Revealations from the Nepali Coast

Or how I found salvation with a lot of help from Tyler Durden and the

Nepali coast.

" Don't think of it as fun" he said. "Think of it like an East African

initiation ritual where they circumcize you with no anesthetic". The voice

on the other end of the cell phone was TD. He was at a sporting good store

picking up backpacks, tents and flashlights for our trip to Kaua'i.

I had come out to Hawaii to teach a bootcamp, and then get my mind right.

I had to know why with all the things I had accomplished, at the end of the

day I felt empty.

The bootcamp had ended and TD and I had hiked up a trail in Honolulu, it

was one of the better hikes I had ever been on. We talked about a lot of

things. Especially the future. I had been saying for a LONG time that I was

going to retire in May. Once the dust from the lawsuit settled and I wasn't

letting Savoy down. I planned to be out. I fantasized about becoming a

cabin boy on a cruise ship, or a firefighter. Anything to get away from the

responsibility of being a figurehead. Anything to escape the world of tactical

seduction.

Talking to TD I started to realize something, I was running away from

something that was a part of me. It wasn't an accident that I ended up where

I am. I worked for it I strove for it. It's something I wanted for a long time.

And like everyone who gets what they want, I wanted more. I had become a

victim of my own success. And no amount of notches on my bedpost were

going to change that. I realized that the only thing tangible and meaningful

is helping others.

It became crystal clear to me as I lay on the beach in Kaua'i. Freezing in

my tent. Sore from hiking over 11 miles that day over the most treacherous

terrain I had ever seen. The most amazing thing about the hike, was the fact

that EVERYTHING had gone our way. It was supposed to rain. It didn't, it

was supposed to get dark well before we hit the end of our journey, it didn't.

TD did the entire hike on no sleep as we had to get up @ 5:30 to catch a

flight from Honolulu. I got an hour and a half. I had joked before the walk

that god owed me, I guess we're even now.

The craziest thing about the entire walk was the way I felt as we were doing

it. TD suggested a little mind game of trying to hate someone as we were

walking across the open face part of the rock that had no vegetation on the

side. You have to see it to believe it but it was 12 inches of snaking path

overlooking a unimaginably far fall to the rocks and sea below. I couldn't

even think for a second about anything other than the moment. It was the

ultimate in state, and presence. I felt so connected and in love with life, the universe and everything in it. I realized we're all connected on some level, even if it's just the level of being humans.

We ran into a bunch of other hikers as the day ran on and they offered a

litany of different advice. The goat man and woman( Who were both in WAY

better shape than us despite being 60) told us they knew people who hiked

the entire trail in 2 hours... in the dark. The dude with an altitude meter and

speed poles told it would get easier (It didn't). The two stoners at the creek told us

we would make it for sure. We chose to believe the stoners. Through it all,

TD, myself and his GF stayed completely positive. We supported each other,

we looked out for each other. We called out where the slippery parts were

and what to hold onto. We never talked about the fact that our legs were

rubbed raw or the ever dwindling day light. And we ultimately made it the

entire 11 miles to the beach.

We passed a hippie compound as we finally hit the beach. They were a

caricature of hippiedom as they told us about the mystical healing powers of

the water. We joked the next two days that we should have asked them what

they knew about the now and gone all Eckhart Tolle on that ass.

Unfortunately it got dark before we had a chance to assemble our 30 dollar

tents and our dehydrated sponges of a brain took about an hour to figure it

out in the dark ( Actually TD figured it all out, I was pretty useless other

than driving in stakes). Then we sat on the beach under the make shift

campfire of the mini mag lite and talked about life. We talked about getting

past anger, adding value and teaching. It reminded me that even though I

didn't get in this to be a figurehead or a guru or whatever the fuck some

people seem to see me as, I am one now. And I'm not the same guy I was 3

years ago. That's why you won't be seeing anymore LRs here. I've posted

30-40 over the last year and I think it's time that I moved past the egoic

concern of convincing people I get laid, and onto the real value I can add.

Teaching. We finally got rained on and retreated to our tents. As I lay there

listening to the rain drop on the tent, exhausted, laying on the hard sand I

felt something that had been missing in my life for a long time. Pure joy.

The joy that comes from proving something to yourself and from

understanding that everything is going to be allright.

I had majorly weird dreams and woke up a couple times. Finally I woke the

others and we went to a waterfall to purify water. We pounded our Lebrada

lean shakes and got another 32 onces of water in before we hit the walk I had

been dreading since waking up.

We actually ended up scaling a mountain monkey style only to realize that

we were on top of an eff'in cliff with no way down. But we never freaked out.

We found the trail and kept on hiking. Our knees and ankles creaking, our

bodies pushed to the max, but we marched on. And on, and on. Even past

the point that I thought of quitting, past the point I thought I couldn't walk

another step. We all reached inside and found an inner core of strength we

never even knew we had. It made me realize that a ton of the limits we place

on ourselves are complete and utter bullshit. It's not a series of events that

defeats us, but our surrender to the events. You can always fight on. And

fight on we did. Even when TD's GF's knee went out on the last quarter

mile. We waited and finished together. And when we all walked down to the

car there was a feeling of elation that I don't have words to describe. I've

never been as happy as I was those two days hiking through the Incredibly

beautiful and varied terrain. It may very well have been the best two days of

my life.

