I sat down with Captain Jack last night and spent 4-5 hours talking about a friend of ours who isn't good despite trying everything under the sun. We had some major breakthroughs with how we think teaching should change. And we are going to be rolling out some really awesome new ways to learn very very soon.
I have to talk things over with Savoy next Wed so look for an announcement around then.
S
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
My official take on "Schools of game"
Someone on one of my comments suggested that one of my posts was very RSD and very Jeffy, as if that was a bad thing or something I was trying to hide.
So I wanted to officially come out and talk about my opinion on different schools in the community. I'm very anti-dogma. None of the rules of seduction or suggestions any guru makes(Myself included) are the definitive take on any of this stuff. I've learned from Zan, Toecutter, In10se, RJ, PU101, RSD, Juggler, Mystery, Captain Jack, Brad P, and many many more. I try to look at EVERYTHING people are producing in the community, try it all and see what works best for me. Especially if it sounds too good to be true or like it won't work.
The problem happens, like in anything else when people get too personally invested in any one method. I know this, because I used to be one of those guys. it was probably especially bad for me, because I never got laid before the community. I held on to my beliefs about what you needed to do to get laid like a drowning man holding onto a life preserver. I remember vividly hanging out with Future in Central park almost three years ago and being distraught because he was getting good reactions from girls despite what I thought to be major flaws and DLVs in his gaming. It was around that time I started to look outside of TMM and realize that there may be more than one way to skin a cat. Since then I have made it my mission to never question whether or not something works until I try it. And I've probably tried everything out there.
At the end of the day all that matters is results. People were getting laid well before the community and they will continue to get laid after it. So yes some of my posts will be Jeffy influences, some will be Toecutter influenced, some will be Captain Jack influenced(probably more than some) and a lot of them will be my own unique thoughts. I don't live in a bubble, and I suggest no one else should either. It's called the community for a reason.
S
So I wanted to officially come out and talk about my opinion on different schools in the community. I'm very anti-dogma. None of the rules of seduction or suggestions any guru makes(Myself included) are the definitive take on any of this stuff. I've learned from Zan, Toecutter, In10se, RJ, PU101, RSD, Juggler, Mystery, Captain Jack, Brad P, and many many more. I try to look at EVERYTHING people are producing in the community, try it all and see what works best for me. Especially if it sounds too good to be true or like it won't work.
The problem happens, like in anything else when people get too personally invested in any one method. I know this, because I used to be one of those guys. it was probably especially bad for me, because I never got laid before the community. I held on to my beliefs about what you needed to do to get laid like a drowning man holding onto a life preserver. I remember vividly hanging out with Future in Central park almost three years ago and being distraught because he was getting good reactions from girls despite what I thought to be major flaws and DLVs in his gaming. It was around that time I started to look outside of TMM and realize that there may be more than one way to skin a cat. Since then I have made it my mission to never question whether or not something works until I try it. And I've probably tried everything out there.
At the end of the day all that matters is results. People were getting laid well before the community and they will continue to get laid after it. So yes some of my posts will be Jeffy influences, some will be Toecutter influenced, some will be Captain Jack influenced(probably more than some) and a lot of them will be my own unique thoughts. I don't live in a bubble, and I suggest no one else should either. It's called the community for a reason.
S
Monday, January 28, 2008
The common factor is YOU
I've been thinking a lot lately about the patterns we run over and over and how we always look to the external.
I used to be friends with a guy who has one of the worst patterns I'd ever seen. He'd jump from emotionally damaging relationship to emotionally damaging relationship. He'd spend all day telling you about how much he loved his GF then cheat on her. He'd talk about himself all the time in a manic way, reciting all the plans he had and all the things he was going to do, never stopping to ask what was up with you. Not suprisingly his life was often in utter disarray and chaos. And people (like me) stopped being friends with him abruptly.Yet when you brought these things to his attention he'd call you a prick or an asshole. Finally I decided I had to stop watching him destroy himself.
I bring this up because what he didn't realize was that the common factor in the swirling chaos he calls a life is him. There's that old cliche that goes something like if a thousand people say a stupid thing it's still stupid. The reality is if most people see the same things in you, they're probably right.
This was something that i struggled with for years. I'd sit there and pout and kick my feet and say I was right and everyone else was just being dicks. But the truth was I had a lot of growing up to do. The reason people didn't like me and only tolerated me because I had game, was because I was a caustic person. I had to learn how to mature and see the value in people who couldn't help me. That's part of becoming an attractive person, you make time and give value to everyone. I used to be a hardcore value taker. I'd only talk to pretty girls or students who were paying me. Fuck neighbors, roommates, etc... Don't even get me started on people who worked at Starbucks or Walmart. To me they were just vending machines with hands. In fact even when I started to mature last year, I still held onto some of this stuff. It wasn't until I read some Eckhart Tolle that I started to realize that this was just the ego in me. See the ego needs constant reassurance that we are better than others. It thrives on separation and looks for anything it can find to differentiate itself from others. Failing to grasp one of the fundamental truths about existance, which is that we are all more similar than we are different.
Finally I had to look in the mirror at myself and admit the things I didn't like. i didn't do this alone. I had great people(Like CJ,and TD) helping me along the way and I also had others as examples of what I didn't want to be. I realized that the reason I didn't like myself wasn't because there was some conspiracy formed against me( Like the one at my favorite bar where girls gang up on me) it was because I was creating these situations. The last year and a half has been a transformative series of events as I dealt with this. But I never could have gotten the psychological leverage on myself to do that if I hadn't taken responsibility for my life and who I was. And there was a lot of darkness. there was a lot of being disgusted by the ugly truths about myself. But I wouldn't trade that process for anything.
When I was in Hawaii with TD we noticed that both of us are constantly reframing reality to keep things positive. It was an amazing phenomena because we both know the value of positivity and have worked really hard to install it as a habit. This differs from a guy like AJax or Tim from their crew who wouldn't have to reframe things, because they just are naturally positive guys. At the time I thought I would love to never have to actually try to be positive. But looking back now, I'm glad things have happened the way they did. Because when I wake up feeling great every morning now(Whether or not I'm alone, which is a blog post in itself) I have a sense of pride. I know where I came from and how important my habits are. I had to learn this stuff which gives it more value to me. And the craziest thing about all of this, is that there is NOTHING special about me whatsoever. All I did was put in the work.
On bootcamp i always say that no matter what you learn something about yourself that weekend. You may just learn that you don't want it bad enough. And that's fine. I'm not here to tell you guys that my path is right for everyone. I'm here to share my story and hope that there's enough of you guys out there that are close to feeling hopeless and will do whatever it takes to learn this stuff. Do whatever it takes to try to self-actualize. And that I can be an inspiration to you guys.
That's why I'm calling my Love Systems Superconference talk "Out of the Darkness into the Light". I truly believe that I was in a world of darkness for 20 something years and it was only when I was able to admit that things weren't right and I needed to change, that I stepped into the warming light of self esteem. It's some deep shit you'll go through in this game. But if you're lucky, it ends up making you a better person.
None of that happens though if you aren't able to take a good long look at yourself and see where you are falling short. A lot of guys think falling short, or not being the person they want to be makes them a failure. I think that being able to admit that and work on it, is the only thing that makes you a success. Unfortunately my friend can't do that. He thinks he can, but really all he's looking at is the surface level stuff. He doesn't see that outer manifestations are just symptoms of inner problems. It's not that he needs to learn to manage his time better or quit drinking so he doesn't lose stuff, it's that he needs to take a fundamental look at his character, what he puts value on and why. The saddest part is that if he read this, he'd just send me a text or call telling me I'm an asshole, when I was actually trying to help.
The first step to me looking back on the road to massive success, is not doing approaches or reading about evolutionary psych. It's realizing that you've created this mess in your life and you're going to clean it up.
S
I used to be friends with a guy who has one of the worst patterns I'd ever seen. He'd jump from emotionally damaging relationship to emotionally damaging relationship. He'd spend all day telling you about how much he loved his GF then cheat on her. He'd talk about himself all the time in a manic way, reciting all the plans he had and all the things he was going to do, never stopping to ask what was up with you. Not suprisingly his life was often in utter disarray and chaos. And people (like me) stopped being friends with him abruptly.Yet when you brought these things to his attention he'd call you a prick or an asshole. Finally I decided I had to stop watching him destroy himself.
