to try to get me to like the stuff he likes, we play gears together and shoot our bows together. Sometimes I wish I had a close girlfriend I could go get my hair done with and nails and shopping. I typically end up going by myself. True friendship is hard to find, but honestly don't put all of us girl's in the same boat. I know that I'll find a close girlfriend again, it's just not easy sometimes. I get along with women just fine, the problem is building those meaningful friendships. That's when it gets tough for me.

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  57. Anonymous12:39 PM

    I recently dated a gal dat had mst male friend,she once introduced,1 of guys as a friend to me.on a particula nite,she got intimate wif im nd he raped ha.she nw used me as a backup.Now,here is d funi part,due 2 d fact dat d guy nd i hv known each oda 2ru her,we jist 2geda and it confuses ha 2 cee dat both of us talk 2 each oda,wondering wat we are talking abt.it just kills her...lol.Now she found a new guy,bt we r nt surprisd cos we knw her...she is nw regretin introducin us

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    1. Anonymous3:03 PM

      You are LAUGHING about someone getting raped?????? Please, dear God, help us.

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  58. Anonymous8:49 PM

    Yep. I'm female and I know a girl who is EXACTLY like this. Big attention whore who is prejudice against other females and we're all "bitches". She has caused so much drama between a lot of couples in our social group by flirting with them at social gatherings, wandering off with one or two for a "walk" because "too much female energy" gives her a headache. She has tried this a lot with my boyfriend in the past, and there was war over it. Not because I didn't trust my boyfriend, the fact that she made it very very clear about what she was doing. Shut all the girls out, bring all the guys in. WHORE.

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  59. The guy who wrote this post is a psycho who got dumbed by a smart girl. LOL

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  60. Anonymous10:48 PM

    Don't trust them. Whores all of them

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  61. Anonymous7:51 PM

    I don't understand why girls who are in a committed relationship want additional male companionship anyway. if you actually make the decision to be close friends and intimate with other guys, what is the point in you having a boyfriend in the first place? I feel sorry for guys who date girls that actually want to have intimacy with other guys. you basically have to share your girlfriend with other guys if you want to be with her..

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  62. Anonymous9:41 AM

    I'm around guys all the time due to my career. I also consider many of them friends, but all of my close friends are girls. I've wondered about this, if many guys mistakenly believe that just because I have so many guy friends, I've either slept with or are sleeping with them. This is not true! I grew up a tomboy, and within the past few years finally embraced my feminine qualities in my appearance, but I still like doing a lot of "guy" activities. I know I'm weird, and most people won't understand, but the ones that do are real, and those are the type of people I want to surround myself with anyway. So please, each person is unique, the good ones are out there, you just have to search little harder.

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  63. Anonymous5:20 PM

    Im a girl and to the women with alot of guyfriends, Who would you trust more to date, a guy with alot of girl friends or guyfriends? End of story.

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  64. Anonymous3:03 PM

    Yep. That's exactly it. Most women would want to date a guy with a lot of guy friends, not girl friends.

    Point proven.

    And I am a woman saying this.

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  65. Anonymous3:33 AM

    lol what a load of utter garbage, covered in the misogynist yappings of a bunch of women-hating (or just plain laughably ignorant) imbeciles in the comments section.

    Let's play a drinking game. Take a shot every time someone makes a reply to a comment saying "U R SO RITE", take two every time someone tells a dissenter to shut up because they're a dumb/ugly/stupid/attention-seeking bitch/whore. Prepare to have 911 on speed-dial for the inevitable alcohol poisoning.

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  66. Anonymous3:02 PM

    WOW. This board just reeks of shameless chauvinism (by both men AND women!). How hateful can you people be? Oh, what, your boyfriend/husband cheated on you with another girl? Get a freaking therapist, get over it, and stop spreading hateful messages to other women who have nothing to do with your situation. And the men contributing to this "discussion," what a sorry display of ignorance to further degrade a gender you've been knocking down for centuries, way to go. This board is a great demonstration of what this country needs more of (note sarcasm): shaming and humiliating women for just living their lives, maybe not in the most traditional ways, but gettin by. Well at least it seems like there's a few sane ones on here that are disgusted by these sexist senitments..

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  67. Anonymous11:05 AM

    And folks wonder why gay marriage is on the rise....

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  68. Anonymous3:12 AM

    "I don't trust anything that bleeds for 5 days and doesn't die."

    -Mr. Garrison

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  69. Anonymous1:03 AM

    it depends on the person really, some girls try to make excuses to whore around. not cool

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  70. Anonymous4:41 PM

    It's simple. You're wrong, but you've managed to make yourself believe you're right. There's a reason, these so called guy friends are FRIENDS and not lovers. You always get laid by new chicks?! No wonder you've got that mentality. You're surrounded by chicks that would hook up with you without really knowing you or loving you or whatever. Get yourself out of the circle you're in and you'll see the world is not all that you see.

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  71. This is so not true! I am a female and my best friend is a male. we spend lunch together , Breck, mornings and free time together and because if this, people assume we r going out, so we have given up, and just play along. girls obviously call me a whore or a sleaze. me and my friend are meeting each other todayfor a movie and then I'm meeting his parents for dinner.NO RELATIONSHIPS TIES we can go woth whoever we want, eg. a friend asked me out and I said we could just stay friends, he didn't take it well at the time, but now we r friends again.
    -Freddy, ( nickname given by a MALE)!!!

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