And as I sit here writing this, swollen, in pain, riddled with bug bites the

size of quarters. I feel a strange new sense of calm and confidence. Like no

matter what life throws at me, I can handle it.

I went to Hawaii to get my shit together. It was there I decided to quit

drinking for 6 months, to stop smoking cigarettes and to kick the chronic

habit(after my trip to Amsterdam of course). It was there that I got to talk to

the one person in the world who understands the situation I'm in now, cause

he's been there. I've often said that Jlaix was the person I most related to in

the community, but after this trip I see that it's really TD. Talking to him

really helped me make sense of all the noise in my mind. We talked about

the pressure of stepping up and defining yourself through your teaching, we

talked about moving away from unhealthy mentors and the mental remnants

we both had to deal with. I cannot express enough gratitude to him for the

help, the conversation, the encouragement, the idea to hike and the hike

itself. I can't imagine respecting someone more than I respect him after this

trip. He's a changed man and the only guru I've ever met who actually

became an adult. I hope to have his level of inner strength and maturity

someday.

So what's next? As I sit in the Phoenix airport, I am rededicated to teaching

in a way I've never been before. I want to share the knowledge I've gathered

and enrich others lives in the way mine has been enriched. I don't want to

just teach guys to get laid anymore, I want to teach men and women to live

an empowered life on the edge. Constantly challenging yourself and your

perceptions of what you are capable of. I never thought I was the type of guy

to do this hike. My previous experience with camping, was staying at motel

6. I had never been tested or pushed to my physical limits to see how much I

could take before quitting and I've never been more in the now... That's

what I want to share now. The ability and motivation to push yourself to

your edge and keep pushing. Never surrender. Never give up, never lose

hope. That's what life is about. Over the next few months, I have some

HUGE plans. I scribbled pages and pages of notes for new ways to teach

and learn. New missions, new ephiphany provoking thoughts, and I will

share them all with all of you guys here and in person. 2008 is going to be

unreal....

I'll leave you guys with a quote from one of my favorite songs, one that I

never really understood until now;

Let no tears to fall from none of y'all
Just remember it all, the beauty as well as the flaws
L-O-V-E L-I-F-E
Here lies Sean, finally free
And as I look across the sea I smile at the sun
While it feeds the weeds the nutrition they need
The people still breathe, the city still bleeds
I'm going to love it to death and keep planting my seeds
I'm going to love it to death and keep an eye on the seeds
I'll be in love till im dead, I keep reaching the seeds
I'll give all I got left just to teach you to read
Love life to the death and keep planting my seeds
And when the soul begins to reap, I think she'll know me from the sleep
I keep caught in the corner of my bloodshot eyes
And if she has the nerve, to let me dump a couple last words
I'm gonna turn to the earth and scream (Love your life)

S

Changes and Thanks

Wow, so much has happened since I've been out in Hawaii.

I'm gonna write a huge post when I leave in a few days, but I want to first thank everybody who reads my blog and has taken programs with me. For a really long time I didn't appreciate how much I like helping you guys out. It's only been since I've been here talking to TD that I started to understand that the only thing in the world that is actually worthwhile, is adding value and helping others.

I feel like I've had a bunch of huge revelations since I've been here. In fact I feel rededicated. For the last few months I had been telling people I was going to retire in May. Now I see longevity in this, and I have a whole new paradigm for teaching.

Stay tuned

S

Who do you want to be?

We are all works in progress, so I think it's very important to periodically define what characteristics you want to be defined by.

So I made a list of characteristics I want to eventually embody. I also made a list of things to work on daily and long term in devloping or maintaining these characteristics.

1. Smart
2. Adventurous
3. Creative
4. Funny
5. Loyal
6. Honest
7. Hard-working
8. Open Minded
9. Happy
10. Disciplined
11. Healthy
12. Emotionally open
13. Diplomatic
14. Energetic
15. Passionate
16. Brave
17. Optimistic
18. Challenging
19. Lover of women
20. Charming
21.Outgoing
22.Good Friend
23. Educated
24. Trustworthy
25. In control of myself and situations
26. Rich
27. Artistic
28. Fun
29. Sexually adventurous
30. Humble
31. Classy
32. At peace
33. Clam and Relaxed
34. a non procrastinator
35. Clean and organized
36. Opinionated
37. Controlled drinker
38. Sophisticated
39. Immune to social pressure

I started off planning on writing a 10 point list, but almost ended up with 40. I highly recommend that everyone does this. It will give you something to work on and towards. That way you have a picture of the man you ultimately want to be to work on, or to hold yourself accountable when you fall down.

S

Be proactive!

I've been scanning the boards lately and almost every post is begging for help without actually going out and trying anything!

If you are ever going to get good at this stuff, you are going to have to rely mostly on yourself. Everything is a choice and you are constantly going backwards or forward. You can choose to stay home because you don't have anybody to go out with, or you can go out alone. You can try to get a phone number from every set even when they don't seem to be going well, or you can eject and feel good about approaching. You can call the numbers you get or you can avoid doing so.In the end you need to push yourself.