I bring this up because what he didn't realize was that the common factor in the swirling chaos he calls a life is him. There's that old cliche that goes something like if a thousand people say a stupid thing it's still stupid. The reality is if most people see the same things in you, they're probably right.
This was something that i struggled with for years. I'd sit there and pout and kick my feet and say I was right and everyone else was just being dicks. But the truth was I had a lot of growing up to do. The reason people didn't like me and only tolerated me because I had game, was because I was a caustic person. I had to learn how to mature and see the value in people who couldn't help me. That's part of becoming an attractive person, you make time and give value to everyone. I used to be a hardcore value taker. I'd only talk to pretty girls or students who were paying me. Fuck neighbors, roommates, etc... Don't even get me started on people who worked at Starbucks or Walmart. To me they were just vending machines with hands. In fact even when I started to mature last year, I still held onto some of this stuff. It wasn't until I read some Eckhart Tolle that I started to realize that this was just the ego in me. See the ego needs constant reassurance that we are better than others. It thrives on separation and looks for anything it can find to differentiate itself from others. Failing to grasp one of the fundamental truths about existance, which is that we are all more similar than we are different.
Finally I had to look in the mirror at myself and admit the things I didn't like. i didn't do this alone. I had great people(Like CJ,and TD) helping me along the way and I also had others as examples of what I didn't want to be. I realized that the reason I didn't like myself wasn't because there was some conspiracy formed against me( Like the one at my favorite bar where girls gang up on me) it was because I was creating these situations. The last year and a half has been a transformative series of events as I dealt with this. But I never could have gotten the psychological leverage on myself to do that if I hadn't taken responsibility for my life and who I was. And there was a lot of darkness. there was a lot of being disgusted by the ugly truths about myself. But I wouldn't trade that process for anything.
When I was in Hawaii with TD we noticed that both of us are constantly reframing reality to keep things positive. It was an amazing phenomena because we both know the value of positivity and have worked really hard to install it as a habit. This differs from a guy like AJax or Tim from their crew who wouldn't have to reframe things, because they just are naturally positive guys. At the time I thought I would love to never have to actually try to be positive. But looking back now, I'm glad things have happened the way they did. Because when I wake up feeling great every morning now(Whether or not I'm alone, which is a blog post in itself) I have a sense of pride. I know where I came from and how important my habits are. I had to learn this stuff which gives it more value to me. And the craziest thing about all of this, is that there is NOTHING special about me whatsoever. All I did was put in the work.
On bootcamp i always say that no matter what you learn something about yourself that weekend. You may just learn that you don't want it bad enough. And that's fine. I'm not here to tell you guys that my path is right for everyone. I'm here to share my story and hope that there's enough of you guys out there that are close to feeling hopeless and will do whatever it takes to learn this stuff. Do whatever it takes to try to self-actualize. And that I can be an inspiration to you guys.
That's why I'm calling my Love Systems Superconference talk "Out of the Darkness into the Light". I truly believe that I was in a world of darkness for 20 something years and it was only when I was able to admit that things weren't right and I needed to change, that I stepped into the warming light of self esteem. It's some deep shit you'll go through in this game. But if you're lucky, it ends up making you a better person.
None of that happens though if you aren't able to take a good long look at yourself and see where you are falling short. A lot of guys think falling short, or not being the person they want to be makes them a failure. I think that being able to admit that and work on it, is the only thing that makes you a success. Unfortunately my friend can't do that. He thinks he can, but really all he's looking at is the surface level stuff. He doesn't see that outer manifestations are just symptoms of inner problems. It's not that he needs to learn to manage his time better or quit drinking so he doesn't lose stuff, it's that he needs to take a fundamental look at his character, what he puts value on and why. The saddest part is that if he read this, he'd just send me a text or call telling me I'm an asshole, when I was actually trying to help.
The first step to me looking back on the road to massive success, is not doing approaches or reading about evolutionary psych. It's realizing that you've created this mess in your life and you're going to clean it up.
S
Friday, January 25, 2008
The attack mentality
I had a thought while I was in London with the Sheriff-Mr M- AFC Adam crew. It actually started when I was reading a great book called " how to be like Mike". Not suprisingly the book was about Michael Jordan. And yes I'm sure this is my 5,0089 MJ reference. I also quote the departed and V for Vendetta a lot. Deal.
But in this book there was a section where MJ was talking about exerting your will and coming back harder every time you encounter resistance. I started thinking about game(again a shocker I know) When most guys are out, they get hit with a bad reaction and they get totally wrapped up in their heads. They start to think about all the bad things that have happened, or could happen in the future, and they lose sight of the purpose of being out. To get the girl. The only way to get the girl is to keep hitting sets. keep attacking, keep making moves and going into the next set harder then you went into the last one. That's the only way to have success is developing tunnel vision and focusing on making things happen. Next.
I'll expand more on this later probably in the teleconference.
S
But in this book there was a section where MJ was talking about exerting your will and coming back harder every time you encounter resistance. I started thinking about game(again a shocker I know) When most guys are out, they get hit with a bad reaction and they get totally wrapped up in their heads. They start to think about all the bad things that have happened, or could happen in the future, and they lose sight of the purpose of being out. To get the girl. The only way to get the girl is to keep hitting sets. keep attacking, keep making moves and going into the next set harder then you went into the last one. That's the only way to have success is developing tunnel vision and focusing on making things happen. Next.
I'll expand more on this later probably in the teleconference.
S
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Rokker gets his blog on
Fellow TMM instructor( and my first student from Stockholm) Rokker has gotten a blog too.
You can check it outHere
Rokker is an awesome guy with great game. It's too bad I'll have to take all his money at the poker table in Vegas.
J
You can check it outHere
Rokker is an awesome guy with great game. It's too bad I'll have to take all his money at the poker table in Vegas.
J
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Free Teleconference
Hey guys,
I'm gonna be putting on a couple of free tele-seminars to prepare myself for the 100% new content I'm gonna be dropping on that ass at the superconference.
I'm gonna limit this to 25 people per Teleconference. There will be 3 in the weeks leading up to superconference. To get your self on the list send me a email titled teleconference at Sinn@TheMysteryMethod.com.
First come first serve.
S
I'm gonna be putting on a couple of free tele-seminars to prepare myself for the 100% new content I'm gonna be dropping on that ass at the superconference.
I'm gonna limit this to 25 people per Teleconference. There will be 3 in the weeks leading up to superconference. To get your self on the list send me a email titled teleconference at Sinn@TheMysteryMethod.com.
First come first serve.
S
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Tempo and vibing Pt 1
Tempo: The rhythm of the interaction. The speed of it. You can use different rhythms to create different results. For example if you are really teasing a girl, the faster the rhythm of the jokes and teases is faster like a machine gun ba..ba..ba..ba..ba..ba. Where as in a more controlled energy level the jokes come slower ba......ba.....................ba..................ba
You want to slow the interaction down as much as possible. Because as you slow the energy level down to the lowest possible level, you can then lead her. That's why most guys have dancing monkey syndrome, is that they don't immediately tone the energy level down. Or if they do, they don't know where they want to take her.
In fact the lower the energy level you can open at, the more ability to lead you have.
The tempo of your delivery is the most important part as you don't want to have a mismatching of your rhythm to the groups. The rhythms have to match. That's what Style was saying when he suggested joining a set at an equal or slightly higher energy level. This is good for getting into a set, but if you go higher you're now taking her away from where you want her to be. Higher energy is not helpful to the outcome we're looking for. In fact you want her to slow down so that you can start putting the right thoughts in her head via imagery, frames, and value elicitation.
Vibing is talking without expressing judgment on anything the other person says or does. Getting along. The word vibe is chosen for a specific reason though as it suggests a smooth agreeable rhythm.
I'll fill some more in later...
You want to slow the interaction down as much as possible. Because as you slow the energy level down to the lowest possible level, you can then lead her. That's why most guys have dancing monkey syndrome, is that they don't immediately tone the energy level down. Or if they do, they don't know where they want to take her.
In fact the lower the energy level you can open at, the more ability to lead you have.
The tempo of your delivery is the most important part as you don't want to have a mismatching of your rhythm to the groups. The rhythms have to match. That's what Style was saying when he suggested joining a set at an equal or slightly higher energy level. This is good for getting into a set, but if you go higher you're now taking her away from where you want her to be. Higher energy is not helpful to the outcome we're looking for. In fact you want her to slow down so that you can start putting the right thoughts in her head via imagery, frames, and value elicitation.
