6th gear or the desire to win.

I was playing pool with The Don earlier today as I reel in my depression over HB Perfect. And the Ohio State-Wisconsin game happened to be on. I haven't seen Greg Oden play since he got the cast off his wrist and it was interesting to watch him do the same thing that Lebron does. Both guys are SUPREMELY talented, possibly the two most talented players to come out of high school in 30 years. But neither of them seem to have that killer instinct. They don't have that Jordan/Wade/Kobe desire to win even if it means stepping on your opponent's throat. And in my typical fashion, I relate this to game. A lot of guys simply don't want this bad enough.

Improving with women is difficult. And to really achieve mastery( and I don't believe anyone goes 5 for 5) but mastery is simply the ability to get a girlfriend within a week anywhere you can speak the language. I have mastery. 7 days in a city and I can make it happen every time. It just means that I can meet and attract women as long as I can communicate. I actually don't even think PU anymore almost ever. I don't think up new openers, or negs or anything, but I do get girls just by "being myself". The only difference between being myself now and being myself 5 years ago is that myself now is a bunch of behavior patterns I learned. But it has become engrained. i tease every person guy or girl. I am interesting, and I'm good at making people comfortable with my touching.

Now the other place that the will to win comes in, is in set. The BIGGEST problem I see in guys in field is that they freak the fuck out and stop talking when they get some reaction they don't understand. If you learn nothing more from my blog than to keep talking no matter what, you will get laid more than you did before. Nobody's routines hit a hundred percent of the time, but if you are able to keep engaging their minds with talk, eventually you will say something interesting. Most guys aren't willing to take the social pressure and awkwardness of pushing forward through uncertainty or neutral reactions. Hell even bad reactions can be turned around with an apology. In my mind there is no reason to leave set unless they ask you to. Keep talking until you get positive responses. This is what seperates the chumps from champs. So the next time you feel the urge to eject, ask yourself what else you can try without ejecting. Brad P has a great saying "Blow me or blow me out" It's a great frame you either get the girl or you save yourself the time by making them blow you out.

But before you put yourself through this ask yourself " How badly do I want this?"

S