Bootcamps are an amazing kick start because you see what the final puzzle looks like from watching instructors, you get a great handle on whta you need to be working on, and you get out there and start approaching. But the bootcamp is useless unless you continue to follow up hard. At the end of the day you can get laid both nights of bootcamp, but if you stop going out, you will stop learning.

You have to discipline yourself. I make to do lists before I go out. On them I put the things I want to do and avoid doing. Then when I hit the bars, I just go down my list.

Open set before I order a drink- Check
Don't eject until you've tried to qualify- Check
Approach the hottest sets in the venue-Check
Approach at least 1 mixed set- Check
Try to move every set- Check
Push sexual frames- Check
Number close 25 mins in-Check
No more than 4 drinks- Check
Seed bounces- Check

That's all I'm thinking about, I don't focus on routines or what to say or whatever. Instead I just go down my list. I proactively police myself to make the right choices. The thing with discipline is, it's one thing to know what you want to do. It's quite another to actually do it. I know personally I've planned to go out and do approaches only to sit around drinking. You have to know what your intent is for going out. If you're going out to drink, drink. If you're going out to game, game. But make sure you know what you're doing and you act congruently to the goals you have.

S

The Jeffy Show Review!

First off, I have to admit that I am not unbiased when it comes to Jeffy.. I've loved his writing for years. I also think it's a toss up between him and Fidelio as to who is the funniest person I have ever met. He also is probably the person I most identify with personality wise in the community. That said I am not being pair for this review, nor am I an affiliate of their product, and I haven't talked to Jeffy or TD about this review.

So I was super excited when I heard that he was going to be releasing his own product. There is hardly anything I can think of more entertaining than listening to Jeffy.

I can honsetly say I came into this with high expectations and I was not disappointed.

The program starts off with Jeffy defining and researching the word chode with a poster board of various chode images. This was hysterical, and sums up Jeffy in a nutshell, words, humor and absurdity = Jlaix.

The first disc had the moment that made me fall off the couch laughing. jeffy is describing this 300lb woman he used to fuck and the scenario in which it unfolded. One of the funniest stories I've ever heard, right up there with Fidelio's family story.

He then goes into the idea of getting yoru mind right. Inner game. All good stuff on here. Not anything you've never heard before if you've been in the community awhile, but great refresher and the stuff on codes of conduct was really great. The most interesting part to me was the idea of every set having a unique rhythm. I'd never thought about it like that, but when I heard it, it clicked with my new ideas about pacing and leading the interaction. You have to first know what their rhythm is before you can attempt to change it. That's a key point for developing social, think about where THEY are at and how you can join them before leading them where you want them to go.

Disc 2 We're going in

This disc had a bunch of technical stuff on it about fashion etc... It also has some funny stories about Superstar and a good look at the reasons to drink or not. He also goes over opening styles. And what kind of Jeffy product woule it be without a talk about kareoke and the benefits that has to your game. I agree with that btw as you are forced to project your voice and make yourself uncomfortable.

Disc 3 Take your Passion and make it happen

This disc starts off with Jeffy talking about canned material. Everyone knows my thoughts on this, so no need to reiterate those here. Jeffy makes some great points about not using canned material as a substitute for having a real personality. I also agree and have been pushing the bandwagon for the Jeet Kune do approach of taking and mixing styles. I just call it not being dogmatic. Jeffy gives some great example stories. Then we get to hear some great stories about his time in Spain. Loved banging the chode.

Disc 4 Bringing it home

This disc was focused on closing the deal. The best part of this disc was hearing Jeffy do the famous Weepy air supply callback technique. I'd heard about it on the internet, but hearing it is awesome. He covers some LMR stuff, getting girls home and then talks about threesomes and tandem pickup. I thought the threesome stuff dragged on a bit. I thought the best part of this disc after the air supply message, was the stuff on intent and discipline. These two things are like the vegetables on the plate with a fancy steak. They are often overlooked but necessary for the health of your game.

Disc 5 When all is said and done

This disc is a wrap up and serves to let Jeffy enlighten us as to what he has learned in his journey. I really like the focus he placed on ancillary skills and actually getting a life. That's someting a lot of guys ignore and it's like the rocket fuel of game that makes women want to stay in your life. Finally Jeffy talks about some things that happened with his family. I felt that this was the bravest thing he did in this entire program. Really powerful.

Overall I thought that this program was by far the most entertaining seduction program I have ever watched. I never had the dreaded zone out moment where I forgot to pay attention. I also think Jeffy should be commended for having the balls to put his life out there for examination warts and all.

A +

S

My favorite comment of all time..

Some anonymous guy on my last post told me not to overestimate my writing ability...

That's hysterical!

I always think it's funny to see how people who have never met me think my brain works.

I literally laughed out loud( I refuse to use net speak)

Well here I go overestimating my writing ability again...

Just some random thoughts. I have a girl in my bed who was in Maxim's Hometown Hotties, a year ago and she is still asleep. Now everyone knows I don't get up early, but this is ridiculous. Part of me wants to wake her, but the other part of me is keeping a line going on how long she's gonna sleep for. An impressive performance to say the least.