Vibing is talking without expressing judgment on anything the other person says or does. Getting along. The word vibe is chosen for a specific reason though as it suggests a smooth agreeable rhythm.
I'll fill some more in later...
Sunday, January 13, 2008
Future Retires...
So a lot of people have been commenting about Future retiring, it's true.
He officially retired a few weeks ago.
We're not planning on having a DVD of it anytime soon, though I will be teaching it in London this coming weekend.
It will be sad for me, because I had a lot of fun doing bootcamps with him, but I ultimately think that it's the best thing he could do for himself.
If you read his blog before he tore it down, you can probably piece together what happened, but it involved a girl finding out about all this stuff and his feelings about teaching.
He will be missed.
S
He officially retired a few weeks ago.
We're not planning on having a DVD of it anytime soon, though I will be teaching it in London this coming weekend.
It will be sad for me, because I had a lot of fun doing bootcamps with him, but I ultimately think that it's the best thing he could do for himself.
If you read his blog before he tore it down, you can probably piece together what happened, but it involved a girl finding out about all this stuff and his feelings about teaching.
He will be missed.
S
Saturday, January 12, 2008
Traveling and thinking... That's an awful blog title.
I't's been a busy few weeks...
The instructor/friend formerly known as Future, came and spent a week with me out in Dallas around New years. We were planning to go to Amsterdam to meet up with a friend and then teach the London one day programs together. Unfortunately Future has now retired and could not come on the trip. We chilled out a lot and got to do a decent amount of work while he was here as well...
I'll post some stuff about the Superconference soon. For now all you guys need to know is that I'll be coming with 100% new content that I have never discussed publicly before. I've been working on some really cool new stuff on frames and roles and I have a ton of thoughts on shortcuts to get better, faster. I'm pretty excited! I'm also going to be teaching strippers and hired guns again and that will also have 100% new content and possibly a guest teacher if I can convince Shaft DD Juice to come. I have some really cool new faster and more fruitful ways of dealing with strippers and hired guns.
I've been doing a bunch of reading and for fun (and better learning) making up book reports for all the books I've read. I'm even been using that to build some new exercises I run on program.
Right now I'm in Barcelona. I met up with a friend in Amsterdam which was a pretty fascinating social experiment in and of itself. It's fascinating how normal the red light district is. People live there, it's not at all sleazy it's just factual. It's where the whoring happens... It really tripped me out when I first got there as I expected it to be a bit more hidden. The hash bars too.. It's all just super out in the open. I guess it's just like Vegas where the locals stay away from it and the tourists bring in a lot of money for the city. I'd be really interested in seeing the stats on violent crime there as it would make sense that the decriminalization of both prostitution and soft drugs would change the mindset. But then again the soft drugs aren't really where violent crime happens anyway. These are the things I think about..
I finished A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and while it's fun to mock the guy, I think a lot of his concepts are rock solid for developing the kind of calm prescense that women are attracted to. It also really helps with focus and concentration. TD told me that he's training himself to make "being present" his default state. I like to use becoming present as way to stop bad thought loops. you guys can experiment with this in field. The next time you feel really bad approach anxiety or you're uncomfortable moving a girl, or trying to get her to come home with you, whatever... Stop and take a deep breath and focus on feeling your hands. That's it. Feel your hands and stop thinking. Take a few more deep breaths like that and you should find your head a lot clearer so you can then focus on the next step. See most guys who have taken a course or read or studied any of this material, know the steps. You know what to do next, but your thoughts fuck you up. You start micromanaging, instead of focusing clearly on the next step. You don't need signals or permission. Girls will let you know when they aren't ready, but you have to keep pushing the envelope. Most guys think way too much.. Thinking is the enemy in field. The more you can trust yourself to do the right thing by learning a solid base of techniques and tactics, the more you can focus on the process. Being process focused allows you to be in the moment and vibe better with the girls. The final rules of pick up are dictated by the specific girl you are trying to pick up. The more in tune you are in with her through being in the interaction the better you can read her specific signals and know what SHE needs to move forward. That's why this stuff is important.
I stupidly only packed going out shoes as I forgot how much walking people do in Europe. Which is extremely appealing to me even if I did have to search through tons of eurochode sneakers to find cool ones. Walking around stuff that has historical value, as opposed to the walk of fame or the franchise food chains of Dallas, is pretty special. Barcelona has some pretty amazing architecture. And thieves. We keep getting warned about the thieves. Which makes me wonder exactly how they learn pick pocketing and if I could teach myself on a coat... That might be one of my New Year's resolutions.
I haven't posted New year's resolutions because I don't think you should wait for a specific time to make personal changes. Every second you can either regress or progress. I don't believe in equilibrium in self help. You may need time to sit on the couch and unwind, that doesn't mean your regressing. But I think you need o constantly be striving to achieve the best health, wealth and relationships you can. Anyway i do want to make some plans or skills to learn for this year, because it will just help me sort out things I want to focus on this year... I'll do that later though too. But running with the Bulls is for sure on there...
That's about it for now... I'll be back soon.
S
The instructor/friend formerly known as Future, came and spent a week with me out in Dallas around New years. We were planning to go to Amsterdam to meet up with a friend and then teach the London one day programs together. Unfortunately Future has now retired and could not come on the trip. We chilled out a lot and got to do a decent amount of work while he was here as well...
I'll post some stuff about the Superconference soon. For now all you guys need to know is that I'll be coming with 100% new content that I have never discussed publicly before. I've been working on some really cool new stuff on frames and roles and I have a ton of thoughts on shortcuts to get better, faster. I'm pretty excited! I'm also going to be teaching strippers and hired guns again and that will also have 100% new content and possibly a guest teacher if I can convince Shaft DD Juice to come. I have some really cool new faster and more fruitful ways of dealing with strippers and hired guns.
I've been doing a bunch of reading and for fun (and better learning) making up book reports for all the books I've read. I'm even been using that to build some new exercises I run on program.
Right now I'm in Barcelona. I met up with a friend in Amsterdam which was a pretty fascinating social experiment in and of itself. It's fascinating how normal the red light district is. People live there, it's not at all sleazy it's just factual. It's where the whoring happens... It really tripped me out when I first got there as I expected it to be a bit more hidden. The hash bars too.. It's all just super out in the open. I guess it's just like Vegas where the locals stay away from it and the tourists bring in a lot of money for the city. I'd be really interested in seeing the stats on violent crime there as it would make sense that the decriminalization of both prostitution and soft drugs would change the mindset. But then again the soft drugs aren't really where violent crime happens anyway. These are the things I think about..
I finished A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and while it's fun to mock the guy, I think a lot of his concepts are rock solid for developing the kind of calm prescense that women are attracted to. It also really helps with focus and concentration. TD told me that he's training himself to make "being present" his default state. I like to use becoming present as way to stop bad thought loops. you guys can experiment with this in field. The next time you feel really bad approach anxiety or you're uncomfortable moving a girl, or trying to get her to come home with you, whatever... Stop and take a deep breath and focus on feeling your hands. That's it. Feel your hands and stop thinking. Take a few more deep breaths like that and you should find your head a lot clearer so you can then focus on the next step. See most guys who have taken a course or read or studied any of this material, know the steps. You know what to do next, but your thoughts fuck you up. You start micromanaging, instead of focusing clearly on the next step. You don't need signals or permission. Girls will let you know when they aren't ready, but you have to keep pushing the envelope. Most guys think way too much.. Thinking is the enemy in field. The more you can trust yourself to do the right thing by learning a solid base of techniques and tactics, the more you can focus on the process. Being process focused allows you to be in the moment and vibe better with the girls. The final rules of pick up are dictated by the specific girl you are trying to pick up. The more in tune you are in with her through being in the interaction the better you can read her specific signals and know what SHE needs to move forward. That's why this stuff is important.
I stupidly only packed going out shoes as I forgot how much walking people do in Europe. Which is extremely appealing to me even if I did have to search through tons of eurochode sneakers to find cool ones. Walking around stuff that has historical value, as opposed to the walk of fame or the franchise food chains of Dallas, is pretty special. Barcelona has some pretty amazing architecture. And thieves. We keep getting warned about the thieves. Which makes me wonder exactly how they learn pick pocketing and if I could teach myself on a coat... That might be one of my New Year's resolutions.
