Monday, August 22, 2011

You don't have anything yet- On Escalation

One of the most common problems students have when they are first starting out is a tendency to get stuck in nice comfortable conversations that are not actually moving forward.

I think the reason for this is because for most guys starting out it feels really good to be able to start a conversation with a stranger or group of strangers and have them accept you and want to talk to you. Some might call this social validation. Furthermore guys think that if they were to attempt to move the conversation forward it might not work and then they will have lost the conversation and their chance.

This is bullshit thinking.

You can't fuck a conversation, or a phone number.

In order to actually get to a sexualized interaction, you are going to need to be willing to move things forward.

When you do this not only will you start to separate the women who are only interested in talking and being entertained from the women who are actually interested in you, but you will also begin to stop looking for validation in your interactions with women. When you stop caring about whether or not things are going nicely and start looking at what you need to be doing in order to move things forward with the woman you're interested in, you actually have a chance to get laid.

Hope that helps,

JS-The King Of Content


  1. POLARIS10:06 AM

    First there was APPROACH ANXIETY. After that came SOCIAL ANXIETY. Then there came ESCALATION ANXIETY. And lastly SEXUAL ANXIETY!

  2. Anonymous10:15 AM

    WAR ON THE GAAAAAAAAME... When will it be baaaack? :P :P :P

  3. Anonymous1:34 PM

    what do you think of Kezia Noble?

    She is really good one.I think she is one of the best instructor.Not like other female,she gives concrete advice.

    You should do this,while your opportunity windows is open.If you missed it,you will fall into friends zone.It is hard to recover from friends to potential guy.

    I remember that first 5 times meet,make out and tang kiss,naked hug but if you miss the opportunity now I only have hug or cheek kisses.When you hear girl wants to travel with you,your home town,you should do it.whatever it takes.You should have condom with you other wise you may miss opportunity like me.

    Remember oral sex is not real sex.Don't drink too much and you should have condom with you for your opportunity.

  4. WAR ON THE GAME! :-(

  5. Anonymous5:38 PM

    War on the Game! Neil's got a whole new thing called "The Society"...there must be dirt there!

  6. Anonymous6:29 PM

    The Seduction roadmap was a big help for me on this issue.

  7. Anonymous6:42 PM

    FUCK Neil Strausss, what happen to that, u were the king of bashing strauss


    Yes, i completely agree on this and this is ESPECIALLY true when your starting out. i am also at fault for this.

    i believe the reason is that at the begining your just focused on creating social comfort and keeping the conversation going. therefore you forget/get distracted/dont care, about moving the interaction forward.

    PS. your products have helped me immensly and i thank you

  9. Anonymous2:16 PM

    Whats the matter? Did Neil Strauss kick your ass in your war?

  10. I still don't get it when it comes to sexually escalating because in my head i'm like I just want to get it on. How do I do it so that I don't seem like a douche or should I try my luck and if she doesn't bit then I move on. Until someone does bit?