She is also the latest in a string of girls who keep wanting me to commit... I NEVER used to get this!!!! I think i'm doing something now that is stimulating this relationship vibe. I'm not sure if I wrote an LR for this girl, but it was right around Halloween and I was out with Vodka and Twitchy. It was an SNL and then she was getting clingly but I went away for bcs for awhile and I though that would fix it, but apparently not.

I got my turntables and the TV for my treadmill room today. I'm soo excited to start working out while playing video games or watching football.

What Else???? Future and I will be back together for a really exciting program in Boston. Fader and some other guys will be there. I love Boston it's probably my favorite east coast city. There's just something about it. The people, history and architecture are amazing. Nothing like Boston accents either...

I still have 8 more days of not having to travel or work. I was considering going to see a really hot girl I met in Phoenix, but I decided I'm officially done keeping girls in other cities. It's just too much work. I'll keep my 3-5 girls here and then I'll do SNLs in other cities.

I guess that's all for today.

Your overestimating his writing skills friend.

S

My love letter to the game...

Last year I wrote a post about my observations since my bootcamp.

You can read it in the archive from last Oct.

This year I thought I'd write an open letter to the game(not the book).

Here goes,

I know it's been a long time since we talked, I've been busy with old flames,work and my other loves.Then I realized that it's been too long.

I remember when I found you, it was years and years ago when a lonely boy was asking jeeves on the internet. I remember the giddy feeling in my stomach as I read about supplication, and negs, and cocky and funny. I read for hours,and hours. Until my eyes hurt from the computer screen. I printed out pages and pages off the internet. Mailbags, rules, techniques, routines, spastic ramblings... I read every book I could get my hands on.

Do you remember when I first went out to play you? I got up, got dressed, went to the mall and walked next to about 50 girls, before I opened my mouth to speak to one. I still remember how nervous I was before hand and how suprised I was when the girls talked to me. I talked to 7 girls that day. And the next day, and the next for a year and a half.

You became my salvation, my reason for being. But you tested my faith for 6 months. I never gave up adn you rewarded me.

Then things started going really fast, I loved you so much, but didn't understand you yet. I learned more and more about you. I met guys who called themselves Mystery, or Style. I hung out with guys who I met on the internet where the only commonality we had was that we both liked you. How was I to know that my love was deeper? That more committed. More insane than others??? I couldn't. But it was that love that led me to the living room of Project Hollywood all those years ago... It was the love that led me to intern for the company, then instruct. I had no greater desire to help others back then... I just wanted to learn as much as I could about you. I wanted to show you that I understood you best, that you were going to be happiest with me.

When I started teaching I was ecstatic because finaly I could share you with others. I could show them the amazing things that you had taught me about people, myself, women, and the world. And slowly the love for you started to dim. I started to care more about helping others get their first kiss from you. I wanted to share you with everyone, like the prize girlfriend I saw you as. I became arrogant that I "had" you and didn't need to keep the relationship fresh.

I still yearned to know more about you though. I refused to hit a glass ceiling, I refused to listen to others when they told me that we knew everything there was to know about you. Instead I started to look for the sides of you that we didn't see. Even though I had taken you for granted, I still cared. I always cared.

Then I looked around and those I had been trying to help for years had turned on me. They sent me demands for routines,for word by word descriptions of what I said in my LRs,They wrote nasty attacks about me on the internet.They even demanded I update my blog more. And I had to learn that no matter what you do for people, there will always be those who want more. Or those who are jealous. Or hateful.And it was hard. people I had known and trusted for years betrayed me. But you never turned on me.

I came back to you at the begginning of this year. I even moved somewhere else to learn from and with CJ, El Topo, Shaft etc.. I rededicated myself to you after THEY tried to take away my love for you with their petty gripes and comments. I realized that you were pure and predictable. I remembered the joy, I remembered the excitement I used to have when I couldn't wait to open sets no matter where they were. I remembered how powerful I felt when I realized every girl in a club was attracted to me and I could take my pick. I remembered the sense of accomplishment that came from taking the hard sets. I remembered the challenge of all of it. And I realized I loved you more than I ever had before, and that no matter what the future may bring I will always love you.

You're the best thing that ever happened to me.

Sinn-cerely

NWLR: No work lay report

Friday night I went out with Twitchy one of his girls, her friend and Vodka. We bounced around a little bit and Tiwtchy's girl was craz as usual. SHe tried to get us to make-out and grab her friend's hand and pulled it onto my dick, etc... Fun state breaking stuff.

But my framing was way too strong. I went through all the frames I teach in the SNL seminar(Shameless plug I know)I really do think that the key to being good at this is setting a series of progressively morphing frames that the girl agrees with and ultimately make it natural for you guys to end up doing the nasty.

We ended up drinking at a bar downtown(while also spilling 4 drinks and breaking 4 glasses) I had a lot of shots. Then we went back to Vodka's where I closed the girl in his guest room at like 5 AM.

After we were done, the weight of the half metric ton of alcohol finally caught up with me and I had to go home. Where I threw up in my parking lot and passed out fully clothed. Overall a fun night.

S

Bad influences.

One of the things I've noticed big time lately, is the way that people around us can affect us in one of two ways.

