3 years or 2 thousand approaches; How to know when to give up

 Recently I have had some phone calls and emails from guys who have been into pick-up for a long, long, long time without actually getting results.

One guy I spoke to had been doing pick up for close to 5 years and was still having problems getting laid. Another guy had done over 2,000 approaches and only had 2-3 lays.

Which brings me to a very important point. When it comes to getting better at pick-up there is a learning curve. For me it took 6 months of doing approaches every day for me to get my first lay BUT and this is a big Kardashian sized BUT after that I started getting laid by at least 1 new girl a month.

When you get your first success there should be a breakthrough where things start to get easier. If not after your first success fairly soon after that.

Now the guy who had been doing stuff for 5 years had never had any coaching and perhaps that was the reason he wasn't getting results as oftentimes a coach can fix some of the issues, but the bigger issue is this:

If after 5 years of practice you still aren't good at something, it might be time to admit that this just isn't for you.

Hell 5 years is too long in my opinion, I've watched other guys both online and in real life grind and put in the effort only to never get better. I hate to be big king dream squasher (Ok that's not true I love it so much it makes have to change my pants) but some of you don't have what it takes to get good at this.

That doesn't mean you cant get a little bit better, it just means that at a certain point if you're not getting better and actually getting success with women, then you need to give up the dream of ever being a player and rolling in the clubs with 10s on each arm and start to look at what's realistic for you which is probably a girlfriend of roughly equal attractiveness.

So I'm now officially laying out my guide for when to quit pick-up. It's actually quite simple.

If you have

A: Been into pick up for over a year without taking any action. If you've been reading stuff for that long you're probably never going to take action so you might as well stop torturing yourself by reading about other people's exploits.

B. If you've been doing approaches for over 2 years and haven't gotten any success. We'll define any success as less than 3 lays.

C. You've done more than 2,000 cold approaches and have less than 3 lays.

So there you have it a guide to giving up so you can move on to something else that might work for you.

JS

Don't Eat Wings On A Date and other common sense dating tips

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Going Out Solo Report is Here!

 Hey,

 So finally after a long, long delay the Going Out Solo report is available absolutely free(Don't say I never gave you anything)!!!!

You can get it at: http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/soloreport.html

Download it and let me know what you think in the comments.

JS
 

Still Waiting On The Going Out Solo Report

 Hey,

 I know I said that we'd have the going out solo report today but we're still trying to figure out a way that we can deliver it to you without it costing too much $$, so stay tuned.

Also for once I actually was kinda busy today so I didn't have time to come up with a blog topic. My bad. You are all going to get refunds of the 0.00 we charge you for this blog.

Talk soon.

JS

Direct openers are like an amplifier...

 Here's a new short thought I've had recently while approaching girls directly during the day time.

 Direct Openers are like an amplifier meaning that whatever reactions you normally get from women 
are going to be magnified and made more intense.

This can be good if it goes well, girls who like you, will be more into you because you approached them directly.

However the opposite is true as well, if a girl would have given you a polite response with a non direct opener, she will probably just thank you and walk off or blow you out because the response gets amplified as well.

So if you think you're going to get a good reaction from that girl direct is he way to go, however if you think it might be rough going then you may want to start off indirectly and switch over once you've gotten some positive signs on the approach.

Word.

JS- The King Of Content

 

New Good First Text

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Efficiency VS Effectiveness

 Hey there,

Here's a thought I had yesterday while doing some day game...

When it comes to pickup, you should focus on efficiency as opposed to trying to do the 100% perfect approach.

Here's why, there are a lot of things that can go wrong in a pickup that you won't find out about until you do the approach.

For example, you can approach as the girl is just about to walk away, you can approach a girl who has a wedding ring on, you can approach a girl who barely speaks English, etc...

So because there are all of these things that can go wrong that you can't realistically predict you want to focus on being as efficient as possible so that if these things come up in the midst of the pickup you haven't wasted time, effort or energy analyzing or waiting for the right time to approach.

Instead it's better to just jump into the approach and be willing to leave it if there's some inherent problem you find after the fact.

JS

Free Report Topic Winner is...

 Hey there,

 So it looks like the overwhelming winner for the topic of the free report is:

 Going out solo.

 So I'm going to take a few days to put together a really cool report on going out solo (Something I did 3-5 times a week for years and years) then I'll have that for you sometime next week absolutely free of charge.

Thanks to everyone who voted or left comments.

Best,

JS

Pickup and The Placebo Effect

 Hey there,

The placebo effect happens when in experiments a group of people are given a sugar pill but told that it will help them with anxiety, depression, etc...

 Amazingly the vast majority of people who take the placebo improve despite the fact that the medicine didn't really do anything.

You can read more about that here: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=placebo-effect-a-cure-in-the-mind

The placebo effect also plays a huge role in pickup and dating advice.

If you believe that what you are doing is going to work, you're chances increase exponentially.

In fact in lots of cases (like students getting laid on workshop) just feeling like they "know what to do" will lead to success.

Now this is not to say that there is no value in pick up advice. Clearly some things like knowing how to tease a girl, keep the conversation going, escalate, are important. But I would venture to guess that the overall boost of confidence from first discovering this stuff is more powerful than all the techniques combined.

Therefore the question about game shifts from, what is the most effective technique, to how can I feel like I know the most effective technique in order to engage the placebo effect.

Food for thought

JS- The King Of Content

PS. Only 2 more days to vote for the report!

Message For Hot Girls: Stop Talking About How Much You get Hit On!

 I have had some weird approaches this week!

 But the one enduring theme is that a lot of girls have told me how much they get hit on in LA.

 Like a lot...

And honestly talking about how much you get hit on is really lame, because:

A. I get that you're hot, otherwise I wouldn't have approached you. Clearly I understand that other guys find you attractive as well.

B. Of all people I know how much guys hit on girls, it's cool. I actually support it.

C. Stop pretending it wasn't flattering, I have enough female friends to know that even if the guy was creepy you were flattered he pulled his car over to talk to you and it made you feel prettier.

D. By complaining about guys hitting on you, and furthermore calling nice guys creepy just because the approached you, you're continuing to support the idea that men shouldn't approach women and that's it's something to be ashamed when it's not. You're also not helping to encourage the guys you may be interested in to approach you.

E. It's just lame. It's like bragging about how much money you have or how many people you know. In the end you're only making yourself look more insecure.

That is all.

JS- The King Of Content

P.S be sure to keep voting in the report survey.