I haven't posted New year's resolutions because I don't think you should wait for a specific time to make personal changes. Every second you can either regress or progress. I don't believe in equilibrium in self help. You may need time to sit on the couch and unwind, that doesn't mean your regressing. But I think you need o constantly be striving to achieve the best health, wealth and relationships you can. Anyway i do want to make some plans or skills to learn for this year, because it will just help me sort out things I want to focus on this year... I'll do that later though too. But running with the Bulls is for sure on there...
That's about it for now... I'll be back soon.
S
Friday, January 04, 2008
New ways to learn
I've been having a storm of ideas lately for new ways to teach and I talked to Savoy last night about some of them. There's probably going to be a much more detailed announcement soon. But basically there's going to be a few more long term ways to learn directly from me.
I'm also going to be using different forms of media in a couple of other ways. I think this will be great for the group of guys out there that really want to learn, but can't get to a bootcamp for whatever reasons.
It will be limited, but it's for real limited because there's only one of me, and I don't want to farm anything out.
Stay tuned.
S
I'm also going to be using different forms of media in a couple of other ways. I think this will be great for the group of guys out there that really want to learn, but can't get to a bootcamp for whatever reasons.
It will be limited, but it's for real limited because there's only one of me, and I don't want to farm anything out.
Stay tuned.
S
Thursday, January 03, 2008
Setting small goals
I'm sure I've mentioned this before somewhere, but I wanted to re-touch on the idea of setting small achievable goals.
Often times on program, I will get a student who has outrageous goals. And I always try to get them to set smaller goals. The reason I suggest setting small goals, is that they give you things you can work on daily, weekly, monthly, etc... They also get your mind accustomed to working on something than feeling a sense of accomplishment. For me at least as long I feel like I'm improving, I'll keep working on something. So I always set small goals. Open a mixed set before an all girl one, get 1 phone number, call my numbers every day, practice at a particular venue. I constantly set these small goals for myself until they became larger ones. But I always felt the improvement.
I encourage all of you guys to set daily, weekly and monthly goals. Not just for your game, but for all areas of your life.
S
Often times on program, I will get a student who has outrageous goals. And I always try to get them to set smaller goals. The reason I suggest setting small goals, is that they give you things you can work on daily, weekly, monthly, etc... They also get your mind accustomed to working on something than feeling a sense of accomplishment. For me at least as long I feel like I'm improving, I'll keep working on something. So I always set small goals. Open a mixed set before an all girl one, get 1 phone number, call my numbers every day, practice at a particular venue. I constantly set these small goals for myself until they became larger ones. But I always felt the improvement.
I encourage all of you guys to set daily, weekly and monthly goals. Not just for your game, but for all areas of your life.
S
Wednesday, January 02, 2008
El Topo Loco
Hey guys,
It seems like all of the new LRs that I see are coming from guys who have done routine stacks with El Topo. We talked a lot about them when we were in Hawaii and his take on canned game is amazingly refreshing and insightful.
Here's a link to one of his reviews on the forum so you guys can check it out for yourselves.
http://www.theattractionforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=53648
You can also check out his blog @ http://www.the-red-mole.blogspot.com/
S
It seems like all of the new LRs that I see are coming from guys who have done routine stacks with El Topo. We talked a lot about them when we were in Hawaii and his take on canned game is amazingly refreshing and insightful.
Here's a link to one of his reviews on the forum so you guys can check it out for yourselves.
http://www.theattractionforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=53648
You can also check out his blog @ http://www.the-red-mole.blogspot.com/
S
Monday, December 31, 2007
Revealations from the Nepali Coast
Or how I found salvation with a lot of help from Tyler Durden and the
Nepali coast.
" Don't think of it as fun" he said. "Think of it like an East African
initiation ritual where they circumcize you with no anesthetic". The voice
on the other end of the cell phone was TD. He was at a sporting good store
picking up backpacks, tents and flashlights for our trip to Kaua'i.
I had come out to Hawaii to teach a bootcamp, and then get my mind right.
I had to know why with all the things I had accomplished, at the end of the
day I felt empty.
The bootcamp had ended and TD and I had hiked up a trail in Honolulu, it
was one of the better hikes I had ever been on. We talked about a lot of
things. Especially the future. I had been saying for a LONG time that I was
going to retire in May. Once the dust from the lawsuit settled and I wasn't
letting Savoy down. I planned to be out. I fantasized about becoming a
cabin boy on a cruise ship, or a firefighter. Anything to get away from the
responsibility of being a figurehead. Anything to escape the world of tactical
seduction.
Talking to TD I started to realize something, I was running away from
something that was a part of me. It wasn't an accident that I ended up where
I am. I worked for it I strove for it. It's something I wanted for a long time.
And like everyone who gets what they want, I wanted more. I had become a
victim of my own success. And no amount of notches on my bedpost were
going to change that. I realized that the only thing tangible and meaningful
is helping others.
It became crystal clear to me as I lay on the beach in Kaua'i. Freezing in
my tent. Sore from hiking over 11 miles that day over the most treacherous
terrain I had ever seen. The most amazing thing about the hike, was the fact
that EVERYTHING had gone our way. It was supposed to rain. It didn't, it
was supposed to get dark well before we hit the end of our journey, it didn't.
TD did the entire hike on no sleep as we had to get up @ 5:30 to catch a
flight from Honolulu. I got an hour and a half. I had joked before the walk
that god owed me, I guess we're even now.
The craziest thing about the entire walk was the way I felt as we were doing
it. TD suggested a little mind game of trying to hate someone as we were
walking across the open face part of the rock that had no vegetation on the
side. You have to see it to believe it but it was 12 inches of snaking path
overlooking a unimaginably far fall to the rocks and sea below. I couldn't
even think for a second about anything other than the moment. It was the
ultimate in state, and presence. I felt so connected and in love with life, the universe and everything in it. I realized we're all connected on some level, even if it's just the level of being humans.
We ran into a bunch of other hikers as the day ran on and they offered a
litany of different advice. The goat man and woman( Who were both in WAY
better shape than us despite being 60) told us they knew people who hiked
the entire trail in 2 hours... in the dark. The dude with an altitude meter and
speed poles told it would get easier (It didn't). The two stoners at the creek told us
we would make it for sure. We chose to believe the stoners. Through it all,
TD, myself and his GF stayed completely positive. We supported each other,
we looked out for each other. We called out where the slippery parts were
and what to hold onto. We never talked about the fact that our legs were
rubbed raw or the ever dwindling day light. And we ultimately made it the
entire 11 miles to the beach.
We passed a hippie compound as we finally hit the beach. They were a
caricature of hippiedom as they told us about the mystical healing powers of
the water. We joked the next two days that we should have asked them what
they knew about the now and gone all Eckhart Tolle on that ass.
Unfortunately it got dark before we had a chance to assemble our 30 dollar
tents and our dehydrated sponges of a brain took about an hour to figure it
out in the dark ( Actually TD figured it all out, I was pretty useless other
than driving in stakes). Then we sat on the beach under the make shift
campfire of the mini mag lite and talked about life. We talked about getting
past anger, adding value and teaching. It reminded me that even though I
didn't get in this to be a figurehead or a guru or whatever the fuck some
people seem to see me as, I am one now. And I'm not the same guy I was 3
years ago. That's why you won't be seeing anymore LRs here. I've posted
30-40 over the last year and I think it's time that I moved past the egoic
concern of convincing people I get laid, and onto the real value I can add.
Teaching. We finally got rained on and retreated to our tents. As I lay there
listening to the rain drop on the tent, exhausted, laying on the hard sand I
felt something that had been missing in my life for a long time. Pure joy.
The joy that comes from proving something to yourself and from
understanding that everything is going to be allright.
I had majorly weird dreams and woke up a couple times. Finally I woke the
others and we went to a waterfall to purify water. We pounded our Lebrada
lean shakes and got another 32 onces of water in before we hit the walk I had
been dreading since waking up.
We actually ended up scaling a mountain monkey style only to realize that
we were on top of an eff'in cliff with no way down. But we never freaked out.