You can let their behavior affect you, and I used to do that. I'd get all pissed off or I'd try to change them etc... But I realized that it was actually my problem. For example A friend of mine has this problem where he brags about how many girls he gets, how hot they are, etc, etc. And for awhile I would try to tell him that he could chill out, whatever. But it never worked.Finally I decided that it was his problem not mine, and I would laugh when he does it. It started to be like a funny game I would play n my head where I would ait for sentences that started like " Of the 500 girls I've been with..." And he and I started to get along better.

The other solution, is to appreciate the things that are good about people and you ignore the traits that annoy you. It's just like in a set, the more you focus on bad behavior, the more it gets magnified as CJ would say. That's why the most important rule of pick up is to ignore anything that doesn't help you. That's the key to being non-reactive.

The bad influence part, is where you have to be aware of what influences you are placing yourself under. I notice when I go out with certain people, I drink way more than I do with others. It's just part of going out with that person. I notice that if I have a group with really bad approach anxiety, mine gets noticably worse. See we are constantly checking the real world evidence around us to see what is permissable and "normal" behavior. That's why a lot of students snap back to earth immediately after bootcamps, because they realize that approaching a lot and talking game, doesn't fit in with their real life world or friends. So they quit, because it's easier to stop than it is to make things a little uncomfortable by rocking the boat a bit.

Once you know what things you are doing not because you want to, but rather because it's expected social behavior, you know what to work on. It can also be helpful to have an idea of the type of man you are aspiring to be. That way you can hold yourself to your own standards and regulations, as opposed to letting others tell you what is normal for you.

S

Update...

So I've been off of here for about a month. I just got pretty busy and I didn't have a whole lot new to say.

Plus I taught 3 programs in a row, so I didn't always have internet access. Plus I was exhausted. I was only home for 2 of the last 20 days before Thanksgiving. Which is not as much fun as it sounds

I've also started seeing the SCW again. She seems a lot more grounded than before, and she's amazingly scorching hot in person. I ran into her on Tuesday and we ran into HBfumbled pen on Wednesday, then I hung out with her Thurs night again. Now this doesn't mean that I won't do a bunch of passive aggressive thibgs to sabotage this relationship again, but who knows. That's part of the fun, I guess... It is cool to have a girl you're excited to see, and who genuinely makes you happy. Again we'll see if it lasts. I think the key for me in being in relationships, is being able to not moving soo fast. I honestly think that the biggest problem last time, was that we were spending all day together, all the time. So I'm going to try to see her a maximum of 3 times a week when I'm in Dallas. But I'm glad she's back.

Relationships are tough. I was talking to Juice at dinner last night and he's going through some things with a girl he's been seeing for a few years. There is no completion with this stuff.Ever. Dealing with women is going to be a part of everyday of the rest of your life. And mine. So you might as well start to enjoy this process, but at the same time recognize the basic dilemma. The fight that occurs between the part of each of us that wants to go out and "sow their wild oats" versus the urge to be with one special girl and discover the heights you can take each other to... I guess I'm lucky in that I don't really want a relationship, so I never really have major issues with this, but I wonder if that's a product of my youth and lifestyle or something deeper.

It's important when considering the GF question to ask yourself whether you are getting into a relationship because you want to and this girl is really special, or if you are seeking to make life easier by getting out of the field, or if you're just doing it because you're scared to be alone, or any other reason that exists. The most important person in every relationship you are in, is you.

In other news, I'm going to Hawaii for Christmas as a present to myself. I'm excited to lay out, read and surf.

My comp's about to die, so I'll just list a couple of things I'll write about soon:

A review of RSD's The Jeffy Show, I'm a big fan of Jeffy.
A post on bad influences and dealing with them
The Q and A on SNLS

S

Happy Thanskgiving

I've been purposely avoiding the blog and the forums etc...for awhile.

I'm gonna try to get back to posting all the new stuff that's happening, it's a weird time.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone.

S

The last week report...

I've been getting out a lot recently and it's been pretty crazy.

I joined El Topo and CJ in the car close club on Wednesday night while out with Mr M, Sheriff,AFC Adam and his girlfriend and of course CJ.

Friday I pulled a 20 year old who was dressed like a beer girl and had ginormous boobs... it took me til 2 the next afternoon to close her, but I was pleasantly suprised:)

Then last night I went out with twitchy,and vodka to a bunch of places. Drank WAY too much( a theme of this entire week. More on that later) and ran into church girl and her friends early at the gay street parade(More to come here as well) and then Anna Ferris girl at the last venue. I ended up bringing her home with me against the pleas of her friends to stay with them...

Woke up this morning with a massive head ache which has confined me to the couch and the football coverage. Luckily for me I have a Pats game on.

I had a really weird dream that I lived in the same building as Bill Simmons and we hung out once and he didn't think I was cool and didn't want to hang out. It was like a nightmare, and I woke up sweating. I actually had to take a minute to make sure that it wasn't true... I read way too much about sports...

I've been doing yoga a couple times a week, and while I don't think it's a great place to meet women, I do think it's a pretty fucking cool way to exercise in addition to the weights and running I've been doing.

