A lot of people live in a world of ifs.
If only they got that one special girl, then everything would be perfect in their lives.
If only they were rich, or famous, or tall, or whatever.
Often times people apply ifs in relationships. If only my baby's mom wasn't a porn performer, if this girl I like didn't have a boyfriend, if my new girlfriend wasn't a party girl that goes out 6 nights a week.
Ifs don't usually work out.
When students come to me with questions about ifs, I always reply the exact same way.
"That'd be nice, huh?
Ironically, this is the same thing I say to girls when they ask me to change or commit :)
It would be nice if things were different, and everything worked out the way you wanted it to all the time.
But unfortunately that only exists in Super-Happy-Funland.
In reality, part of being mature and taking personal responsibility for your actions is letting go of these if fantasies and looking at the World in a realistic manner.
Once you stop looking for ifs, then you can start focusing on finding solutions to the problems you're trying to wish away.
JS-The King Of Content