Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Know yourself, be as happy as you can be, and approach as many hot girls as you can.

This is where my thought process has been lately, I think it's the healthiest way to attack this entire area of your life.

I'll explain briefly as I have a flood of thoughts on this subject that would make that thing Noah built the Arc for look like a swell.

Know yourself. This refers to defining your own reality and existence. What do you stand for? What do you want to do with your life? Who do you want to know? Who do you want to love?Who do you want to love you? What are your values, boundaries and standards? What do you think is fun? The more you have an idea of "who" you are, the more rooted you will be in your reality. the less you will be affected by the standards and rationalizations of the media, marketers, and the cool kids in the club. The more you appreciate yourself for your strengths and identify your weaknesses, the more people will want to be around you. Because everyone is uncertain. In fact there is a school of thought that would go so far as to say that the only certainty is uncertainty, but I digress. By being certain of what you think is right, and what behavior you expect of yourself and others, you separate yourself from 99% of other guys.

Be as Happy as you can. This is simple, the point of the community isn't to get laid, or meet girls or have options. It's to make yourself happy with your dating life. Now the interesting thing is how all these factors connect. The more you know who you are and what you think is fun, valuable, etc... The more you can pursue that which makes you happy. The more you do things that make you happy, the more attractive you are to women.

Approach as many hot girls as you can. Let's face facts fellas, we will never be able to eliminate the numbers game element of pick up. It's impossible. The more girls you approach the more girls will have sex with you, point, blank. So you should approach as much as you possibly can. That doesn't mean going out 7 nights a week, it means not letting opportunities pass you by during the day. It means not making excuses for why you can't approach or why she won't like you. It means stepping up and living the life you want to lead. You want hot women in your life? Approach them every chance you get. Because you never know... There are beautiful women EVERYWHERE. Now you just have to step up and take them.




  1. Thanks for the post! This is exactly what guys coming into this should learn first and foremost, just go out and talk to people.

    Quit running games and trying to be a pimp, or worst yet, be a "PUA," when they should learn to be social and interact with people. It's really that simple!

  2. Anonymous1:56 PM

    Yes, very solid advice. The happiness thing was huge for me. I was kind of depressed doing this whole success with women thing. Till I asked myself: Why am I doing this? What do I really want?

    I also felt very uncomfortable to push out of my comfort zone. Nowadays I strive to be the most happy I can be and I pride myself in pushing myself everyday and living on my edge.
    Gold stuff, man.

  3. JSmooth5:48 PM

    Well said! =)

  4. Anonymous10:12 AM

    Hey, I posted about a week ago about "newbie" advice and thanks. This is what I've been doing. I honestly STOPPED GAME for about 3 months and was "just myself" around women and honestly, I have found my values for woman and learned a lot about myself.

  5. Quills7:08 PM

    You're so money dude

  6. Anonymous10:55 PM

    Got a number tonight by just doing what your title said. My dream girl build too... hopefully the stars will align easily... ;)

  7. CaptinAmerica1:09 PM

    Great post man. Live and live well. Carpe omnia

  8. Anonymous4:47 PM

    god.. girls can so kiss my ass.

    approaching as many hot broads as possible?? ugh.. someone please lock me in a room.. alone! No more!!


  9. Good post Sinn. I agree. Most of the work I see that guys need to do is in developing a meaningful lifestyle (#1...this has a lot of guidelines of course, but you hit the general points up there) and then learning social skills (like pick-up techniques).

    Nice blog too btw...not too overdone like most.


  10. i definitely appreciate the friendly reminder. it's always good to hear this stuff, definitely helps put me back into my place. i was starting to beat myself up for not chasing every single hot girl down the street during the day time and caught myself getting negative. definitely needed this. thanks sinn!