I'm joining a MMA class tomor so I will probably get beaten up this week in class. Joy.

I've been drinking way too much. I think I'm going to quit for at least a week and possibly the month of November. I'm actually sick of alcohol right now. And super sick of waking up feeling like crap. So no more drinking for awhile.

The redskins scare the hell out of me for some reason... I think it's because in Madden they are always WAY better than they are in real life. 3 straight first downs for the skins are not making me less nervous.

Yesterday we went to the costume parade in the gayborhood. It was great people watching, unfortunately most of the people were ugly. ALso aI get that girls think that they can just put on lingerie and cat ears and call it a costume, but A: it's still NOT a costume, and B: This does not extend to you if you are a guy who's into bondage... That's just dressing like you normally do on a Saturday night. I swear I saw soo many guys on the street just in leather and chains and shit... It's not a costume. I also wore my new Vintage 93 Wayne Gretzky Kings jersey. I developed a new game where I told girls about how it was the greatest hockey season ever by one player and they should sleep with me because of it. Not effective, but fun.

I'm working on a couple of new non seduction products which is pretty interesting, and I go back to doing bootcamps this week.

The bootcamp this week in LA will also be the beginning of the fear and respect tour 2007. CJ and I are rededicated to blowing students away with demos again. People seem to have forgotten who the best guys actively gaming are. So will help some people's memories this weekend.

We've regained the eye of the tiger. And shit is about to get crazy.

Stay tuned.

S

Sticking points are symptoms

One of my big realizations lately has been that every sticking point guys have, are symptoms of bigger problems in their life.

These can range from clinging onto conversational topics too long, not being adaptable, being judgemental about sex, not talking enough, nolt knowing what to say...

They are all symptoms that something is wrong with your life. If you don't know what to say when talking to girls to be interesting, you should probably read more, do more exciting things, and get a hobby.

Women, will give you perfect feedback on your game as my buddy Future likes to say. The one caveat of that is that you should not listen to a word they have to say about pick up or game. Instead you should look at the specific negative reactions that you get from women and check to see where that might be affecting the rest of your life.

If you are scared of asserting yourself in conversations and being dominant, how do you handle interactions with superiors? When was the last time you asked for a raise or haggled at a flea market?

I suggest everyone take a real quick list of their sticking points and compare those to the issues in your life or the things you are working toward in your life, and see if the issue is simply confined to your interactions with women.

It's especially important for begginers to do this, as sticking points related to energy level, loudness, and body language, can all be worked on 24 hours a day. I'm always amazed when students come into seminar and I correct their body languageduring my talk then they switch back to bad body language 2 secs later. You can't expect to be a quiet, meek, anti-social guy all day and then all of a sudden snap into super PUA mode and become a different person.

Aim to improve your life and your game will follow.

S

Going out alone, and alcohol...

I had to go out alone last night as I really felt like gaming and everyone else's vaginas were hurting...

One of the things I notice when I'm out alone, is I drink a lot less, I know I have to be more wary of things like logisitics and group dynamics. When I can't depend on a wing, I have to be a lot sharper.

Tonight I was supposed to meet up with annaFerris girl, but I blew her off because sheriff and some other instructors from across the pond ended up in Dallas tonight and I always look forward to seeing those guys.

S

Annoyance..

Annoyance is having a girl you're seeing get really drunk at the bars around your place, then coming over incoherently drunk to the point that I have to put her to bed and take care of her this morning when she's all hung over.

Annoyed.

S

Quirkiness filtered through the main 3 attraction switches

A quick addendum as I'm on the way out to meet Shaft and Fidelio for dinner...

All of your quirkiness stuff, should be filtered through the lenses of Pre-selected by women, leader of men and protector of loved ones...

It's not cute and quirky to be de-selected by women, a loser of men and destroyer of loved ones...

Peace,

S

Quirkiness...

One of the things I've noticed recently in my game and Future's is our ability to use our weirdness to our advantage.

One of the things I've been messing around with for the last few months, is the idea of being quirky or different in a preferential way.

This has a bunch of benefits including the reduction of " Player vibe" and the building of a connection she doesn't have with most people, because as I reveal my weirdness to her, it allows her to reveal her weirdnesses to me...

Backing up, this came about because I notcied that all people have some quirky weird things they do once you get to know them. This sparked my idea that NOBODY is actually cool. There are just people who conceal their weirdnesses better and worse. It also then stands to reason that there would be weird things people are into that are more and less attractive to women.

This also coincided with my current period of annoyance with working hard to get girls and my uncanny ability to choose amusing myself over running stock material.

So I started to just talk about how weird I am.

I talked about my new workout and how I'm trying to learn how to dunk.

I talked about how I write long esoteric stream of consciousnesses rants.

I talked about how much I like manners.

I talked about my huge cock(Obviously)

and more and more random not particularly interesting things. But they were interesting to ME.

And my results sky rocketed again. Now not only do I not have to worry about saying the same things to girls over and over. I don't have to think about what to say at all, because I just say waht I'm thinking and trust that it will work. It doesn't always, but that's why I have recovery skills.

Too many guys are scared to start talking about things they actually care about. I still think you should avoid talking about business stuff, but if you can spin it in a way that sounds amazing or cool, go for it.

