A Realistic look at Infidelity.

So with all this Tiger Woods drama all over the place, it got me thinking about infidelity in the real world. Not the MTV show, which in and of itself fosters an environment made for cheating on your BF or GF back home. I think it might even be in the contract :)

Evolutionary biologists, would love to tell you that we(both men and women) are designed to cheat in order to fulfill our primary goal in life of passing on our selfish genes with a partner most likely to produce healthy offspring.

Romantics will say that true love conquers all, and that when you find that special person, harps will play, Doves will sing and you will never again want to bang that hot chick at your office.

The truth as with most things in life, lies somewhere in the middle.

According to Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, people are as faithful as their options and their social and physical consequences.

First let's examine the idea of options. In the community there is a very misogynistic idea that all women cheat, and that all that matters is the level of your game versus the level of another guy's game. I'd say a lot of those misconceptions come from the fact that community guys deal with a lot of club girls who are social climbers. But I digress. It's my opinion that EVERYONE is looking to trade up sexually. This is where I firmly believe in evolutionary biology, as well as the added social and sexual benefits of having a more attractive partner. It's not just women or club girls or men or high status high powered men. It's everyone. Somewhere there is a redneck whose wife is 250lbs, who is cheating on her with a 200ILB woman and feels great about the upgrade.

So what does that mean about infidelity? It means that EVERYONE has considered it at some point and that most people have been unfaithful.

The most commonly quoted statistics on infidelity show that between 55-70% Of all people have cheated on a significant other. I've seen stats that skew towards men being more unfaithful and I've seen stats that skew towards women being more unfaithful. Either way, it all seems to fall into this range.

Another widely quoted statistic says that 20% of people in the United States were fathered by someone other than who they think they're Dad is. I believe the correct term is cuckolding.

So if we all have these drives and urges and stuff, what keeps us from cheating?

As Dr Dre once said on Eminem's song Guilty Conscience " You got to think about the consequences"

Now obviously in Tiger's case, like most people he NEVER thought he was going to get caught. Because if he had thought about the social as well as financial consequences this could lead to, well he probably would have done it anyway. But that speaks more to the arrogance of professional athletes than anything about consequences. Tiger may have wanted to talk to his buddy MJ about how his infidelity divorce went. You know the one where he lost $250 million...

In most people's lives the consequences are going to fall into one of two categories; social and physical.

The most obvious consequences, are the physical ones, the most common being pregnancy, STDs, and physical harm from your significant other or their significant other. Physical consequences don't really change. The risks are always going to be there when you cheat on someone or have sex.

The social consequences on the other hand are a little more tricky. First there is the obvious loss of relationship, not to mention the effect if children are in the mix (as is the case with Tiger). There is the effect cheating will have on your reputation socially. While it's cool to be a ladies man and a bachelor, it's not good to be the guy who cheated on his wife/girlfriend. This can even split your entire social circle right down the middle. You also have the possibility of revenge by the person you cheated on, which could take any form from girls setting your clothes on fire, to posting naked photos of you on the internet. So the social consequences are aplenty.

Lastly I want to talk about something most people probably don't think about when it comes to cheating and that's the self esteem consequences. I don't cheat. Obviously anyone who knows me will tell you that I am very anti-cheating and even try to avoid girls with boyfriends. My Mom cheated on my Dad, and they ended up getting a divorce if you want to know the root cause of my feelings on this subject. The self esteem consequences to me come with having to deal with yourself as a cheater. Having to lie to your significant other, the guilt, and ultimately the dread of getting caught lead you to think that this is part of dating.

It shouldn't be.

You don't need to cheat in order to sleep with lots of girls. Just don't get into a monogamous relationship until you're sure you don't want to sleep with anyone else. And if you started getting tempted to cheat, break up instead. The social consequences for breaking up with someone are WAY less than cheating and you don't have to be dishonest.

So that's my brain dump on infidelity inspired by Tiger Woods banging tons of chicks. Which was obviously going to happen as soon as he started hanging out with Jordan and Barkely in Vegas.

By the way does any celebrity or athlete not cheat on their wives?

The fact that they are on the road so much negates a big amount of the threat of getting caught and they have groupies throwing themselves at them all the time. I honestly have no idea why they even try to get married. Unless there's some kind of secret in advertising that you get more endorsements as a family man, or something of that ilk. Which could totally be true. But still, so not worth it.

Stay single celebrities, it will be easier and cheaper in the end.

JS- The King Of Content