I was reading my Real Housewives book (Don't judge) and I came across a perfect quote from Simon that illustrates the allure certain kinds of damaged women, especially those with high sexual confidence can have on men.
" She was a challenge for me. I'm in the car business and I was basically a closer, and I know a lot about psychology. But even with all the ability I have as a closer, she's the only person in the world I cannot use it on. IT'S NOT THAT I DON'T WANT TO. IT'S LIKE SHE HAS KRYPTONITE."
First of all, how funny is it that he calls himself a Closer. Seriously, you know what I think of when I think of the term "closer"? Kyra Sedwick from that TV show they ALWAYS advertise during the NBA playoffs.
Secondly if you ever find yourself trying to get a girl to change who she is or feel like you need to use psychology or "game" to win some sort of power struggle in a relationship, you're a sociopath.
and lastly if you find yourself comparing a girl's resistance to you to that of Kryptonite I.E the only substance that can harm FRICKIN SUperman, you may want to re-evaluate things.
Just sayin,
JS- The King Of Content
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Strategy Based Game
Last week, I wrote about volume based game and some of the pros and cons of that style of meeting women.
Today, I want to talk about the opposite of volume based game, which is strategy based game. Unfortunately, I don't have a really cool Basketball analogy for this type of game :(
Strategy based game applies both to cold approaches, how you set up your life, and getting specific types of girls. Strategy based game is also your best shot at getting a specific girl that's already in your life(friends, co-workers). Strategy based game goes beyond simply using tactics and techniques. Strategy based games generally follow a set of rules and a basic overall strategy.
For example:
Mystery Method proposes a strategy of approaching groups, befriending everyone except the girl you are attracted.
Promoter Game is composed of the strategy of offering women a VIP experience in clubs, then letting the social proof and authority of your positioning create attraction.
Breakthrough Comfort is another strategy based game that focuses on creating love.
One of the pros of a strategy based approach are that it allows you to focus specifically on one girl or type of girl.
Another positive is that it gives you a specific set of actions and strategies to follow and usually a way to track your progress.
The cons of strategy based game is that it takes a lot of focus and energy. Generally strategy based game takes A lot longer as you are trying to go though a full process. Some people can also become dogmatically tied to a specific strategy as I was with Mystery Method for awhile.
In general it's not a good idea to become too attached to any strategy and instead become able to adapt to whatever is necessary in a situation.
JS- The King Of Content
Today, I want to talk about the opposite of volume based game, which is strategy based game. Unfortunately, I don't have a really cool Basketball analogy for this type of game :(
Strategy based game applies both to cold approaches, how you set up your life, and getting specific types of girls. Strategy based game is also your best shot at getting a specific girl that's already in your life(friends, co-workers). Strategy based game goes beyond simply using tactics and techniques. Strategy based games generally follow a set of rules and a basic overall strategy.
For example:
Mystery Method proposes a strategy of approaching groups, befriending everyone except the girl you are attracted.
Promoter Game is composed of the strategy of offering women a VIP experience in clubs, then letting the social proof and authority of your positioning create attraction.
Breakthrough Comfort is another strategy based game that focuses on creating love.
One of the pros of a strategy based approach are that it allows you to focus specifically on one girl or type of girl.
Another positive is that it gives you a specific set of actions and strategies to follow and usually a way to track your progress.
The cons of strategy based game is that it takes a lot of focus and energy. Generally strategy based game takes A lot longer as you are trying to go though a full process. Some people can also become dogmatically tied to a specific strategy as I was with Mystery Method for awhile.
In general it's not a good idea to become too attached to any strategy and instead become able to adapt to whatever is necessary in a situation.
JS- The King Of Content
Monday, September 27, 2010
Don't Be Captain Save a Ho!!!
Yes, I admit I just wanted to somehow work the phrase Captain Save a Ho into a blog post.
Sue me :)
I'm writing this after watching the drama unfold recently with my not in real life but Television friends Simon and Tamra Barney of Real Housewives Of Orange County fame.