One thing a bunch of guys seem to forget( Even though I say it on bootcamp over and over) is that not everything you say is going to hit. It's ok, you also have to realize that the level of compeititon is not super interesting guys, it's the where are you from, what do you do guy...

Wrapping up, don't be afraid to put the parts of yourself out there that you'e not sure women will be attracted to. I never thought being super honest with girls about my promescuity would work, but it does... I never thought talking to girls for an hour about V for Vendetta would work either... Don't be afraid to be different. It can make you attractive in a way she's never felt before.

S

LR: The Most gangster pull ever. Featuring the glorious return of Captain Jack.

So I finally after 6 weeks on the road, have some free time, and a new LR...

It all started off when I dropped my car which had been sitting in my garage for 6 weeks accumulating dirt and having someone write faggot wash your car on my trunk in the dirt. Classy. So I finally get my car jumped and drive it a harrowing 40 miles to the BMW dealership. Not really 40 but close.

This particular dealership happens to be in the same suburb of the city as a certain swashbuckling PUA who happens to be one of my closest friends. Also a friend I hadn't seen in a few weeks.

A couple calls later we are back bullshiting and eating at the outback. Not as good as usual today for some reason. I think it was the cheese fries being undercooked.

We roll to the mall and then decide to hit a happy hour place. It was awesome, but we end up back at my place and get a call from Shaft and El Topo. They have been working on some SICK new stuff regarding frames and cognitive dissonace. Really brillant stuff Shaft has come up with...We meet up for dinner, then roll to meet Twitchy at a new club opening. We ran into Elation and Simple, but the club volume gets turned up to a horrifyingly vibrating internal organs level. And so we roll to our usual SNL venue.

And it sucks. Balls. Hard... It's loud(ER),the cover price has been upped,and there is an awful ratio. I get some drinks from my bartender and watch one of the cities best players, he's a promoter at some venues out here and ALWAYS has some crazy hot girls all over him. He's a little too aggressive and sometimes blows himself out, but he always leaves with 3 or 4 hot girls. He's kind of a dick, so my attempts to befriend him have not gone swimmingly well...

Then I see her. She's got HUGE boobs, she's 5'4 she's got reddish blonde hair. And she's a H-erd( A hot nerd, I think I stole that from Jlaix somewhere...) She's got these super hot secretary glasses on and a look that just screams dork.. She's a 9.5 to me. She hits my type of funusual exactly. If you've ever taken a bootcamp with me, you've heard me describe my type and she's it...

I go to tap her and tell her she's a herd, when she opens 2 big black guys... Oh well I'll see her again. Hopefully. I roll around and find CJ. We're talking when she walks out and in mid-sentence I roll after her. I open her by telling her she's a her and then explaining it to her. She thanks me and I say " Oh you didn't do it on purpose? You really are a nerd!"...

We start talking and I get the dreaded BF objection, plus he works at the venue...I treat it like she just said "Spiders,Monkeys, Pirate Ninjas." I keep talking and she brings it up again. Again I ignore and I talk about how awesome I am. It's on she's telling me I'm awesome, grabbing my wrists etc...

The BF rolls up and I say " You have a really sweet GF."
He replies: " Thanks, she's my angel."

SHe has just offered me a drink, and he escorts me to get it... I actually for a second thought I might be getting kicked out,as he walked me to the service area. I get a drink and we talk about how cool his girl is...

We go back, he offers to get me a chair and leaves us to talk...

I start qualifying and then tell her that she needs to walk away from me right now or I will start hitting on her. She tells me I already have been. I start breakthrough comfort. It's easy because this girl is really amazing. She's smart and funny and honest and self aware, and a complete decorated emergency. But a fun one:)

She starts talking about how she cheated on her BF already. This is what we call an IOI for those of us watching at home...

I go into my sexual frames... I hit them all and tie them into a breakthrough comfort style explanation of why I like her and want us to be AT LEAST friends...

I regress her to childhood using Shaft's routine he taught at dinner... Money BTW.

She asks me what I'm doing after this as her BF works till very late...
( Yet another IOI for those of us who have trouble with these things:P) I reply honestly and add that if she wants she can join me. She agrees.

I handle logistics with CJ and Twitchy and we roll out different exits meet out front and depart.

I later made her beg to come... multiple times...

So I pulled a girl from in front of her boyfriend to my house in about 2 and a half hours... While he was buying me drinks and food...

I'm going straight to hell.

S

P.S Also CJ got laid in his first night out in 6 weeks... All hail the return of the rust free pirate of GLORY!!!

LR: What happened in New York?

SO I got into NY on Wednesday night but was exhausted as that happened after my last post where the girl was snoring after I layed her...

We chilled out and got some sleep, then we had to go start seminar. The group this weekend was a pretty good one, but we knew it was going to be tough running a program at all the bars where the PUAS hang out. But since the reason they hang out there is, because they can get in without having girls...

SO we didn't actually have in field Thurs night and Fader came over and we hung and played video games while Future finished a paper for school...

Friday we had another day of seminar and ended up hitting the venue. I did one set and made out with her, but she was from Long Island and left around 12... I can't leave til 2 so :( I actually got really sick in the middle of the set and had to go across the street to CVS to get some anti nausea medicine and advil...

