Yes, I admit I just wanted to somehow work the phrase Captain Save a Ho into a blog post.
Sue me :)
I'm writing this after watching the drama unfold recently with my not in real life but Television friends Simon and Tamra Barney of Real Housewives Of Orange County fame.
Apparently he threw a dog leash at her and now he's been arrested for domestic abuse.
First of all, no one should ever throw things at women. It's childish and shows just how insecure you actually are.
But...
Clearly when these two met, Tamra had a past and was a little bit of a party girl. She had a basically fully grown son she had at 20 and listed her hobbies as day drinking. I'm not saying she's a bad person, but you can't expect to turn that kind of girl into a doting, obey everything I tell you to do, housewife.
As Snoop Dogg and Dr Dre clearly rapped on the seminal Chronic 2001 album, "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife."
You may be wondering how this affects you dear reader... I'm glad you asked.
Most of you who read this blog are aware of why it's a bad idea to obsess about one particular girl, especially when she doesn't seem to be interested. In the SUISC this is commonly referred to as one-itis. Generally the horrible advice that is given to you is to go fuck ten other women (GFTOW). While this can work for some guys, it doesn't actually do anything to get rid of the emotions.
Now on the same tangent, let's say you do manage to hook up with that one special girl that you think will make your life totally complete. Except, it turns out that she also has a fully grown son from another marriage, and shows no signs whatsoever of slowing down her partying.
What do you do?
Do you look at the situation realistically and assess the pros and cons of staying with such a woman?
Or
Do you do what most guys (Including Simon Barney) do and simply shrug your shoulders and say " Well she's hot!"
If you're 99% of the population (Basically anyone who isn't me) you go with the emotions of how good it feels to finally get with that girl and you end up in relationships with people who you are not compatible with.
The moral here is that you CANNOT save people from themselves. People don't change until they are ready to do it on their own, and no matter how much you love someone or believe that if they could just fix this or stop doing that things will be perfect changes that fact. It's human nature.
So I implore you to look at all women realistically regardless of how attractive they are,how much you have built them up in your mind to be perfect, or how much work you have put in to pursuing her.
Or you can end up in divorce court.
Your choice.
JS-The King Of Content
Monday, September 27, 2010
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finally someone says it!
ReplyDeletewow i can not believe how much your words illuminate my reality.
ReplyDeletethis situation is EXACTLY what happened to me last year. sinn must be spying on me!
In the computer programming world there is something called test driven development, or unit tests. Ie everytime you make changes to your program you run every piece of the code thru a battery of tests to see that everything works the way it it supposed to. I wonder if we could apply this to dating too. Ie we could have a checklist which we would run thru with every woman to find certain things out. Some things we can just ask whilst others we would have to infer in backhanded ways. You could release this as a product, lol. "Girlfriend background check for PUAs".
ReplyDeleteTim Ferriss tests his friends, kind of similar to what I had in mind: http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2007/11/15/how-to-test-drive-friends-and-irritate-people/
Also, you should email me :)
lol,
ReplyDeletesinn got himself a stalker :D
A.H.A use c&f next time...maybe he will notice you.
Anon: when I want something I go for it like a psycho :p Must be all those creepy NLP affirmations j/k.
ReplyDeleteSinn, I know this is really random, but I know I would be kicking myself all the day if I didn't come over and tell you that you're an interesting dude. Hi, I'm A.H.A.
Deep stuff Sinn!
ReplyDeleteLove the rap quotes man...
Like the geto boys say, "You gotta let a ho be a ho"
Don't get it twisted
sinn ure sooooo right u have no idea..
ReplyDeletei had to expirience it the hard way
and ill never be captain save a ho again..