Monday, July 09, 2012

Having an Identity That Hooks

 Hey there,

 Today I want to talk about something I've been thinking about for awhile.

 In order to get better results with women, you're going to need a comprehensive identity that hooks a woman's attention and causes her to interact with you more based strictly on your identity.

Now this doesn't mean that you need to go back to 2005 and start telling women you are a "superstar daredevil illusionist." or pretending to be someone you're not. Instead you need to tailor your presentation towards keeping a woman's attention.

When women meet men, they are trying to stereotype that guy in order to figure out how interested they are in a guy. Furthermore you want to be someone who can be easily described to her friends, mom, etc in one word.

Women will often interact with men they are not attracted to or interested in because they have an identity that has hooked their attention. I came to this idea when I watched a C level reality star in a bar with a bunch of girls who kept saying they not only weren't attracted to him but thought he was kinda lame. Yet they kept talking to and interacting with the guy and eventually he left with one of those girls.

You want an identity that will keep the woman's attention without you having to do it with social skills which lowers your value and lowers the women's interest in you.

This probably sounds more complicated than it actually is.

Most guys don't actually think about the way they present themselves to women. They choose a model for picking up chicks, a few routines that are supposed to keep a woman's attention and think that should be enough. Worse still because different companies have different presentation styles (RSD is drunk fratboy game, Brent teaches rich guy game, Mystery teaches intrigue/faux celebrity game etc...) guys tend to mix and match different routines and ideas from guys with VERY different presentation styles which leads to guys coming off extremely incongruent and getting bad results with women.

So you want to think about your identity on the whole when it comes to meeting women.

To do this you need to ask yourself a few questions:

What kind of guy am I?

Now not every guy can be high value, or a frat boy type or a C list reality star. But every guy can have some identity that is attractive to women whether it's "psychic" guy (an early Mystery Identity) or  yoga teacher guy, or even music guy. Whatever it is you need to have a one word description of what kind of guy you are and how you're going to present that.

Then ask yourself

Is it congruent?

Just because you want to be that cool club guy, doesn't mean you can actually pull it off. You have to be realistic here or you WILL NEVER GET RESULTS.

Lastly ask yourself

How can I get this into the conversation quickly and make sure that the woman is hooked by my identity first before I try to actually get her attracted.

Once you're able to establish an identity that hooks a woman's attention, you'll find that your interactions go much smoother and easier and you get less flaking and distrust from women overall.

JS- The King Of Content


  1. Anonymous11:58 AM

    The identity I'm striving for is that of a modern day Robin Hood. Basically, a cool outlaw who stands up for the little guy. I just got a job delivering pizza about a month ago, and I have $400 saved up, so I have plenty of money for dates, peacocking and all that stuff.

    Is it congruent?
    It sure is! I painted my scooter green and I bought a Robin Hood hat at the costume shop. I've been losing weight and am now down to 205 lbs. I'm 5'3" so I still need to lose a little more.

    If I figure out how to move out of my parents house I'll be just like Jon. Or does he live with his mom? I don't hold it against him if he still does.

    Anyway, if anyone needs more advice on how to develop an attractive identity, just ask me.

    1. Anonymous1:10 PM

      What are some good identities besides Robin Hood? I do not have enough confidence to peacock like that.

    2. Anonymous1:21 PM

      I have no friends, no job, but am an awesome gamer. I am level 85 in WoW. What could my identity be?Robinhood is too old-fashinoned for me.

    3. Anonymous1:49 PM

      Does Robin Hood really work? How many girls have you picked up so far? Do you have to wear that funny hat?

  2. Spot on. Totally agree with you. This is how naturals think, act and behave. No further comments. Keep up the good work. For those who still don't understand Sinn or are still getting AHAs then you are not there yet, you have to put in the hours required in the field, approach, get rejected, seduce, get flaked on, get laid, make mistakes, score more, etc..... practice and repetition is the mother of skill as opposed to people who are still DOUBLING their MASTURBATING and asking for girls' emails and pagers :D

  3. Anonymous12:02 PM

    knowing the losers that Jon attracts, I'll bet at least 5 guys say their identity is Tyler Derden , Robin Hood, or ninja.