Apparently he threw a dog leash at her and now he's been arrested for domestic abuse.
First of all, no one should ever throw things at women. It's childish and shows just how insecure you actually are.
But...
Clearly when these two met, Tamra had a past and was a little bit of a party girl. She had a basically fully grown son she had at 20 and listed her hobbies as day drinking. I'm not saying she's a bad person, but you can't expect to turn that kind of girl into a doting, obey everything I tell you to do, housewife.
As Snoop Dogg and Dr Dre clearly rapped on the seminal Chronic 2001 album, "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife."
You may be wondering how this affects you dear reader... I'm glad you asked.
Most of you who read this blog are aware of why it's a bad idea to obsess about one particular girl, especially when she doesn't seem to be interested. In the SUISC this is commonly referred to as one-itis. Generally the horrible advice that is given to you is to go fuck ten other women (GFTOW). While this can work for some guys, it doesn't actually do anything to get rid of the emotions.
Now on the same tangent, let's say you do manage to hook up with that one special girl that you think will make your life totally complete. Except, it turns out that she also has a fully grown son from another marriage, and shows no signs whatsoever of slowing down her partying.
What do you do?
Do you look at the situation realistically and assess the pros and cons of staying with such a woman?
Or
Do you do what most guys (Including Simon Barney) do and simply shrug your shoulders and say " Well she's hot!"
If you're 99% of the population (Basically anyone who isn't me) you go with the emotions of how good it feels to finally get with that girl and you end up in relationships with people who you are not compatible with.
The moral here is that you CANNOT save people from themselves. People don't change until they are ready to do it on their own, and no matter how much you love someone or believe that if they could just fix this or stop doing that things will be perfect changes that fact. It's human nature.
So I implore you to look at all women realistically regardless of how attractive they are,how much you have built them up in your mind to be perfect, or how much work you have put in to pursuing her.
Or you can end up in divorce court.
Your choice.
JS-The King Of Content
Sue me :)
I'm writing this after watching the drama unfold recently with my not in real life but Television friends Simon and Tamra Barney of Real Housewives Of Orange County fame.
Apparently he threw a dog leash at her and now he's been arrested for domestic abuse.
First of all, no one should ever throw things at women. It's childish and shows just how insecure you actually are.
But...
Clearly when these two met, Tamra had a past and was a little bit of a party girl. She had a basically fully grown son she had at 20 and listed her hobbies as day drinking. I'm not saying she's a bad person, but you can't expect to turn that kind of girl into a doting, obey everything I tell you to do, housewife.
As Snoop Dogg and Dr Dre clearly rapped on the seminal Chronic 2001 album, "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife."
You may be wondering how this affects you dear reader... I'm glad you asked.
Most of you who read this blog are aware of why it's a bad idea to obsess about one particular girl, especially when she doesn't seem to be interested. In the SUISC this is commonly referred to as one-itis. Generally the horrible advice that is given to you is to go fuck ten other women (GFTOW). While this can work for some guys, it doesn't actually do anything to get rid of the emotions.
Now on the same tangent, let's say you do manage to hook up with that one special girl that you think will make your life totally complete. Except, it turns out that she also has a fully grown son from another marriage, and shows no signs whatsoever of slowing down her partying.
What do you do?
Do you look at the situation realistically and assess the pros and cons of staying with such a woman?
Or
Do you do what most guys (Including Simon Barney) do and simply shrug your shoulders and say " Well she's hot!"
If you're 99% of the population (Basically anyone who isn't me) you go with the emotions of how good it feels to finally get with that girl and you end up in relationships with people who you are not compatible with.
The moral here is that you CANNOT save people from themselves. People don't change until they are ready to do it on their own, and no matter how much you love someone or believe that if they could just fix this or stop doing that things will be perfect changes that fact. It's human nature.
