Friday, April 06, 2012

The Blonde Thing...

Guys in the community love them some blondes, in this post I'm going to attempt to explain why.

First let's get a few things out of the way, In the very interesting book "Cirque Du Soleil" Diane Dimond has a few great passages about why blondes captivate. Because I'm too lazy to look these up we can summarize it thusly: Blondes capture our attention more because the light hits the hair and creates something of a miniature halo effect, combined with the fact that we've had 50 years of Blondes as sexy stereotypes starting with Marilyn Monroe.

Secondly I don't have a particular fascination with blondes even though the majority of girls I date happen to be blonde. I don't really have a type outside of has big boobs. So I don't think I have a bias here.

Third, I have consistently watched guys in the community overrate girls attractiveness due to the girl being blonde. To the point where I think most community guys would rather have a 6 with blonde hair than an 8 who is a brunette. My friend Ron and I always joke that to be an 8 to a community guy all you need to be is blonde and thin.

But why?

I have two theories:

Theory A: The High School Validation Theory. At some point (probably in high school hence the name) most nerdy guys developed a crush on a girl out of their league, like a cheerleader or popular girl who most likely was blonde. For me it was a girl named Jamie Doyen. Then when you don't get this girl you file her away under the mental label "I'd be a winner if I could get girls like that."

Honestly I think this problem is most pronounced in Foreign guys most notably Asians and Indians. Because they probably encountered some form of racism when dating and weren't able to get the hot blonde girl early on, these guys tend to be obsessed with them, and view getting blondes as the ultimate sign that they have arrived. In 8 years of teaching I could count the number of Asian/Indian students who were not obsessed with getting blondes on 1 hand.

Theory B: The Blondes Have More Fun Theory. The second reason I think guys are obsessed with blondes is the idea that blondes are somehow dumber, and easier than their brunette sisters. Which is a great piece of girl hate in action as well as a great theme to talk to brunette girls about. Guys think that those blonde party chicks dancing on the bar are easy, when in fact those girls tend to mostly be in it for the attention. But because it looks and acts like a duck (or a slut) and there is a stereotype out there we think it's easier to get with blondes which if you look at the results of most guys who don't have good coaching simply isn't true.

Anyway I think this is a fascinating phenomenon and it's worth taking a look to see if you are artificially inflating girls looks in your mind because of their hair color.



  1. Anonymous11:43 AM

    Dated blondes for a decade, married a dark haired Castilian. Never looked back!

  2. Anonymous11:56 AM

    Evolutionary psychology says it is because blonde hair naturally darkens with age, so blonde = young = fertile. This is similar to the high school validation theory actually

  3. Anonymous12:40 PM

    That's like the third time you have mentioned Jamie Doyen lol

  4. Anonymous5:41 AM

    I thought you liked readheads.

  5. I just like pink nipples

  6. Anonymous10:44 AM

    I'm Asian and I love brunettes. I like some blondes don't get me wrong but brunettes were just more my thing. I like big tits too so we have that in common.

  7. Anonymous2:42 PM

    yo Sinn can you give us a refresher course on teases? Do you have any new teases to share that you have been using as of late? It's always good to try new things

  8. Anonymous2:28 AM

    Well, this must be specific to the community because most of my non community friends prefer brunettes, and so does Miss Universe and Miss World jury if you look at finalists.

    However blondes seem to be desired more in more shallow materialistic subcultures ie. by tuning fans, clubbers, and... PUAs in my expirience.

  9. Mephisto4:44 AM

    Mr Evolution Bullshit: light redheads get blonde with age. Why are blondes more popular then redheads???

    Don't waste your time with Mysterys Evolution shit. A few centuries ago men used to rape any woman they could. That's all there's to to it.

    Evolution takes tenthousends of years to change anything everything men value attractive in women changed a lot within the last centuries (except big boobs ;)).

    Only three psychological things are important in Pick Up:

    1. Behaviorism for the first few minutes before you get to know more about her: disinterest, push/pull, rewards, punishment a.s.o.

    2. Cognitive "manipulation" aka Framing

    3. Psychoanalysis/-dynamics for the really really crazy girls with Oedipus/Electra complex (My favorite tease for these girls: Once i'm your new stepfather i'll smack your ass every day and i'll find your dad a new young wild girlfriend so he won't have time for you...)

  10. Interesting breakdown. I definitely noticed the Indian/Asian obsession with blondes and I agree with your theory. It's kind of the "we want what we can't have" thing. Personally, if a girl's hot, she's hot -- whatever hair color that may be. Also, I'm a sucker for great legs :)

  11. "My friend Ron and I always joke that to be an 8 to a community guy all you need to be is blonde and thin."

    Haha. I've heard some guys label thin women as "A-7s" - any American girl who's not fat is an 'automatic 7.' And yes, for those guys add blonde hair = +1 points, which totals out at 8. It seems those community guys' maths are in agreement.

  12. dustydog10:10 AM

    Healthy = automatic 7.
    Healthy is a function of being thin, young, healthy skin, healthy hair, not being too tired or in too bad a mood.

    Personality is worth 2 points, which overlaps since it includes energy and good mood.

  13. dickbutt8:26 AM

    i'm an indian guy. i definitely don't lust after blondes, though though there's no point in denying that blonde hair on a girl is kinda cool. so i just want to say two things:

    1. while with certain ultra dweeby asians/indians, we could attribute their lusting after blondes to complex psychological motivations, i don't think the same could be said with guys generally. perhaps it comes down to blonde hair just being inherently more attractive, like a thin body, nice skin, a symmetrical face, big boobs, etc.? after all there is an explanation couched in evolutionary biology for this preference (see 2nd poster).

    2. in my perception i find that blonde hair has a strong "boosting" or "helping" effect. so, for girls who are of only average to cute quality (4-7/10, if you will), or older women who have naturally lost a lot of their beauty, having blonde hair will otherwise considerably increase their attractiveness. however at the level of turbohotties (8-10/10), this boosting effect isn't there, there's no real difference when it comes to hair colour, and in fact i think brown hair looks better.

  14. Anonymous12:02 AM

    I am an Asian guy and surprised how American born Asian are crazy about blonde.I grew up over seas.I do not feel white women sexually attractive until I see enough TV and magazines.

    I moved to here after grown up.I do not have high school blondes idols.But the guys who spent here from high school right exactly you pointed out here.

    Before coming to here,I was not obsessed with big nose which many of Asian have.I agree with Nick.