Friday, September 14, 2012

Guest Article: Taking The First Step

Taking that first step is often the most difficult part of embarking on change. Often, if we could only take that first step , write that first sentence in your novel, do that first push up, say hello to that beautiful girl ‚ then the rest of our endeavor becomes easy and flows like honey.

Sometimes we all need a little motivation to kick start whatever we are trying to accomplish. There is no shame in that. The men who are the most successful with women know that they are willing to do whatever it takes to improve themselves and improve their game.

Here are a few tried-and-true tips that deal with getting motivated to take action to get better with women.

Tip #1

1. Pump it up. A really savvy strategy that can get you pumped up to make that first phone call or hit that club with confidence is to do a little groundwork before you even leave the house. Find some music that really gets you pumped up and crank it as loud as you can. (If you live in an apartment, you might stick to headphones!)

The music might even motivate you to start dancing around the house, which will make you feel even better. This strategy is successful for a few different reasons: Listening to music that makes you happy automatically improves your mood and therefore your self-confidence level. When we are happy, our self-esteem usually tends to be at its highest. In addition, listening to our favorite music releases endorphins that give us a boost of energy and feel-good hormones preparing us to meet challenges head on.

Tip #2

2. Become friends with other like-minded men. You can do this online through pick up forums or you can do this by finding other men who live in your area. You will not only learn from encouraging them to get out there, but they will be the ones who can motivate you and stroke your ego when you are feeling insecure or unsure about your dating skills and abilities with women.

Having another guy to run scenarios by is a great strategy to motivate you to tackle the dating world. In addition, you can act as each other's wingman and get out there supporting and helping each other improve your game with women.

There is power in numbers and getting someone else's take on a situation or even an outfit to wear to the club can be invaluable when it comes to getting better with women. A good guy friend will be honest, but not a jerk about giving his opinion and advice and in return you do the same for him. Often we learn the most by helping others and critiquing their efforts will usually improve our own game.

Tip #3

3. Read everything you can get your hands on about how to be successful in approaching and attracting women.

What happens when you start reading books about self-improvement and techniques that work, you automatically, almost subconsciously start itching to get out there and try it for yourself.

And the beauty of this motivation method is that while you are motivating yourself, you are also arming yourself with knowledge that will make you successful with women. Even if you are not aware of it consciously, your words, actions, and behaviors will be influenced by what you read.

Deep down, you already know what works and what doesn't and it will naturally incorporate itself into your game. As a result, with very little effort, you will not only be motivated, but you will be taking action to get better with women naturally.

Bill Preston


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