So I implore you to look at all women realistically regardless of how attractive they are,how much you have built them up in your mind to be perfect, or how much work you have put in to pursuing her.
Or you can end up in divorce court.
Your choice.
JS-The King Of Content
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Volume Based Game- The Allen Iverson Approach
I've been trying to clarify some thoughts I'm having on different ways guys meet girls.
So far I've pared everything down to the idea that there are volume based ways of meeting girls and strategy based ways to meet a specific girl/type of girl.
To illustrate what I'm talking about, I get to use a basketball analogy! Hooray!
When it comes to basketball, most uneducated fans look simply at the scoring numbers a player puts up. So if you look strictly at statistics, you would come to the conclusion that over the last 4 years Zach Randolph of the Memphis Grizzlies has been the best power forward in the league. This is because he is the ONLY player in the league to average at least 20 pts and 10 rebounds a game over that time.
What you would be missing is that Zach has been stuck on TERRIBLE teams for the last four years and as a result has ended up taking more shots, getting more rebounds and playing more minutes than he would on a successful team. He is successful only because of the situation which allows him to take a lot of shots and get a lot of rebounds, but doesn't actually lead to team success or championships.
Zach is what's known around the league as a volume scorer. Meaning that when he takes a lot of shots, he scores a lot of points. When his opportunities are reduced, so is his success...
Now how in the world does that apply to meeting women?
Most guys who get good with girls use the volume based approach. This is ESPECIALLY true with other instructors. In fact I would go so far as to say that most other instructors only get laid when they have approached upwards of 20 women in a night. I've personally watched and counted during SEVERAL bootcamps with various instructors from at least 3 different companies over the years.
They are playing a kind of numbers game.
Approach enough women and no matter what you look like or how good your game is, someone will want to sleep with you eventually.
The positives of the volume based approach are that you (should) learn that rejection is not a big deal. This is one of the golden lessons of pick up that guys want to avoid. By doing a large number of approaches you desensitize yourself to the rejection that is a part of the game.
However, a purely volume based approach has some issues.
1. Volume based approaches help you get girls, they don't help you get a specific girl or a specific type of girl. If you're a complete loser with girls (as I was 7 years ago) then you should start with a volume based approach in order to start getting experience. Once you've got that experience you want to really refine what you are looking for and start tailoring your approaches to a specific type of girl you really like.
2. Volume based game takes time. It takes all night to approach 20 different girls or groups of girls unless you're terrible and the approaches all last less than 5 minutes.
3. Volume based game takes energy and a lot of "work". If you're reading this you probably know how lazy I am. While I have approached 20 girls in one night or day, the only way you're getting me to do this now is with a gun to my head (or money). You work really hard when your game is based on how many women you approach as opposed to a more strategy based type of game.
So that brings us to the end of this article and brings up our next topic; Strategy based game.
Tomor I'll have an article for you on that topic.
We're on a 23 and a half hour break,
JS-The King Of Content
So far I've pared everything down to the idea that there are volume based ways of meeting girls and strategy based ways to meet a specific girl/type of girl.
To illustrate what I'm talking about, I get to use a basketball analogy! Hooray!
When it comes to basketball, most uneducated fans look simply at the scoring numbers a player puts up. So if you look strictly at statistics, you would come to the conclusion that over the last 4 years Zach Randolph of the Memphis Grizzlies has been the best power forward in the league. This is because he is the ONLY player in the league to average at least 20 pts and 10 rebounds a game over that time.
What you would be missing is that Zach has been stuck on TERRIBLE teams for the last four years and as a result has ended up taking more shots, getting more rebounds and playing more minutes than he would on a successful team. He is successful only because of the situation which allows him to take a lot of shots and get a lot of rebounds, but doesn't actually lead to team success or championships.
Zach is what's known around the league as a volume scorer. Meaning that when he takes a lot of shots, he scores a lot of points. When his opportunities are reduced, so is his success...
Now how in the world does that apply to meeting women?