We found the trail and kept on hiking. Our knees and ankles creaking, our
bodies pushed to the max, but we marched on. And on, and on. Even past
the point that I thought of quitting, past the point I thought I couldn't walk
another step. We all reached inside and found an inner core of strength we
never even knew we had. It made me realize that a ton of the limits we place
on ourselves are complete and utter bullshit. It's not a series of events that
defeats us, but our surrender to the events. You can always fight on. And
fight on we did. Even when TD's GF's knee went out on the last quarter
mile. We waited and finished together. And when we all walked down to the
car there was a feeling of elation that I don't have words to describe. I've
never been as happy as I was those two days hiking through the Incredibly
beautiful and varied terrain. It may very well have been the best two days of
my life.
And as I sit here writing this, swollen, in pain, riddled with bug bites the
size of quarters. I feel a strange new sense of calm and confidence. Like no
matter what life throws at me, I can handle it.
I went to Hawaii to get my shit together. It was there I decided to quit
drinking for 6 months, to stop smoking cigarettes and to kick the chronic
habit(after my trip to Amsterdam of course). It was there that I got to talk to
the one person in the world who understands the situation I'm in now, cause
he's been there. I've often said that Jlaix was the person I most related to in
the community, but after this trip I see that it's really TD. Talking to him
really helped me make sense of all the noise in my mind. We talked about
the pressure of stepping up and defining yourself through your teaching, we
talked about moving away from unhealthy mentors and the mental remnants
we both had to deal with. I cannot express enough gratitude to him for the
help, the conversation, the encouragement, the idea to hike and the hike
itself. I can't imagine respecting someone more than I respect him after this
trip. He's a changed man and the only guru I've ever met who actually
became an adult. I hope to have his level of inner strength and maturity
someday.
So what's next? As I sit in the Phoenix airport, I am rededicated to teaching
in a way I've never been before. I want to share the knowledge I've gathered
and enrich others lives in the way mine has been enriched. I don't want to
just teach guys to get laid anymore, I want to teach men and women to live
an empowered life on the edge. Constantly challenging yourself and your
perceptions of what you are capable of. I never thought I was the type of guy
to do this hike. My previous experience with camping, was staying at motel
6. I had never been tested or pushed to my physical limits to see how much I
could take before quitting and I've never been more in the now... That's
what I want to share now. The ability and motivation to push yourself to
your edge and keep pushing. Never surrender. Never give up, never lose
hope. That's what life is about. Over the next few months, I have some
HUGE plans. I scribbled pages and pages of notes for new ways to teach
and learn. New missions, new ephiphany provoking thoughts, and I will
share them all with all of you guys here and in person. 2008 is going to be
unreal....
I'll leave you guys with a quote from one of my favorite songs, one that I
never really understood until now;
Let no tears to fall from none of y'all
Just remember it all, the beauty as well as the flaws
L-O-V-E L-I-F-E
Here lies Sean, finally free
And as I look across the sea I smile at the sun
While it feeds the weeds the nutrition they need
The people still breathe, the city still bleeds
I'm going to love it to death and keep planting my seeds
I'm going to love it to death and keep an eye on the seeds
I'll be in love till im dead, I keep reaching the seeds
I'll give all I got left just to teach you to read
Love life to the death and keep planting my seeds
And when the soul begins to reap, I think she'll know me from the sleep
I keep caught in the corner of my bloodshot eyes
And if she has the nerve, to let me dump a couple last words
I'm gonna turn to the earth and scream (Love your life)
S
Nepali coast.
" Don't think of it as fun" he said. "Think of it like an East African
initiation ritual where they circumcize you with no anesthetic". The voice
on the other end of the cell phone was TD. He was at a sporting good store
picking up backpacks, tents and flashlights for our trip to Kaua'i.
I had come out to Hawaii to teach a bootcamp, and then get my mind right.
I had to know why with all the things I had accomplished, at the end of the
day I felt empty.
The bootcamp had ended and TD and I had hiked up a trail in Honolulu, it
was one of the better hikes I had ever been on. We talked about a lot of
things. Especially the future. I had been saying for a LONG time that I was
going to retire in May. Once the dust from the lawsuit settled and I wasn't
letting Savoy down. I planned to be out. I fantasized about becoming a
cabin boy on a cruise ship, or a firefighter. Anything to get away from the
responsibility of being a figurehead. Anything to escape the world of tactical
seduction.
Talking to TD I started to realize something, I was running away from
something that was a part of me. It wasn't an accident that I ended up where
I am. I worked for it I strove for it. It's something I wanted for a long time.
And like everyone who gets what they want, I wanted more. I had become a
victim of my own success. And no amount of notches on my bedpost were
going to change that. I realized that the only thing tangible and meaningful
is helping others.
It became crystal clear to me as I lay on the beach in Kaua'i. Freezing in
my tent. Sore from hiking over 11 miles that day over the most treacherous
terrain I had ever seen. The most amazing thing about the hike, was the fact
that EVERYTHING had gone our way. It was supposed to rain. It didn't, it
was supposed to get dark well before we hit the end of our journey, it didn't.
TD did the entire hike on no sleep as we had to get up @ 5:30 to catch a
flight from Honolulu. I got an hour and a half. I had joked before the walk
that god owed me, I guess we're even now.
The craziest thing about the entire walk was the way I felt as we were doing
it. TD suggested a little mind game of trying to hate someone as we were
walking across the open face part of the rock that had no vegetation on the
side. You have to see it to believe it but it was 12 inches of snaking path
overlooking a unimaginably far fall to the rocks and sea below. I couldn't
even think for a second about anything other than the moment. It was the
ultimate in state, and presence. I felt so connected and in love with life, the universe and everything in it. I realized we're all connected on some level, even if it's just the level of being humans.
We ran into a bunch of other hikers as the day ran on and they offered a
litany of different advice. The goat man and woman( Who were both in WAY
better shape than us despite being 60) told us they knew people who hiked
the entire trail in 2 hours... in the dark. The dude with an altitude meter and
speed poles told it would get easier (It didn't). The two stoners at the creek told us
we would make it for sure. We chose to believe the stoners. Through it all,
TD, myself and his GF stayed completely positive. We supported each other,
we looked out for each other. We called out where the slippery parts were
and what to hold onto. We never talked about the fact that our legs were
rubbed raw or the ever dwindling day light. And we ultimately made it the
entire 11 miles to the beach.
We passed a hippie compound as we finally hit the beach. They were a
caricature of hippiedom as they told us about the mystical healing powers of
the water. We joked the next two days that we should have asked them what
they knew about the now and gone all Eckhart Tolle on that ass.
Unfortunately it got dark before we had a chance to assemble our 30 dollar
tents and our dehydrated sponges of a brain took about an hour to figure it
out in the dark ( Actually TD figured it all out, I was pretty useless other
than driving in stakes). Then we sat on the beach under the make shift
campfire of the mini mag lite and talked about life. We talked about getting
past anger, adding value and teaching. It reminded me that even though I
didn't get in this to be a figurehead or a guru or whatever the fuck some
people seem to see me as, I am one now. And I'm not the same guy I was 3
years ago. That's why you won't be seeing anymore LRs here. I've posted
30-40 over the last year and I think it's time that I moved past the egoic
concern of convincing people I get laid, and onto the real value I can add.
Teaching. We finally got rained on and retreated to our tents. As I lay there
listening to the rain drop on the tent, exhausted, laying on the hard sand I
felt something that had been missing in my life for a long time. Pure joy.
The joy that comes from proving something to yourself and from
understanding that everything is going to be allright.
I had majorly weird dreams and woke up a couple times. Finally I woke the
others and we went to a waterfall to purify water. We pounded our Lebrada
lean shakes and got another 32 onces of water in before we hit the walk I had
been dreading since waking up.
We actually ended up scaling a mountain monkey style only to realize that
we were on top of an eff'in cliff with no way down. But we never freaked out.
We found the trail and kept on hiking. Our knees and ankles creaking, our
bodies pushed to the max, but we marched on. And on, and on. Even past
the point that I thought of quitting, past the point I thought I couldn't walk
another step. We all reached inside and found an inner core of strength we
never even knew we had. It made me realize that a ton of the limits we place
on ourselves are complete and utter bullshit. It's not a series of events that
defeats us, but our surrender to the events. You can always fight on. And
fight on we did. Even when TD's GF's knee went out on the last quarter
mile. We waited and finished together. And when we all walked down to the
car there was a feeling of elation that I don't have words to describe. I've
never been as happy as I was those two days hiking through the Incredibly
beautiful and varied terrain. It may very well have been the best two days of
my life.