Program went really well despite a lot of students getting called out for being PUAS... We head home and catch some sleep..

I've been having a really hard time getting enough sleep on program, in fact in NY I probably got 20 hours of sleep over 5 days...

The second night of program, the students did a whole lot better. And we were about to leave when all of a sudden Braddock comes up me and tells me he thinks he can pull his 2 set and he told them he has a hot friend...

We get up there and the friend is taliking to some chode, she won't come over even after Braddock told her to get her 3 times. I'm annoyed and don't care that much about getting laid so I tell Braddock we should roll... we decide to get a shot first, and as we are Braddock's girl rolls back over and is all up on his shit...

So she finally pulls the other girl away whispers something in her ear, and then I grab her hand and say we're leaving... Tabs get closed, and a cab is hailed. All is going well when of course the first test of congurence appears...

Girl I fucked ( GIF for future): " Where are we going?"

Sinn: "We're going to X neighborhood, you don't have to come if you don't want to." I'm in the cab sitting down as she does this and she's standing at the door.

They get in and the girls proceeds to bust on me for saying like too much ( I do) then telling me we can be friends etc...

We get back to Future's place and head inside. Future and his devil of a dog are up and waiting for us, Future takes the dog for a walk and in his very own thinks he's clever way to have a long convo with the girl he's stupidly falling in love with.

I decide to test my new physical escalation strategy of escalating touch until she stops me. I call it I dare you to stop me method :)

I make out with her no stopping, I put my hand up her shirt, no stopping. However I am in a small studio apt with Braddock and his girl 3 feet away on the futon of death and me on Future's bed...

I decide we should go to the roof...

We get up there, check out the view and I continue to escalate... I'm feeling her up when Braddock moves his girl to the other side of the roof. I put my hadn down the girls pants, and she stops me from removing her pants. I keep fingering her until she lets me pull the pants down, put her up on the ledge of the roof and fuck her...

Then we get back down to the APT and the two girls are gigling to themselves. Future asks me if I care and then tells them to get the fuck out while berating them for being rude.. It was hysterical and I couldn't look at them for fear of laughing. Braddock was doing the same thing accross the way and tried to distract himself with a DVD but the title he pulled from the shelf was deep cheeks 7( A classic but you have to see deep cheeks 6 or you"ll be like where did that Indian giant come from?)

They leave and we laugh for awhile before catching some sleep before my SNLs program.

More things that happened in NY:

I assisted Future on another Asian girl success. I opened and pumped her BT leading to her blowing Future in the car the next day.

Fader had 10 drinks and was totally coherent and sober... His drinking abilities are disturbing.

I had 5 or 6 girls ask me if I was a PUA including the girl I fucked and the girl Braddock pulled.

A student who was 50 years old bought a pair of fuzzy shoes.

I met Dr Feelgood from the lounge. Cool guy.

I slept all of about 20 hrs in 5 days while nursing a cough that could kil a horse.

I once again survived the futon of death including waking up on chewed up piza crust and having the stupid ass dog wake me up 3 times in the middle of the night.

I watched a lot of football sun night on Future's 80 inch screen.

I broke my mac laptop, by stepping on it.

That's pretty much it.

It's my Birthday on Sun and we will be partying it up in Vegas !!!


S

LR: Sometimes you have to force yourself to go out

I'm writing this as HB fumbled the pen is laying on my couch snoring louder than I have ever heard a human being snore...

Rewind to 7 and Twitchy and I hit a happy hour for a society in Dallas only to see that it's 2 hot girls and 278 guys... Bar is empty and they have free drinks and calamari. After a quick drinky drink and some free squid, we bounce to another happy hour place before going to dinner. I number close a hostess there, but I don't qualify at all and she doesn't return my text later...

Twitchy drops me off and i decide whether to go out or stay in. I have a headache, a stomach ache and don't want to go out... Fuck. I text Twitchy " wanna go out". He replies "On the fence up to you". I have to decide... I didn't go out yesterday, or the day before and yeah I was sick, but I've gamed sick before... And I know I won't be going out tomor as Future has to have an early night...

I decide to go out, and we hit the mysterious venue. We run into Vector and the cuisinart that Topo, I and Vector have all fucked now... I open some sets go pretty well, but then I run into HB fumbled the pen. She's there with a friend, I say hi and go back to gaming. My set needs a jealousy plot so I roll into HB fumbled pen's set.. It's super on. I'm winning over her friends and Tiwtchy bounces.. I seed a pull across the street, She and her friend want to go dance and ask me to watch them.. I decline and chill with Vector for a bit.

I go looking for Fumbled pen, and she's nowhere to be found... I text her and ask her if she left...

She's across the street, I roll and see her with a new guy, I roll in and talk to both of them. I tease the shit out of her about wearing his glasses and him saying they looked good, he leaves and I talk to her about her life. She's drunk so I tell her she has to come to my place across the street, and we cuddle. I go up her dress once. No go. 2 x no go. 3rd time... It's on and I close her...

It all goes to show that you will never get laid just staying home, but if you go out, sometimes you get lucky...

S