Most guys who get good with girls use the volume based approach. This is ESPECIALLY true with other instructors. In fact I would go so far as to say that most other instructors only get laid when they have approached upwards of 20 women in a night. I've personally watched and counted during SEVERAL bootcamps with various instructors from at least 3 different companies over the years.
They are playing a kind of numbers game.
Approach enough women and no matter what you look like or how good your game is, someone will want to sleep with you eventually.
The positives of the volume based approach are that you (should) learn that rejection is not a big deal. This is one of the golden lessons of pick up that guys want to avoid. By doing a large number of approaches you desensitize yourself to the rejection that is a part of the game.
However, a purely volume based approach has some issues.
1. Volume based approaches help you get girls, they don't help you get a specific girl or a specific type of girl. If you're a complete loser with girls (as I was 7 years ago) then you should start with a volume based approach in order to start getting experience. Once you've got that experience you want to really refine what you are looking for and start tailoring your approaches to a specific type of girl you really like.
2. Volume based game takes time. It takes all night to approach 20 different girls or groups of girls unless you're terrible and the approaches all last less than 5 minutes.
3. Volume based game takes energy and a lot of "work". If you're reading this you probably know how lazy I am. While I have approached 20 girls in one night or day, the only way you're getting me to do this now is with a gun to my head (or money). You work really hard when your game is based on how many women you approach as opposed to a more strategy based type of game.
So that brings us to the end of this article and brings up our next topic; Strategy based game.
Tomor I'll have an article for you on that topic.
We're on a 23 and a half hour break,
JS-The King Of Content
Monday, September 20, 2010
# 994- The Beyond Seduction Event is Live!
Hey there,
Good Monday to ya.
I have a bunch of thoughts today, but I also have about 10 mins before I have to leave for Kickboxing, so I will have a lot of posts this week for ya including my thoughts on volume based game versus quality based game.
I may even make a video to explain it.
But in the meantime I wanted to remind ya that the Beyond Seduction Event is live now and you can STILL get a free 30 minute strategy session with me (a $250 value) as well as the Beyond Seduction Starter pack (a $147 value, not available anywhere else) if you sign up by Midnight tonight.
You also get a HUGE price break.
Sooo meander on over to Beyond Seduction and sign up.
Or you'll never get laid ever again!!!!!
Just Kidding.
Or am I?
JS- The King Of Content
Good Monday to ya.
I have a bunch of thoughts today, but I also have about 10 mins before I have to leave for Kickboxing, so I will have a lot of posts this week for ya including my thoughts on volume based game versus quality based game.
I may even make a video to explain it.
But in the meantime I wanted to remind ya that the Beyond Seduction Event is live now and you can STILL get a free 30 minute strategy session with me (a $250 value) as well as the Beyond Seduction Starter pack (a $147 value, not available anywhere else) if you sign up by Midnight tonight.
You also get a HUGE price break.
Sooo meander on over to Beyond Seduction and sign up.
Or you'll never get laid ever again!!!!!
Just Kidding.
Or am I?
JS- The King Of Content
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
What Is Game (Video)
Hey,
I just put a short video that talks about what "game"
really is.
In the video, I talk about the THREE things that
will make you ultra-succesful with women.
Check out the video here:
Video
Talk to you later,
JS
I just put a short video that talks about what "game"
really is.
In the video, I talk about the THREE things that
will make you ultra-succesful with women.
Check out the video here:
Video
Talk to you later,
JS
Wednesday, September 08, 2010
Transitioning In Day Game- Introduce Yourself
Yo,
I get a lot of questions about transitioning especially during the day time.
There is an easy way to transition in any situation to make it obvious that you want to continue the conversation and shift topics.
It's called introducing yourself.
I know, I know this goes against years of community dogma and flies directly in the face of rules guys who get laid 3 times a year have said.