And as I sit here writing this, swollen, in pain, riddled with bug bites the
size of quarters. I feel a strange new sense of calm and confidence. Like no
matter what life throws at me, I can handle it.
I went to Hawaii to get my shit together. It was there I decided to quit
drinking for 6 months, to stop smoking cigarettes and to kick the chronic
habit(after my trip to Amsterdam of course). It was there that I got to talk to
the one person in the world who understands the situation I'm in now, cause
he's been there. I've often said that Jlaix was the person I most related to in
the community, but after this trip I see that it's really TD. Talking to him
really helped me make sense of all the noise in my mind. We talked about
the pressure of stepping up and defining yourself through your teaching, we
talked about moving away from unhealthy mentors and the mental remnants
we both had to deal with. I cannot express enough gratitude to him for the
help, the conversation, the encouragement, the idea to hike and the hike
itself. I can't imagine respecting someone more than I respect him after this
trip. He's a changed man and the only guru I've ever met who actually
became an adult. I hope to have his level of inner strength and maturity
someday.
So what's next? As I sit in the Phoenix airport, I am rededicated to teaching
in a way I've never been before. I want to share the knowledge I've gathered
and enrich others lives in the way mine has been enriched. I don't want to
just teach guys to get laid anymore, I want to teach men and women to live
an empowered life on the edge. Constantly challenging yourself and your
perceptions of what you are capable of. I never thought I was the type of guy
to do this hike. My previous experience with camping, was staying at motel
6. I had never been tested or pushed to my physical limits to see how much I
could take before quitting and I've never been more in the now... That's
what I want to share now. The ability and motivation to push yourself to
your edge and keep pushing. Never surrender. Never give up, never lose
hope. That's what life is about. Over the next few months, I have some
HUGE plans. I scribbled pages and pages of notes for new ways to teach
and learn. New missions, new ephiphany provoking thoughts, and I will
share them all with all of you guys here and in person. 2008 is going to be
unreal....
I'll leave you guys with a quote from one of my favorite songs, one that I
never really understood until now;
Let no tears to fall from none of y'all
Just remember it all, the beauty as well as the flaws
L-O-V-E L-I-F-E
Here lies Sean, finally free
And as I look across the sea I smile at the sun
While it feeds the weeds the nutrition they need
The people still breathe, the city still bleeds
I'm going to love it to death and keep planting my seeds
I'm going to love it to death and keep an eye on the seeds
I'll be in love till im dead, I keep reaching the seeds
I'll give all I got left just to teach you to read
Love life to the death and keep planting my seeds
And when the soul begins to reap, I think she'll know me from the sleep
I keep caught in the corner of my bloodshot eyes
And if she has the nerve, to let me dump a couple last words
I'm gonna turn to the earth and scream (Love your life)
S
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
Changes and Thanks
Wow, so much has happened since I've been out in Hawaii.
I'm gonna write a huge post when I leave in a few days, but I want to first thank everybody who reads my blog and has taken programs with me. For a really long time I didn't appreciate how much I like helping you guys out. It's only been since I've been here talking to TD that I started to understand that the only thing in the world that is actually worthwhile, is adding value and helping others.
I feel like I've had a bunch of huge revelations since I've been here. In fact I feel rededicated. For the last few months I had been telling people I was going to retire in May. Now I see longevity in this, and I have a whole new paradigm for teaching.
Stay tuned
S
I'm gonna write a huge post when I leave in a few days, but I want to first thank everybody who reads my blog and has taken programs with me. For a really long time I didn't appreciate how much I like helping you guys out. It's only been since I've been here talking to TD that I started to understand that the only thing in the world that is actually worthwhile, is adding value and helping others.
I feel like I've had a bunch of huge revelations since I've been here. In fact I feel rededicated. For the last few months I had been telling people I was going to retire in May. Now I see longevity in this, and I have a whole new paradigm for teaching.
Stay tuned
S
Wednesday, December 05, 2007
Who do you want to be?
We are all works in progress, so I think it's very important to periodically define what characteristics you want to be defined by.
So I made a list of characteristics I want to eventually embody. I also made a list of things to work on daily and long term in devloping or maintaining these characteristics.
1. Smart
2. Adventurous
3. Creative
4. Funny
5. Loyal
6. Honest
7. Hard-working
8. Open Minded
9. Happy
10. Disciplined
11. Healthy
12. Emotionally open
13. Diplomatic
14. Energetic
15. Passionate
16. Brave
17. Optimistic
18. Challenging
19. Lover of women
20. Charming
21.Outgoing
22.Good Friend
23. Educated
24. Trustworthy
25. In control of myself and situations
26. Rich
27. Artistic
28. Fun
29. Sexually adventurous
30. Humble
31. Classy
32. At peace
33. Clam and Relaxed
34. a non procrastinator
35. Clean and organized
36. Opinionated
37. Controlled drinker
38. Sophisticated
39. Immune to social pressure
I started off planning on writing a 10 point list, but almost ended up with 40. I highly recommend that everyone does this. It will give you something to work on and towards. That way you have a picture of the man you ultimately want to be to work on, or to hold yourself accountable when you fall down.
S
So I made a list of characteristics I want to eventually embody. I also made a list of things to work on daily and long term in devloping or maintaining these characteristics.
1. Smart
2. Adventurous
3. Creative
4. Funny
5. Loyal
6. Honest
7. Hard-working
8. Open Minded
9. Happy
10. Disciplined
11. Healthy
12. Emotionally open
13. Diplomatic
14. Energetic
15. Passionate
16. Brave
17. Optimistic
18. Challenging
19. Lover of women
20. Charming
21.Outgoing
22.Good Friend
23. Educated
24. Trustworthy
25. In control of myself and situations
26. Rich
27. Artistic
28. Fun
29. Sexually adventurous
30. Humble
31. Classy
32. At peace
33. Clam and Relaxed
34. a non procrastinator
35. Clean and organized
36. Opinionated
37. Controlled drinker
38. Sophisticated
39. Immune to social pressure
I started off planning on writing a 10 point list, but almost ended up with 40. I highly recommend that everyone does this. It will give you something to work on and towards. That way you have a picture of the man you ultimately want to be to work on, or to hold yourself accountable when you fall down.
S
Tuesday, December 04, 2007
Be proactive!
I've been scanning the boards lately and almost every post is begging for help without actually going out and trying anything!
If you are ever going to get good at this stuff, you are going to have to rely mostly on yourself. Everything is a choice and you are constantly going backwards or forward. You can choose to stay home because you don't have anybody to go out with, or you can go out alone. You can try to get a phone number from every set even when they don't seem to be going well, or you can eject and feel good about approaching. You can call the numbers you get or you can avoid doing so.In the end you need to push yourself.
Bootcamps are an amazing kick start because you see what the final puzzle looks like from watching instructors, you get a great handle on whta you need to be working on, and you get out there and start approaching. But the bootcamp is useless unless you continue to follow up hard. At the end of the day you can get laid both nights of bootcamp, but if you stop going out, you will stop learning.
You have to discipline yourself. I make to do lists before I go out. On them I put the things I want to do and avoid doing. Then when I hit the bars, I just go down my list.
Open set before I order a drink- Check
Don't eject until you've tried to qualify- Check
Approach the hottest sets in the venue-Check
Approach at least 1 mixed set- Check
Try to move every set- Check
Push sexual frames- Check
Number close 25 mins in-Check
No more than 4 drinks- Check
Seed bounces- Check
That's all I'm thinking about, I don't focus on routines or what to say or whatever. Instead I just go down my list. I proactively police myself to make the right choices. The thing with discipline is, it's one thing to know what you want to do. It's quite another to actually do it. I know personally I've planned to go out and do approaches only to sit around drinking. You have to know what your intent is for going out. If you're going out to drink, drink. If you're going out to game, game. But make sure you know what you're doing and you act congruently to the goals you have.
S
If you are ever going to get good at this stuff, you are going to have to rely mostly on yourself. Everything is a choice and you are constantly going backwards or forward. You can choose to stay home because you don't have anybody to go out with, or you can go out alone. You can try to get a phone number from every set even when they don't seem to be going well, or you can eject and feel good about approaching. You can call the numbers you get or you can avoid doing so.In the end you need to push yourself.
