Monday, July 23, 2012

Not Accepting Rudeness


 This probably won't help your game in the moment, but I want to write about dealing with rude people in bars and clubs.

As you should know I am mostly a day game guy now. I never go out for the express purposes of hitting on girls and only end up in bars and clubs when my friends drag me there.

Which happened last Friday night.

Now because I don't go out as much anymore I had forgotten how incredibly rude people could be in these places.

There were many examples but the best one came when I was talking to a very cute girl from Chicago and her two friends joined us one guy, one fat girl. The fat girl basically tried to occupy me while the other dude danced with the girl and tried to bring her away from me.

A few years ago I would have tried to "game" the situation by keeping things moving.

Not anymore.

I get laid enough that I don't give a shit about blowing something to stop asshole behavior.

So instead I said and I loosely quote

"What are you guys doing?"

" I mean clearly I'm talking to this girl and she's into it so why are you trying to fuck it up? Clearly you're in the friend zone or she would have said that's my boyfriend or something else letting me know what's up. So just because you fucked up and can't get with this girl what gives you the right to be an asshole here?"

This was followed by some half assed apologizing and me walking away as my friends were leaving anyway. But I started to think about the right "community" way to handle this and it made me realize that a lot of the time the things we sacrifice in order to get women affect our self respect, dignity and overall ideas of what's right more than we probably need to. Overcomin rudeness to get laid isn't cool, calling people out for being dicks so that hopefully next time they'll think twice, that's awesome.

JS

12 comments:

  1. Awesome post. I was once on a date with a girl who ended up bringing a couple of male/female friends along. At first I was like okay sure.. that's cool. But it got to a point where I called her out saying that this was supposed to be a "date" - not a "group hangout". She profusely apologized, promptly sent some of her friends home, and then the date when a lot better from then on out.

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  2. Anonymous1:19 PM

    yeah soem bitch blew smoke in my face on my opener and called me a loser before I even said anything - WTF? Rude bitch!

    I physically pushed her away and a guy steps in and says dont push a woman, and I said "doesnt rude deserve rude?" and walked off.

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  3. Anonymous1:45 PM

    Nice, like a baws. I like the way your blogs become more and more mature. Keep up the good work.

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  4. Anonymous1:48 PM

    Dude, I really think you live in a bubble sometimes...

    A lot of decent UK guys have been calling out bishes on their rudeness for some time now. Don't know how you roll in the states but this is not new.

    I await your post entitled "a routine stack is not necessary!!!"

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  5. Anonymous3:31 PM

    Have you been reading some Roosh V lately Sinn?

    And to the above poster, a routine stack is definitely necessary if 1) you're not that good-looking and 2) you value efficiency.

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    1. Anonymous5:15 PM

      That's not a problem bro. Im fucking gorgeous.

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  6. Anonymous3:43 PM

    all respect sinn, but that would just get you an agro guy/girl to deal with, which is always upsetting..

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  7. Anonymous7:29 PM

    Im telling you man I worry for you sometimes. You have to let go and find some inner peace, Im not saying the guy didn´t deserve it Im just saying you shoudn´t get all worked up for small things like that. You can get any girl you want why bother about some random dude grabbing a random club girl?

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  8. dustydog11:13 AM

    Standing up for yourself is good.
    Laying on the floor bleeding, wondering why people are stepping on you and no one will call you an ambulance, is bad.

    A fine line - make sure you stay on the upright and unimpaired breathing side of the line. Most guys won't beat or stab you for being an alpha male; most guys will beat you senseless for the combination of being smaller and insulting/shoving any girl in their company.

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  9. Anonymous2:23 PM

    Bitches be trippin...

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  10. Anonymous3:05 AM

    Fuck yeah man! U told there fucken ass!

    That shit is fucken comedy calling bitchs out that dont get the girl but still try and c-block...like wtf.....

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  11. Anonymous10:08 AM

    I couldn't agree with this post more. You never want to let people get away with rude behavior. I will either call out the rude behavior, or I will say something extremely sarcastic as I'm walking away.

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