Sometimes you have to turn certain girls down. Even if they're hot.
The reason is simple; not every girl you are attracted to/is attracted to you is going to be a good fit for what you want in your life.
Some girls are crazy, mean, seriously looking to settle down, virgins, alcoholics, bipolar, really religious/not religious, in short just incompatible with what you're looking for.
Here's the part you don't want to hear; It's not a good idea to sleep with these girls. In fact it's not even a good idea to get their phone numbers. Even if it's going well.
The reason:
Drama.
I know what you're thinking, " I'm different, I can pull it off without any problems." I use to be like you. That was before I had girls dent my car, break windows, not to mention leave all sorts of crazy voice mails and text messages and stalking.
Plus, at a deeper level the more you pursue and hang out with girls who you don't like, the worse you're going to feel about yourself.
So the same way that you want to have an idea of what you want in a girl ( Our qualifiers) you also want to have a list of things that you don't want in a girl as well.
And then you have to be willing to walk away when it's obvious that the two of you don't match up.
JS- The King Of Content
Monday, May 17, 2010
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I couldn't agree more Jon. It's not all about racking up as many lays or dates as possible. This is advice that everyone should take. Thanks Jon!
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I agree and screening for a healthy fit is an important thing to keep in mind.
ReplyDeleteI also think its important to have a busy life with stuff other than picking up women, that way, you don't have time for drama and will naturally screen out the girls that will do more harm than good in your life.
I don't usually say how great an article or point is, but this one is often overlooked. I wish more PUAs out there could highlight this like you have here, the world would spin a little better..though it's up to each person to take your advice and maybe some guys will go through the drama you mention before seeing how spot on you really are...
ReplyDeleteI guess the next question is how to do good screening. Some 'gurus' make qualification like a necessary step to get women into bed and attracted to you, but it is important in simply finding someone you might be compatible with.