  4. Anonymous12:08 PM

    Jon looks like a slightly gay middle easterner . Is Al-Quaeda considered a cool identity now?

    >"You want an identity that will keep the woman's attention without you having to do it with social skills which lowers your value and lowers the women's interest in you.."

    Social skills lowers your value?!?

  5. Anonymous12:14 PM

    Is anyone here a good artist? I am willing to pay up to $300 for a semi-nude painting of Jon.

    I want him painted in a heroic pose, maybe fighting a lion or something.

    1. Anonymous1:15 PM

      I am not good at body, but can draw male genitals well. I will charge you only $50 for painting his.

      Since we're talking about Jon here, I can paint it on the back of a postage stamp and there will be plenty of space left over.

    2. Anonymous1:18 PM

      I might want one too. can you make prints if it turns out well?

    3. Anonymous1:30 PM

      Do you have any photo of jon in his briefs or speedo? i cannot paint w/o good photo reference.

    4. Anonymous1:37 PM

      I'll chip in. I'm not gay but it's a cool idea & I'd like a copy to hang in my gym.

    5. Anonymous1:47 PM

      lol, $300 won't get you a good artist. Try more like $1000-2000.

      Jon could do a swimsuit calendar for a lot less money, plus it'd look a lot better.

      Good luck.

    6. Anonymous1:50 AM

      sinn will turn gay

      and murder you from behind using his

      puny penis

    7. Anonymous8:30 PM

      I'm willing to bet that every comment in this chain except for the last one was authored by the same person.

    8. Anonymous10:41 AM

      I'm willing to bet half of comments here are authored by Tyler D, Mystery, and neil strauss,

    9. Anonymous12:11 PM


  6. Anonymous1:27 PM

    Robin Hood is not an identity; it is one of the five archetypes that women are attracted to. Jon will elaborate more about this in his upcoming RH Report.

  7. Anonymous2:15 PM

    the fuck with all these weird comments

    1. Anonymous1:49 AM

      I want to suck your nipples you big man you

    2. Anonymous1:51 AM


    3. Anonymous9:34 PM

      I want to haha your haha mithster haha!

  8. dustydog7:31 PM

    Think about applying for a job that you want for which you are well-qualified. What would you tell the interviewer? What in your past is of interest and value to a potential employer? What is the right way to frame your experiences?

    Bridge from job hunting, to networking for jobs, to socializing, to flirting properly.

    A fine hook is "my job boils down to scrutinizing large amounts of information to pounce on tiny mistakes, so people don't get killed. Or at least, they have a better chance of not dying. Every case is different, so we can't automate the job yet. Sometimes the job is boring, but the alternative is that hundreds of people would die before we caught the problem, and then a huge company might go bankrupt dealing with the subsequent lawsuits, putting people out of work and screwing the shareholders. Not to mention all those dead or injured people."

    Delivered earnestly, that'll keep anybody's attention. And it describes that most boring cog-in-a-machine job in the world.

    You can be lazier still. Does your company have a mission statement? Memorize it, and work it into a conversation. Except for the people who work with you, nobody has a good idea of what your work is. The mission statement is a polished way of selling your work product. Language good enough to get money from people is good enough to keep casual interest.

  9. Anonymous7:12 AM

    I'm grateful that I live in a country where being a working class tradesman of ANY kind is hot to a large portion of women.
    Also, wouldn't establishing a PUA indentity be just as good as any other identity? 'Pick-up guy' worked for me at one point, when a jilted ex went about town telling everyone.

  10. Hi, Jon Can you make a list of all possible(or most) identities?

  11. TommyMo4:52 PM

    What about having a proper education, a proper job and a proper identity of your own? This is what most women are into, believe it or not.

    All I can read here is about to best FAKE an identitiy. That is NOT what I would call HAVING one.