This is one of the key realizations you need to make in order to actually start having success with women.
Your goal is not to lead a girl to a yes, necessarily but rather to lead her to make a decision about whether or not she wants you to hit on her.
If a girl won't let you hit on her or accept it, you're shit out of luck for turning that into anything romantic or sexual.
So the way to think about opening, social comfort, and attraction is that the goal is to lead her to a decision about whether or not she's interested in being hit on before you start to qualify her, as there is no point in trying to qualify a girl who isn't interested in you hitting on her.
How do you do this?
With what I'm tentatively calling direct interest. Direct interest is basically telling the girl you like her without qualifying WHY you like her as you will do in qualification. With direct interest you're tipping your cap and letting her know you like her by hitting on her.
The girl will either accept this or reject it at which point you can either qualify or move on.
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I would really like to hear more on this.
ReplyDeleteThank you man.
ReplyDeleteThis answers my question of your last post.
You're blog is the most important resource for my game but sometimes it's really hard to follow your thoughts...
I'm confused.
ReplyDeleteYou need to explain your whole model by explaining your motives first.
You want bang hot turbos beacuse they're great looking and that's it? So there will be different model with artificial qualification and even artificial attraction and comfort designed to suit most hot girls. In that case you must delay hitting on them to make sure you can proceed safely ie. not hitting on them until you reel them in by qualification etc. Hitting on them is only reasonable to weed out those who absolutely can't be laid by manipulation(micromanaging)ie. faithful girlfriends or girls repulsed by you. This is certainly what most puas teach and what you are teaching till this day but mixed with:
Second option - to bang only instrested and compatibile women. Attraction,qualification and comfort isn't tool to get something anymore but a procees of attracting right girls and weeding out boring turd-o-s in the same time.
"Reeling in" almost everybody and "weeding out" almost everyone are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS. Doh.
What are you aiming for? I'm fairly certain that you can't mix those two strategies.
Time for some post-pua stuff that is true to you.
what about qualification pinging though
ReplyDeleteSolid stuff. An example could be, "Well, you're obviously attractive and obviously I'm trying to get in your pants but besides the sexy looks, you also seem like an interesting person, what is one of your passions that people wouldn't know about you by just seeing you?"
ReplyDeleteSomething from "no strings attached", huh?
ReplyDeleteBut i don't understand. At that point, she'll ask you if you do say this to all the girls you meet...
i don't see the natural flow, why you have to lead her into a decision and not into an yes? after all, you said direct approach and something about qualification
on direct approach, as you say... you give all your arsenal away, anyway. So what's the deal?
Something from "no strings attached", huh?
ReplyDeleteBut i don't understand. At that point, she'll ask you if you do say this to all the girls you meet...
i don't see the natural flow, why you have to lead her into a decision and not into an yes? after all, you said direct approach and something about qualification
on direct approach, as you say... you give all your arsenal away, anyway. So what's the deal?