But unlike 99% of the gurus in this industry, I STILL pickup new girls almost every day and I can tell you that introducing yourself (ESPECIALLY during the daytime) will move your conversation forward, because it bridges the gap between " Why is this guy talking to me?" and " Oh I'm in a conversation" in a woman's mind.
SO hopefully that answers what you should do to transition during the day.
JS
I get a lot of questions about transitioning especially during the day time.
There is an easy way to transition in any situation to make it obvious that you want to continue the conversation and shift topics.
It's called introducing yourself.
I know, I know this goes against years of community dogma and flies directly in the face of rules guys who get laid 3 times a year have said.
But unlike 99% of the gurus in this industry, I STILL pickup new girls almost every day and I can tell you that introducing yourself (ESPECIALLY during the daytime) will move your conversation forward, because it bridges the gap between " Why is this guy talking to me?" and " Oh I'm in a conversation" in a woman's mind.
SO hopefully that answers what you should do to transition during the day.
JS
Wednesday, September 01, 2010
Girl Game
Yo,
Middle of the week greetings, and salutations to you all.
I've been having some crazy success lately which has led me to having to wash my sheets every day and the following little nugget of information I want to share with you today.
Girls have lines and "routines" they run too.
I started to notice this before I left AZ, but since I've moved it's become even more noticeable. In fact I can now tell I'm going to end up hooking up with a girl as soon as they start some of they're "girl game" as I like to call it.
I met a Yoga teacher in Barnes and Noble Sunday who while we were walking around told me she had to be in love to have sex with someone(Something I'd heard before) 6 hours later she was filming herself masturbating and various other things unfit for print.
My favorite example of this is when girls try to push the whole " I date like a guy" thing. Recently this very cute little cocktail waitress named Sam tried to tell me she doesn't date and plays guys. Literally a week later she was calling me every day trying to hangout and getting super clingy. Since I've moved I've heard variations of this from an Abercrombie and Fitch manager and a makeup artist. If a girl tells you she dates like a guy or is a player, run because she's clingy.
I've done the research for you.
The point is, much as we are trying to control our image in the girl's mind to make ourselves seem fun, confident, masculine and interesting. She is trying to do the same thing, and chances are both of us are misrepresenting ourselves.
Because as Chris Rock once said when you meet somebody of the opposite sex for the first time, you're not actually meeting them, you're meeting their representative.
How do you deal with this?
With the best advice I ever received about women (from my sister ironically enough, love you Gemma!) Never take anything a woman is saying seriously. Especially if you just met her.
Best,
JS
Middle of the week greetings, and salutations to you all.
I've been having some crazy success lately which has led me to having to wash my sheets every day and the following little nugget of information I want to share with you today.
Girls have lines and "routines" they run too.
I started to notice this before I left AZ, but since I've moved it's become even more noticeable. In fact I can now tell I'm going to end up hooking up with a girl as soon as they start some of they're "girl game" as I like to call it.
I met a Yoga teacher in Barnes and Noble Sunday who while we were walking around told me she had to be in love to have sex with someone(Something I'd heard before) 6 hours later she was filming herself masturbating and various other things unfit for print.
My favorite example of this is when girls try to push the whole " I date like a guy" thing. Recently this very cute little cocktail waitress named Sam tried to tell me she doesn't date and plays guys. Literally a week later she was calling me every day trying to hangout and getting super clingy. Since I've moved I've heard variations of this from an Abercrombie and Fitch manager and a makeup artist. If a girl tells you she dates like a guy or is a player, run because she's clingy.
I've done the research for you.
The point is, much as we are trying to control our image in the girl's mind to make ourselves seem fun, confident, masculine and interesting. She is trying to do the same thing, and chances are both of us are misrepresenting ourselves.
Because as Chris Rock once said when you meet somebody of the opposite sex for the first time, you're not actually meeting them, you're meeting their representative.
How do you deal with this?
With the best advice I ever received about women (from my sister ironically enough, love you Gemma!) Never take anything a woman is saying seriously. Especially if you just met her.
Best,
JS
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