Thursday, November 18, 2010

If Only...

A lot of people live in a world of ifs.

If only they got that one special girl, then everything would be perfect in their lives.

If only they were rich, or famous, or tall, or whatever.

Often times people apply ifs in relationships. If only my baby's mom wasn't a porn performer, if this girl I like didn't have a boyfriend, if my new girlfriend wasn't a party girl that goes out 6 nights a week.

Ifs don't usually work out.

When students come to me with questions about ifs, I always reply the exact same way.

"That'd be nice, huh?

Ironically, this is the same thing I say to girls when they ask me to change or commit :)

It would be nice if things were different, and everything worked out the way you wanted it to all the time.

But unfortunately that only exists in Super-Happy-Funland.

Not reality.

In reality, part of being mature and taking personal responsibility for your actions is letting go of these if fantasies and looking at the World in a realistic manner.

Once you stop looking for ifs, then you can start focusing on finding solutions to the problems you're trying to wish away.


JS-The King Of Content


  1. "If I only had oranges... then I'd be able to make orange juice"
    ----> "Shut the fuck up! You've got lemons, motherfucker, now make some lemonade!"

  2. Anonymous5:51 AM

    Hey, I live in super-happy-finland.
    If only you'd type an I instead of the U :)


  3. Anonymous3:57 PM

    hey sinn,

    just wonderin wot ur views where on da recent love systems prime time tv slot...maybe a blog post on it!!!

  4. Anonymous11:05 AM

    Hey Sinn,

    Found this article because it was linked off a blog I read. I really like what you have to say here. Hits home hard. Thanks for that.

  5. If I was able to pickup almost any girl I wanted, I wonder if I would be adverse to LTRs. I greatly enjoyed my last LTR.

  6. BigMouthBrazil5:08 AM

    But, "if" you are wrong?