On Monday I talked about the concept of winning the game and how it really boils down to answering 3 questions for yourself.
We discussed the first question of " Why are you here?" Monday.
Today I want to move on to the second question you have to answer. Where exactly are you right now?
As I discussed in the first post, most of us do not live in reality. Which is why in NLP they say " The map is not the territory" instead we live in a clouded mess of distortions, deletions, generalization and most of all rationalization.
I've always thought you had to hit rock bottom in order to get the psychological leverage needed to get good. The problem of course with that kind of thinking is that 9/10 students could be at rock bottom and somehow rationalize that they're not really that bad.
You MUST be able to take an honest look at yourself and admit that there are parts of your personality, lifestyle and way you come across socially that are NOT helpful and need to change if you want to actually make progress moving forward.
You cannot improve, until you admit to yourself that you're fucked up.
And oh the ways students run from the truth. My favorite is when they bring up situations that obviously made them uncomfortable and then say they don't care about it. like on my last bootcamp a student mentioned that as he was leaving a group of girls he had talked to pointed at him and laughed. I told him he creeped them out and he should care and he immediately responded " I don't care." Which obviously he did or he wouldn't have brought it up 12 hours after it happened in the seminar room. Or when students tell me their happy with their sex lives. Yeah cause a lot of guys who are happy with their sex lives sign up for 5K programs on getting better with women. If your life has gotten to the place where you felt the need to go online to solicit help from other guys on how to get laid; you are FUCKED UP.
No judgment I was fucked up too, so was every other guru out there, it's just like Alcoholics Anonoymus though admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery.
JS- The King Of Content