Wednesday, November 16, 2011

The 1% fantasy and how it's ruining your life

How many people do you think are actually millionaires in the US? Not millionaire on paper.

How many people are famous?

How many guys sleep with more than 1 new girl a week?

Hint it's a really low percentage of people...

Like 1% of 1% of the population.

The point is that any of these goals (which 90% of people reading this have in one form or another) are going to be REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY hard to accomplish.

Is it possible?

Sure but 99% of you are not going to be willing to put in the time effort or energy needed to have a chance of success.

And 99% of the ones of you who do put in the time effort and energy are still NOT going to make it due to luck, health, bad breaks, or changes in priorities.

Now that I've suitably depressed you, let's talk about the good part of this news.

The good part is that NONE of you actually want these fantasies. What you want is the feeling that the fantasy would allow you to have.

You want to make 10 Million dollars? Why? What would change in your life if you had 10 mil right now? Besides the superficial, you'll probably find something like "I would be less stressed about security and able to focus on what I like doing."

You want to sleep with 100 girls? Why? What would that do for you? Would it make you feel cooler? Would it make you feel like a success with women. What would it do for you?

And more importantly when you ask yourself these questions, is there something you could be doing right now, that would give you the same or similar feelings?

Chances are there is, people don't do things for the surface reasons. People who want to be famous have their reasons for it usually having to do with needing to prove their value to people, people who want to sleep around a lot are looking for something as well. Even guys who want to get girlfriends are looking for some emotional fix....

So the solution is 2 fold:

1. Let go of the 1% of 1% fantasy. Just give it up, we are all the rule not the exception.

2. Figure out what you were actually trying to get emotionally from that 1% fantasy and see if there is a more realistic healthy and sustainable way to achieve it.

That is all.



  1. Anonymous6:50 PM

    You know John, the reason I really like your blog is that you cut through all the bullshit out there. Its very refreshing from someone who works in a white collar industry where its mostly BS.

  2. Anonymous4:52 AM

    Jesus christ, don't go walk about for so long next time. I've missed the absolutey creative genius you are!

  3. Anonymous12:29 PM

    Becoming rich is pretty easy John, you don't know what you're talking about.

  4. Anonymous6:00 AM

    I agree with you about becoming rich, but sleeping with a lot of different girls that you find attractive is not nearly as difficult as making a million dollars.

    Remember that just because one guy fucks a girl doesn't mean she's closed off from fucking anyone else forever - many healthy women and men date multiple people for long periods of their life. There are a lot of possibilities and opportunities out there, for more than just 1% of the population.

    I understand that it takes hard work, but its not at all an unrealistic goal - I do it, and many of my friends do it. Maybe not hundreds of women, but a lot more than your average guy or girl would think possible. A friend of mine who's a former marine is banging 5 different chicks, and I do one nights stands practically every other weekend. It took a lot of work to get to where I am, but I don't think it was that outrageous of a concept.

    Fact is, American society is just way too prudish and boring. The difficulty of the game is not human nature, or set in stone forever.

  5. Anonymous7:13 PM

    Damn hommie you going hard, maybe even to hard but i respect it though

  6. Anthony4:07 AM

    To the guy who said he is having one night stands every other weekend, Where are you meeting these chicks normally? A bar? or during the day? If it is during the day, where did you learn to do that?

  7. Anonymous6:25 PM

    To the guy who's having one night stands every other weekend... Why are you reading this blog?

  8. Anonymous12:05 AM

    well it is hard to think that when the barrage of products describe step by step instructions to get pro PUA "route"..routines, to get SNL's and even SDL's etc.,

  9. Anonymous12:14 AM

    surprisingly stupid post from you sinn...

  10. Anonymous1:34 PM

    Have to agree with the last comment. I quote you: "the man who believes he can do something and
    the man who believes he can't do something, are both right." That is quoted out of the seduction roadmap. That has been really helpful to me.
    I think about a year ago I was discussing with some classmates about what you wanted to earn in a few years. I said 10.000 per month and they started laughing. Now I almost reached my goal, so fuck them. Positive beliefs bring you very far!