Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Re-Visiting Pick-up Dogma Part 1: Being non-reactive


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4 comments:

  1. Ablaze11:14 AM

    I agree… Being non-reactive is one of the most prevalent dogmas infecting the SUISC.

    I’ve found that most guys, myself included, that get into this stuff follow this path..

    1) They realize they’re being reactive on an unconscious level in social situations.

    2) They become non-reactive because they were told that’s how they’re supposed to be and they get some positive results, more from the fact that they’re doing something differently rather than the being non-reactive itself.

    3) They learn to be proactive socially. They learn to be the one pushing forward socially and leading.

    4) What I believe is the final level which is pretty much what you’re describing, I call being proactively reactive. Another dogma in the community is that of being observed. That there are observers and the observed and we want to be the observed, according to Mystery… Dare I attempt to one up Mystery and say that I believe there’s another level beyond being observed? That level is to be both the observer and the observed, simultaneously.

    Starting out, this is difficult and it’s much better for guys to focus on the processes and techniques until they are fully internalized, but ultimately we should be pushing ourselves to that difficult to describe threshold of observing while being observed. It’s action combined with awareness. It’s a difficult state of being to hold oneself in, but like everything else it can be practiced and some cool shit can start to happen as a result.

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  2. Anonymous5:42 PM

    Totally agree. "Non-reactive" is not the right word, but you hear it thrown around all the time. "Unfazed" is probably a better word.

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  3. Anonymous1:12 AM

    I feel some of these pua phrases are outdated and should be replaced by less missleading ones.

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  4. THE REAL KING DAVID2:04 PM

    If you want to really be non-reactive. Here is what you do. step 1) approach hot girl. step 2) hold you breath for a really long time. step 3) drop dead.

    I think that about sums up my pick up method and my over all philosophy of life. You can buy my book on Amazon its called "the game" and it is really effective.

    neil shitface aka mutant bold guy with no style, signing out.

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