Bootcamps are an amazing kick start because you see what the final puzzle looks like from watching instructors, you get a great handle on whta you need to be working on, and you get out there and start approaching. But the bootcamp is useless unless you continue to follow up hard. At the end of the day you can get laid both nights of bootcamp, but if you stop going out, you will stop learning.
You have to discipline yourself. I make to do lists before I go out. On them I put the things I want to do and avoid doing. Then when I hit the bars, I just go down my list.
Open set before I order a drink- Check
Don't eject until you've tried to qualify- Check
Approach the hottest sets in the venue-Check
Approach at least 1 mixed set- Check
Try to move every set- Check
Push sexual frames- Check
Number close 25 mins in-Check
No more than 4 drinks- Check
Seed bounces- Check
That's all I'm thinking about, I don't focus on routines or what to say or whatever. Instead I just go down my list. I proactively police myself to make the right choices. The thing with discipline is, it's one thing to know what you want to do. It's quite another to actually do it. I know personally I've planned to go out and do approaches only to sit around drinking. You have to know what your intent is for going out. If you're going out to drink, drink. If you're going out to game, game. But make sure you know what you're doing and you act congruently to the goals you have.
S
Thursday, November 29, 2007
The Jeffy Show Review!
First off, I have to admit that I am not unbiased when it comes to Jeffy.. I've loved his writing for years. I also think it's a toss up between him and Fidelio as to who is the funniest person I have ever met. He also is probably the person I most identify with personality wise in the community. That said I am not being pair for this review, nor am I an affiliate of their product, and I haven't talked to Jeffy or TD about this review.
So I was super excited when I heard that he was going to be releasing his own product. There is hardly anything I can think of more entertaining than listening to Jeffy.
I can honsetly say I came into this with high expectations and I was not disappointed.
The program starts off with Jeffy defining and researching the word chode with a poster board of various chode images. This was hysterical, and sums up Jeffy in a nutshell, words, humor and absurdity = Jlaix.
The first disc had the moment that made me fall off the couch laughing. jeffy is describing this 300lb woman he used to fuck and the scenario in which it unfolded. One of the funniest stories I've ever heard, right up there with Fidelio's family story.
He then goes into the idea of getting yoru mind right. Inner game. All good stuff on here. Not anything you've never heard before if you've been in the community awhile, but great refresher and the stuff on codes of conduct was really great. The most interesting part to me was the idea of every set having a unique rhythm. I'd never thought about it like that, but when I heard it, it clicked with my new ideas about pacing and leading the interaction. You have to first know what their rhythm is before you can attempt to change it. That's a key point for developing social, think about where THEY are at and how you can join them before leading them where you want them to go.
Disc 2 We're going in
This disc had a bunch of technical stuff on it about fashion etc... It also has some funny stories about Superstar and a good look at the reasons to drink or not. He also goes over opening styles. And what kind of Jeffy product woule it be without a talk about kareoke and the benefits that has to your game. I agree with that btw as you are forced to project your voice and make yourself uncomfortable.
Disc 3 Take your Passion and make it happen
This disc starts off with Jeffy talking about canned material. Everyone knows my thoughts on this, so no need to reiterate those here. Jeffy makes some great points about not using canned material as a substitute for having a real personality. I also agree and have been pushing the bandwagon for the Jeet Kune do approach of taking and mixing styles. I just call it not being dogmatic. Jeffy gives some great example stories. Then we get to hear some great stories about his time in Spain. Loved banging the chode.
Disc 4 Bringing it home
This disc was focused on closing the deal. The best part of this disc was hearing Jeffy do the famous Weepy air supply callback technique. I'd heard about it on the internet, but hearing it is awesome. He covers some LMR stuff, getting girls home and then talks about threesomes and tandem pickup. I thought the threesome stuff dragged on a bit. I thought the best part of this disc after the air supply message, was the stuff on intent and discipline. These two things are like the vegetables on the plate with a fancy steak. They are often overlooked but necessary for the health of your game.
Disc 5 When all is said and done
This disc is a wrap up and serves to let Jeffy enlighten us as to what he has learned in his journey. I really like the focus he placed on ancillary skills and actually getting a life. That's someting a lot of guys ignore and it's like the rocket fuel of game that makes women want to stay in your life. Finally Jeffy talks about some things that happened with his family. I felt that this was the bravest thing he did in this entire program. Really powerful.
Overall I thought that this program was by far the most entertaining seduction program I have ever watched. I never had the dreaded zone out moment where I forgot to pay attention. I also think Jeffy should be commended for having the balls to put his life out there for examination warts and all.
A +
S
So I was super excited when I heard that he was going to be releasing his own product. There is hardly anything I can think of more entertaining than listening to Jeffy.
I can honsetly say I came into this with high expectations and I was not disappointed.
The program starts off with Jeffy defining and researching the word chode with a poster board of various chode images. This was hysterical, and sums up Jeffy in a nutshell, words, humor and absurdity = Jlaix.
The first disc had the moment that made me fall off the couch laughing. jeffy is describing this 300lb woman he used to fuck and the scenario in which it unfolded. One of the funniest stories I've ever heard, right up there with Fidelio's family story.
He then goes into the idea of getting yoru mind right. Inner game. All good stuff on here. Not anything you've never heard before if you've been in the community awhile, but great refresher and the stuff on codes of conduct was really great. The most interesting part to me was the idea of every set having a unique rhythm. I'd never thought about it like that, but when I heard it, it clicked with my new ideas about pacing and leading the interaction. You have to first know what their rhythm is before you can attempt to change it. That's a key point for developing social, think about where THEY are at and how you can join them before leading them where you want them to go.
Disc 2 We're going in
This disc had a bunch of technical stuff on it about fashion etc... It also has some funny stories about Superstar and a good look at the reasons to drink or not. He also goes over opening styles. And what kind of Jeffy product woule it be without a talk about kareoke and the benefits that has to your game. I agree with that btw as you are forced to project your voice and make yourself uncomfortable.
Disc 3 Take your Passion and make it happen
This disc starts off with Jeffy talking about canned material. Everyone knows my thoughts on this, so no need to reiterate those here. Jeffy makes some great points about not using canned material as a substitute for having a real personality. I also agree and have been pushing the bandwagon for the Jeet Kune do approach of taking and mixing styles. I just call it not being dogmatic. Jeffy gives some great example stories. Then we get to hear some great stories about his time in Spain. Loved banging the chode.
Disc 4 Bringing it home
This disc was focused on closing the deal. The best part of this disc was hearing Jeffy do the famous Weepy air supply callback technique. I'd heard about it on the internet, but hearing it is awesome. He covers some LMR stuff, getting girls home and then talks about threesomes and tandem pickup. I thought the threesome stuff dragged on a bit. I thought the best part of this disc after the air supply message, was the stuff on intent and discipline. These two things are like the vegetables on the plate with a fancy steak. They are often overlooked but necessary for the health of your game.
Disc 5 When all is said and done
This disc is a wrap up and serves to let Jeffy enlighten us as to what he has learned in his journey. I really like the focus he placed on ancillary skills and actually getting a life. That's someting a lot of guys ignore and it's like the rocket fuel of game that makes women want to stay in your life. Finally Jeffy talks about some things that happened with his family. I felt that this was the bravest thing he did in this entire program. Really powerful.
Overall I thought that this program was by far the most entertaining seduction program I have ever watched. I never had the dreaded zone out moment where I forgot to pay attention. I also think Jeffy should be commended for having the balls to put his life out there for examination warts and all.
A +
S
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
My favorite comment of all time..
Some anonymous guy on my last post told me not to overestimate my writing ability...
That's hysterical!
I always think it's funny to see how people who have never met me think my brain works.
I literally laughed out loud( I refuse to use net speak)
Well here I go overestimating my writing ability again...
Just some random thoughts. I have a girl in my bed who was in Maxim's Hometown Hotties, a year ago and she is still asleep. Now everyone knows I don't get up early, but this is ridiculous. Part of me wants to wake her, but the other part of me is keeping a line going on how long she's gonna sleep for. An impressive performance to say the least.
She is also the latest in a string of girls who keep wanting me to commit... I NEVER used to get this!!!! I think i'm doing something now that is stimulating this relationship vibe. I'm not sure if I wrote an LR for this girl, but it was right around Halloween and I was out with Vodka and Twitchy. It was an SNL and then she was getting clingly but I went away for bcs for awhile and I though that would fix it, but apparently not.
I got my turntables and the TV for my treadmill room today. I'm soo excited to start working out while playing video games or watching football.
What Else???? Future and I will be back together for a really exciting program in Boston. Fader and some other guys will be there. I love Boston it's probably my favorite east coast city. There's just something about it. The people, history and architecture are amazing. Nothing like Boston accents either...
I still have 8 more days of not having to travel or work. I was considering going to see a really hot girl I met in Phoenix, but I decided I'm officially done keeping girls in other cities. It's just too much work. I'll keep my 3-5 girls here and then I'll do SNLs in other cities.
I guess that's all for today.
Your overestimating his writing skills friend.
S
That's hysterical!
I always think it's funny to see how people who have never met me think my brain works.
I literally laughed out loud( I refuse to use net speak)
Well here I go overestimating my writing ability again...
Just some random thoughts. I have a girl in my bed who was in Maxim's Hometown Hotties, a year ago and she is still asleep. Now everyone knows I don't get up early, but this is ridiculous. Part of me wants to wake her, but the other part of me is keeping a line going on how long she's gonna sleep for. An impressive performance to say the least.
She is also the latest in a string of girls who keep wanting me to commit... I NEVER used to get this!!!! I think i'm doing something now that is stimulating this relationship vibe. I'm not sure if I wrote an LR for this girl, but it was right around Halloween and I was out with Vodka and Twitchy. It was an SNL and then she was getting clingly but I went away for bcs for awhile and I though that would fix it, but apparently not.
I got my turntables and the TV for my treadmill room today. I'm soo excited to start working out while playing video games or watching football.
What Else???? Future and I will be back together for a really exciting program in Boston. Fader and some other guys will be there. I love Boston it's probably my favorite east coast city. There's just something about it. The people, history and architecture are amazing. Nothing like Boston accents either...
I still have 8 more days of not having to travel or work. I was considering going to see a really hot girl I met in Phoenix, but I decided I'm officially done keeping girls in other cities. It's just too much work. I'll keep my 3-5 girls here and then I'll do SNLs in other cities.
I guess that's all for today.
Your overestimating his writing skills friend.
S
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
My love letter to the game...
Last year I wrote a post about my observations since my bootcamp.
You can read it in the archive from last Oct.
This year I thought I'd write an open letter to the game(not the book).
Here goes,
I know it's been a long time since we talked, I've been busy with old flames,work and my other loves.Then I realized that it's been too long.
I remember when I found you, it was years and years ago when a lonely boy was asking jeeves on the internet. I remember the giddy feeling in my stomach as I read about supplication, and negs, and cocky and funny. I read for hours,and hours. Until my eyes hurt from the computer screen. I printed out pages and pages off the internet. Mailbags, rules, techniques, routines, spastic ramblings... I read every book I could get my hands on.
Do you remember when I first went out to play you? I got up, got dressed, went to the mall and walked next to about 50 girls, before I opened my mouth to speak to one. I still remember how nervous I was before hand and how suprised I was when the girls talked to me. I talked to 7 girls that day. And the next day, and the next for a year and a half.
You became my salvation, my reason for being. But you tested my faith for 6 months. I never gave up adn you rewarded me.
Then things started going really fast, I loved you so much, but didn't understand you yet. I learned more and more about you. I met guys who called themselves Mystery, or Style. I hung out with guys who I met on the internet where the only commonality we had was that we both liked you. How was I to know that my love was deeper? That more committed. More insane than others??? I couldn't. But it was that love that led me to the living room of Project Hollywood all those years ago... It was the love that led me to intern for the company, then instruct. I had no greater desire to help others back then... I just wanted to learn as much as I could about you. I wanted to show you that I understood you best, that you were going to be happiest with me.
When I started teaching I was ecstatic because finaly I could share you with others. I could show them the amazing things that you had taught me about people, myself, women, and the world. And slowly the love for you started to dim. I started to care more about helping others get their first kiss from you. I wanted to share you with everyone, like the prize girlfriend I saw you as. I became arrogant that I "had" you and didn't need to keep the relationship fresh.
I still yearned to know more about you though. I refused to hit a glass ceiling, I refused to listen to others when they told me that we knew everything there was to know about you. Instead I started to look for the sides of you that we didn't see. Even though I had taken you for granted, I still cared. I always cared.
Then I looked around and those I had been trying to help for years had turned on me. They sent me demands for routines,for word by word descriptions of what I said in my LRs,They wrote nasty attacks about me on the internet.They even demanded I update my blog more. And I had to learn that no matter what you do for people, there will always be those who want more. Or those who are jealous. Or hateful.And it was hard. people I had known and trusted for years betrayed me. But you never turned on me.
I came back to you at the begginning of this year. I even moved somewhere else to learn from and with CJ, El Topo, Shaft etc.. I rededicated myself to you after THEY tried to take away my love for you with their petty gripes and comments. I realized that you were pure and predictable. I remembered the joy, I remembered the excitement I used to have when I couldn't wait to open sets no matter where they were. I remembered how powerful I felt when I realized every girl in a club was attracted to me and I could take my pick. I remembered the sense of accomplishment that came from taking the hard sets. I remembered the challenge of all of it. And I realized I loved you more than I ever had before, and that no matter what the future may bring I will always love you.
You're the best thing that ever happened to me.
Sinn-cerely
You can read it in the archive from last Oct.
This year I thought I'd write an open letter to the game(not the book).
Here goes,
I know it's been a long time since we talked, I've been busy with old flames,work and my other loves.Then I realized that it's been too long.
I remember when I found you, it was years and years ago when a lonely boy was asking jeeves on the internet. I remember the giddy feeling in my stomach as I read about supplication, and negs, and cocky and funny. I read for hours,and hours. Until my eyes hurt from the computer screen. I printed out pages and pages off the internet. Mailbags, rules, techniques, routines, spastic ramblings... I read every book I could get my hands on.
Do you remember when I first went out to play you? I got up, got dressed, went to the mall and walked next to about 50 girls, before I opened my mouth to speak to one. I still remember how nervous I was before hand and how suprised I was when the girls talked to me. I talked to 7 girls that day. And the next day, and the next for a year and a half.
You became my salvation, my reason for being. But you tested my faith for 6 months. I never gave up adn you rewarded me.
Then things started going really fast, I loved you so much, but didn't understand you yet. I learned more and more about you. I met guys who called themselves Mystery, or Style. I hung out with guys who I met on the internet where the only commonality we had was that we both liked you. How was I to know that my love was deeper? That more committed. More insane than others??? I couldn't. But it was that love that led me to the living room of Project Hollywood all those years ago... It was the love that led me to intern for the company, then instruct. I had no greater desire to help others back then... I just wanted to learn as much as I could about you. I wanted to show you that I understood you best, that you were going to be happiest with me.
When I started teaching I was ecstatic because finaly I could share you with others. I could show them the amazing things that you had taught me about people, myself, women, and the world. And slowly the love for you started to dim. I started to care more about helping others get their first kiss from you. I wanted to share you with everyone, like the prize girlfriend I saw you as. I became arrogant that I "had" you and didn't need to keep the relationship fresh.
I still yearned to know more about you though. I refused to hit a glass ceiling, I refused to listen to others when they told me that we knew everything there was to know about you. Instead I started to look for the sides of you that we didn't see. Even though I had taken you for granted, I still cared. I always cared.
Then I looked around and those I had been trying to help for years had turned on me. They sent me demands for routines,for word by word descriptions of what I said in my LRs,They wrote nasty attacks about me on the internet.They even demanded I update my blog more. And I had to learn that no matter what you do for people, there will always be those who want more. Or those who are jealous. Or hateful.And it was hard. people I had known and trusted for years betrayed me. But you never turned on me.
I came back to you at the begginning of this year. I even moved somewhere else to learn from and with CJ, El Topo, Shaft etc.. I rededicated myself to you after THEY tried to take away my love for you with their petty gripes and comments. I realized that you were pure and predictable. I remembered the joy, I remembered the excitement I used to have when I couldn't wait to open sets no matter where they were. I remembered how powerful I felt when I realized every girl in a club was attracted to me and I could take my pick. I remembered the sense of accomplishment that came from taking the hard sets. I remembered the challenge of all of it. And I realized I loved you more than I ever had before, and that no matter what the future may bring I will always love you.
You're the best thing that ever happened to me.
Sinn-cerely
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